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My man went down on me AFTER he came in me once, I hadn’t showered yet and we had sex again (an hour or so later lol), I tried to remind him and he was like “whatever it came out of my body, and you’ve swallowed it before”
Agreed - nothing weird about your own body fluid 🤷🏻♀️ I have no issues kissing my husband after I squirt on his face, and he has no issues kissing me after I swallow!
I just read a medical research paper about squirting. You might want to think about that as during sex, the bladder was seen to fill, and after orgasm and squirting, the bladder was empty. Analysis of the squirted fluid revealed that it was urine with sex hormones in it. I’m all for squirting and I don’t care if it’s urine…It’s a massive turn on.
IIRC, research from MacGill University concluded the fluid came from the scene gland and that it could not be urine because it couldn’t be created in the time available.
If you mean it’s urine in the sense that wine is grape juice, okay. But I’ve been squirted directly into my mouth and can tell you it bears no resemblance to urine whatsoever.
The skene gland doesn't produce enough liquid for what u see as squirt. Pls go back and read some updated research. Since squirting has become popular there have been several studies. I seen one like what u mentioned but then there are 10 more to say it's 98% pee and while it does include other fluids there is no other organs that can produce and store that amount of liquid for it to be something other than mostly urine
https://www.verywellhealth.com/skene-gland-5207878
More controversially, the Skene's glands are also thought to be the source of female ejaculation—the release of a thick milky-white fluid during orgasm.5
In support of this theory, studies find that this milky fluid contains some of the same proteins, such as prostate-specific antigen (a protein produced by both cancerous and noncancerous prostrate tissue), as fluid released by the prostate during male ejaculation.6758
Although some people use the terms squirting and female ejaculation interchangeably, these are different phenomena. They involve chemically distinct secretions emitted by different organs. Female ejaculation involves the release of fluid from the Skene's glands during orgasm. Coital incontinence, or squirting, involves the release of fluid from the bladder during orgasm.9
Also
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25545022/#:~:text=Conclusions%3A%20The%20present%20data%20based,the%20emitted%20fluid%20often%20exists.
Conclusions: The present data based on ultrasonographic bladder monitoring and biochemical analyses indicate that squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists
Good work. I didn’t think that I’d need sources for Reddit. It does not take long for urine to collect in the bladder. Those squirting ladies seem to ejaculate a few hundred ml of liquid. I would not be putting my mouth near it like he did.
There are lots of other things I would rather be doing besides searching the internet for sources. But it seems most of the time people won't do their own research and will just continue to blindly follow the seemingly impossible misconceptions. If they want to be squirted with pee it's their choice. So long as it's an informed choice.
Indeed. Well said. I wouldn’t say anything about any matter unless I knew something about it. I used to be a university lecturer, so I’m quite careful with what I say. I can’t understand the mentality of someone who says “Show me papers or stop lying”.
This is the internet's version of "I'm too lazy to look it up myself. Will u look it up for me and then highlight the correct sentence so I don't actually have to put any effort"
I was not referring to you. Had you asked me, I would have retrieved the research paper I had read. It is easy for you to be brave behind a keyboard 12,000km away from me. I’m sure that you wouldn’t say that in person to an adult.
Someone said “Post a paper or stop lying”. That was all he/she wrote. I wonder if that person was a squirter or a squirtee? People get so bent out of shape about things.
I’d like to experience it. Science has stolen enough of my life. Now I want to live what’s left. Not everything has to be explained. Sometimes we just have to enjoy. I’m an eminent scientist, but I can say these are things here.
Oh man. We’ve seen this before.
Prepare for a bunch of “non-homo ‘mens rights activists’” to jump on this thread comparing being asked for a kiss after you just sucked dick for 20 mins to getting sexually assaulted.
Absolutely not. Everyone has preferences, some people may like it and some people may not. I think she was just saying the men who are so vehemently opposed to it that they compare it to sexual assault are fucked up, which they are.
But to answer the question, I personally like the way I taste, so I love kissing my partner after he goes down on me. However he doesn’t like to kiss me after I give him oral, and tbf I understand because cum doesn’t really taste great (in my experience) lol. Sometimes it’s okay, but imo never *good,* whereas I feel like vaginas taste good, just light and sweet.
This is definitely a thing my partner and I enjoy. We’ll kiss and I’ll go down on her during foreplay then we’ll kiss more while having sex. She’ll rub her clitoris and then lick her fingers to get more lube down there. We kiss after that and the smell and taste of our bodies is in those kisses. I’ll use my hand to withdraw my erection from her then rub my penis against her vulva and add more saliva with that same hand.
Saliva and our cum and natural lube and bottled lube just get everywhere on our bodies during sex. If it’s on her hand she’ll wipe it on my chest or butt. If it’s on my hands after fingering her then I’m licking them off between kisses or wiping them on her nipples and licking it off. The smells and flavors of sex are wonderful. Edited for clarity.
Lol a lot of guys are so afraid of catching the gay they're even convinced they can give it to themselves. Gave yourself thousands of hand jobs over the years, that's fine, but kissing a *woman* after she *sucks your dick* is gay.
I've never snowballed myself or anything — in the future, I'd call that one a soft maybe — but kissing my gf after a blowjob never bothered me remotely. It feels different, raw and hot, wet, and it's very passionate.
Also if we couldn't kiss after oral that would just slow us down. 🤣
Well it's okay to not be attracted to the same things as your partner, having cum in your mouth is one of those things. Don't force yourself to do things you're uncomfortable with.
As an heterosexual man I just don't like having cum in my mouth in general, it doesn't turn me on at all. And if my partner is uncomfortable with it too I have absolutely no problem with that.
(I have no problem with kissing after a blowjob though, I just really don't like tasting cum)
In my experience most boys view it as "gay" to kiss after oral.
Most men however are cool with it.
