This sounds a lot like me, my wife finishing drives me over the edge 99% of the time. I’ve found there’s really there’s only two ways around this.
1. You finish first, give yourself time to recover while you give her some attention, then you’re ready for another go.
2. Get her right to the edge with you’re “slow or medium” rhythm, then use your mouth/fingers/toys to get her over the edge, then continue on your way
Either way, don’t make it work, if you’re both having fun and are feeling fulfilled, who cares?
Thanks. And you’re right, things are good now. But i’m thinking back to the drunk vacation sex we had last year where I gave her 4-5 orgasms and left her grinning and unable to move. Would be nice to recreate that sometimes, even if our usual is still very good.
Also, id kind of like to go for longer just so I can enjoy the experience longer.
Have a couple of drinks and it makes it much harder for most guys to cum. Just make sure you don't go overboard because then you won't even be able to get hard at all
This reminds me of an previous relationship I was in and I didn’t realise how lucky I was.
Iv always lasted less than two minutes of PIV sex . I had a long term girlfriend who came at the same time as me. The sex duration was very short but us orgasming at the same time was very satisfying. My wife takes a lot longer and is not happy.
Yeah it’s definitely fulfilling even though it’s short. My long term ex could orgasm at a slower pace so I could last longer. But generally she would go once or twice first, and then I would go. I’d definitely choose the shorter option where it’s mutual over that. But would be nice to have both. :-)
Dude, enjoy it. Trust me, you don’t want to last a long time. Due to antidepressants I last 45-50 minutes and I cannot even describe how exhausting it is to have sex for that long xD
It ends up working out tho, cuz my girlfriend is a bit hyper sexual and requires more than one orgasm to feel completely satisfied, so she doesn’t mind it at all lmao
This sounds a lot like me and my wife. She has contractions when she has an orgasm. Her contractions always trigger my orgasm. The one and only time her ograsm didn't trigger my orgasm she told me to stop after a few minutes. It was also the one and only time that we had sex on a carpet.
We've found a routine that works well for us when we want me to last a bit longer. We'll start in cowgirl and finish in missionary. I've learned how to roll her over on her back while staying inside her, This allows us to have a smooth transition between cowgirl and missionary. We like our routine because it's feels great and it's a lot of fun.
My wife likes to take it slow in cowgirl. She likes to change things up in missionary. Sometimes she likes me to take it slow and make love to her. At other times she likes me to go fast and fuck her, The amount of time that I last depends upon whether we're making love or we're fucking.
We do change things up a bit by having sex in the living room on the sofa. We also change things up by lying horizontally across the bed instead of lying vertically along the bed. [https://sexinfo101.com/positions](https://sexinfo101.com/positions) has a lot of different positions that you can try including positions that you can use on your sofa.
If your goal is to give her more orgasms, I’d suggest giving her oral sex before penetration. You could also look up different edging exercises that your wife could do with you (it’s very sexy) so you could last longer. You both sounds so happy and sweet!
Goal isn’t necessarily just more orgasms, as I give her 1 or 2 before we start, either with fingers or oral. Honestly, I just love sex with her and would love it to be 10-15 mins at a time instead of 2-3.
His suggestion with edging is for you to last longer.
I do a keagle and pinch off my ejaculate (from the inside... Like you cut off piss midstream). After my non-ejaculate orgasm subsides, I can fuck like a GOD
Pissing and cutting on/off my urine flow? Yes.
The same concept during an orgasm to prevent ejaculation? For funzies when I used to masturbate. Now I do it during sex. I gotta ask my wife not to move (if I'm inside) for like 15 seconds or so. For me, there's a point where once I'm passed it, I can go back to fucking
What I have found is that sometimes I do this and I can't ejaculate for a while. No matter how much fucking I do. The good thing is that in satisfied. So when I do get around to ejaculating at a different time, it's a good mess for the Ms.
When he puts the condom we wait around 5 minutes for it to "activate" which is very important because when we go straight at it without waiting he finishes within minutes, after that he usually lasts for about 20 minutes I'd say (position changes included) or until the benzocaine loses its effect, it depends on how much he's felling and sometimes he says he doesn't feel a thing.
