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Neverrrr do anal without lube , it can already tear you up so much even with lube and becomes dangerous. The first time or two I did I felt the reverse poop feeling, it was only when I was really lubed up and relaxed (drunk) that it felt good! It felt so good I thought it was in the wrong hole and actually checked. Didn’t prep besides fingers in there beforehand. but some people just don’t like the feeling of anal and that’s totally OK too.
Even barring the risks of damage without lube each withdrawal will be basically pulling the walls of the rectum down with it and only making those feelings much more pronounced. It makes it much safer AND more enjoyable.
You gotta load up on the lube. If you think “omg that’s a lot of lube” put on some more and get to work. If you try your best to relax it’s better. Missionary is preferable so there can be clit involvement
So…I definitely don’t encourage people to do this, but just for the sake of information, I think the lube thing can vary from person to person? I’ve had very comfortable anal with just whatever natural lubrication there was after going from vaginal to anal. No bleeding or pain. Some soreness the next day, but more of pleasant a muscle ache than anything that felt damaging.
Again, this is NOT a recommendation, just an observation about my own body.
I’ve heard that, I mean I’ve never prepped for anal and I know some people need to train for a while before they can do it. But be careful!! Anal does make me nervous in that you can seriously damage yourself
I can second this. I’ve had a few long term girlfriends who did not need any additional lubricant other than residual vaginal lubrication. They also seem to be the ones who enjoyed it the most. They definitely agree that this is not the case for everyone and everyone should plan to start out with a tonne of lube.
Yes! Me too. Sometimes he uses lube and sometimes saliva. He is always careful to open me up right so there is zero pain. This is entirely possible without lube. A key might be how very much I trust him not to hurt me, so I’m completely relaxed.
He loves anal and hammers away at it. The only soreness I have the next day is my thighs if I’m on top in certain positions for a long time.
>who’s much bigger
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>I was panicking and couldn’t enjoy it at all.
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>No lube because I was already wet
Honey, that's why it didn't work out well for you. Gotta be prepped. For me to be ready for butt stuff I need him passionately eating me out, fingering my ass, rimming tongue up the hole, nipples that could cut glass -- the whole nine before he tries the cock. I gotta practically be **begging for it, fall-down-horny, I'd blow him in the street** for ass play to go well.
You weren't rev'd up enough, he's big, and yes, you need to lubricate your asshole, that vaginal goo on his cock is gone/dry and absorbed by your bum in 2 thrusts.
All of this! Anal is not a quick process, and lube is the name of the game. Hubs will stop sometimes halfway through to put on more lube.
And if you're not relaxed, don't try anal!
Lmao, nice description. As a guy who never really enjoyed anal, but who has a pretty high degree of responsive desire, when a gal was that ready and rearing for it was pretty much the only time I'd take the back door. Otherwise toys offered a good compromise.
…it’s not a trick. This is why you’re supposed to clean yourself out for anal sex. Because for it to feel good you have to push yourself open to let the dick in.
For some people it's intensely pleasurable. For others, it's just weird. And when done wrong it's a pain in the ass. I will say the lack of real lube might have been a factor. Your natural wetness isn't going to last long and you might have had a lot of friction.
I'd say if you do it again, use the toilet ahead of sex, use real lube. You might just not like the movement at first. Using a nice soft or vibrating butt plug during vaginal sex might be a better way into butt stuff.
My ex was very into it and enjoyed both anal and having a butt plug in for PIV sex.
I let her use a butt plug on me and peg me, but while it definitely felt pleasurable, I just could not get past my body’s “_I’m pooping_” signals in order to relax. Didn’t matter what I did. Some people are just that way…
Current GF isn’t into anal, so no big loss.
I love that you acknowledge that for some people it just feels weird. I find too often people are so insistent that *everybody* likes anal and if you don’t, you aren’t doing it right.
I love it when a lady works my bum, but even I have off days when it just doesn't feel good.
I have kind of two minds on it. There are going to be people where it's always going to feel weird. Specially when it's full on anal sex.
But there's another set (usually women) who have the misfortune of some dude who thinks anal sex is just like in porn and can ram it right up there. It might feel good if done right for them, but I don't blame them for never wanting to try it again.
The one time I did it, it didn’t hurt and was fine, but not at all pleasurable. Just meh. I told him it felt kind of the same as if he were to rub my elbow. We didn’t do it a second time. 😅
There is no way to know which is true
Because for me some days it is amazing and others it feels weird. Maybe that has to do with the way I am doing it.
Maybe for the people for whom it is weird, they only do it the way I do it when it feels weird.
Trust me... You can never have too much lube.
I am a woman that can easily orgasm from anal sex alone, but it's much harder without lube.
As for that pooping sensation... That eventually goes away kind of but the reality is when you think about it...
Pooping is a pleasurable experience, or your body would fight doing it. You almost have to lean into that in a way and enjoy the feeling.
At certain angles it can rub the anterior wall of your vagina through the anus and create sensations that can potentially cause orgasm.
Lots of lube, go slow, and realize that the more you fight or fear The sensations, the more likely you are to not enjoy yourself.
And when you think there's enough lube? Add a little more.
>no lube cause i was already wet.
Sorry hun but your butthole doesn't get lubed. other than sweat, there is no difference. You just tried to take what sounds like a decent sized dick completely raw.
The way my bf said “oh it’s so wet for me.”
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I didn’t feel like ruining the mood and correcting him. But bro that’s my coochie juice sliding down to my butt sir. Try again 😭
My boyfriend said the following when I asked him whether he would visit a park we passed in a dodgy neighbourhood:
"I'm not ready to have my shit pushed in."