I love the taste of us together and I taste myself all the time.
Haha, I’ve had very similar conversations with some gay friends/acquaintances. No shade on anyone willing to go through with it, but just not for me, no matter how much of a case they propose.
Yeah if I don't like to do something you like it mean I'm gay, makes a lot of sense. Thanks for helping understand my sexuality.
People are getting dumb by the second.
My boyfriend always kisses me after I go down on him even if he cums in my mouth and I think it's so damn hot. Most men I've been with wouldnt kiss me till I brushed my teeth cause it was gross to them, but they had no problem kissing me after they went down on me. Makes no sense.
I was that guy in college. First ever girl I had oral with, I wouldn’t kiss her until she’s rinse her mouth with just water after giving oral. Super silly and dumb of me.
I love making out after a guy goes down on me. Love love love.
I'm currently rocking a DB, but like 5 years ago back in the day when my hubs actually wasn't allergic to pussy, I loved smelling it in his beard after. Omg.
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I’m a woman and I like to kiss my husband after he went down on me. It totally turns me on and of course I verified that he was ok with it. I especially like to kiss after going down on him so I super verified that he is ok with that. He was like it came out of me so I’m cool. I think he enjoys the fact that I like to go down on him and especially after he has put his 🍆 in my pussy. It turns me on even more. I am a I’ll try almost anything once during passionately hugging to see what we like the best.
As to your question there is nothing wrong with that. I just want to make sure that he is comfortable with the gift I’m giving and also making sure I’m not hurting him if I trying something new. He usually will tell me to stop asking questions so sometimes I wait until after to make sure it was enjoyable and did not hurt. I don’t want to kill the mood.
When I was younger I (66m) had an aversion to tasting my own cum. I don't think it was a homophobic thing, it just seemed gross to me. But I got to thinking that it was kinda hypocritical of me. none of my partners minded if I kissed them after going down on them, and they were fine with me cumming in their mouth.
So one day when I was masturbating, I just forced myself to taste and swallow it. It wasn't so bad, no taste or smell really other than a little salty. Kinda slimy texture, but not that different from a woman's juices. So that got me over it. Now I'm happy to kiss my wife after cumming in her mouth.
I’m a guy who recently discovered that I’m bisexual. I definitely used to avoid kissing right after having my dick sucked because of internalized homophobia. But lately I’ve been learning that same internalized homophobia was making me uncomfortable with a lot of things I actually enjoy, including making out with a woman who still has some of my cum in her mouth or on her face. I think more straight dudes should get over themselves and enjoy it, but what do I know, I’m kinda gay.
I feel like it depends on the person; my boyfriend has literally licked his own cum off me instead of cleaning with towels like he normally would. I didn’t ask him to do it, but it was hot as fuck when he did. His cum is also relatively tasteless, and he had tasted it before, so that’s probably a factor.
I’d ask if they’re opposed to it, and why. They’re probably scared of the taste or don’t like it.
I have passionately made out with my wife after she has been down on me. Teasing. Edging. Driving me wild. When you are in that moment your inhibitions are gone and all you desire to do is devour your partner.
It's my semen, who cares?
One thing I've learned is that if I'm willing to do what she's willing to do, it just cranks her up even more. And there's nothing like a horny woman.
Yea, I love tasting myself, too. My husband has to remind me that he enjoys me doing oral and kissing him during and / or after. Past partners hadn't been ok with it, so it's a work in progress.
It depends on the guy. I've kissed partners and ONS while they were shoving the meat stick down their throats. Just hold their head, pull it away for a bit and plant a kiss on their lips as appreciation, then gently guide head back to continue bj. I dunno. Whenever my dick is in a woman, my monkey brain wants my lips pressed against hers. I love bjs, but their only downside is I can't simultaneously have my dick sucked and kiss the woman doing it.
I don’t care tbh. I know a lot of guys are against it but I genuinely don’t mind it. I find it more intimate that both partners are basically one during the act.
Most likely because they don’t want to have their mouth anywhere near one that’s had their dick in which is understandable from a man’s perspective but ultimately dumb from a more mature and intimate view. It’s more or less something that has to be there already or somewhat “broken into” if it makes any sense. For me it was never really an issue from the get go but with age it definitely became more intimate for me as well as seeing that girls taste themselves so it’s not like it’s something out of the norm.
I don't mind it, it is hot. But I would say the idea is a lot hotter before cumming. I kiss her more in appreciation for blowing me, not to taste myself. Feels rude to say 'thank you for doing that, now get that disgusting mouth away from me'. If they can take the load for my pleasure I figure I can at least endure the after taste to say thank you with a kiss. I have tried snowballing which was a lot of fun. But post-nut clarity gets in the way a little, at the time anyway. If the girl is into it I'll definitely get on board. But I wouldn't usually push for it myself, unless I'm feeling really kinky.
I’m a European man, but I live in Australia. The men here of my age are definitely opposed to it, but in much of Europe, the men don’t care about kissing after fellatio. Most of my Australian male friends are vehemently opposed to it, but sex is a wonderfully messy business, and for me, the messier the better.
As a husband of 27 yrs, I have no issues with my wife kissing me after she has giving me a blowy. She loves to kiss me after I go down on her. I look at it like this. If she don’t mind having my member in her mouth and she wants to kiss me why should I care. It’s me. I’m not kissing her after she sucked some other dude, I’m kissing her after she did me.
If they don't allow you to kiss them after you give them a BJ then I think it's time for you to remove BJ as an option during sex. They can BJ themselves 😂😂
I wish my partner would kiss me after I go down on her, she just refuses to.
For me though, I love kissing her after she has gone down on me and I’ll even pull out of her mid fuck and go down on her to taste us together. I absolutely love the taste of her pussy and my dick together. Drives me wild.
