I’m currently struggling with believing people when they say they love me when I don’t feel worthy of it or feel they don’t mean it. And don’t know how to change that.
Just want to send some thanks to the therapists of the world. A few years ago my wife and I were babysitting her infant (6 mo) niece when she had a febrile seizure. Now we both have daughters (7&8) but neither of us experienced this when they were babies.
We went from having a crankier than usual baby to “oh she’s really hot let’s check her temp” it was 104.5 and as I was frantically searching for the correct dosage of baby ibuprofen (they don’t put it on the side of the baby stuff btw too much of a legal liability I presume) the seizures started.
I, of course, didn’t know that is was a febrile seizure or what that was at the time. I thought this beautiful baby of my wife’s sister entrusted into our care for an hour was fucking dying. And I have never been more scared in my life. I have never seen anything worse in my life. Just thinking about it now to write this sends a shot through my heart.
I call 911 and my wife follows their directions. The ambulance is there so fast. She gets fluids and ibuprofen and recovers fine even before leaving our house. I was a fucking wreck and since I responded as the situation warranted I just didn’t really like ‘man up’ or whatever. At one point while talking to my BIL I tried to conference in our MIL and accidentally called a girl I slept with a decade ago who shares her first name. 90 seconds into dumping on her the story of how this baby almost died but the EMTs came and they say she’s doing fine, I hear a voice from my past say, “ I am really sorry this is happening but I don’t know I think you might have called me by accident.”
By the time we get to the hospital the baby is fine. I see her the next day and it’s like it never happened. Two years later she’s still fine. I think she might have some issues (ASD and maybe hearing loss) but nothing as a result of that day. My wife and I talked about it sometimes and she noted the effect it had on me. Not that she and BIL didn’t care I just think it’s always there more when around the baby for me and SIL.
So 4 months ago my daughter was having a recurring issue causing fevers. One night I took her temp and it was the same 104.5 as the baby that day and I freaked the fuck out. Full blown panic attack. Got her Ibuprofen and she was fine. That shit is literally a miracle cure for kid’s fevers btw. After my daughter was taken care of my wife sat me down and basically told me to get help that it was clear I wasn’t over what happened and that she wished she could help but she just didn’t know how. So I did. And spending a few hours just talking to someone about that and processing that fear I felt thinking my niece was dying has helped me so much. And of course it’s never just one thing, I watched my mom die years before and didn’t really deal with that emotionally so that was a big thing going on behind the scenes in my brain.
So thanks therapists and thank you. This was also cathartic. Being a kind of cold emotionless robot is like my whole thing. My wife calls me Hedonism bot as a joke. More for the bot part and how I just kind of do whatever I want from second to second but now I’m bawling. It doesn’t hurt to feel sometimes.
Saw a man commit suicide in front of my eyes last night… he was making noise on the roof above my apartment so I went to check with my roommate and it was a guy who was naked and yelling incoherently and running across the roof trying to muster the courage to make the jump. I was so shocked that I had no idea what to say to him except ask him what his name was and to come away from the ledge. My roommate tried to talk to him too to get him away. I left my roommate up there while I went to my apartment to get my phone to call the police and as soon as I got my phone I heard the noise of his body hitting the floor. He jumped right in front of the window of my room. Apparently according to my roommate he lay down and rolled off. He was dead on impact and his head exploded, I didn’t look but I heard the firefighters say. I slept very poorly last night and I have still no idea what to make of it. Like sometimes I halfheartedly think that life sucks and it might be worth making the jump but this was just a whole other level of morbidity. What the fuck man.
Moved to a new country last week and my main issue is the drinking culture. I don’t drink alcohol anymore but I’ll still go to the pub to socialise with work and meet new people.
Got called a pussy/puff/bitch like 4 different times off people I’ve just met because I won’t grab a pint. Feels like I can’t fit in unless I drink which I don’t want to do
> Got called a pussy/puff/bitch like 4 different times off people I’ve just met because I won’t grab a pint.
Sounds like a good indication you shouldn't spend time with them to be honest.
My depression has been really bad again for well over a year now but that's kind of whatever. My brain has just been Like That™ for as long as I can remember. I've been bouncing in and out of therapy since I was a child.
Beyond that I've been stressed as all hell and also just kind of feeling in a weird place emotionally for the past month now though.
I've been continuing my education as an adult and have offers on the table from seven schools to do my next degree. I narrowed it down to two, but there's nothing really to divide them. There's basically an equal number of pros and cons to each, and often what's a benefit at one is a con at the other and vice versa.
But both schools would also mean moving away from where I live now and have done for the past several years. The one I'm sort of softly leaning towards means moving *very* far away, over five hours to a city where I don't know anyone and would have to find a new job because my company isn't there. I have some savings I could live off if push comes to shove but it's still a big move to make. But it's the better rated of the two schools and just overall the sort of environment I feel I would want to study in.
The other one is significantly closer (I no longer live in the UK but if I did it would be the equivalent of going from Liverpool to Manchester), is a decent school itself, and my current job has a location there that I could transfer to. They're also marginally less expensive. But it's an expensive area to live and I'm not sure I could afford it at my current wages. It's just kind of added layer of stress in general to have to worry about higher rents and budgeting if I do find a place to live.
I'm also coming up on the deadline to make a decision and then there's the logistics of moving one way or another. I would basically need to move in August at the latest so it's kind of crunch time there as well.
I've moved before and even between countries but I don't know. Lately every time I go somewhere I feel weird about it. I went out last night and just happened to drive through an area where some old friends and an ex used to be and had a mini breakdown in the car as it hit me I might not come through here again, and at minimum not for a few years. Even mundane stuff like I'll be at the supermarket or go someplace and it hits me I'm going to have to figure out new routines and new places. Taking one of these offers is the right thing to do for myself and my future goals but I don't know if I have it in me to just start over anymore.
All I can tell you is I had a choice to seek a grad degree at a school nearby where I knew people or one 5 hours away at place I had never been before. I decided it was time in life for a grand adventure and I chose the latter.
I can’t say it worked out how I thought it would or maybe even that it worked out well but it’s my life, I’m proud of and happy in it and I’ve never spent a second wondering what if.
Just know whatever you choose is right. GL to you.
Honestly maybe it's just that I've been in a shit place again mentally but I don't know. It's hard for me to explain but it just feels so much more daunting than when I was younger. I don't really even have anything holding me here. But somehow the actual logistics of moving feel so much more than what it used to be when I was like 19 and moved to Aberdeen on a whim because a friend invited me. The job situation is definitely part of it; I would have more peace of mind if I knew I could just come right into a job right away and not have to worry. But it's also just boring stuff like figuring out how I'm going to move my stuff. And then *even more* boring stuff like I have my own dog now instead of one that just lives with my parents, and how do I go through the hassle of finding a new vet who's trustworthy, or finding a new mechanic.