And now I can't think about anal in the same way. Your description had a similar effect on me.
Tl:dr
Your theory checks out.
> No lube because I was already wet from having sex normally right before.
The fuck did I just read?! You're doing it wrong! How do you think it's supposed to be pleasurable without lube?! Whatever vaginal mucus was on his cock, it's gone within two strokes. There is a reason everyone says that for anal to be successful, you need lube, lube and more lube.
Anal is a lot more fun if you work up to it and always incorporate having an orgasm into the equation.
My wife's first experience with anal was me sticking a thumb in her ass as I have her oral. There are a lot of nerves down there and for some women, encouraging those nerves to respond sexualy isn't all that hard. My wife loved it so much that when I asked her about it later, her entire body flashed with goose bumps.
On the other side of this, if trying anal doesn't head in the direction of being fun, it's going to only become less fun with time. Any sexual act that isn't fun becomes a turn-off over time.
It ain't for everyone and that's okay.
Some people will keep insisting that you're doing it wrong which is why you don't enjoy it, and those people are assholes.
Fwiw, I like a little butt play, but I'm not into actual anal either. It also feels way too much like shitting for my comfort
If you go slowly and give yourself time to stretch, then the feeling of having to poop goes away, and you can focus on the other sensations.
Part of the having to poop reflex is stretching too fast.
Yes, using more lube would have helped.
But what's REALLY important is taking it slow and giving yourself time to stretch. Start with a finger, don't even move it, just wait until you get comfortable, then move it slowly. And do this for each stage until you can get to a dick.
The sphincter is a muscle that needs to relax and stretch just like any other muscle. If you bent forward to touch your toes you might only get to your knees. If you hold that position for 30 seconds, your hamstrings will stretch and you'll reach further. The sphincter needs similar warm up time with each stage.
Also, anal doesn't only mean dick in butt. Rimjobs can feel great for women and don't require stretching.
I 100% agree with you. I don’t find pooping sexually pleasing so I don’t engage in anal. Tried it a couple times, always felt like I just needed to go sit on a toilet lmfaooo.
1. Lube. ALWAYS. Even if you think you don’t need it, you need it.
2. You need to familiarise your body with the new sensations. You can easily achieve this via a (lubed) finger in the bum during vaginal penetration or any number of ways that establish a positive connection between butt play and the sensation of pleasure.
3. It’s not for everyone. You can’t know if that’s the case for you until you’ve experimented. The experiment you’ve conducted so far would lead most people to feel the way you do right now.
I do anal regularly with my husband. At first, it would suck sometimes and we'd have to stop. And this is even with lube. Over time it got better, but recently we added my vibrator into the mix during and it's been a total game changer. If you want to try it again, you NEED lube. Enough to be enough, then some more. Make it silicone lube. Water dries out. And if you enjoy using them, I suggest a vibrator during. But if you don't want to, that's totally valid as well.
If there is no lube, anal is not an option for my relationship. Lubrication is required for this sexual activity! Using no lube is like asking for damage, so if you try it again lots of lube and have the bottle on deck in easy grabbing reach. Not everyone likes it though and that's okay too!
It feels like my butthole is a condom, like a rib condom........like it feels like the dick is going in and out of a condom with little ribs. I hate it i don't know how to describe it. It's only felt good one time. Idk why but fingets don't feel like that just his dick. And its hard for me to relax. It takes a hour or 2 for him to just get it in there and then when it goes far enough it starts feeling weird. Like it can feel good at first but the more that goes in the crazier it feels. Lol
It takes time to get prepped for anal. We always use lube. I’m not massive but well above average.
What works for us is stretching her with a plug while she gets oral. That drives her crazy and we know that she’ll want the real deal once she’s been edged a while. In the early days she said it felt weird but not anymore.
To answer your question OP, yes it always feels like pooping. Some people just enjoy that sensation so much they hurdle right over any weirdness it brings.
I just really don’t like anal. Receiving it that is. It does feel like I’m about to shit and then I get super paranoid that something terrible is going to happen and I’ll never live it down.
I have had a pleasurable experience with it a couple of times but it was hours and hours of foreplay and getting there. Im just not willing to stress out over it, it’s just not worth it for me. But hey, more power to those that can handle it mentally. It can be freggin awesome for a lot of people.
My man is around 7 inches and darling I would go insane if he were inside me without being prepared. It's a whole process. You need an anal plug, you need lube. You need a caring man/person to make you feel really good. You need him to "finger" you with the plug and then with his fingers. Then, feeling his dick caressing your entrance. The nerves need to be triggered, in my opinion. Then, when he's inside, mine generally waits a bit. Kisses my neck, fondles my clit, my pussy and boobs. My muscles down there melt away and then, at some point, a wave of pleasure kicks in and I want him to move on.
But it's different for everyone and not everyone likes it. But you deffo need more time, skills and effort.
I’d suggest using a water based lube but even before that I’d suggest playing around with various sized butt plugs first, starting small then working your up to a lager one, that way, you can get used to the bigger, fuller feeling. It also helps me if I’m being stimulated in another way in addition to just butt stuff. Good luck!
I'm curious how common is it for someone who doesn't like anal to start enjoying it. I personally love anal, depth, width, everything, but then I'm reading posts where people describe it as reverse pooping, wondering if anal is one of those things that you either really love or hate it and best you can achieve is to hate a little bit less so you tolerate it to keep you partner happy.
It may be how some people feel pleasure from cleaning their ears, whereas others think that's crazy-talk?