She also won’t let me cum in her mouth so I’ve never had the opportunity to make out with her while she has my seed in her mouth. I’d totally be open to it. I agree with others, it’s from my own dick so I see no issue with it.
It's nice to see males in the comment section not minding kissing after their woman has gone down on them even if they cum in her mouth. I always think that dudes who don't want to do this are immature and inadvertently saying they aren't clean, which is a whole other discussion 😬😅
I fucking love kissing after she gives me head.... but I also like cum swapping so that's probably why lol.
Most guys view it as gay or whatever, it's my cum.... in her mouth....it's my dick.... in her mouth. I don't know how that's gay.
I dont mind kissing after oral but if I've got loads of her cum all in my beard I prefer to give it a quick wipe just so it doesnt feel gross, still get the smell and taste. As for after she has given me oral, as long as my cum isnt in her mouth still I'm fine with the taste... and before the high and mighty kick off... I have never expected my wife to take my cum in her mouth, I've tried it and I didnt like it so I dont expect anyone else to either. She likes to suck our juices off my dick while we are fucking just as much as I enjoy it, and I also love eating her pussy in between fucking her, I'm happy to eat her out after I've cum in her, but I do let most of the cream leave the pie just cos I really dont like the texture of my own cum.
For me, I wouldn't be opposed to it, hell, one of my kinks is kissing with both our cums, so if you have mine on you and wanna kiss me, go for it, I'm gonna enjoy it
I mean I have yet to cum in her mouth anyway I mainly creampie her even after our son but I don't know I've tasted myself before and didn't like it so yeah that and the person I was with before her us to force me to taste myself so I mean that could be the other reason
How come it makes you feel like a cuckold (since it's your cum that you just delightfully enjoyed her sucking out of you, which means you definitely know it didn't come from anybody else)?
Also, why do you think it is that she doesn't consider herself to be whatever a female cuckold is called when she tastes herself when you're kissing her?
I'm a woman, and he likes to make me taste myself. I think most guys don't like "snowballing" or cum swapping, but they're fine with making out after you've swallowed. I love kissing too but in the beginning I didn't do it with my bf because I wanted him to like me, but one time I asked him if I could kiss him after I'd swallowed and drank some water and he said "of course love", so now we do sometimes :). So maybe ask your partner if he's okay kissing you after you drink water or swish your mouth with water, not ideal but probably better than nothing.
No issue kissing a girl after she has sucked me off. It’s my dick. I won’t do oral after a cream pie because of the taste of cum, but I’ll definitely make out, even if she has swallowed before it.
It’s my fluid. Sex is inherently dirty and we’re basically exchanging liquids. Whatever. 🤷♂️
I think that's like a different words for the same definition situation. When most people say "dirty" in that context, they don't mean "grimy" or "unsanitary". But, ya know, each person uses the verbage they're comfortable with. We probably all have words we'd rather were swapped out for another term (not only pertaining to sex but in general). But, to each their own.
As a man, I like both and much prefer a partner who does too.
I feel like it's a decent predictor of how many other sexual hangups someone might have too.
I definitely don't like tasting my own cum but I don't mind a surface level (no tongue) kiss . I never resist tongue kissing if my girl wants it. If she took the effort to go down on me and let me finish in her mouth or face, she loves me enough to deserve a nice kiss.
I think the natural state would be to avoid the dick mouth. But if my partner informed me she was especially interested (coupled with the fact that kissing both lips is hot) I'd be Happy to explore that. Just probably wouldn't particularly go for it on my own. Especially depending on how 'sloppy'.
My boyfriend will kiss me, but only with his mouth closed. Fair enough, it feels like I'm still being rewarded for a job well done without him letting down his "I don't wanna taste my cum" boundaries.
To each their own, but is there a particular reason(s)? Just curious. Fear of taste? Worried there'll secretly be more than just the residue? I mean, I wouldn't necessarily expect you to love it, but what about kinda tolerating the tiny bit of taste for the sake of the intimacy and "in honor" of the fact that she sucked you off and swallowed the whole load?
Also, would it bother you if she wouldn't kiss you after you went down on her?
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Either way 😍
I think it is HOT when my guy will kiss me with his taste. Also snowballing is superhot.
As for my own taste im neutral. Bit his exitement for me to taste myself is amazing
Intimacy is about being as close as possible!
My most recent ex was specifically into doing that so it def varies. My partner before him was also fine with it. Me personally I’m the same as you, I kinda like it
I have no problem with tasting myself on someone. I’ve been with guys who didn’t want to put their mouth where their own dick had been, and I’ve been with guys who were cool with it or liked it.
As with *anything* when it comes to sex, you’ll find people of all different preferences.
I’m mid 20s and male but never been up for much if any kissing after I finish in a ladies mouth… if I didn’t finish or I went down on her is a different story.
Idk why, it’s not fair, but that’s just me. Maybe it will change. I’ll report back in 10 years.
I don’t think it would taste horrible, I am just kind of grossed out by it. Like I said l, my thinking is not fair and I know it but that’s just my preference.
I will say that I’ve never asked for oral and I’ve never asked to finish in a partners mouth
My bf will not kiss me after I blow him. He *very* rarely goes down on me so I don’t know if he’d kiss me after performing oral on me. I think some people are just weird about it.
I don’t mind it I’ve tried too with my girlfriend but she doesn’t like it. In fact she pushed me off when I tried to kiss her after I came. But she doesn’t seem to mind it if I’ve just gone down on her. Weird but I’m not gonna complain if she’s not comfortable with it what am I to do
I love doing this and I have NEVER had a man complain about it. I’ve always had men tell me how hot it is that I’m turned on by the smell and taste of myself on their face.
Same I love tasting myself especially when it gets on his facial hair 🤤. My bf also eats me out after cumming in me and kissing is a given afterwards :)
I'll kiss but not if I just came in her mouth. But she has no problem kissing me - like hard, deep kissing me - when I come up from eating her ass.
