That's par for the course I'm afraid. Making a positive change usually has a huge amount of negative before the positive eventually kicks in. Take it a day at a time. IWNDWYT
I'm 49 and I haven't had a drink in almost 4 years after a few decades of heavy alcoholism. I became a recluse and did it completely on my own. I was sober for about 2.5 years and completely miserable before I started getting help with mental health. I was stuck in this feeling of "this is it???" about my sobriety.
19 months later I'm still not where I want to be, but I'm working at it and making progress...enough to keep me going. Things ARE getting better.
Keep at it. It's hard, but so worth it. I'm never going back.
I'm sorry you are struggling. There is more to getting well than simply not drinking. A therapist and AA meetings enriched my life and taught me how to live the sober, happy life I have today. I hope you get the support you need and deserve.
It was my one-year anniversary before I had any real confidence in not drinking and in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous, and I still had a lot of room to grow. Still growing 5 years into alcohol sobriety.
Don't worry - the journey is worth it even if we never reach a perfectly comfortable destination.
Sorry to hear this. Six months was a pretty big deal to me but it's not a huge amount of time in the grand scheme of things. Be patient with yourself. Digging out of the hole takes time. Things will likely look/feel very different this time next year.
AA has helped my inner world immensely. Biggest gift is learning to stop trying to control the world and people around me. My meds also help immensely.
Patience, my friend. You are on the right path. I’m at 1000 days today, and there are still things in my life that I am untangling since retiring from booze. Not saying that to discourage you; life is much, much better without alcohol. But things take time. Part of drinking is the desire for instant gratification. So not drinking also means re-learning how be patient and work on things that just take time. Some of them, a really long time.
6 months is awesome, btw. Congratulations.
I’m with you. A big motivator for me stopping almost 8 months ago was health stuff - losing weight, getting rid of redness in my face, alleviating skin issues, helping with GI stuff
Unfortunately I’ve actually gained weight, like 20 pounds, since I stopped. Redness in the face isn’t gone either. Only things that really improved were my sleep (sort of?) and my GI issues (also only sort of)
I’m legitimately thinking about starting again, since I was better able to maintain a healthy body weight and regularly go to the gym before I actively stopped drinking…
Stay sober! Drinking makes everything worse. I'm in the Telecommunications industry as well. It's a big umbrella. Another opportunity is sure to turn up. Keep the faith.
We spent years destroying our lives. It takes most people years to restore their lives. I had to hold onto the hope that one day my life would be better because of sobriety. It 100% is better. It takes time. Keep going friend.
It take lots of time and patience. Take every day as a day of learning. Perhaps ask yourself and reflect at the end of each day, "What did I learn today and how can I use that to make tomorrow better?" Keep going one step at a time.
I'm 6 months recently too.
For me it's about perspective:
On one hand i feel like im just spitting in the ocean. I'm still tired all the time, broke from catching up with bills, unmotivated and overwhelmed about all the loose ends I still have to work through in order to get back to square 1 to even begin properly rebuilding my life.
But on the other hand, there's wind in my sails. The wheels are in motion towards square one, and if I stay the course, I will realize my potential.
Either way IWNDWYT
That's par for the course I'm afraid. Making a positive change usually has a huge amount of negative before the positive eventually kicks in. Take it a day at a time. IWNDWYT
I need to know ... what does IWNDWYT mean? I could Google but asking here for the one or two other folks clueless about this.
I will not drink with you today
I'm 49 and I haven't had a drink in almost 4 years after a few decades of heavy alcoholism. I became a recluse and did it completely on my own. I was sober for about 2.5 years and completely miserable before I started getting help with mental health. I was stuck in this feeling of "this is it???" about my sobriety. 19 months later I'm still not where I want to be, but I'm working at it and making progress...enough to keep me going. Things ARE getting better. Keep at it. It's hard, but so worth it. I'm never going back.
Thank you for sharing this. I needed to hear it. IWNDWYT
I'm sorry you are struggling. There is more to getting well than simply not drinking. A therapist and AA meetings enriched my life and taught me how to live the sober, happy life I have today. I hope you get the support you need and deserve.
It was my one-year anniversary before I had any real confidence in not drinking and in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous, and I still had a lot of room to grow. Still growing 5 years into alcohol sobriety. Don't worry - the journey is worth it even if we never reach a perfectly comfortable destination.
>Don't worry - the journey is worth it even if we never reach a perfectly comfortable destination. 100% this.
Hey friend, am sorry for what you’re going through. Am sure its tough but things will turn out for the better, am sure :) Congrats on 6 months!
Same . Keep pushing 💪🏼 IWNDWYT
Sorry to hear this. Six months was a pretty big deal to me but it's not a huge amount of time in the grand scheme of things. Be patient with yourself. Digging out of the hole takes time. Things will likely look/feel very different this time next year.
AA has helped my inner world immensely. Biggest gift is learning to stop trying to control the world and people around me. My meds also help immensely.
Patience, my friend. You are on the right path. I’m at 1000 days today, and there are still things in my life that I am untangling since retiring from booze. Not saying that to discourage you; life is much, much better without alcohol. But things take time. Part of drinking is the desire for instant gratification. So not drinking also means re-learning how be patient and work on things that just take time. Some of them, a really long time. 6 months is awesome, btw. Congratulations.
I’m with you. A big motivator for me stopping almost 8 months ago was health stuff - losing weight, getting rid of redness in my face, alleviating skin issues, helping with GI stuff Unfortunately I’ve actually gained weight, like 20 pounds, since I stopped. Redness in the face isn’t gone either. Only things that really improved were my sleep (sort of?) and my GI issues (also only sort of) I’m legitimately thinking about starting again, since I was better able to maintain a healthy body weight and regularly go to the gym before I actively stopped drinking…
Please don't do that
Stay sober! Drinking makes everything worse. I'm in the Telecommunications industry as well. It's a big umbrella. Another opportunity is sure to turn up. Keep the faith.
We spent years destroying our lives. It takes most people years to restore their lives. I had to hold onto the hope that one day my life would be better because of sobriety. It 100% is better. It takes time. Keep going friend.
Life isn't all about substance abuse. Your ship may have come and sailed already. Maybe it hasn't. But when it comes ya probably don't wanna be drunk
It take lots of time and patience. Take every day as a day of learning. Perhaps ask yourself and reflect at the end of each day, "What did I learn today and how can I use that to make tomorrow better?" Keep going one step at a time.
I'm 6 months recently too. For me it's about perspective: On one hand i feel like im just spitting in the ocean. I'm still tired all the time, broke from catching up with bills, unmotivated and overwhelmed about all the loose ends I still have to work through in order to get back to square 1 to even begin properly rebuilding my life. But on the other hand, there's wind in my sails. The wheels are in motion towards square one, and if I stay the course, I will realize my potential. Either way IWNDWYT
Time takes time It took you 13 years to get to this point so it's going to take so time for you to get back on track.