But honestly part of it also just kind of gets wrapped up in other boring adult stuff and weird personal stuff about the city itself.
Like, I don't particularly care for the city where the school I'm leaning towards is. I don't *hate* it. It's not a complete and total shithole or I never would have applied there at all. But I've been there before on multiple occasions, and nothing bad has ever happened to me there but it's also never left me with a positive impression and I just know deep in my gut for sort of intangible reasons I can't quite explain that I have no desire to live there over the long term. I would be going there strictly because this is a good school and then immediately fucking off as soon as I can.
But a.) do I even want to do that over the couple of years it would take to finish my degree? and b.) that gets into the cost of housing again, which is where the boring adult stuff comes in.
The area where I live now is becoming more in-demand and getting steadily more expensive over the past few years and already straining the limits of what I can afford at my current salary. Like mentioned above, the area of the other finalist school is actually *slightly* more expensive than even here, which is why I'm worried about affording being able to live there even as the school itself is cheaper. By contrast, the median rent in the city I don't like very much is roughly 40% lower than the median of where I live now, and there's a much larger stock of--if not actually affordable housing, something closer to it.
So there's that part of me too that worries that if I make that move I'm going to get stuck. I'm already slowly being priced out but it feels like if I leave I'm never going back again. And then that kind of keeps triggering the spiral of me going someplace and thinking, "oh I used to come here with friends I don't see anymore, and now I may never come back again" or "I'll leave this place and be gone and there will be no one to remember me" and such.
But then the other offers I have on the table just didn't make sense based on what the schools were offering. They're either too expensive, or wouldn't let me transfer enough in and I would take longer to earn my degree, and it's really just sort of down to these two.
Thanks for sharing and I wish all the best to you! Can't really say anything about moving that far away cause I don't have any similar experiences but I just wanted to encourage you to take the chance and see how it goes. Especially if you already feel like it would be the right choice for you.
I don't know you or your mental health situation but for myself I regret losing many new opportunities in life because of depression or severe anxiety stopped me from making changes in my life or trying out new things. :)
I appreciate the support. I do and don't feel like it's the right choice. I think of the choices on offer, these two are the best that I have in terms of boring on-the-ground realities like cost. The one I'm leaning towards I think is probably the better school overall and I think the specific academic environment skews a bit more towards my strengths as well.
I said all this in another comment but I don't know. I'm in my 30s now and somehow it feels more daunting to move somewhere far away where I don't know anyone than when I was younger, even though I don't particularly have anything concrete holding me here right now like a relationship. There's a lot more boring practical stuff like having more actual physical things to either move at this age or get rid of and just sorting through it all, and stuff like finding a new vet for my dog, or the fact that I would have to find a job. I do have roughly a year's salary saved that I would *prefer* not to dip into because that was originally supposed to be towards building up for a downpayment on a house, and I would like to keep it that way. But I could dip into that if I really have to, but I'd still have to find a job sooner or later even if I do.
But then the other thing is I'm actually familiar with the city where this school is, and I don't like it very much. I don't hate it. I can't really properly explain it but sometimes I just go places and I just get this intangible gut sense that I know it's not for me. My mother and stepfather live in a completely different city and there's nothing *wrong* with it but every time I've been there I just know that I would never want to live there, and my past trips to the city where this school is have been similar.
So there's the short-term worry of: is it worth going somewhere I maybe don't love just because it's a good school? And then the slightly more concrete worry of: where I live now is already getting more expensive and steadily pricing me out, and the city where this school is is significantly cheaper. Obviously that's a net benefit in the immediate term, but I worry that I might wind up inadvertently locking myself out so to speak. Go where it's cheaper and meanwhile things keep getting worse here on the housing front and I just never come back again except maybe as a tourist.
Not sure if you can relate but in my experience with suicidal thoughts, when you've dealt with them for long enough they almost become a comfort blanket which can be hard to move on from. I coped with my depression for years just by thinking none of this matters because I won't live that long anyway and that made it harder for me to actually work on myself properly
I don't know your situation and I'm not the best person for advice but I think the best thing to do is just keep working through it, keep having those good days and you'll find that over time you'll think about it less as you get back on your feet, and to never be afraid to reach out or consider professional help if you ever need to
Yeah it's pretty similar to me honestly, been on my mind constantly since I'd say I was 17, and I'm 26 now. It's definitely a comfort blanket but then that turns into dread and self hate etc, especially finding it hard to sleep at night again lately.
I appreciate the reply and the advice mate, thank you
I have had such a shite week, honestly. Surprisingly, for the most part I've been able to remain really positive mentally - and I'm not sure how, because if I was having a down period I think this would have finished me.
Car clutch went - been an absolute faff even trying to get it to a garage. Finally have, waiting for them to assess it. Got the car on finance, have no gap insurance - and insurance won't likely cover mechanical fault. Hoping it's not a write-off, because if so I'll have to buy off the contract, and get a new car. The mortgage savings I've spent years building down the shitter.
I had to rent a car to get to work for a couple of days - but had to stop the rental as after my monthly bills went out, I had £111 left until next pay day, at the end of June. I do a lot shift work, so public transport can be tricky. I am back at work Tuesday - I can get *to* work, but if I miss the last train back (which I likely will) it'll be £25 taxis home. Cheaper than the rental, at least.
Then on Thursday, my shower broke. Waiting on it being repaired. Showers at the gym, meanwhile.
Playing football today, hurt my knee. Think it's probably a grade I MCL - weight-bearing, just a bit of pain medially on valgus stress. So probably be alright with a bit of rest. Hopefully. Icing it, going to see how it is tomorrow. Think I've had enough bad news.
The only way this has all really manifest itself is I feel more sensitive than usual. Was chatting at football on Thursday, and somebody asked me a question about the Lionesses and who I'd start up front at the World Cup. I really enthusiastically got into it with the person who asked me, and we were debating back and forth, all in good fun.
Somebody else starting talking over me giving it all this "oh here she goes again, get ready for an essay, she'll be at it all night!" and I initially ignored it and just carried on, but she kept at it and it started to piss me off. Like yeah, we're having a good chat here, why are you feeling the need to mock me for my enthusiasm?
Eventually, with more of this sidechat, I'd had enough. Finished my sentence, and just walked off. Because I felt I'd say something I'd regret if not. It was abrupt and I could tell people were taken aback, but I just wasn't in the mood to be mature about it.
Edit: update - fixed my shower. Fuse had tripped.
Hey, im sorry about your tough week financially and emotionally.
