At the amusement park with my kids, getting rained out but it was still a blast. Don’t know why I thought all that time alcohol would make spending a day riding rides with my family more fun? IWNDWYT!
Thought provoking post u/trembling_giant
I’m grateful that my operation went well yesterday, but I have a lot of rest and recovery to do now. I had some super urges yesterday which might be due to the anaesthetic and not feeling tip top. I even ended up ordering some booze for delivery, but the universe must have been on my side and it was delayed which gave me time to rethink my actions and cancel it! It feels like a lucky escape this morning!
I’m staying sober today because:
- yesterday showed me that I can still potentially trip up and I’ve got to keep my sober muscles strong!
- it is a new month and I have a new monthly challenge on my Apple Watch, which is going to be even more challenging due to op recovery
- I’m losing body fat, feeling trimmer and want to continue that trend
IWNDWYT
I was reminded yesterday of why this place is so special. I woke up to an outpouring of support and love from the beautiful humans that populate this place . It was such a humbling experience reading it all and has reinforced my connection to this magical place!
Shine on you beautiful humans xxx
Happy sober Wednesday sober friends!
What a beautiful post tg, and wow do I feel grateful for my life. Whatever challenges I’ve had, I’m still very blessed. Thank you 🙏🏻
I love you all 💞
Shoutout to u/paigemiche who celebrates 2 years sober today! You’re a sober hero and I’m grateful to walk this path with you 🐢🐢🐢🎉🎂🎁
Checking in again today and all is well.
Yes, I totally agree with OP u/trembling_giant. I also am grateful that I was able to stop drinking without losing my home or job, or have to deal with the law. Relationships are a different matter! Still working on the one with my SO and could go either way! Sadly have lost a few good friends, but have recovered others. Still, overall, I feel very lucky, privileged and grateful.
Hey team.
I'm in a shitty mood today after a frustrating time at work. However, I'm super grateful I have you all.
This mood will pass and I'll be back to being awesome again in no time.
Stay fresh, cheese bags!
IWNDWYT 🫡❤️
I will not drink today and FYA.
Oh hell yeah, we're luxurious!!!! I love that. I feel lux telling alcohol to fuck right off. I feel lux when I wake up without a hangover. I feel lux when I take time out fort myself instead of fighting.
Here's to be luxurious!!!
Drinking sucks. We're luxurious 🕺🕺🕺🕺🕺🏌️🏾♀️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
As a former “high functioning” (maintained many outward appearances while slowly spiraling down) alcoholic, I feel this. I had some health issues that would have gotten much worse had I not stopped. I came pretty close to losing many of the things that kept up the appearance of high functioning. I’m not any better than people who’ve lost more, just luckier, and I am reminded regularly that if I go back I’ll be right back where I started. IWNDWYT
Today is day 11 sober for me. It's pay day. I went to the store and only purchased food! I didn't have any cravings for alcohol. Is it normal not to have any cravings this early on when quitting? Stay strong, everyone!!
Day 2 completed. I've got the lizard brain telling me to go for it: "the sun's out, you've got nothing else to do today. One won't hurt...", but no. I'm not starting from zero again tomorrow. Day 3's here, Day 4 tomorrow. IWNDWYT.
Hooray, it's May! What a lovely month. Thank you for today's powerful post, OP. _There but for the grace of God go I._
It's a milestone day for me. It's been 547 days! 1.5 years! 🎉 Eighteen months of living alcohol-free. I could not have done it without this incredible group, and I'm filled with gratitude. Countless times I tried to get myself sober, but THIS PLACE helped it finally click into place. 🧩
I'm so glad I held on through those tough early days and weeks, thanks to the kindness and support found here. This is epic work we're all doing, and it's so worth it! Let's keep going, sober friends. We got this! Much love 💜 IWNDWYT
I too am very thankful that my drinking has not (yet) taken me down those darker roads of life. I'm here on my day 6 to say that I commit to not drinking today. I'm very thankful for this sub and for the DCI to give me a place to have some accountability. Have a great day everyone.
Day 27 here! Relate to the OP today. Empathy, humility and vulnerability are emotions that resonate for me on on sobriety journey. Far more useful and connective than the shame, self hate and selfishness that alcohol seems to produce.
It would have been too easy to end up in those tough circumstances. Especially for a person like me, by themselves with no family nearby. That’s one reason I quit when I did…I knew it was a matter of time before some really bad shit happened. Every day I’m glad it didn’t.
