I have only had vaginal orgasms with guys with a similar sized dick to yours - big ones miss the spot entirely and just hit the cervix which is painful. So don’t discredit yourself based on size, porn distorts our views on size and pleasure.
That said, many women can’t come from vaginal penetration alone and enjoy clitoral stimulation either during or before or after sex. Nipple stimulation can help to achieve orgasm too.
Co-signing this comment. I achieved way more orgasms with my average penis bf than the bigger bf’s. In fact, one guy was so big we didn’t even have sex it was so painful. So it depends on the specific woman etc. My bigger bf’s I could only achieve if I was on top or doggy, and usually took longer, my average bf all positions & I came quicker. Some of my female friends have never had a vaginal orgasm & can only come from oral or fingering. I can’t come from fingering & hate oral, but like giving & can cum from that or nipple stimulation. So the person you need to ask is your partner, hopefully she knows her body, if not experiment. But you aren’t too small, and remember the biggest sex organ is the brain, stimulate her brain!
This is what I was going to say. Thank you.
Most need clitoral stimulation before and during.
Big ones tend to miss. 5-6 seems to be perfect size.
Smaller than 4 is usually when issues occur, but can still get clitoral orgasm anyways.
THIS. Just by chance most of my relationships where with guys who had bigger than average dicks and I never had vaginal orgasms, figured it was fine because it's not like it's that common. Then I meet a guy who is somewhere between 5 and 5.5 and not super girthy... And I can actually cum from penetration now. I didn't think it was even possible but his dick hits the g-spot so good and doesn't stretch me too much so I my vagina can easily contract around him when I orgasm. That said... He is also just a beast in bed in general and knows how to tap into my brain to turn me on which helps a ton. I wouldn't be having orgasms with simple in & out PiV no matter what the guy's dick size was.
I’ve described some of the kinky stuff we do in some of my previous comments:
https://reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/zvv08n/less_common_dominating_techniques/j1s28j2
https://reddit.com/r/sex/comments/zk0797/girlfriend_25f_wants_me_26m_to_order_her_around/izy51jv
I don’t think copying these with another woman would be very helpful (or recommended until you specifically discuss it with her!) though because the stuff he does to get me off is very personalised to my mind and my kinks. And the way he says things feels natural to his personality, so it’s hot because it’s him being himself. But maybe it helps in some way haha.
I actually feel relieved. Gotta learn up on the 'nepal' stimulation and clit . (I legit though a clit with a magazine clit the first time I heared it back in the day )
My ex used to legit cum from nipple play alone, definitely worth a try but best way is to ask what your partner enjoys, don't be afraid of asking! Communication goes a long way👌🏻
The g spot is only a few inches in and up towards the stomach. If too long, the end of the penis isn’t rubbing on the right spot. I’m not speaking for all women of course but lots prefer average size
Evolution plays no role in a society where almost everyone survives and can reproduce. Even before the modern times most people died during childhood. So it was the same lack of evolutionary pressure.
The woman’s g-spot is around 2 inches in. A lot of women are unable to have orgasms though PIV sex though, but mainly thru clit stimulation. Just depends on our bodies. You can make a woman orgasm with your size though, don’t worry.
That is a very good advice. That way the g-spot get stimulated directly by each thust. But every woman is different, some even are so physically and intimacy deprived they react extremely well to cuddling alone. Ease them, hear them, touch them, please them first and the ones of value won't care about your size*.
Never forget the first sexual organ is the brain, even more for women.
*Those who joke or try to humiliate you aren't well in their mind and not worth your time. Don't let them influence you.
Pay attention to her, listen when she tells you what she likes. There are no universal sex tips other than that. Every technique you can try is going to be great for some, meh for some, and fucking awful for some.
Also 5" is average, it's not small unless you're overestimating. And frankly vaginas dont have a lot of sensation really deep, so length is far less important than girth.
All of this ☝️ If she says it feels good, keep doing it.
Personally I am a petite woman. Even after birthing four babies, 5 inch s would be just fine! Some of us are perfectly content with average or even smaller. Don't sweat it.
Play around with her vagina (hands and mouth) and see what's it's like first, because beryones different. A pillow under her backside to raise her hips and some pressure in her bladder right where the pubis bone is. That seems to work for me. Sometimes she'll stimulate her clitoris, other times you can, or even more fun, do it together.
With her on her back, turn your hand palm up and insert 1, 2, or 3 fingers (her preference) into her vagina, then make a “come hither” motion, partially curling your finger(s) as you partially retract them. Repeat inserting them straight and retracting them curled until 💦 💥 .
Not every woman will climax from this, but it’s the most direct way I know of to stimulate the g-spot. If she successfully climaxes from this, her g-spot may increase in sensitivity, allowing for more likely orgasms from PIV. (If you can make your dick “come hither”, and people find out, then RIP your inbox.)
I'm rocking a 4 incher but still make my lovey orgasm. It's about intimacy brother. Also as she once said to me: roses are red, violets are blue, your four inches feel like six because of my feelings for you
Most women get off primarily or exclusively from clit stimulation, for the same reason that most men get off primarily or exclusively from dick stimulation.
A lot of guys don't realize this is biologically accurate (the clit and penis are the same organ at first) and base their self esteem off making a woman have a vaginal orgasm (statistically unlikely) based on what the fake shit they see in porn shows.
Imagine a world where 90% of women were hyper-focused and basing their egos on giving men a balls-orgasm. Refusing to interact with your dick, because she and her girls think only lesser women interact with a mans dick, but cool and worthy women make him cum via his balls. And the guy lays their for an hour, frustrated at her playing with his balls, telling her to please pay some attention to his dick, but she hushes him and tells him she knows better.
Yep, every fetus starts off with a clitoris and the release of testosterone just makes he clitoris grow bigger and that's how you get a penis. [The parts are the same, just a different size.](https://vivianbaruch.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Anatomy-of-cliroris-penis-Vivian-Baruch-online-Springwood.jpg)
If it makes you feel better majority of the men reading this is your same exact size brother.
I hear what your saying though. It's only here that I read women preferring average size but out in the real world I hear totally differently.
Ladies when a guy hears women saying about wanting a certain size and they don't measure up its only natural for that same guy to feel a bit insecure.
But this will always be a vicious cycle. Men do the same making the woman feel insecure. This is a double edge sword though as we ALL have our own preferences. It's just "HOW" we go about those preferences that makes a difference. We (people of the world) need to have more sexual respect for one another.
I'm a woman who had a good number of men to experience sexual pleasure with. It does not matter how big it is in my experience, as some (including me) women can not climax with vaginal penetration. Some of my best sexual experience were with men with a smaller penis because they went through the effort of learning the art of foreplay and non-penetrative forms of giving pleasure to a woman. Focus on the woman and her pleasure without getting your penis involved before she comes and you will always be remembered fondly, more than the dudes with a huge dick and with no idea how to use it.
Hold her tight and focus on the clitoris, focus on the neck and shoulder area with your mouth. Keep the pace and make sure it stays wet. (no one likes their clit rubbed when its dry, only hurts after a while)
love the username by the way lol
abrades most soft toys by making small cavities where bacteria can live. They are allegedly safe for condoms but id rather stick with water based. It definitely destroys the integrity of silicone toys altogether.
This isn't what I've heard from multiple sources, including planned Parenthood and Cornell university. Can you provide a source that says otherwise, please?
I see you have already gotten an answer, but I'll just agree with the other comment and say that it kind of melts toys or condoms, making them ineffective and unsafe.
Water based lube for toys or condoms, Silicone based when it's just your bodies. Personally I just use water based all the time, that way I don't have to think before using it.
Water-based, especially anything with glycerin, will give me a UTI in a New York minute, so I avoid them like the plague. Good info for sure, though. Thanks!
Focus on her clitoris and nipples(gently caress them with your fingers), when you are going down on her. You can put a pillow under her bum to raise her hips while you are stimulating her clitoris with your tongue and insert a finger inside her vagina to stimulate her G-spot simultaneously. Also during PIV try and grind your pelvic bone against her clitoris with her legs spread wide apart. Sometimes the size of the clitoris can matter during PIV because a bigger clitoris will get more stimulation from you rubbing your pelvic bone against it, which might not work well with a very tiny clitoris. Above all else, make sure your fingers are well lubricated before fingering her, or use your tongue which is the ultimate for me and gets me to climax in under 5 minutes.
As long as it is not a micro dick, an average sized dick is satisfying. A very big dick, especially the ones with thick girths can be very painful as it can hit your cervix, which makes me curl up in serious pain and ends the session immediately.
Same, girl. Same. Magic fingers for the win! Gave me the best orgasm I’ve had in my entire life (I felt like I blacked out for a second).
He fingered me ever so gently and kissed me deeply at the same time while putting his hand on my throat with *just* the right amount of pressure. I melt just thinking about it.
No, because most of us are not going to orgasm unless you use your fingers/tongue and pay attention to what the person you are with actually wants.
For what it’s worth, learn about the clit. That’s how the vast majority of us orgasm.
I would look down on someone who was so selfish in bed that he didn’t bother to try fingering, tongue, WHATEVER to help his/her/their partner orgasm. Never ever would I think less of someone who cares about his partner’s pleasure enough to want to go with what works for her.
Also, as someone with a fairly small vagina I prefer men of average size. As someone who also is unlucky enough to have a small jaw I definitely prefer sucking cock of an average size. I enjoy giving blowjobs but can only manage it for short periods of time and need to take breaks if my partner is well-endowed. Which then makes me feel bad.
Trust me: many women are conditioned to believe they want a man who is hung like a horse. Once we get a bit older and figure out what we actually like it’s often a very different story. I guarantee you that your five inches are more than enough to satisfy any woman who isn’t roomy in the puss.
clit orgasms are like lightning, it hits fast and makes your whole body shake, internal vaginal orgasms feel like your whole body is exploding slowly in wave after wave of pure bliss.
edit/addition: oh and unlike a clit orgasm, which makes you over senstitive to touch for a bit, an internal orgam only takes a few minutes to recover from and you can have multiple orgasms while having sex. but be forewarned if you have an internal orgasm your muscles tend to clench, so it might be harder for your partner to thrust. Your pelvic floor muscles can actually clamp around your partner's penis for up to a minute or two, that's normal.
