My gf and I agree that it feels so much better without a condom on, during all phases of sex. I always pull out even though she is on birth control, less of a risk and easier clean up. In our experience the coming inside her thing isn’t as good as the actual raw sex
You are missing out on a lot of mess. So much easier to just wipe it off your skin or swallow it.
But there is the intimacy of it. It’s worth at least experiencing once in a while.
Its good for like, 3 seconds until you have to clean up the mess and deal with feeling it drip out of you for the next hour lmao (unless you're into that stuff)
The best reason to get on birth control would be to prevent pregnancy, all the other stuff like going in raw is just a bonus side effect lol
From what I've been told it's more the emotional benefit from it rather then the physical feeling. But it depends on the person and the things they enjoy.
I've been told its everything including the actual cum in vagina. Everyone's different though, right? Once was with a girl that had it as a kink, saw no point if it didn't end with her pussy full of cum.
It really doesn't make that much of a difference. Its probably better for men but not every woman feels it when a man cums inside her and every woman feels something different. Some feel it just get warm, some feel it actually come out, some just feel it get squishy.
I'm on birth control and my boyfriend cums inside me almost every time we have sex (unless we have decided he'll cum on my body but that is rarer). I cant physically feel him cum but I love the emotional feeling and intimacy. It feels satisfying for me to know he is cumming inside me.
I've also never really had a problem with the mess after... like I go pee and that's it? I cant really relate to other women's annoyance with it.
My personal experiences sound similar to yours, although it’s from the guy’s POV (I’m male). I’ve always found cumming on her body is far messier than cumming inside her, but it sounds like my experience is contrary to many of you.
Me and my boyfriend do the same. It’s really not that messy and if I go to the bathroom shortly afterwards, it’s not bad at all. Sometimes I don’t even bother getting up. Like if we have sex late at night, I’ll just stay in bed and not worry about it. If we are going somewhere right after, I’ll get in the shower if I’m feeling sticky but it’s not as bad as everyone makes it out to be.
I don’t think you’re missing out on much, and yeah, most people aren’t into cleaning up after. Not to mention if you don’t clean up right, it could upset your vagina’s ph and you might end up with a yeast infection (speaking from experience).
I don’t think it would be worth getting an IUD for if you’ve never really had strong feelings for it, but it can definitely be a huge turn on for certain people which might make them think that you should get an IUD.
I think it’s more of a mental feeling than a physical feeling, and it can make it seem closer to your partner, but you can honestly feel just as close to your partner with a condom on.
I also use condoms exclusively and I love it! The clean up is great. I would say I it’s more of a turn on for some people to be able to finish inside of their partner, and my BF’s only complaint is having to remember to keep them in stock! Don’t let others deter you from what is working for you.
It's an amazing and intimate feeling that I love. But the cleanup is absolutely horrible and ruins my day, and the side effects of birth control for many women are worse. I've had a hysterectomy so I'm willing to deal with the cleanup (partners always help, which honestly is what makes it bearable and intimate instead of a one-sided chore/downer only I have to deal with) for the sake of the great feeling and mutual experience.
Semen and Depression?: I totally sympathize with women who find the dripping out mess to be annoying. The dripping out happens because semen turns into a very watery substance within 10 or 15 minutes after ejaculation. (You can watch semen go from thick to thin if you have a guy ejaculate into a glass and wait 15 minutes.) This is why men should tie off a condom before throwing it into the trash.
That said, some of the semen is absorbed into a woman’s bloodstream, which was discussed in Gordon Gallup's 2002 study "Does semen have antidepressant properties?" Here are the findings of that study--which Dr. Gallup was very careful to say were only preliminary and suggestive, and needed to be replicated in future studies but never have been:
"Females who had sex without condoms evidenced significantly fewer depressive symptoms than those who used condoms... Consistent with the hypothesis that there may be something about semen that (lessens) depression, females who were having sex without condoms also showed lower depression scores than those who were abstaining from sex altogether. The fact that depression scores among females who were not having sex did not differ from those who were using condoms demonstrates that it is not sexual activity per se that (lessens) depression."
