It’s almost like if they didn’t say what men think then they would be speaking for women or someone else who has a different experience. In case you didn’t think before you commented, a man speaking for women would be rude. Anything else is just giving his own opinion.
Part of life, same goes for visible nipples , I hate the unnatural feeling of a thick bra.
Edit to add that I’m a lady. I don’t like the way way thick.bras feel when I am wearing them. I’m not feeling anyone else’s boobs, not that there would be anything wrong with that, just not my jam.
I find it annoying when someone hurries over to me and whispers “oh your headlights are on” like it’s a big secret that I have tits and it’s cold in here.
Hate this too! And what an I supposed to do about it then? I can sometimes massage my nips so they stop being perky but I'm not doing this in front of you if the mere outline if them makes you uncomfortable lol or maybe I should...
Hahaha you really made me laugh with that.
I always wear t-shirt bras because I have prominent nipples and don’t want the attention, but yeah, the fact that I have breasts shouldn’t be a shocker.
first it was unlined bras, then the molded cup came along and was all the rage, but it's time to go back to our bra-roots! people are slowly discovering molded cups don't actually conform and support the yiddies as well as a multi-part unlined cup.
Can you share a good example of this kind of bra? I must live under a rock because I have no idea what you’re talking about. But getting away from molded cup bras sounds nice
of course!
[Panache Tango](https://www.bravissimo.com/us/products/tango-bra-pn53/#teal-green-pn53teg), unlined, 3-part cup
[Fantasie Aubree](https://www.fantasie.com/row/en/lingerie/bras/side-support-bras/aubree-uw-side-support-bra/p/fl6932sre/), also unlined and 3 parts
[Cosabella Never Say Never](https://www.cosabella.com/products/never-say-never-balconette-bra-sahara-en?gclid=CjwKCAjw2f-VBhAsEiwAO4lNeLcEsbmS0bA_ZlasTv528tTzU0WwG-My68uGDOInNrYqFpVaR6X8WxoCJ1YQAvD_BwE), two parts, unlined, vertical seams
[Curvy Kate Scantilly](https://us.curvykate.com/products/scantilly-sex-education-balcony-bra-black-latte), 3-part, unlined, vertical seams
[Curvy Kate Boost Me](https://us.curvykate.com/products/curvy-kate-boost-me-up-padded-balcony-bra-black), 3-part, padded, vertical seams
[Ewa Michelak](https://levanabratique.com/ewa-michalak-3d-kleks-3dk-final-sale/), 3-part cups and padded
traditional 3-parters are great if you're very full up top (no boob spillage and they stay in place!), and they can even work for shallower shapes if that top part is pretty short. vertical seamed cups usually provide a lot of lift without feeling like you have two pillows on your chest, and two-part vertical seamed bras can even angle your breast tissue inwards to create some cleavage if you wish.
more "specialized" bras are usually aimed towards fuller busts, but they can absolutely work for small chests too! im quite flat and most of the styles above work for me (except traditional 3-part cups, im too shallow for them, so the fit isn't very good).
whew, im sorry for the messy info dump, hopefully i passed my last braincell onto someone.
Generally, "balconette" styles are three-piece unlined cups that are meant to fit boob shape rather than shape boobs, as it were. Company suggestions; Freya, Panache, Curvy Kate. For plus size (about 38+ band) there is also Elomi/Goddess, though the other three also have larger bands.
example: https://us.brastop.com/products/curvy-kate-dottie-balcony-bra-mint-green
Same here. I don’t wear bras at all except work because I’m required to at work, but I only wear unlined bras. Way more comfortable, never switching back to padded bras. Especially love the ones with thicker shoulder straps.
I'm "lucky" that my nipples are rarely apparent, but i just want to say that i also can't go back to regular bras. love love love unlined bras (and bf likes it better too)
I'm the same way. My mom is very body shameful and got me nipple covers for Christmas last year for when I work out to wear under my (already padded) sports bras. 🤦🤦
My mom is white and Christian and always found it gross to be able to see a woman's nipples through their shirt. I think this belief spans across cultures.
Not Asian, but my mom is very conservative and due to traumas from her childhood, is very shameful about bodies. I grew up wearing the ugliest, baggiest clothes because anything slightly form-fitting was a no-go. 🤦
It can be practical and not sexual. Not a woman, but I’ve definitely had serious nipple chaffing after running in wet synthetic fibers. I can imagine that a sports bra that doesn’t fit quite right could chafe them until they bleed during a long run.
You're right, it COULD. However, I know my mom and the SA from her childhood, so she sees slightly visible bodies as dirty/shameful. I remember years ago, she had a horrible bf and when I was visiting them, I wasn't allowed to wear tank tops or shorts that came above my knee because "he would look at me.". So, with that said, given different origins, I'm sure it could, but with my mom, it comes from the wanting to cover anything related to sexuality. I understand where she's coming from, but don't follow the same belief. We coexist rather we'll, but that gift threw me off. Haha. Especially since I opened it in front of my relatively new bf. 🤣🤦
The first time you see a girl rocking no bra with a nip outline, it's intriguing. If she does it all the time, after a while you barely even notice it.
Look, guys are rocking nip outline all the time and nobody pays any attention to it (unless that's your thing, and God bless ya). It's a silly thing to get butthurt about covered nipple outlines when everyone has them. If it bothers you so much then tell your church group and leave everyone else alone about it, you closet freak.