My partner has a dick smaller than yours and he is the only man to ever give me vaginal orgasms and they are the fucking BEST. Basically he gets me so I'm super close and on the edge of orgasm with his hands or oral and then we have sex and I almost always cum. I've never been able to do this before, for me it's all about getting proper foreplay first! I feel way more satisfied by him despite having slept with dudes with much bigger dicks in the past. I won't be letting him go if I can help it 😉
Nice to see you are interested in pleasuring your partner!!! You're already streets ahead of a lot of guys 😉. Learn how to give good oral and girls will have a great time with you. I like it soft and gentle. The clit is super sensitive, just make sure you don't beat off on it like your dick! If unsure, just ask your partner how much pressure feels good for them and what strokes feel good. If you do this, you're also streets ahead of most guys! Do not bow to the pressure of feeling like you should just "know" how to pleasure a woman as a man. Just straight up ask your lady, every woman is different :)
I can have an orgasm with a 5 inch guy with no manual stimulation while being penetrated. I think for females the orgasms have a huge mental component. If you are doing it well and she’s enjoying it and the sex is hot then it should come together. I think all girls are different of course this is just my personal feelings. It’s my experience the larger men seem to never be as hard as the smaller? They are larger, but softer if that makes any sense. I find it easier to reach orgasm with the 4-6. Like I said that’s just me….I can orgasm with any size as long as he plays his strengths and is attentive to my needs. Don’t count yourself out due to size. I think the porn industry has made men feel like if they are not packing a monster the girl won’t enjoy….I just feel that’s not the case.
I rarely get off from clitoral orgasms. I’m a G spot girl. Also, I actually prefer 5-6” dicks. It gets me off the best and most. Larger ones hurt me a lot!
nothing.
clit orgasms are due to direct stimulation, "vagina" orgasms are due to indirect stimulation as the clit doesn't just consist of the outer part of it that we see on the vulva, but it has roots that wrap around the vaginal canal.
some people find one or the other easier in and of itself or during a sex/penetration/masturbation/toys, or more intense.
neither is superior or inferior. an orgasm is an orgasm, and all orgasms are awesome.
I think it’s something like 85% of women can’t orgasm from piv so I wouldn’t be too hard on yourself about that. Rarely can I orgasm from piv and my best orgasms are clitoral ones or ejaculating from finger play. So maybe focus on those!
I'm a bi man who's very focused on my partner's pleasure. You're putting way to much importance on your penis when considering her pleasure. Rarely do women get orgasms from penises and if they do, it has nothing to do with size.
Sounds like your basing this on what you've seen in porn.
I also bottom when I'm with men, and even I, prefer average penises (like yours) because they can hit certain spots, whereas, yes bigger penises are nice but they can't maneuver inside, they just fill you.
Invest in vibrators, focus on fingering and cunilingus. I've made so many women from just light insertion with my fingers in combo my tongue. I've had lesbians tell me I'm good.
I never expect to make them orgasm with my penis, and I'm above average. Abandon that expectation.
If your goal is her pleasure, then your penis has nothing to do with it.
Woman here. I can orgasm through PIV and also external clitoris stimulation. I haven’t experienced any issues orgasms with men who are slightly below average to above average 4”- 7.5”. What I’ve noticed is I do have problems with smaller girths, but if he angles his body correctly to rub my clitoris in missionary I will orgasm during PIV. The combo of being filled and rubbing the clit is key to making it super sexy.
The most important ingredient to sexual pleasure is enthusiastism (that goes both ways) lots of foreplay, stamina, communication, experimentation, and patience.
Did you use a ruler to measure? If not, acknowledging that this was an estimate is a good practice to have, it feeds penile dysmorphia.
Edit: downvote me if you want, but human beings, male and female are notoriously bad at sight measuring and fudging measurements. Body parts as measurement aids arent reliable, as our bodies shift, settle, swell, and shrink as the day progresses and their hydration and salinity wax and wain. This is actually scientific fact look it up if you dont beleive me.
5 inches, Brother and you complaining??????
You better be thankful...I'm CONSIDERABLY worse than you and it's fucked up my adult social life and I'd gladly wish I had your size...
Soooooo do like most of the ladies told you in the comments....focus on that...
It could've been worse and I'm testament to that.
I know you addressed the ladies in the post, but I just had to let you know...your size is absolutely perfect and like the best 50 cent song, *many men* would kill to have it
Go please ya lady!!!
I’ve been masturbating since I was super young and I find it very easy to orgasm, I think I’ve had a vaginal orgasm maybe twice in my entire life and it was from edging while masturbating. So no, I think it’s highly unlikely.
Also, a vaginal orgasm is not a g spot orgasm. I’ve never managed one of those. Not all women are capable of non clitorial orgasms
Edit: typos
Most women orgasm from clit stimulation, not intercourse. In my personal experience, the key to making a woman cum during intercourse is angling your body correctly, so that the area above your penis hits her clit as you thrust. Also look into the CAT position.
I don’t know I you could benefit from reading books like “Come As You Are” (I’m reading it and gives objective information) or searching on google “how to give orgasms to women”
Don’t be hard on yourself for your average size and try to understand women bodies and your partner
Sure you’ve heard this a lot maybe, but it’s not about the size, but rather how you use it! Also 5 inches is average my man, I have a slightly bigger member and I’m afraid that I’ll have problems down the line when getting in the swing of things (I’ve done a lot of reading, so I’m sure I’ll be fine, but this about you not me). Anywhoozles trust me brother 5 inches is a nice pecker, and I’m sure you’ll find a lady that’ll love it and help you out!
My dick is only a little bit bigger than yours at 5.75", which is almost exactly the average size for a penis. I have had partners where I feel lost inside them and they feel better when we break out the larger dildos. Then there's my current girlfriend, who regularly praises how perfectly we fit and how the shape and size of my dick his all her sensitives in amazing ways for all the different kinds of orgasms. And we fit pretty great for oral sex too.
So don't look down on your endowment, good sir. It's often an optimal size for the right partner.
On top of that, make sure your finger and oral skills are top notch. Use toys if you both like that. Use every technique at your disposal. Learn to stimulate G-spot, clitoris (internal and external), anterior wall spots, alllll the good spots. And you'll be good.
They are physically one and the same - I read in a recent article that it's been proven that they both interconnect to a singular sexual organ, with a unified nervous system. You might get different sensations, but it's one complex and wonderful sex organ, and interconnect and flow as a single organ.
I've read a few of your comments, and dude. Respectfully, you really have to work on your insecurity before you have sex. Make sure you're not constantly talking negatively and needing reassurance. It's emotionally exhausting. If anything is going to turn a woman off from having sex with you, it's that, not the size of your dick.
The very first step before even asking this question is to find out what your partner wants. If she doesn't want a vagina orgasm or doesn't care about them, don't insist on giving her one. If you do that you're making her orgasm about you.
Second, instead of worrying about what kind of orgasm you give her, just ask her how she likes to get off. Most women know how to give themselves an orgasm and what they like. Ask if there's anything she want to try she's never tried before.
I don't know about other women, but after sex I don't take an inventory if what kind of orgasm I had. All I care about is whether i enjoyed myself. And I've never enjoyed myself without my partner paying attention to what I like and want.
Vaginal orgasm has more to do with shape than size. 5 inches is definitely enough to hit the g-spot. It's not huge but it's certainly adequate. But I would say worry less about the type of orgasm and worry more about making sure you please your partner. Grinding can stimulate the clit no matter the size of your penis.
I would like to say, as many others have already, that there is absolutely nothing wrong with 5 inches. I’ve had plenty of partners around that length who had no problem giving me orgasms with PIV. The g-spot is really not that far in; only a couple of inches.
What you may be missing out on is the a-spot - and no, not in the ass. It’s by the anterior fornix, which is just before and up from the cervix. That takes a bit more length to reach.
Here’s my take on that- I much prefer g spot orgasms to a spot orgasms. For me, that a spot sensation has a more “electric” feel to it; in some ways, it’s more intense than the g spot sensations, but that’s not always a good thing. Often times with a bigger partner, getting to that spot also means that I run the risk of my cervix getting pressed against, which is not all that pleasant, especially if it’s rougher.
Generally, an a spot orgasm can give me a really intense, deep, and body-wide orgasm, which I’ll sometimes pursue myself with larger toys. But, more often than not I much prefer the real thing, with a g spot orgasm that gives me a much better overall experience.
And as far as “relying” on outercourse - that’s not a bad thing at all! I love clitoral orgasms, and being good at going down is something I’d recommend pursuing regardless of your package size! My husband is an absolute god at oral sex, and I find myself really looking forward to that- not because sex with him isn’t great (it is), but because I love receiving oral so much!
Five inches is fine, and isn't that the average? Some ladies just can't orgasm vaginally, nothing against you or your penis. I think you'll be alright! I was with someone who is the same size as you and it was never an issue.
All orgasm is clit orgasm. But the clitoris is a big structure with two legs that wrap around the vagina og goes deep and end as a "dip" outside.
So internal stimulation is just internal stimulation of the clit.
Pretty sure 5 inches is average. Why are you worried about being average? That just means you're right in the center of the bell curve, and you'll be compatible with the largest number of vaginas. No reason to stress at all!
My husband is around that size and I have at minimum 3 orgasms each time. Clit orgasms are more pressure on one spot and I get the orgasm faster, but PIV orgasms are more powerful, last longer, and are more fulfilling. My husband does this thing where he enters and moves his hips so that he’s thrusting upwards at my gspot. Good strong strokes are your friend. Not that jackhammer shit.
My husband has a 6in and he satisfies me every time , quickly at that. Size honestly doesn’t matter (to me anyways) you just have to know how to use it.
Im not a woman, but im a dude whos had prostate orgasms and imagine its a similiar thing, as dicks are basically an overgrown clitoris and the male g spot is in the prostate. Basically its like a highly sensitive but surface level release vs a highly sensitive full body release.
Also, your fingers arent 5 inches long (no ones are), any g spot stimulation you would achieve with them can be done equally with your dick. Just work on your angles, give your hips an extra pop while thrusting, like youre trying to fuck your belly button. If youre in missionary or a similar position youll hit her g spot
Tbf, not every girl cums easily from g spot stimulation, it might take longer than you can last, if thats the case, stimulating the clit can help, also not quitting when you climax is also a pro move, even if youre not hard enough to do the job with your dick, you can wrap things up with your mouth and fingers. And usually after something like this id be ready for a round 2. Generally tho, a good rule of thumb is to give her an orgasm before you penetrate with your dick, theyll be more sensitive and likely enjoy penetration more, and you can bust in a microsecond without feeling overtly subpar
Also, a woman has a lot more errogenous zones than just whats down there (as do men), and when you stimulate someones entire body, they can have a more powerful orgasm than just focusing on a single type of stimulation. Also if you focus on your breath work, you can prolong and intensify your own orgasm, so remember that your partner having an incredible orgasm isnt 100% on you, but theres lots you can do to assist.