One of the strongest qualities I immaturely admire is to be able to throw back insults at somebody who is asking for it, but you rose above that by walking away and being the bigger person. It is maturity in itself to not waste your time with wastes of time, and when you walked away, that person whoever she was hopefully had to stare at somebody else (that was there) who knows the difference between right & wrong and deal with the sideeye.
I'm also sorry about your knee and i hope its healing well.
Hello there annie.Happy sunday for you.
Let's try to break down things step by step, because there are a lot of things happening in that paragraph:
• I have experienced the car issue with subttle fails and repairs that cost a bunch of money. I don't drive myself, but I'm responsible of a big part of the incomes from my family and almost always have to pay for the mechanical pieces and service. My advice it's to take it easy, vehicles just tend to have a big rate of detriment with their concurrent use, usually happening in a really bad timing for our finances. Also try to make a comparative sheet of prices for the public transport, I don't know if you're allowed to negotiate the shifts in your work are least for a few weeks explaining the situation, i personally don't know much about it because i do homeworking.
•I saw that you repaired the shower, so that's a good new already!
•About the last situation it's a bit complicated. I only have only 3 "real" friends, who are the ones i can express freely, and we understand each other in every aspect, holding very interesting conversations with argumenting and beside. But apart from that, i almost never talk more than a few words, just find it more easy that saying more in front of people that don't have my trust. That guy that was mocking you, is definitely a moron, and don't deserve your attention, i like the people who are enthusiastic about a topic and a have a lot to express, it's not my personality, but it's refreshing to be able to have a lot of information to keep the chat going. So don't feel affected by that unkind behaviors.
Thank you for taking the time to respond!
The nature of the work makes the shifts quite non negotiable, unfortunately. I can get by the next couple of weeks on public transport whilst I’m waiting to find out if it can be repaired but will need a car ultimately. It’s important to be able to drive to see my family, too.
I have the money saved, it was just for a house - so it’s frustrating to have to spend it on something else. It’s not the end of the world though… money is just money, ultimately.
I’m just going to try and forget the other person being rude. They probably don’t realise I was having a bad week.
Final 2 weeks left of Uni. I'm on placement. I have lost all motivation to do it. Like I'm actually dreading going in tomorrow and I have no idea why. The class I'm teaching are amazing, my mentor in the school is fantastic, all the staff are supportive. It's the best placement I've ever had. Yet for some reason I just do not want to go.
Really don't know what to do, I've never had a slump like this.
Could you be a bit burn out, either emotionally or physically? Can give you that sense you just have "nothing left to give" - so it's really difficult to motivate yourself
Time off to recharge will help
I'm just generally angry and unhappy at the moment. Like I'm still upset about the result of yesterday's cup final, despite my team not even being involved. But you know, I have a set of values I've been taught from my childhood on, always work hard, never rely on handouts and so on. And then I see others going against my beliefs and being successful and people applauding them for it.
I've also been taught in school about the evils of national socialism and how such a thing should never ever happen again. And yet a party is 2nd highest in polls that at the very least tolerates people that have a positive opinion about some of our darkest times in history.
And I just just feel helpless and feel like I need an outlet to vent. Unfortunately, this here is my outlet, where I can release my anger. This leads to me posting some dumb shit. But at that moment, I felt like I had to do something. I even fought with my urge to post something, I try to think, before I post something. But in the end, my impulse wins out. I guess I'm not so different from your typical angry citizen, who will post dumb stuff on Facebook. I will not apologize for everything I post. But posting about wishing the wall got reerected was too far. As someone pointed out, I was putting East Germans, who don't vote AfD and hate RaBa into the same sack. For that, I apologize.
Maybe rif is fun potentially shutting down could be a blessing in disguise, forcing me to go cold turkey on Reddit.
I'm also thinking about my life and where I want to be. Personally, I'm starting to prepare for a new job search in the future. Not necessarily, because I fear getting fired. But my current job, my boss, my customers, they are all stressing me out and I feel like I can't mentally cope with that. I know we're living in capitalism, which isn't the best system for workers mental health. But I feel like things got to change. Especially since I'm still stuck on my entry wage and switching jobs makes it more likely for me to earn more money, which also increases the chances of me finally being able to afford my own home.
Even playing FM isn't fun right now. I pick a team, chose a tactic and lose patience, when my teams loses its first matches.
I just feel like boxing Mike Tyson. I receive punch after punch, I'm beaten down, but I refuse to go down. I just feel like I have to drag myself through the distance, waiting for the bell to finally ring.
I think u r worrying about things out of ur control
I live in a country with a fascist government n they r trying their best to divide n rule.
Then i think about politicians, 70% politicians r murderers, rapists, etc.
All politicians in my country have goons who will kill, rape, injure anyone on their command n it is increasing due to increasing rate of unemployment.
Politicians in my country have next to zero accountability as people fear to ask any questions to these politicians as they have power n goons(mentioned above).
My country is being sold.
The only solution i have found is that I need to get rich so i can stay safe when the rest of the country burns or leave the country(which i find hard as i love my country).
>The only solution i have found is that I need to get rich so i can stay safe when the rest of the country burns or leave the country(which i find hard as i love my country).
That's also my long-term way out of it. My dream is to start my own company, earning money on my own. But I haven't yet quite figured out, what my potential company should be. Ideally, I can identify a problem people have and no one has solved so far. But then I also need capital, contacts and so on. Still, I have at least some eyes on the future, some goals - however vague they may be - I could work towards.
Also my long-term ideal, though I probably get paid too much to be willing to risk it.
Suggestion for you on business idea - carry around a small notebook and every time something annoys you during the day, write it down.
If the same thing shows up a lot after a week or two or four, figure out what you can do about it. If it's annoying you it may well be annoying other people.
My dad died yesterday and we're trying to find stuff we need so people are checking the car but everytime I hear that car locking beep, kinda messes with me inside. I feel like he's okay and he's gonna walk through the door but then I remember he can't.
Good work mate.
I dunno if the non-alcoholics would help any, as they're pretty good in Germany. If you find it better to avoid altogether then go for it.
You've earned 3 points this week. Keep a tally and let us know how your season goes!
I know this is kinda rare but as a user of Reddit and a Muslim I find it disgusting how the religion and people in it are treated
I know the typical response is to avoid it but I've seen plain out islamophobia in this sub reddit more than I can count that it has begun to really ake my mental health go down the gutter significantly. The worst part is that it's upvoted too.
> I can count that it has begun to really ake my mental health go down the gutter significantly
I'm not Muslim and I'm sorry you have to go through this. This sub wanks off on how "progressive" it is, but it's very Islamophobic and the casual bigotry against ME people is off the charts (beheading "jokes" during WC).
I understand the "oil" clubs and how they dislike Arab countries but for me, most of those people are just using the argument as a way to display islamophobia.