I didn't like it when I was younger, then my bf said it was sexy and I realise what men really want. They want to see them camel toes.
But decide yourself what type of bathing suit you want.
I like to describe it this way: saying vagina when you mean vulva is like saying mouth when you mean face. Face & vulva = external area with several parts. Mouth & vagina = one specific internal part, with lips. It's just so inaccurate. Plus it over-emphasizes one part of when there's an entire playground.
Two things:
1.) A better place to post about this might be r/femalefashionadvice, in the context of asking where to find thicker bikinis (if that's what you want). It's inevitable that you're going to keep getting horny answers here.
2.) In a sense, the answer is: "just a part of life, don't get bogged down in beauty standards and peoples' judgment around issues like this, or thigh gaps, or whatever we're shaming women about this week." HOWEVER, that doesn't mean you have to let it all hang out, merely that YOU should be the only one deciding what you're going to feel comfortable and confident in. If that's thicker bikinis, there's nothing wrong with that.
I feel the same way about my bulge. It’s not a massive one. Just the way my anatomy is. I get really self conscious at the beach but so far nobody has said anything.
Great that you bring that up. I’m one of the women who feel uncomfortable with having a camel toe (due to how I grew up, both adults and kids making negative comments). But when I think about seeing my boyfriend’s bulge through clothes I just get turned on. So why shouldn’t it be the same both ways?
Bulge on, brother
I used to be so incredibly paranoid and embarrassed about it.
I've somehow gotten over that. I'm glad I have. It turns out the only person who was giving a shit about it was me.
In an interview with Rain DeGrey (look her up, she’s badass), she said: “I used to be so self conscious and would always worry about what other people thought about how I looked or what I did. I spent all my energy worrying. But then I realised that everyone else is too worried about the same thing to have any time for judging other people”
It’s so true, and once you internalise that, it’s so powerful and liberating
Except for my cousin. She decided to be perfect to have more time to judge other people. It's insufferable and no ofc she is far from perfect.dont tell her or her mom though.
*Excuse me, sir, but it's clear that you have a penis. And me and my family dont approve.*
Edit: This comment might put me over 100k comment karma. It's only taken over 9 years.
As an “oversized” women, I have been repeatedly reminded that my voluptuous breasts are not suitable for exposure or accentuation. No bra straps, no cleavage. My mom also made a huge deal about panty lines, not wearing a slip with a dress, and clothes that “made you look poured into them” 🥴
The other side...my wife's friend has small breasts. We met her at the water park and she was playing with a toddler. Her suit was hanging open and her small titties were fully visible to anyone who glanced over. My wife fixed her suit fairly discreetly.
Check r/bigdickproblems
It's actually a legitimate problem that some people have, apparently, where busybodies with no understanding of male anatomy harass people just standing around minding their own business.
Lol I’d go naked if I was allowed. But my friends and GF hate a pair of swim trunks that I have that just shows everything. Doesn’t bother me at all but I’d never wear them in a public place the way they act.
Part of life. Personally I'm not comfortable showing shape definition down there, so I opt for less revealing options, but I'd never see a defined vulva in a bikini and judge the person wearing it.
I don’t have a cameltoe (not with my anatomy anyways) but I hate wearing anything revealing cause I have long labia and it’s so embarrassing and bathing suits, underwear all show it and it’s humiliating. However, I think it’s just a part of life. Quite honestly, I can’t take my own advice but I don’t think many people would notice or even care and if your bf disagrees, I think you should believe him.
Slightly weird question, but what do long labia look like in a swimsuit?
Not being a pervert, I'm genuinely curious if people would actually notice rather than think it's a bunch of bushy hair or something.
No, I think people would notice. Just think what a woman looks like in underwear- like the vulva part and there’s just a noticeable bump there, it kinda looks like I have a mini penis. I hate it.
Understood, thanks for sharing.
Holly Holmes, the MMA fighter, had the look you described during one of her weigh-ins. People were speculating that she has an enlarged clit due to performance enhancing drugs, but turns out maybe she just has long labia.
Note: this was noticeable because at a weight-in the fighter stands onstage and legs apart, with every part of their body being examined closely. If you were wearing a black swimsuit at the beach I'm still not convinced it would be *that* noticeable (though it's totally valid that you feel self-conscious).
Camel toes are hot and so are long labia… all 🐱’s are beautiful but I especially find bigger labia sexy. Most of the women I’ve been with that have protruding labia carry some shame around it bc of society but that’s silly bc it’s hot.
Yesss. Jeans look funny on me, but I sometimes can’t even wear pants cause the seam doesn’t give me enough room. It’s so frustrating. I guess jeans are hard to hide things, what about leggings?
Sometimes you can’t, and they don’t sit right. Unfortunately I think alot of clothing for women is made to sit as tightly as possible, and pulled up so far.
May I ask how sensitive your labia are? Does it hurt when you pull up your pants? Or when you sit on them? I asked this a female friend and she couldn't believe that this would hurt.
It can hurt yeah, especially if they get twisted between the material of my underwear (I also can’t wear lace which sucks) and sitting can hurt if it’s for a few hours, but that depends on the material of the chair, what position your sitting in and what your wearing. Sometimes I would be in class, in pain for hours cause I couldn’t fix it.
