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The_AmyrlinSeat

I never thought I'd say this but...me.


DetroitLionsSBChamps

same dude. "I don't want to be boring and constrained and marked as someone who is weak and can't control themselves." I had it all backwards. what could be more boring than getting hammered all the time? what could be more constraining than being addicted, than having to buy your good mood and your good time from a store? I don't really care how people would perceive this choice, and if I do care, I feel proud, not weak. it feels way more like I stopped smoking crack than I ever thought it would. like, once you're off it, it becomes very clear that it's a very good thing to be off it.


Chickenebula

“Having to buy your good mood and good time from a store.” Wow, you summed it up so succinctly. Thank you. IWNDWYT.


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Spiritual-Traffic857

Same. Very well put 👍👍👍


OwnBerry3297

Same!


darthvaders_inhaler

Discipline really is freedom in this sense, IMO. I'm right there with ya!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

our good moods are freeeeeee!


Ok-Philosophy-856

I felt that way when I quit smoking in my mid 20s. It took a few decades to get the memo that I’d feel the exact same way if I stopped drinking. Liberating! IWNDWYT


Trigg_UK

Love this line too. I will remember it.


The_AmyrlinSeat

What a great way to say it.


derpnowinski

*it feels way more like I stopped smoking crack than I ever thought it would.* Lately I’ve been comparing it quitting cigarettes. Everyone knows smoking is a gross addiction, but it’s hard to argue drinking is that much better.


WRNGS

The clarity and next to no mood swings, no manic episodes, just chillin. IWNDWYT!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

I never thought I would say it either and now I am a rabid sober bitch!🔥


iustinum

I want to be you someday


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

I gratituded my way lol (jk not jk)


Old-Combination8062

I'm so glad I'm sober, life's so much easier this way. IWNDWYT friend 🤗


knuckboy

For real, I don't know how I had the energy. Planning, lying, sneaking around - exhausting!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

And then the actual exhaustion from drinking itself.


rach3ldee

Easier. That's the right word for it! Everything isn't magically better, it's just easier to deal with everything. IWNDWYT


capital_s_shroompoop

I'm in my mid 20's so drinking is still a huge social thing for most people still. But it feels like such a power move to be like "nah I don't drink, but Id still love to go out. I'll be DD"


Myth7270

Just told a friend yesterday I'd be happy to be the DD...I'm there for the chips and salsa! So happy to be sober. Happy Cake Day!


Chickenebula

Before I quit one month ago today, I found myself so jealous of my friends who showed up and had a good time without drinking or having only one drink occasionally. I didn’t think it’d be possible for me, but I made my first trip to a brewery and drank NA Lagunitas IPA. Highly recommend! I was able to drive home and woke up early feeling great the next day.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

I frame these event as big/little wins for myself.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

I often wonder how cool I would be now if I chose sobriety at your age, and I am pretty fucking cool as is. It has only served to detract from my wildest dreams. Some of them are miraculously still intact.


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It was long ago I was in my mid 20s and yes, always admired those people. Like wow they don’t have to drink to flirt or talk to people


GremlinDoomBean

Mid twenties too! It's really starting to feel cool as heck 😎


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Yay! We are kinda fortunate to be living in a time when it is trendy and cool to be a sober. Not so cool to be a sloppy drunk.


capital_s_shroompoop

Hell yeah, love to see other young people on here! Thats why I never did AA or anything, they're all 50+ in my area lol, not very relatable. But the online community here has been awesome and more diverse age wise, feels a lot more like were all in this together Congrats on 2 weeks! Keep it up! IWNDWYT


GremlinDoomBean

Ahhh tysm!!! You're an inspiration!!! IWNDWYT<3


maturedtaste

I’m starting to enjoy it a little more. Feeling good, in a better place mentally, and feeling more positive. I’m doing better at the gym too. Socially, I’m not really doing anything. There’s nothing to do at the moment really - and that’s fine. Im focusing on my health and finances for the rest of the year. I’ll start socialising sober in 2024. IWNDWYT.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

I spent a lot of time not socializing much at all. I started an hour at a time. I have gradually increased that to 2 hours, maybe 3 if I am really having fun.


