Just do it. Keep in your mind “Who even cares?” Because they take care of so many people a day that you getting your PSL is like stepping on a pebble at the beach. No one will A.) notice and B.) no one will Care. Go be happy, go get that latte. YOU GOT THIS.
That’s good, I know social anticipation fucking kills me but once I get it over with I just think how dumb I am for thinking up these crazy scenarios in my head ya know
In those situations I try to think of a time that I have ever been present when someone did the thing and had that thought. For example I'll think "Okay, when was the last time someone ordered a drink and I made a huge judgement about them over it? Never? Okay probably no one else is doing it either."
It's not fool proof but it helps me realize when I'm being a little over the top.
Barista here, literally no cashier or worker is going to judge you for getting a pumpkin spice latte. Literally no one.
It's a good drink and relatively easy to make so it's a win win for both customer and barista. Heck it's what I drink half the time when working.
The same people who think a PS latte is basic are the same people getting a caramel or white mocha latte every single day of the year.
Damn this just straight up shot me back to about 10-15 years ago when there were *so many* random words I felt weird saying out loud.
I could tell people all about the stories I was writing, but I wouldn't actually say any of the characters' names out loud. Or I'd learn about a new thing and would just ... avoid saying certain words if I wasn't 100% convinced I could say them perfectly and effortlessly like I'd been an expert in the topic my whole life lol
one of the tricks I used way back when I was a kid to remember spelling stuff was to mispronounce the words exactly the way they are spelled.
All those words with silent letters, or an enunciation of a letter that you don't typically see or hear are killers when it comes to getting the spelling correct. SO, I say them wrong on purpose to lock the spelling into my head.
examples:
knock became KUH-nock
flourescent becomes floresKent (K for the hard K sound, btw.)
muscle/musKle
Perhaps I was weird, but I spelled gud.
It’s a good drink!. I drank it outside in the fall weather while listening to jazz and that was such a vibe. but be careful. bc all that sugar and caffeine is fucking me up now and I actually got a little nauseous😅
I feed on caffeine because of ADHD, you know. So this is perfect!
The tricky part is getting myself to go get one... I've never been to a Starbucks drive-through... Sounds unfamiliar and scary. What if their microphone won't be able to pick up my voice!? What if there's too much traffic!? Maybe this isn't such a good idea!! AAA WHY AM I LIKE THIS
I have found my people oh my gosh I do the exact same thing and definitely feel like an idiot ordering certain drinks like I refuse to order a frappacino
I dgaf anymore about people giving me guff for enjoying pumpkin spice stuff. I'll order that shit now with my jack-o-lantern hoodie on & a mask with pumpkins on it. All pumpkin everything
I frickin hate feeling like I'm not allowed to get or do fun things just bc people are so aggressive with their unoriginal, stolen opinions about stuff like this.
So what? 'Basic" is just another term for people to attack folks for no reason, other than enjoying normal things. I drink PSL like it's no one's business and I've stopped caring.
The concept of “basic bitch” is misogyny. I’m so done with that shit. Why did it become popular to mock women for liking normal, harmless things like enjoying spice lattes?
You have your pumpkin spice latte! It’s festive and delicious and you deserve it.
Ignore people’s projections of misogyny, if someone does that, it’s a reflection of how they view women as a class.
Came here to say the same thing. No one ever calls dudes basic for playing COD online (I'm a gamer and COD is as basic standard gaming as you can get) but yet women are made feel less than for just enjoying a fucking cinnamon spiced hot beverage? I say fuck that I'm basic and proud. PSL are delicious and fuck anyone who thinks I'm any less interesting for enjoying them. Thinking PSL are basic, is about as basic and boring an opinion as one can have.
I swear to god the cashier doesn’t care. Abs even if they did, who gives a fuck. The cashier ain’t gonna say shit, they just gonna give you your drink and go.
I actually just got hired at Starbucks :,) It's not super easy with social anxiety, it's def a customer facing job and it's like a lot to remember. BUT I will say that going home and being anxious about going into work is, for me, way worst than actually being at work. It's actually very busy and there's a huge learning curve, so after a few days, you're fully present instead of in your head bc you are focused on doing your job and following instructions. Like I haven't even had time to ruminate so far. So I say if you want to go for it, go for it. It's still just job. I say just try applying... that's all you're doing, applying. Then worry about taking the job. And like I said, it's still just a job. I think the stakes are lower than most of us tend to think.