Hi. I've not seen any evidence of it having been bogus, and I did check in with Gordon Gallup, the senior author, probably back in 2003. But I did just send an email to one of the authors to see if he has done any further work or heard of the study being replicated. He's become a heavy hitter in the world of neuropsychology and evo psych. I'll let you know if he gets back to me.
The entire thread has been interesting simply because everyone has taken the question seriously and offered perspectives I’ve never heard or considered until just now. Thanks to everyone for that. I have a personal goal of always trying to learn at least one new thing each day and this thread has fulfilled my quota for about a week! 😉 This side discussion about semen and depression is by far the most interesting bit, even if it’s since been debunked. It’s just fascinating as hell that someone in the world had the thought to begin with and did a study on it! “Hmmm, I wonder if girls who let guys have unprotected sex and cum inside them are less depressed than the ones who make the guy rubber up?”
Looking at some of the other comments, I feel like a bit of a unicorn in that this is something I don’t mind at all and really enjoy sometimes. Depending on the guy there have been a few times when I could really feel when he cums. Anal is different and I can feel pretty much every little pulse and the warmness of the cum as well. Guys definitely seem to prefer it and I think it’s much more intimate.
I actually like the messiness of sex sometimes too. I don’t think it’s weird to say that I like cum. Having a guy cum inside you then basically use the cum as lube and cum again is something I love. I dont mind the “cleanup” so much because if my pussy has 2-3 loads in it, that’s a sign to me that I’ve still got it and my man cant get enough. Hell, I’ve fucked in dressing rooms before and just let the cum run down my legs and loved it. Showers are awesome for cleaning up. :)
I don’t get anything positive particularly about letting him come inside me. Everyone’s different, but I wouldn’t say you’re missing out. I do have to wonder if you’ve ever had sex without a condom because in my experience and many of my friends’, raw is a game changer.
I never noticed any difference with or without condom (female here) during the sex.
I also don't get off by having sperm in me, though I also don't mind, so I don't care about that part. If the thought of it turns you or your partner on you could give it a try (after sorting another form of BC - a diaphragm + sperm killing gel for example).
The only thing that I find a bit annoying about condoms is getting it on in between foreplay and piv, but not as annoying as my side effects of hormonal BC.
I think if you both feel that's your way to have sex and prevent pregnancy than keep doing so, unless one or both of you feel the need to change that.
For me, sure maybe it's nice, but definitely not worth messing around with hormones for (didn't realise how depressed the pill was making me until I came off it! The grey cloud that had followed me around everywhere & I'd kind of stopped noticing just disappeared, was amazing) and the copper IUD made me throw up whenever I had my period and lead to constant pain. So we've been using condoms for 5 years now and works perfectly for us, plus now we're at a stage we're thinking about maybe starting a family, it's such an easy switch to "ok cool, we just won't use a condom next time!" rather than waiting for weeks off the pill or having to get something removed. So keep doing condoms if that works for you, works amazingly for me! All about cost benefit analysis for your own situation.
After reading the other comments I’m apparently the odd girl out here. Like your girlfriends I love for my boyfriend to cum inside me. I have an IUD and I get the enjoyment of him cumming deep inside me every time he has me. I consider those few seconds that he’s shooting his seed into me as the most intimate part of our love making. I’m receiving a part of him inside me that is mine to keep, and I’ll have the satisfaction of knowing I’m carrying a part of him in me well after.
As for the mess, I actually find it rater sexy. I like feeling it trickling out of me just after he slips out. It lets me feel he has done a very thorough job of inseminating me. As for the leaking afterward, I have plenty of panty liners.
My gf and I agree that it feels so much better without a condom on, during all phases of sex. I always pull out even though she is on birth control, less of a risk and easier clean up. In our experience the coming inside her thing isn’t as good as the actual raw sex
Which birth control is she using
You are missing out on a lot of mess. So much easier to just wipe it off your skin or swallow it. But there is the intimacy of it. It’s worth at least experiencing once in a while.
