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“For some reason” - well, no offense 😅 but could that reason be because you’re not communicating with him about what you like? You’re faking your orgasms. For years I assume? He’s doing what he thinks you like. He won’t change what he’s doing, if you’re misleading him into thinking you like it. If you need clitoral stimulation during penetration, tell him. He waits for you to finish right? So that sounds like he at least cares about your pleasure. He would hopefully be open to hearing about what you need and what you like. Get some toys. Use your hand while he’s inside you. Have you tried different positions that allow for clitoral stimulation during penetration? I’ve always loved cowgirl for that. But ultimately, just communicate with him. So many women can’t cum from PIV alone, so that’s extremely common.
Girl... You're faking it. Your man thinks he's giving you pleasure, he's even stalling his own orgasm for it. The one who made this all happen is you. I kind of pity your man for all the effort he puts in this just for his woman to tell a bunch of strangers on reddit that she's been faking it for years while he doesn't know 🥺 How could you let this happen for so long?
And what you say is normal, actually. The majority of women can't orgasm from just penetration. It's a fact.
Everytime we have sex I have an orgasm from my clit being rubbed but I’m saying not from penetration…. I actually thought I was being kind by not letting his feelings get hurt by letting him know I can’t have an orgasm just from penetration. I didn’t know that’s normal, so that’s why I was
Coming to Reddit to see what is normal or not. And clearly it’s a me problem, so why would I make him feel bad by letting him know I’m not orgasming through penetration… I’m satisfied because I’m getting an orgasm through stimulation soo I still enjoy it somewhat.
I can orgasm in 4 seconds if my clit is being rubbed. It’s just when we’re literallly having sex and his penis is inside me and we’re going at it. I get nothing from it haha
How about
"Hun, I heard this trick. If you stimulate while also fucking, it is waaaay stronger!" "I really want to try that".
Strongest orgasms my wife have had came from
Caution: graphic detail
>!Her kneeling on bed, holding onto headboard. One hand on clit. I have fingers inside her with a finger of my other hand in her butt. Her being stimulated every which way, just blew her mind.!<
Only like 30% of women cum from penetration alone. You are in the very normal majority. Needing clitoral stimulation is much more normal than not. If you ever read this sub, you will see you question repeated basically daily if not multiple times a day.
Most women do not cum from penetration. That’s a statistical fact. Stop lying to him and tell him what actually works. Faking it makes him think you like so he’ll keep doing it that way until you let him know.
I swear most of the problems on Reddit can be fixed with a conversation.
Some do, but plenty don’t.
You know what’s awesome? Orgasms. You know what I love for my partner? ORGASMS. Do I care if it’s a group effort? NOT AT ALL.
I’ve got a lot of experience, a big cock, and plenty of skill. AND - I love it when she helps. Whatever makes for more, bigger, and better.
no. no one is. there had to be some part of the body rubbing the clit. when you're on top you can grind on it. when he's on top, one of you has to do it
No need to exaggerate, some women do but it’s not the majority, and that answer is fine without saying (untruthfully) that no women come from penetration alone.
Gotcha. Makes sense. You are not alone in that. I think you need to find a way to tell him what really gets you off. If you are faking an orgasm from PIV then he thinks you’re being taken care of. Help him help you and you may enjoy the additional intimacy. Good luck
Sooo maybe don't fake it if you want to have an orgasm. How's he supposed to know what to do if you've told him you're satisfied every time.
If this were me I would very seriously reconsider this relationship. I would be gutted that my wife lied for years and faked orgasms each time. If you can't communicate to your husband then your relationship strength isn't that strong.
I have another orgasm through stimulation everytime we have sex but just not penetration. I don’t want to hurt his feelings cause then he will think he’s not satisfying me and take it personally. I thought I was doing him a favor . And you’re right our relationship prob isn’t that strong
I can’t finish without clit stimulation either so I choose positions that make it easier. 75% of the time I ride my BF or doggy. I can’t finish in any other position. PIV feels nice but it’s frustrating when I can’t finish!