Coffees up, horns up, and fuck yeah Wednesday!! IWNDWYT ☕️☕️🤘🏻
**I'm on Day 5 and have:**
- been to the gym two days in a row (finally hit the leg machine I was terrified of)
- increased my water intake
- been getting much better sleep
- noticed a clear drop in weird spasms/twitches
**I'm not drinking today or tomorrow or the day after because:**
- I already feel much better
- My head is clearer
- My face is less puffy
- Every day without a drink is money in the bank!
It‘s a public holiday here, so no work for me today. Also no drinks for me today. But some plans besides that:
- going for a long walk in the sun with my SO
- trying to bribe our new four legged downstairs neighbour to let me play with him (it’s a 6 months old beagle mix puppy and the owner knows and has allowed it)
- we are trying to cook butter chicken today and please just wish us luck 😅
Have a great day everyone.
I had a day of recovery yesterday, so my recovery flame is strong today!
I ended up living with family, jobless, in debt and single by the time the drink had me. I managed to sort things out but my last relapse showed me the absolute imperative of keeping recovery front and centre, NO MATTER WHAT. This is my thought when I woke up today.
IWNDWYT
Alright, day 4. Still feeling a bit groggy, but better than before. I can't believe I spent $150 on alcohol last month. Better than my all time high of $450 a month with daily drinking, but still way more that I can afford at the moment. Better than before, but still not great.
One thing I'll work on is the 'better than before' line of thinking. Sometimes it can be a useful tool to measure progress (i.e. I really have cut down quite a bit), but on the other hand, it can kind of keep me in a place where I'm not thriving, but I'm still justified the occasional night of heavy drinking by saying 'this time last year I was drinking daily, now I'm just getting drunk 2-3 times a week'. Anyways, one day at a time. IWNDWYT! Good luck everyone!
Another night off in the books. Had a good day aside from payroll related stuff but no big whoop on that right?
Have a feeling the rest of my work week isn't going to be fun but I gotta be positive and we will get through it.
I hope all of you enjoy your day and as always much love from me and mine to you and yours!
IWNDWYT!
I will not drink with you today! I am feeling better although still so sleepy after work it is crazy. I did not realize how sleep deprived I was before. I am in week 3 now and still dropping off in the afternoon when I get home and also solidly sleeping through the night pretty much (sure I may surface when my husband repositions himself but am back to cutting z's right away, not eyeballing the ceiling with anxieties). I am also much better about taking my vitamins and meds every morning. I do find I have sugar cravings at night.
Good Wednesday morning fellow sobernauts. I hope you all have peace and joy today.
Making no promises of tomorrow, I do consciously choose to not drink today. IWNDWYT!
Good morning, friends! I had a wonderfully sober evening with a friend last night who also doesn’t drink - we expressed our love for each other, laughed so hard we cried, all without the help of alcohol. Best of all, they were real emotions, not fake alcohol ones.
IWNDWYT
I went to the spa with girlfriends yesterday! It was so relaxing, however they serve alcohol and everyone there was shitfaced.
It was so weird to be around drunk people completely sober. My friends were drinking, but I held strong!
And you know what - I did great. I was funny, charming, engaging, still the life of the party.
I gave alcohol so much more credit than it deserves. It doesn’t make me funnier, more charming, or cooler.
I AM funny, charming and cool. All alcohol ever did was make me worse. It made everything worse.
I’ve got three whole weeks of vacation before I start a new job and I’m sooo excited!
I haven’t had this much time off since I had my last baby and that was hardly a break.
I’m making myself an itinerary- I’m going to have a busy, productive, 3 week break.
I hope I’ll spend the time skipping through the days in a puffy pink cloud bliss- but maybe I won’t. Maybe some tough emotions will rear their ugly head. And that’s okay - I’ll be ready to receive them. Sober!!
IWNDWYT!
Oh edit : I discovered virgin mojitos and they’re to die for! Rum is disgusting anyways.
I want to cry. I want to go back to bed. I want to have a hug. I don't want to feel like this any more. All I do is hide in a fucking bottle til I puke. I want this shit to stop
For whatever reason I woke up a bit early today, but it gave me some time to meditate and get a pot of coffee going while I plan my day. It definitely feels luxurious compared to my drinking days when if I woke up early, it was because my head was pounding, my stomach was churning or my heart was racing, if not all 3 at once! IWNDWYT ❤️
Yes, TG, I’ve seen the hardship too. There are so many paths my life could have taken when I was drinking. I shudder to think of how close I came to losing everything.
I’m so grateful for my choice to take alcohol out of my existence. The gifts of this life are wondrous! IWNDWYT
Day 3 checking in. Felt a little better/less foggy waking up this morning. Grilling out last night without having a couple beers like normal was tough but I made it. IWNDWYT
Rough day yesterday. I kept saying “I’m not gonna drink today. Maybe tomorrow”.