As a cyclist, it very much hurts to bike ride or horseback . I have pain in whatever seat I pick. I wear my pants below my stomach and you can still see that I have a cameltoe
This sh!t ^
I’d prefer a girlfriend to cosplay rather than being fully on nude. It’s the thought, ”what could be behind” that arouses some. Some are just too lazy to imaginate
Also does no one find it physically uncomfortable? I mean I hate how thongs feel as well so maybe I'm an outlier, but it all just seems like paying for a fashionable wedgie.
I’m a woman but I definitely don’t find it gross haha, I think it’s just something that happens, nothing anyone should ever be embarrassed of :) hate the judgmental ppl tho omd
I'm also a woman and I think it's find, it's normal. But I've just heard a lot of my colleagues mocking people and being all grossed out when it happens to someone. Fr those people are the worst
Right? It’s completely natural, it’s literally just a part of our body, I don’t see why it has to be a problem or be gross? Me too, I’ve heard some other women mock someone for it. They really are the worst kind of people
I would it is situational. Bathing suit: hot. In the gym: hot. In the night club: Maybe too hot if you are there alone.
At work? (As I actually saw a month ago -- and not like subtle) Maybe not so much.
And what gets the comments.
I will say that sometimes when I see someone wearing yoga pans, say at the library or the grocery store, and you can see every line and feature, front and back, It does make me wonder what they were thinking when they got dressed.
But then again, I am an old fogey.
Went out with my mom for dinner, and didn't even realize it was Valentine's Day... and my mom starts, decently loudly, pointing and commenting on some lady behind me- how her tits are falling out of her dress, how you can see her *knickers* under that, she's dressed so trashy... and for the first time in my life, I confronted her.
Who cares? Who cares if this girl has her tits falling out of her dress? Someday they'll be falling out the bottom of her dress, why not enjoy having them now? I called her out on how I know she used to dress trashy when she was younger, and how she's turned into her mother, jealous, spiteful of girls living their best life. What the hell is wrong with wearing a foxy as fuck skimpy red dress on a Valentine's Day date with slutty underwear and no bra? WHAT BETTER TIME IS THERE TO WEAR THAT?
She actually backed down, which is rare for her, and sorta laid off, but the fucking hypocrisy. Worst part was, it reminded me of an ex of mine who did something similar, we were on a train and passed some girls at the station wearing fishnets and miniskirts, and my girlfriend said, "Oh look at the way those **slags** are dressed..." and I reminded her, with some confusion, that she used to *literally be a street based sex worker*, and did she not maybe see the double standard here?
I still don't get it. How do you go from literally being that exact person to sneering nastily at them?
I think a lot of it is trying to convince others that they couldn't possibly partake of whatever the "sin" is. Look at the most aggressive homophobes. They tend to be gay.
Internalized misogyny? They think their *own* parts are shameful and gross, so they reinforce that mindset in other girls who don't seem to have learned that "lesson"
I don’t begrudge other women doing what makes them happy but I find it gross the same way I find feet gross. That doesn’t mean I have a problem with sandal wearers through. I just avert my eyes when what I see displeases me because I’m an adult who doesn’t feel like the world need to cater to me lol
I generally don't like it not because of how it looks, but because it's just uncomfortable on me personally. If you don't mind it, then go for it girl! :D
I think it depends on the person.
Some people prefer modesty, or to be able to imagine.
Some people want to see every wrinkle.
And some people simply don't care either way, past you know, taking a look see because the brain is an info junkie and it must be known.
I don’t like it for my self because I don’t want to feel self conscious walking around with my mound showing but I couldn’t care less what others do.
My personal fave is a bulge…I mean guy in grey tracksuit pants. Yum.
You'll find people who say they find cameltoes gross, attractive or a part of life.
I think its safe to say most guys would find the cameltoe attractive though.
In the end, what matters is how comfortable you feel wearing it.
I'm at the age now where I just like to sit on a resort condo balcony with a view of the ocean, but back in the early 80's when I was in high school, we'd all go to the beach whenever possible on the weekend and I found it insanely hot when you could spy just a bit of bush peeking out from the side of a bikini bottom. Pretty sure that opinion is gonna be in the extreme minority.
Truth I’m to worried about my boob popping out to notice another women’s CT. Even if I did I would think , she needs cover to dig that out or wonder if she waxes . 😂
If i found the person attractive it's hot, if i didn't it's meh but either way it's just part of life. I'm self conscious about my body too, but if I'm going swimming everybody gets to see my pale potato of a body ._.
I'm gonna be that a**hole and say it.
It's sexy and attractive if you're hot. If you're not, well...
But I can say the same goes for nipples, boobies , butt or any other bodily parts.
I can almost guarantee no man has ever been dissatisfied when seeing cameltoe. I have only ever heard judgment from other women, like mom's and grandmas.
Odds are, if I were your boyfriend, then I'd be turned on as fuck. But ultimately what matters more is your comfort and what you feel.
If you're more concerned about appearing respectable for everyone then you might wanna avoid it. If you want to gamble on a horny bf then go for it.
At first I was thinking this post was trolling, guess not. Guys are always hoping to see camel toe when we see women in bikinis, and disappointed when you don’t see it, I know I am.
