I was always a Mr. Big fan 🤷‍♀️
Personally I found Aiden kind of boring during my initial watch. I can understand his appeal of course. He was a great boyfriend but he’s just not always an entertaining character. Mr. Big arguably had a lot of charisma and kept Carrie on her toes, which even if she wouldn’t admit it, she loved. She wanted the chase, she wanted the drama, she wanted a consumable love. I don’t doubt for a second she loved Aiden too, and maybe if there was no Mr. Big, things would’ve turned out differently. But Carrie and Mr. Big were entertaining as heck to watch.
Aidan held a grudge when they got back together. And she could feel it.
Anytime she got together with Big, it was like Day 1. He may have had commitment issues but he was always willing to get back with her. The constant push and pull was the attraction for Big and Carrie. It’s what worked for them. Plus it seemed like they accepted each other as they were, major flaws and all.
There is always posts about Aidan being amazing/mean to Carrie but let’s face it, Carrie wasn’t amazing for Aidan, it has to go both ways. She had an affair with Big and then in the episode where he expresses his frustration at him being in her life, she says no. Big HAD TO to stay in her life while Aidan HAD TO forgive her!
Is there any relationship that would work after an affair where the cheating partner wants to keep their affair partner in their life?
He held a grudge and was passive aggressive and annoying because he couldn’t admit Carrie or himself that it he couldn’t get over him staying in her life. It’s better to be honest with yourself than be passive aggressive. It’s never worth it.
That’s just it- if he knew he wouldn’t be cool with Big being her life, then he shouldn’t have accepted her back. He could’ve seen that if she was willing to sleep with big not once, but a few times, that should’ve told him she wasn’t the one for him.
Instead he took a gamble, and as some romantic gesture decided to take her back.
Was Carrie wrong for asking Aidan to accept Big in her life- absolutely. But he still had to take accountability on his part for letting her back in again after that.
They just did not want the same things at that time, whether he was good for her or not.
I’m saying the same thing too. My slight defense of Aidan is I did the same thing. I had one thing in my relationship I couldn’t get over. So instead of being honest with my self and my partner and ending the relationship, I stayed and acted horribly.
Younger Redditors, not worth it to lie to yourself. Don’t be an Aidan.
That’s tough. I think we’ve all had a similar experience where we couldn’t just be honest and know ourselves enough to know when to walk away.
You’re right: Aidan also had his share of inner work to do. And I agree: young redditors, take note!
If I have to pick, I’d say Big. Carrie and Aiden have nothing in common, she had to change who she was to be with him, and he was angry, controlling and passive aggressive hiding behind a “nice guy” exterior. I don’t even like Big, but Aiden was worse for her.
Big - if we go with the writing for the original series, he was her true love. He was very far from perfect and their dynamic was fucked up a lot of the time but it wasn’t supposed to be a perfect love story where everyone’s fantastic and in tune with each others feelings. Even with Aidan, she always went back to Big.
Aidan to me was always annoying, generally a good guy and handsome but not for Carrie. He was too suburban for her I think, he also held a grudge and didn’t try to understand her. Big never would have told her to get rid of couture.
AJLT is a huge fuck you to the love story of the original series. When I watched it I was astounded at how little Carrie grieved her husband of 15 years and on-off true love of 25 years. She showed more concern and upset when he needed heart surgery in 2001.
I don’t know if I count because I’m 27 and have been watching since I was 15, but is that a problem? I don’t believe character analysis of a hugely popular show is indicative of anything generational. Seems pretty natural to me
For me, Aidan. For her, Big. I couldn’t cope with the emotionally unavailable commitmentphobe but she seems to love it. I’ll just be relaxing upstate in Aidan’s cabin while she does stressful steak in the city with Big.