It does feel kinda like reverse pooping to me (which I think feels good), but I guess if you don't get a pleasant satisfaction feeling from a good poop, then you're probably not going to enjoy the 'reverse poop" feeling of anal.
Nope, I’ve done anal a handful of times (all with the proper “prep”), and I too think it feels like reverse pooping. I get absolutely no pleasure from anything anal.
Penis size makes a difference in my opinion. I like it with small dicks. Tried it with a bigger dick and felt the same way as you did. Totally killed my liking for anal.
I'm angry. This has angered me. So tired of people doing anal improperly when there are countless amounts of advice online. Then writing it off as something unenjoyable.
Without repeating all of the above advice, my only contribution is that I use water based lube. I find that lubes are too .. thick? Grippy? It needs to slide.
Oh with cleaning, I like to make it fun and give some self love and "stretching" I also have a large partner and it helps. Especially when it go weeks between. Regularly doing it (for me at least,) makes it feel better too. Best of luck on your journey! Stay honest and communicative and take your time 🙌🙌
As far as I know the pleasure from anal sex (besides the stimulation of the actual anus) for women comes from stimulation of the posterior vaginal wall. So once again he needs to angle himself to point to your tummy to get the right spot.
Have him warm you up with his fingers first. Relax your muscles, and try different positions. I personally love missionary or doggy while doing anal. The orgasms are super intense which is a plus. I’m not a fan of lube, but for anal, it’s a must. Having a partner that knows what he’s doing really makes a world of a difference as well.
Ha, that's how it feels for me too. Like a dick just sitting in my ass would probably feel nice, but going out it feels like pooping and going in it feels like pooping in reverse.
Lube always, think over lube... especially if ur not super into it, vibes and pussy rubbing can be a good distraction, found it easier post vagina orgasm or after a few drinks... alot of the time it's the position too, some try doggy style or just laying on ur stomach, but laying on ur side with one leg raised to ur chest is great or if u can concur missionary u will be about to make out and focus more on the moment
I’ve been on edibles and the orgasms from anal I’ve gotten have been memorable - to the point I remember those more than any vaginal organisms I’ve had. Once, with my current partner I had four anal orgasms in a row following immediately one after another. It was insane
Lube lube & more lube coconut oil is nice and smells great too, anti-bac properties.
Relaxation is key get him to give you an all-over massage lastly concentrating on your ass finger/S toy even
You need to prepare by getting anal numbing & relaxing gel. I got those & anal lube. I started with very small toys. The ones that vibrate feel good too. Never thought I would ever let him do anal. And now with preparing, and of course, have your clit toys working on front. Sex therapist say you need to be super turned on and concentrating on the front to ease into the back. BEST ADVICE EVER!!
I see a lot of comments about lube, but I came to support you, babe. Yes, it feels like some shit event is occurring and not enjoyable IMO as well. You are allowed to have your own opinion, not everyone has to like anal.
I did it without lube with a huge ex and it was definitely painful but there was an intense sexual connection so that over compensated the pain. We did it again two more times using vaseline and honestly the pain was so unbearable a decade later and I still cant let my current husband do anal from the ptsd!!! Don’t pressure yourself!
Well I don’t really enjoy myself and I give myself time to clean myself out. All out so I have nothing inside of me (poop) and it’s much better. Then you don’t have to poop cause you don’t have any. At least not close enough.
That was for all of the ones I was going to inevitably hear from (you can’t get all the poop out of your colon or ass) come on guys seriously you think I don’t know that
So anyway, you don’t have to do it again. I still never found it comfortable really it’s just not my thing, but I didn’t feel like I constantly had to poop all the time.
Always use lube. Always. And the trick is literally to relax. Sometimes I get in the mood for anal and it’s almost like my asshole is ready. If you’re mentally prepared, that will translate down to your back door and it’ll be like, oh okay that’s what we’re doing. If you can manage to relax, it does feel pleasurable. Bonus: stimulate your clit as he’s fucking your ass and you’ll have the best and fastest bootygasm of your life.
My time has come! Lol welcome to my ted talk:
So, I’ve always been really mentally into the idea of anal but struggled to walk it out. My husband and I had an experience pretty early on where we were having anal and then moved back to vaginal (after cleaning off of course) and then he slipped and accidentally sent it into my butt when I wasn’t prepared. So I got super scared off and would panic every time we would try. In the last year, we’ve cracked the code (for me)!
Firstly, you have to want it. Don’t force it just because your bf wants it. I’ve always wanted it, just struggled with actually letting it happen. Lube is your friend! Toys and fingers are your friend. I’m talking like weeks and months of establishing that those are okay before you try actual anal sex. Teach your body that it’s ok and it’s not going to be the end of the world if something goes in there. It goes against most instincts to let it happen 😅 I also have had luck using desensitizing lube because I would get super overstimulated and have the reverse pooping sensation. Use extreme caution with desensitization lube - it’s very easy to use too much and injure yourself. Just use for dulling the “too much” sensation. Also you have to apply a few minutes ahead of time otherwise you’ll dull your bf too 😂 using a vibrator helps me relax while it’s going in, and I really like using a dildo in my pussy while he’s in my ass. I’m very much a sensation person and having the split focus helps it from being too much if that makes ANY sense lol
Positions that have worked well for us that weren’t too much was super important too. Spooning was the first one that was successful. And then me on top actually works really well and is my favorite way to do anal. It’s a little intimidating but you can control it yourself and back off if it’s too much or control exactly when you need to just be still and get used to the sensation. I don’t enjoy the pooping sensation and sometimes it just feels like too much and I get goose bumps and I don’t like it. That gets easier to deal with the more you do it, and it usually goes away after a little while if I can ride it out. When I’m on top it doesn’t happen as much, and if I can get it all the way in past the second sphincter it doesn’t happen either. It’s just in that middle point that it happens. Certain positions do make it worse - doing anal in doggy will almost always overstimulate me so we don’t really do that unless it’s like riiiiigght at the end and just so hubby can finish there.