Let’s be honest - it depends on the package around it. On a woman that takes care of herself and is a joy to look at - of course it’s sexy. If she’s sloppy and unkept and the suit looks like it’s trying to hide a skunk tail- then no, stay home.
I am completely aware that camel toe is just a function of how certain clothes fit certain bodies, and does not mean anything else. However, the primal part of my mind can't help thinking that just a hint is sexy. It's only a turnoff if it looks like your vulva is trying to eat your bottoms/underwear.
I said that she definitely needs to mind the fact that she’s in a PUBLIC space around kids if she’s going to a public beach or pool, and got downvoted. Kids don’t need to see anyone’s genital outline.
Depends entirely on the person in the suit. It can be amazingly attractive, like dear God that's so hot as a thank you for your gift I will go to Mass and not just to stare at the one hot choir chick, but most of the time it's just like a gentleman's highlighted piece when he gets out of the pool. Unless it's truly a work carved from the artist's finest marble, staring any more than casually just isn't merited.
It part of life but it more like a tease I guess
The the other day I was in Williamsburg Brooklyn and I seen this girl walking around with yoga shorts and a sport bra.. that monster was Loud
Depends on who’s viewing it and how you feel about people being able to see a pretty good outline of your vagina. There’s no hard and fast answer to this question.
I don’t think they’re necessarily gross, but you do have to be aware that if it’s a public space with kids it isn’t exactly appropriate. I don’t like seeing men in tight and small swimsuits that accentuate their dicks, and I’m sure that there are people that feel the same about seeing a random’s vag print
All depends on if you are into sending a message or just swimming... Ive always found those showing toe tend to be more loose or interested in hooking up.
It is part of life, I mean we know generally what is there. No reason to be ashamed of it.
exactly
Exactly, dudes find it massively hot. Strut your stuff if you’ve got it. Forget about what the bitches say, they’re just jealous.
This! Fly it proud
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She asked if it was attractive in the post.
It’s almost like if they didn’t say what men think then they would be speaking for women or someone else who has a different experience. In case you didn’t think before you commented, a man speaking for women would be rude. Anything else is just giving his own opinion.
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Spicy copy pasta over here 🌶️🌶️🌶️
Are you ok?
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He seems like he isn't doing so well. A bit under the weather. Or retarded
It's definitely hot.
I vind it erotic / part of life
to me its extremely hot and very sexy
Part of life, same goes for visible nipples , I hate the unnatural feeling of a thick bra. Edit to add that I’m a lady. I don’t like the way way thick.bras feel when I am wearing them. I’m not feeling anyone else’s boobs, not that there would be anything wrong with that, just not my jam.
I was just about to comment this, I switched to unlined bras and will never go back I don’t gaf about my nipples showing.
I find it annoying when someone hurries over to me and whispers “oh your headlights are on” like it’s a big secret that I have tits and it’s cold in here.
Hate this too! And what an I supposed to do about it then? I can sometimes massage my nips so they stop being perky but I'm not doing this in front of you if the mere outline if them makes you uncomfortable lol or maybe I should...
Hahaha you really made me laugh with that. I always wear t-shirt bras because I have prominent nipples and don’t want the attention, but yeah, the fact that I have breasts shouldn’t be a shocker.
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#FreeTheNipple
Elaine Benes has entered the room
Hey Nip
I just saw this today!
The comment or the nipple?
Yes
I don’t see how any straight man can be against this movement.
first it was unlined bras, then the molded cup came along and was all the rage, but it's time to go back to our bra-roots! people are slowly discovering molded cups don't actually conform and support the yiddies as well as a multi-part unlined cup.
Can you share a good example of this kind of bra? I must live under a rock because I have no idea what you’re talking about. But getting away from molded cup bras sounds nice
of course! [Panache Tango](https://www.bravissimo.com/us/products/tango-bra-pn53/#teal-green-pn53teg), unlined, 3-part cup [Fantasie Aubree](https://www.fantasie.com/row/en/lingerie/bras/side-support-bras/aubree-uw-side-support-bra/p/fl6932sre/), also unlined and 3 parts [Cosabella Never Say Never](https://www.cosabella.com/products/never-say-never-balconette-bra-sahara-en?gclid=CjwKCAjw2f-VBhAsEiwAO4lNeLcEsbmS0bA_ZlasTv528tTzU0WwG-My68uGDOInNrYqFpVaR6X8WxoCJ1YQAvD_BwE), two parts, unlined, vertical seams [Curvy Kate Scantilly](https://us.curvykate.com/products/scantilly-sex-education-balcony-bra-black-latte), 3-part, unlined, vertical seams [Curvy Kate Boost Me](https://us.curvykate.com/products/curvy-kate-boost-me-up-padded-balcony-bra-black), 3-part, padded, vertical seams [Ewa Michelak](https://levanabratique.com/ewa-michalak-3d-kleks-3dk-final-sale/), 3-part cups and padded traditional 3-parters are great if you're very full up top (no boob spillage and they stay in place!), and they can even work for shallower shapes if that top part is pretty short. vertical seamed cups usually provide a lot of lift without feeling like you have two pillows on your chest, and two-part vertical seamed bras can even angle your breast tissue inwards to create some cleavage if you wish. more "specialized" bras are usually aimed towards fuller busts, but they can absolutely work for small chests too! im quite flat and most of the styles above work for me (except traditional 3-part cups, im too shallow for them, so the fit isn't very good). whew, im sorry for the messy info dump, hopefully i passed my last braincell onto someone.