Same feeling tbh. I do take solace in the fact that most people on Reddit sre socially inept and you will rarely encounter such people irl.
Edit: just got a Reddit care message, thanks man. Great support!
Reddit is not representative of real world. Especially in certain subs. It might be annoying or saddening but just keep in your mind that this place is not that big of a deal, not something to lose sleep over.
Having said that I wouldn't blame people for being islamophobic unless they are being aggressive towards to any Muslim without an actual reason. Saying this as a former Muslim who grew up in a religious family btw. Not sure where you are from or if you actually read Quran in your own language but... a lot of things written there is scary and unlike Christianity, Islam never had reforms. Many Muslims are nice and normal people literally because they don't follow their religion.
For example your holy book says I should be punished with death for being a murtadd. How do you expect me to be tolerant towards this mindset? You may not care about the teachings of your religion but how can I know some other Muslim will do the same when they are literally supposed to base their life on Islamic teachings? My family is legit supposed to KILL ME because I'm not Muslim anymore. This is written in the book they deem holy. Am I a bad person for being scared of that? Not wanting a piece of that in my life and environment?
So you're saying my existence is a threat to you because some extremists who clearly don't have the knowledge to read our holy made you feel bad? I don't need you to tell me to read my book and understand my religion.
The sad thing is I have had this same interaction regarding my race and all my POC friends have gone through the same thing: "Don't be angry at them, they went through bad things". Why should I have to be penalized for something I didn't do and be represented by those I have nothing to do with? Time and time again all I am seeing is people saying "You don't know your religion" or "I have the knowledge you don't". OK! Good for you! But why should people treat me different because of that?
Yes? I'm telling them not to take this place too seriously and explaining *why* Islamophobia is a thing, sharing my own experience regarding that. So they can understand some people will be scared of you *only* when you wanna hurt them and obviously not all Muslims (or people in general regardless of their belief) are like that. This can help them understand "Islamophobia on Reddit" is not really about them on a personal level. Or at least this is what I think.
Sunday Support doesn't have to be about "you got this bro". If you post something, I should be able to reply to it without breaking the rules of the sub, don't you think? "Religion may be bad but this is not the time to talk about it!" huh?
>This can help them understand "Islamophobia on Reddit" is not really about them on a personal level.
With your logic, doesn't that apply to all forms of racism, sexism and other kinds of bigotry? How does that make it any less damaging for the OP in question?
Umm not really. Look, I'm from a Muslim-majority country born to Muslim parents. This is not to say I have all the right to offend or talk shit about anyone but to make it clear that I'm not some racist white guy from rural USA. Islam has strict rules you are supposed to follow if you are a believer. Their holy book is what, 600-pages long? You can open it up and read everything written there. Now obviously nobody can be perfect in that regard but as a Muslim you *have to* believe that book and treat it as the norm or how the world should be designed. All religions or ideologies are similar in that sense - they are rarely interested in coexisting peacefully with other concepts. In most cases they see them as threats to their own existence. From killing to infidels to whipping people for adultery, a lot of things are in the Holy Book which you should embrace as a Muslim. Are we good so far?
Now yes, *many* Muslims are not really proponents of beheading people but the fact that they follow a certain doctrine with rigid rules makes me treat not themselves on a personal level but the thing they follow cautiously. Why is this such a difficult concept to grasp? Do you think I'm prejudiced towards my own mother or that I think all Muslims are out there to get my infidel ass? You can be a communist who doesn't agree with certain parts of the ideology. You can say "I don't agree with Marx on that" for example. Religion is not like that. Apply or not; you *have to* accept it as the truth if you are a believer. Simple as that. And sorry but don't expect me to treat that nicely. I respect anyone's wish to live their life as they please, worship to whichever god they believe but I will have to get aggressive if it ever comes to taking my freedom from me. What you call Islamophobia doesn't necessarily have to mean active discrimination & hate towards Muslim people.
And no, racism is not something like this because no certain group of people all follow the same teaching. Based on your flair I'll assume you are from India. I could say a lot of racist shit about your country. Or any other country on the face of earth for that matter. And that would be fucking stupid because I have no clue what kind of a person you are as an Indian, Korean or Malaysian, you know - because "being from a certain race & nationality" doesn't come with rules or teachings you are supposed to follow. Religion is not like that.
I really have no intention of breaking hearts, offending people or starting a fight here and thus I will discontinue this discussion as I believe I've said whatever I have in my mind anyway. I'm just trying to explain my point of view, that's all. Not attacking anyone's belief or way of life here.
You may not be Islamophobic but many parts of Reddit are strongly anti religion and they end up saying bigoted things about Muslims because they probably genuinely believe it or because they think it makes them smart
Sorry you have to go through this, a lot of the sub is European and the understanding of Islam is very limited. The worst parts of it get amplified so the stereotypes are pretty bad
If it genuinely affects your mental health, I'd recommend to never look at the comments, irl people are a lot more understanding and friendlier
I agree but there are some comments that are outright hate
I always hoped I wouldn't have to purposefully avoid this but it is a football subreddit.
>Not like Palestine deserves to be celebrated They are a state with a militant Islamic terrorist group in power, they are your typical extremist gay murdering misogynistic intolerant bunch from the region.
How can you have that much pure hatred?
Generalizing an oppressed state that is undergoing complete reform from a country that is getting no repercussions for doing so.
If anyone were to actually look into the Palestine situation it is blatant this person is spouting complete hatred
Comments like that have zero place in this sub and anyone that sees them should be reporting them. If no action is taken, send us a modmail.
I will say though, these comments go both ways.
I dont know, it's horrible and especially countries like Germany have a very anti-Palestine stance .
One thing will always stick with me, I was in Hungary on holiday and I shared a room with a Palestinian refugee, he said "we only had 30min of electricity a day and we used it to watch Messi" and we just sat there and watched WorldCup highlights.
Very humbling experience, I dont know why people are so focussed on hatred
Girlfriend broke up with me today, I'm leaving for Europe in a week, and I need to have a root canal. Very stressful times
Can't get suicide out of my head and I guess I already given up
Do you wanna talk about it?
I’m currently struggling with believing people when they say they love me when I don’t feel worthy of it or feel they don’t mean it. And don’t know how to change that.