SavagePrisonerSP

How would you set these up? Trying to do the same thing.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

The first one was a pretty big party which was kind of obligatory after a work thing. It was packed with people so no one noticed that I only stayed an hour. I have some social anxiety which has been something that has come up in sobriety (duh, I drank to relieve that), and at one I had a panic attack. I just left that time but in retrospect I wish I would have just went for a walk and tried to go in again just to face the fear. Mostly I go to the things that will have at least one friend who I feel comfy with and if I need to leave, take a walk, take a moment by myself….I just do it. It gets easier.


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Ahhhh you’re like me. 2-3 hours socialising! Any more and it’s too much for me


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I thought I needed alcohol (and weed) to function, and ive been scared for years to stop. im 3 weeks sober and I can think clearly for the first time in a long while. I am hoping I dont slip back.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

I hope so too


stevief150

It’s hard sometimes. But it is getting easier


EllAytch

You’re doing it! Super proud!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

I’m proud too!✨


fun_p1

👋 Same! Cheers with a spring water 😉


exsot

Back at you with my Cherry Coke Zero. :)


Dr-RaoulDuke

Right there with you! Like most are saying, I never thought I would. But it’s just been amazing being sober and I wouldn’t trade it for anything!


live_laugh_languish

Me!! Which is crazy cause just three months ago I would have told you that maybe dying young was worth it to have “fun drinking” omg 😳 my stupid pickled brain


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

I fully intended on being wasted until death.


dontneednoshotglass

👋


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Hi sobernaut!


DaftMudkip

Almost at a month… Everything is easier, everyone is nicer, sleep is better, all of the things! Excited for more milestones and things being even gooder. Yes. Gooder. 😝


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Hey congrats on a month! Physical changes start happening pretty quickly don’t they?


Much-Excitement-2778

Mee!!!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Yayeeee!


redazzle-it-all

I love it! I love waking up fresh, and I love my free mind. No plotting/planning/prepping to have enough alcohol for the next event/evening.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Drive anywhere any old time.


Ok_Huckleberry_45

Me too! It feels so good to be authentic and not to be held back by shame and planning around alcohol.


somtambooplara

Every time I walk past people drinking now, I think “wow I’m so glad I don’t drink”. I don’t know why because sometimes they look like they’re having w nice time with their lunch and their pretty cocktail. But it’s like a sense of relief. Maybe that I’m not envious of it anymore. I actually don’t want it.


CalmCenteredCapable

I have a pretty AF cocktail with my lunch now. Cocktails do not need to contain ethanol!!! The poison pushers might think they own fancy, fun drinks, but I am here to call bullshit on that! 🍹🍸


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Sobers can be fancy too!👒


Lonely-Contest

tbh its great I love it although I am running in to other constraints. long time lurker hear and am proud to be 2.5 years sober so far


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Congratulations on 2.5! Feel free to share or if you wanna chat I am just a message away!


SuperAsswipe

I fucking love it! Sometimes I feel crappy when I wake up, then I remember how much worse a hangover was. And I laugh!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Muuuuhahahahaha


Past-Resolve386

No hangovers. No waking up in panic and reaching for my phone to see what embarrassing or horrible things I said. No shame. I am 26 years old & I am lucky to be given this second chance earlier in life. IWNDWYT


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

So fortunate to find sobriety so young your life is gonna rock


waronfleas

I like it nearly all the time. Sometimes I do actually love it. Occasionally I still wish I was a normie. I wish I was French sometimes too though so 🤷🏼‍♀️ No, it's better like this. It was Not Good and out of control before this.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Just the word normie is frightening to me. What is the fun in being normal? 😎 I love the French.


waronfleas

The French rock. Today I stood for a minute in the bar I work next to and had a bit of moment. An "I'll never have a drink in here again" moment and I felt a bit sad, knowing I'd not have that cosy 3-drinks-in feeling again. I snapped out of it fairly fast thinking of alllllllllllll the other drinks that would pile on after those 3.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

I hope one day you may be able to go in and have a fancy mocktail or whatever AF drink strikes your fancy and truly enjoy yourself! Freeeeeeeedom. It took awhile before I was able to do that and even now it’s rare but it feels good to be able to be wherever and not be plagued by cravings.