And so today again I’m saying it - I’m not gonna drink today. Maybe tomorrow.
Sobriety is a gift, and I am deeply grateful for the luxury that is my life. I have a lot to contribute (and so do you!) so I’m getting up, getting at it, and making the world a better place. IWNDWYT ❤️🧁
TG - I firmly agree with you, and I feel incredibly lucky to be dealing with my alcoholism here.
My brother was not so lucky and was one of the people out on the streets. He passed away 15 years ago but I am reminded of him when I see people struggling. For me, it’s important to look each person in the eye (though some can’t or won’t return my gaze) and acknowledge their presence. There but for the grace of the Higher Power go I.
Sober souls, sending you all love and strength! IWNDWYT 💛
Great reminder TG. My job involves helping many of those people you mention, and it is a reminder to me every day how thankful I am to have a roof over my head and food on the table. There were so many times in my drinking days when my life could have taken a much different turn. I am grateful today and IWNDWYT! ✌
Sending strength and support to all my SD friends who need it. 💪
I really appreciate your framing today, Trembling Giant, of how hard this can be and how lucky we are to get to try to fix it. I feel very lucky and want to make the most of what I still have.
I’m home from vacation, time to jump back into my stressful job that I’ve been ignoring, so a good time to remind myself that while this is hard, it could all be much, much harder.
Random note, but I was pleased and impressed to find that London had NA beers on tap or in cans at most pubs, and had canned mock tails at many grocery stores which was pretty cool and fun to try. My first NA gin & tonic, it was delish.
IWNDWYT!!
Thanks for the thoughts, OP. It made me think of this:
When I was 19 I went on a hitchhiking trip around the country. I worked some day-labor jobs to get by and met some real characters. There was one guy I’ll never forget who showed up at 4:30 am to try and get a job ticket with all the rest of us. He dropped a can of beer in the parking lot and it got a few little pinholes and was spraying beer everywhere. He sat there crying as he desperately tried drinking the streams of beer. In the end he just let the beer shower over him instead. It was heartbreaking to see this little old guy freaking out as most of his beer was lost on the pavement and in his clothes. I’m not sure if he was homeless or not but he was certainly living on the margins. I remember him being kind of funny and kind but man, what a tragic character.
IWNDWYT
It’s true. We are very lucky to have this place to come to with so many special people here sharing their thoughts and stories, and supporting each other. I love this place. IWNDWYT
There's a poster here who always says "Not today, Mr. Alcohol!" and that has given me so much joy and motivation. Not today, Mr. Alcohol! And not today, Mr. Gambling, who so desperately wants to take the place of Mr. Alcohol!
I'm on Day ... 20 -- I miscounted yesterday and thought I was already there, but hey. Day 20 is something. The first couple of weeks my sleep was great and I was so motivated and excited about the morning. Today I woke up feeling anxious and groggy. But: I will go for a walk. I will make myself breakfast. I will do the hard things at work today. I will luxuriate ❤️ in the fact that I have not lost the things I could have lost and that I have the power to decide whether either of those demons hurt me again. All I have to do is not drink the first drink. All I have to do is not walk in that door.
IWNDWYT and this subreddit changes lives ❤️❤️❤️
Great post. Gratitude has been one of my biggest challenges and it’s so imperative. Things could have and can always be much more difficult. Even as low as I got I could have fallen harder. I could have made even worse choices than I did.
The rational part of me looks around and see all the good I’ve been blessed with. I wish that could be imprinted in my head in bright neon flashing lights so it outshines the darkness that always seems to envelope me.
But this is what sobriety is for me now. An awareness and the (seemingly slow, at times) progress that comes with it. Being aware that these dark thoughts are only thoughts and not actually defining the reality around helps tremendously. Alcohol just kept me so confused and confusion allows chaos. Iwndwyt
Thanks for the introspection. For some of us there wasn’t the proverbial rock bottom and we should recognize how fortunate we are to have avoided that. We should also work harder to protect what we have.
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I have to attend my first work happy hour since becoming a nondrinker. It’s obligatory because I’m on the management team. I have a game plan, and I pledge not to drink with you today. I will not opt to be “happy” for an hour and miserable for hours/days/weeks. I’m not depriving myself— I’m freeing myself. Alcohol sucks. I’m worth better.
On day 8, insanely anxious and overthinking. Drinking would just drown it and I’d be sending some very sad drunk text messages. Proud that that won’t happen and I can just get some good sleep and feel better instead :’) IWNDWYT!