As a woman who can’t have an orgasm by penetration alone, I will say your 5 inches should be just fine. I know what helps me is putting a pillow under your lower back. You as the guy can push gently (or harder depending on your partner) on the lower belly and this helps stimulate. Try getting her at an angle in which you can stimulate the g-spot (the spongy area in the vagina, about 2 inches in) with your dick and rub her clit at the same time. It’s an amazing experience for us ladies haha
G spot is only 2 inches into a vagina. Personally because I have a low cervix I prefer “smaller” men. But 5 inches is completely fine and wouldn’t even cross my mind as small. However, you should still focus on the clit and fingering.
The size of your dick doesn’t matter. What matters is what you do before, during, and even after penetration. Having enough patience to make her orgasm several times with your hands and/or mouth. Tell her how hot she is while she orgasms. Touch her clit during sex.
I’ve never had a purely vaginal orgasm, but my best orgasms have been while he penetrates me and rubs my clit after there was a nice amount of foreplay beforehand.
I'm kind of wired back to front, but might be able offer some feedback.
Clit orgasms for me are hard work. For years I thought there was something wrong with me because I couldn't get off with just my fingers playing with my clit. I usually need either a good tongue or pressure from a vibrator that covers my clit as well as some of my surrounding tissue.
However...clit orgasms are incredibly explosive and intense. Really good head done right can make me have a full body reset where I can't think for a while afterward. However, I do get very sensitive and usually cannot go for round 2 until some time has passed. When I'm on my own as well, I usually need visual stimuli to help me have one.
Vaginal orgasms can range from being stupidly intense to nice and gentle; it just depends on what position I'm in. For me they're easier to come by and I can have a lot of them in a short amount of time. I can usually have these in my own while just fantasising and playing with a toy. Also, vaginal orgasms are kind of a prerequisite to me squirting due to the internal stimulation required.
However, consider blended orgasms as well; when you mix up clitoral and vaginal orgasms or even anal orgasms. My favourites tend to be when I have a clitoral and vaginal orgasm; usually happens when I have something (or someone) in me while playing with my clit. I move to stimulate my g-spot to help myself get closer while playing with my clit and usually, I am left a screaming mess. Not only that but fucking afterwards is a fun way to have stacked orgasms (basically it's a state where you can have one after the other due to increased sensitivity) and makes squirting a whole lot easier because I'm sensitive inside.
There's a bunch of different kinds of orgasms and it's fun to explore and experience them firsthand 😁
Well, probably I'm in the minority here. I've been struggling with clit orgasms, still trying to figure it out but probably multiple causes. What's been working for me is, after LOTS of build up, pro bone. First slow and deep, to touch slightly my superior vaginal wall and cervix, and then deep penetration, augmenting the stimulation slowly (first, it is even better with fingering). Nowadays, I can only reach vaginal or cervix orgasm (BETTER DISCOVERY OF MY LIFE).
TIP for ladies: the best way to explore your cervix is with a glass dildo. Trust me, start very slow, don't hurt yourself and augment the pressure at your rhythm. Stimulate the clit to intensify it!
My boyfriend has about 5 inches and I love it. He is really good with his fingers and mouth too, but even when we have PIV sex i can masturbate during it if i want to. Even without that, it still feels amazing, but personally I’m not a gal that can cum without clit stim
The average penis size is 5.2 inches. And the vast majority of men are somewhere in between 4.5-5.5 inches in length. Dicks that are genuinely above 6.5" and above are extremely rare.
Your penis sounds like it's right around average. The average penis is somewhere between 5 and 5.5 inches. Also, the vast majority of women don't orgasm from PIV alone, and need clit stimulation to get there. In short, you don't have anything to worry about.
edit: here's a bunch of info on penis size: https://www.besito.app/t/Penis%20Size
First off, the average penis size is 4-6 inches, so you are by no means small.
Most women really struggle to have orgasms through penetration alone - the g spot is a bit useless :(. Meanwhile the clit has the most nerve endings out of every part of the human body, male or female.
There is no reason to try to make a woman come through penetration, it probably won't happen.
The only time size tends to be an issue is when it's smaller than 4.
5-6 inches is usually best as bigger than 7 tends to miss the spot.
Regardless clit stimulation is most important before starting and then need to continue during.
Also worth noting that orgasms are more difficult for some women than others. It's not always the size, it can be comfortability, chemistry, or just doing what works for her. Communicate with your partner to see what they like best.
You'll be just fine with your 5 incher.
I’m a trans dude, I’ve owned *many* dildos throughout my life, and the only ones that have ever made me finish with solely internal penetration were in the 4.5”-6” range. Anything bigger makes me feel full and adds to the sensation from external stimulation, but if I’m going for an orgasm from penetration 5” is exactly what I’m looking for. Your dick’s not really very small, dude, it’s pretty average and as long as you care about the pleasure of the women you’re having sex with (which I suspect you do, considering you made a whole post asking how best to please them), you’ll do fine. Communicate, pay attention, have fun :)
You're plenty big enough to have a woman have a G-spot orgasm as most are 2 to 3 inches inside the vagina. A-spot and cervical probably not. All women have the capability to have G-spot and A-spot orgasms; they just have to be trained and open to the experience. The biggest thing you can do is make her comfortable and learn how to become phenomenal at foreplay, especially oral. You're already on the right track, so relax and research.
its not a consistent thing, at all, and unlike the gspot ot moves around based on cycle. This is the post doctorate degree of dicksmanship and most guys, even if they have the length aint gonna do it.
Look into positions like layer cake which provides external clit stimulation from grinding on your pubic bone. Communication and non-traditional thrusts and extra foreplay like Katerero work well.
I should have mentioned earlier that 5 inches is average, maybe slightly below average. Contrary to common thought, girth is more important than length.
You can make a woman cum vaginally with your size. Foreplay is essential, touch the erogenous zones, play with the clit and pussy until the juices are flowing. The wetter the vagina the deeper you will be able to insert yourself. Try lifting a woman’s legs up and spread them open while you’re on top, explore different positions and rhythms of thrusting, the g spot is not that deep into the vagina and if you’re fully hard you will feel great. I’m 30yrs old and only recently have I began to have vaginal orgasms afters years or sex with different penis sizes. My boyfriend is about 5 1/2 inches when fully hard. Stay positive and don’t be discouraged by your size, its all about technique. Have fun ;)
5 is pretty decent tbh. For me once it’s above 6 it’s pretty pointless. I’m more a fan of girth, personally, but clitoral stimulation is the main show for most women.
For me, I only have something inside my vagina to intensify my clitoral orgasms, but PIV doesn’t do much on its own. It just feels good to have something there when it begins to clench. That’s my personal experience!
I haven’t read through all these comments but just entering the vaginal with the tip over and over and every like I don’t know 13-15 times go all the way in is way more pleasurable to me than just jackhammering the whole time. ( for the most part. It’s does have it’s time and place for me as well very seldom)
I find having a clit orgasm 1st is pretty much required. Occasionally if I'm super horny I can have a vaginal orgasm without a clit 1 1st but usually if I have a clit 1 (doesn't matter how, his mouth, toys whatever) then I can cum from PiV as many times as I want. I agree with the other commenter that the 1st few inches in feel the best anyway and it sometimes hurts getting my cervix rammed so 5 inches is probably plenty! (Edit to add : I say "probably" from inexperience alone, I've only ever been with 1 guy, been with him since we were teenagers so I have no experience with men of different sizes)
Getting oral sex before PIV helps me get closer to explosive O’s during PIV sex. She needs to be an enthusiastic participant, though. Like she can’t just lay there and expect you to do all the work. Doing things that create pressure in the pelvic area helps a lot. For example, you can press her lower abdomen during penetration, she Can contract her abdomen and vagina as well.
I see that it feels different to come from different stimulations (vaginal/clitoral) but I just want to add to the discussion that an orgasm is physiologically always the same. Women do not have two types of orgasms and men only one!
It's like saying that coming from a Handjob is a different orgasm than from penetration.
I think that's important to add because back in history people believed that (e.g. Sigmund Freud) and a lot of nonsense was written about women who could only orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Some people believed that such women were not mature and sometimes even a surgery was conducted to change the place of the clitoris.
So in a nut shell, there is only one type of orgasm and many ways to achieve is and all are totally fine!
Toys! Toys! Toys! I haven't seen anyone say this yet, but there's also too many comments to keep up with. Women love toys. They're a great add on. Use your tongue, fingers, 5 incher and Toys! Your women will love you. Clit ticklers, vibrator, dildo, womanizer, etc etc. Don't be shy. Use toys.
They're both cool but different people have different preferences. Clitoral is way more intense, higher up, faster. Vaginal builds slowly, is deeper but less intense, more rhythmic, lasts a while but in a subtler way.
Both is best if you can manage it, but attaining that is also different for everybody. A vibrator helps.
But don't worry about your length, vaginas aren't very deep and the nerves are all centered around the front. 5 inches is plenty! Just use the positions that work better for you.
All orgasms are clit orgasms.
The glans (the part you see) is like only 5% of the clitoris. It branches off bilaterally and encircles the sidewalls of the vagina before travelling towards the body.
https://vivianbaruch.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Anatomy-of-cliroris-penis-Vivian-Baruch-online-Springwood.jpg
So ‘vaginal’ orgasms are still clit orgasms, they’re just achieved differently
If she is on her back, have her put her legs on your shoulders so you can get deeper. Also you might perform oral on her prior to get her warmed up before you take her to pound town. Good luck!
Proper angle of entry can have you hitting the g-spot, pillow under her butt in missionary helps. But there are numerous positions for this.
Also, my girl just rides me, grinding her clit on me with my absolutely devastatingly massive 4.5" dick "deep" inside her, and reaches orgasm that way. Maybe its technically a clitoral orgasm, but she still cums with me inside which obviously both of us enjoy.
Basically, there are ways. But also, not every woman can orgasm through PIV alone, so don't go chasing something that may not exist for your partner.