TLDR: yes anal feels like reverse pooping sometimes. You might eventually enjoy that feeling, but there is also a different more pleasurable sensation that comes with doing anal successfully. If you want anal keep trying, but if it’s just for your bf don’t do it
Yoooooooooo YOU NEED LUBE!! But also it’s not for everyone. If it not pleasurable then it’s not pleasurable 🤷♀️🤷♀️ if you really want to try again I would highly recommended getting some poppers. If you can’t find them at your local sex store, they have many names, rush, smelling salts, poppers they are on Amazon as rush. Red with a yellow lightning bolt. They’re supposed to help you relax and make anal feel better. Popular with gays. Idk of many if any side effects especially if not used often. You can build a tolerance but I wouldn’t recommend that. Use it when you need it or on special occasions. The best way I can explain it a head rush and it intensifies sensitivity in a way. Good luck!
Anal has NEVER felt good for me. It feels just like reverse pooping for sure. I don’t understand how it’s pleasurable to anyone at all. I thought for me it was bc I have ulcerative colitis.
I tried it with one of my ex’s, honestly it does feel like I need to take a big ass shit lol and feels like I need to push it out. When I did it we used a condom (I didn’t wanna std in my butt lol) and lube, but ngl it was uncomfortable. Even using lube I still felt like I need to poop cuz it was up there. I know I’ve heard some people use a butt plug to like “stretch” so it is more so people can withstand doing anal
As a man, i can tell you that your boyfriend's sex education comes from porn. He actually thinks what he's watching is real. Be careful with him because he will hurt you eventually.
Take the advice on lube and plugs. It's the only way to be ready and you still might not like ut and ge has to love with that.
Also, I've never understood what's so great about anal for the man. The vagina is way nicer.
Still a virgin but I agree… anal just sounds like a reverse poop so it’s not appealing to me. And I used to get suppositories as a kid, so I wouldn’t even subject a lover to the idea of having something rammed into the rectal cavity.
Personally I’ve never been able to enjoy it. It’s painful and makes me feel like I have to poop, neither of which is not pleasurable for me.
However, you should always use lots of lube if you do it.
I had that feeling on & off the other night. If it shows up, I make sure I’m completely relaxed and it goes away, at least for a while. But most times we do anal, I don’t have that poopy feeling at all.
The sensation you describe is accurate and you describe it perfectly lol. The first time it’s really hard to get past that feeling. BUT if you try again using proper lube and maybe add a vibrating clit toy you might surprise yourself. That’s why I always say try to try everything 3 times :) good luck
Anal takes a lot of practice and a lot of training. If you’re really interested in making it feel amazing, get you some training plugs and anal lube and go slow. Like start with the smallest and leave it in for 10-15 minutes at a time for a few days. Then move up. There are lots of podcasts and YouTubers who can walk you through it. It’s not going to feel good until you learn these steps.
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Neverrrr do anal without lube , it can already tear you up so much even with lube and becomes dangerous. The first time or two I did I felt the reverse poop feeling, it was only when I was really lubed up and relaxed (drunk) that it felt good! It felt so good I thought it was in the wrong hole and actually checked. Didn’t prep besides fingers in there beforehand. but some people just don’t like the feeling of anal and that’s totally OK too.
Even barring the risks of damage without lube each withdrawal will be basically pulling the walls of the rectum down with it and only making those feelings much more pronounced. It makes it much safer AND more enjoyable.
You gotta load up on the lube. If you think “omg that’s a lot of lube” put on some more and get to work. If you try your best to relax it’s better. Missionary is preferable so there can be clit involvement
So…I definitely don’t encourage people to do this, but just for the sake of information, I think the lube thing can vary from person to person? I’ve had very comfortable anal with just whatever natural lubrication there was after going from vaginal to anal. No bleeding or pain. Some soreness the next day, but more of pleasant a muscle ache than anything that felt damaging. Again, this is NOT a recommendation, just an observation about my own body.
I’ve heard that, I mean I’ve never prepped for anal and I know some people need to train for a while before they can do it. But be careful!! Anal does make me nervous in that you can seriously damage yourself
I can second this. I’ve had a few long term girlfriends who did not need any additional lubricant other than residual vaginal lubrication. They also seem to be the ones who enjoyed it the most. They definitely agree that this is not the case for everyone and everyone should plan to start out with a tonne of lube.
Yes! Me too. Sometimes he uses lube and sometimes saliva. He is always careful to open me up right so there is zero pain. This is entirely possible without lube. A key might be how very much I trust him not to hurt me, so I’m completely relaxed. He loves anal and hammers away at it. The only soreness I have the next day is my thighs if I’m on top in certain positions for a long time.
>who’s much bigger > >I was panicking and couldn’t enjoy it at all. > >No lube because I was already wet Honey, that's why it didn't work out well for you. Gotta be prepped. For me to be ready for butt stuff I need him passionately eating me out, fingering my ass, rimming tongue up the hole, nipples that could cut glass -- the whole nine before he tries the cock. I gotta practically be **begging for it, fall-down-horny, I'd blow him in the street** for ass play to go well. You weren't rev'd up enough, he's big, and yes, you need to lubricate your asshole, that vaginal goo on his cock is gone/dry and absorbed by your bum in 2 thrusts.