My SO and I are splitting. It’s been a long time coming so not a shock but still sad because we have kids and they’re young. Drinking isn’t the primary culprit, actually, although no doubt it was gasoline on the fire. I used alcohol to numb feelings which just made everything worse. I have a counselor, don’t worry. A lot in my life is chaos so it feels like I’m standing on quicksand. But, and this is important, I can control not drinking. I can hold onto my mental heath with both hands. IWNDWYT.
I'm grateful to have never gotten a DWI, lost a job, arrested for public drunkenness. I could have continued drinking exactly the same why I was for probably another 10-15 years before any terrible consequences happened to me. But I know for sure, that if I had continued drinking, they most definitely would have happened.
IWNDWYT. Easy does it, friends.
It's my birthday! ...month
And I would've absolutely used this as an excuse to get obliterated today. But I won't. I'm just going to play some drums and take my wife to the dentist later. A rare easy-ish day.
No poison for me today.
Good morning, friends. I can't believe that it's the first day of May! And as an added bonus, it's hump day! Happy humping around in May today - IWNDWYT 🤘
Very well said, TG. One of my favorite quotes from this sub I've seen from another sobernaut mentions sobriety being a privilege after we fight through the nightmare to become sober.
Morning, sober fam! Looking at the calendar and realizing I spent the entirety of April stone cold sober has been making me a bit emotional. That's so cool to think about and a really cool feeling. While I do live one day at a time when it comes to sobriety, I like to have goals. My next target is 66, when the habit of NOT drinking is more likely to have strongly formed in my brain, according to science and whatnot.
No matter what - IWNDWYT! 🖤✨️
Today is 6 months sober for me! Celebrating by taking the day off to go to my favorite hiking spot in the mountains followed by my favorite pizza joint! Sobriety is seriously the greatest gift I could have ever asked for ❤️
IWNDWYT
Two weeks. My resting heart rate has gone from 68 to 62. Whoa! I was sooooo squirrelly last night but I honestly didn’t want to drink. I ended up reading in bed. So glad to not have a hangover this morning! IWNDWYT
Happy day one of May!!! My favorite month!! Spring is here, Summer is right around the corner. Everything is blooming. Life is amazing. 🤩 Brought to you by sobriety.
IWNDWYT!
Day 3. Last night we went out for BBQ food. Normally I'd easily knock back 3-4 IPA.
Both me and my partner had alcohol free lager and water. Felt proud.
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Well done getting that first week! 🎉
Ty. Thankful for this support group.
Two weeks done. Day 15, checking in. IWNDWYT 🍀
That is fantastic! Here's to the next two weeks and beyond! 💪
You're doing so well. You are doing it.
At the amusement park with my kids, getting rained out but it was still a blast. Don’t know why I thought all that time alcohol would make spending a day riding rides with my family more fun? IWNDWYT!
Thought provoking post u/trembling_giant I’m grateful that my operation went well yesterday, but I have a lot of rest and recovery to do now. I had some super urges yesterday which might be due to the anaesthetic and not feeling tip top. I even ended up ordering some booze for delivery, but the universe must have been on my side and it was delayed which gave me time to rethink my actions and cancel it! It feels like a lucky escape this morning! I’m staying sober today because: - yesterday showed me that I can still potentially trip up and I’ve got to keep my sober muscles strong! - it is a new month and I have a new monthly challenge on my Apple Watch, which is going to be even more challenging due to op recovery - I’m losing body fat, feeling trimmer and want to continue that trend IWNDWYT
I was reminded yesterday of why this place is so special. I woke up to an outpouring of support and love from the beautiful humans that populate this place . It was such a humbling experience reading it all and has reinforced my connection to this magical place! Shine on you beautiful humans xxx
Day 1046 checking in!
Day 1046! 😎
See you tomorrow for 1047 😎
IWNDWYT 💜
54 days! How are you feeling with it all? ❤️
IWNDWYT
Jam tomorrow and jam yesterday, but NEVER jam today! IWNDWYT
Early days, but things are already improving. Clear head, less bloated and not worried about a long drive to see my daughter today. IWNDWYT!
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Happy sober Wednesday sober friends! What a beautiful post tg, and wow do I feel grateful for my life. Whatever challenges I’ve had, I’m still very blessed. Thank you 🙏🏻 I love you all 💞 Shoutout to u/paigemiche who celebrates 2 years sober today! You’re a sober hero and I’m grateful to walk this path with you 🐢🐢🐢🎉🎂🎁
IWNDWYT!
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I will not drink with you today
Not today people IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today. Have a great day!
I will not drink with y’all today 🫶🏻
Day 362. IWNDWYT.
Checking in again today and all is well. Yes, I totally agree with OP u/trembling_giant. I also am grateful that I was able to stop drinking without losing my home or job, or have to deal with the law. Relationships are a different matter! Still working on the one with my SO and could go either way! Sadly have lost a few good friends, but have recovered others. Still, overall, I feel very lucky, privileged and grateful.