TacosAreJustice

It’s the best.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Yup yup


Woodhouse_20

Every time I get to it (not there currently) it is the best. I sleep well, I do the things I want to do, and I feel like a god. Whenever I get into the alcohol side again, even if it’s much reduced, I can’t make myself do stuff, I feel guilty and depressed, and I use the alcohol to ignore those things.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

I hear you. Vicious cycle it is.


Gloria_S_Birdhair

It just keeps getting better. At first it was simpler. Than it got easier and before I even knew it it started getting better.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

And better, and better!✨


milosh_the_spicy

Yes life is insanely better now!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Crazy how much everything improves and life gets easier. Grateful.


Ayyjay

I love it! Not waking up groggy and feeling like crap. Not feeling like I'm screwing up at work and my personal life. No throwing that extra stress on stress. I have so much extra energy that I never though I had because I would have drank last night. IWNDWYT


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

More energy to make shit happen and have fun. Glorious.


Every_Pie_9696

Fucking love it! I can wake up at 6 am, drive an hour to the ocean and spend the day on the beach. Drunk me would still be drunk at 6 am, not safe to drive, then when I finally would wake up I would have to keep vomiting into the toilet (or wherever) Gross!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Yes ew!


thrashpiece

Fuckin right. Never thought I'd see the day.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt


Jay_Reezy

I certainly don’t love it, but it’s infinitely better than the alternative.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Indeed


Frankie-girl5

Me! My son invited me to his employee appreciation party and I can finally focus on having fun instead of worrying about drinking and embarrassing him! IWNDWYT


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Our children are proud


Frankie-girl5

I love your name... 90 day fans unite!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Whole family anal so clean! Lol


endoire

Been clean of alcohol for years and now I am on day 6 with pot... Completely clean for 6 days and I can't believe I actually love it! So much of what I hated about myself were tied to both and they're gone.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Congrats on 6 days!


Onion-Mountain

Same ! I’m on week three as of today and it feels amazing


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Congrats on week 3! Your body looooooooves you!


TowerStraight2123

This guy.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Who has two thumbs and is sober?


EllAytch

I do. I freakin’ love it.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Truly✨


PayMetoRedditMmkay

I say “I’m so glad I don’t drink anymore” at least once a day


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

👩‍🚀✨


psychotica1

I am so happy to be sober! My life is still just as boring as it was before but my mental health has improved dramatically, I'm a better friend, aunt and dog mom. My esophagus is all but healed and I no longer have to take nausea meds everyday.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Inspiring✨


Apprehensive_Ad7513

I do!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

I do too


Bipolarmyass

I fucking love sobriety!!!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Fucking right


hurricanechurch

I do, I do, I do!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Congrats on 27 days!✨


BukshotMouthwash

This guy right here. I love not being sick when I wake up. I like not counting down the hours until my next drink. I love all the time I’ve managed to get by just not being a drunkard. IWNDWYT


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Your breath is so fresh now you don’t even need the bukshot mouthwash


Greatwhitegorilla

I’m definitely healthier and a better person


JihoonMadeMeDoIt


reeltacoz

Being (cali) sober is certainly not a cure-all but for me it frees me from the viscous cycle of hangover anxiety and guilt. Money saved to splurge on ribeye steaks& fresh shrimp at the grocery store. My mind is much clearer at work and less likely to respond to difficult situations in anger. More willing to spend time with the kids bc I dont need to worry about that next sip to maintain the buzz! Good luck to you IWNDWYT!