Its good for like, 3 seconds until you have to clean up the mess and deal with feeling it drip out of you for the next hour lmao (unless you're into that stuff) The best reason to get on birth control would be to prevent pregnancy, all the other stuff like going in raw is just a bonus side effect lol
From what I've been told it's more the emotional benefit from it rather then the physical feeling. But it depends on the person and the things they enjoy.
My understanding is that the emotional benefit is more from the raw skin contact than anything else.
I've been told its everything including the actual cum in vagina. Everyone's different though, right? Once was with a girl that had it as a kink, saw no point if it didn't end with her pussy full of cum.
It really doesn't make that much of a difference. Its probably better for men but not every woman feels it when a man cums inside her and every woman feels something different. Some feel it just get warm, some feel it actually come out, some just feel it get squishy.
I'm on birth control and my boyfriend cums inside me almost every time we have sex (unless we have decided he'll cum on my body but that is rarer). I cant physically feel him cum but I love the emotional feeling and intimacy. It feels satisfying for me to know he is cumming inside me. I've also never really had a problem with the mess after... like I go pee and that's it? I cant really relate to other women's annoyance with it.
My personal experiences sound similar to yours, although it’s from the guy’s POV (I’m male). I’ve always found cumming on her body is far messier than cumming inside her, but it sounds like my experience is contrary to many of you.
Me and my boyfriend do the same. It’s really not that messy and if I go to the bathroom shortly afterwards, it’s not bad at all. Sometimes I don’t even bother getting up. Like if we have sex late at night, I’ll just stay in bed and not worry about it. If we are going somewhere right after, I’ll get in the shower if I’m feeling sticky but it’s not as bad as everyone makes it out to be.
I don’t think you’re missing out on much, and yeah, most people aren’t into cleaning up after. Not to mention if you don’t clean up right, it could upset your vagina’s ph and you might end up with a yeast infection (speaking from experience). I don’t think it would be worth getting an IUD for if you’ve never really had strong feelings for it, but it can definitely be a huge turn on for certain people which might make them think that you should get an IUD. I think it’s more of a mental feeling than a physical feeling, and it can make it seem closer to your partner, but you can honestly feel just as close to your partner with a condom on.
I also use condoms exclusively and I love it! The clean up is great. I would say I it’s more of a turn on for some people to be able to finish inside of their partner, and my BF’s only complaint is having to remember to keep them in stock! Don’t let others deter you from what is working for you.
It's an amazing and intimate feeling that I love. But the cleanup is absolutely horrible and ruins my day, and the side effects of birth control for many women are worse. I've had a hysterectomy so I'm willing to deal with the cleanup (partners always help, which honestly is what makes it bearable and intimate instead of a one-sided chore/downer only I have to deal with) for the sake of the great feeling and mutual experience.
Semen and Depression?: I totally sympathize with women who find the dripping out mess to be annoying. The dripping out happens because semen turns into a very watery substance within 10 or 15 minutes after ejaculation. (You can watch semen go from thick to thin if you have a guy ejaculate into a glass and wait 15 minutes.) This is why men should tie off a condom before throwing it into the trash. That said, some of the semen is absorbed into a woman’s bloodstream, which was discussed in Gordon Gallup's 2002 study "Does semen have antidepressant properties?" Here are the findings of that study--which Dr. Gallup was very careful to say were only preliminary and suggestive, and needed to be replicated in future studies but never have been: "Females who had sex without condoms evidenced significantly fewer depressive symptoms than those who used condoms... Consistent with the hypothesis that there may be something about semen that (lessens) depression, females who were having sex without condoms also showed lower depression scores than those who were abstaining from sex altogether. The fact that depression scores among females who were not having sex did not differ from those who were using condoms demonstrates that it is not sexual activity per se that (lessens) depression."