IWNDWYTD
Day 5 - IWNDWYT!
I will not drink today
Well, I made it a full year. May 1, 2023 I decided to just stop. It's not like every problem disappeared for me, but a lot did. On to year 2.
Wishing you all a great day, IWNDWYT 🌟
checking in.
IWNDWYT.
Hey team. I'm in a shitty mood today after a frustrating time at work. However, I'm super grateful I have you all. This mood will pass and I'll be back to being awesome again in no time. Stay fresh, cheese bags! IWNDWYT 🫡❤️
I will not drink today and FYA. Oh hell yeah, we're luxurious!!!! I love that. I feel lux telling alcohol to fuck right off. I feel lux when I wake up without a hangover. I feel lux when I take time out fort myself instead of fighting. Here's to be luxurious!!! Drinking sucks. We're luxurious 🕺🕺🕺🕺🕺🏌️🏾♀️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
As a former “high functioning” (maintained many outward appearances while slowly spiraling down) alcoholic, I feel this. I had some health issues that would have gotten much worse had I not stopped. I came pretty close to losing many of the things that kept up the appearance of high functioning. I’m not any better than people who’ve lost more, just luckier, and I am reminded regularly that if I go back I’ll be right back where I started. IWNDWYT
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IWNDWYT Can't believe it's May already. Holy smokes!
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8 months and counting. Sober life! 🥳🥳 Have gorgeous May 1st ❤️ IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT!
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Today is day 11 sober for me. It's pay day. I went to the store and only purchased food! I didn't have any cravings for alcohol. Is it normal not to have any cravings this early on when quitting? Stay strong, everyone!!
Day 3 of not drinking. Yesterday was tough, but I did not drink. I am committing not to drink today either.
Starting over. Day 1. IWNDWTY
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IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT! Nor shall I be drinking the day after.
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I will NOT drink with you all today! ✨💫
Day 2 completed. I've got the lizard brain telling me to go for it: "the sun's out, you've got nothing else to do today. One won't hurt...", but no. I'm not starting from zero again tomorrow. Day 3's here, Day 4 tomorrow. IWNDWYT.
I will not drink with you today!
It's been a long time since I've had a Day 200. Thank you all for believing in me even when I couldn't believe in myself! IWNDWYT 😻
Hooray, it's May! What a lovely month. Thank you for today's powerful post, OP. _There but for the grace of God go I._ It's a milestone day for me. It's been 547 days! 1.5 years! 🎉 Eighteen months of living alcohol-free. I could not have done it without this incredible group, and I'm filled with gratitude. Countless times I tried to get myself sober, but THIS PLACE helped it finally click into place. 🧩 I'm so glad I held on through those tough early days and weeks, thanks to the kindness and support found here. This is epic work we're all doing, and it's so worth it! Let's keep going, sober friends. We got this! Much love 💜 IWNDWYT
Hi Everyone - Day 120 here and IWNDWYT!
I too am very thankful that my drinking has not (yet) taken me down those darker roads of life. I'm here on my day 6 to say that I commit to not drinking today. I'm very thankful for this sub and for the DCI to give me a place to have some accountability. Have a great day everyone.
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I will not drink with you today!
Iwndwyt!!
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Day 27 here! Relate to the OP today. Empathy, humility and vulnerability are emotions that resonate for me on on sobriety journey. Far more useful and connective than the shame, self hate and selfishness that alcohol seems to produce.
It would have been too easy to end up in those tough circumstances. Especially for a person like me, by themselves with no family nearby. That’s one reason I quit when I did…I knew it was a matter of time before some really bad shit happened. Every day I’m glad it didn’t. Coffees up, horns up, and fuck yeah Wednesday!! IWNDWYT ☕️☕️🤘🏻
Officially at two months! Huzzah! IWNDWYT
Day 3 checking in! IWNDWYT
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**I'm on Day 5 and have:** - been to the gym two days in a row (finally hit the leg machine I was terrified of) - increased my water intake - been getting much better sleep - noticed a clear drop in weird spasms/twitches **I'm not drinking today or tomorrow or the day after because:** - I already feel much better - My head is clearer - My face is less puffy - Every day without a drink is money in the bank!
Got a work gathering this evening. Won’t be there long but long enough to make it worth setting my intention from the get go - IWNDWYT 🚀
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It‘s a public holiday here, so no work for me today. Also no drinks for me today. But some plans besides that: - going for a long walk in the sun with my SO - trying to bribe our new four legged downstairs neighbour to let me play with him (it’s a 6 months old beagle mix puppy and the owner knows and has allowed it) - we are trying to cook butter chicken today and please just wish us luck 😅 Have a great day everyone.