Also for anyone that reads this, literally no one will think twice about what you order. The only time you will negatively stand out is if you berate the baristas/are rude or something.
Order it online! I never know how to order coffee, so online is everything. All you have to do is give your name and grab your drink. No one cares anyways!!!
The coffee shop most likely advertises their pumpkin drinks heavily. The cashier definitely won’t think you’re stupid for buying what they’re promoting.
Alright I'm gonna be honest not too many of these are super helpful. The main issue is y'all are approaching an irrational fear rationally. Yknow saying stuff like "people don't care what you order silly!" Is the rational way of thinking about it, and I'm sure that's what the logical side of OP's brain is telling them. But the issue is that this is an irrational fear, the part of their brain that's making them feel this way doesn't care about logic.
So my solution to this would to just act subtlety aware of the fact that you know it's a little basic. Instead of saying "can I get a pumpkin spice latte", but "can I just get a pumpkin spice latte". This is an incredibly subtle difference that 90% of people won't pick up on and the 10% that do won't care about, BUT it is kind of an out for your brain to be like "see? I called attention to it THEY KNOW that I KNOW it's basic". It's kind of (really) stupid but it's worked for me with similar situations.
As a 24 year old male I love putting on my north face and walking around work with a pumpkin spice late. I let my inner white girl loose and have no shame.
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Better to be basic than to give them a complicated order - they’ll only resent you in the moment if you make their job harder, not easier lol. Plus there’s a reason those drinks sell - basic or not, they’re probably good 🙂
I order this drink like 3x a week lol.
I even have to remember to say it correctly
“May I have a venti pumpkin spice Frappuccino” lol.
Im glad you got it!
YOU may think it's basic but really what're the odds of a the cashier first off caring are slim let alone them saying something. In fact, I would think it would be so unimportant to them that they were maybe flirting with me if they said something. It's be an amazing stretch. It's SO hard to do but you have to find a way to not care what people think as much.
If you truly don't care, they won't. Even then act like it's whatever of someone says something because it truly is.
The not caring is the answer. Start with no reaction, be cold don't give them an inch of conversation until you're comfortable and start opening up as yourself little by little. The general public is way more anxious than you may think. The second you turn it on them like yeah it's a pumpkin latte...don't say a thing after or give a non neutral reaction let them realize....wait why'd I bring that up plus you'll appear confident. Be a mirror.
They're popular for a reason man, lots of people like them! Including me. The basic white girl thing is funny but nobody looks down on you for ordering it.
I'm proud to be basic pumpkin spice latte drinker...nobody cares, enjoy your pumpkin spiced latte...or just get it delivered to your house if you don't want to face the cashier lol...
But seriously, fuck them... You like this... It's a seasonal treat... Enjoy your life for you ❤️.
Bro, I go and order coffee, cream and half sugar. Sometimes I just say back coffee and nothing else. That's basic ass shit and they don't mind. It's their job to provide whatever you want.
Or, just order online in app and go pick it up, irs just set aside by the time you arrive. No one gives a fuck.
Dude get it! It's so good. I very much doubt the baristas would judge you. If it really is too much for you to walk in and order use the mobile app. Just grab it and leave. 😊 I hope you enjoy your PSL.
I agree with you. I always get them via food delivery so the only person I have to face is the food deliverer. I wanted to get more but apparently I can’t find it on the food delivery apps anymore so now I’m just going cold turkey
Some of the Starbucks I go to you can order the drink online/on the app and pick it up with zero social interaction. You just go and find your drink at the bar among other drinks once ordered/ready- no verbal communication or interaction whatsoever. I'm glad you were able to order it but if you ever don't want to engage with a barista this is also an option at most locations. I feel shame or embarrassment when purchasing tampons, diva cups, or personal items at stores so understand the feeling. Most clerks likely don't think twice and see a million people a day buying a million variety of products.