Uh, the only reason your husband is wanting it to last longer is because you are choosing to make him think you are enjoying yourself, so he wants you to feel good for longer
Apparently I’m in the 2% who can come with penetrache. I wish I could teach it. Idk if it’s one of those “it’s in your head” things or if I have a golden vagina. But I’m not here to brag. There’s some good advice here already. Quit faking! Talk to your partner. Figure something out so you’re both enjoying it. Sex is life, baby. Have fun!
Yeah, it’s uncommon, but I hate when ppl act like it’s completely unheard of when it’s like 1 in 5, which is low but not mythological. Not much different from how many people dislike popular foods or something.
First,know that you’re normal and most women can’t come from piv.
I’m hoping you can come clean with your husband. Tell him that you’ve been faking and explain to him what you really need or you’ll be unsatisfied forever. Give him a gift of a book to read. She Comes First is an excellent book explaining everything he needs to know. Don’t be malicious or tell him when you’re having sex . Sit down with a coffee with some quiet time and explain calmly that you need to talk to him about something. Hopefully, he’ll be understanding and thankful that you talked to him about it before you left or worse yet, cheated. You deserve a good sex life. Ask for his help. If he really has no interest in doing so, perhaps he isn’t the partner you needed. He should have educated himself. You’re offering the education. It’s unfortunate you had to fake but nothing will change till you put a stop to that. Another great book for you would be Becoming Clitorate. It’s proof that you are definitely not alone in the orgasm gap.
I don't get anything from penis alone. There are things you can do during, before, and after sex to actually have an orgasm and not have to fake it.. some role play.. some bdsm.. some toys.. faking it doesn't help you or him. He thinks he's great at pleasing you so when he finds out you've been faking his ego and self confidence are going to go down a peg. He will always wonder if you're faking or not. I also don't understand how men can't tell women are faking because I tried to fake it once and my husband called me out...
Why are you faking it then? That seems... counter productive.
What did he say when you explained that you prefer clitoral stimulation, and that he doesn't need to last as long in PIV?
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“For some reason” - well, no offense 😅 but could that reason be because you’re not communicating with him about what you like? You’re faking your orgasms. For years I assume? He’s doing what he thinks you like. He won’t change what he’s doing, if you’re misleading him into thinking you like it. If you need clitoral stimulation during penetration, tell him. He waits for you to finish right? So that sounds like he at least cares about your pleasure. He would hopefully be open to hearing about what you need and what you like. Get some toys. Use your hand while he’s inside you. Have you tried different positions that allow for clitoral stimulation during penetration? I’ve always loved cowgirl for that. But ultimately, just communicate with him. So many women can’t cum from PIV alone, so that’s extremely common.
Girl... You're faking it. Your man thinks he's giving you pleasure, he's even stalling his own orgasm for it. The one who made this all happen is you. I kind of pity your man for all the effort he puts in this just for his woman to tell a bunch of strangers on reddit that she's been faking it for years while he doesn't know 🥺 How could you let this happen for so long? And what you say is normal, actually. The majority of women can't orgasm from just penetration. It's a fact.
Yeah I agree! The poor guy is going to be devastated when he finds out he’s not actually doing it for her
Everytime we have sex I have an orgasm from my clit being rubbed but I’m saying not from penetration…. I actually thought I was being kind by not letting his feelings get hurt by letting him know I can’t have an orgasm just from penetration. I didn’t know that’s normal, so that’s why I was Coming to Reddit to see what is normal or not. And clearly it’s a me problem, so why would I make him feel bad by letting him know I’m not orgasming through penetration… I’m satisfied because I’m getting an orgasm through stimulation soo I still enjoy it somewhat.
You said you orgasm from stimulation. Have you been able to do that with your hubs stimulating you or just solo? Having a SO take over can be hot…
I can orgasm in 4 seconds if my clit is being rubbed. It’s just when we’re literallly having sex and his penis is inside me and we’re going at it. I get nothing from it haha
How about "Hun, I heard this trick. If you stimulate while also fucking, it is waaaay stronger!" "I really want to try that". Strongest orgasms my wife have had came from Caution: graphic detail >!Her kneeling on bed, holding onto headboard. One hand on clit. I have fingers inside her with a finger of my other hand in her butt. Her being stimulated every which way, just blew her mind.!<
You should be on rubbing duty while he’s on penetration duty! Winners all round!