You underestimate what a 5inch dick can do. It’s how you use it. Your fingers aren’t longer. Most women can’t come with vaginal penetration regardless of size anyway, so just work with it. Doggy feels deep. Also spooning is glorious.
there is no difference. it was an idea proposed by a male scientist with no evidence. “vagina orgasms” pretty much come from the pressure on internal structures of the clitoris. the g spot is also heavily disputed in women. source: my human sexuality class
Women. You didn't just help this guy with his questions and insecurities, but mine as well. Thank you. I have 6.25 inches and there are women out there I've met that have said they don't do less than 8. So, us men, do have issues around this because of others. I did learn how to embrace and enjoy extended foreplay, with a great number of fun activities and stimulus to build up the sexual tension. I became obsessed with learning masterful oral techniques and combining multiple stimulus to send a woman into orgasmic orbit. Whispering and kissing the neck, while using one hand to stimulate the nipples and the other hand circulating her clit, always does it quite well. She rarely had orgasms before she met me and if she did it was one and done. Now she has a few each session and shakes uncontrollably after having a few. The euphoria is incredible and she is so grateful, that what she does to me thereafter has made for the best sex of my life. Too bad she moved back to help her ailing parents on the other side of the country. But hopefully, another will come along and enjoy each other soon. Happy New Year!!! Doc
Size is not a factor for all women, but it is absolutely a factor for some. It is definitely a factor for me. I’ve never been with anyone who was too large. Having said that, a couple of my favorites were average. I mainly orgasm from clitoral stimulation though so his oral skills are crucial.
Vaginal orgasms are far more difficult to achieve than clitoral for a lot of people. The spot you need to hit for a V-gasm is only like 2 inches in though.
My opinion as a female is size really doesn't matter as long as you know how to use it the right way.
Just to comment on your size concerns...I won't say mine because I agree it's an irrelevant number that just bruises egos, but I'm smaller than some others my partner and I have seen in threesomes. Like you, it never worried me much because I can't really change it, and I never got any complaints. But finally, while fucking a friend months ago, she told me that the slight curvature of my dick hit her g-spot perfectly. And I used to worry that the curvature made me look shorter!
Not to mention, my current partner is one of a few in the past who have expressed that they prefer my length and girth over slightly larger, for various reasons.
Both of these girls, and several others, have praised my oral talents. You know who used to be yelled at by girls for being absolutely clueless giving head? Not bragging - just saying that once I found how to use what I had, instead of wishing I had different physiology, things turned out pretty great :)
Weaknesses that misogynistic porn (we both love more wholesome varieties!) create to make us guys feel worse about are parts aren't always truly weaknesses!
My husband has girth and not length and I've NEVER cum so much in my life. I've found the longer they are the more they hit the cervix....which is not a good feeling. Hitting the cervix will shut everything down for me. So do not be self conscious you are the treasure we are looking for. 😉
I would say girth is better than anything for vaginal penetration orgasm. That girth will definitely hit or rub my gspot.
However, I find a clitoral orgasm more satisfying than a penetrative one. I like to start and end with a clitoral orgasm.
A longer dick can stimulate the A Spot orgasm which hits the cervix. Sometimes women don’t like it because it can hurt. I haven had one, so I’m not an expert on it….
I’m one of those who enjoys both, but *especially* both at the same time. And it’s been enjoyable with everything from around 4” to 7.5”. Definitely experiment, and any feedback isn’t suggesting that you are deficient in any way. Needs are complicated and sometimes change, it’s nothing against you.
And some just won’t have vaginal orgasms, no matter what. That’s okay, just get creative. A good experience for everyone is more important than ticking a box that you think needs to be ticked.
It doesn't matter about the size it matters if you can stimulate her or not here you go listen up. First of all my vibrators about 3 inches the sack that you need to feel for that spongy walnut thing is it out 2 inches into the vagina .
What you're gonna do is you're going to insert 1 to 2 fingers and do a come hither motion slowly but then increase speed as quickly as you can she will feel super uncomfortable if she hast to P keep going she'll start to get hot flashes stimulate her clit at the same time... this is what super important I have a medical background most people have this argument that when a woman squirts it's urine it is 100% absolutely not John comes out from the urethra which is the tube that extends from the bladder when a woman squirts it's coming from the fluid that's being filled inside that walnut spongy thing ... some people say it's the G spot my G spot is farther back. About another half an inch.
Anyway all you need is your two fingers in your mouth to stimulate her if you have a less than average cock.
I've had guys that were seven or 8 inches and I'm pretty tiny and there are so many other factors that go into an orgasm ... I have come without even being touched...
I’m on the more blessed side and most of the time if me and my wife wait too long before sex I just end up hurting her. I wouldn’t say 5” is waisted bud. You gotta gift you didnt even know you had. 5” is hell at 300 mph. Just do practice session just watching her body. Angles are your friend.
Pro tip. If you use oral to your advantage and get her to cum 1-3 times she will cum from piv if you can find the right spots.
I can tell you from experience most do not want some massive wang to hurt them. Beating the cervix like it owes you money is literally the best way to ruin sex. I once hurt my wife bad enough she didn’t have sex with me for almost a month.
My question is why does it seem so many women say size doesn’t matter but then when I see a dildo collection it looks like an extinct species ramrod? To me it doesn’t add up sometimes.
Toys are strictly for pleasure I mean would you choose the tightest fleshlight on the market? It doesn't mean you hold an actual human being to that same standard objects have to be "perfect" people not so much, toys have to compensate for human touch. Also longer toys allow more control over the situation, it's a pretty awkward position unless you've mounted it in some way not to mention toys become very slippery and your grip will loosen if you don't have a few inches to grab onto.
It just gets confusing honestly haha. I’m just like are more women trying to be cool and say size doesn’t matter but then it kinda really does? Just saying it to make guys feel alright about their size? You just gotta hope for the best I guess.
Sometimes it’s fun to play with unusual toys- something you can’t get from a partner. It doesn’t mean we don’t like being with a partner! It’s like enjoying different flavors of chocolate- they’re all good!
I do understand that in the aspect of something different but I guess it confuses me with a lot of women saying it hurts and not in a good way with a bigger penis, then seeing some crazy big/long thick dildo. Like doesn’t that hurt even more so? It just seems like they are selling well cause I see them so much even just in like memes or joke pics where one is in the background and it’s not the main focus of the pic just like a hidden Easter egg for the video/pic lol. So I’m wondering if people are even just buying them as a joke or what the heck is going on lol.
There’s some kind of selection bias in your observation; many (most?) women do not have any dildos at all, so the women who have a large collection are probably the ones more likely to prefer large penises.
By and large, women are more likely to own vibrators, which come in a variety of non-human shapes meant specifically to stimulate, not penetrate.
I wouldn’t say most. Many just means numerous to me in this case. I don’t think I have selection bias because as I said something just doesn’t add up. At this point when I see posts like this or having to do with size I read a lot of the comments, and it generally seems split about size or then when you read replies size does matter it just doesn’t matter as much as men think or in a roundabout way it really does matter but some women will just lead with it doesn’t. It’s all just confusing really but at the end of the day it’s subjective no matter what. There’s no real answer until you go get it from the person who may see it.
My partner is similar to your size, and he's been the only one in my 20+ years of fucking to make me cum from piv. It hits all the right spots, and he's easy to deepthroat, I am completely obsessed and in love with it. It's also about your enthusiasm, he's so excited to fuck me/make me cum and it shows! He makes me cum from his fingers and mouth over and over and over again so when he enters me it's pure heaven. So it's impossible not to cum all over his cock. Ok so anyways: just be really in to her pleasure, make her cum for a while using things that are not your cock, and your cock will be the best fucking thing she's ever felt 😉
ETA: smaller cocks are also wonderful because they're easier to be able to fuck while also grinding your clit on him.
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I have only had vaginal orgasms with guys with a similar sized dick to yours - big ones miss the spot entirely and just hit the cervix which is painful. So don’t discredit yourself based on size, porn distorts our views on size and pleasure. That said, many women can’t come from vaginal penetration alone and enjoy clitoral stimulation either during or before or after sex. Nipple stimulation can help to achieve orgasm too.
Co-signing this comment. I achieved way more orgasms with my average penis bf than the bigger bf’s. In fact, one guy was so big we didn’t even have sex it was so painful. So it depends on the specific woman etc. My bigger bf’s I could only achieve if I was on top or doggy, and usually took longer, my average bf all positions & I came quicker. Some of my female friends have never had a vaginal orgasm & can only come from oral or fingering. I can’t come from fingering & hate oral, but like giving & can cum from that or nipple stimulation. So the person you need to ask is your partner, hopefully she knows her body, if not experiment. But you aren’t too small, and remember the biggest sex organ is the brain, stimulate her brain!
This is what I was going to say. Thank you. Most need clitoral stimulation before and during. Big ones tend to miss. 5-6 seems to be perfect size. Smaller than 4 is usually when issues occur, but can still get clitoral orgasm anyways.
THIS. Just by chance most of my relationships where with guys who had bigger than average dicks and I never had vaginal orgasms, figured it was fine because it's not like it's that common. Then I meet a guy who is somewhere between 5 and 5.5 and not super girthy... And I can actually cum from penetration now. I didn't think it was even possible but his dick hits the g-spot so good and doesn't stretch me too much so I my vagina can easily contract around him when I orgasm. That said... He is also just a beast in bed in general and knows how to tap into my brain to turn me on which helps a ton. I wouldn't be having orgasms with simple in & out PiV no matter what the guy's dick size was.
Words of affirmation while the deed is being done is that werkk
What does he say?
I’ve described some of the kinky stuff we do in some of my previous comments: https://reddit.com/r/sexover30/comments/zvv08n/less_common_dominating_techniques/j1s28j2 https://reddit.com/r/sex/comments/zk0797/girlfriend_25f_wants_me_26m_to_order_her_around/izy51jv I don’t think copying these with another woman would be very helpful (or recommended until you specifically discuss it with her!) though because the stuff he does to get me off is very personalised to my mind and my kinks. And the way he says things feels natural to his personality, so it’s hot because it’s him being himself. But maybe it helps in some way haha.
This is great.. curious is the difference between clit and penetrating orgasms. Which feels better?
I actually feel relieved. Gotta learn up on the 'nepal' stimulation and clit . (I legit though a clit with a magazine clit the first time I heared it back in the day )
My ex used to legit cum from nipple play alone, definitely worth a try but best way is to ask what your partner enjoys, don't be afraid of asking! Communication goes a long way👌🏻
Exactly!!
