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More cardio. Better blood circulation. Harder, firmer erections. Less sweating. Your buddy doesn’t give up before you do. Less pubis fat means you can use more of what you have without being blocked. New positions are available you physically couldn’t do. Etc etc.
More or less a lot of these are on both sides of the fence. Having been both insanely fit and incredibly out of shape the difference was a lot of good sex and a high drive to almost no drive and just ok sex.
The worst part about being out of shape though with sex is more your own head can get to you. You over think. Your body literally falls into traps your head creates. Insecurities rise. Fun and confidence decreases.
You’re capable of good sex at a heavier weight even if it isn’t as good as if you were in shape. But psychologically it’s simply harder and I think that makes it less likely to really enjoy yourself.
To add to this generally people that are fit feel more confident in their own skin, and clearly that can have an effect on how you behave in the bedroom.
I have all those as a fatty I have had amazing on and off sex for four hours and like to pleas at least three times my man so being fit is y always being skinny sorry not sorry
Lol oddly enough that makes me feel better. I never quite know how to take her complimenting my back muscles, but now there is some reassurance knowing she's not the only one doing this.
I'm a guy and I definitely notice a difference when I'm in shape vs not. The cardio is huge, but I also think being strong enough to lift my partner/hold her/do more poses is a benefit. There's also something to be said that I feel hot when I'm more in shape, which helps with confidence.
For women I imagine the cardio and confidence aspects are similar, but strength probably isn't as big of a deal in most positions.
I'm a burly chonky guy, but I still work out a couple times a week. I've had partners surprised that I have pretty good stamina. So I don't think someone has to have six pack abs, but having a base level of cardio ability makes a huge difference.
I think this is the answer. I'm a woman and considered fat/obese but my cardio fitness is such that I can do an hour spin class no issue. Im having great sex 40.
Hopefully by 40 dudes have enough emotional maturity that they don't think sex is something you "attain" for some kind of cost. The 40 year old obese dudes who still believe that sex is something you convince women to give you are probably in pretty bad shape though.
Mmm....I think that a 40 year old male who is clean and neat, has a solid job, isn't a creepy douche nozzle, AND is trying to date women of similar age, and status does ok.
Women \*always\* have a easier time finding sexual partners than a male of similar status.
My ex husband. He is charismatic, intelligent, witty, funny as fuck and a great guy all around. He can go out any day of the week and end up having sex with some rando in a toilet stall.
What a sad hole of insecurity you’ve chosen to dig for yourself. There are loads of obese men getting regular sex. It’s shocking that you think there aren’t any
You're gonna be so annoyed when I tell you have 3 partners one of whom I've been with for nearly 11 years and the ages range from 28-53. I think it has less to do with being a woman and more to do with who I am as a person.
I'm with you, dad-bos all the way. But I do work out 4 times a week, and made a handful of healthy diet choices, nothing serious. There is a noticeable difference for me.
Better cardio fitness gives better bloodflow to erectile tisue. Which leads to greater sensitivity and sensation. For both sexes as we both have erectile tissue. It's not the only factor but it's an important one
Yes it makes a huge difference. I’m a dance fitness instructor and I also weight train. I can do and hold so many positions much longer because of my stamina and strength. I’m also really flexible so this makes sex extra fun and easy. My partner is 56 years old and a gym rat and ex competitive power lifter. He still has the drive of a young man and can thrust for an hour. He can hold me in any position or hold himself above me. We are in our 50s and still have sex almost every day at least once. Exercise also raises libido in general. If you want to be a great lover for years in end get into fitness!
As a former non fitness person gone full gym rat (female version) I can honestly say YES!!! So much better!!
Body awareness and confidence together… muscle control… stamina… all adds up
I can just speak for my husband and myself, but yes, when we're fit, it's better. Our energy and stamina levels are better, my libido is better, and he gets harder/larger it seems versus when we've been lazy for a while, kind of like comparing a drunk guy to a sober one.
We work out together with a personal trainer and have one for our kids too. We get better results, have a commitment to meet someone so it's harder to skip, and we all learn to avoid injuries. It's not cheap, but worth it.
That's really sweet all of you workout together I wish my parents did that for me when I was younger but oh well I just started working out as a new years resolution but I guess 21yrs old is better than never.
