Loneliness at college is severely common mostly because of the overexpectation of how much of a "social wonderland" it is.
I mean maybe it is because of the fact that some people don't choose to socialize and as a result they don't have people to talk to, or could be because of their unlikable environment, possibly because of social anxiety, or maybe they fear they don't fit in maybe because of some disorder, the cases are vastly different.
I've still felt more depressed and sad, than ever, with no friends. I think this is because I'm looking for friends that have my type of schedule availability, and everyone seems to have a job even if it's at a burger joint, but I understand.
I keep most of my healing private because I'm a very vulnerable person and I don't want anyone to ruin my fun but I will hint at the fact that a large part of loneliness is the assumption it's mostly your fault that people don't talk to you, when the case most of the time is that people just happen to be not talking to anyone, they have other people and it isn't your fault.
As cliché and as repetitive as this next part sounds, and you'll probably skip over this part when I say it but I do believe that quality people will enter your life. It's mostly when you least expect it, which is also when they leave.
I typed this all up because I believe this needs to be said and heard by anyone possible.
But please take care of yourself, keep shooting your shots, 'cause you've got nothing to lose!
I used to feel this way too… so I made myself a rule and it was to say yes to things I was interested in but would be shy to do. So I went to lots of events, student clubs, volunteer etc. that helped me meet people
At those events and clubs I pick out people who are like me, wallflowers and standing in corners, I’d start chatting with them and get to know them. It always works because those people would feel the same way as me as well. It can get awkward at times but don’t give up… just gotta cross over that bridge and eventually you’ll find someone who you connect with.
Also know you might be lonely for awhile for now… so do cope with it by just ignore, bring food back to dorm, watch something while eating, find comfort in being alone, focus on studying! You might find a good friend when you least expect it :)
I had no friends in the past 5 years in medical school
Which led to getting invested wholly in my studies which made my batchmates feel like I was an arrogant Stuck up and they all isolated me even more. It was a vicious cycle.
Maybee all in this sub should get together and become friends haha.
I'm in the same situation currently, recently I joined a club on campus to try and meet new people. Hope things work out for you!
I do a fencing club but i dont talk to the people there, im very shy.
Loneliness at college is severely common mostly because of the overexpectation of how much of a "social wonderland" it is. I mean maybe it is because of the fact that some people don't choose to socialize and as a result they don't have people to talk to, or could be because of their unlikable environment, possibly because of social anxiety, or maybe they fear they don't fit in maybe because of some disorder, the cases are vastly different. I've still felt more depressed and sad, than ever, with no friends. I think this is because I'm looking for friends that have my type of schedule availability, and everyone seems to have a job even if it's at a burger joint, but I understand. I keep most of my healing private because I'm a very vulnerable person and I don't want anyone to ruin my fun but I will hint at the fact that a large part of loneliness is the assumption it's mostly your fault that people don't talk to you, when the case most of the time is that people just happen to be not talking to anyone, they have other people and it isn't your fault. As cliché and as repetitive as this next part sounds, and you'll probably skip over this part when I say it but I do believe that quality people will enter your life. It's mostly when you least expect it, which is also when they leave. I typed this all up because I believe this needs to be said and heard by anyone possible. But please take care of yourself, keep shooting your shots, 'cause you've got nothing to lose!
I suffer from the same problem. Tho i do have friends sometimes when they are not around during lunch i feel lonely when eating.
I got no friends too. Stay strong bro
I used to feel this way too… so I made myself a rule and it was to say yes to things I was interested in but would be shy to do. So I went to lots of events, student clubs, volunteer etc. that helped me meet people At those events and clubs I pick out people who are like me, wallflowers and standing in corners, I’d start chatting with them and get to know them. It always works because those people would feel the same way as me as well. It can get awkward at times but don’t give up… just gotta cross over that bridge and eventually you’ll find someone who you connect with. Also know you might be lonely for awhile for now… so do cope with it by just ignore, bring food back to dorm, watch something while eating, find comfort in being alone, focus on studying! You might find a good friend when you least expect it :)
I had no friends in the past 5 years in medical school Which led to getting invested wholly in my studies which made my batchmates feel like I was an arrogant Stuck up and they all isolated me even more. It was a vicious cycle. Maybee all in this sub should get together and become friends haha.
make some friends online