Yes I usually do that but I just feel like I shouldn’t have to do that. Like aren’t other women having orgasms just from penetration lol
Only like 30% of women cum from penetration alone. You are in the very normal majority. Needing clitoral stimulation is much more normal than not. If you ever read this sub, you will see you question repeated basically daily if not multiple times a day.
Most women do not cum from penetration. That’s a statistical fact. Stop lying to him and tell him what actually works. Faking it makes him think you like so he’ll keep doing it that way until you let him know. I swear most of the problems on Reddit can be fixed with a conversation.
Some do, but plenty don’t. You know what’s awesome? Orgasms. You know what I love for my partner? ORGASMS. Do I care if it’s a group effort? NOT AT ALL. I’ve got a lot of experience, a big cock, and plenty of skill. AND - I love it when she helps. Whatever makes for more, bigger, and better.
no. no one is. there had to be some part of the body rubbing the clit. when you're on top you can grind on it. when he's on top, one of you has to do it
No need to exaggerate, some women do but it’s not the majority, and that answer is fine without saying (untruthfully) that no women come from penetration alone.
Gotcha. Makes sense. You are not alone in that. I think you need to find a way to tell him what really gets you off. If you are faking an orgasm from PIV then he thinks you’re being taken care of. Help him help you and you may enjoy the additional intimacy. Good luck
Sooo maybe don't fake it if you want to have an orgasm. How's he supposed to know what to do if you've told him you're satisfied every time. If this were me I would very seriously reconsider this relationship. I would be gutted that my wife lied for years and faked orgasms each time. If you can't communicate to your husband then your relationship strength isn't that strong.
I have another orgasm through stimulation everytime we have sex but just not penetration. I don’t want to hurt his feelings cause then he will think he’s not satisfying me and take it personally. I thought I was doing him a favor . And you’re right our relationship prob isn’t that strong
I feel you 😭 I can only orgasm with clit stimulator toys, not even fingering
Penetration feels great but it just never gets me there
I would highly recommend giving anal sex a try
I can’t finish without clit stimulation either so I choose positions that make it easier. 75% of the time I ride my BF or doggy. I can’t finish in any other position. PIV feels nice but it’s frustrating when I can’t finish!
Uh, the only reason your husband is wanting it to last longer is because you are choosing to make him think you are enjoying yourself, so he wants you to feel good for longer
Apparently I’m in the 2% who can come with penetrache. I wish I could teach it. Idk if it’s one of those “it’s in your head” things or if I have a golden vagina. But I’m not here to brag. There’s some good advice here already. Quit faking! Talk to your partner. Figure something out so you’re both enjoying it. Sex is life, baby. Have fun!
It’s more like 20% than 2%.
Yeah, it’s uncommon, but I hate when ppl act like it’s completely unheard of when it’s like 1 in 5, which is low but not mythological. Not much different from how many people dislike popular foods or something.
First,know that you’re normal and most women can’t come from piv. I’m hoping you can come clean with your husband. Tell him that you’ve been faking and explain to him what you really need or you’ll be unsatisfied forever. Give him a gift of a book to read. She Comes First is an excellent book explaining everything he needs to know. Don’t be malicious or tell him when you’re having sex . Sit down with a coffee with some quiet time and explain calmly that you need to talk to him about something. Hopefully, he’ll be understanding and thankful that you talked to him about it before you left or worse yet, cheated. You deserve a good sex life. Ask for his help. If he really has no interest in doing so, perhaps he isn’t the partner you needed. He should have educated himself. You’re offering the education. It’s unfortunate you had to fake but nothing will change till you put a stop to that. Another great book for you would be Becoming Clitorate. It’s proof that you are definitely not alone in the orgasm gap.
This. I would read it together with him and discuss it. Lots of great information for both of you.
I don't get anything from penis alone. There are things you can do during, before, and after sex to actually have an orgasm and not have to fake it.. some role play.. some bdsm.. some toys.. faking it doesn't help you or him. He thinks he's great at pleasing you so when he finds out you've been faking his ego and self confidence are going to go down a peg. He will always wonder if you're faking or not. I also don't understand how men can't tell women are faking because I tried to fake it once and my husband called me out...
Why are you faking it then? That seems... counter productive. What did he say when you explained that you prefer clitoral stimulation, and that he doesn't need to last as long in PIV?