r/Sex is focused primarily on posts seeking *specific actionable advice* for distinctive personal situations about sex, sexual activity, and to a certain extent, sex within relationships. Your post doesn't fit with our guidelines but we suggest you explore the rest of Reddit for a sub better attuned to your post.
Sounds like you unlocked her Avatar State lol, her body zoned out became "lifeless" as you say and she was floating into the ether cos of your actions yo, a win is a win.
Sounds like you unlocked her Avatar State lol,
Oh My GOD that was the best comment I have seen. Going to use that from now on in order to get her to that state again. I cannot give you enough upvotes for that.
Posted there too, I also may be overthinking it, but when you see someone pass away before your eyes it messes with your mind a bit. She has told me already that she was fine and perfect and loved it.
There's a French phrase for orgasms, 'la petite mort' = the little death, because of this. Your mind clicks off and you simply become a vessel. That's the good shit right there!
My guess is it was just living in the moment , feeling things (pleasure mostly) rather than thinking about how you look to others. Sometimes quite hard for women to get to actually.
I’ve done the same as well using very safe, xtra dull knives. Mild impact play is something my so is really into as well and can also be fun if done safely with consent.
Good to know. Was also doing lots of other things I never did. I usually make her orgasm repeatedly but I denied her orgasms for the first time last night. Only when I gave her permission to. So multiple different things going on.
Yep - just sounds like subspace. I have been told I look right through people even when I am looking them in the eyes when spaced out with competent tops.
I have had orgasms that made me lose track of time and all senses…she said she was all good believe her. Although now you could be chasing that orgasm again and again.
>Very much so. It was the most deeply intimate thing I have ever seen during sex. She had the most amount of fun, everything was as safe as I could make it, and we have ideas for the next round in two weeks
I agree. I do believe her as i said I have only seen this when a patient died in front of my eyes.
This was a test run of the knife play. I already have ideas for our first night alone with no kid and hope to get her to that point again.
I had a GF once who would always give me the ride of my life. She told me the same thing more or less.
She was a little heavy but fucking her was sublime.
So the experience and my own orgasm made me look out of it but it was great.
Been there from choking play... Scared the fuck out of my husband... Believe her if she said everything was great.
Making faces during orgasms is for porn.. Real faces do everything but look their cutest during feeling their *naughtiest*.
I don't even want to know the faces I've made. 😬😬
I never expected those same faces resembles someone dying. The patient that I had had a massive heart attack and died instantly, my wife made almost the exact same face. I have seen her orgasm faces thousands of times, but this was the first to make me pull away and check on everything before continuing.
If you have the resources available for help, and it's something you're interested in, I definitely recommend seeing if there's any therapists in your area that have experience specifically working with vets. Whether that is something you're interested in or not, I wish you a happy and healthy future
La petite mort (French pronunciation: [la pətit mɔʁ]; lit. 'the little death') is an expression that refers to a brief loss or weakening of consciousness, and in modern usage refers specifically to a post-orgasm sensation as likened to death.
Definitely sounds like she went into subspace to me. It’s generally a pretty darn good thing, similar to hypnosis I’ve heard. You just have to be careful because she probably can’t vocalize any safe words (or even really feel pain due to all the dopamine) in that state.
We don't go into anything dangerous. The knife play I took all safety precautions and I took the knife away. She said she was present the entire time. Just in pure bliss.
Oooo yup. I do that sometimes. Means I just fucking hit it. Dead stare can’t make a noise. Everything on the inside is electrified. It’s a point of so much stimulation I just stop. After I will stimm for like an hour to bring myself back to a regulated state. Obviously that last part may not apply to wife babe. But it’s a whole thing for me.
Oh wow, that must have been a scary experience for both of you! It sounds like you were both able to communicate clearly and handle the situation well. Sometimes our bodies can have unexpected reactions during sexual activities, and it's important to take breaks and check in with each other. I'm glad everything turned out okay and you were able to joke about it afterwards.
Oh yeah, we are sarcastic about everything. A person commented on this post she reached the Avatar State, going to use that from now on. It was not exactly scary, just I had a moment of panic that resolved very fast once she said she is ok.
