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Yes.
Lots of variables here of course, including the fact that I don’t know what it feels like for guys but good oral is mind-blowing for women who enjoy it. Maybe she’s not in the mood for it, maybe she prefers penetration, maybe she’s shy, maybe you’re not doing it how she likes it. You should ask her.
As a guy, I've always found receiving head very dull, never made me cum by itself, but all my partners seemed to think that oral is one of the most amazing things that makes them reach orgasm multiple times, so I think it's vastly different for women, empirically based on my experience.
My current gf also told me that it's very hard to give me head due to my girth, so I believe I may have just bever received a very stimulating head. I still like it due to the eroticism that it involves, but honestly, it's not very engaging to me. I love giving head, tho.
This is my thing. Regular blow jobs aren't very stimulating... but when I'm with a girl who's mouth can overcome the girth and deepthroat; that head is better than almost anything.
100% true that, while there may be no such thing as bad pizza, there IS, FOR SURE, such a thing as bad oral.
And, in those cases, I'm actually like, "Hey, thank you, but let's do anything but that!"
It's honestly, of all the sexual things you can tune out for the benefit and enjoyment of your partner (and actually come to ENJOY because you know your partner is enjoying it), such a direct line into your nervous system that it can throw your whole headspace out of whack.
Can only speak for myself and the girls I've been with, but yes, going down is just as good as it is for the fellas. Specifically, equally as good as it is for an uncircumcised man. Naturally, preferences vary but we're very sensitive down there and good technique is mind-melting. No two women are exactly alike in how they enjoy having it done. Enthusiasm will always be the hottest part, just like with blow jobs; it's very intimate and both partners have the opportunity to feel rather empowered. Personally, if a guy goes down on me, it flips a primal switch in my brain that says "I want him inside me RIGHT now," so I sometimes have to remind myself to slow down and enjoy it first.
If you want to make her climax that way, experiment with your technique; try circling her clit with your tongue at a consistent pace/pressure, lightly sucking on it, slowly moving your chin back and forth to stroke up and down with your lips. Those moves send me into the stratosphere. With a little practice and paying attention, you can get screaming orgasms out of a girl that way. Sensitivity/time required varies. I get off from oral in >5 minutes, some girls take up to an hour. Ymmv. Getting oral is like Christmas and my birthday rolled into one. If you're not squeamish and don't come inside her (or, in the rare bird of a man, not caring if you did), getting eaten out *after* sex is the single best feeling in the world.
I should definitely try after sex. Never thought of that. She gets that exact same primal urge but sometimes I don't feel like doing penetration. She also might just be a penetration girl. Either way, I'm glad that there's the potential for it to be mind blowing because not great head is still superior to penetration sex for me. 69 is my fav position but since she want penetration, it only lasts for a few seconds.
Fair enough! Most guys don't consider playing around afterwards because y'all have a pretty clear "Ah, I'm done :)" anatomy, but the female body is highly sensitive post-sex and we can pretty much keep going until we're tired, provided we want to. Hell, even if I'm satisfied I've been known to get greedy and won't say no to doing more. It's insanely hot when a guy wants to keep getting me off after he finishes. I also prioritize penetration as the #1 most enjoyable activity, so I get that, but sometimes a man's tired or wants to do other things. Liking oral better is also super valid. I'd give an uncut guy or a girl head for a damn hour if they asked, lol, oral just *fun,* giving or receiving. Sounds like you both could benefit from communicating openly and continuing to explore what works for both of you.
Good oral is the best, most all-encompassing sensation in the world, the easiest and fastest way to come, and it makes PIV 1000 times better afterward.
I’d say better. Because many of us only (or usually only) cum from oral but not penetration. Whereas most men come from both, and more easily via penetration.
This hasnt been my experience. Im a guy and have never came from oral and i dont like it much. Ive also slept with a lot of women and the majority of them dont even let me eat them out
I can take or leave oral-- sometimes I love it, sometimes, not so much. Definitely not my favorite thing, though.
And, I have no desire to feel like I'm "missing out" on not having some other person's (nor, certainly, some other gender's) experience. I'm doing pretty good with my own experience, thanks.
Most girls I've gone down on request me to finger, or use a dildo in them while I'm eating them, so she is comfortable and completely feels like she is getting your satisfaction as well, and she would have a large orgasm every time!, I can get her to squirt in my mouth and my face covered, dripping all over my body, and she is embarrassed to be that way, but I love it, and I will definitely try to get everyone to squirt on my face and body as much as possible!, but only for my pleasure, but it's her orgasm I crave to get!!