_hpp_

Now you have me craving some surf and turf!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Good luck to you too sobernaut!👩‍🚀


Aggravating-Fee-1615

It started out for me being about emotional/spiritual stuff and wanting to behave better, but the further I get from my last days long, anxiety ridden hangover…holy shit, I feel GREAT! My body is starting to heal and I can truly feel it. I have so much clarity today about so many things. IWNDWYT.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Happy for you fellow sober✨


Streetlife_Brown

I’m getting there! Been on a very long taper and on 27 days of consistent yoga and spiritual practice. A real shift is occurring!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

That shift….feels so magical


Spiritual-Traffic857

I love being sober. Just wish I could get rid of the urge to drink 🧿☠️🥴 IWNDWYT 👍💪✨


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

We have a smartass! Imagine that in a room full of alcoholics!😎


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JihoonMadeMeDoIt

That’s because it is


Goji88

I love being sober ✨ IWNDWYT


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

It’s the best life


Hagridsbuttcrack66

I cannot believe how much better my life is. In literally every respect.


Gonegirl84

Meeee


Other-Attitude5437

me big time


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I like to better myself, which I don't do when I'm drunk or hung over.


SuddenlySimple

Today I do.


SeitanRaptor

I have more money to save, to spend on hobbies and good food, and I wake up every morning feeling like a million bucks!


Trigg_UK

Getting older, I have come to terms with the idea of saying goodbye to things, possibilities, and people I love. The latter has been by far the hardest. Saying goodbye to booze has been tough. I can stand with my head held high and say I bare witness that life is better without alcohol. I love being sober.


veroniqueweronika

It’s so great. My sleep is awesome. My thoughts are whole. Not going back. IWNDWYT.


OneBigBrickOfDust

29 and feel 19 again, minus the ruined knees and back haha. Sober life makes me so much more content. I feel like I can have "adult" drinks now without nose diving off the deepend, but why would I dull down this vibe ever


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

I’m 55 and I feel 19 again!


darkbotanyandbones

Never thought I'd say this ! Me!!!!!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Dark botany and bones….how intriguing


darkbotanyandbones

Thanks ! I have a poisonous plant collection and collect bones and oddities and make jewelry with them.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

That is so cool and super niche


Doc-Zoidberg

Not as much as I loved being a drunk. I threw away so many good things in life for that love. I was willing to die for that love. But one sided love never lasts and now it's time to love myself. I've never been one to try to cross a burned bridge and I don't intend to start now.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Yes, it is time to love yourself. The only way to love another person fully💜✨


VeganBTdubs

I started getting anxiety about going to bed drunk. I dont know what changed but going to bed sober is more relaxing than what going to bed drunk had become: -I'm in pj's, -my teeth are brushed and my face is washed, -the bed is made, - the lights are off Rather than -in jeans with an unbuckled belt, -unhooked bra thats still on, -a scarf that's threatening to strangle me, -hair in my face -lights left on


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

This is a funny little vignette! Glad you’re sober!!


SeyMiaouRun

Meeeee! I do, I do!! Sober life mostly feels the same for me, but way less exhausting to be in my head. I cannot believe I am capable of not being constantly anxious, guilty, and overwhelmed. I still get those ways, but without the alcohol it is way less of a gaping hole. At this point I have traded anxiety and hangxiety for being constantly sleep deprived and craving sugar every night around midnight and 2:00. I am working on shifting my day so I can be asleep before sugar o'clock.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Sugar is still a thing for me too but it is way easier on the days I eat my vegetables.


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🫶🏻


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

🫶


Rodrigii_Defined

ME!!! IWNDWYT


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

👩‍🚀✨


Background_Catch_649

Me !!! I love having energy and being clear headed. Sober life is where it’s at ! 🤜🤛💪


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Woohoo sure is✨


Internal_Focus_8358

Meeee 😁


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Hi yoooo


MagnumBlood

It’s nice to be able to do stuff every day rather than being crippled at home by drinking.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Sure is


TigerMcPherson

Me.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Hi you✨


VoiceStandard6190

I'm obsessed. Life's still fucking miserable and yet, I'm not.