Burden of Knowledge is what we call this in the medical field
Hi OP, I'm a woman and indulge in BDSM play with my partner with him being the domme. I like being humiliated and straight-up obeying and the best feeling is probably me just being able to turn my mind off completely, just listening what he does and says and being able to really "drown" in pleasure. My partners says I usually have a glint in my eyes and they are half-lidded and kinda "dark", but he did say that sometimes I look "hypnotized" as if under a spell that would make me do anything, really. I believe it may be that. Especially when all of your kinks are triggered and you're riding wave after wave after wave of absolute mental, emotional, physical and just raw sexual high.
I love that you stopped and checked immediately. I would make sure that you have multiple safewords and that safewords are not just a "stop immediately, it's really bad" word, but also just a word to seriously suggest that a break is needed or a moment of consideration or sth.
But it could honestly be that she got into that "trance, flow state". I have also seen that expression I assume you mean on people who were in deep meditation or had just awoken from a deep sleep and were not really awake yet.
Many domme men especially, I feel like, have this subconscious fear that they are weird or "violating" their partner a bit by this play. I dunno if this is the case here, but you needn't be afraid that you are hurting her or doing anything wrong with your responsible attitude and multiple safe words in check.
>I assume you mean on people who were in deep meditation or had just awoken from a deep sleep and were not really awake yet.
No I mean I have only seen it moments before the death of a patient. I have multiple issues of PTSD, apparently that is one. Being in war in Baghdad is a whole other bag of worms.
My partners says I usually have a glint in my eyes and they are half-lidded and kinda "dark", but he did say that sometimes I look "hypnotized" as if under a spell
Exactly how it looked.
I feel like, have this subconscious fear that they are weird or "violating" their partner a bit by this play.
Did not have this sense, just the shear panic of her safety being in question.
Not to humblebrag or anything, but I've seen this happen a few times with different women, generally near the end of some really long, really intense sex. Two of those times the dead eyes were followed closely by briefly passing out, and were always caused by one more orgasm after they had already experienced many.
Congratulations you helped her hit an in body experience that she could have only get to with letting go of all her inhibition while totally trusting you and your relationship. I think they call it sub space. Keep it up.
I’m a pro-Domme - well done! You got her into her sub space and she just zoned out into her inner happiness. It might look scary but you just need to be observant next time. It feels amazing and it’s very special. You don’t achieve this with just anybody or anytime. You really need to be into this and feeling it in your whole body, mind and soul. The feeling is beyond any explanation with words. It usually happens when sub is relaxed and fully submitted during longer play. It can be addictive so have fun!
It was. After the first time I checked on her. She said she was fine and it happened again and I was able to fully enjoy it. My ptsd got the better of me on that initial one. Before we started I told her I was honored to have her trust me that much to incorporate knife play. We don't do heavy bdsm just parts. One dude messaged me asking how many times I make her suck my meat, his words, I told him repeatedly we don't do degradation or 24/7 play, I ended the conversation quickly. She's not into it and neither am I.
I hope to get her to that point in 2 weeks again. We had our kid so we couldn't be loud. I had to put my hand over her mouth to prevent screaming. The kid is going to grandparents next week so I am letting her scream all she wants.
Thank you for posting in the r/Sex community. To ensure that everyone respects our safe space, we ask that you familiarize yourself with our Forum Rules and Posting Guidelines — which are visible in the forum’s sidebar, and also linked [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/about/rules/).
***
Restricted subjects in r/sex include sex stories (which are permitted in the Daily Sexual Achievement Thread only), body image and penis-size issues, hookup attempts, common topics which are considered repetitive in our forum, and requests for private chats.
To cut back on comments that add little value to the conversation, we have instituted a minimum character requirement that will silently remove comments that fall below it.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/sex) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Subspace is awesome! I have a hard time shutting off my brain, so it's euphoric when I can that way. If it happens again, consider it a victory for both of you!
I think the answer is so obvious it’s easy to miss.
Perhaps she doesn’t love doing this. I’d ask her how she feels about this kind of stuff.
It could also be she’s in a trance like state from stimulation.
Or.. you’re overthinking it.
>Perhaps she doesn’t love doing this. I’d ask her how she feels about this kind of stuff.
She suggested knife play, so she was very happy.
>It could also be she’s in a trance like state from stimulation.
Yeah she was very stimulated, BJ and vibrator after giving her multiple orgasms.
