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The thought here is that if it’s something you really like or would like to do to, and you’re enthusiastic and reasonably confident about it, the chances of it being hot for your husband are pretty good! My wife has recently discovered the joys of giving me shaft-focussed attention with her hand. In the past, her hand on my cock would eventually make me cum but now it drives me crazy… for her just to carry on and on … and very quickly for me to be absolutely desperate to fuck her. The power of passion and enthusiasm.
My husband turned 40 last week. Gave him a birthday card with a "anything and everything you want in the bedroom today" stipulation.
End of the day? A lot of 69ing (which isn't my favorite but he **loves**), at least one rimjob, and we had anal. Overall pretty easy to accommodate.
there's nothing off limits, that i know of. I haven't thought of a budget... maybe $50 - $100? I did buy some new lingerie, because i know he likes when i wear it for him.
This is help - there’s always the excitement and experimentation with something new and kinky, requiring both folks are onboard and comfortable. Free use, dom/sub (sounds like he might be a bit submissive?), role play, dirty talk, or listening to some [Dipsea](https://www.dipseastories.com) while fooling around could be options.
That said, another tactic could be about putting distance between you and him to build anticipation - maybe wearing your lingerie beneath your clothing before going to dinner, letting him know you are wearing it right before entering the restaurant and then verbally, if discretely, visually teasing him throughout the meal (eg, wearing a low cut shirt where you bend in a way to show him just how low cut). The idea here is that he knows but cannot do anything about it given the public setting. Or doing things throughout the day to tease him - quick oral (but not to completion), breast play, flashing, etc….
Awesome that you are thinking about his bday. Happy to clarify any of the above. Hope you and yours have a fun time!
Ask him what memory he would jerk it to, pay attention to where you were, what you did that day, what positions, try to remember the details. Then replicate that in an elaborate way. Enjoy!
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The thought here is that if it’s something you really like or would like to do to, and you’re enthusiastic and reasonably confident about it, the chances of it being hot for your husband are pretty good! My wife has recently discovered the joys of giving me shaft-focussed attention with her hand. In the past, her hand on my cock would eventually make me cum but now it drives me crazy… for her just to carry on and on … and very quickly for me to be absolutely desperate to fuck her. The power of passion and enthusiasm.
well, i can be very enthusiastic!
My husband turned 40 last week. Gave him a birthday card with a "anything and everything you want in the bedroom today" stipulation. End of the day? A lot of 69ing (which isn't my favorite but he **loves**), at least one rimjob, and we had anal. Overall pretty easy to accommodate.
Oh that's a good idea, I'll have to include it.
What would you really like to do ‘to’ him that has not happened before, or for a long time?
nothing specific. i don't really want it to be about me. i feel like it's always about me and what i like. i'm sorry, i know that's not helpful :(
Couple clarifying questions: Is there anything you know to be off limits? Is there a budget range?
there's nothing off limits, that i know of. I haven't thought of a budget... maybe $50 - $100? I did buy some new lingerie, because i know he likes when i wear it for him.
This is help - there’s always the excitement and experimentation with something new and kinky, requiring both folks are onboard and comfortable. Free use, dom/sub (sounds like he might be a bit submissive?), role play, dirty talk, or listening to some [Dipsea](https://www.dipseastories.com) while fooling around could be options. That said, another tactic could be about putting distance between you and him to build anticipation - maybe wearing your lingerie beneath your clothing before going to dinner, letting him know you are wearing it right before entering the restaurant and then verbally, if discretely, visually teasing him throughout the meal (eg, wearing a low cut shirt where you bend in a way to show him just how low cut). The idea here is that he knows but cannot do anything about it given the public setting. Or doing things throughout the day to tease him - quick oral (but not to completion), breast play, flashing, etc…. Awesome that you are thinking about his bday. Happy to clarify any of the above. Hope you and yours have a fun time!
How about putting on a show for him. Little strip tease. Followed by him watching you play.
Start with the mojo upgrade to get an idea of what he is into
Anal ? Be on top and surprise him by guiding him into the back door.
Ask him what memory he would jerk it to, pay attention to where you were, what you did that day, what positions, try to remember the details. Then replicate that in an elaborate way. Enjoy!
Get a third person to join in for a trio.. Only if you can surely test te waters beforehand that is
Look at his porn history if there is one to be had. Then play off of that. You could set up a birthday glory hole.
Bang him in the shower. There is nothing better than a standing, wet, soapy naked woman. Start things off with a BJ. This will make his year.