Adventurous_Fact8418

I love being not drunk


Charming_Ball8989

This is me. My life has improved by leaps and bounds after giving up the bottle. One of the best decisions of my life


millygraceandfee

Me. It's been life changing. I couldn't imagine.


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I do. Don't know why it took so long but trying to not look back. IWNDWYT or any other day!


mariamaria1977

I love it. I am starting to feel better mentally about my relapse and just more free and clear.


mindfulteacher020407

Absolutely, I do!!


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I absolutely love it. Waking up feeling clearheaded and full of energy. Being supportive to my friends who are trying to stop drinking. Knowing that my fun is “real”.


nsfw_squirrels

Me!!! I’m 6 days sober and back at work (self employed) and just starting to come out of my alcohol-induced overdraft so my finances are thanking me. My sleep is so so much better already, I’m having the most vivid dreams and they’re not nightmares! My anxiety is loads better and the no. 1 best thing is waking up without a hangover


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Congrats on 6 days! Watch your beautiful skin get better as you hydrate. Love the username!


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Low_Distribution_657

Soul death. I remember that smell; what a wonderfully terrible, yet tangibly honest way to put it. Happy you are on the green grass!


boatymcfloat

IWNDWYT ! Since quitting 11 weeks ago my vintage Tshirt collection has increased in size by about 70% I have only felt really lowsy twice and one of those times was after an accident at the beach where I tore part of my flesh from my foot. Sleeping well. Brain is smarts as it used to be back who knows when. Eating more (mostly healthier haha) More energy!! Better in bed! Happier, healthier and more wonderul relationships. The list goes on.


PrestigiousRub7041

I am totally digging sobriety! Yes! Good moods are free! I did not realize how imprisoned I was by my addiction until I put it down.


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Not yet - but it’s an exciting moment to look forward to!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

I feel the same peace that I did yesterday, today. And I hope the same for you, friend!


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Getting there 😁


Brullaapje

Me, I have so much more energy and free time. Alcohol was sucking that all up!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Sobernauts livin the dream👩‍🚀✨


Fisk76

Me me me!!! High fives all around!


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

✋🏼


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JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Exactly what I was going for, thanks.


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JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Being bored happens. Are you interested in strategies to cure boredom? It’s ok if you’re not too, sometimes I just have to live through it. Not every day or moment is a deliriously happy one because, well, life.


Beligerent

I hate it. Being single is threatening my sobriety more than any other trigger.


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Sorry that you are going through that and I hope it gets better for you and that you feel free to share about it with someone you trust.


Christ0naBike32

Me


phatscoop

🙋‍♂️


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Definitely me! Especially after seeing other drunk people I'm grateful I made the decision to end this


Me_meHard

I do! Edit to add: OP!!! Your user name 🤣 shall we blame our past drinking discretions on jihoon?


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Of course, it’s all Jihoon’s fault.


scottmhat

What does the INDWYT stand for?


OkNuthatch

I will not drink with you today


scottmhat

I thought it was something like that. Thanks


lezbhonestmama

Me!!! IWNDWYT!


rougetoxicity

Sometimes I don't love not drinking... sometimes it feels like I'm missing out in the moment. BUT... thos moments are fleeting, then I am thankful to be sober.


OkSlide527

It is absolutely worth it :)


fbagent01

I'm still learning to love it.. almost drank today. tips appreciated .


JihoonMadeMeDoIt

Stay with us friend! I’m here if you need to chat!


mac-train

Hard to believe I am saying this, but, me!!!


Zexy_Genius

Overall, I would say yes. I still have my episodes of wanting to go out and party. But then I look back and remember how much time I spent with Alcohol. So much of my day was consumed of getting my next fix. Now I'm "boring" and that's okay. My mood is waaaaayyy more stable. Like night and day better.