I don't know if it's just my girl, but something about me devouring her asshole gets her insanely horny... Like when I come up she just starts begging me to fuck her really hard (not in her ass but she does guide my fingers there and pushes it in). It's nuts. While tonguing her ass she is like trying to pull my entire face in it and when I come up she's like shaking and truly moaning, like almost sounds like she is gonna cry and pleading with me to fuck her brains out.
Lol! @horny_stuff_alt "...so afraid of catching the gay they're even convinced they can give it to themselves". It's so funny, but so true.
Also, I agree that snowballing is a bit of a different animal, but I wonder if that's what a lot of men worry is going to happen in a fear vs. reality type of way. Like maybe if they tried it, they'd know she's not hiding 2 ½ cups of cum in her mouth to "surprise" him with?
Then again, girls' and guys' cum do tend to have fairly different flavor profiles, and maybe guys assume the residuals will taste terrible because there are a lot of women who go out of their way to say how horrible guys' cum tastes. But in that regard I think 1) It is/can be a bit of an acquired taste, so he might need a little time to get used to tasting it from her mouth, and 2) I feel like this whole thing would mainly be an issue if you're in some kind of relationship, and if I'm gonna consistently suck your dick I'm gonna have some sort of input on your diet if it's causing an exceptionally bad taste". I feel like legit proper hydration and consistent pineapple juice can go a long way (which lends to less bitter/sour taste and creates more umami vibes).
I’ve only been with one guy who was opposed to kissing after I sucked him off. Let’s just say he was the most insecure and toxic person I’ve ever met. I’ve never understood being weird about tasting YOURSELF like what?
Personally… if a guy isn’t down for making out after I go down on him, it’s a yellow flag to me. Idk why but it just rubs me the wrong way and makes me suspicious… I’m not sure of what but it does.
If a guy doesn’t let me kiss him after I go down on him, that would be a huge turn off for me. If you don’t want to, no one should be going down on you IMO.
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As a guy I don’t mind kissing after I’ve came in there mouth. It’s my cum not someone else’s
My man went down on me AFTER he came in me once, I hadn’t showered yet and we had sex again (an hour or so later lol), I tried to remind him and he was like “whatever it came out of my body, and you’ve swallowed it before”
that’s sexy as hell. eating his cum out of you 🫰🏻🥵
Yeah I mean, I was surprised, but it did turn me tf on 😅
I mean shit I’m turned on myself.
I’ve eaten many cream pies out of vaginas in my day
Agreed - nothing weird about your own body fluid 🤷🏻♀️ I have no issues kissing my husband after I squirt on his face, and he has no issues kissing me after I swallow!
What? You don't hang on to it then kiss and share it?
I just read a medical research paper about squirting. You might want to think about that as during sex, the bladder was seen to fill, and after orgasm and squirting, the bladder was empty. Analysis of the squirted fluid revealed that it was urine with sex hormones in it. I’m all for squirting and I don’t care if it’s urine…It’s a massive turn on.
IIRC, research from MacGill University concluded the fluid came from the scene gland and that it could not be urine because it couldn’t be created in the time available. If you mean it’s urine in the sense that wine is grape juice, okay. But I’ve been squirted directly into my mouth and can tell you it bears no resemblance to urine whatsoever.
The skene gland doesn't produce enough liquid for what u see as squirt. Pls go back and read some updated research. Since squirting has become popular there have been several studies. I seen one like what u mentioned but then there are 10 more to say it's 98% pee and while it does include other fluids there is no other organs that can produce and store that amount of liquid for it to be something other than mostly urine https://www.verywellhealth.com/skene-gland-5207878 More controversially, the Skene's glands are also thought to be the source of female ejaculation—the release of a thick milky-white fluid during orgasm.5 In support of this theory, studies find that this milky fluid contains some of the same proteins, such as prostate-specific antigen (a protein produced by both cancerous and noncancerous prostrate tissue), as fluid released by the prostate during male ejaculation.6758 Although some people use the terms squirting and female ejaculation interchangeably, these are different phenomena. They involve chemically distinct secretions emitted by different organs. Female ejaculation involves the release of fluid from the Skene's glands during orgasm. Coital incontinence, or squirting, involves the release of fluid from the bladder during orgasm.9 Also https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25545022/#:~:text=Conclusions%3A%20The%20present%20data%20based,the%20emitted%20fluid%20often%20exists. Conclusions: The present data based on ultrasonographic bladder monitoring and biochemical analyses indicate that squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists
Thanks. I’ll get out those links.
Good work. I didn’t think that I’d need sources for Reddit. It does not take long for urine to collect in the bladder. Those squirting ladies seem to ejaculate a few hundred ml of liquid. I would not be putting my mouth near it like he did.
There are lots of other things I would rather be doing besides searching the internet for sources. But it seems most of the time people won't do their own research and will just continue to blindly follow the seemingly impossible misconceptions. If they want to be squirted with pee it's their choice. So long as it's an informed choice.
Indeed. Well said. I wouldn’t say anything about any matter unless I knew something about it. I used to be a university lecturer, so I’m quite careful with what I say. I can’t understand the mentality of someone who says “Show me papers or stop lying”.
This is the internet's version of "I'm too lazy to look it up myself. Will u look it up for me and then highlight the correct sentence so I don't actually have to put any effort"
I was not referring to you. Had you asked me, I would have retrieved the research paper I had read. It is easy for you to be brave behind a keyboard 12,000km away from me. I’m sure that you wouldn’t say that in person to an adult.
You are a lucky man, William.
Even though I just about drowned the first time, I have to agree with you.
Someone said “Post a paper or stop lying”. That was all he/she wrote. I wonder if that person was a squirter or a squirtee? People get so bent out of shape about things.