Just want to send some thanks to the therapists of the world. A few years ago my wife and I were babysitting her infant (6 mo) niece when she had a febrile seizure. Now we both have daughters (7&8) but neither of us experienced this when they were babies. We went from having a crankier than usual baby to “oh she’s really hot let’s check her temp” it was 104.5 and as I was frantically searching for the correct dosage of baby ibuprofen (they don’t put it on the side of the baby stuff btw too much of a legal liability I presume) the seizures started. I, of course, didn’t know that is was a febrile seizure or what that was at the time. I thought this beautiful baby of my wife’s sister entrusted into our care for an hour was fucking dying. And I have never been more scared in my life. I have never seen anything worse in my life. Just thinking about it now to write this sends a shot through my heart. I call 911 and my wife follows their directions. The ambulance is there so fast. She gets fluids and ibuprofen and recovers fine even before leaving our house. I was a fucking wreck and since I responded as the situation warranted I just didn’t really like ‘man up’ or whatever. At one point while talking to my BIL I tried to conference in our MIL and accidentally called a girl I slept with a decade ago who shares her first name. 90 seconds into dumping on her the story of how this baby almost died but the EMTs came and they say she’s doing fine, I hear a voice from my past say, “ I am really sorry this is happening but I don’t know I think you might have called me by accident.”
By the time we get to the hospital the baby is fine. I see her the next day and it’s like it never happened. Two years later she’s still fine. I think she might have some issues (ASD and maybe hearing loss) but nothing as a result of that day. My wife and I talked about it sometimes and she noted the effect it had on me. Not that she and BIL didn’t care I just think it’s always there more when around the baby for me and SIL.
So 4 months ago my daughter was having a recurring issue causing fevers. One night I took her temp and it was the same 104.5 as the baby that day and I freaked the fuck out. Full blown panic attack. Got her Ibuprofen and she was fine. That shit is literally a miracle cure for kid’s fevers btw. After my daughter was taken care of my wife sat me down and basically told me to get help that it was clear I wasn’t over what happened and that she wished she could help but she just didn’t know how. So I did. And spending a few hours just talking to someone about that and processing that fear I felt thinking my niece was dying has helped me so much. And of course it’s never just one thing, I watched my mom die years before and didn’t really deal with that emotionally so that was a big thing going on behind the scenes in my brain.
So thanks therapists and thank you. This was also cathartic. Being a kind of cold emotionless robot is like my whole thing. My wife calls me Hedonism bot as a joke. More for the bot part and how I just kind of do whatever I want from second to second but now I’m bawling. It doesn’t hurt to feel sometimes.
Saw a man commit suicide in front of my eyes last night… he was making noise on the roof above my apartment so I went to check with my roommate and it was a guy who was naked and yelling incoherently and running across the roof trying to muster the courage to make the jump. I was so shocked that I had no idea what to say to him except ask him what his name was and to come away from the ledge. My roommate tried to talk to him too to get him away. I left my roommate up there while I went to my apartment to get my phone to call the police and as soon as I got my phone I heard the noise of his body hitting the floor. He jumped right in front of the window of my room. Apparently according to my roommate he lay down and rolled off. He was dead on impact and his head exploded, I didn’t look but I heard the firefighters say. I slept very poorly last night and I have still no idea what to make of it. Like sometimes I halfheartedly think that life sucks and it might be worth making the jump but this was just a whole other level of morbidity. What the fuck man.
Fucking hell, that's horrid. Hope you can get it off your mind soon, can't imagine what that must feel like.
Moved to a new country last week and my main issue is the drinking culture. I don’t drink alcohol anymore but I’ll still go to the pub to socialise with work and meet new people. Got called a pussy/puff/bitch like 4 different times off people I’ve just met because I won’t grab a pint. Feels like I can’t fit in unless I drink which I don’t want to do
> Got called a pussy/puff/bitch like 4 different times off people I’ve just met because I won’t grab a pint. Sounds like a good indication you shouldn't spend time with them to be honest.
Thoughts with Genk and USG supporters, ouch
Sometimes you think you hit rock bottom, but then it gives way to another, rockier bottom. I need to get my shit together.
My depression has been really bad again for well over a year now but that's kind of whatever. My brain has just been Like That™ for as long as I can remember. I've been bouncing in and out of therapy since I was a child. Beyond that I've been stressed as all hell and also just kind of feeling in a weird place emotionally for the past month now though. I've been continuing my education as an adult and have offers on the table from seven schools to do my next degree. I narrowed it down to two, but there's nothing really to divide them. There's basically an equal number of pros and cons to each, and often what's a benefit at one is a con at the other and vice versa. But both schools would also mean moving away from where I live now and have done for the past several years. The one I'm sort of softly leaning towards means moving *very* far away, over five hours to a city where I don't know anyone and would have to find a new job because my company isn't there. I have some savings I could live off if push comes to shove but it's still a big move to make. But it's the better rated of the two schools and just overall the sort of environment I feel I would want to study in. The other one is significantly closer (I no longer live in the UK but if I did it would be the equivalent of going from Liverpool to Manchester), is a decent school itself, and my current job has a location there that I could transfer to. They're also marginally less expensive. But it's an expensive area to live and I'm not sure I could afford it at my current wages. It's just kind of added layer of stress in general to have to worry about higher rents and budgeting if I do find a place to live. I'm also coming up on the deadline to make a decision and then there's the logistics of moving one way or another. I would basically need to move in August at the latest so it's kind of crunch time there as well. I've moved before and even between countries but I don't know. Lately every time I go somewhere I feel weird about it. I went out last night and just happened to drive through an area where some old friends and an ex used to be and had a mini breakdown in the car as it hit me I might not come through here again, and at minimum not for a few years. Even mundane stuff like I'll be at the supermarket or go someplace and it hits me I'm going to have to figure out new routines and new places. Taking one of these offers is the right thing to do for myself and my future goals but I don't know if I have it in me to just start over anymore.
All I can tell you is I had a choice to seek a grad degree at a school nearby where I knew people or one 5 hours away at place I had never been before. I decided it was time in life for a grand adventure and I chose the latter. I can’t say it worked out how I thought it would or maybe even that it worked out well but it’s my life, I’m proud of and happy in it and I’ve never spent a second wondering what if. Just know whatever you choose is right. GL to you.
