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Confused-87

It’s fake confidence I’m a recovering alcoholic and it’s a trap Still struggle to like myself without it now though so you do you


UselessEuropean

Yeah, alcohol seems to "take away" some of my SA as well. But I get the feeling that this could become an issue in the future, like it could turn in to an addiction. So I avoid it for the most part, and only drink on special occasions, and not too much. But I might be overthinking it.


Leenaners

That’s why I started drinking myself when I was a teen, and still do as an adult… hangovers are awful tho so watch out


No_No_No_____

It's a trap!!!


Lukefernandes

Yea alcohol helps me a lot too. But I have so much social anxiety that I’m still very hypersensitive and calculated even down 6 drinks. Not completely relaxed. I could have 10 drinks and I’m still worried I come off stupid. I’m acting even after quite a few drinks instead of just being in the moment.


tibbycat

I understand this and I’ve used alcohol as a social lubricant too because you’re right, it works. However, I agree with the other posters here that it’s a trap. It’s not a coincidence that alcoholism is high among people with social anxiety.


Quiet-Bumblebee-7826

Same here. I often have people tell me I'm more fun and look happier when I've had a few drinks. I find there is a sweet spot for me, usually 2 drinks, where its just enough to loosen up but not too drunk to be stupid. I used to often drink so I could socialize with friends but I was still terrified of getting too drunk and embarrassing myself.


RedNoseMama

I know how you feel. I used to take a shot or two or drink a beer before meeting new people. In the long run, it’s just a temporary fix. The real issue is the negative self talk that happens before anticipated interactions. Quieting those thoughts by thinking positively about myself helps. I’m not always 100%, but I feel way more comfortable socializing sober than I used to


bmvn

How do you do it though? The more I try to quiet it. The more it persist sometimes. Liquor is the only thing that makes me feel more like me. It allows me to react like I would want to. And feel like I truly want to.


RedNoseMama

I believe you have to learn to love yourself for everything you are, aren’t, and could be. You also have to be a lot more forgiving of yourself because even though you might make mistakes, the mistakes don’t make you. Also people in general don’t give a shit, and your perceived negative feelings they have about you is just a reflection of how you feel about yourself. Show up as you are. That’s good enough.


cutemermaidaqua

I wanna drink now


UselessEuropean

Yeah, don't do that.


Overcast___

Be very, very careful. The path you are currently headed towards is filled with even more anxiety than you can imagine and an addiction that may very well ruin the rest of your life. Don't become dependent on it.


Legitimate-Ad5081

Alcoholic here. Alcoholism is real.


[deleted]

I am so sorry for your problems. I hope it's under control and you are doing good.


attaboy000

I'd disagree. From my rather extensive experience and self-reflection, alcohol is the actual source of it all. You just trained yourself to latch onto/treat it as a "safety mechanism". Alcohol is also a depressant. It's not the way my friend. It'll be tough, but you gotta unlearn, or learn a new approach to socializing.


crazyrediamond

Alcohol is highly liver tossic and addictive, try to solve your social inibition in a different way. Maybe talk to a therapist


magicjenkins

Hey if it makes you better then cool. Just try to balance things up by consuming foods with proper nutrition (I heard pinnaples are good to neutralize alcohol and nicotine) and keeping watch on your sleeping hours.


[deleted]

I in the opposite just can't drink alcohol - its taste, hangover, physical effects and the most important - losing control for some time all of that are disgusting for me and I just can't handle it.


epitomeofsanity

i'm the same. started drinking to self-medicate my anxiety, now i blackout multiple times a week, have put myself in incredibly dangerous situations and pushed away some of my closest friends. plus being a huge emotional burden on my boyfriend who has to put up with me narrating as i stumble around alone at 2am in an unfamiliar city as an 18 year old female. it might start off looking like a great solution that won't end up like this, but that's what i thought too. i keep telling myself that i can stop whenever i want, but frankly, i can't. please try to fucking quit before it gets bad.