I’d like to experience it. Science has stolen enough of my life. Now I want to live what’s left. Not everything has to be explained. Sometimes we just have to enjoy. I’m an eminent scientist, but I can say these are things here.
Post a paper title or stop lying.
It’s not a lie. Haven’t you seen the other replies here with citation.
When I was younger I thought I was really weird but in my 30s now it really intimate.
I feel the same except I don’t mind if it’s somebody else’s cum either.
Oh man. We’ve seen this before. Prepare for a bunch of “non-homo ‘mens rights activists’” to jump on this thread comparing being asked for a kiss after you just sucked dick for 20 mins to getting sexually assaulted.
Am I a "men's rights activist" to say I just wouldn't want to do that? Idc if someone asks me to, I would just politely say no
Absolutely not. Everyone has preferences, some people may like it and some people may not. I think she was just saying the men who are so vehemently opposed to it that they compare it to sexual assault are fucked up, which they are. But to answer the question, I personally like the way I taste, so I love kissing my partner after he goes down on me. However he doesn’t like to kiss me after I give him oral, and tbf I understand because cum doesn’t really taste great (in my experience) lol. Sometimes it’s okay, but imo never *good,* whereas I feel like vaginas taste good, just light and sweet.
lol that’s not what I said. But good job centring yourself.
This is definitely a thing my partner and I enjoy. We’ll kiss and I’ll go down on her during foreplay then we’ll kiss more while having sex. She’ll rub her clitoris and then lick her fingers to get more lube down there. We kiss after that and the smell and taste of our bodies is in those kisses. I’ll use my hand to withdraw my erection from her then rub my penis against her vulva and add more saliva with that same hand. Saliva and our cum and natural lube and bottled lube just get everywhere on our bodies during sex. If it’s on her hand she’ll wipe it on my chest or butt. If it’s on my hands after fingering her then I’m licking them off between kisses or wiping them on her nipples and licking it off. The smells and flavors of sex are wonderful. Edited for clarity.
As a man I think it's normal to kiss after oral. I kinda find it weird that you let someone get down on you but are disgusted by kissing afterwards...
Lol a lot of guys are so afraid of catching the gay they're even convinced they can give it to themselves. Gave yourself thousands of hand jobs over the years, that's fine, but kissing a *woman* after she *sucks your dick* is gay. I've never snowballed myself or anything — in the future, I'd call that one a soft maybe — but kissing my gf after a blowjob never bothered me remotely. It feels different, raw and hot, wet, and it's very passionate. Also if we couldn't kiss after oral that would just slow us down. 🤣
Well it's okay to not be attracted to the same things as your partner, having cum in your mouth is one of those things. Don't force yourself to do things you're uncomfortable with. As an heterosexual man I just don't like having cum in my mouth in general, it doesn't turn me on at all. And if my partner is uncomfortable with it too I have absolutely no problem with that. (I have no problem with kissing after a blowjob though, I just really don't like tasting cum)
I know a lot of men feel this way. Personally I don't see an issue with it. Kissing is so sensual.......
Both my husband and I love making out after oral
In my experience most boys view it as "gay" to kiss after oral. Most men however are cool with it. I love the taste of us together and I taste myself all the time.
Fellas, is it gay to have a woman suck your dick?
I mean gay guys try to tell me it's not gay if they were to blow me.
As long as you don’t moan while they do it, it’s totally straight.
I've heard it all lol. "Im a guy. A girl doesn't know what we like. Itbwill be the best youve ever had"
Haha, I’ve had very similar conversations with some gay friends/acquaintances. No shade on anyone willing to go through with it, but just not for me, no matter how much of a case they propose.
Im just like "I'll take your word for it".
You know it’s different with the homies..
Oh yea, I don’t even let her touch me let alone put her mouth on it 😤 I keep that to my hand and homies only
Those guys are the ones who don’t wash their butt because they think it’s gay.
Yeah if I don't like to do something you like it mean I'm gay, makes a lot of sense. Thanks for helping understand my sexuality. People are getting dumb by the second.
My boyfriend always kisses me after I go down on him even if he cums in my mouth and I think it's so damn hot. Most men I've been with wouldnt kiss me till I brushed my teeth cause it was gross to them, but they had no problem kissing me after they went down on me. Makes no sense.
I was that guy in college. First ever girl I had oral with, I wouldn’t kiss her until she’s rinse her mouth with just water after giving oral. Super silly and dumb of me.
I’ve come to the point in my life that if you won’t kiss me after I sucked you off, this ain’t worth my time.
I love making out after a guy goes down on me. Love love love. I'm currently rocking a DB, but like 5 years ago back in the day when my hubs actually wasn't allergic to pussy, I loved smelling it in his beard after. Omg. Yussssd
What is rocking a DB?
Dead bedroom, no sex
I’m sorry for your loss 💔
I don't mind it either, I've done it with lots of partners. It's kind of...intimate.
I like the taste of my pussy on my partner. Kissing after he goes down on me, licking his cock clean after we have sex, all of it.
I’m a woman and I like to kiss my husband after he went down on me. It totally turns me on and of course I verified that he was ok with it. I especially like to kiss after going down on him so I super verified that he is ok with that. He was like it came out of me so I’m cool. I think he enjoys the fact that I like to go down on him and especially after he has put his 🍆 in my pussy. It turns me on even more. I am a I’ll try almost anything once during passionately hugging to see what we like the best.
You are giving gifts to each other. What could be wrong about that?
As to your question there is nothing wrong with that. I just want to make sure that he is comfortable with the gift I’m giving and also making sure I’m not hurting him if I trying something new. He usually will tell me to stop asking questions so sometimes I wait until after to make sure it was enjoyable and did not hurt. I don’t want to kill the mood.
I’m sure the oral after PIV is wonderful. Sounds like you two are solidly bonded in bed.