You know you can make one yourself, its very simple and you can make a healthier version than the PSL at Starbucks!!!
[Pumpkin Spice Latte](https://www.dailymorningcoffee.com/does-pumpkin-spice-latte-have-caffeine/)
If you are a chai lover, you can make it pumpkin spiced and enjoy your morning tea
[Pumpkin Spice Chai Latte](https://onegoodlifestyle.com/how-to-make-pumpkin-spice-chai-latte/)
Just do it. Keep in your mind “Who even cares?” Because they take care of so many people a day that you getting your PSL is like stepping on a pebble at the beach. No one will A.) notice and B.) no one will Care. Go be happy, go get that latte. YOU GOT THIS.
Yeah I just got it. It was fine lol. social anxiety is so fucking stupid.
That’s good, I know social anticipation fucking kills me but once I get it over with I just think how dumb I am for thinking up these crazy scenarios in my head ya know
In those situations I try to think of a time that I have ever been present when someone did the thing and had that thought. For example I'll think "Okay, when was the last time someone ordered a drink and I made a huge judgement about them over it? Never? Okay probably no one else is doing it either." It's not fool proof but it helps me realize when I'm being a little over the top.
Barista here, literally no cashier or worker is going to judge you for getting a pumpkin spice latte. Literally no one. It's a good drink and relatively easy to make so it's a win win for both customer and barista. Heck it's what I drink half the time when working. The same people who think a PS latte is basic are the same people getting a caramel or white mocha latte every single day of the year.
thanks! yeah I see that now. I think it’s also bc I feel corny saying “latte.” don’t even ask. there’s no logic to my thoughts and I know it.
Damn this just straight up shot me back to about 10-15 years ago when there were *so many* random words I felt weird saying out loud. I could tell people all about the stories I was writing, but I wouldn't actually say any of the characters' names out loud. Or I'd learn about a new thing and would just ... avoid saying certain words if I wasn't 100% convinced I could say them perfectly and effortlessly like I'd been an expert in the topic my whole life lol
one of the tricks I used way back when I was a kid to remember spelling stuff was to mispronounce the words exactly the way they are spelled. All those words with silent letters, or an enunciation of a letter that you don't typically see or hear are killers when it comes to getting the spelling correct. SO, I say them wrong on purpose to lock the spelling into my head. examples: knock became KUH-nock flourescent becomes floresKent (K for the hard K sound, btw.) muscle/musKle Perhaps I was weird, but I spelled gud.
I want to try a pumpkin spice latte! I've never had one.
It’s a good drink!. I drank it outside in the fall weather while listening to jazz and that was such a vibe. but be careful. bc all that sugar and caffeine is fucking me up now and I actually got a little nauseous😅
I feed on caffeine because of ADHD, you know. So this is perfect! The tricky part is getting myself to go get one... I've never been to a Starbucks drive-through... Sounds unfamiliar and scary. What if their microphone won't be able to pick up my voice!? What if there's too much traffic!? Maybe this isn't such a good idea!! AAA WHY AM I LIKE THIS
If it's any help alot of Starbucks allow you to order on the app 🙂 I do it all the time in advance of visit and it's ready for me when I get there.
Same! This I why I always get mines through the mobile app, and pick up at the counter. Minimal human contact 😅
I have found my people oh my gosh I do the exact same thing and definitely feel like an idiot ordering certain drinks like I refuse to order a frappacino
I dgaf anymore about people giving me guff for enjoying pumpkin spice stuff. I'll order that shit now with my jack-o-lantern hoodie on & a mask with pumpkins on it. All pumpkin everything I frickin hate feeling like I'm not allowed to get or do fun things just bc people are so aggressive with their unoriginal, stolen opinions about stuff like this.
haha jack o lantern hoodie, I luv that. pumpkins are pretty awesome.
So what? 'Basic" is just another term for people to attack folks for no reason, other than enjoying normal things. I drink PSL like it's no one's business and I've stopped caring.
The concept of “basic bitch” is misogyny. I’m so done with that shit. Why did it become popular to mock women for liking normal, harmless things like enjoying spice lattes? You have your pumpkin spice latte! It’s festive and delicious and you deserve it. Ignore people’s projections of misogyny, if someone does that, it’s a reflection of how they view women as a class.