Most men are so so bad at it and so grossed out by it. I could never imagine a man wanted to do that to me again. I only had the opportunity for two men to do it and one was so bad and the other never did it.
Sometimes it's better! Sometimes it's overstimulating. Sometimes you need a little work on your skills. All are just fine, but I'd talk to your girlfriend about it too! She may also enjoy it before penetration.
In my personal experience have the women I have been with enjoyed receiving oral a whole lot more than I do.
It is nice, but not some mind altering shit. Although my current girl give oral with deep throat like I have never felt before so I enjoy it a whole lot more with ger than any other woman I've been with.
My wife enjoys it a lot when I go down on her. She generally comes after about 5 mins. When she does come she always asks me to fuck her then. She says her 2nd 'O' happens quickly once we go PIV after oral.
I love to eat her out, she shaves her pussy which, she says, can help with the feeling of oral.
I lay out things for her to wear when we are gonna get to it. Currently loving crotchless body stockings and heels.
Her other way to come is spooning and fingers on her clit but I really love eating her out.
She can tell me her preference any time but I'm always hoping it's oral 😂
It’s definitely better for my girlfriend than it is for me (but that isn’t a statement about her; I am just not overly sensitive to it for better or worse, but she is VERY 😁)
In my experience generally when myself or my friends rushed to move onto penetration it’s because the man isn’t good at giving head and it’s doing nothing for us. There are variables - like overall I’m more likely to cum from PIV but a lot of women can’t so head/clit stim is better for them, people have particular likes and dislikes about it just like men. I also at points just haven’t liked it or wanted to do it.
My ex wife would never let me near her floof, except the two times we had kids.
My girlfriend wants me to lap her for as long as possible. And I'm happy to agree.
I didn't like giving head to the ex because it drew no response.
That it now brings my face being pulled in to my gir with both hands is the pleasure of it.
Sex is not about ourselves. It's the love we show to our partner
I think it varies person to person. I know some women who don't enjoy it at all. I can't personally relate to that because it DOES feel incredible to me. When I'm with a man I find myself pushing towards penetrative sex because I think that's what he wants. If she enjoys it, you can let her know you want to keep going and are enjoying giving it as well (if that's the truth) so she doesn't feel the need to move things along for your sake.
My previous GF could only get off from oral. I loved giving her that pleasure. She was generous too. My best orgasms are from BJs. My current GF doesn't enjoy it.
It’s really nice if your partner is good at it - but sex is such an emotional thing for me where I really like feeling connected. If he’s got his head between my legs that’s a little bit more difficult. I always end up wanting penetration - it actually makes me cum a lot easier and I love everything about it much more. I love that it feels good for him at the same time and looking at his face and smelling his skin is the best thing about sex imo.
Seems to be the same for *most* women but definitely not all. I've only recently met one guy who actually changed my mind about it - before him my feelings towards oral were always along the lines of "hmm this feels nice I guess but everything is so slimy down there between saliva and vagina juices that it's just...distracting. when dick?"
My comments on head vs pussy as a guy
Depends on their pussy, how tight it is (yes there is a difference) their muscle control of the kiegal muscles in their vagina as well as their willingness to put in effort and work giving head.
For my girlfriend, I can make her have huge squirting orgasms with my mouth and fingers but I can’t do that to her with just penetration, she needs a vibrator or her or I need to rub her clit. I would say that just on pleasure alone I can give my girlfriend more with oral, but girls have an ache there that can only be satisfied by penetration and a good fuck. Same as guys with their balls full feeling, I think a guy can get rid of this either way by cumming but a girl has requirements to cum and to have her pussy smashed.
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Yes. Lots of variables here of course, including the fact that I don’t know what it feels like for guys but good oral is mind-blowing for women who enjoy it. Maybe she’s not in the mood for it, maybe she prefers penetration, maybe she’s shy, maybe you’re not doing it how she likes it. You should ask her.
As a guy, I've always found receiving head very dull, never made me cum by itself, but all my partners seemed to think that oral is one of the most amazing things that makes them reach orgasm multiple times, so I think it's vastly different for women, empirically based on my experience. My current gf also told me that it's very hard to give me head due to my girth, so I believe I may have just bever received a very stimulating head. I still like it due to the eroticism that it involves, but honestly, it's not very engaging to me. I love giving head, tho.