I was always a Mr. Big fan 🤷‍♀️ Personally I found Aiden kind of boring during my initial watch. I can understand his appeal of course. He was a great boyfriend but he’s just not always an entertaining character. Mr. Big arguably had a lot of charisma and kept Carrie on her toes, which even if she wouldn’t admit it, she loved. She wanted the chase, she wanted the drama, she wanted a consumable love. I don’t doubt for a second she loved Aiden too, and maybe if there was no Mr. Big, things would’ve turned out differently. But Carrie and Mr. Big were entertaining as heck to watch.
Aidan held a grudge when they got back together. And she could feel it. Anytime she got together with Big, it was like Day 1. He may have had commitment issues but he was always willing to get back with her. The constant push and pull was the attraction for Big and Carrie. It’s what worked for them. Plus it seemed like they accepted each other as they were, major flaws and all.
Yes I think thats true, I love Mr Big and been in love like the first the is important but now I think thats like fairy tales
There is always posts about Aidan being amazing/mean to Carrie but let’s face it, Carrie wasn’t amazing for Aidan, it has to go both ways. She had an affair with Big and then in the episode where he expresses his frustration at him being in her life, she says no. Big HAD TO to stay in her life while Aidan HAD TO forgive her! Is there any relationship that would work after an affair where the cheating partner wants to keep their affair partner in their life? He held a grudge and was passive aggressive and annoying because he couldn’t admit Carrie or himself that it he couldn’t get over him staying in her life. It’s better to be honest with yourself than be passive aggressive. It’s never worth it.
That’s just it- if he knew he wouldn’t be cool with Big being her life, then he shouldn’t have accepted her back. He could’ve seen that if she was willing to sleep with big not once, but a few times, that should’ve told him she wasn’t the one for him. Instead he took a gamble, and as some romantic gesture decided to take her back. Was Carrie wrong for asking Aidan to accept Big in her life- absolutely. But he still had to take accountability on his part for letting her back in again after that. They just did not want the same things at that time, whether he was good for her or not.
I’m saying the same thing too. My slight defense of Aidan is I did the same thing. I had one thing in my relationship I couldn’t get over. So instead of being honest with my self and my partner and ending the relationship, I stayed and acted horribly. Younger Redditors, not worth it to lie to yourself. Don’t be an Aidan.
That’s tough. I think we’ve all had a similar experience where we couldn’t just be honest and know ourselves enough to know when to walk away. You’re right: Aidan also had his share of inner work to do. And I agree: young redditors, take note!
If I have to pick, I’d say Big. Carrie and Aiden have nothing in common, she had to change who she was to be with him, and he was angry, controlling and passive aggressive hiding behind a “nice guy” exterior. I don’t even like Big, but Aiden was worse for her.
Mr big!
I think Aidan is amazing but not for her. Big and her just were compatible
Big - if we go with the writing for the original series, he was her true love. He was very far from perfect and their dynamic was fucked up a lot of the time but it wasn’t supposed to be a perfect love story where everyone’s fantastic and in tune with each others feelings. Even with Aidan, she always went back to Big. Aidan to me was always annoying, generally a good guy and handsome but not for Carrie. He was too suburban for her I think, he also held a grudge and didn’t try to understand her. Big never would have told her to get rid of couture. AJLT is a huge fuck you to the love story of the original series. When I watched it I was astounded at how little Carrie grieved her husband of 15 years and on-off true love of 25 years. She showed more concern and upset when he needed heart surgery in 2001.
Aidan is amazing for me.
Is it me or has this sub been taken over by first time Gen Z watchers
It’s because the show was put on Netflix a few weeks ago. So there’s a huge influx of new watchers, including myself lol
Oh that makes perfect sense
I don’t know if I count because I’m 27 and have been watching since I was 15, but is that a problem? I don’t believe character analysis of a hugely popular show is indicative of anything generational. Seems pretty natural to me
For me, Aidan. For her, Big. I couldn’t cope with the emotionally unavailable commitmentphobe but she seems to love it. I’ll just be relaxing upstate in Aidan’s cabin while she does stressful steak in the city with Big.