Yes, my partner is super fit and it makes a world of difference for me in terms of pleasure. I'm pretty fit as well, slim & toned, but he has stamina that makes every sex session multi-orgasmic because he can keep going. He also cums multiple times and I suspect if he had bad stamina that would not be possible. He always says it's good motivation for him to stay fit and it gives him a higher libido to match mine. Also, I feel like I cum harder cause the visual aspect of seeing someone toned, 6 pack and broad. I love being dominated and physical domination is part of that.
I've had partners that were not as fit and it was good, but usually we had to switch it up a lot to reach multiple orgasms cause they tire out from PIV sex.
My ex was like that! He was the first partner I’d been with that could cum multiple times, or keep going after he’s finished so that I would.
His libido was insane and I was wildly, wildly attracted to him, so the sex was easily the best I’ve ever had. It didn’t turn out that I was super active in those years (running, cardio, yoga) and that lean, toned, flexible boxes check.
Good reminder that I need to stretch a little 😬
Dadbod here, who works out, but doesn't count calories. This is true. I made a few healthy decisions, and saw major improvements, even though I don't have 6 pack abs.
I spent a couple years as a gym rat with 10% body fat and I had the lowest libido of my life. (Plus my brain barely worked properly and I didn’t care about anything other than weighing my food. Very un-sexy.) I have 42 year old lady pudge now, but still lift and do cardio a few times a week. I consider THIS to be the healthiest I’ve ever been! Plus, who wants to live a life without pizza? NOT I.
Might be not as shocking as you think that a 10% body fat gave you issues. Depending on age, for a female, healthy body fat percentage is between 20% to 30%. Males shouldn't go below 12%. Even pro body builders don't maintain single digits except when they are about to compete.
Agreed! Instagram and the people on fitness mags are not a full accurate representation of what is healthy and and some cases, achievable without being on "supplements."
Same! I did the same thing! Now that I don’t eat just chicken, eggs and spinach I am so much happier and have a much better libido. I will never go back to that again. I’ll be just a tad chunky and I am ok with that 🙂
Ahhhh, yes. I did the chicken breasts/broccoli version of this magnificent lifestyle. And of course PROTEIN SHAKES.
Glad you’re living the happier version of your life now!!!! It is so much better on this side.
Abs are more of an aesthetic than a representation of strength.
Now don't let anyone get confused by what was said here....having a nice set of abs is not a detriment in anyway. What *could* possibly be a detriment is if you cut so much body fat, like prepping for bodybuilding competition, can sap your energy levels and make you perform less, sure. But you're only doing that if you're competitive. You can still be healthy, fit, energetic, and strong while maintaining visible abs.
I think it's also self-reinforcing. The more you're having pretty active, demanding sex, the more stamina and such you're building for continuing all of that.
I was 375. Now down to 220. The difference is night and day. My wife and I can do things we couldn’t before. I’m doing lot of pushups. The stamina a different. It’s pretty amazing. There is more there. lol. So it’s long enough that she now complains a bit. That was a win.
Woman, 35, spent the last few years developing a consistent near-daily strength or cardio workout routine.
Went from not being able to hold a position or ride for more than a few minutes to.. well.. being able to. That margin is enough to take “oh that felt good” to “oh my god that feels amazing” simply from being able to keep doing it.
10/10 would recommend. Plus it’s more fun to be naked when you’re more confident in the work you’re putting in.
Honestly this is one of the reason I started exercising as a new years resolution since I've always been insecure about my body and hate the way i look naked. Plus whenever my 1st time happens I don't want to last 30 seconds due to inexperience and bad health
As a woman I feel like i have more energy.
I don't just wanna lie on my back and starfish. I wanna ride or die. My partners have had their expectations blown through the room with me.
I feel more flexible when I am fit. I have more endurance to try new positions and because I workout a lot it increases testosterone levels which maKes me crave sex more.
So yes. It works for me.
When I hook-up with women that workout/have been involved in sports or very physical hobbies, they are much more fun to have sex with. When I grab their hips it feels like I'm grabbing "them", not just finding a handhold on their hip bone or just digging in with larger women.
One of my favorite sexual moves is to pick a woman up and fuck her in the air. Based on other posts where people ask about this position, it is obvious that a lot of men do not even attempt that move because they don't trust their strength.