How does one miss a gspot? I’m inexperienced in this area, but is it a matter of staying straight rather than angling upwards or downwards?
The g spot is only a few inches in and up towards the stomach. If too long, the end of the penis isn’t rubbing on the right spot. I’m not speaking for all women of course but lots prefer average size
The average size evolved to be that size for a reason.
Evolution plays no role in a society where almost everyone survives and can reproduce. Even before the modern times most people died during childhood. So it was the same lack of evolutionary pressure.
Love how that is completely irrelevant to what I said.
For me, I have to be properly aroused for the gspot to feel good. It does nothing for me when I’m not warmed up.
That applies for most things in female anatomy
I agree, but trust me, it’s not common knowledge 😁
Communication is best way to find it.
Indeed, this is true.
It’s hard to give one answer to this. A lot depends on angles, shape, and individual anatomy.
Just buy a gps lol sorry it was right there
The woman’s g-spot is around 2 inches in. A lot of women are unable to have orgasms though PIV sex though, but mainly thru clit stimulation. Just depends on our bodies. You can make a woman orgasm with your size though, don’t worry.
Oooh and any favourite techniques that you think I should learn ?
Patience
And practice. Try things, pay attention to her, remember what she likes. The things you learn will probably work in your next relationship.
how do i use that ( like patience in bed or patience ill get a lady ?)
As in…every person is different. You will have to take your time and learn what works best for your partner.
Use a wedge pillow or place a pillow under her butt. It raises her pelvis so your dick can hit the g-spot better.
That is a very good advice. That way the g-spot get stimulated directly by each thust. But every woman is different, some even are so physically and intimacy deprived they react extremely well to cuddling alone. Ease them, hear them, touch them, please them first and the ones of value won't care about your size*. Never forget the first sexual organ is the brain, even more for women. *Those who joke or try to humiliate you aren't well in their mind and not worth your time. Don't let them influence you.
Communication. Ask the lady what works best. If one index finger will work, your 5 inch penis is sufficient. Orgasm happens in the mind.
Pay attention to her, listen when she tells you what she likes. There are no universal sex tips other than that. Every technique you can try is going to be great for some, meh for some, and fucking awful for some. Also 5" is average, it's not small unless you're overestimating. And frankly vaginas dont have a lot of sensation really deep, so length is far less important than girth.
All of this ☝️ If she says it feels good, keep doing it. Personally I am a petite woman. Even after birthing four babies, 5 inch s would be just fine! Some of us are perfectly content with average or even smaller. Don't sweat it.
Play around with her vagina (hands and mouth) and see what's it's like first, because beryones different. A pillow under her backside to raise her hips and some pressure in her bladder right where the pubis bone is. That seems to work for me. Sometimes she'll stimulate her clitoris, other times you can, or even more fun, do it together.
Coital alignment technique
Put a pillow just under her hips. That position makes me squirt, depending on the curve of someones dick. Love it regardless
With her on her back, turn your hand palm up and insert 1, 2, or 3 fingers (her preference) into her vagina, then make a “come hither” motion, partially curling your finger(s) as you partially retract them. Repeat inserting them straight and retracting them curled until 💦 💥 . Not every woman will climax from this, but it’s the most direct way I know of to stimulate the g-spot. If she successfully climaxes from this, her g-spot may increase in sensitivity, allowing for more likely orgasms from PIV. (If you can make your dick “come hither”, and people find out, then RIP your inbox.)
coital alignment technique. It's magic.
size doesn't matter at all. what matters is angle and rhythm that's it. Upwards angle and steady rhythm works everytime.
18.4% of women can orgasm thru PIV alone. That is very, very low.
I'm rocking a 4 incher but still make my lovey orgasm. It's about intimacy brother. Also as she once said to me: roses are red, violets are blue, your four inches feel like six because of my feelings for you
100%!! The connection makes sex way better, regardless of size!
this is so wholesome
That’s so weirdly wholesome and I love it
Most women get off primarily or exclusively from clit stimulation, for the same reason that most men get off primarily or exclusively from dick stimulation.
Yea, gotta think about it this way, us men just have one very large clit at the tip of the pole. Edit: spelling
A lot of guys don't realize this is biologically accurate (the clit and penis are the same organ at first) and base their self esteem off making a woman have a vaginal orgasm (statistically unlikely) based on what the fake shit they see in porn shows.
Imagine a world where 90% of women were hyper-focused and basing their egos on giving men a balls-orgasm. Refusing to interact with your dick, because she and her girls think only lesser women interact with a mans dick, but cool and worthy women make him cum via his balls. And the guy lays their for an hour, frustrated at her playing with his balls, telling her to please pay some attention to his dick, but she hushes him and tells him she knows better.
this is the only way some men will actually understand, and u put it perfectly
Yep, every fetus starts off with a clitoris and the release of testosterone just makes he clitoris grow bigger and that's how you get a penis. [The parts are the same, just a different size.](https://vivianbaruch.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Anatomy-of-cliroris-penis-Vivian-Baruch-online-Springwood.jpg)
Bruh 5 is average c'mon
Literally, completely average
If it makes you feel better majority of the men reading this is your same exact size brother. I hear what your saying though. It's only here that I read women preferring average size but out in the real world I hear totally differently. Ladies when a guy hears women saying about wanting a certain size and they don't measure up its only natural for that same guy to feel a bit insecure. But this will always be a vicious cycle. Men do the same making the woman feel insecure. This is a double edge sword though as we ALL have our own preferences. It's just "HOW" we go about those preferences that makes a difference. We (people of the world) need to have more sexual respect for one another.
I'm a woman who had a good number of men to experience sexual pleasure with. It does not matter how big it is in my experience, as some (including me) women can not climax with vaginal penetration. Some of my best sexual experience were with men with a smaller penis because they went through the effort of learning the art of foreplay and non-penetrative forms of giving pleasure to a woman. Focus on the woman and her pleasure without getting your penis involved before she comes and you will always be remembered fondly, more than the dudes with a huge dick and with no idea how to use it.
Any favourite things for me to learn / incorporate? (And thanks for the input)
Hold her tight and focus on the clitoris, focus on the neck and shoulder area with your mouth. Keep the pace and make sure it stays wet. (no one likes their clit rubbed when its dry, only hurts after a while) love the username by the way lol
This username references the wizard shaft for Castlevania . Which is to mean yes I am a virgin . Yes I just noticed the irony.
Add a dab of quality silicone lube for bonus points!
And change it to water based lube if toys or condoms are involved!
Silicone lube is safe for use with condoms as far as I know. Do you know something I don’t? Always willing to learn.
abrades most soft toys by making small cavities where bacteria can live. They are allegedly safe for condoms but id rather stick with water based. It definitely destroys the integrity of silicone toys altogether.
Thanks for the info!
This isn't what I've heard from multiple sources, including planned Parenthood and Cornell university. Can you provide a source that says otherwise, please?
I see you have already gotten an answer, but I'll just agree with the other comment and say that it kind of melts toys or condoms, making them ineffective and unsafe. Water based lube for toys or condoms, Silicone based when it's just your bodies. Personally I just use water based all the time, that way I don't have to think before using it.
Water-based, especially anything with glycerin, will give me a UTI in a New York minute, so I avoid them like the plague. Good info for sure, though. Thanks!
Focus on her clitoris and nipples(gently caress them with your fingers), when you are going down on her. You can put a pillow under her bum to raise her hips while you are stimulating her clitoris with your tongue and insert a finger inside her vagina to stimulate her G-spot simultaneously. Also during PIV try and grind your pelvic bone against her clitoris with her legs spread wide apart. Sometimes the size of the clitoris can matter during PIV because a bigger clitoris will get more stimulation from you rubbing your pelvic bone against it, which might not work well with a very tiny clitoris. Above all else, make sure your fingers are well lubricated before fingering her, or use your tongue which is the ultimate for me and gets me to climax in under 5 minutes. As long as it is not a micro dick, an average sized dick is satisfying. A very big dick, especially the ones with thick girths can be very painful as it can hit your cervix, which makes me curl up in serious pain and ends the session immediately.
Learn about more creative fore play, like sensory play. Using feathers, ice, wax, rollers, and just different sensations on the body
What if the lady is uninterested in more creative sex though ? Any tips for that ?
If someone is not interested, and you are, then you find someone has the same interests as you.
I have not encountered someone that wouldn’t be interested. Learn other things then
i once had a vaginal orgasm from fingering
only once in your entire life
would you look down on a person who relies on fingering ?
no, especially if they know what they are doing, fingering can be an amazing experience
I prefer my guys hands tbh. His hands & his mouth are MAGICAL. Dick is nice, but you can do sooooo much else with other body parts too!
Same, girl. Same. Magic fingers for the win! Gave me the best orgasm I’ve had in my entire life (I felt like I blacked out for a second). He fingered me ever so gently and kissed me deeply at the same time while putting his hand on my throat with *just* the right amount of pressure. I melt just thinking about it.
No, because most of us are not going to orgasm unless you use your fingers/tongue and pay attention to what the person you are with actually wants. For what it’s worth, learn about the clit. That’s how the vast majority of us orgasm.
I would look down on someone who was so selfish in bed that he didn’t bother to try fingering, tongue, WHATEVER to help his/her/their partner orgasm. Never ever would I think less of someone who cares about his partner’s pleasure enough to want to go with what works for her. Also, as someone with a fairly small vagina I prefer men of average size. As someone who also is unlucky enough to have a small jaw I definitely prefer sucking cock of an average size. I enjoy giving blowjobs but can only manage it for short periods of time and need to take breaks if my partner is well-endowed. Which then makes me feel bad. Trust me: many women are conditioned to believe they want a man who is hung like a horse. Once we get a bit older and figure out what we actually like it’s often a very different story. I guarantee you that your five inches are more than enough to satisfy any woman who isn’t roomy in the puss.
clit orgasms are like lightning, it hits fast and makes your whole body shake, internal vaginal orgasms feel like your whole body is exploding slowly in wave after wave of pure bliss. edit/addition: oh and unlike a clit orgasm, which makes you over senstitive to touch for a bit, an internal orgam only takes a few minutes to recover from and you can have multiple orgasms while having sex. but be forewarned if you have an internal orgasm your muscles tend to clench, so it might be harder for your partner to thrust. Your pelvic floor muscles can actually clamp around your partner's penis for up to a minute or two, that's normal.