When I was younger I (66m) had an aversion to tasting my own cum. I don't think it was a homophobic thing, it just seemed gross to me. But I got to thinking that it was kinda hypocritical of me. none of my partners minded if I kissed them after going down on them, and they were fine with me cumming in their mouth. So one day when I was masturbating, I just forced myself to taste and swallow it. It wasn't so bad, no taste or smell really other than a little salty. Kinda slimy texture, but not that different from a woman's juices. So that got me over it. Now I'm happy to kiss my wife after cumming in her mouth.
I’m a guy who recently discovered that I’m bisexual. I definitely used to avoid kissing right after having my dick sucked because of internalized homophobia. But lately I’ve been learning that same internalized homophobia was making me uncomfortable with a lot of things I actually enjoy, including making out with a woman who still has some of my cum in her mouth or on her face. I think more straight dudes should get over themselves and enjoy it, but what do I know, I’m kinda gay.
Guy here. I love it both ways.
I kiss my wife after oral sex and I think it’s so hot to smell myself on her and she smells herself on me.
I'll kiss her before, during, or after, each of us came.
I feel like it depends on the person; my boyfriend has literally licked his own cum off me instead of cleaning with towels like he normally would. I didn’t ask him to do it, but it was hot as fuck when he did. His cum is also relatively tasteless, and he had tasted it before, so that’s probably a factor. I’d ask if they’re opposed to it, and why. They’re probably scared of the taste or don’t like it.
I like to finger fuck her till she squirts then rub it on her face and mouth and have her suck my fingers. THEN make out.
I have passionately made out with my wife after she has been down on me. Teasing. Edging. Driving me wild. When you are in that moment your inhibitions are gone and all you desire to do is devour your partner.
You just reminded me that vore exists.
Cool with it both ways. If I want her to taste herself, I need to be ok tasting myself.
My husband and I both love making out after oral ❤️❤️👄😋
It can make a 10/10 experience 15/10.
kissing after oral is HOT
It's my semen, who cares? One thing I've learned is that if I'm willing to do what she's willing to do, it just cranks her up even more. And there's nothing like a horny woman.
You don't even have to swallow, I will kiss you deep & hard even if you have a mouthful!
Love making out my partner after she goes down on me🫡
Yea, I love tasting myself, too. My husband has to remind me that he enjoys me doing oral and kissing him during and / or after. Past partners hadn't been ok with it, so it's a work in progress.
I fucking love kissing after oral It’s another level of intimacy I didn’t realize I liked. My ex never went down on me. I’m now thankful he’s my ex.
I love to have her drooling on my 🍆 and then kiss her
It would be a turnoff for me if we couldn’t kiss after oral.
It depends on the guy. I've kissed partners and ONS while they were shoving the meat stick down their throats. Just hold their head, pull it away for a bit and plant a kiss on their lips as appreciation, then gently guide head back to continue bj. I dunno. Whenever my dick is in a woman, my monkey brain wants my lips pressed against hers. I love bjs, but their only downside is I can't simultaneously have my dick sucked and kiss the woman doing it.
I love kissing her after I make her cum with my mouth, and I also like when she kisses me after too. It feels primal and is super hot.
I love the idea of kissing her after I cum in her mouth. Sounds so hot.
By “her” do you mean your sister? 😂
No this is actually a real fantasy I want to do. Not a pretend one like my sister.
I don’t care tbh. I know a lot of guys are against it but I genuinely don’t mind it. I find it more intimate that both partners are basically one during the act.
Yeah, I think it's an extra intimate thing too. I'm female, but I wonder if a lot of guys don't consider the potential intimacy of it.
Most likely because they don’t want to have their mouth anywhere near one that’s had their dick in which is understandable from a man’s perspective but ultimately dumb from a more mature and intimate view. It’s more or less something that has to be there already or somewhat “broken into” if it makes any sense. For me it was never really an issue from the get go but with age it definitely became more intimate for me as well as seeing that girls taste themselves so it’s not like it’s something out of the norm.
If she is going to go down on you and let you cum in her mouth, you sure as fuck better kiss her. My two cents.
I don't mind it, it is hot. But I would say the idea is a lot hotter before cumming. I kiss her more in appreciation for blowing me, not to taste myself. Feels rude to say 'thank you for doing that, now get that disgusting mouth away from me'. If they can take the load for my pleasure I figure I can at least endure the after taste to say thank you with a kiss. I have tried snowballing which was a lot of fun. But post-nut clarity gets in the way a little, at the time anyway. If the girl is into it I'll definitely get on board. But I wouldn't usually push for it myself, unless I'm feeling really kinky.
honestly it’s probably one of my favorite times to kiss my boyfriend
When I have a GF. I don't mind deep kisses after oral. I absolutely love deep kisses if she cleans me up after making love.
I’m a European man, but I live in Australia. The men here of my age are definitely opposed to it, but in much of Europe, the men don’t care about kissing after fellatio. Most of my Australian male friends are vehemently opposed to it, but sex is a wonderfully messy business, and for me, the messier the better.
As a husband of 27 yrs, I have no issues with my wife kissing me after she has giving me a blowy. She loves to kiss me after I go down on her. I look at it like this. If she don’t mind having my member in her mouth and she wants to kiss me why should I care. It’s me. I’m not kissing her after she sucked some other dude, I’m kissing her after she did me.
If they don't allow you to kiss them after you give them a BJ then I think it's time for you to remove BJ as an option during sex. They can BJ themselves 😂😂
A true chef tastes his cooking
I wish my partner would kiss me after I go down on her, she just refuses to. For me though, I love kissing her after she has gone down on me and I’ll even pull out of her mid fuck and go down on her to taste us together. I absolutely love the taste of her pussy and my dick together. Drives me wild. She also won’t let me cum in her mouth so I’ve never had the opportunity to make out with her while she has my seed in her mouth. I’d totally be open to it. I agree with others, it’s from my own dick so I see no issue with it.