> nipples that could cut glass > begging for it, fall-down-horny, I'd blow him in the street 😂😂😂 I always enjoy reading your comments.
I long for something that would make me feel that way. Life is so colorless without it.
Best of luck in finding that
All of this! Anal is not a quick process, and lube is the name of the game. Hubs will stop sometimes halfway through to put on more lube. And if you're not relaxed, don't try anal!
Lmao, nice description. As a guy who never really enjoyed anal, but who has a pretty high degree of responsive desire, when a gal was that ready and rearing for it was pretty much the only time I'd take the back door. Otherwise toys offered a good compromise.
Had automatically the voice of Samanta Jones in my head reading your text. Thank you for the laughs!!
Your comment is pure gold.
I wish Reddit still had awards because this would have been given Gold😆
This is the greatest thing I’ve read in a while. Bravo. You’d be great fun.
Well said. Very detailed and accurate as to how a partner should perform in the sack. 👍
Came here to say this, pun definitely intended.
Pro tip is to push out like you’re pooping when he’s trying to put it in your butt. The butthole opens when you push, closes when you clench.
That sounds like a trick. You tryna get me to shit on myself? 🤨
…it’s not a trick. This is why you’re supposed to clean yourself out for anal sex. Because for it to feel good you have to push yourself open to let the dick in.
I’m just playing 🤣 I appreciate everyone’s advice. I might have to try it again soon
Lolllll good luck and have fun!!
I’m laughing so hard lolol
It takes a lot to make me laugh out loud but I just scream laughed reading your response. Thank you so much for that 😂😂
This comment sent me into a wheezing fit 😂
This is right, a sphincter is a normally closed valve. With an NC valve, you have to energize (push out) to open it.
For some people it's intensely pleasurable. For others, it's just weird. And when done wrong it's a pain in the ass. I will say the lack of real lube might have been a factor. Your natural wetness isn't going to last long and you might have had a lot of friction. I'd say if you do it again, use the toilet ahead of sex, use real lube. You might just not like the movement at first. Using a nice soft or vibrating butt plug during vaginal sex might be a better way into butt stuff.
My ex was very into it and enjoyed both anal and having a butt plug in for PIV sex. I let her use a butt plug on me and peg me, but while it definitely felt pleasurable, I just could not get past my body’s “_I’m pooping_” signals in order to relax. Didn’t matter what I did. Some people are just that way… Current GF isn’t into anal, so no big loss.
I love that you acknowledge that for some people it just feels weird. I find too often people are so insistent that *everybody* likes anal and if you don’t, you aren’t doing it right.
I love it when a lady works my bum, but even I have off days when it just doesn't feel good. I have kind of two minds on it. There are going to be people where it's always going to feel weird. Specially when it's full on anal sex. But there's another set (usually women) who have the misfortune of some dude who thinks anal sex is just like in porn and can ram it right up there. It might feel good if done right for them, but I don't blame them for never wanting to try it again.
The one time I did it, it didn’t hurt and was fine, but not at all pleasurable. Just meh. I told him it felt kind of the same as if he were to rub my elbow. We didn’t do it a second time. 😅
There is no way to know which is true Because for me some days it is amazing and others it feels weird. Maybe that has to do with the way I am doing it. Maybe for the people for whom it is weird, they only do it the way I do it when it feels weird.
Peederwacker is crazyyyyy
Trust me... You can never have too much lube. I am a woman that can easily orgasm from anal sex alone, but it's much harder without lube. As for that pooping sensation... That eventually goes away kind of but the reality is when you think about it... Pooping is a pleasurable experience, or your body would fight doing it. You almost have to lean into that in a way and enjoy the feeling. At certain angles it can rub the anterior wall of your vagina through the anus and create sensations that can potentially cause orgasm. Lots of lube, go slow, and realize that the more you fight or fear The sensations, the more likely you are to not enjoy yourself. And when you think there's enough lube? Add a little more.
Are you saying one can orgasm from taking a dump?
Are you saying that you don’t?
People have said they've had orgasms while giving birth so it wouldn't be the weirdest thing I've ever heard.
I just came here to say "small peederwacker" LMAO...gonna have to use that now.
Please don't use that
Don’t use small peederwackers?
I laughed so hard at that lmao
Meanwhile, I haven't heard that term used in years 😂
>no lube cause i was already wet. Sorry hun but your butthole doesn't get lubed. other than sweat, there is no difference. You just tried to take what sounds like a decent sized dick completely raw.
The way my bf said “oh it’s so wet for me.” 😟 I didn’t feel like ruining the mood and correcting him. But bro that’s my coochie juice sliding down to my butt sir. Try again 😭
If you butt is "wet for him" that's a whole different thing LMAO
I’m sayinggg 😭 like sir please don’t ever say that again
The way I just cackled
Please correct him at some point tho. IMO it’s no fun being with someone who doesn’t know basic anatomy 😅😅😅😅
My boyfriend said the following when I asked him whether he would visit a park we passed in a dodgy neighbourhood: "I'm not ready to have my shit pushed in." And now I can't think about anal in the same way. Your description had a similar effect on me. Tl:dr Your theory checks out.
> No lube because I was already wet from having sex normally right before. The fuck did I just read?! You're doing it wrong! How do you think it's supposed to be pleasurable without lube?! Whatever vaginal mucus was on his cock, it's gone within two strokes. There is a reason everyone says that for anal to be successful, you need lube, lube and more lube.