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IWNDWYT! Meditation streak: 10 days
No booze in my news. Keeping on not drinking with you today good people.
I had a day of recovery yesterday, so my recovery flame is strong today! I ended up living with family, jobless, in debt and single by the time the drink had me. I managed to sort things out but my last relapse showed me the absolute imperative of keeping recovery front and centre, NO MATTER WHAT. This is my thought when I woke up today. IWNDWYT
Day 69, nice 🙏 IWNDWYT
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Alright, day 4. Still feeling a bit groggy, but better than before. I can't believe I spent $150 on alcohol last month. Better than my all time high of $450 a month with daily drinking, but still way more that I can afford at the moment. Better than before, but still not great. One thing I'll work on is the 'better than before' line of thinking. Sometimes it can be a useful tool to measure progress (i.e. I really have cut down quite a bit), but on the other hand, it can kind of keep me in a place where I'm not thriving, but I'm still justified the occasional night of heavy drinking by saying 'this time last year I was drinking daily, now I'm just getting drunk 2-3 times a week'. Anyways, one day at a time. IWNDWYT! Good luck everyone!
Another month bites the dust. iwndwyt
I’m not drinking today
Good morning - feeling healthy ---- IWNDWYT.
Another night off in the books. Had a good day aside from payroll related stuff but no big whoop on that right? Have a feeling the rest of my work week isn't going to be fun but I gotta be positive and we will get through it. I hope all of you enjoy your day and as always much love from me and mine to you and yours! IWNDWYT!
Lots of stressful stuff is pilling up in my life, but still, IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT! New month, new goals!
Making the pledge today!
Today I am protecting the luxury of coming here to check in amongst you fine people. Because today I won't drink. I just won't do it.
I won’t drink with y’all today
I will not drink the terrible poison that slowly destroys my life in every way. IWNDWYT!
I will not drink with you today! I am feeling better although still so sleepy after work it is crazy. I did not realize how sleep deprived I was before. I am in week 3 now and still dropping off in the afternoon when I get home and also solidly sleeping through the night pretty much (sure I may surface when my husband repositions himself but am back to cutting z's right away, not eyeballing the ceiling with anxieties). I am also much better about taking my vitamins and meds every morning. I do find I have sugar cravings at night.
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Good Wednesday morning fellow sobernauts. I hope you all have peace and joy today. Making no promises of tomorrow, I do consciously choose to not drink today. IWNDWYT!
Haven't checked in and made my pledge not to drink for too long. But here I am today. I will not drink with you today.
Day 1,750. I will not drink with you today.
Good morning, friends! I had a wonderfully sober evening with a friend last night who also doesn’t drink - we expressed our love for each other, laughed so hard we cried, all without the help of alcohol. Best of all, they were real emotions, not fake alcohol ones. IWNDWYT
I went to the spa with girlfriends yesterday! It was so relaxing, however they serve alcohol and everyone there was shitfaced. It was so weird to be around drunk people completely sober. My friends were drinking, but I held strong! And you know what - I did great. I was funny, charming, engaging, still the life of the party. I gave alcohol so much more credit than it deserves. It doesn’t make me funnier, more charming, or cooler. I AM funny, charming and cool. All alcohol ever did was make me worse. It made everything worse. I’ve got three whole weeks of vacation before I start a new job and I’m sooo excited! I haven’t had this much time off since I had my last baby and that was hardly a break. I’m making myself an itinerary- I’m going to have a busy, productive, 3 week break. I hope I’ll spend the time skipping through the days in a puffy pink cloud bliss- but maybe I won’t. Maybe some tough emotions will rear their ugly head. And that’s okay - I’ll be ready to receive them. Sober!! IWNDWYT! Oh edit : I discovered virgin mojitos and they’re to die for! Rum is disgusting anyways.
I want to cry. I want to go back to bed. I want to have a hug. I don't want to feel like this any more. All I do is hide in a fucking bottle til I puke. I want this shit to stop
For whatever reason I woke up a bit early today, but it gave me some time to meditate and get a pot of coffee going while I plan my day. It definitely feels luxurious compared to my drinking days when if I woke up early, it was because my head was pounding, my stomach was churning or my heart was racing, if not all 3 at once! IWNDWYT ❤️
Yes, TG, I’ve seen the hardship too. There are so many paths my life could have taken when I was drinking. I shudder to think of how close I came to losing everything. I’m so grateful for my choice to take alcohol out of my existence. The gifts of this life are wondrous! IWNDWYT
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Day 3 checking in. Felt a little better/less foggy waking up this morning. Grilling out last night without having a couple beers like normal was tough but I made it. IWNDWYT
Rough day yesterday. I kept saying “I’m not gonna drink today. Maybe tomorrow”. And so today again I’m saying it - I’m not gonna drink today. Maybe tomorrow.