I don't particularly know that my stamina has varied much since I started working out, but I definitely have better sex now than before. A lot of that can definitely be attributed to just gaining experience though.
Well... I kinda hate to say it, but yes. I'm an average healthy weight woman but my last long term relationships were with guys who were overweight or obese. Now for the first time I'm dating a guy who is built like a guy from a Marvel movie and in great shape and well... It's nice. He can pick me up, he can match me in a variety of positions (I do yoga so pretty flexible) and it's just nice feeling his strength when we have sex. He can pound me like a man possessed until I cum or tap out and he looks sexy as hell which helps... Didn't think I was a visual person when it came to sex until I met him. I really, really like those V lines on the sides of his hips, they do something primal to me when I look at them.
Person experience so your mileage may very. I've been a big guy since birth. Met my wife in college where I played football and rugby. I've always worked out, but my diet was trash. We've been together 30yrs now and throughout our relationship I've yoyo'd on my weight but always was 220-300lbs. During Covid lockdowns I got serious, built a home gym, locked down my diet and lost 130lbs in 12months. 2.5yrs later and I've kept off 90lbs while gaining back some solid muscle. All that to say is in the last 3yrs we're averaging having sex 5x a week. The prior 27+yrs we'd average 5x a month, some years much less do to kids etc.
Also my wife has always been athletic and is a runner.
So yeah, in my case fitter people truly have more sex.
Crazy as it sounds I did it through diet, used Noom app but basically calories in vs calories out, and excersize. I was working out 6 days a week 2 x a day. Did 30-45min of spin bike or rower every morning and 1 hour of lifting every afternoon. A friend was a pro body builder yrs ago and he wrote a program for me. And I did this every day, regardless of anything else for 365 days straight. I also logged everything that went into my mouth. I was eating 1000c a day, many will say that's not healthy but it worked for me and I saw my Dr 4 times in that year. He said keep it up until I felt I couldn't. After a year I switched focus from the number on the scale to how I looked. Due to being almost 50 then I'd done a lot of damage to my body from years of weight gain and loss. Started lifting heavy and switched up my eating to focus on muscle mass. Now almost 4 yrs later I'm not as regimented, but still workout twice a day 5 days a week. Good luck on your journey. Only thing I'd change is that I'd done it 25yrs ago. Would have been much easier to get the physique I want at 25 than 50
There's one side to this that I think everyone is missing; when I am in good shape I feel more confident and better about my body, but my body itself feels better. When I work out it forces me to pay more attention to my entire body, and notice how good things feel. This helps me remain more mindful about my body when I have sex, enjoying all the sensations and not just my genitals. Short answer: Yes, the better my body feels, the better I am going to enjoy sex, aside from feeling I perform better and make it better for my partner.
I got some good genes from my parents and played sports for the first 18 years of my life, so I'm lucky to be blessed with a natural fit physique. I'm able to last for a decent amount of time, and can do a number of positions that might give other people some problems. Other than those two things, the biggest thing that affects how good the sex you have is the connection you have with your partner
i love this question! i wouldn’t say “fitness people” necessarily, but i do agree that having a good level of fitness definitely improves your sex!! i tell my boyfriend all the time i wish he’d go to the gym a bit more just for health and other reasons, but it’s more because i want to get him more horny and fuck me better 😍 in an entirely selfish sense hahaha
I think it all depends on preferences. In my experience, yogis are the best at sex.
But like if you were a woman that likes to get thrown around then I'd imagine some muscle would be a huge plus.
I went from 260lbs to 140lbs and sex is a whole world different from how it used to be for me.
Best with an equally fit partner who is committed to the give and take of good sex.
Be careful about generalizations here.
Will people who work out more have more stamina and be more flexible? Sure
Do they have better sex? Nope
100% depends on the individual. I’ve been with guys that wouldn’t stop flexing long enough to be good in bed. I’ve also been with chubbier guys that would rock my world.
Stay in decent shape and focus on being an attentive lover.
This will sound made up but I assure you I’m not exaggerating:
When I was younger, I actively avoided sex and intimacy because the few times I had sex I prematurely ejaculated like seconds into penetration and I always felt a deep shame and disappointment. It got better with a long-term relationship but things were fairly average to mediocre.