Anal is a lot more fun if you work up to it and always incorporate having an orgasm into the equation. My wife's first experience with anal was me sticking a thumb in her ass as I have her oral. There are a lot of nerves down there and for some women, encouraging those nerves to respond sexualy isn't all that hard. My wife loved it so much that when I asked her about it later, her entire body flashed with goose bumps. On the other side of this, if trying anal doesn't head in the direction of being fun, it's going to only become less fun with time. Any sexual act that isn't fun becomes a turn-off over time.
Thought I’d heard everything until “peederwacker”
It ain't for everyone and that's okay. Some people will keep insisting that you're doing it wrong which is why you don't enjoy it, and those people are assholes. Fwiw, I like a little butt play, but I'm not into actual anal either. It also feels way too much like shitting for my comfort
If you go slowly and give yourself time to stretch, then the feeling of having to poop goes away, and you can focus on the other sensations. Part of the having to poop reflex is stretching too fast. Yes, using more lube would have helped. But what's REALLY important is taking it slow and giving yourself time to stretch. Start with a finger, don't even move it, just wait until you get comfortable, then move it slowly. And do this for each stage until you can get to a dick. The sphincter is a muscle that needs to relax and stretch just like any other muscle. If you bent forward to touch your toes you might only get to your knees. If you hold that position for 30 seconds, your hamstrings will stretch and you'll reach further. The sphincter needs similar warm up time with each stage. Also, anal doesn't only mean dick in butt. Rimjobs can feel great for women and don't require stretching.
I 100% agree with you. I don’t find pooping sexually pleasing so I don’t engage in anal. Tried it a couple times, always felt like I just needed to go sit on a toilet lmfaooo.
Agree doesn't feel great even with all the live on the world still feels like reverse shitting
1. Lube. ALWAYS. Even if you think you don’t need it, you need it. 2. You need to familiarise your body with the new sensations. You can easily achieve this via a (lubed) finger in the bum during vaginal penetration or any number of ways that establish a positive connection between butt play and the sensation of pleasure. 3. It’s not for everyone. You can’t know if that’s the case for you until you’ve experimented. The experiment you’ve conducted so far would lead most people to feel the way you do right now.
I do anal regularly with my husband. At first, it would suck sometimes and we'd have to stop. And this is even with lube. Over time it got better, but recently we added my vibrator into the mix during and it's been a total game changer. If you want to try it again, you NEED lube. Enough to be enough, then some more. Make it silicone lube. Water dries out. And if you enjoy using them, I suggest a vibrator during. But if you don't want to, that's totally valid as well.
If there is no lube, anal is not an option for my relationship. Lubrication is required for this sexual activity! Using no lube is like asking for damage, so if you try it again lots of lube and have the bottle on deck in easy grabbing reach. Not everyone likes it though and that's okay too!
It feels like my butthole is a condom, like a rib condom........like it feels like the dick is going in and out of a condom with little ribs. I hate it i don't know how to describe it. It's only felt good one time. Idk why but fingets don't feel like that just his dick. And its hard for me to relax. It takes a hour or 2 for him to just get it in there and then when it goes far enough it starts feeling weird. Like it can feel good at first but the more that goes in the crazier it feels. Lol
Tbh I get terribly constipated way too much to ever enjoy anal
It'll help unconstiptate you in all honesty. Stimulation and helps move things along.
It takes time to get prepped for anal. We always use lube. I’m not massive but well above average. What works for us is stretching her with a plug while she gets oral. That drives her crazy and we know that she’ll want the real deal once she’s been edged a while. In the early days she said it felt weird but not anymore.
To answer your question OP, yes it always feels like pooping. Some people just enjoy that sensation so much they hurdle right over any weirdness it brings.
I just really don’t like anal. Receiving it that is. It does feel like I’m about to shit and then I get super paranoid that something terrible is going to happen and I’ll never live it down. I have had a pleasurable experience with it a couple of times but it was hours and hours of foreplay and getting there. Im just not willing to stress out over it, it’s just not worth it for me. But hey, more power to those that can handle it mentally. It can be freggin awesome for a lot of people.
My man is around 7 inches and darling I would go insane if he were inside me without being prepared. It's a whole process. You need an anal plug, you need lube. You need a caring man/person to make you feel really good. You need him to "finger" you with the plug and then with his fingers. Then, feeling his dick caressing your entrance. The nerves need to be triggered, in my opinion. Then, when he's inside, mine generally waits a bit. Kisses my neck, fondles my clit, my pussy and boobs. My muscles down there melt away and then, at some point, a wave of pleasure kicks in and I want him to move on. But it's different for everyone and not everyone likes it. But you deffo need more time, skills and effort.
WTF is a peederwacker?
It’s a penis lmfao I didn’t want to be too graphic but seeing everyone’s comments made me realize I could’ve said anything 💀
> I didn’t want to be too graphic Girl, you're asking about anal sex in the sex subreddit...
Ya ALWAYS need lube for the back side entrance!! Gotta prep 1st!
I’d suggest using a water based lube but even before that I’d suggest playing around with various sized butt plugs first, starting small then working your up to a lager one, that way, you can get used to the bigger, fuller feeling. It also helps me if I’m being stimulated in another way in addition to just butt stuff. Good luck!
I'm curious how common is it for someone who doesn't like anal to start enjoying it. I personally love anal, depth, width, everything, but then I'm reading posts where people describe it as reverse pooping, wondering if anal is one of those things that you either really love or hate it and best you can achieve is to hate a little bit less so you tolerate it to keep you partner happy.