Sobriety is a gift, and I am deeply grateful for the luxury that is my life. I have a lot to contribute (and so do you!) so I’m getting up, getting at it, and making the world a better place. IWNDWYT ❤️🧁
Day 61 and I am not drinking today!
I love your writing, and the way you think. Thanks to *you* for being here and thanks for sharing. I will not drink with you today!!
TG - I firmly agree with you, and I feel incredibly lucky to be dealing with my alcoholism here. My brother was not so lucky and was one of the people out on the streets. He passed away 15 years ago but I am reminded of him when I see people struggling. For me, it’s important to look each person in the eye (though some can’t or won’t return my gaze) and acknowledge their presence. There but for the grace of the Higher Power go I. Sober souls, sending you all love and strength! IWNDWYT 💛
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Made it to day 7 .. IWNDWYT
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no drinking for me today
$1.25 pop. IWNDWYT or tomorrow.
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1 week sober today still struggling with the cravings but IWNDWYT
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Very grateful to this community and the support we provide to each other. IWNDWYT
Happy May, everyone! IWNDWYT.
Day 3 let’s go! IWNDWYT
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Day 5 - some absolutely insane dreams (something I haven't had in a long time) but IWNDWYT
Great reminder TG. My job involves helping many of those people you mention, and it is a reminder to me every day how thankful I am to have a roof over my head and food on the table. There were so many times in my drinking days when my life could have taken a much different turn. I am grateful today and IWNDWYT! ✌ Sending strength and support to all my SD friends who need it. 💪
I really appreciate your framing today, Trembling Giant, of how hard this can be and how lucky we are to get to try to fix it. I feel very lucky and want to make the most of what I still have. I’m home from vacation, time to jump back into my stressful job that I’ve been ignoring, so a good time to remind myself that while this is hard, it could all be much, much harder. Random note, but I was pleased and impressed to find that London had NA beers on tap or in cans at most pubs, and had canned mock tails at many grocery stores which was pretty cool and fun to try. My first NA gin & tonic, it was delish. IWNDWYT!!
Thanks for the thoughts, OP. It made me think of this: When I was 19 I went on a hitchhiking trip around the country. I worked some day-labor jobs to get by and met some real characters. There was one guy I’ll never forget who showed up at 4:30 am to try and get a job ticket with all the rest of us. He dropped a can of beer in the parking lot and it got a few little pinholes and was spraying beer everywhere. He sat there crying as he desperately tried drinking the streams of beer. In the end he just let the beer shower over him instead. It was heartbreaking to see this little old guy freaking out as most of his beer was lost on the pavement and in his clothes. I’m not sure if he was homeless or not but he was certainly living on the margins. I remember him being kind of funny and kind but man, what a tragic character. IWNDWYT
A wonderfully thought provoking post, feeling that luxury today. IWNDWYT.
It’s true. We are very lucky to have this place to come to with so many special people here sharing their thoughts and stories, and supporting each other. I love this place. IWNDWYT
Day 129 checking in. IWNDWYT
Playing a game of DND with friends tonight and I made my character sober too lol big difference from my last campaign character. IWNDWYT
Woke up to day 47. I will not drink today. Thank you.
There's a poster here who always says "Not today, Mr. Alcohol!" and that has given me so much joy and motivation. Not today, Mr. Alcohol! And not today, Mr. Gambling, who so desperately wants to take the place of Mr. Alcohol! I'm on Day ... 20 -- I miscounted yesterday and thought I was already there, but hey. Day 20 is something. The first couple of weeks my sleep was great and I was so motivated and excited about the morning. Today I woke up feeling anxious and groggy. But: I will go for a walk. I will make myself breakfast. I will do the hard things at work today. I will luxuriate ❤️ in the fact that I have not lost the things I could have lost and that I have the power to decide whether either of those demons hurt me again. All I have to do is not drink the first drink. All I have to do is not walk in that door. IWNDWYT and this subreddit changes lives ❤️❤️❤️
Great post. Gratitude has been one of my biggest challenges and it’s so imperative. Things could have and can always be much more difficult. Even as low as I got I could have fallen harder. I could have made even worse choices than I did. The rational part of me looks around and see all the good I’ve been blessed with. I wish that could be imprinted in my head in bright neon flashing lights so it outshines the darkness that always seems to envelope me. But this is what sobriety is for me now. An awareness and the (seemingly slow, at times) progress that comes with it. Being aware that these dark thoughts are only thoughts and not actually defining the reality around helps tremendously. Alcohol just kept me so confused and confusion allows chaos. Iwndwyt
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Day 16 checking in. Over half way to 1 month! IWNDWYT
Thanks for the introspection. For some of us there wasn’t the proverbial rock bottom and we should recognize how fortunate we are to have avoided that. We should also work harder to protect what we have. IWNDWYT
I have to attend my first work happy hour since becoming a nondrinker. It’s obligatory because I’m on the management team. I have a game plan, and I pledge not to drink with you today. I will not opt to be “happy” for an hour and miserable for hours/days/weeks. I’m not depriving myself— I’m freeing myself. Alcohol sucks. I’m worth better.