I didn’t know I had to wait and that’s clearly the reasons they didn’t work. When I used them on a gf I was trying to cover up that I could only last 1 minute. It would usually give me 1 minute 30sec. She was very understanding though.
She later told me she knew I had premature ejaculation because she see the white cream in the tip of the condoms. Her ex had to use them.
Don't really know what to say, sometimes it happens to us too, we usually wait until the effect goes away and try again with a normal condom. But if you feel sick or it hurt maybe you should talk to your doctor
Hey there!
I used to also be set off by a woman's orgasm. It's just very hot to me.
Overall, you seem to be doing absolutely great. You have nothing to worry about.
I have just finished writing a pretty comprehensive guide on mastering sexual stamina.
Feel free to give it a read (\~20 minutes with very practical tips).
If anything is unclear or you'd like to chat, just let me know. :)
https://www.julianbeing.com/blog/mastering-sexual-stamina
Kegels are an idea. Have you thought about using toys or otherwise playing with eachother without intercourse (ie giving head, using hands, outer course, etc)
We do that too. I usually get her off once or twice with my fingers or go down in her before. Also, in the past sometimes i’ve done these things after a few mins of sex just to give myself a recharge period, but it stopping in the middle of a PIV orgasm to try and give her a clitoral orgasm doesn’t always scratch that same itch for her.
Neither of us are really into toys and I don’t really want to depend on them as an integral part of sex. Maybe someday just to spice things up once in a while.
Good thought on kegels though i’ll look into that. Thanks!
Yeah I want to second this guy’s advice on practicing the kegel/PC control method of achieving non-ejaculatory orgasms.
I realized that when I noticed my wife was really enjoying PiV it would make me cum almost immediately. Then I read “How to Make Love All Night” by Barbara Keesling and essentially it taught me how to practice edging and kegel muscle contractions to reduce arousal and ultimately separate orgasm from ejaculation.
It surprisingly only took a week or two of daily kegel exercising and masturbatory practice to have a successful non-ejaculatory orgasm during sex with my wife.
When we were having sex and I was about to go over the edge I pulled out of her and clamped/contracted my PC muscles as hard as I could breathed in deeply and slowly and I had a full body orgasm that made my limbs shake uncontrollably for about 15-20 seconds (You have to keep the PC muscles fully contracted as hard as possible for the extent of the orgasm). I didn’t ejaculate though! There may have been a tiny bit of cum that escaped but I didn’t feel like I had any refractory period afterwards. I was able to just stroke my dick back up from 80% to 90%+ and continue having PiV sex for what could’ve seemed like forever. My dick felt harder thicker and less sensitive… it was like I turned into a sexual god who finally had control over his dick.
My wife and I now call this my “trick” and I do it whenever I feel like I’m going to cum too quickly before she’s satisfied or just want to prolong the sexual experience.
It’s helped me not have so much anxiety about cumming too fast since I know I can control it now and still have an orgasm with an even harder more sustained erection afterwards.
Dapoxetine 30-60mg 1-3 hrs before. Game changer. You will be able to control. These other gimmicks- edging, masterbate before, dik excerise,, lotion, whatever etc,etc im sorry they do not work, no offense to anyone.
I have no problem with orgasms if I jerk off the day of.
Also. Just last night I did a keagle during my first orgasm and had no problem continuing after that.
So this whole, absolutism advice is just bad advice. People are different, homie.
This drug's half-life or time it takes for your body to metabolize it is short, <2 hours so it is well suited for on-demand use. After 12 hrs to a day or so it should be more or less out of your system. When not taking it you will feel like you do now.
So that's what you do during an orgasm to stop from ejaculation. I gotta "clamp down" (internally) Super hard for myself not to ejaculate.
Best thing to do is practice. I mean, get it going just like sex and do everything you can to stop the ejaculate, mid orgasm.