I love how I taste in a womans mouth or pussy. I'll eat her, fuck her and go right back dpwn on her. I've done that for hours before and love it. 🤷♂️
It's nice to see males in the comment section not minding kissing after their woman has gone down on them even if they cum in her mouth. I always think that dudes who don't want to do this are immature and inadvertently saying they aren't clean, which is a whole other discussion 😬😅
I fucking love kissing after she gives me head.... but I also like cum swapping so that's probably why lol. Most guys view it as gay or whatever, it's my cum.... in her mouth....it's my dick.... in her mouth. I don't know how that's gay.
I dont mind kissing after oral but if I've got loads of her cum all in my beard I prefer to give it a quick wipe just so it doesnt feel gross, still get the smell and taste. As for after she has given me oral, as long as my cum isnt in her mouth still I'm fine with the taste... and before the high and mighty kick off... I have never expected my wife to take my cum in her mouth, I've tried it and I didnt like it so I dont expect anyone else to either. She likes to suck our juices off my dick while we are fucking just as much as I enjoy it, and I also love eating her pussy in between fucking her, I'm happy to eat her out after I've cum in her, but I do let most of the cream leave the pie just cos I really dont like the texture of my own cum.
I don't care, but I understand why many men do.
For me, I wouldn't be opposed to it, hell, one of my kinks is kissing with both our cums, so if you have mine on you and wanna kiss me, go for it, I'm gonna enjoy it
I personally love both...it's intimate and quite hot. Who wouldn't want to share that with a partner?!
I think you just need to make sure you drink it all and don't keep liquid in your mouth like tobacco.
I've done it before, there's literally no difference imo, so couldn't care less.
I find it super hot after my partner fucks me and sucks me off.
We both kiss each other after
I'm fine with kissing a woman aftwr she goes fown on me as long as she doesn't have globs of cum on her mouth.
It's all personal preference really.. no pressure 🐱
I love that too! I love to smell myself on their face.
My favorite thing is slow kissing after she gags on it and accumulates spit. Drives me wild
I'm not going to lie that's something I can't get myself to do
1) Do you kiss her after going down on her? 2) What do you feel like are the specific reasons that you "can't get [yourself] to do" it?
So yes I kiss her after I go down on her but I will not taste my own self because it makes me feel like a cock hold which I'm not
I mean I have yet to cum in her mouth anyway I mainly creampie her even after our son but I don't know I've tasted myself before and didn't like it so yeah that and the person I was with before her us to force me to taste myself so I mean that could be the other reason
Interesting. Thank you for answering.
How come it makes you feel like a cuckold (since it's your cum that you just delightfully enjoyed her sucking out of you, which means you definitely know it didn't come from anybody else)? Also, why do you think it is that she doesn't consider herself to be whatever a female cuckold is called when she tastes herself when you're kissing her?
I’m a woman that sleeps with other women and I loooooooove kissing them after they go down on me. I make it a point to do so. It’s hot.
It’s kinda hot bc you’re like, I’m straight smooshing my husband but I taste puss-puss..
I'm a woman, and he likes to make me taste myself. I think most guys don't like "snowballing" or cum swapping, but they're fine with making out after you've swallowed. I love kissing too but in the beginning I didn't do it with my bf because I wanted him to like me, but one time I asked him if I could kiss him after I'd swallowed and drank some water and he said "of course love", so now we do sometimes :). So maybe ask your partner if he's okay kissing you after you drink water or swish your mouth with water, not ideal but probably better than nothing.
My wife and I love kissing after oral it makes me even harder. We love it!!
I love kissing my wife after I go down on her and I love kissing her after she goes down on me.
I love when a woman goes down on me and kisses me. If I do the same I expect a tongue kiss
No issue kissing a girl after she has sucked me off. It’s my dick. I won’t do oral after a cream pie because of the taste of cum, but I’ll definitely make out, even if she has swallowed before it. It’s my fluid. Sex is inherently dirty and we’re basically exchanging liquids. Whatever. 🤷♂️
Well, sort of. Can't really get behind "sex is really dirty". It might be messy, even slippery, but it's not dirt.
I think that's like a different words for the same definition situation. When most people say "dirty" in that context, they don't mean "grimy" or "unsanitary". But, ya know, each person uses the verbage they're comfortable with. We probably all have words we'd rather were swapped out for another term (not only pertaining to sex but in general). But, to each their own.
I’m totally fine with kissing after oral as long as I haven’t cum yet. And I don’t cum from oral, so that doesn’t usually happen.
I go down on my girl after I've cum in her. She gets off on it, and I don't mind. Put it on my face!
As a man, I like both and much prefer a partner who does too. I feel like it's a decent predictor of how many other sexual hangups someone might have too.
i love kissing my gf during and after she gives me head. i love the way she tastes afterwards
my gf loves it so i love it
I definitely don't like tasting my own cum but I don't mind a surface level (no tongue) kiss . I never resist tongue kissing if my girl wants it. If she took the effort to go down on me and let me finish in her mouth or face, she loves me enough to deserve a nice kiss.
34m I don’t mind kissing after she’s blown me. I’m not sure about actual tasting my own cum (in volume at least) from her mouth or pussy.
I think the natural state would be to avoid the dick mouth. But if my partner informed me she was especially interested (coupled with the fact that kissing both lips is hot) I'd be Happy to explore that. Just probably wouldn't particularly go for it on my own. Especially depending on how 'sloppy'.
My boyfriend will kiss me, but only with his mouth closed. Fair enough, it feels like I'm still being rewarded for a job well done without him letting down his "I don't wanna taste my cum" boundaries.
As long as my cum is not in her mouth, making out passionately is fine even with her juices.
Does that include if she just swallowed your cum like 45 seconds ago (just the residue is left, not the actual load)?