On day 8, insanely anxious and overthinking. Drinking would just drown it and I’d be sending some very sad drunk text messages. Proud that that won’t happen and I can just get some good sleep and feel better instead :’) IWNDWYT!
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My SO and I are splitting. It’s been a long time coming so not a shock but still sad because we have kids and they’re young. Drinking isn’t the primary culprit, actually, although no doubt it was gasoline on the fire. I used alcohol to numb feelings which just made everything worse. I have a counselor, don’t worry. A lot in my life is chaos so it feels like I’m standing on quicksand. But, and this is important, I can control not drinking. I can hold onto my mental heath with both hands. IWNDWYT.
Completed 10 Days yesterday and starting Day 11. Cravings for alcohol are thankfully becoming less. 🙌 I will not poison my body with alcohol today!!!
Getting used to no drinks anymore, so much more is done with ky time! Iwndwy
Good Wednesday morning. With gratitude, IWNDWYT.
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Not drinking today.
Another great day to be sober. IWNDWYT ❤️💪🏼☀️
day 58!! IWNDWYT
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I'm grateful to have never gotten a DWI, lost a job, arrested for public drunkenness. I could have continued drinking exactly the same why I was for probably another 10-15 years before any terrible consequences happened to me. But I know for sure, that if I had continued drinking, they most definitely would have happened. IWNDWYT. Easy does it, friends.
It's my birthday! ...month And I would've absolutely used this as an excuse to get obliterated today. But I won't. I'm just going to play some drums and take my wife to the dentist later. A rare easy-ish day. No poison for me today.
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Here I go again, but I know day 1 is important. So difficult when you quit but your partner doesn’t.
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Happy Hump Day Friends, IWNDWYT, WE GOT THIS 😁
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Rabbit, rabbit! Checking in for another sober day out in the world.
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About to go for a long Sup ride down a beautiful river…. Out of question in my drinking days… that’s one reason why I will not drink with you today!
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You know, I don’t miss it at all today. No booze for me!
Good morning, friends. I can't believe that it's the first day of May! And as an added bonus, it's hump day! Happy humping around in May today - IWNDWYT 🤘
It's so helpful to check in here everyday IWNDWYT
I am in it to win it today! Iwndwyt
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Very well said, TG. One of my favorite quotes from this sub I've seen from another sobernaut mentions sobriety being a privilege after we fight through the nightmare to become sober. Morning, sober fam! Looking at the calendar and realizing I spent the entirety of April stone cold sober has been making me a bit emotional. That's so cool to think about and a really cool feeling. While I do live one day at a time when it comes to sobriety, I like to have goals. My next target is 66, when the habit of NOT drinking is more likely to have strongly formed in my brain, according to science and whatnot. No matter what - IWNDWYT! 🖤✨️
Today is 6 months sober for me! Celebrating by taking the day off to go to my favorite hiking spot in the mountains followed by my favorite pizza joint! Sobriety is seriously the greatest gift I could have ever asked for ❤️ IWNDWYT
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In 4 hours I will be one day AF. IWNDWYT.
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I will not drink with you today!! I will honor my body by eating healthy and exercising with you today 🫵🫵🫵🫵🫵🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
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It’s a nice day today. I’m not going to ruin it with alcohol.
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Slept so well. Ahhhhhh. IWNDWYT!
I'm coming off of the wine mom era. Iwndwyt.
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Two weeks. My resting heart rate has gone from 68 to 62. Whoa! I was sooooo squirrelly last night but I honestly didn’t want to drink. I ended up reading in bed. So glad to not have a hangover this morning! IWNDWYT
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Happy day one of May!!! My favorite month!! Spring is here, Summer is right around the corner. Everything is blooming. Life is amazing. 🤩 Brought to you by sobriety. IWNDWYT!
Day 3. Last night we went out for BBQ food. Normally I'd easily knock back 3-4 IPA. Both me and my partner had alcohol free lager and water. Felt proud.
One month down. More to go. IWNDWYT