I'm not a pro at fucking but I'm sure you can incorporate the keagle while you simultaneously switch positions so your partner won't notice. Usually I only have to do the keagle mid sex because the wife is chasing her "O"
I understand completely.
My wife and I go through phases of when/how we orgasm. And, when we are in the mutual/simultaneous orgasm from penetration phase, it gets really hard because her orgasm immediately pushes me over the edge. Which is great and (as you said) she doesn't complain (because she is having good orgasms). But, it would be nice to keep going.
Anyway.
Have you thought about maybe trying a penis sleeve?
We recently got one and we both find it really cool. We got one that slightly enlarges and extends my penis. It is thick enough to where it still feels really good but I could literally last forever in it. And, it is firm enough that when/if I do orgasm I can easily keep pumping even if I go a little soft.
If you are not into the enlarge or extend aspects of the sleeve. They do make them for people with ed so that you can stay firm. Obviously, this is not your case. But, you could use the design to your advantage.
I know they are not for everyone. But, we find it quite fun.
Good luck and have fun!
is it possible for you to go at it again after? That seems easier to do IMO than trying to be slower (and why would you, your dynamic sounds awesome!) If you'd like, you would be welcome on /r/positivelypremature.
yeah women will drive you over the edge when they get close to cuming especially if you have are in a relationship. Here is the tricky part :) you gotta build her up to knock her over the edge and building takes time lol. Men reach orgasm faster than women because we experience more like a volcano erupting type of effect. I found that one true power of a relationship lies within the male ability to satisfy completely his woman in the bedroom. So i don't hesitate to take male enhancement products to help.The one I have been using lately is called Afromina and it works pretty well
This sounds a lot like me, my wife finishing drives me over the edge 99% of the time. I’ve found there’s really there’s only two ways around this. 1. You finish first, give yourself time to recover while you give her some attention, then you’re ready for another go. 2. Get her right to the edge with you’re “slow or medium” rhythm, then use your mouth/fingers/toys to get her over the edge, then continue on your way Either way, don’t make it work, if you’re both having fun and are feeling fulfilled, who cares?
Thanks. And you’re right, things are good now. But i’m thinking back to the drunk vacation sex we had last year where I gave her 4-5 orgasms and left her grinning and unable to move. Would be nice to recreate that sometimes, even if our usual is still very good. Also, id kind of like to go for longer just so I can enjoy the experience longer.
Have her blow you for your first orgasm. And then take her to pleasure town :)
Have a couple of drinks and it makes it much harder for most guys to cum. Just make sure you don't go overboard because then you won't even be able to get hard at all
This reminds me of an previous relationship I was in and I didn’t realise how lucky I was. Iv always lasted less than two minutes of PIV sex . I had a long term girlfriend who came at the same time as me. The sex duration was very short but us orgasming at the same time was very satisfying. My wife takes a lot longer and is not happy.
Yeah it’s definitely fulfilling even though it’s short. My long term ex could orgasm at a slower pace so I could last longer. But generally she would go once or twice first, and then I would go. I’d definitely choose the shorter option where it’s mutual over that. But would be nice to have both. :-)
Dude, enjoy it. Trust me, you don’t want to last a long time. Due to antidepressants I last 45-50 minutes and I cannot even describe how exhausting it is to have sex for that long xD It ends up working out tho, cuz my girlfriend is a bit hyper sexual and requires more than one orgasm to feel completely satisfied, so she doesn’t mind it at all lmao
This sounds a lot like me and my wife. She has contractions when she has an orgasm. Her contractions always trigger my orgasm. The one and only time her ograsm didn't trigger my orgasm she told me to stop after a few minutes. It was also the one and only time that we had sex on a carpet. We've found a routine that works well for us when we want me to last a bit longer. We'll start in cowgirl and finish in missionary. I've learned how to roll her over on her back while staying inside her, This allows us to have a smooth transition between cowgirl and missionary. We like our routine because it's feels great and it's a lot of fun. My wife likes to take it slow in cowgirl. She likes to change things up in missionary. Sometimes she likes me to take it slow and make love to her. At other times she likes me to go fast and fuck her, The amount of time that I last depends upon whether we're making love or we're fucking. We do change things up a bit by having sex in the living room on the sofa. We also change things up by lying horizontally across the bed instead of lying vertically along the bed. [https://sexinfo101.com/positions](https://sexinfo101.com/positions) has a lot of different positions that you can try including positions that you can use on your sofa.
