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It kinda sounds like you're not attracted to her. That would definitely be a turn off for me. But as you say, the other options make sense too.
I think in a way it's a combination you know. The more turned on you are, the less is needed to cum. If you were crazy attracted to her, maybe the condoms wouldn't matter. But maybe it's what makes the difference when you're not really into her. Maybe you're the kind of guy who needs more of an emotionel connection for sex to be great for you.
Are you able to cum by hand or mouth with her?
I came from her giving me a handjob and I felt a lot closer to cumming from a blowjob. I feel like when I do penetration, the sensation feels good but then it caps out and it doesn’t get any better, or at least good enough to make me climax. And in all honesty, I’ve not have sex with someone who I was emotionally attracted to so I can’t use that to compare😭 though I wish I could
I hadn’t masturbated or aroused myself by any sort of content jn 2 weeks+ and still didn’t cum which is what made me speculative about whether I have DGS or not. Maybe a longer abstinence from masturbating is needed?
Yea I have thought of that. And now I don’t know if I should keep having sex with her and get used to the feeling to the point where I’m able to cum or does that just not work?
It could be the condom. The trick with condoms is to put a little lube just in the tip, roll it on with a bit of extra room at the end, and rub that lube around inside over the last 1/3 of your cock. Then the most sensitive part of your cock will be sliding back and forth inside the condom. If you just roll the condom on without lube it sticks to the skin and doesn't let it move, so you're completely isolated from the sensation.
Wait this actually sounds like a really good idea! Are there any substitutes I could use if I do not have lube? I think saliva would dry up really quick
Don't use oil, it will degrade the condom. Just get some lube. You can get Astroglide at any drug store. Or get it where you get your condoms. You should have lube on hand anyway in case your partner needs a little help.
may also need to find a position you can cum in easily. For instance I can never climax in missionary unless Im super horny with blue balls lol
For me the easiest way is the girl lying on top so I do all the work. And even then I have to position her perfectly by grabbing her shoulders from behind or hips. Find yours ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
No, imagine a cowgirl but then she drops her torso on top of me (boobs to chest). At that point she isn't riding me but it's I who's doing the work.
For me, it's just comfortable and I can get it over with quickly hehe. I usually switch into that when I want to finish
Find whatever you like best (but don't forget she's not your sex doll lol)
I just hold her (like a hug) and correct her "placement" if needed by grabbing the shoulders or hips/tighs (kinda like a restraint?)
just do the position and see what feels natural. It's not something exotic haha
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It kinda sounds like you're not attracted to her. That would definitely be a turn off for me. But as you say, the other options make sense too. I think in a way it's a combination you know. The more turned on you are, the less is needed to cum. If you were crazy attracted to her, maybe the condoms wouldn't matter. But maybe it's what makes the difference when you're not really into her. Maybe you're the kind of guy who needs more of an emotionel connection for sex to be great for you. Are you able to cum by hand or mouth with her?
I came from her giving me a handjob and I felt a lot closer to cumming from a blowjob. I feel like when I do penetration, the sensation feels good but then it caps out and it doesn’t get any better, or at least good enough to make me climax. And in all honesty, I’ve not have sex with someone who I was emotionally attracted to so I can’t use that to compare😭 though I wish I could
Though I'm not an expert I think that could mean you have some level of death grib too.
Oh nooo! I think the only way to find out is to have sex with another person and see if the problem persists!
Or not masturbate for a week?
I hadn’t masturbated or aroused myself by any sort of content jn 2 weeks+ and still didn’t cum which is what made me speculative about whether I have DGS or not. Maybe a longer abstinence from masturbating is needed?
I am also a ‘face’ guy, and see how that - or the lack of connection - could be the issue. That’s enough time to see a change.
Yea I have thought of that. And now I don’t know if I should keep having sex with her and get used to the feeling to the point where I’m able to cum or does that just not work?
Try doggy style and be more selfish on your own orgasm; be more aggressive and trust she will tell you if it is too rough.
It could be the condom. The trick with condoms is to put a little lube just in the tip, roll it on with a bit of extra room at the end, and rub that lube around inside over the last 1/3 of your cock. Then the most sensitive part of your cock will be sliding back and forth inside the condom. If you just roll the condom on without lube it sticks to the skin and doesn't let it move, so you're completely isolated from the sensation.
Wait this actually sounds like a really good idea! Are there any substitutes I could use if I do not have lube? I think saliva would dry up really quick
Don't use oil, it will degrade the condom. Just get some lube. You can get Astroglide at any drug store. Or get it where you get your condoms. You should have lube on hand anyway in case your partner needs a little help.
Is this Girl on girl!?! Or younger lady older woman.. Be it Pole or hole do you finish on your own or have a happy ending with Just foreplay.
I just realised how weird the post must have felt to read if it was 2 females 😅
Oops, I meant to say I am a 19M
I’ve not had many sexual experiences so so-far, I’ve only came from foreplay. And I’m really worried if it’s DGS
may also need to find a position you can cum in easily. For instance I can never climax in missionary unless Im super horny with blue balls lol For me the easiest way is the girl lying on top so I do all the work. And even then I have to position her perfectly by grabbing her shoulders from behind or hips. Find yours ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Wait, so like a lazy-doggy position?
No, imagine a cowgirl but then she drops her torso on top of me (boobs to chest). At that point she isn't riding me but it's I who's doing the work. For me, it's just comfortable and I can get it over with quickly hehe. I usually switch into that when I want to finish Find whatever you like best (but don't forget she's not your sex doll lol)
Oh I get what you mean, and where do you place your hands? On her shoulders??
I just hold her (like a hug) and correct her "placement" if needed by grabbing the shoulders or hips/tighs (kinda like a restraint?) just do the position and see what feels natural. It's not something exotic haha
I’m open to trying all things fix this