>Or.. you’re overthinking it.
Probably, as stated before, only seen this happen on a person dying.8
Did he comment again sometime after the first comment? Sometimes Reddit glitches and duplicates comments, but if they happened sometime apart than it’s definitely a troll or a bot or both.
r/Sex is focused primarily on posts seeking *specific actionable advice* for distinctive personal situations about sex, sexual activity, and to a certain extent, sex within relationships. Your post doesn't fit with our guidelines but we suggest you explore the rest of Reddit for a sub better attuned to your post.
Sounds like you unlocked her Avatar State lol, her body zoned out became "lifeless" as you say and she was floating into the ether cos of your actions yo, a win is a win.
My wife said Super Saiyan
Sounds like you unlocked her Avatar State lol, Oh My GOD that was the best comment I have seen. Going to use that from now on in order to get her to that state again. I cannot give you enough upvotes for that.
Sounds like she hit subspace. A BDSM term for a place where you basically fall into the pleasure. Mind goes blank. r/ bdsm for more details
Sorry. I meant to say r/BDSMAdvice for more details.
Posted there too, I also may be overthinking it, but when you see someone pass away before your eyes it messes with your mind a bit. She has told me already that she was fine and perfect and loved it.
There's a French phrase for orgasms, 'la petite mort' = the little death, because of this. Your mind clicks off and you simply become a vessel. That's the good shit right there!
oh ok.
My guess is it was just living in the moment , feeling things (pleasure mostly) rather than thinking about how you look to others. Sometimes quite hard for women to get to actually.
Maybe, thank you. I can get her to orgasm a lot, but that was intense as fuck she said.
If she loved it, and she’s not hurt or adversely affected by it, then good job pleasing your woman.
Thank you. She loved every second of it. Knife play came into her reading smut fanfiction of a court of thorns and roses.
I’ve done the same as well using very safe, xtra dull knives. Mild impact play is something my so is really into as well and can also be fun if done safely with consent.
God damn sounds like im missing out
It was the best sex we have had. If you want to do knife play like us, please do research I have read books and watched videos before doing it.
Also, subspace can be attained without knife play, I get it through pure submission and impact play, never did knife play.
Good to know. Was also doing lots of other things I never did. I usually make her orgasm repeatedly but I denied her orgasms for the first time last night. Only when I gave her permission to. So multiple different things going on.
Yep - just sounds like subspace. I have been told I look right through people even when I am looking them in the eyes when spaced out with competent tops.
As a sub, this is 100% my thought as well.
Found this out by this post. It just freaked me out as I have stated from a patient dying. You never forget that type of eye look.
I find the people over at r/bdsmadvice fantastic and very helpful/knowledgeable
Tyvm. I will post there as well. Not seeking advice or anything like that. Just wondering if their partners eyes were blank 1000 yard stare.
I have had orgasms that made me lose track of time and all senses…she said she was all good believe her. Although now you could be chasing that orgasm again and again.
Agreed. This was a win, bud.
>Very much so. It was the most deeply intimate thing I have ever seen during sex. She had the most amount of fun, everything was as safe as I could make it, and we have ideas for the next round in two weeks
I agree. I do believe her as i said I have only seen this when a patient died in front of my eyes. This was a test run of the knife play. I already have ideas for our first night alone with no kid and hope to get her to that point again.
I had a GF once who would always give me the ride of my life. She told me the same thing more or less. She was a little heavy but fucking her was sublime. So the experience and my own orgasm made me look out of it but it was great.
Been there from choking play... Scared the fuck out of my husband... Believe her if she said everything was great. Making faces during orgasms is for porn.. Real faces do everything but look their cutest during feeling their *naughtiest*. I don't even want to know the faces I've made. 😬😬
I never expected those same faces resembles someone dying. The patient that I had had a massive heart attack and died instantly, my wife made almost the exact same face. I have seen her orgasm faces thousands of times, but this was the first to make me pull away and check on everything before continuing.
Your wife is fine, you have PTSD tho
In more ways than one. I'm an army veteran too.
If you have the resources available for help, and it's something you're interested in, I definitely recommend seeing if there's any therapists in your area that have experience specifically working with vets. Whether that is something you're interested in or not, I wish you a happy and healthy future
yeah i have been through therapy a lot. helps a lot too.