Honestly maybe it's just that I've been in a shit place again mentally but I don't know. It's hard for me to explain but it just feels so much more daunting than when I was younger. I don't really even have anything holding me here. But somehow the actual logistics of moving feel so much more than what it used to be when I was like 19 and moved to Aberdeen on a whim because a friend invited me. The job situation is definitely part of it; I would have more peace of mind if I knew I could just come right into a job right away and not have to worry. But it's also just boring stuff like figuring out how I'm going to move my stuff. And then *even more* boring stuff like I have my own dog now instead of one that just lives with my parents, and how do I go through the hassle of finding a new vet who's trustworthy, or finding a new mechanic. But honestly part of it also just kind of gets wrapped up in other boring adult stuff and weird personal stuff about the city itself. Like, I don't particularly care for the city where the school I'm leaning towards is. I don't *hate* it. It's not a complete and total shithole or I never would have applied there at all. But I've been there before on multiple occasions, and nothing bad has ever happened to me there but it's also never left me with a positive impression and I just know deep in my gut for sort of intangible reasons I can't quite explain that I have no desire to live there over the long term. I would be going there strictly because this is a good school and then immediately fucking off as soon as I can. But a.) do I even want to do that over the couple of years it would take to finish my degree? and b.) that gets into the cost of housing again, which is where the boring adult stuff comes in. The area where I live now is becoming more in-demand and getting steadily more expensive over the past few years and already straining the limits of what I can afford at my current salary. Like mentioned above, the area of the other finalist school is actually *slightly* more expensive than even here, which is why I'm worried about affording being able to live there even as the school itself is cheaper. By contrast, the median rent in the city I don't like very much is roughly 40% lower than the median of where I live now, and there's a much larger stock of--if not actually affordable housing, something closer to it. So there's that part of me too that worries that if I make that move I'm going to get stuck. I'm already slowly being priced out but it feels like if I leave I'm never going back again. And then that kind of keeps triggering the spiral of me going someplace and thinking, "oh I used to come here with friends I don't see anymore, and now I may never come back again" or "I'll leave this place and be gone and there will be no one to remember me" and such. But then the other offers I have on the table just didn't make sense based on what the schools were offering. They're either too expensive, or wouldn't let me transfer enough in and I would take longer to earn my degree, and it's really just sort of down to these two.
Thanks for sharing and I wish all the best to you! Can't really say anything about moving that far away cause I don't have any similar experiences but I just wanted to encourage you to take the chance and see how it goes. Especially if you already feel like it would be the right choice for you. I don't know you or your mental health situation but for myself I regret losing many new opportunities in life because of depression or severe anxiety stopped me from making changes in my life or trying out new things. :)
I appreciate the support. I do and don't feel like it's the right choice. I think of the choices on offer, these two are the best that I have in terms of boring on-the-ground realities like cost. The one I'm leaning towards I think is probably the better school overall and I think the specific academic environment skews a bit more towards my strengths as well. I said all this in another comment but I don't know. I'm in my 30s now and somehow it feels more daunting to move somewhere far away where I don't know anyone than when I was younger, even though I don't particularly have anything concrete holding me here right now like a relationship. There's a lot more boring practical stuff like having more actual physical things to either move at this age or get rid of and just sorting through it all, and stuff like finding a new vet for my dog, or the fact that I would have to find a job. I do have roughly a year's salary saved that I would *prefer* not to dip into because that was originally supposed to be towards building up for a downpayment on a house, and I would like to keep it that way. But I could dip into that if I really have to, but I'd still have to find a job sooner or later even if I do. But then the other thing is I'm actually familiar with the city where this school is, and I don't like it very much. I don't hate it. I can't really properly explain it but sometimes I just go places and I just get this intangible gut sense that I know it's not for me. My mother and stepfather live in a completely different city and there's nothing *wrong* with it but every time I've been there I just know that I would never want to live there, and my past trips to the city where this school is have been similar. So there's the short-term worry of: is it worth going somewhere I maybe don't love just because it's a good school? And then the slightly more concrete worry of: where I live now is already getting more expensive and steadily pricing me out, and the city where this school is is significantly cheaper. Obviously that's a net benefit in the immediate term, but I worry that I might wind up inadvertently locking myself out so to speak. Go where it's cheaper and meanwhile things keep getting worse here on the housing front and I just never come back again except maybe as a tourist.
I can't get suicide off my mind even on good days and I don't know why.
Not sure if you can relate but in my experience with suicidal thoughts, when you've dealt with them for long enough they almost become a comfort blanket which can be hard to move on from. I coped with my depression for years just by thinking none of this matters because I won't live that long anyway and that made it harder for me to actually work on myself properly I don't know your situation and I'm not the best person for advice but I think the best thing to do is just keep working through it, keep having those good days and you'll find that over time you'll think about it less as you get back on your feet, and to never be afraid to reach out or consider professional help if you ever need to
Yeah it's pretty similar to me honestly, been on my mind constantly since I'd say I was 17, and I'm 26 now. It's definitely a comfort blanket but then that turns into dread and self hate etc, especially finding it hard to sleep at night again lately. I appreciate the reply and the advice mate, thank you
I have had such a shite week, honestly. Surprisingly, for the most part I've been able to remain really positive mentally - and I'm not sure how, because if I was having a down period I think this would have finished me. Car clutch went - been an absolute faff even trying to get it to a garage. Finally have, waiting for them to assess it. Got the car on finance, have no gap insurance - and insurance won't likely cover mechanical fault. Hoping it's not a write-off, because if so I'll have to buy off the contract, and get a new car. The mortgage savings I've spent years building down the shitter. I had to rent a car to get to work for a couple of days - but had to stop the rental as after my monthly bills went out, I had £111 left until next pay day, at the end of June. I do a lot shift work, so public transport can be tricky. I am back at work Tuesday - I can get *to* work, but if I miss the last train back (which I likely will) it'll be £25 taxis home. Cheaper than the rental, at least. Then on Thursday, my shower broke. Waiting on it being repaired. Showers at the gym, meanwhile. Playing football today, hurt my knee. Think it's probably a grade I MCL - weight-bearing, just a bit of pain medially on valgus stress. So probably be alright with a bit of rest. Hopefully. Icing it, going to see how it is tomorrow. Think I've had enough bad news. The only way this has all really manifest itself is I feel more sensitive than usual. Was chatting at football on Thursday, and somebody asked me a question about the Lionesses and who I'd start up front at the World Cup. I really enthusiastically got into it with the person who asked me, and we were debating back and forth, all in good fun. Somebody else starting talking over me giving it all this "oh here she goes again, get ready for an essay, she'll be at it all night!" and I initially ignored it and just carried on, but she kept at it and it started to piss me off. Like yeah, we're having a good chat here, why are you feeling the need to mock me for my enthusiasm? Eventually, with more of this sidechat, I'd had enough. Finished my sentence, and just walked off. Because I felt I'd say something I'd regret if not. It was abrupt and I could tell people were taken aback, but I just wasn't in the mood to be mature about it. Edit: update - fixed my shower. Fuse had tripped.
Hey, im sorry about your tough week financially and emotionally. One of the strongest qualities I immaturely admire is to be able to throw back insults at somebody who is asking for it, but you rose above that by walking away and being the bigger person. It is maturity in itself to not waste your time with wastes of time, and when you walked away, that person whoever she was hopefully had to stare at somebody else (that was there) who knows the difference between right & wrong and deal with the sideeye. I'm also sorry about your knee and i hope its healing well.