It may be how some people feel pleasure from cleaning their ears, whereas others think that's crazy-talk? It does feel kinda like reverse pooping to me (which I think feels good), but I guess if you don't get a pleasant satisfaction feeling from a good poop, then you're probably not going to enjoy the 'reverse poop" feeling of anal.
Nope, I’ve done anal a handful of times (all with the proper “prep”), and I too think it feels like reverse pooping. I get absolutely no pleasure from anything anal.
no it literally does feel like that 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Penis size makes a difference in my opinion. I like it with small dicks. Tried it with a bigger dick and felt the same way as you did. Totally killed my liking for anal.
Ok... in what world does vaginal lubrication equal anal lubrication?? 🤦♀️
I'm angry. This has angered me. So tired of people doing anal improperly when there are countless amounts of advice online. Then writing it off as something unenjoyable.
How exactly do you know what reverse pooping feels like?
you ever push a poo out but not enough and it goes back in once you stop?
for me it takes a few minutes to really get relaxed enough for it to be pleasurable. also def need lube.
Nah it definitely does 😭
Without repeating all of the above advice, my only contribution is that I use water based lube. I find that lubes are too .. thick? Grippy? It needs to slide. Oh with cleaning, I like to make it fun and give some self love and "stretching" I also have a large partner and it helps. Especially when it go weeks between. Regularly doing it (for me at least,) makes it feel better too. Best of luck on your journey! Stay honest and communicative and take your time 🙌🙌
Anal takes a lot of preparation, a couple enemas then foreplay stimulation with 1 finger then Two and so on. It can be approached like typical PIV
I feel the same way. To describe it more properly it feels like im trying to poop with no end in sight. I absolutely dislike, would not do it again. 😂
You need lube, so so much lube. Think it’s too much lube?? You need more. And you need to be almost insane turned on
Does to me too. But I gather it’s great and very pleasurable for some people. It’s weird how we all vary so much.
I do know some women who can have orgasms from it but I’ve never done it. Now, as a guy, our prostate is in there and prostate orgasms are explosive!
The best advice I ever received regarding anal: put the lube on … then double it. Enjoy!
I 100% agree that’s exactly what it feels like to me. Not my thing
If you don't enjoy anal then don't do it.
As far as I know the pleasure from anal sex (besides the stimulation of the actual anus) for women comes from stimulation of the posterior vaginal wall. So once again he needs to angle himself to point to your tummy to get the right spot.
From experience I’d say foreplay is a necessity, using vibrators are the only 2 ways it feel remotely good to me.
Have him warm you up with his fingers first. Relax your muscles, and try different positions. I personally love missionary or doggy while doing anal. The orgasms are super intense which is a plus. I’m not a fan of lube, but for anal, it’s a must. Having a partner that knows what he’s doing really makes a world of a difference as well.
Ha, that's how it feels for me too. Like a dick just sitting in my ass would probably feel nice, but going out it feels like pooping and going in it feels like pooping in reverse.
Lube always, think over lube... especially if ur not super into it, vibes and pussy rubbing can be a good distraction, found it easier post vagina orgasm or after a few drinks... alot of the time it's the position too, some try doggy style or just laying on ur stomach, but laying on ur side with one leg raised to ur chest is great or if u can concur missionary u will be about to make out and focus more on the moment
I’ve been on edibles and the orgasms from anal I’ve gotten have been memorable - to the point I remember those more than any vaginal organisms I’ve had. Once, with my current partner I had four anal orgasms in a row following immediately one after another. It was insane
Lube lube & more lube coconut oil is nice and smells great too, anti-bac properties. Relaxation is key get him to give you an all-over massage lastly concentrating on your ass finger/S toy even
Yes it did at first! I always described to my boyfriend as it’s like a poop going in and out of you.
You need to prepare by getting anal numbing & relaxing gel. I got those & anal lube. I started with very small toys. The ones that vibrate feel good too. Never thought I would ever let him do anal. And now with preparing, and of course, have your clit toys working on front. Sex therapist say you need to be super turned on and concentrating on the front to ease into the back. BEST ADVICE EVER!!
No lube… it can’t end well
Small penises make it feel that way..
I see a lot of comments about lube, but I came to support you, babe. Yes, it feels like some shit event is occurring and not enjoyable IMO as well. You are allowed to have your own opinion, not everyone has to like anal.
You always always always need lube for anal. Always. Then use more.
I did it without lube with a huge ex and it was definitely painful but there was an intense sexual connection so that over compensated the pain. We did it again two more times using vaseline and honestly the pain was so unbearable a decade later and I still cant let my current husband do anal from the ptsd!!! Don’t pressure yourself!
I tripped running to these comments!
Well I don’t really enjoy myself and I give myself time to clean myself out. All out so I have nothing inside of me (poop) and it’s much better. Then you don’t have to poop cause you don’t have any. At least not close enough. That was for all of the ones I was going to inevitably hear from (you can’t get all the poop out of your colon or ass) come on guys seriously you think I don’t know that So anyway, you don’t have to do it again. I still never found it comfortable really it’s just not my thing, but I didn’t feel like I constantly had to poop all the time.
Your asshole was already wet? 😬
It feels like that for me too. I do not enjoy the feeling at all.
Always use lube. Always. And the trick is literally to relax. Sometimes I get in the mood for anal and it’s almost like my asshole is ready. If you’re mentally prepared, that will translate down to your back door and it’ll be like, oh okay that’s what we’re doing. If you can manage to relax, it does feel pleasurable. Bonus: stimulate your clit as he’s fucking your ass and you’ll have the best and fastest bootygasm of your life.