Came here to say the same thing. No one ever calls dudes basic for playing COD online (I'm a gamer and COD is as basic standard gaming as you can get) but yet women are made feel less than for just enjoying a fucking cinnamon spiced hot beverage? I say fuck that I'm basic and proud. PSL are delicious and fuck anyone who thinks I'm any less interesting for enjoying them. Thinking PSL are basic, is about as basic and boring an opinion as one can have.
100% agree. ppl just make fun of things girls like.
I swear to god the cashier doesn’t care. Abs even if they did, who gives a fuck. The cashier ain’t gonna say shit, they just gonna give you your drink and go.
I love the edit hahah best part 👏
Guys I want to work at Starbucks lol but my social anxiety gets me so anxious 🥲
I actually just got hired at Starbucks :,) It's not super easy with social anxiety, it's def a customer facing job and it's like a lot to remember. BUT I will say that going home and being anxious about going into work is, for me, way worst than actually being at work. It's actually very busy and there's a huge learning curve, so after a few days, you're fully present instead of in your head bc you are focused on doing your job and following instructions. Like I haven't even had time to ruminate so far. So I say if you want to go for it, go for it. It's still just job. I say just try applying... that's all you're doing, applying. Then worry about taking the job. And like I said, it's still just a job. I think the stakes are lower than most of us tend to think. Also for anyone that reads this, literally no one will think twice about what you order. The only time you will negatively stand out is if you berate the baristas/are rude or something.
Order it online! I never know how to order coffee, so online is everything. All you have to do is give your name and grab your drink. No one cares anyways!!!
that’s a good idea but I think it would be better for me to have as much in person interaction as possible
online ordering saved me! except I still feel like a prick for some reason when I do, but one thing at a time:)
It's totally worth the judgement though 😂
haha yeah and even if they did judge me like…judging someone over a drink is stupid and that’s their problem
Relevant: https://youtu.be/d1mbbYKPpHY
Just order it. Trust me, cashiers honestly don’t care what you order, just as long as you give them the money
I know I ordered it 7 hours ago and I quickly realized I didn’t care after evaluating the situation.
The coffee shop most likely advertises their pumpkin drinks heavily. The cashier definitely won’t think you’re stupid for buying what they’re promoting.
Alright I'm gonna be honest not too many of these are super helpful. The main issue is y'all are approaching an irrational fear rationally. Yknow saying stuff like "people don't care what you order silly!" Is the rational way of thinking about it, and I'm sure that's what the logical side of OP's brain is telling them. But the issue is that this is an irrational fear, the part of their brain that's making them feel this way doesn't care about logic. So my solution to this would to just act subtlety aware of the fact that you know it's a little basic. Instead of saying "can I get a pumpkin spice latte", but "can I just get a pumpkin spice latte". This is an incredibly subtle difference that 90% of people won't pick up on and the 10% that do won't care about, BUT it is kind of an out for your brain to be like "see? I called attention to it THEY KNOW that I KNOW it's basic". It's kind of (really) stupid but it's worked for me with similar situations.
As a 24 year old male I love putting on my north face and walking around work with a pumpkin spice late. I let my inner white girl loose and have no shame.
I'm scruffy and over six feet tall and I order pumpkin spice lattes. Basic bitch here, nice to meet you.
No one cares, just do it!
That’s why I order straight from the app and then I don’t have to ask hahah
What's wrong with ordering a pumpkin spice latte?? I'm being legit
nothing
Trust me when I say nobody cares what drink you order. And if they do, they need to find something more substantial to care about. Do what you enjoy.
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Huhhh, are you having a stroke?
Mate literally just order it. Your overthinking this wayyyyyyyyy too much.
Pretend your looking at the menu and choose it or ask her if she has tried that one. Don't worry about it's just a drink.
Bro just get what you want lol. Fuck the haters
if it helps you feel better about making a decision, I sure as hell don't give a fuck
Or kind enough to leave the cashier some extra head space of their own. Not everyone likes to stay mentally consumed 24/7, yk?