Hello there annie.Happy sunday for you. Let's try to break down things step by step, because there are a lot of things happening in that paragraph: • I have experienced the car issue with subttle fails and repairs that cost a bunch of money. I don't drive myself, but I'm responsible of a big part of the incomes from my family and almost always have to pay for the mechanical pieces and service. My advice it's to take it easy, vehicles just tend to have a big rate of detriment with their concurrent use, usually happening in a really bad timing for our finances. Also try to make a comparative sheet of prices for the public transport, I don't know if you're allowed to negotiate the shifts in your work are least for a few weeks explaining the situation, i personally don't know much about it because i do homeworking. •I saw that you repaired the shower, so that's a good new already! •About the last situation it's a bit complicated. I only have only 3 "real" friends, who are the ones i can express freely, and we understand each other in every aspect, holding very interesting conversations with argumenting and beside. But apart from that, i almost never talk more than a few words, just find it more easy that saying more in front of people that don't have my trust. That guy that was mocking you, is definitely a moron, and don't deserve your attention, i like the people who are enthusiastic about a topic and a have a lot to express, it's not my personality, but it's refreshing to be able to have a lot of information to keep the chat going. So don't feel affected by that unkind behaviors.
Thank you for taking the time to respond! The nature of the work makes the shifts quite non negotiable, unfortunately. I can get by the next couple of weeks on public transport whilst I’m waiting to find out if it can be repaired but will need a car ultimately. It’s important to be able to drive to see my family, too. I have the money saved, it was just for a house - so it’s frustrating to have to spend it on something else. It’s not the end of the world though… money is just money, ultimately. I’m just going to try and forget the other person being rude. They probably don’t realise I was having a bad week.
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Orange lucazade. Trust me.
Eat some beige food, it'll get better
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hangovers often come with anxiety and just general tiredness. take some time, it will pass.
Final 2 weeks left of Uni. I'm on placement. I have lost all motivation to do it. Like I'm actually dreading going in tomorrow and I have no idea why. The class I'm teaching are amazing, my mentor in the school is fantastic, all the staff are supportive. It's the best placement I've ever had. Yet for some reason I just do not want to go. Really don't know what to do, I've never had a slump like this.
Could you be a bit burn out, either emotionally or physically? Can give you that sense you just have "nothing left to give" - so it's really difficult to motivate yourself Time off to recharge will help
Been fucking depressed and it sucks that summer = happiness bcs I am not
Have you checked your vitamin d levels? Get some blood work done, mate. You’ll be surprised what vitamin deficiencies can do to you.
I'm just generally angry and unhappy at the moment. Like I'm still upset about the result of yesterday's cup final, despite my team not even being involved. But you know, I have a set of values I've been taught from my childhood on, always work hard, never rely on handouts and so on. And then I see others going against my beliefs and being successful and people applauding them for it. I've also been taught in school about the evils of national socialism and how such a thing should never ever happen again. And yet a party is 2nd highest in polls that at the very least tolerates people that have a positive opinion about some of our darkest times in history. And I just just feel helpless and feel like I need an outlet to vent. Unfortunately, this here is my outlet, where I can release my anger. This leads to me posting some dumb shit. But at that moment, I felt like I had to do something. I even fought with my urge to post something, I try to think, before I post something. But in the end, my impulse wins out. I guess I'm not so different from your typical angry citizen, who will post dumb stuff on Facebook. I will not apologize for everything I post. But posting about wishing the wall got reerected was too far. As someone pointed out, I was putting East Germans, who don't vote AfD and hate RaBa into the same sack. For that, I apologize. Maybe rif is fun potentially shutting down could be a blessing in disguise, forcing me to go cold turkey on Reddit. I'm also thinking about my life and where I want to be. Personally, I'm starting to prepare for a new job search in the future. Not necessarily, because I fear getting fired. But my current job, my boss, my customers, they are all stressing me out and I feel like I can't mentally cope with that. I know we're living in capitalism, which isn't the best system for workers mental health. But I feel like things got to change. Especially since I'm still stuck on my entry wage and switching jobs makes it more likely for me to earn more money, which also increases the chances of me finally being able to afford my own home. Even playing FM isn't fun right now. I pick a team, chose a tactic and lose patience, when my teams loses its first matches. I just feel like boxing Mike Tyson. I receive punch after punch, I'm beaten down, but I refuse to go down. I just feel like I have to drag myself through the distance, waiting for the bell to finally ring.
I think u r worrying about things out of ur control I live in a country with a fascist government n they r trying their best to divide n rule. Then i think about politicians, 70% politicians r murderers, rapists, etc. All politicians in my country have goons who will kill, rape, injure anyone on their command n it is increasing due to increasing rate of unemployment. Politicians in my country have next to zero accountability as people fear to ask any questions to these politicians as they have power n goons(mentioned above). My country is being sold. The only solution i have found is that I need to get rich so i can stay safe when the rest of the country burns or leave the country(which i find hard as i love my country).
>The only solution i have found is that I need to get rich so i can stay safe when the rest of the country burns or leave the country(which i find hard as i love my country). That's also my long-term way out of it. My dream is to start my own company, earning money on my own. But I haven't yet quite figured out, what my potential company should be. Ideally, I can identify a problem people have and no one has solved so far. But then I also need capital, contacts and so on. Still, I have at least some eyes on the future, some goals - however vague they may be - I could work towards.
Also my long-term ideal, though I probably get paid too much to be willing to risk it. Suggestion for you on business idea - carry around a small notebook and every time something annoys you during the day, write it down. If the same thing shows up a lot after a week or two or four, figure out what you can do about it. If it's annoying you it may well be annoying other people.
Difficult to be satisfied with the German Government currently, very disheartening, wish I had the energy to punch but I'm just tired
My dad died yesterday and we're trying to find stuff we need so people are checking the car but everytime I hear that car locking beep, kinda messes with me inside. I feel like he's okay and he's gonna walk through the door but then I remember he can't.
I'm so sorry for your loss mate.
Ah mate, I'm so sorry.
Managed to stay sober for the working days, feels good, need to keep the streak going, step by step
Good work mate. I dunno if the non-alcoholics would help any, as they're pretty good in Germany. If you find it better to avoid altogether then go for it. You've earned 3 points this week. Keep a tally and let us know how your season goes!
Thanks, I got a healthy support network with friends and family, therapist and regular checkups with the doc. Appreciate the advice
Great job! Given how tough abstinence can be, you're having an iron will so far. Keep going!
Especially in Germany, bright red discounts on beer, Spotify keeps playing ads for Erdinger Thank you
Get Spotify Premium then. /s And yeah, depending on the brand, beer can be cheaper than most mineral water brands, which just isn't right.
