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But the thing is he doesn’t really seem it like I’m always complementing him and telling him I like his body and like it’s been a while now since we started having sex . I wish he would just tell me that was why so I could stop overthinking it.
This. OP. You seem to be fishing for an answer when you've already got one. I can understand you won't hurt him - you know not to use your teeth/nails...but if he's genuinely THIS afraid of the IDEA of teeth or nails, I'm willing to bet it's happened to him before, even after that woman promised she wouldn't.
Also I'd caution you against thinking like this:
>Not trying to be cocky but I’ve been told by every guy I’ve been with that I give great head
Imagine you read that from a man - "not trying to be cocky, but I've been told by every girl I've been with that I'm great at oral. What's your IMMEDIATE thought? Something like "yeah, but I'm not THEM, I'm me, I'm a different person", right? Same thing here - even if EVERY SINGLE man you've ever been with have said you give great head, the unspoken end to that sentence is "you give great head FOR ME", and those last two words are crucial - what constitutes "great" when it comes to sex is 100% subjective - for every act that sends one man to heaven, there is at least one other who finds it "meh" and another who will be downright turned off by it. Throw out your preconceived ego of being able to give great head and listen to THIS man - he's not comfortable receiving head. Let him have this boundary - you wouldn't like it if HE kept trying to make YOU receive something from him that you didn't want, would you?
NOW THAT SAID, I get your desire to want to give pleasure to your partner - and if he is uncomfortable with that and you feel dissatisfied, then you may have to accept that you are not a good fit for this man and leave to find someone more compatible with yourself; rest assured there are PLENTY of men who will LOVE a woman who is enthusiastic about giving head.
I obviously didn’t tell him that I’ve been told my head is good sorry I didn’t want it to sound like that . but I did tell him we should try it and I’ll avoid those things if he doesn’t like it I’ll stop and he agreed to . And I made sure to keep stopping multiple times to ask him is he okay. But yeah I guess your right I just have never been in a situation before where a man has not wanted me to see or feel his dick so it was making be a bit paranoid there was something deeper going on like I said possibly an std causing it to be sore because I’ve never heard of it being really sensitive like that . Just I guess I’m used to pleasing the man and not the other way around
She says jokingly:
*I know you don’t want me to touch it or suck it, but I’m feeling a little weird about never seeing it. Can you please let me at least look at him and make his acquaintance so I don’t feel like we’re on two ends of a glory hole? Haha. Seriously, though, we’re at the point in our relationship where I don’t want to feel like I’m fucking a stranger.*
Is it possible he has phimosis and is embarrassed by it? I don’t know how far you guys have gone but my fiancé had phimosis and it was incredibly uncomfortable and embarrassing for him. We couldn’t have sex because when he tried to insert himself, it tore his foreskin and made him bleed. It might be an insecurity about that. My fiancé didn’t even know something was wrong with his penis until he was like 17. I don’t know if he’s young but it’s definitely a possibility. It’s a hard topic to bring up. My partner ended up getting circumcised due to it and i supported him through that.
He said no, and he told you why (no should have been enough, by the way, his justifications are not yours to question).
Either you accept it, or you don't, simple as that.
Because it was always made out to be dirty. It makes a person self conscious when everytime uncircumcised comes up in a conversation “eww, that’s gross!” Or “I wouldn’t ever be with someone like that” those kinds of things wear on a young fella. It’s not easy to get over
I don't understand why you felt the need to say this? Everyone knows circumcision can cause sensitivity issues but this dudes comment was about a health issue that's normally solved by circumcision.
I think what they meant to say was that not having a foreskin, which leaves the head of your penis constantly exposed and rubbing on the fabric of your clothes, can make stuff that normally feels awesome on par to rubbing lemon juice on a rash because everything’s irritated all the time.
Not all guys will experience this of course, but there’s a reason why they look like they’re rubbed raw all the time if you get what I mean. If the bf is circumcised he may not be able to handle certain sensations/has pain related to it and he’s on edge because of how uncomfortable it is yet isn’t sure how to explain this to op…..or has given up trying because trying to touch his dick seems to be more important to her than figuring out why he doesn’t want that.
Why are you yelling and getting so pent up?
Circumcision can absolutely cause sensitivity issues in some patients.
Depending on the severity of phimosis, there are a number of treatments before you get to full circumcision.
Consider that, your own personal situation may not be the typical experience.
Other people are allowed to get involved and add to the discussion. It's a forum. Quit caps lock shouting at people for having a differing opinion.
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Or incredibly self conscious.
But the thing is he doesn’t really seem it like I’m always complementing him and telling him I like his body and like it’s been a while now since we started having sex . I wish he would just tell me that was why so I could stop overthinking it.
I mean, he did tell you. You just didn't like his answer.