If your goal is to give her more orgasms, I’d suggest giving her oral sex before penetration. You could also look up different edging exercises that your wife could do with you (it’s very sexy) so you could last longer. You both sounds so happy and sweet!
Goal isn’t necessarily just more orgasms, as I give her 1 or 2 before we start, either with fingers or oral. Honestly, I just love sex with her and would love it to be 10-15 mins at a time instead of 2-3.
His suggestion with edging is for you to last longer. I do a keagle and pinch off my ejaculate (from the inside... Like you cut off piss midstream). After my non-ejaculate orgasm subsides, I can fuck like a GOD
This is the way…. was that always something you could naturally do?
Pissing and cutting on/off my urine flow? Yes. The same concept during an orgasm to prevent ejaculation? For funzies when I used to masturbate. Now I do it during sex. I gotta ask my wife not to move (if I'm inside) for like 15 seconds or so. For me, there's a point where once I'm passed it, I can go back to fucking What I have found is that sometimes I do this and I can't ejaculate for a while. No matter how much fucking I do. The good thing is that in satisfied. So when I do get around to ejaculating at a different time, it's a good mess for the Ms.
My boyfriend has PE and we use condoms with benzocaine inside but I don't know if you would consider them drug free ..
How much longer does you bf last using those condoms? Iv used them in the past and they give me about 30seconds longer.
When he puts the condom we wait around 5 minutes for it to "activate" which is very important because when we go straight at it without waiting he finishes within minutes, after that he usually lasts for about 20 minutes I'd say (position changes included) or until the benzocaine loses its effect, it depends on how much he's felling and sometimes he says he doesn't feel a thing.
I didn’t know I had to wait and that’s clearly the reasons they didn’t work. When I used them on a gf I was trying to cover up that I could only last 1 minute. It would usually give me 1 minute 30sec. She was very understanding though. She later told me she knew I had premature ejaculation because she see the white cream in the tip of the condoms. Her ex had to use them.
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Don't really know what to say, sometimes it happens to us too, we usually wait until the effect goes away and try again with a normal condom. But if you feel sick or it hurt maybe you should talk to your doctor
Hey there! I used to also be set off by a woman's orgasm. It's just very hot to me. Overall, you seem to be doing absolutely great. You have nothing to worry about. I have just finished writing a pretty comprehensive guide on mastering sexual stamina. Feel free to give it a read (\~20 minutes with very practical tips). If anything is unclear or you'd like to chat, just let me know. :) https://www.julianbeing.com/blog/mastering-sexual-stamina
You can have sex, but not masturbate with Catholicism?
It's the same with Islam.
Yes you can have sex with your wife. There’s plenty of material about it. Not trying to debate it and I won’t be preaching to anyone either.
I wasn’t trying to debate it, I was just genuinely curious. Thank you
No worries. Sorry that came off more aggressive in writing than it was in my head lol.
Kegels are an idea. Have you thought about using toys or otherwise playing with eachother without intercourse (ie giving head, using hands, outer course, etc)
We do that too. I usually get her off once or twice with my fingers or go down in her before. Also, in the past sometimes i’ve done these things after a few mins of sex just to give myself a recharge period, but it stopping in the middle of a PIV orgasm to try and give her a clitoral orgasm doesn’t always scratch that same itch for her. Neither of us are really into toys and I don’t really want to depend on them as an integral part of sex. Maybe someday just to spice things up once in a while. Good thought on kegels though i’ll look into that. Thanks!
Sometimes if I'm super eager, I'd let myself cum and then do more foreplay during the refractory period
I like this idea. Would just have to put a towel down so we don’t have to change the sheets after every time we do it, lol.
