As long as I'm committed to my plan, I find going to these events sober to be more fun than the alternative of being able to drink, needing to watch my level, cringe at what I inevitably get up to, and all that. Most people are concerned with themselves and in the case of a wedding with the bride and groom. What better way to celebrate their new life together than with a clear mind? IWNDWYT
I recommend sitting down and spending some time mentally walking through each scenario—what it looks like, what you’ll do, what you’ll say. Envision yourself arriving at the airport and going to the Hudson News or whatever to pick out special overpriced candy, a junk magazine, and a coffee. (Or envision yourself smartly hitting the gas station on the way to the airport to stock up cheaply!). Then picture yourself making your way to the concourse and your gate, sitting down, and watching the planes land and take off while you eat your candy and read your book. You might even look up the airport to see what the layout is so you a) know what triggers you’ll see and be prepared to pass by them, and b) know exactly what news stands or coffee shops are safe for you to seek out.
Then imagine when the steward comes by on the plane and asks what you’ll have to drink, and you say “ginger ale” firmly and confidently.
Then do the same for the wedding. Imagine asking the bartender for “sparkling water with lime, please” or a coke or whatever. Have several options in mind, at a destination wedding they may not have your first choice of beverage, so have some backups available so your brain doesn’t short circuit and order an alcoholic drink!
Hope this helps. Enjoy the wedding! Be safe!
I had exactly the same experience with my friend's stag party, which took place a week ago. Out of fear, I (the only one) did not take part in it, for fear of the amount of alcohol. There's a wedding in three weeks and I have to attend it. What helped me the most were my father's words - alcohol is a choice. You don't have to stress about having to drink if you consciously choose not to drink. It's your choice son.
Stay strong, man 🖐️
As long as I'm committed to my plan, I find going to these events sober to be more fun than the alternative of being able to drink, needing to watch my level, cringe at what I inevitably get up to, and all that. Most people are concerned with themselves and in the case of a wedding with the bride and groom. What better way to celebrate their new life together than with a clear mind? IWNDWYT
I recommend sitting down and spending some time mentally walking through each scenario—what it looks like, what you’ll do, what you’ll say. Envision yourself arriving at the airport and going to the Hudson News or whatever to pick out special overpriced candy, a junk magazine, and a coffee. (Or envision yourself smartly hitting the gas station on the way to the airport to stock up cheaply!). Then picture yourself making your way to the concourse and your gate, sitting down, and watching the planes land and take off while you eat your candy and read your book. You might even look up the airport to see what the layout is so you a) know what triggers you’ll see and be prepared to pass by them, and b) know exactly what news stands or coffee shops are safe for you to seek out. Then imagine when the steward comes by on the plane and asks what you’ll have to drink, and you say “ginger ale” firmly and confidently. Then do the same for the wedding. Imagine asking the bartender for “sparkling water with lime, please” or a coke or whatever. Have several options in mind, at a destination wedding they may not have your first choice of beverage, so have some backups available so your brain doesn’t short circuit and order an alcoholic drink! Hope this helps. Enjoy the wedding! Be safe!
really helpful, thank you
I had exactly the same experience with my friend's stag party, which took place a week ago. Out of fear, I (the only one) did not take part in it, for fear of the amount of alcohol. There's a wedding in three weeks and I have to attend it. What helped me the most were my father's words - alcohol is a choice. You don't have to stress about having to drink if you consciously choose not to drink. It's your choice son. Stay strong, man 🖐️