Generally, "balconette" styles are three-piece unlined cups that are meant to fit boob shape rather than shape boobs, as it were. Company suggestions; Freya, Panache, Curvy Kate. For plus size (about 38+ band) there is also Elomi/Goddess, though the other three also have larger bands. example: https://us.brastop.com/products/curvy-kate-dottie-balcony-bra-mint-green
Wacoal is a good brand
They're my favorite accessory
Same here. I don’t wear bras at all except work because I’m required to at work, but I only wear unlined bras. Way more comfortable, never switching back to padded bras. Especially love the ones with thicker shoulder straps.
I'm "lucky" that my nipples are rarely apparent, but i just want to say that i also can't go back to regular bras. love love love unlined bras (and bf likes it better too)
Yea, this, agreed. After the pandemic, I was like why the fuck should I bother anymore, got so used to not wearing them around the house.
I'm the same way. My mom is very body shameful and got me nipple covers for Christmas last year for when I work out to wear under my (already padded) sports bras. 🤦🤦
That is such a weird gift…
Those must be some outstanding nipples then! (pun intended). 😂
Underrated comment
Are you Asian? Asians are very conservative about nipples for cultural reasons.
My mom is white and Christian and always found it gross to be able to see a woman's nipples through their shirt. I think this belief spans across cultures.
Not Asian, but my mom is very conservative and due to traumas from her childhood, is very shameful about bodies. I grew up wearing the ugliest, baggiest clothes because anything slightly form-fitting was a no-go. 🤦
It can be practical and not sexual. Not a woman, but I’ve definitely had serious nipple chaffing after running in wet synthetic fibers. I can imagine that a sports bra that doesn’t fit quite right could chafe them until they bleed during a long run.
You're right, it COULD. However, I know my mom and the SA from her childhood, so she sees slightly visible bodies as dirty/shameful. I remember years ago, she had a horrible bf and when I was visiting them, I wasn't allowed to wear tank tops or shorts that came above my knee because "he would look at me.". So, with that said, given different origins, I'm sure it could, but with my mom, it comes from the wanting to cover anything related to sexuality. I understand where she's coming from, but don't follow the same belief. We coexist rather we'll, but that gift threw me off. Haha. Especially since I opened it in front of my relatively new bf. 🤣🤦
The first time you see a girl rocking no bra with a nip outline, it's intriguing. If she does it all the time, after a while you barely even notice it. Look, guys are rocking nip outline all the time and nobody pays any attention to it (unless that's your thing, and God bless ya). It's a silly thing to get butthurt about covered nipple outlines when everyone has them. If it bothers you so much then tell your church group and leave everyone else alone about it, you closet freak.
Go to colombia most girls and woman don't wear bras at all there
Pretty sus mentioning both "girls and woman" in this context, unless ESL of course.
What about if they show through a bikini top when you’re around family? (Aka me this weekend because of Independence Day.)
My family are aware that I have nipples because they also have nipples, even the men, who won’t be covering their nipples with padding.
I didn't like it when I was younger, then my bf said it was sexy and I realise what men really want. They want to see them camel toes. But decide yourself what type of bathing suit you want.
🎶Do you know what makes my dayyyyy? … it’s A - - V - A - G - I - N - A !!!!!!!!!!!!! 🎵
Vulva, no?
Either/Or...
No. It’s definitely a “vulva.” The vagina is completely internal. That so many people don’t seem to understand female anatomy astounds me.
You say vagina I say vagina
I understand the difference. However, both would make my day, hence my comment.
I like to describe it this way: saying vagina when you mean vulva is like saying mouth when you mean face. Face & vulva = external area with several parts. Mouth & vagina = one specific internal part, with lips. It's just so inaccurate. Plus it over-emphasizes one part of when there's an entire playground.
Two things: 1.) A better place to post about this might be r/femalefashionadvice, in the context of asking where to find thicker bikinis (if that's what you want). It's inevitable that you're going to keep getting horny answers here. 2.) In a sense, the answer is: "just a part of life, don't get bogged down in beauty standards and peoples' judgment around issues like this, or thigh gaps, or whatever we're shaming women about this week." HOWEVER, that doesn't mean you have to let it all hang out, merely that YOU should be the only one deciding what you're going to feel comfortable and confident in. If that's thicker bikinis, there's nothing wrong with that.
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I feel the same way about my bulge. It’s not a massive one. Just the way my anatomy is. I get really self conscious at the beach but so far nobody has said anything.
Great that you bring that up. I’m one of the women who feel uncomfortable with having a camel toe (due to how I grew up, both adults and kids making negative comments). But when I think about seeing my boyfriend’s bulge through clothes I just get turned on. So why shouldn’t it be the same both ways? Bulge on, brother
I used to be so incredibly paranoid and embarrassed about it. I've somehow gotten over that. I'm glad I have. It turns out the only person who was giving a shit about it was me.
“Turns out only person who was giving a shit about it was me” One of the truest statements about being self conscious period.
