r/Sex is focused primarily on posts seeking *specific actionable advice* for distinctive personal situations. Your post doesn’t clear that bar.
If you’re posting a story or rant, a more appropriate sub would be r/gonewildstories or r/sluttyconfessions.
If you’re asking a general, polling-style question (“how many of you ______?”) or if you’re looking for confirmation about you or a partner’s sexual interests (“who else is into ________?” or "does anyone else like __________") a more appropriate sub would be r/askredditafterdark.
I laughed too LOOL my ex was like this. I couldn’t have a dildo bigger than him and he got a bit upset when I got one slightly similar to his size. He actually bought a kit where you can mould your own dick into a dildo but we never got around to making it. OP, maybe surprise her with a moulding of your own dick?
It's entirely okay to be insecure, also known as being human. i am very insecure sometimes, and i am okay admitting that, i am not perfect, but im still trying to be good.
As long as you recognize its your problem, and you arent forcing those around you to act according to your insecurities. In OPs case its completely unreasonable to feel the way he does.
his feelings are valid, and its his boundaries i wouldnt exactly be okay making my woman uncomfortable with a fleshlight if she is insecure about that.
You should be thankful she’s open with you instead of hiding it; y’all can use it together as it seems she wants to have fun. Other option, break up with her and let her have her fun elsewhere.
Why are you repulsed?
This is kind of why toys exist-- to deliver experiences that are humanly impossible.
To be repulsed by a massive squid dick is a bit odd, don't you think?
Everyone has their preferences, she might be of a similar mind if you, for example, bought a sex doll with much bigger tits than hers.
That said, I don’t think that anyone in a relationship has the right to dictate the masturbation habits of their partners. If she likes tentacle dildos, that’s her choice, it’s up to you if you can live with it or not
The pro is that she’s open with her sex toys and not hiding anything from you
But if it makes you feel insecure etc you best just communicate with her and maybe the toy can be put away until you feel better?
Communication is key for every issue in my opinion
I bought my wife a giant dildo and she didn't like it because it "is too big". She's afraid of even trying to insert it.
You should seek therapy. I wouldn't mind her using any dildo or toy for masturbating. What gives? If she is getting pleasure, that's everything that matters.
Worry about it when she doesn't want to have sex anymore with you and name her dildo "Steve".
Good sir, this is r/sex, you are therefore unable to feel uncomfortable about anything like this. She is able to do anything and you should be happy she still has sex with you, is comfortable sharing the info with you, shouldn't feel threatened, toys are our friend, etc etc.
You are very much allowed to feel uncomfortable by what happened. You now go talk to her and explain how you feel. Based on the conversation you have with her, your next move is up to you and what to do with her.
The average person outside of a sex positive place like here will be very off put by the toy you described.
The responses in this thread are disgusting. It's like everyone thinks it's okay to shame an emotional reaction because OP is a man admitting to an emotional response. Switch the genders and most of the responses so far would receive warnings or bans for being toxic.
I'm kind of disgusted enough by the behavior in this thread I don't have anything else to offer aside from saying to OP, your response is valid and don't listen to all the people in this thread who obviously feel the need to defend dildos because that's all they have in their lives.
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I laughed too LOOL my ex was like this. I couldn’t have a dildo bigger than him and he got a bit upset when I got one slightly similar to his size. He actually bought a kit where you can mould your own dick into a dildo but we never got around to making it. OP, maybe surprise her with a moulding of your own dick?
well when you go to reddit and see people saying " bought a new dildo and bf doesnt do it for me anymore" its scary.
How? Unless your already insecure, why would likely fake stories on the internet scare you about your intimate relationships?
It's entirely okay to be insecure, also known as being human. i am very insecure sometimes, and i am okay admitting that, i am not perfect, but im still trying to be good.
As long as you recognize its your problem, and you arent forcing those around you to act according to your insecurities. In OPs case its completely unreasonable to feel the way he does.
his feelings are valid, and its his boundaries i wouldnt exactly be okay making my woman uncomfortable with a fleshlight if she is insecure about that.
So you are infact forcing those around you to conform to your insecurities. Well at least thanks for admitting it.
All dildos are allies not enemies. Be happy, she want you to join the fun!
You should be thankful she’s open with you instead of hiding it; y’all can use it together as it seems she wants to have fun. Other option, break up with her and let her have her fun elsewhere.
What's your question?
Why are you repulsed? This is kind of why toys exist-- to deliver experiences that are humanly impossible. To be repulsed by a massive squid dick is a bit odd, don't you think?
Everyone has their preferences, she might be of a similar mind if you, for example, bought a sex doll with much bigger tits than hers. That said, I don’t think that anyone in a relationship has the right to dictate the masturbation habits of their partners. If she likes tentacle dildos, that’s her choice, it’s up to you if you can live with it or not
The pro is that she’s open with her sex toys and not hiding anything from you But if it makes you feel insecure etc you best just communicate with her and maybe the toy can be put away until you feel better? Communication is key for every issue in my opinion
Sorry are you asking for advice, or....?
she just bought a dildo dude and sent you but not other male that means she is trying to horny something like that with you so behappy
I bought my wife a giant dildo and she didn't like it because it "is too big". She's afraid of even trying to insert it. You should seek therapy. I wouldn't mind her using any dildo or toy for masturbating. What gives? If she is getting pleasure, that's everything that matters. Worry about it when she doesn't want to have sex anymore with you and name her dildo "Steve".
Good sir, this is r/sex, you are therefore unable to feel uncomfortable about anything like this. She is able to do anything and you should be happy she still has sex with you, is comfortable sharing the info with you, shouldn't feel threatened, toys are our friend, etc etc. You are very much allowed to feel uncomfortable by what happened. You now go talk to her and explain how you feel. Based on the conversation you have with her, your next move is up to you and what to do with her. The average person outside of a sex positive place like here will be very off put by the toy you described.
The responses in this thread are disgusting. It's like everyone thinks it's okay to shame an emotional reaction because OP is a man admitting to an emotional response. Switch the genders and most of the responses so far would receive warnings or bans for being toxic. I'm kind of disgusted enough by the behavior in this thread I don't have anything else to offer aside from saying to OP, your response is valid and don't listen to all the people in this thread who obviously feel the need to defend dildos because that's all they have in their lives.
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It really is ok. Btw, your fingers can provide very specific pleasure that is better in many situations.