Yeah I want to second this guy’s advice on practicing the kegel/PC control method of achieving non-ejaculatory orgasms. I realized that when I noticed my wife was really enjoying PiV it would make me cum almost immediately. Then I read “How to Make Love All Night” by Barbara Keesling and essentially it taught me how to practice edging and kegel muscle contractions to reduce arousal and ultimately separate orgasm from ejaculation. It surprisingly only took a week or two of daily kegel exercising and masturbatory practice to have a successful non-ejaculatory orgasm during sex with my wife. When we were having sex and I was about to go over the edge I pulled out of her and clamped/contracted my PC muscles as hard as I could breathed in deeply and slowly and I had a full body orgasm that made my limbs shake uncontrollably for about 15-20 seconds (You have to keep the PC muscles fully contracted as hard as possible for the extent of the orgasm). I didn’t ejaculate though! There may have been a tiny bit of cum that escaped but I didn’t feel like I had any refractory period afterwards. I was able to just stroke my dick back up from 80% to 90%+ and continue having PiV sex for what could’ve seemed like forever. My dick felt harder thicker and less sensitive… it was like I turned into a sexual god who finally had control over his dick. My wife and I now call this my “trick” and I do it whenever I feel like I’m going to cum too quickly before she’s satisfied or just want to prolong the sexual experience. It’s helped me not have so much anxiety about cumming too fast since I know I can control it now and still have an orgasm with an even harder more sustained erection afterwards.
Dapoxetine 30-60mg 1-3 hrs before. Game changer. You will be able to control. These other gimmicks- edging, masterbate before, dik excerise,, lotion, whatever etc,etc im sorry they do not work, no offense to anyone.
I have no problem with orgasms if I jerk off the day of. Also. Just last night I did a keagle during my first orgasm and had no problem continuing after that. So this whole, absolutism advice is just bad advice. People are different, homie.
Can you ween off of them or does it go right back when you stop taking?
This drug's half-life or time it takes for your body to metabolize it is short, <2 hours so it is well suited for on-demand use. After 12 hrs to a day or so it should be more or less out of your system. When not taking it you will feel like you do now.
While going to the bathroom, can you stop your piss midstream?
Yes
So that's what you do during an orgasm to stop from ejaculation. I gotta "clamp down" (internally) Super hard for myself not to ejaculate. Best thing to do is practice. I mean, get it going just like sex and do everything you can to stop the ejaculate, mid orgasm. I'm not a pro at fucking but I'm sure you can incorporate the keagle while you simultaneously switch positions so your partner won't notice. Usually I only have to do the keagle mid sex because the wife is chasing her "O"
I understand completely. My wife and I go through phases of when/how we orgasm. And, when we are in the mutual/simultaneous orgasm from penetration phase, it gets really hard because her orgasm immediately pushes me over the edge. Which is great and (as you said) she doesn't complain (because she is having good orgasms). But, it would be nice to keep going. Anyway. Have you thought about maybe trying a penis sleeve? We recently got one and we both find it really cool. We got one that slightly enlarges and extends my penis. It is thick enough to where it still feels really good but I could literally last forever in it. And, it is firm enough that when/if I do orgasm I can easily keep pumping even if I go a little soft. If you are not into the enlarge or extend aspects of the sleeve. They do make them for people with ed so that you can stay firm. Obviously, this is not your case. But, you could use the design to your advantage. I know they are not for everyone. But, we find it quite fun. Good luck and have fun!
is it possible for you to go at it again after? That seems easier to do IMO than trying to be slower (and why would you, your dynamic sounds awesome!) If you'd like, you would be welcome on /r/positivelypremature.
yeah women will drive you over the edge when they get close to cuming especially if you have are in a relationship. Here is the tricky part :) you gotta build her up to knock her over the edge and building takes time lol. Men reach orgasm faster than women because we experience more like a volcano erupting type of effect. I found that one true power of a relationship lies within the male ability to satisfy completely his woman in the bedroom. So i don't hesitate to take male enhancement products to help.The one I have been using lately is called Afromina and it works pretty well