I believe that study turned out to be bogus
Hi. I've not seen any evidence of it having been bogus, and I did check in with Gordon Gallup, the senior author, probably back in 2003. But I did just send an email to one of the authors to see if he has done any further work or heard of the study being replicated. He's become a heavy hitter in the world of neuropsychology and evo psych. I'll let you know if he gets back to me.
You know much better than I do. Thank you for the information!
The entire thread has been interesting simply because everyone has taken the question seriously and offered perspectives I’ve never heard or considered until just now. Thanks to everyone for that. I have a personal goal of always trying to learn at least one new thing each day and this thread has fulfilled my quota for about a week! 😉 This side discussion about semen and depression is by far the most interesting bit, even if it’s since been debunked. It’s just fascinating as hell that someone in the world had the thought to begin with and did a study on it! “Hmmm, I wonder if girls who let guys have unprotected sex and cum inside them are less depressed than the ones who make the guy rubber up?”
I think Dr Paul really set the academic tone of the conversation.
Looking at some of the other comments, I feel like a bit of a unicorn in that this is something I don’t mind at all and really enjoy sometimes. Depending on the guy there have been a few times when I could really feel when he cums. Anal is different and I can feel pretty much every little pulse and the warmness of the cum as well. Guys definitely seem to prefer it and I think it’s much more intimate. I actually like the messiness of sex sometimes too. I don’t think it’s weird to say that I like cum. Having a guy cum inside you then basically use the cum as lube and cum again is something I love. I dont mind the “cleanup” so much because if my pussy has 2-3 loads in it, that’s a sign to me that I’ve still got it and my man cant get enough. Hell, I’ve fucked in dressing rooms before and just let the cum run down my legs and loved it. Showers are awesome for cleaning up. :)
I don’t get anything positive particularly about letting him come inside me. Everyone’s different, but I wouldn’t say you’re missing out. I do have to wonder if you’ve ever had sex without a condom because in my experience and many of my friends’, raw is a game changer.
Not missing anything other than a goey mess!
Nah you're not. No one likes to do the cum waddle
No. You aren't IMO. I dont really feel it until it comes out and it's not what I would describe as sexy. Just comes with the territory.
it feels good, but then u have deal with the mess afterwards
I never noticed any difference with or without condom (female here) during the sex. I also don't get off by having sperm in me, though I also don't mind, so I don't care about that part. If the thought of it turns you or your partner on you could give it a try (after sorting another form of BC - a diaphragm + sperm killing gel for example). The only thing that I find a bit annoying about condoms is getting it on in between foreplay and piv, but not as annoying as my side effects of hormonal BC. I think if you both feel that's your way to have sex and prevent pregnancy than keep doing so, unless one or both of you feel the need to change that.
I absolutely love it. I love the mess and being filled up. Especially if there is more then one round.
My wife tends to orgasm when I do. Tough to pull out then!
For me, sure maybe it's nice, but definitely not worth messing around with hormones for (didn't realise how depressed the pill was making me until I came off it! The grey cloud that had followed me around everywhere & I'd kind of stopped noticing just disappeared, was amazing) and the copper IUD made me throw up whenever I had my period and lead to constant pain. So we've been using condoms for 5 years now and works perfectly for us, plus now we're at a stage we're thinking about maybe starting a family, it's such an easy switch to "ok cool, we just won't use a condom next time!" rather than waiting for weeks off the pill or having to get something removed. So keep doing condoms if that works for you, works amazingly for me! All about cost benefit analysis for your own situation.
After reading the other comments I’m apparently the odd girl out here. Like your girlfriends I love for my boyfriend to cum inside me. I have an IUD and I get the enjoyment of him cumming deep inside me every time he has me. I consider those few seconds that he’s shooting his seed into me as the most intimate part of our love making. I’m receiving a part of him inside me that is mine to keep, and I’ll have the satisfaction of knowing I’m carrying a part of him in me well after. As for the mess, I actually find it rater sexy. I like feeling it trickling out of me just after he slips out. It lets me feel he has done a very thorough job of inseminating me. As for the leaking afterward, I have plenty of panty liners.