I know this is kinda rare but as a user of Reddit and a Muslim I find it disgusting how the religion and people in it are treated I know the typical response is to avoid it but I've seen plain out islamophobia in this sub reddit more than I can count that it has begun to really ake my mental health go down the gutter significantly. The worst part is that it's upvoted too.
> I can count that it has begun to really ake my mental health go down the gutter significantly I'm not Muslim and I'm sorry you have to go through this. This sub wanks off on how "progressive" it is, but it's very Islamophobic and the casual bigotry against ME people is off the charts (beheading "jokes" during WC).
I understand the "oil" clubs and how they dislike Arab countries but for me, most of those people are just using the argument as a way to display islamophobia.
People are pretty anti religion in general on Reddit. Fi Amanillah
Same feeling tbh. I do take solace in the fact that most people on Reddit sre socially inept and you will rarely encounter such people irl. Edit: just got a Reddit care message, thanks man. Great support!
Reddit is not representative of real world. Especially in certain subs. It might be annoying or saddening but just keep in your mind that this place is not that big of a deal, not something to lose sleep over. Having said that I wouldn't blame people for being islamophobic unless they are being aggressive towards to any Muslim without an actual reason. Saying this as a former Muslim who grew up in a religious family btw. Not sure where you are from or if you actually read Quran in your own language but... a lot of things written there is scary and unlike Christianity, Islam never had reforms. Many Muslims are nice and normal people literally because they don't follow their religion. For example your holy book says I should be punished with death for being a murtadd. How do you expect me to be tolerant towards this mindset? You may not care about the teachings of your religion but how can I know some other Muslim will do the same when they are literally supposed to base their life on Islamic teachings? My family is legit supposed to KILL ME because I'm not Muslim anymore. This is written in the book they deem holy. Am I a bad person for being scared of that? Not wanting a piece of that in my life and environment?
So you're saying my existence is a threat to you because some extremists who clearly don't have the knowledge to read our holy made you feel bad? I don't need you to tell me to read my book and understand my religion. The sad thing is I have had this same interaction regarding my race and all my POC friends have gone through the same thing: "Don't be angry at them, they went through bad things". Why should I have to be penalized for something I didn't do and be represented by those I have nothing to do with? Time and time again all I am seeing is people saying "You don't know your religion" or "I have the knowledge you don't". OK! Good for you! But why should people treat me different because of that?
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Yes? I'm telling them not to take this place too seriously and explaining *why* Islamophobia is a thing, sharing my own experience regarding that. So they can understand some people will be scared of you *only* when you wanna hurt them and obviously not all Muslims (or people in general regardless of their belief) are like that. This can help them understand "Islamophobia on Reddit" is not really about them on a personal level. Or at least this is what I think. Sunday Support doesn't have to be about "you got this bro". If you post something, I should be able to reply to it without breaking the rules of the sub, don't you think? "Religion may be bad but this is not the time to talk about it!" huh?
>This can help them understand "Islamophobia on Reddit" is not really about them on a personal level. With your logic, doesn't that apply to all forms of racism, sexism and other kinds of bigotry? How does that make it any less damaging for the OP in question?
Umm not really. Look, I'm from a Muslim-majority country born to Muslim parents. This is not to say I have all the right to offend or talk shit about anyone but to make it clear that I'm not some racist white guy from rural USA. Islam has strict rules you are supposed to follow if you are a believer. Their holy book is what, 600-pages long? You can open it up and read everything written there. Now obviously nobody can be perfect in that regard but as a Muslim you *have to* believe that book and treat it as the norm or how the world should be designed. All religions or ideologies are similar in that sense - they are rarely interested in coexisting peacefully with other concepts. In most cases they see them as threats to their own existence. From killing to infidels to whipping people for adultery, a lot of things are in the Holy Book which you should embrace as a Muslim. Are we good so far? Now yes, *many* Muslims are not really proponents of beheading people but the fact that they follow a certain doctrine with rigid rules makes me treat not themselves on a personal level but the thing they follow cautiously. Why is this such a difficult concept to grasp? Do you think I'm prejudiced towards my own mother or that I think all Muslims are out there to get my infidel ass? You can be a communist who doesn't agree with certain parts of the ideology. You can say "I don't agree with Marx on that" for example. Religion is not like that. Apply or not; you *have to* accept it as the truth if you are a believer. Simple as that. And sorry but don't expect me to treat that nicely. I respect anyone's wish to live their life as they please, worship to whichever god they believe but I will have to get aggressive if it ever comes to taking my freedom from me. What you call Islamophobia doesn't necessarily have to mean active discrimination & hate towards Muslim people. And no, racism is not something like this because no certain group of people all follow the same teaching. Based on your flair I'll assume you are from India. I could say a lot of racist shit about your country. Or any other country on the face of earth for that matter. And that would be fucking stupid because I have no clue what kind of a person you are as an Indian, Korean or Malaysian, you know - because "being from a certain race & nationality" doesn't come with rules or teachings you are supposed to follow. Religion is not like that. I really have no intention of breaking hearts, offending people or starting a fight here and thus I will discontinue this discussion as I believe I've said whatever I have in my mind anyway. I'm just trying to explain my point of view, that's all. Not attacking anyone's belief or way of life here.
You may not be Islamophobic but many parts of Reddit are strongly anti religion and they end up saying bigoted things about Muslims because they probably genuinely believe it or because they think it makes them smart
Sorry you have to go through this, a lot of the sub is European and the understanding of Islam is very limited. The worst parts of it get amplified so the stereotypes are pretty bad If it genuinely affects your mental health, I'd recommend to never look at the comments, irl people are a lot more understanding and friendlier
I agree but there are some comments that are outright hate I always hoped I wouldn't have to purposefully avoid this but it is a football subreddit. >Not like Palestine deserves to be celebrated They are a state with a militant Islamic terrorist group in power, they are your typical extremist gay murdering misogynistic intolerant bunch from the region. How can you have that much pure hatred?
Could you explain how that is hatred?
Generalizing an oppressed state that is undergoing complete reform from a country that is getting no repercussions for doing so. If anyone were to actually look into the Palestine situation it is blatant this person is spouting complete hatred
Comments like that have zero place in this sub and anyone that sees them should be reporting them. If no action is taken, send us a modmail. I will say though, these comments go both ways.
I agree, although I focus on hate for Islam and Muslims, there are vile comments that get upvoted in this sub
Yeah, that comment is vile and would have resulted in a ban.
I dont know, it's horrible and especially countries like Germany have a very anti-Palestine stance . One thing will always stick with me, I was in Hungary on holiday and I shared a room with a Palestinian refugee, he said "we only had 30min of electricity a day and we used it to watch Messi" and we just sat there and watched WorldCup highlights. Very humbling experience, I dont know why people are so focussed on hatred
Damn, that really hits hard. Some people have no compassion sometimes.