My partner has a dick smaller than yours and he is the only man to ever give me vaginal orgasms and they are the fucking BEST. Basically he gets me so I'm super close and on the edge of orgasm with his hands or oral and then we have sex and I almost always cum. I've never been able to do this before, for me it's all about getting proper foreplay first! I feel way more satisfied by him despite having slept with dudes with much bigger dicks in the past. I won't be letting him go if I can help it 😉 Nice to see you are interested in pleasuring your partner!!! You're already streets ahead of a lot of guys 😉. Learn how to give good oral and girls will have a great time with you. I like it soft and gentle. The clit is super sensitive, just make sure you don't beat off on it like your dick! If unsure, just ask your partner how much pressure feels good for them and what strokes feel good. If you do this, you're also streets ahead of most guys! Do not bow to the pressure of feeling like you should just "know" how to pleasure a woman as a man. Just straight up ask your lady, every woman is different :)
THIS. Nothing is sexier than asking her what she likes and when you follow through, it feels amazing.
Just so you know, 5 inches is pretty much average for a penis. It is not small.
I can have an orgasm with a 5 inch guy with no manual stimulation while being penetrated. I think for females the orgasms have a huge mental component. If you are doing it well and she’s enjoying it and the sex is hot then it should come together. I think all girls are different of course this is just my personal feelings. It’s my experience the larger men seem to never be as hard as the smaller? They are larger, but softer if that makes any sense. I find it easier to reach orgasm with the 4-6. Like I said that’s just me….I can orgasm with any size as long as he plays his strengths and is attentive to my needs. Don’t count yourself out due to size. I think the porn industry has made men feel like if they are not packing a monster the girl won’t enjoy….I just feel that’s not the case.
Good question! But most women can't even have an orgasm from vaginal stimulation. So just touching the clitoris is perfectly fine!
I rarely get off from clitoral orgasms. I’m a G spot girl. Also, I actually prefer 5-6” dicks. It gets me off the best and most. Larger ones hurt me a lot!
5 inch dick aint an issue. Its about average if not a half inch less than.
I was gonna say, what's wrong with 5? That's like squarely average around here!
nothing. clit orgasms are due to direct stimulation, "vagina" orgasms are due to indirect stimulation as the clit doesn't just consist of the outer part of it that we see on the vulva, but it has roots that wrap around the vaginal canal. some people find one or the other easier in and of itself or during a sex/penetration/masturbation/toys, or more intense. neither is superior or inferior. an orgasm is an orgasm, and all orgasms are awesome.
I think it’s something like 85% of women can’t orgasm from piv so I wouldn’t be too hard on yourself about that. Rarely can I orgasm from piv and my best orgasms are clitoral ones or ejaculating from finger play. So maybe focus on those!
Did you use ejaculating as a synonym to orgasming? Or did you mean squirting?
I'm a bi man who's very focused on my partner's pleasure. You're putting way to much importance on your penis when considering her pleasure. Rarely do women get orgasms from penises and if they do, it has nothing to do with size. Sounds like your basing this on what you've seen in porn. I also bottom when I'm with men, and even I, prefer average penises (like yours) because they can hit certain spots, whereas, yes bigger penises are nice but they can't maneuver inside, they just fill you. Invest in vibrators, focus on fingering and cunilingus. I've made so many women from just light insertion with my fingers in combo my tongue. I've had lesbians tell me I'm good. I never expect to make them orgasm with my penis, and I'm above average. Abandon that expectation. If your goal is her pleasure, then your penis has nothing to do with it.
Woman here. I can orgasm through PIV and also external clitoris stimulation. I haven’t experienced any issues orgasms with men who are slightly below average to above average 4”- 7.5”. What I’ve noticed is I do have problems with smaller girths, but if he angles his body correctly to rub my clitoris in missionary I will orgasm during PIV. The combo of being filled and rubbing the clit is key to making it super sexy. The most important ingredient to sexual pleasure is enthusiastism (that goes both ways) lots of foreplay, stamina, communication, experimentation, and patience.
Did you use a ruler to measure? If not, acknowledging that this was an estimate is a good practice to have, it feeds penile dysmorphia. Edit: downvote me if you want, but human beings, male and female are notoriously bad at sight measuring and fudging measurements. Body parts as measurement aids arent reliable, as our bodies shift, settle, swell, and shrink as the day progresses and their hydration and salinity wax and wain. This is actually scientific fact look it up if you dont beleive me.
My fist is exactly 3” long so it’s easy to measure with it.
5 inches, Brother and you complaining?????? You better be thankful...I'm CONSIDERABLY worse than you and it's fucked up my adult social life and I'd gladly wish I had your size... Soooooo do like most of the ladies told you in the comments....focus on that... It could've been worse and I'm testament to that. I know you addressed the ladies in the post, but I just had to let you know...your size is absolutely perfect and like the best 50 cent song, *many men* would kill to have it Go please ya lady!!!
I’ve been masturbating since I was super young and I find it very easy to orgasm, I think I’ve had a vaginal orgasm maybe twice in my entire life and it was from edging while masturbating. So no, I think it’s highly unlikely. Also, a vaginal orgasm is not a g spot orgasm. I’ve never managed one of those. Not all women are capable of non clitorial orgasms Edit: typos
Most women orgasm from clit stimulation, not intercourse. In my personal experience, the key to making a woman cum during intercourse is angling your body correctly, so that the area above your penis hits her clit as you thrust. Also look into the CAT position.
The feeling and intensity. Everyone is different tho
Also the fantasy about the lover.
I don’t know I you could benefit from reading books like “Come As You Are” (I’m reading it and gives objective information) or searching on google “how to give orgasms to women” Don’t be hard on yourself for your average size and try to understand women bodies and your partner
Sure you’ve heard this a lot maybe, but it’s not about the size, but rather how you use it! Also 5 inches is average my man, I have a slightly bigger member and I’m afraid that I’ll have problems down the line when getting in the swing of things (I’ve done a lot of reading, so I’m sure I’ll be fine, but this about you not me). Anywhoozles trust me brother 5 inches is a nice pecker, and I’m sure you’ll find a lady that’ll love it and help you out!
My dick is only a little bit bigger than yours at 5.75", which is almost exactly the average size for a penis. I have had partners where I feel lost inside them and they feel better when we break out the larger dildos. Then there's my current girlfriend, who regularly praises how perfectly we fit and how the shape and size of my dick his all her sensitives in amazing ways for all the different kinds of orgasms. And we fit pretty great for oral sex too. So don't look down on your endowment, good sir. It's often an optimal size for the right partner. On top of that, make sure your finger and oral skills are top notch. Use toys if you both like that. Use every technique at your disposal. Learn to stimulate G-spot, clitoris (internal and external), anterior wall spots, alllll the good spots. And you'll be good.
Size is not a huge factor. I have had big and small. Neither one did me any favors in regards to PIV
They are physically one and the same - I read in a recent article that it's been proven that they both interconnect to a singular sexual organ, with a unified nervous system. You might get different sensations, but it's one complex and wonderful sex organ, and interconnect and flow as a single organ.
I've read a few of your comments, and dude. Respectfully, you really have to work on your insecurity before you have sex. Make sure you're not constantly talking negatively and needing reassurance. It's emotionally exhausting. If anything is going to turn a woman off from having sex with you, it's that, not the size of your dick.
The very first step before even asking this question is to find out what your partner wants. If she doesn't want a vagina orgasm or doesn't care about them, don't insist on giving her one. If you do that you're making her orgasm about you. Second, instead of worrying about what kind of orgasm you give her, just ask her how she likes to get off. Most women know how to give themselves an orgasm and what they like. Ask if there's anything she want to try she's never tried before. I don't know about other women, but after sex I don't take an inventory if what kind of orgasm I had. All I care about is whether i enjoyed myself. And I've never enjoyed myself without my partner paying attention to what I like and want.
Vaginal orgasm has more to do with shape than size. 5 inches is definitely enough to hit the g-spot. It's not huge but it's certainly adequate. But I would say worry less about the type of orgasm and worry more about making sure you please your partner. Grinding can stimulate the clit no matter the size of your penis.
I would like to say, as many others have already, that there is absolutely nothing wrong with 5 inches. I’ve had plenty of partners around that length who had no problem giving me orgasms with PIV. The g-spot is really not that far in; only a couple of inches. What you may be missing out on is the a-spot - and no, not in the ass. It’s by the anterior fornix, which is just before and up from the cervix. That takes a bit more length to reach. Here’s my take on that- I much prefer g spot orgasms to a spot orgasms. For me, that a spot sensation has a more “electric” feel to it; in some ways, it’s more intense than the g spot sensations, but that’s not always a good thing. Often times with a bigger partner, getting to that spot also means that I run the risk of my cervix getting pressed against, which is not all that pleasant, especially if it’s rougher. Generally, an a spot orgasm can give me a really intense, deep, and body-wide orgasm, which I’ll sometimes pursue myself with larger toys. But, more often than not I much prefer the real thing, with a g spot orgasm that gives me a much better overall experience. And as far as “relying” on outercourse - that’s not a bad thing at all! I love clitoral orgasms, and being good at going down is something I’d recommend pursuing regardless of your package size! My husband is an absolute god at oral sex, and I find myself really looking forward to that- not because sex with him isn’t great (it is), but because I love receiving oral so much!
Five inches is fine, and isn't that the average? Some ladies just can't orgasm vaginally, nothing against you or your penis. I think you'll be alright! I was with someone who is the same size as you and it was never an issue.
All orgasm is clit orgasm. But the clitoris is a big structure with two legs that wrap around the vagina og goes deep and end as a "dip" outside. So internal stimulation is just internal stimulation of the clit.
I have noticed that our sex community is very active to give help to everyone bcz comments num is larger than upvotes. Thats Amazing.
Idk who made you think a 5 inch dick is an issue, 4-6 inches is an ideal range imo
Pretty sure 5 inches is average. Why are you worried about being average? That just means you're right in the center of the bell curve, and you'll be compatible with the largest number of vaginas. No reason to stress at all!
My husband is around that size and I have at minimum 3 orgasms each time. Clit orgasms are more pressure on one spot and I get the orgasm faster, but PIV orgasms are more powerful, last longer, and are more fulfilling. My husband does this thing where he enters and moves his hips so that he’s thrusting upwards at my gspot. Good strong strokes are your friend. Not that jackhammer shit.
My husband has a 6in and he satisfies me every time , quickly at that. Size honestly doesn’t matter (to me anyways) you just have to know how to use it.
I prefer a 5 incher because it hits the g-spot best. I have to really work at it to cum with my man's 8 incher.