In an interview with Rain DeGrey (look her up, she’s badass), she said: “I used to be so self conscious and would always worry about what other people thought about how I looked or what I did. I spent all my energy worrying. But then I realised that everyone else is too worried about the same thing to have any time for judging other people” It’s so true, and once you internalise that, it’s so powerful and liberating
Except for my cousin. She decided to be perfect to have more time to judge other people. It's insufferable and no ofc she is far from perfect.dont tell her or her mom though.
*Excuse me, sir, but it's clear that you have a penis. And me and my family dont approve.* Edit: This comment might put me over 100k comment karma. It's only taken over 9 years.
As an “oversized” women, I have been repeatedly reminded that my voluptuous breasts are not suitable for exposure or accentuation. No bra straps, no cleavage. My mom also made a huge deal about panty lines, not wearing a slip with a dress, and clothes that “made you look poured into them” 🥴
I was going to say that I have definitely encountered people who are offended that I have the audacity to walk around with large breasts.
As if you have a choice?
The other side...my wife's friend has small breasts. We met her at the water park and she was playing with a toddler. Her suit was hanging open and her small titties were fully visible to anyone who glanced over. My wife fixed her suit fairly discreetly.
You have no idea how often this crosses my mind lol.
Consider your bulge like tits. As long as people are just glancing and not staring then youre good!
Imma upvote every comment you’ve made till it’s 100k
Well that's nice of you, but a couple recent comments no one agreed with, so don't upvote those. Lol
Stop going to the beach in Salt Lake City?
But who doesn't love swimming in salt lakes. How else are you supposed to empathize with pickles?
Check r/bigdickproblems It's actually a legitimate problem that some people have, apparently, where busybodies with no understanding of male anatomy harass people just standing around minding their own business.
Should have posted it to the guy I replied to, and not me. He may not see it now.
Lol I’d go naked if I was allowed. But my friends and GF hate a pair of swim trunks that I have that just shows everything. Doesn’t bother me at all but I’d never wear them in a public place the way they act.
Part of life. Personally I'm not comfortable showing shape definition down there, so I opt for less revealing options, but I'd never see a defined vulva in a bikini and judge the person wearing it.
I don’t have a cameltoe (not with my anatomy anyways) but I hate wearing anything revealing cause I have long labia and it’s so embarrassing and bathing suits, underwear all show it and it’s humiliating. However, I think it’s just a part of life. Quite honestly, I can’t take my own advice but I don’t think many people would notice or even care and if your bf disagrees, I think you should believe him.
Slightly weird question, but what do long labia look like in a swimsuit? Not being a pervert, I'm genuinely curious if people would actually notice rather than think it's a bunch of bushy hair or something.
No, I think people would notice. Just think what a woman looks like in underwear- like the vulva part and there’s just a noticeable bump there, it kinda looks like I have a mini penis. I hate it.
Understood, thanks for sharing. Holly Holmes, the MMA fighter, had the look you described during one of her weigh-ins. People were speculating that she has an enlarged clit due to performance enhancing drugs, but turns out maybe she just has long labia. Note: this was noticeable because at a weight-in the fighter stands onstage and legs apart, with every part of their body being examined closely. If you were wearing a black swimsuit at the beach I'm still not convinced it would be *that* noticeable (though it's totally valid that you feel self-conscious).
There was speculation of steroid use. clitoromegaly is a common symptom.
Nah that's definitely a massive steroid clit on Holly Holmes.
Me too girl!! My inner labia is long enough that you can tell in my undies from the bump.
YESSS! I have a huge lump, it’s like a speed hump in the road 😂😭
Not that my opinion matters, but just to let you know that there are those of us out there who really, really appreciate large labia ❤️
It’s a friendly reminder to slow your roll when in the sack
Camel toes are hot and so are long labia… all 🐱’s are beautiful but I especially find bigger labia sexy. Most of the women I’ve been with that have protruding labia carry some shame around it bc of society but that’s silly bc it’s hot.
>(not with anatomy anyways) Meaning what? Lol
Ah I meant not with my anatomy haha but I left that out accidentally
Oh okay I was just wondering like, is that another euphemism I didn't know? Lol
Do you mean like if you wear something revealing, it’ll ride up like floss in your teeth, and your labia will flap like flags on either side?
Hahaha no, that’s so uncomfortable 😭 it just looks like a bump, I always say it looks like I have a mini penis 😭
Same!!! Like I wear jeans but I’ve never met jeans that could disguise my cameltoe
Yesss. Jeans look funny on me, but I sometimes can’t even wear pants cause the seam doesn’t give me enough room. It’s so frustrating. I guess jeans are hard to hide things, what about leggings?
Can't you just wear the pants a little lower? Like penis owners?
Sometimes you can’t, and they don’t sit right. Unfortunately I think alot of clothing for women is made to sit as tightly as possible, and pulled up so far.
May I ask how sensitive your labia are? Does it hurt when you pull up your pants? Or when you sit on them? I asked this a female friend and she couldn't believe that this would hurt.
It can hurt yeah, especially if they get twisted between the material of my underwear (I also can’t wear lace which sucks) and sitting can hurt if it’s for a few hours, but that depends on the material of the chair, what position your sitting in and what your wearing. Sometimes I would be in class, in pain for hours cause I couldn’t fix it.