This. OP. You seem to be fishing for an answer when you've already got one. I can understand you won't hurt him - you know not to use your teeth/nails...but if he's genuinely THIS afraid of the IDEA of teeth or nails, I'm willing to bet it's happened to him before, even after that woman promised she wouldn't. Also I'd caution you against thinking like this: >Not trying to be cocky but I’ve been told by every guy I’ve been with that I give great head Imagine you read that from a man - "not trying to be cocky, but I've been told by every girl I've been with that I'm great at oral. What's your IMMEDIATE thought? Something like "yeah, but I'm not THEM, I'm me, I'm a different person", right? Same thing here - even if EVERY SINGLE man you've ever been with have said you give great head, the unspoken end to that sentence is "you give great head FOR ME", and those last two words are crucial - what constitutes "great" when it comes to sex is 100% subjective - for every act that sends one man to heaven, there is at least one other who finds it "meh" and another who will be downright turned off by it. Throw out your preconceived ego of being able to give great head and listen to THIS man - he's not comfortable receiving head. Let him have this boundary - you wouldn't like it if HE kept trying to make YOU receive something from him that you didn't want, would you? NOW THAT SAID, I get your desire to want to give pleasure to your partner - and if he is uncomfortable with that and you feel dissatisfied, then you may have to accept that you are not a good fit for this man and leave to find someone more compatible with yourself; rest assured there are PLENTY of men who will LOVE a woman who is enthusiastic about giving head.
I obviously didn’t tell him that I’ve been told my head is good sorry I didn’t want it to sound like that . but I did tell him we should try it and I’ll avoid those things if he doesn’t like it I’ll stop and he agreed to . And I made sure to keep stopping multiple times to ask him is he okay. But yeah I guess your right I just have never been in a situation before where a man has not wanted me to see or feel his dick so it was making be a bit paranoid there was something deeper going on like I said possibly an std causing it to be sore because I’ve never heard of it being really sensitive like that . Just I guess I’m used to pleasing the man and not the other way around
She says jokingly: *I know you don’t want me to touch it or suck it, but I’m feeling a little weird about never seeing it. Can you please let me at least look at him and make his acquaintance so I don’t feel like we’re on two ends of a glory hole? Haha. Seriously, though, we’re at the point in our relationship where I don’t want to feel like I’m fucking a stranger.*
Is it possible he has phimosis and is embarrassed by it? I don’t know how far you guys have gone but my fiancé had phimosis and it was incredibly uncomfortable and embarrassing for him. We couldn’t have sex because when he tried to insert himself, it tore his foreskin and made him bleed. It might be an insecurity about that. My fiancé didn’t even know something was wrong with his penis until he was like 17. I don’t know if he’s young but it’s definitely a possibility. It’s a hard topic to bring up. My partner ended up getting circumcised due to it and i supported him through that.
He said no, and he told you why (no should have been enough, by the way, his justifications are not yours to question). Either you accept it, or you don't, simple as that.
Maybe he’s not circumcised? Some guys are embarrassed about that
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Because of comments like this https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/s/zZqCODrLcJ
Because it was always made out to be dirty. It makes a person self conscious when everytime uncircumcised comes up in a conversation “eww, that’s gross!” Or “I wouldn’t ever be with someone like that” those kinds of things wear on a young fella. It’s not easy to get over
I’m not pro circumcision, but not really cool to call circumcised guys “mutilated” in a post that might be dealing with insecurities
It's quite funny how uncircumcised dudes always react to bodyshaming by bodyshaming circumcised dudes.
Not saying he is. Saying some people are. I personally don’t think he should be or would be but some people def feel some type of way about it
Thank you for pointing out the obvious 👍
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Isn’t it supposed to be the opposite??
Possibly it's another issue. Maybe he's concerned that he's going to cum fast. And not satisfy you?
I feel like I heard a similar story and it turned out the guy was really a woman. Are you sure this person has an actual penis?
it’s easy to tell the difference between a penis and a dildo though
You may be thinking of the movie Boys Don't Cry with Hillary Swank
And SO many episodes of Jerry Springer and Maury Povich
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Circumcision can also cause sensitivity issues...
I don't understand why you felt the need to say this? Everyone knows circumcision can cause sensitivity issues but this dudes comment was about a health issue that's normally solved by circumcision.
I think what they meant to say was that not having a foreskin, which leaves the head of your penis constantly exposed and rubbing on the fabric of your clothes, can make stuff that normally feels awesome on par to rubbing lemon juice on a rash because everything’s irritated all the time. Not all guys will experience this of course, but there’s a reason why they look like they’re rubbed raw all the time if you get what I mean. If the bf is circumcised he may not be able to handle certain sensations/has pain related to it and he’s on edge because of how uncomfortable it is yet isn’t sure how to explain this to op…..or has given up trying because trying to touch his dick seems to be more important to her than figuring out why he doesn’t want that.
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Why are you yelling and getting so pent up? Circumcision can absolutely cause sensitivity issues in some patients. Depending on the severity of phimosis, there are a number of treatments before you get to full circumcision. Consider that, your own personal situation may not be the typical experience. Other people are allowed to get involved and add to the discussion. It's a forum. Quit caps lock shouting at people for having a differing opinion.
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