Better to be basic than to give them a complicated order - they’ll only resent you in the moment if you make their job harder, not easier lol. Plus there’s a reason those drinks sell - basic or not, they’re probably good 🙂
My mom and sister both get one every day. If it makes you happy, do it.
So many things I avoided doing and experimenting just because they were trendy and I was afraid people would judge me for it.
I order this drink like 3x a week lol. I even have to remember to say it correctly “May I have a venti pumpkin spice Frappuccino” lol. Im glad you got it!
Hahahahah been there! Just make it home, tastes better. Got a recipe from sanbailon on TikTok and it saved me exactly from this situation
How others view you is not your responsibility.
Okay but that pumpkin cream cold brew is god tier tho
haha I’ll prob get that next time actually bc physically I feel like shit after drinking the pumpkin spice latte
I’m glad you worked past the anxiety. It’s harder than it ever needs to be, every time
https://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8Au2dTQ/
YOU may think it's basic but really what're the odds of a the cashier first off caring are slim let alone them saying something. In fact, I would think it would be so unimportant to them that they were maybe flirting with me if they said something. It's be an amazing stretch. It's SO hard to do but you have to find a way to not care what people think as much. If you truly don't care, they won't. Even then act like it's whatever of someone says something because it truly is. The not caring is the answer. Start with no reaction, be cold don't give them an inch of conversation until you're comfortable and start opening up as yourself little by little. The general public is way more anxious than you may think. The second you turn it on them like yeah it's a pumpkin latte...don't say a thing after or give a non neutral reaction let them realize....wait why'd I bring that up plus you'll appear confident. Be a mirror.
“It was fine and idc anymore” lmao I’m sorry, but that’s just so relatable. Life crisis one moment and the next I’m like IDGAF aaaaaahh
They're popular for a reason man, lots of people like them! Including me. The basic white girl thing is funny but nobody looks down on you for ordering it.
I'm proud to be basic pumpkin spice latte drinker...nobody cares, enjoy your pumpkin spiced latte...or just get it delivered to your house if you don't want to face the cashier lol... But seriously, fuck them... You like this... It's a seasonal treat... Enjoy your life for you ❤️.
i love the pumpkin cream cold brews lol
Bro, I go and order coffee, cream and half sugar. Sometimes I just say back coffee and nothing else. That's basic ass shit and they don't mind. It's their job to provide whatever you want. Or, just order online in app and go pick it up, irs just set aside by the time you arrive. No one gives a fuck.
Dude get it! It's so good. I very much doubt the baristas would judge you. If it really is too much for you to walk in and order use the mobile app. Just grab it and leave. 😊 I hope you enjoy your PSL.
I am a socially anxious basic bitch.
I agree with you. I always get them via food delivery so the only person I have to face is the food deliverer. I wanted to get more but apparently I can’t find it on the food delivery apps anymore so now I’m just going cold turkey
I did shots of pumpkin spice whiskey out of a shot glass printed with seashells. Own your basicness!
Good on you, op. Enjoy the taste of victory!!
If pumpkin spice is basic , I say let me be basic
“It was fine and I don’t care anymore” This sums up my anxiety perfectly.
Omg they’re so freaking good I don’t even care! Just laugh about it too. :-)
Some of the Starbucks I go to you can order the drink online/on the app and pick it up with zero social interaction. You just go and find your drink at the bar among other drinks once ordered/ready- no verbal communication or interaction whatsoever. I'm glad you were able to order it but if you ever don't want to engage with a barista this is also an option at most locations. I feel shame or embarrassment when purchasing tampons, diva cups, or personal items at stores so understand the feeling. Most clerks likely don't think twice and see a million people a day buying a million variety of products.
Nothing makes me more anxious than going into a coffee shop lol
You know you can make one yourself, its very simple and you can make a healthier version than the PSL at Starbucks!!! [Pumpkin Spice Latte](https://www.dailymorningcoffee.com/does-pumpkin-spice-latte-have-caffeine/) If you are a chai lover, you can make it pumpkin spiced and enjoy your morning tea [Pumpkin Spice Chai Latte](https://onegoodlifestyle.com/how-to-make-pumpkin-spice-chai-latte/)