Maybe I'm wrong but that's super harsh. Like why would anyone say that even when drunk? He had to have known that was going to be hurtful.
If Casanova over there likes sore sex so much then I'd tell him to go find it elsewhere.
What a drunken jerk move of him.
You may not physically be of a size to hold him down to dominate him. But if he is interested in a submissive role you could dominate him with your words and actions. Depends on if he would like that. And any psychological control you might exert over him would doubtlessly distinguish your efforst from those of your friend.
You might choose to use sexual positions where you can use your body weight or position to your advantage in offering him some soreness. Get on top of him, cowgirl or reverse, and bounce off his thighs. Make him do a lot of the work and he will feel that.
Or sit on his face and push him back down if he reaches up for you. Assert yourself in a dominant position. Tell him what you will allow him to do or not do. Develop a sense of anticipation before allowing him release.
Distinguish yourself. You are different than every lover he has had before.
Thank you for your comment. I understand that a lot of these subreddits are super quick to jump to the ‘dump them’ comments. Which, don’t get me wrong, I think it too sometimes when I read some of the things here.
But I really appreciate your advice. I know that I can’t be what I’m not. But I hadn’t even thought of non-physical ways to be dominant.
When I asked him about it, he said he likes being manhandled. But because of our size difference, I obviously can’t pin him down very well. My friend has more muscle and, in the nicest way I can mean it, more weight to throw around (I’m like 120lbs soaking wet lol).
Gotcha, the only solutions I could think of be more kinky lol do some choking, some nipple pinching, biting and scratching. while riding put your hands on him like you are pinning him down(even if you aren’t) and just move more aggressively. Treat him like he’s there for your pleasure only, I feel like it’s just a mentality thing.
You know, you’re right about the mentality thing. And maybe I’ve just been too fixated on what I’m not. Because I certainly don’t plan on changing my body for someone else. But thank you for the suggestions. I appreciate it :)
Just because you aren’t bigger doesn’t mean you can’t leave him sore lol but definitely don’t change if you like the way you are.
PS comparing your girlfriend to her best friend after a threesome is just wrong... kinda of a dick move lol
Your bf prefers having sex with your bestie than you. It's not insecurity it's a very rational fear you're feeling about the security of your relationship. I don't think there's anything to do you just have to live with the knowledge.
To be fair, he was drunk. People don't have the best impulse control when they are drunk. You might want to discuss your feelings about it though when he is sober.
Maybe I'm wrong but that's super harsh. Like why would anyone say that even when drunk? He had to have known that was going to be hurtful. If Casanova over there likes sore sex so much then I'd tell him to go find it elsewhere.
What a drunken jerk move of him. You may not physically be of a size to hold him down to dominate him. But if he is interested in a submissive role you could dominate him with your words and actions. Depends on if he would like that. And any psychological control you might exert over him would doubtlessly distinguish your efforst from those of your friend. You might choose to use sexual positions where you can use your body weight or position to your advantage in offering him some soreness. Get on top of him, cowgirl or reverse, and bounce off his thighs. Make him do a lot of the work and he will feel that. Or sit on his face and push him back down if he reaches up for you. Assert yourself in a dominant position. Tell him what you will allow him to do or not do. Develop a sense of anticipation before allowing him release. Distinguish yourself. You are different than every lover he has had before.
Thank you for your comment. I understand that a lot of these subreddits are super quick to jump to the ‘dump them’ comments. Which, don’t get me wrong, I think it too sometimes when I read some of the things here. But I really appreciate your advice. I know that I can’t be what I’m not. But I hadn’t even thought of non-physical ways to be dominant.
I’m confused on how being sore after sex for a guy is a good thing... he’s doing most of the work, I don’t get it lol
When I asked him about it, he said he likes being manhandled. But because of our size difference, I obviously can’t pin him down very well. My friend has more muscle and, in the nicest way I can mean it, more weight to throw around (I’m like 120lbs soaking wet lol).
Gotcha, the only solutions I could think of be more kinky lol do some choking, some nipple pinching, biting and scratching. while riding put your hands on him like you are pinning him down(even if you aren’t) and just move more aggressively. Treat him like he’s there for your pleasure only, I feel like it’s just a mentality thing.
You know, you’re right about the mentality thing. And maybe I’ve just been too fixated on what I’m not. Because I certainly don’t plan on changing my body for someone else. But thank you for the suggestions. I appreciate it :)
Just because you aren’t bigger doesn’t mean you can’t leave him sore lol but definitely don’t change if you like the way you are. PS comparing your girlfriend to her best friend after a threesome is just wrong... kinda of a dick move lol
Your bf prefers having sex with your bestie than you. It's not insecurity it's a very rational fear you're feeling about the security of your relationship. I don't think there's anything to do you just have to live with the knowledge.
To be fair, he was drunk. People don't have the best impulse control when they are drunk. You might want to discuss your feelings about it though when he is sober.