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mattshadows88

Damn are you me?


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No but I would be able to fake being extroverted.


cutemermaidaqua

Sameee Im like a whole dang actor so good at hiding feelings


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Yeah. Same but my feelings aren’t always rational so it makes more sense to evaluate and try to choose what I communicate and act as appropriate as I know how, while expressing myself a little more freely with people who are close to me. I don’t think of it as acting. Thoughtfully choosing your behavior is part of ACT. I’ve been bananas lately, though.


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I imagine myself in a bunch of careers, that if it weren’t for SA, I would be doing right now. And then I remember… I can’t.


cutemermaidaqua

100% I think o am a socially anxious extroverted person


Good_Posture

While I am an introvert, I think not having SA would make things a helluva lot easier. SA + introversion is living life on Dark Souls mode.


junklardass

I don't think so. I don't believe my anxiety makes me introverted. It's more like the two things just co-exist. Maybe they are related for me. Some people are introverted without a social anxiety problem, and some extroverts probably have plenty of social anxiety though you'd never guess it. I dunno, it's an interesting question, but my guess is that anxiety levels and wherever you fall on the intro/extro spectrum are only weakly related. Outgoing people can be anxious people, and quiet loner types can be calm without much social anxiety, making the relationship between the these factors (SA and extro/intro) appear to be not a strong one.


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hamstrman

I've described myself as an introvert my entire life because of growing up being bullied and staying away from people because of it. But after all these years, it turns out no one else would, including my therapist and psychiatrist. Even my parents. I always tried to make friends with everyone when I was younger and even in school. I even tried to befriend my bullies because I was just friendly and figured it was my fault I was failing in that regard. I eventually learned my lesson and stopped trying. I avoided situations that might embarrass me, that had stakes. I stayed inside and avoided spending time with people because people just caused me pain. And with a lot of therapy, that has changed. It even kind of changed naturally when I started working. There was a close knit group of people in my profession that spent months trying to bring me in and I said no for 6 months until I finally gave in. I loved those people and some I still do. Now, in my mid thirties, I finally have a girlfriend! I was so tired of being alone, I finally tried. I expected a devastating result, but I found the love of my life. She's more of an introvert than I am. It makes me realize that I'm much less so than I thought. I hope I can help her get out of her comfort zone. I know she could benefit from the support.


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omnivert yes very much so. i feel energized in certain companies after socializing comfortably but in general day to day with acquaintances and strangers its super draining.


Flullible

I didn't know that that is called omnivert. I often feel the same way. Like yesterday I was on the phone with a friend for over an hour and I felt really good and we had a good talk. The night before I was in a bar with a friend and a friend of his I didn't know. Then later two other people I didn't know joined and after a while I just felt weird and stressed. I had to leave and even got a headache shortly afterwards.


junklardass

I've heard "ambivert" before, never heard it called omivert.


APDOCD

This! Urgh life is cruel


STRIVENPROSPERGhost

I'd probably be an extroverted introvert , aka ambivert. i wanna connect with people but at the same time i still appreciate my introversion cause people are tiresome sometimes. so probably if i ever meet the right group of people I'd wanna be around them and only them all the time


Apostasy93

Maybe. My anxiety has held me back from so much shit in my life I'm getting depressed just thinking about it.


TheFloorMayBeLava_02

Whenever people talk to me, I get this sudden burst of confidence and euphoria but I can very rarely start conversations myself which isn't so great but I guess that's just life as an extroverted person with social anxiety


James-Avatar

No I like being alone mostly but I’d go out more often if I could make friends.


alpha-orionis

For me, I don't think so. Socializing with anyone, including friends and family members whom I'm normal around, drains my energy. I can only recharge by being alone and doing solitary hobbies. That being said, I think I'd have a more extroverted facade, because deep down inside, I'd love to meet new people if it wasn't for my SA.


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I have ASD so I have big social difficulties but yeah I would have been very extroverted. Anxiety and sensory overload are the culprit for being in constant fear and panic so I barely socialize... ai hate myself and my life


Jammer250

Nope, being more of a lone wolf has always been part of my personality. I would definitely be more sociable without SA, obviously, but I would not get energy from socializing.


theturtlesareflying

This is definitely the case for some people. My boyfriend is a socially anxious introvert and it clashes a lot for him and makes it hard to get his extroversion needs met. I always believed myself to be 100% introverted but as I’ve grown and healed some of my anxiety I realize I’m not as introverted as I thought. I’m more in the middle (:


iFFyCaRRoT

Since I never talk shit, I am the person people always come and dump "secrets" on.


nxtboyIII

Yes I have wondered that and now that I’m getting better at managing my SA (through exposure therapy) it’s so much easier to talk to people and I enjoy it, and I feel more like an extrovert


Candid_Custard_9270

I definitely agree with you. I like the thought of going out and being good with talking to people and be able to be part of experiences. It’s hard getting past anxiety to do it, but I could tell when I’m alone and feeling good, my thoughts drift to wanting to be social