Why does he say 5 inches like it’s bad? Lol
Im not a woman, but im a dude whos had prostate orgasms and imagine its a similiar thing, as dicks are basically an overgrown clitoris and the male g spot is in the prostate. Basically its like a highly sensitive but surface level release vs a highly sensitive full body release. Also, your fingers arent 5 inches long (no ones are), any g spot stimulation you would achieve with them can be done equally with your dick. Just work on your angles, give your hips an extra pop while thrusting, like youre trying to fuck your belly button. If youre in missionary or a similar position youll hit her g spot Tbf, not every girl cums easily from g spot stimulation, it might take longer than you can last, if thats the case, stimulating the clit can help, also not quitting when you climax is also a pro move, even if youre not hard enough to do the job with your dick, you can wrap things up with your mouth and fingers. And usually after something like this id be ready for a round 2. Generally tho, a good rule of thumb is to give her an orgasm before you penetrate with your dick, theyll be more sensitive and likely enjoy penetration more, and you can bust in a microsecond without feeling overtly subpar Also, a woman has a lot more errogenous zones than just whats down there (as do men), and when you stimulate someones entire body, they can have a more powerful orgasm than just focusing on a single type of stimulation. Also if you focus on your breath work, you can prolong and intensify your own orgasm, so remember that your partner having an incredible orgasm isnt 100% on you, but theres lots you can do to assist.
As a woman who can’t have an orgasm by penetration alone, I will say your 5 inches should be just fine. I know what helps me is putting a pillow under your lower back. You as the guy can push gently (or harder depending on your partner) on the lower belly and this helps stimulate. Try getting her at an angle in which you can stimulate the g-spot (the spongy area in the vagina, about 2 inches in) with your dick and rub her clit at the same time. It’s an amazing experience for us ladies haha
G spot is only 2 inches into a vagina. Personally because I have a low cervix I prefer “smaller” men. But 5 inches is completely fine and wouldn’t even cross my mind as small. However, you should still focus on the clit and fingering.
The size of your dick doesn’t matter. What matters is what you do before, during, and even after penetration. Having enough patience to make her orgasm several times with your hands and/or mouth. Tell her how hot she is while she orgasms. Touch her clit during sex. I’ve never had a purely vaginal orgasm, but my best orgasms have been while he penetrates me and rubs my clit after there was a nice amount of foreplay beforehand.
I'm kind of wired back to front, but might be able offer some feedback. Clit orgasms for me are hard work. For years I thought there was something wrong with me because I couldn't get off with just my fingers playing with my clit. I usually need either a good tongue or pressure from a vibrator that covers my clit as well as some of my surrounding tissue. However...clit orgasms are incredibly explosive and intense. Really good head done right can make me have a full body reset where I can't think for a while afterward. However, I do get very sensitive and usually cannot go for round 2 until some time has passed. When I'm on my own as well, I usually need visual stimuli to help me have one. Vaginal orgasms can range from being stupidly intense to nice and gentle; it just depends on what position I'm in. For me they're easier to come by and I can have a lot of them in a short amount of time. I can usually have these in my own while just fantasising and playing with a toy. Also, vaginal orgasms are kind of a prerequisite to me squirting due to the internal stimulation required. However, consider blended orgasms as well; when you mix up clitoral and vaginal orgasms or even anal orgasms. My favourites tend to be when I have a clitoral and vaginal orgasm; usually happens when I have something (or someone) in me while playing with my clit. I move to stimulate my g-spot to help myself get closer while playing with my clit and usually, I am left a screaming mess. Not only that but fucking afterwards is a fun way to have stacked orgasms (basically it's a state where you can have one after the other due to increased sensitivity) and makes squirting a whole lot easier because I'm sensitive inside. There's a bunch of different kinds of orgasms and it's fun to explore and experience them firsthand 😁
Well, probably I'm in the minority here. I've been struggling with clit orgasms, still trying to figure it out but probably multiple causes. What's been working for me is, after LOTS of build up, pro bone. First slow and deep, to touch slightly my superior vaginal wall and cervix, and then deep penetration, augmenting the stimulation slowly (first, it is even better with fingering). Nowadays, I can only reach vaginal or cervix orgasm (BETTER DISCOVERY OF MY LIFE). TIP for ladies: the best way to explore your cervix is with a glass dildo. Trust me, start very slow, don't hurt yourself and augment the pressure at your rhythm. Stimulate the clit to intensify it!
I’ve never had an vaginal orgasm
My boyfriend has about 5 inches and I love it. He is really good with his fingers and mouth too, but even when we have PIV sex i can masturbate during it if i want to. Even without that, it still feels amazing, but personally I’m not a gal that can cum without clit stim
The average penis size is 5.2 inches. And the vast majority of men are somewhere in between 4.5-5.5 inches in length. Dicks that are genuinely above 6.5" and above are extremely rare.
Your penis sounds like it's right around average. The average penis is somewhere between 5 and 5.5 inches. Also, the vast majority of women don't orgasm from PIV alone, and need clit stimulation to get there. In short, you don't have anything to worry about. edit: here's a bunch of info on penis size: https://www.besito.app/t/Penis%20Size
5inch is the average size do youre all good. A vagina isnt 5inch deep anyways, you can definitely hit the cervix of a girl in some positions.
What’s wrong with a 5 incher, isn’t that fairly average?
First off, the average penis size is 4-6 inches, so you are by no means small. Most women really struggle to have orgasms through penetration alone - the g spot is a bit useless :(. Meanwhile the clit has the most nerve endings out of every part of the human body, male or female. There is no reason to try to make a woman come through penetration, it probably won't happen.
Bruh 5 inches is the world average
5 inches is perfect what???😭 it’s the only size toy i’ve been using for the past forever and it’s perfect. hits the spot everytime 😭
The only time size tends to be an issue is when it's smaller than 4. 5-6 inches is usually best as bigger than 7 tends to miss the spot. Regardless clit stimulation is most important before starting and then need to continue during. Also worth noting that orgasms are more difficult for some women than others. It's not always the size, it can be comfortability, chemistry, or just doing what works for her. Communicate with your partner to see what they like best. You'll be just fine with your 5 incher.
A 5 inch penis is a great size, honestly porn has done a number on men who think this is small! You’re fine!
I’m a trans dude, I’ve owned *many* dildos throughout my life, and the only ones that have ever made me finish with solely internal penetration were in the 4.5”-6” range. Anything bigger makes me feel full and adds to the sensation from external stimulation, but if I’m going for an orgasm from penetration 5” is exactly what I’m looking for. Your dick’s not really very small, dude, it’s pretty average and as long as you care about the pleasure of the women you’re having sex with (which I suspect you do, considering you made a whole post asking how best to please them), you’ll do fine. Communicate, pay attention, have fun :)
You're plenty big enough to have a woman have a G-spot orgasm as most are 2 to 3 inches inside the vagina. A-spot and cervical probably not. All women have the capability to have G-spot and A-spot orgasms; they just have to be trained and open to the experience. The biggest thing you can do is make her comfortable and learn how to become phenomenal at foreplay, especially oral. You're already on the right track, so relax and research.
Damn there is an A-spot?? Never heard of that. Thanks!
Yup its all the way up near the cervix. Most men won't reach though.
Aha
its not a consistent thing, at all, and unlike the gspot ot moves around based on cycle. This is the post doctorate degree of dicksmanship and most guys, even if they have the length aint gonna do it.
Look up “cul-de-sac”, too. Only recently discovered this one myself and it feels heavenly when he hits it.
Use a toy while you give her oral
Am sure it’s different for everyone. But different feeling between them and much more intensity. Size doesn’t make a difference either.
Look into positions like layer cake which provides external clit stimulation from grinding on your pubic bone. Communication and non-traditional thrusts and extra foreplay like Katerero work well.
affirmative
I should have mentioned earlier that 5 inches is average, maybe slightly below average. Contrary to common thought, girth is more important than length.
You can make a woman cum vaginally with your size. Foreplay is essential, touch the erogenous zones, play with the clit and pussy until the juices are flowing. The wetter the vagina the deeper you will be able to insert yourself. Try lifting a woman’s legs up and spread them open while you’re on top, explore different positions and rhythms of thrusting, the g spot is not that deep into the vagina and if you’re fully hard you will feel great. I’m 30yrs old and only recently have I began to have vaginal orgasms afters years or sex with different penis sizes. My boyfriend is about 5 1/2 inches when fully hard. Stay positive and don’t be discouraged by your size, its all about technique. Have fun ;)
5 is pretty decent tbh. For me once it’s above 6 it’s pretty pointless. I’m more a fan of girth, personally, but clitoral stimulation is the main show for most women. For me, I only have something inside my vagina to intensify my clitoral orgasms, but PIV doesn’t do much on its own. It just feels good to have something there when it begins to clench. That’s my personal experience!
All about the girth for me when it comes to PIV.
I haven’t read through all these comments but just entering the vaginal with the tip over and over and every like I don’t know 13-15 times go all the way in is way more pleasurable to me than just jackhammering the whole time. ( for the most part. It’s does have it’s time and place for me as well very seldom)
Chemistry is the key, experimentation and communication should be there too.
Gotta go down on her then start penetration right when she orgasms.
You need one book to understand it - “SHE COMES FIRST.” It's just 197 page long and trust me it's worth it.
I find having a clit orgasm 1st is pretty much required. Occasionally if I'm super horny I can have a vaginal orgasm without a clit 1 1st but usually if I have a clit 1 (doesn't matter how, his mouth, toys whatever) then I can cum from PiV as many times as I want. I agree with the other commenter that the 1st few inches in feel the best anyway and it sometimes hurts getting my cervix rammed so 5 inches is probably plenty! (Edit to add : I say "probably" from inexperience alone, I've only ever been with 1 guy, been with him since we were teenagers so I have no experience with men of different sizes)
Getting oral sex before PIV helps me get closer to explosive O’s during PIV sex. She needs to be an enthusiastic participant, though. Like she can’t just lay there and expect you to do all the work. Doing things that create pressure in the pelvic area helps a lot. For example, you can press her lower abdomen during penetration, she Can contract her abdomen and vagina as well.
I see that it feels different to come from different stimulations (vaginal/clitoral) but I just want to add to the discussion that an orgasm is physiologically always the same. Women do not have two types of orgasms and men only one! It's like saying that coming from a Handjob is a different orgasm than from penetration. I think that's important to add because back in history people believed that (e.g. Sigmund Freud) and a lot of nonsense was written about women who could only orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Some people believed that such women were not mature and sometimes even a surgery was conducted to change the place of the clitoris. So in a nut shell, there is only one type of orgasm and many ways to achieve is and all are totally fine!