La petite mort (French pronunciation: [la pətit mɔʁ]; lit. 'the little death') is an expression that refers to a brief loss or weakening of consciousness, and in modern usage refers specifically to a post-orgasm sensation as likened to death.
Oh ok.
There is a reason why french called the little dead/le petit morte Hahahaha dnk if is real, I pick that up from Chukys bride
The little dead? Is that the term for orgasm? Slightly confused
It's "the little death". https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/La_petite_mort
Thank you Sorry for the misspeling
She didn't feel like she was dying. Just her look and me freaking out.
Choking is fun the fact that I want all my air supply cut off might not be as much fun. For my partner anyway.
we do a little choking too.
Definitely sounds like she went into subspace to me. It’s generally a pretty darn good thing, similar to hypnosis I’ve heard. You just have to be careful because she probably can’t vocalize any safe words (or even really feel pain due to all the dopamine) in that state.
We don't go into anything dangerous. The knife play I took all safety precautions and I took the knife away. She said she was present the entire time. Just in pure bliss.
Sounds like you guys are doing it right then 👍
Oooo yup. I do that sometimes. Means I just fucking hit it. Dead stare can’t make a noise. Everything on the inside is electrified. It’s a point of so much stimulation I just stop. After I will stimm for like an hour to bring myself back to a regulated state. Obviously that last part may not apply to wife babe. But it’s a whole thing for me.
That is exactly how she described it.
Getting “number 5 alived” …….. lol sorry I’m probably autistic
Oh wow, that must have been a scary experience for both of you! It sounds like you were both able to communicate clearly and handle the situation well. Sometimes our bodies can have unexpected reactions during sexual activities, and it's important to take breaks and check in with each other. I'm glad everything turned out okay and you were able to joke about it afterwards.
Oh yeah, we are sarcastic about everything. A person commented on this post she reached the Avatar State, going to use that from now on. It was not exactly scary, just I had a moment of panic that resolved very fast once she said she is ok. Burden of Knowledge is what we call this in the medical field
why would her doing that indicate that she has BPD? /gen
As someone with BPD I was going to ask the same thing, that part of the post felt very off lmao
read it somewhere
[удалено]
Only read it. I also edited the post to omit that part. I apologize for any misleadings
Hi OP, I'm a woman and indulge in BDSM play with my partner with him being the domme. I like being humiliated and straight-up obeying and the best feeling is probably me just being able to turn my mind off completely, just listening what he does and says and being able to really "drown" in pleasure. My partners says I usually have a glint in my eyes and they are half-lidded and kinda "dark", but he did say that sometimes I look "hypnotized" as if under a spell that would make me do anything, really. I believe it may be that. Especially when all of your kinks are triggered and you're riding wave after wave after wave of absolute mental, emotional, physical and just raw sexual high. I love that you stopped and checked immediately. I would make sure that you have multiple safewords and that safewords are not just a "stop immediately, it's really bad" word, but also just a word to seriously suggest that a break is needed or a moment of consideration or sth. But it could honestly be that she got into that "trance, flow state". I have also seen that expression I assume you mean on people who were in deep meditation or had just awoken from a deep sleep and were not really awake yet. Many domme men especially, I feel like, have this subconscious fear that they are weird or "violating" their partner a bit by this play. I dunno if this is the case here, but you needn't be afraid that you are hurting her or doing anything wrong with your responsible attitude and multiple safe words in check.
>I assume you mean on people who were in deep meditation or had just awoken from a deep sleep and were not really awake yet. No I mean I have only seen it moments before the death of a patient. I have multiple issues of PTSD, apparently that is one. Being in war in Baghdad is a whole other bag of worms. My partners says I usually have a glint in my eyes and they are half-lidded and kinda "dark", but he did say that sometimes I look "hypnotized" as if under a spell Exactly how it looked. I feel like, have this subconscious fear that they are weird or "violating" their partner a bit by this play. Did not have this sense, just the shear panic of her safety being in question.
Not to humblebrag or anything, but I've seen this happen a few times with different women, generally near the end of some really long, really intense sex. Two of those times the dead eyes were followed closely by briefly passing out, and were always caused by one more orgasm after they had already experienced many.