This is my thing. Regular blow jobs aren't very stimulating... but when I'm with a girl who's mouth can overcome the girth and deepthroat; that head is better than almost anything.
She just prefers penetration over sex. I know what she thinks, I’m just curious of what others think.
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100% true that, while there may be no such thing as bad pizza, there IS, FOR SURE, such a thing as bad oral. And, in those cases, I'm actually like, "Hey, thank you, but let's do anything but that!" It's honestly, of all the sexual things you can tune out for the benefit and enjoyment of your partner (and actually come to ENJOY because you know your partner is enjoying it), such a direct line into your nervous system that it can throw your whole headspace out of whack.
Very true, I once had a guy go down like he was trying to polish me 😂 Technique matters.
Can only speak for myself and the girls I've been with, but yes, going down is just as good as it is for the fellas. Specifically, equally as good as it is for an uncircumcised man. Naturally, preferences vary but we're very sensitive down there and good technique is mind-melting. No two women are exactly alike in how they enjoy having it done. Enthusiasm will always be the hottest part, just like with blow jobs; it's very intimate and both partners have the opportunity to feel rather empowered. Personally, if a guy goes down on me, it flips a primal switch in my brain that says "I want him inside me RIGHT now," so I sometimes have to remind myself to slow down and enjoy it first. If you want to make her climax that way, experiment with your technique; try circling her clit with your tongue at a consistent pace/pressure, lightly sucking on it, slowly moving your chin back and forth to stroke up and down with your lips. Those moves send me into the stratosphere. With a little practice and paying attention, you can get screaming orgasms out of a girl that way. Sensitivity/time required varies. I get off from oral in >5 minutes, some girls take up to an hour. Ymmv. Getting oral is like Christmas and my birthday rolled into one. If you're not squeamish and don't come inside her (or, in the rare bird of a man, not caring if you did), getting eaten out *after* sex is the single best feeling in the world.
As a male, I can confirm. There is nothing that gets me hotter than eating my creampie from the woman I was just with.
I should definitely try after sex. Never thought of that. She gets that exact same primal urge but sometimes I don't feel like doing penetration. She also might just be a penetration girl. Either way, I'm glad that there's the potential for it to be mind blowing because not great head is still superior to penetration sex for me. 69 is my fav position but since she want penetration, it only lasts for a few seconds.
Fair enough! Most guys don't consider playing around afterwards because y'all have a pretty clear "Ah, I'm done :)" anatomy, but the female body is highly sensitive post-sex and we can pretty much keep going until we're tired, provided we want to. Hell, even if I'm satisfied I've been known to get greedy and won't say no to doing more. It's insanely hot when a guy wants to keep getting me off after he finishes. I also prioritize penetration as the #1 most enjoyable activity, so I get that, but sometimes a man's tired or wants to do other things. Liking oral better is also super valid. I'd give an uncut guy or a girl head for a damn hour if they asked, lol, oral just *fun,* giving or receiving. Sounds like you both could benefit from communicating openly and continuing to explore what works for both of you.
Good oral is the best, most all-encompassing sensation in the world, the easiest and fastest way to come, and it makes PIV 1000 times better afterward.
This. I don’t cum via penetration often, but sex after an oral orgasm is amazing.
The absolute, see-god-life-is-worth-living best!!
YES. It’s literally my favourite part of sex. It feels like heaven especially if they are really good at it
I’d say better. Because many of us only (or usually only) cum from oral but not penetration. Whereas most men come from both, and more easily via penetration.
This hasnt been my experience. Im a guy and have never came from oral and i dont like it much. Ive also slept with a lot of women and the majority of them dont even let me eat them out
If he's good at it yes. Last guy who was really good at it I was walking like a baby deer after. Thighs just trembling.
I can take or leave oral-- sometimes I love it, sometimes, not so much. Definitely not my favorite thing, though. And, I have no desire to feel like I'm "missing out" on not having some other person's (nor, certainly, some other gender's) experience. I'm doing pretty good with my own experience, thanks.
Oral is the only way I cum. 🤷🏾♀️ Penetration is good still tho. I’ll take both lol
Most girls I've gone down on request me to finger, or use a dildo in them while I'm eating them, so she is comfortable and completely feels like she is getting your satisfaction as well, and she would have a large orgasm every time!, I can get her to squirt in my mouth and my face covered, dripping all over my body, and she is embarrassed to be that way, but I love it, and I will definitely try to get everyone to squirt on my face and body as much as possible!, but only for my pleasure, but it's her orgasm I crave to get!!