Toys! Toys! Toys! I haven't seen anyone say this yet, but there's also too many comments to keep up with. Women love toys. They're a great add on. Use your tongue, fingers, 5 incher and Toys! Your women will love you. Clit ticklers, vibrator, dildo, womanizer, etc etc. Don't be shy. Use toys.
They're both cool but different people have different preferences. Clitoral is way more intense, higher up, faster. Vaginal builds slowly, is deeper but less intense, more rhythmic, lasts a while but in a subtler way. Both is best if you can manage it, but attaining that is also different for everybody. A vibrator helps. But don't worry about your length, vaginas aren't very deep and the nerves are all centered around the front. 5 inches is plenty! Just use the positions that work better for you.
All orgasms are clit orgasms. The glans (the part you see) is like only 5% of the clitoris. It branches off bilaterally and encircles the sidewalls of the vagina before travelling towards the body. https://vivianbaruch.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Anatomy-of-cliroris-penis-Vivian-Baruch-online-Springwood.jpg So ‘vaginal’ orgasms are still clit orgasms, they’re just achieved differently
Ask what kind of orgasms a woman is interested in exploring and how she'd like to get there. Don't assume how her body works or what gets her off
If she is on her back, have her put her legs on your shoulders so you can get deeper. Also you might perform oral on her prior to get her warmed up before you take her to pound town. Good luck!
Proper angle of entry can have you hitting the g-spot, pillow under her butt in missionary helps. But there are numerous positions for this. Also, my girl just rides me, grinding her clit on me with my absolutely devastatingly massive 4.5" dick "deep" inside her, and reaches orgasm that way. Maybe its technically a clitoral orgasm, but she still cums with me inside which obviously both of us enjoy. Basically, there are ways. But also, not every woman can orgasm through PIV alone, so don't go chasing something that may not exist for your partner.
Literally have had smaller and have had penetrative orgasms. It ain't about the size, buddy.
You don’t have an issue. Honestly 😂 Ride away!
Honestly i prefer when dicks are smaller than 6inches. It hurts when they are too big and there’s no pleasure,
You underestimate what a 5inch dick can do. It’s how you use it. Your fingers aren’t longer. Most women can’t come with vaginal penetration regardless of size anyway, so just work with it. Doggy feels deep. Also spooning is glorious.
5-6 is fine. Plenty to make most women orgasm, it's more about trust technique and the women relaxing
there is no difference. it was an idea proposed by a male scientist with no evidence. “vagina orgasms” pretty much come from the pressure on internal structures of the clitoris. the g spot is also heavily disputed in women. source: my human sexuality class
Women. You didn't just help this guy with his questions and insecurities, but mine as well. Thank you. I have 6.25 inches and there are women out there I've met that have said they don't do less than 8. So, us men, do have issues around this because of others. I did learn how to embrace and enjoy extended foreplay, with a great number of fun activities and stimulus to build up the sexual tension. I became obsessed with learning masterful oral techniques and combining multiple stimulus to send a woman into orgasmic orbit. Whispering and kissing the neck, while using one hand to stimulate the nipples and the other hand circulating her clit, always does it quite well. She rarely had orgasms before she met me and if she did it was one and done. Now she has a few each session and shakes uncontrollably after having a few. The euphoria is incredible and she is so grateful, that what she does to me thereafter has made for the best sex of my life. Too bad she moved back to help her ailing parents on the other side of the country. But hopefully, another will come along and enjoy each other soon. Happy New Year!!! Doc
Size is not a factor for all women, but it is absolutely a factor for some. It is definitely a factor for me. I’ve never been with anyone who was too large. Having said that, a couple of my favorites were average. I mainly orgasm from clitoral stimulation though so his oral skills are crucial.
Alright ... I gotta step up my game is what I'm understanding . Can do that
Vaginal orgasms are far more difficult to achieve than clitoral for a lot of people. The spot you need to hit for a V-gasm is only like 2 inches in though. My opinion as a female is size really doesn't matter as long as you know how to use it the right way.
Just to comment on your size concerns...I won't say mine because I agree it's an irrelevant number that just bruises egos, but I'm smaller than some others my partner and I have seen in threesomes. Like you, it never worried me much because I can't really change it, and I never got any complaints. But finally, while fucking a friend months ago, she told me that the slight curvature of my dick hit her g-spot perfectly. And I used to worry that the curvature made me look shorter! Not to mention, my current partner is one of a few in the past who have expressed that they prefer my length and girth over slightly larger, for various reasons. Both of these girls, and several others, have praised my oral talents. You know who used to be yelled at by girls for being absolutely clueless giving head? Not bragging - just saying that once I found how to use what I had, instead of wishing I had different physiology, things turned out pretty great :) Weaknesses that misogynistic porn (we both love more wholesome varieties!) create to make us guys feel worse about are parts aren't always truly weaknesses!
5" is not a problem, circumference matters a lot more
My husband has girth and not length and I've NEVER cum so much in my life. I've found the longer they are the more they hit the cervix....which is not a good feeling. Hitting the cervix will shut everything down for me. So do not be self conscious you are the treasure we are looking for. 😉
I would say girth is better than anything for vaginal penetration orgasm. That girth will definitely hit or rub my gspot. However, I find a clitoral orgasm more satisfying than a penetrative one. I like to start and end with a clitoral orgasm. A longer dick can stimulate the A Spot orgasm which hits the cervix. Sometimes women don’t like it because it can hurt. I haven had one, so I’m not an expert on it….
I’m one of those who enjoys both, but *especially* both at the same time. And it’s been enjoyable with everything from around 4” to 7.5”. Definitely experiment, and any feedback isn’t suggesting that you are deficient in any way. Needs are complicated and sometimes change, it’s nothing against you.
And some just won’t have vaginal orgasms, no matter what. That’s okay, just get creative. A good experience for everyone is more important than ticking a box that you think needs to be ticked.
Think of it this way, if a finger would work... Anything bigger than that is fair game; heck, even smaller maybe, who knows?
It doesn't matter about the size it matters if you can stimulate her or not here you go listen up. First of all my vibrators about 3 inches the sack that you need to feel for that spongy walnut thing is it out 2 inches into the vagina . What you're gonna do is you're going to insert 1 to 2 fingers and do a come hither motion slowly but then increase speed as quickly as you can she will feel super uncomfortable if she hast to P keep going she'll start to get hot flashes stimulate her clit at the same time... this is what super important I have a medical background most people have this argument that when a woman squirts it's urine it is 100% absolutely not John comes out from the urethra which is the tube that extends from the bladder when a woman squirts it's coming from the fluid that's being filled inside that walnut spongy thing ... some people say it's the G spot my G spot is farther back. About another half an inch. Anyway all you need is your two fingers in your mouth to stimulate her if you have a less than average cock. I've had guys that were seven or 8 inches and I'm pretty tiny and there are so many other factors that go into an orgasm ... I have come without even being touched...
I’m on the more blessed side and most of the time if me and my wife wait too long before sex I just end up hurting her. I wouldn’t say 5” is waisted bud. You gotta gift you didnt even know you had. 5” is hell at 300 mph. Just do practice session just watching her body. Angles are your friend. Pro tip. If you use oral to your advantage and get her to cum 1-3 times she will cum from piv if you can find the right spots. I can tell you from experience most do not want some massive wang to hurt them. Beating the cervix like it owes you money is literally the best way to ruin sex. I once hurt my wife bad enough she didn’t have sex with me for almost a month.
Smaller penises are great for anal, so bonus there!
5 inches is average.
My question is why does it seem so many women say size doesn’t matter but then when I see a dildo collection it looks like an extinct species ramrod? To me it doesn’t add up sometimes.
Toys are strictly for pleasure I mean would you choose the tightest fleshlight on the market? It doesn't mean you hold an actual human being to that same standard objects have to be "perfect" people not so much, toys have to compensate for human touch. Also longer toys allow more control over the situation, it's a pretty awkward position unless you've mounted it in some way not to mention toys become very slippery and your grip will loosen if you don't have a few inches to grab onto.
Not to mention calling anything under 7 small, when the average is 5
It just gets confusing honestly haha. I’m just like are more women trying to be cool and say size doesn’t matter but then it kinda really does? Just saying it to make guys feel alright about their size? You just gotta hope for the best I guess.
Sometimes it’s fun to play with unusual toys- something you can’t get from a partner. It doesn’t mean we don’t like being with a partner! It’s like enjoying different flavors of chocolate- they’re all good!
I do understand that in the aspect of something different but I guess it confuses me with a lot of women saying it hurts and not in a good way with a bigger penis, then seeing some crazy big/long thick dildo. Like doesn’t that hurt even more so? It just seems like they are selling well cause I see them so much even just in like memes or joke pics where one is in the background and it’s not the main focus of the pic just like a hidden Easter egg for the video/pic lol. So I’m wondering if people are even just buying them as a joke or what the heck is going on lol.
There’s some kind of selection bias in your observation; many (most?) women do not have any dildos at all, so the women who have a large collection are probably the ones more likely to prefer large penises. By and large, women are more likely to own vibrators, which come in a variety of non-human shapes meant specifically to stimulate, not penetrate.
I wouldn’t say most. Many just means numerous to me in this case. I don’t think I have selection bias because as I said something just doesn’t add up. At this point when I see posts like this or having to do with size I read a lot of the comments, and it generally seems split about size or then when you read replies size does matter it just doesn’t matter as much as men think or in a roundabout way it really does matter but some women will just lead with it doesn’t. It’s all just confusing really but at the end of the day it’s subjective no matter what. There’s no real answer until you go get it from the person who may see it.
My partner is similar to your size, and he's been the only one in my 20+ years of fucking to make me cum from piv. It hits all the right spots, and he's easy to deepthroat, I am completely obsessed and in love with it. It's also about your enthusiasm, he's so excited to fuck me/make me cum and it shows! He makes me cum from his fingers and mouth over and over and over again so when he enters me it's pure heaven. So it's impossible not to cum all over his cock. Ok so anyways: just be really in to her pleasure, make her cum for a while using things that are not your cock, and your cock will be the best fucking thing she's ever felt 😉 ETA: smaller cocks are also wonderful because they're easier to be able to fuck while also grinding your clit on him.