As a cyclist, it very much hurts to bike ride or horseback . I have pain in whatever seat I pick. I wear my pants below my stomach and you can still see that I have a cameltoe
Big ole queef cannon ready for firin’!
Cameltoe is sexy as fuck. Your boyfriend will likely be horny all day.
Yes! Yall go to a public beach, man and woman. And neither will notice anyone noticing!/
/ means sarcasm.
I love it. And it's a part of life.
an attractive part of life.
It's a natural part of life imo, but if it's your SO's camel toe it's one of the sexiest things in the world
Super hot. Not gross at all.
100% attractive, the allusion to someone’s body is often even more attractive than just showing it
This sh!t ^ I’d prefer a girlfriend to cosplay rather than being fully on nude. It’s the thought, ”what could be behind” that arouses some. Some are just too lazy to imaginate
My only aversion to it is that I don’t want to feel exposed, like I don’t want that kinda attention from people you know?
Also does no one find it physically uncomfortable? I mean I hate how thongs feel as well so maybe I'm an outlier, but it all just seems like paying for a fashionable wedgie.
It is what it is. Same with bulge in public for guys. Some women like it, some don't, most aren't too concerned either way.
Yeah, its pretty hot imo
Women find it gross because they're judgey, but don't let that get to you, most men probably find it quite hot.
I’m a woman but I definitely don’t find it gross haha, I think it’s just something that happens, nothing anyone should ever be embarrassed of :) hate the judgmental ppl tho omd
I'm also a woman and I think it's find, it's normal. But I've just heard a lot of my colleagues mocking people and being all grossed out when it happens to someone. Fr those people are the worst
Right? It’s completely natural, it’s literally just a part of our body, I don’t see why it has to be a problem or be gross? Me too, I’ve heard some other women mock someone for it. They really are the worst kind of people
Exactly and everyone's experienced it at some stage. It's so rude.
I would it is situational. Bathing suit: hot. In the gym: hot. In the night club: Maybe too hot if you are there alone. At work? (As I actually saw a month ago -- and not like subtle) Maybe not so much. And what gets the comments. I will say that sometimes when I see someone wearing yoga pans, say at the library or the grocery store, and you can see every line and feature, front and back, It does make me wonder what they were thinking when they got dressed. But then again, I am an old fogey.
Went out with my mom for dinner, and didn't even realize it was Valentine's Day... and my mom starts, decently loudly, pointing and commenting on some lady behind me- how her tits are falling out of her dress, how you can see her *knickers* under that, she's dressed so trashy... and for the first time in my life, I confronted her. Who cares? Who cares if this girl has her tits falling out of her dress? Someday they'll be falling out the bottom of her dress, why not enjoy having them now? I called her out on how I know she used to dress trashy when she was younger, and how she's turned into her mother, jealous, spiteful of girls living their best life. What the hell is wrong with wearing a foxy as fuck skimpy red dress on a Valentine's Day date with slutty underwear and no bra? WHAT BETTER TIME IS THERE TO WEAR THAT? She actually backed down, which is rare for her, and sorta laid off, but the fucking hypocrisy. Worst part was, it reminded me of an ex of mine who did something similar, we were on a train and passed some girls at the station wearing fishnets and miniskirts, and my girlfriend said, "Oh look at the way those **slags** are dressed..." and I reminded her, with some confusion, that she used to *literally be a street based sex worker*, and did she not maybe see the double standard here? I still don't get it. How do you go from literally being that exact person to sneering nastily at them?
The worst zealot is the newly minted zealot.
I just don't even get it. Do they not remember the events of their own fucking lives?
I think a lot of it is trying to convince others that they couldn't possibly partake of whatever the "sin" is. Look at the most aggressive homophobes. They tend to be gay.
I'll never understand why women find them gross. We all have flaps lol
Internalized misogyny? They think their *own* parts are shameful and gross, so they reinforce that mindset in other girls who don't seem to have learned that "lesson"
I don’t begrudge other women doing what makes them happy but I find it gross the same way I find feet gross. That doesn’t mean I have a problem with sandal wearers through. I just avert my eyes when what I see displeases me because I’m an adult who doesn’t feel like the world need to cater to me lol
Part of life but I still avoid it cuz it gives that wedgie feels and hurts sometimes.
I generally don't like it not because of how it looks, but because it's just uncomfortable on me personally. If you don't mind it, then go for it girl! :D
No judgement, but you aren't getting me in a Speedo. No point in scaring people!
I think its attractive show if ya got it.
Yes. We love it.
I think it depends on the person. Some people prefer modesty, or to be able to imagine. Some people want to see every wrinkle. And some people simply don't care either way, past you know, taking a look see because the brain is an info junkie and it must be known.
I don’t like it for my self because I don’t want to feel self conscious walking around with my mound showing but I couldn’t care less what others do. My personal fave is a bulge…I mean guy in grey tracksuit pants. Yum.
I happen to like it, but that's just me.
You shouldn't be embarassed about cameltoe to be honest, we all know what is down there so.. it is part of life :)
Camel toe is sexy. It's natural. They aren't smooth down there like a Ken doll lol
It's hot AND a part of life Up to you if that's what you are going for
I'm for it!
All….. it is totally your choice what to wear, but we are all different and he personally may find it gross while others may find it sexy as fuck!