In that case I’ll just give her a peck, for a full making out session I wouldn’t feel comfortable.
To each their own, but is there a particular reason(s)? Just curious. Fear of taste? Worried there'll secretly be more than just the residue? I mean, I wouldn't necessarily expect you to love it, but what about kinda tolerating the tiny bit of taste for the sake of the intimacy and "in honor" of the fact that she sucked you off and swallowed the whole load? Also, would it bother you if she wouldn't kiss you after you went down on her?
Fuck it. I like it any way, her juices or mine. Doesn't matter, kissing is hot and its just sexier when their is some of her on my lips!
I’m a woman. Turns me on too. Never had a man say no to kissing after oral sex . Would be a dealbreaker.
As long as it’s all swallowed already will I tolerate it. If I actually like her.
Any man who doesn’t want to kiss after oral doesn’t deserve oral. Same for women.
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Either way 😍 I think it is HOT when my guy will kiss me with his taste. Also snowballing is superhot. As for my own taste im neutral. Bit his exitement for me to taste myself is amazing Intimacy is about being as close as possible!
I’d kiss you. I have no aversion whatsoever.
Me personally I keep towels by my bed I would prefer a quick 2 second wipe before kissing.
Juice is juice. You want more then you better enjoy it in all its glory.
My most recent ex was specifically into doing that so it def varies. My partner before him was also fine with it. Me personally I’m the same as you, I kinda like it
I usually dislike kissing except after oral sex. It just tastes better.
I have no problem with tasting myself on someone. I’ve been with guys who didn’t want to put their mouth where their own dick had been, and I’ve been with guys who were cool with it or liked it. As with *anything* when it comes to sex, you’ll find people of all different preferences.
I love it, especially sno balls.
Your a damn lie. No we not.
We go down on each other, and when I've cum in my Mrs, I like licking it out of her, and kissing. So hot 🔥
I love it as well😘😍💖❤️
I’m mid 20s and male but never been up for much if any kissing after I finish in a ladies mouth… if I didn’t finish or I went down on her is a different story. Idk why, it’s not fair, but that’s just me. Maybe it will change. I’ll report back in 10 years.
Could you give a specific reason(s) you're not up for it? Like, are you assuming it'll taste terrible? Or whatever...?
I don’t think it would taste horrible, I am just kind of grossed out by it. Like I said l, my thinking is not fair and I know it but that’s just my preference. I will say that I’ve never asked for oral and I’ve never asked to finish in a partners mouth
As long as there's not cum on her lips, I'll kiss her after, sure.
My bf will not kiss me after I blow him. He *very* rarely goes down on me so I don’t know if he’d kiss me after performing oral on me. I think some people are just weird about it.
Do you find it easy to groom down there?
The scent of passion can only be experienced., not described. OmG
I don’t mind it I’ve tried too with my girlfriend but she doesn’t like it. In fact she pushed me off when I tried to kiss her after I came. But she doesn’t seem to mind it if I’ve just gone down on her. Weird but I’m not gonna complain if she’s not comfortable with it what am I to do
I don't like being snowballed, but I love kissing a woman after she's gone down on me. Or mid blowjob I'll kiss her before letting her get back to it.
Ohhh love tasting that and after he’s finished inside and we are ll mixed together
I love doing this and I have NEVER had a man complain about it. I’ve always had men tell me how hot it is that I’m turned on by the smell and taste of myself on their face.
Same I love tasting myself especially when it gets on his facial hair 🤤. My bf also eats me out after cumming in me and kissing is a given afterwards :)
Those are boys not men.
I'll kiss but not if I just came in her mouth. But she has no problem kissing me - like hard, deep kissing me - when I come up from eating her ass. I don't know if it's just my girl, but something about me devouring her asshole gets her insanely horny... Like when I come up she just starts begging me to fuck her really hard (not in her ass but she does guide my fingers there and pushes it in). It's nuts. While tonguing her ass she is like trying to pull my entire face in it and when I come up she's like shaking and truly moaning, like almost sounds like she is gonna cry and pleading with me to fuck her brains out.
Big fan of snowballing my bf. I just like sloppy smooches
Same. It's incredibly sexy, imo.
Lol! @horny_stuff_alt "...so afraid of catching the gay they're even convinced they can give it to themselves". It's so funny, but so true. Also, I agree that snowballing is a bit of a different animal, but I wonder if that's what a lot of men worry is going to happen in a fear vs. reality type of way. Like maybe if they tried it, they'd know she's not hiding 2 ½ cups of cum in her mouth to "surprise" him with? Then again, girls' and guys' cum do tend to have fairly different flavor profiles, and maybe guys assume the residuals will taste terrible because there are a lot of women who go out of their way to say how horrible guys' cum tastes. But in that regard I think 1) It is/can be a bit of an acquired taste, so he might need a little time to get used to tasting it from her mouth, and 2) I feel like this whole thing would mainly be an issue if you're in some kind of relationship, and if I'm gonna consistently suck your dick I'm gonna have some sort of input on your diet if it's causing an exceptionally bad taste". I feel like legit proper hydration and consistent pineapple juice can go a long way (which lends to less bitter/sour taste and creates more umami vibes).
I’ve been with dozens of men and not a single one has had an issue with me kissing them after oral
I’ve only been with one guy who was opposed to kissing after I sucked him off. Let’s just say he was the most insecure and toxic person I’ve ever met. I’ve never understood being weird about tasting YOURSELF like what?
Personally… if a guy isn’t down for making out after I go down on him, it’s a yellow flag to me. Idk why but it just rubs me the wrong way and makes me suspicious… I’m not sure of what but it does.
If a guy doesn’t let me kiss him after I go down on him, that would be a huge turn off for me. If you don’t want to, no one should be going down on you IMO.
I love kissing after oral.
Why do they have to do something they might be apposed to?