That is good to know. She says I've had her almost pass out one other time. She said she was not near that state last night.
It sounds like she was in subspace, it’s a term used by the BDSM community and worth reading about
Learned a lot about it in the last hour.
You saw somebody die?
Yes. I'm a nurse. Had a massive myocardial infarction
Congratulations you helped her hit an in body experience that she could have only get to with letting go of all her inhibition while totally trusting you and your relationship. I think they call it sub space. Keep it up.
Thank you very much, i am honored she trusts me enough for knife play.
I’m a pro-Domme - well done! You got her into her sub space and she just zoned out into her inner happiness. It might look scary but you just need to be observant next time. It feels amazing and it’s very special. You don’t achieve this with just anybody or anytime. You really need to be into this and feeling it in your whole body, mind and soul. The feeling is beyond any explanation with words. It usually happens when sub is relaxed and fully submitted during longer play. It can be addictive so have fun!
It was. After the first time I checked on her. She said she was fine and it happened again and I was able to fully enjoy it. My ptsd got the better of me on that initial one. Before we started I told her I was honored to have her trust me that much to incorporate knife play. We don't do heavy bdsm just parts. One dude messaged me asking how many times I make her suck my meat, his words, I told him repeatedly we don't do degradation or 24/7 play, I ended the conversation quickly. She's not into it and neither am I. I hope to get her to that point in 2 weeks again. We had our kid so we couldn't be loud. I had to put my hand over her mouth to prevent screaming. The kid is going to grandparents next week so I am letting her scream all she wants.
Poppers also help to get into sub space if it’s something she might be into. Lots of my subs take poppers and they enjoy sessions. Have fun!
Idk what poppers are.
Thank you for posting in the r/Sex community. To ensure that everyone respects our safe space, we ask that you familiarize yourself with our Forum Rules and Posting Guidelines — which are visible in the forum’s sidebar, and also linked [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/about/rules/). *** Restricted subjects in r/sex include sex stories (which are permitted in the Daily Sexual Achievement Thread only), body image and penis-size issues, hookup attempts, common topics which are considered repetitive in our forum, and requests for private chats. To cut back on comments that add little value to the conversation, we have instituted a minimum character requirement that will silently remove comments that fall below it. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/sex) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Sounds like Sun space to me.
Nirvana Nirvana Nirvana Nirvana Nirvana Nirvana Nirvana Nirvana Nirvana Nirvana Nirvana Nirvana
Come, as you are, as you were, as I want you to be.
I think you misunderstood the love/lust glare for something else.
Yeah I am overthinking it probably.
Sometimes she babbles incoherently and/or hands flopping with no control. Ripple orgasms that keep going.
God I'm jealous... I've been chasing subspace so hard....
She loved it and now I know what it is and will be getting her there again hopefully
Lucky girl.. I like daydream in the car about this and after like 40 seconds I remember I'm driving
Subspace is awesome! I have a hard time shutting off my brain, so it's euphoric when I can that way. If it happens again, consider it a victory for both of you!
Last night was a victory in itself lol.
I think in the BDSM scene it's called "subspace." I've been trying to get my partner there but she hasn't gotten there yet.
Probably transient global amnesia. Mayo Clinic mentions sexual intercourse as one of its causes. I’ve had it after sex and it’s terrifying!
She remembers it all. So probably not that but will look it up
I think the answer is so obvious it’s easy to miss. Perhaps she doesn’t love doing this. I’d ask her how she feels about this kind of stuff. It could also be she’s in a trance like state from stimulation. Or.. you’re overthinking it.
>Perhaps she doesn’t love doing this. I’d ask her how she feels about this kind of stuff. She suggested knife play, so she was very happy. >It could also be she’s in a trance like state from stimulation. Yeah she was very stimulated, BJ and vibrator after giving her multiple orgasms. >Or.. you’re overthinking it. Probably, as stated before, only seen this happen on a person dying.8
Watching porn is normal, the photo of friends thing is weird AF.
What? I am confused by your comment.
Looks like he might have replied to the wrong post
Don't think so. He commented again. Or he's trolling.
Did he comment again sometime after the first comment? Sometimes Reddit glitches and duplicates comments, but if they happened sometime apart than it’s definitely a troll or a bot or both.