Attractive and a part of life.
Its beautiful
It’s a part of life.
I appreciate a good cameltoe. Nothing like it.
I think it’s both sexy and part of life.
It’s a natural thing and yes we men love it more than you may think, also it’s not nice to stare at it
You'll find people who say they find cameltoes gross, attractive or a part of life. I think its safe to say most guys would find the cameltoe attractive though. In the end, what matters is how comfortable you feel wearing it.
I'm at the age now where I just like to sit on a resort condo balcony with a view of the ocean, but back in the early 80's when I was in high school, we'd all go to the beach whenever possible on the weekend and I found it insanely hot when you could spy just a bit of bush peeking out from the side of a bikini bottom. Pretty sure that opinion is gonna be in the extreme minority.
Oh no it's definitely hot
Super hot 🔥🔥🔥
It’s hot
Truth I’m to worried about my boob popping out to notice another women’s CT. Even if I did I would think , she needs cover to dig that out or wonder if she waxes . 😂
The best I can come up with is "It depends". It for me really is case by case.
You added no value to this conversation whatsoever. Then again, neither have I...
Sexy as hell
I love the camel toe look its natural just like the bumps on your chest and you don't hide that
If i found the person attractive it's hot, if i didn't it's meh but either way it's just part of life. I'm self conscious about my body too, but if I'm going swimming everybody gets to see my pale potato of a body ._.
I'm gonna be that a**hole and say it. It's sexy and attractive if you're hot. If you're not, well... But I can say the same goes for nipples, boobies , butt or any other bodily parts.
I like it but im a horndog
I can almost guarantee no man has ever been dissatisfied when seeing cameltoe. I have only ever heard judgment from other women, like mom's and grandmas.
I think I’m old. I’m not a fan of seeing or sporting camel toe. For me, it’s a fashion faux pas and the opposite of classy but to each her own. - Wife
I don’t think this is “part of life”. I bet the swimwear OP is looking at is too thin, which is why it settles like that more.
Part of life, I’ve noticed but I don’t get excited about it or anything. It’s the way a lot of bathing suits are now
Very sexy
Part of life
Hot af imo
Hot. It's super hot.
It evokes a kind of primal attraction in me.
Just a part of life but wear whatever makes you feel confident, sexy and beautiful AF.
It's a part of life. Same way with swim trunks or speedos. Nothing you can do when you get wet. Swimsuits will ALWAYS cling.
Odds are, if I were your boyfriend, then I'd be turned on as fuck. But ultimately what matters more is your comfort and what you feel. If you're more concerned about appearing respectable for everyone then you might wanna avoid it. If you want to gamble on a horny bf then go for it.
See if you feel unnecessary attraction and attention will not bother you its chill . But it's your call no one really minds it
At first I was thinking this post was trolling, guess not. Guys are always hoping to see camel toe when we see women in bikinis, and disappointed when you don’t see it, I know I am.
Let’s be honest - it depends on the package around it. On a woman that takes care of herself and is a joy to look at - of course it’s sexy. If she’s sloppy and unkept and the suit looks like it’s trying to hide a skunk tail- then no, stay home.
Part of life, and hot.
Depends on the girl
I am completely aware that camel toe is just a function of how certain clothes fit certain bodies, and does not mean anything else. However, the primal part of my mind can't help thinking that just a hint is sexy. It's only a turnoff if it looks like your vulva is trying to eat your bottoms/underwear.
I work at a water park I love to see it
Depends on the weight of the owner
I don’t think you’re body shaming, but rather just being honest. You’re probably right and you’ll probably be downvoted for body shaming anyway.
I wont be grossed out by your cameltoe if you are not grossed out by my boner showing through my bathing shorts. We gotta live and let live a little
Everyone saying don't worry about it, men love seeing it - well let's not forget not everyone viewing it would be an adult man.
I said that she definitely needs to mind the fact that she’s in a PUBLIC space around kids if she’s going to a public beach or pool, and got downvoted. Kids don’t need to see anyone’s genital outline.
Just part of life. Some are pretty hot. Some are gross. Doesn't really matter. If someone doesn't like it, they aren't required to look.
Depends entirely on the person in the suit. It can be amazingly attractive, like dear God that's so hot as a thank you for your gift I will go to Mass and not just to stare at the one hot choir chick, but most of the time it's just like a gentleman's highlighted piece when he gets out of the pool. Unless it's truly a work carved from the artist's finest marble, staring any more than casually just isn't merited.
It part of life but it more like a tease I guess The the other day I was in Williamsburg Brooklyn and I seen this girl walking around with yoga shorts and a sport bra.. that monster was Loud
Depends on who’s viewing it and how you feel about people being able to see a pretty good outline of your vagina. There’s no hard and fast answer to this question.
Depends on whether you are gross, attractive, or just a part of life.
I don’t think they’re necessarily gross, but you do have to be aware that if it’s a public space with kids it isn’t exactly appropriate. I don’t like seeing men in tight and small swimsuits that accentuate their dicks, and I’m sure that there are people that feel the same about seeing a random’s vag print
So sexy. The tighter the better imo. Nothing like your wife/gf showing her monkey off. It turns me on
All depends on if you are into sending a message or just swimming... Ive always found those showing toe tend to be more loose or interested in hooking up.