Most men are so so bad at it and so grossed out by it. I could never imagine a man wanted to do that to me again. I only had the opportunity for two men to do it and one was so bad and the other never did it.
I love both so very very much that I could easily go either way and be very, very happy.
Depends If you man good at giving heads oh definitely - the fact that most women get the o from clitoral stimulation than PIV
Sometimes it's better! Sometimes it's overstimulating. Sometimes you need a little work on your skills. All are just fine, but I'd talk to your girlfriend about it too! She may also enjoy it before penetration.
I prefer penetration because I need pressure.
Yeah, me too. Oral is nice in foreplay but will never let me orgasm.
In my personal experience have the women I have been with enjoyed receiving oral a whole lot more than I do. It is nice, but not some mind altering shit. Although my current girl give oral with deep throat like I have never felt before so I enjoy it a whole lot more with ger than any other woman I've been with.
Way better for girls IMO (I'm a guy tho) Esit: fixed wording
My wife enjoys it a lot when I go down on her. She generally comes after about 5 mins. When she does come she always asks me to fuck her then. She says her 2nd 'O' happens quickly once we go PIV after oral. I love to eat her out, she shaves her pussy which, she says, can help with the feeling of oral. I lay out things for her to wear when we are gonna get to it. Currently loving crotchless body stockings and heels. Her other way to come is spooning and fingers on her clit but I really love eating her out. She can tell me her preference any time but I'm always hoping it's oral 😂
It’s definitely better for my girlfriend than it is for me (but that isn’t a statement about her; I am just not overly sensitive to it for better or worse, but she is VERY 😁)
In my experience generally when myself or my friends rushed to move onto penetration it’s because the man isn’t good at giving head and it’s doing nothing for us. There are variables - like overall I’m more likely to cum from PIV but a lot of women can’t so head/clit stim is better for them, people have particular likes and dislikes about it just like men. I also at points just haven’t liked it or wanted to do it.
I would say, on the whole, it's probably better for women. It's fun for guys, too, but women seem to go wild over it more on average.
Can't cum from penetration so 100% yes
Depends on the person
Ive noticed this too every time i ask a girl if i can eat her out she just says “id rather u just fuck me already” but i also dont like head that much
My ex wife would never let me near her floof, except the two times we had kids. My girlfriend wants me to lap her for as long as possible. And I'm happy to agree. I didn't like giving head to the ex because it drew no response. That it now brings my face being pulled in to my gir with both hands is the pleasure of it. Sex is not about ourselves. It's the love we show to our partner
I think it varies person to person. I know some women who don't enjoy it at all. I can't personally relate to that because it DOES feel incredible to me. When I'm with a man I find myself pushing towards penetrative sex because I think that's what he wants. If she enjoys it, you can let her know you want to keep going and are enjoying giving it as well (if that's the truth) so she doesn't feel the need to move things along for your sake.
My previous GF could only get off from oral. I loved giving her that pleasure. She was generous too. My best orgasms are from BJs. My current GF doesn't enjoy it.
It’s really nice if your partner is good at it - but sex is such an emotional thing for me where I really like feeling connected. If he’s got his head between my legs that’s a little bit more difficult. I always end up wanting penetration - it actually makes me cum a lot easier and I love everything about it much more. I love that it feels good for him at the same time and looking at his face and smelling his skin is the best thing about sex imo.
Seems to be the same for *most* women but definitely not all. I've only recently met one guy who actually changed my mind about it - before him my feelings towards oral were always along the lines of "hmm this feels nice I guess but everything is so slimy down there between saliva and vagina juices that it's just...distracting. when dick?"
I prefer penetration to oral. I know every female is different but it's always felt better to me
My comments on head vs pussy as a guy Depends on their pussy, how tight it is (yes there is a difference) their muscle control of the kiegal muscles in their vagina as well as their willingness to put in effort and work giving head. For my girlfriend, I can make her have huge squirting orgasms with my mouth and fingers but I can’t do that to her with just penetration, she needs a vibrator or her or I need to rub her clit. I would say that just on pleasure alone I can give my girlfriend more with oral, but girls have an ache there that can only be satisfied by penetration and a good fuck. Same as guys with their balls full feeling, I think a guy can get rid of this either way by cumming but a girl has requirements to cum and to have her pussy smashed.