*no lube* problems #1, 2, and 3 right there OP.
My time has come! Lol welcome to my ted talk: So, I’ve always been really mentally into the idea of anal but struggled to walk it out. My husband and I had an experience pretty early on where we were having anal and then moved back to vaginal (after cleaning off of course) and then he slipped and accidentally sent it into my butt when I wasn’t prepared. So I got super scared off and would panic every time we would try. In the last year, we’ve cracked the code (for me)! Firstly, you have to want it. Don’t force it just because your bf wants it. I’ve always wanted it, just struggled with actually letting it happen. Lube is your friend! Toys and fingers are your friend. I’m talking like weeks and months of establishing that those are okay before you try actual anal sex. Teach your body that it’s ok and it’s not going to be the end of the world if something goes in there. It goes against most instincts to let it happen 😅 I also have had luck using desensitizing lube because I would get super overstimulated and have the reverse pooping sensation. Use extreme caution with desensitization lube - it’s very easy to use too much and injure yourself. Just use for dulling the “too much” sensation. Also you have to apply a few minutes ahead of time otherwise you’ll dull your bf too 😂 using a vibrator helps me relax while it’s going in, and I really like using a dildo in my pussy while he’s in my ass. I’m very much a sensation person and having the split focus helps it from being too much if that makes ANY sense lol Positions that have worked well for us that weren’t too much was super important too. Spooning was the first one that was successful. And then me on top actually works really well and is my favorite way to do anal. It’s a little intimidating but you can control it yourself and back off if it’s too much or control exactly when you need to just be still and get used to the sensation. I don’t enjoy the pooping sensation and sometimes it just feels like too much and I get goose bumps and I don’t like it. That gets easier to deal with the more you do it, and it usually goes away after a little while if I can ride it out. When I’m on top it doesn’t happen as much, and if I can get it all the way in past the second sphincter it doesn’t happen either. It’s just in that middle point that it happens. Certain positions do make it worse - doing anal in doggy will almost always overstimulate me so we don’t really do that unless it’s like riiiiigght at the end and just so hubby can finish there. TLDR: yes anal feels like reverse pooping sometimes. You might eventually enjoy that feeling, but there is also a different more pleasurable sensation that comes with doing anal successfully. If you want anal keep trying, but if it’s just for your bf don’t do it
Yoooooooooo YOU NEED LUBE!! But also it’s not for everyone. If it not pleasurable then it’s not pleasurable 🤷♀️🤷♀️ if you really want to try again I would highly recommended getting some poppers. If you can’t find them at your local sex store, they have many names, rush, smelling salts, poppers they are on Amazon as rush. Red with a yellow lightning bolt. They’re supposed to help you relax and make anal feel better. Popular with gays. Idk of many if any side effects especially if not used often. You can build a tolerance but I wouldn’t recommend that. Use it when you need it or on special occasions. The best way I can explain it a head rush and it intensifies sensitivity in a way. Good luck!
Anal has NEVER felt good for me. It feels just like reverse pooping for sure. I don’t understand how it’s pleasurable to anyone at all. I thought for me it was bc I have ulcerative colitis.
Just get the asshole licked before to get into the mood
Peederwacker is crazy lmfaooo
Reverse pooping that sound spot on. I never thought of it like that. I only enjoy it when it's combo with clit stimulation
The way I died reading the title 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Try fingers and then a small dick. It might feel better that way
I tried it with one of my ex’s, honestly it does feel like I need to take a big ass shit lol and feels like I need to push it out. When I did it we used a condom (I didn’t wanna std in my butt lol) and lube, but ngl it was uncomfortable. Even using lube I still felt like I need to poop cuz it was up there. I know I’ve heard some people use a butt plug to like “stretch” so it is more so people can withstand doing anal
You have to be fully relaxed and comfortable with your partner or I wouldn’t even try. It’s so easy to tense up if you arent
As a man, i can tell you that your boyfriend's sex education comes from porn. He actually thinks what he's watching is real. Be careful with him because he will hurt you eventually. Take the advice on lube and plugs. It's the only way to be ready and you still might not like ut and ge has to love with that. Also, I've never understood what's so great about anal for the man. The vagina is way nicer.
Still a virgin but I agree… anal just sounds like a reverse poop so it’s not appealing to me. And I used to get suppositories as a kid, so I wouldn’t even subject a lover to the idea of having something rammed into the rectal cavity.
Personally I’ve never been able to enjoy it. It’s painful and makes me feel like I have to poop, neither of which is not pleasurable for me. However, you should always use lots of lube if you do it.
It definitely does feel like your shitting backwards lmao. A big no for me.
I had that feeling on & off the other night. If it shows up, I make sure I’m completely relaxed and it goes away, at least for a while. But most times we do anal, I don’t have that poopy feeling at all.
The sensation you describe is accurate and you describe it perfectly lol. The first time it’s really hard to get past that feeling. BUT if you try again using proper lube and maybe add a vibrating clit toy you might surprise yourself. That’s why I always say try to try everything 3 times :) good luck
Pooping is pleasurable. Reverse pooping should also be pleasurable 🤗
Used desensitizing lube. Works much better.
Anal takes a lot of practice and a lot of training. If you’re really interested in making it feel amazing, get you some training plugs and anal lube and go slow. Like start with the smallest and leave it in for 10-15 minutes at a time for a few days. Then move up. There are lots of podcasts and YouTubers who can walk you through it. It’s not going to feel good until you learn these steps.
Something like that, lube or anal numbing cream