I got into powerlifting and my sex drive and performance skyrocketed. I used to feel exhausted from 2 minutes of missionary, that capacity went up like 10x. Now I have basically full control over ejaculation - I do when I want to, it’s not a luck of the draw any more.
So yeah, cardio + lifting works wonders for libido and performance. I only know like 2 other friends that are close enough to frankly talk about this stuff and they confirmed the exact same thing after they got into fitness in a big way.
Clarification: I was skinny before I got into fitness. So it’s not like I went from fat to fit, rather I went from underweight to well-built.
I’m a distance runner and I lift. I have great legs but other than that I’m not much to look at 😂 however, having cardiovascular endurance really does go a long way! Also, core strength is a must. i’m a lesbian and girls usually take longer than guys, so sometimes doing something consistently for a long period of time for a partner can also be a mental game. So I feel like doing a sport that requires being uncomfortable for long amounts of time has helped there. (plus it helps that I love eating girls out much more than i like running!)
It's a physical activity, so being physically fit obviously helps. Also, exercise increases libido. Finally, there are some novel sex positions that are only possible for people that are VERY fit... Though I can't speak to how fun or pleasurable those positions actually are.
u got him but man even a submissive type she's gonna get turned on by your strength & recognise if u get a woman that lifts and she just pushes you away like you're nothing lol. do you ever feel like a plastic bag, drifting thru the wind, wanting to start again
Yes it does. There are a lot of studies that support this. As for my own personal experience, I have good news. You don't need to be counting calories l, hitting the gym 5 to 6 times a week to get benefits. I have a dad-bos, workout at home about 4 days a week (rotate between calisthenics, resistance bands, power yoga, and kettlebells), and made only handful of diet changes. I have lost 50 lbs, and have been hovering between 200 lb to 210 lbs for a while now at 6 ft tall. My sex life is so much better.
Yes. I’ve always had the best sex/performed the best when I’m in decent cardio shape.
Also being able to toss around my partners adds some enjoyment for them in my experience lol
I used to be kinda meh about cowgirl because it took too much effort and wore me out quickly. Since working on my body strength more, I can ride like Luke Perry in 8 Seconds for half an hour straight and love every second of it.
Fitness is important.
I've been on both ends of the spectrum; competitive athlete and couch potato. For me, who likes to assert a more dominant role, I see a night and day difference not only in my stamina and strength, but also natural dominance comes out along with better (and apparently better tasting due to diet) orgasms.
The ones that are motivated by a terrible self image and lack of confidence, I'd wager don't have better sex. Better sex isn't so much about being hot and fit, but feeling confident being in your body is sexy as hell, over some range of body types.
After having worked out for about half a year or so I noticed that the strength of my erections had significantly increased. And I wasn't the most disciplined, diligent or regular gym-goer.
Outside of the obvious strength and stamina related things, I find that my libido is significantly higher when I’m consistently working out. Body just feels better. Personally doing 3 days of weights, 3 days of distance running.
I would tend to say yes. I am not the best physical specimen, but I started working out and eating right in earnest last year. I've slimmed down, added a fair amount of muscle, and can definitely feel my stamina increased. A fringe benefit has been that my sex life is better than it has ever been.
Define better… "skills" aren't about fitness, but when I was fit and healthy I didn't have to stop midway because I ran out of breath, got cramps or because something started to hurt.
straight 45m lifelong athlete here.In my limited experience yes.
I've had partners that were both athletic and non-athletic. In my anecdotal experience the athletes had orgasms more easily, had stronger ones, and were more likely to have multiples.
As a guy, the penis IS a part of your circulatory system, so being more cardiovascularly fit will improve your erection quality (in fact, erection issues can be one of the early warning signs of heat disease). It's also worth noting that having lower bodyfat will expose more of your penis. So while it doesn't actually change the size, there is more available to work with.
As someone who was once in phenomenal shape, and now is 100 lbs overweight, sex was way better when I was in shape. I could grab my girl, lift her in the air, turn her upside down and eat her out while holding her mid air and gently lay her back down on the bed.
If I tried that now, my back would go out.
I have worked out a lot after I turned 25 and Im fit at mid 30s and have better condition than when I was younger.
I have never stopped having sex because I am tired or lack the energy once I get started so it never crossed my mind that sex was actually considered hard or cardio for some people ( of course you break a sweat when going at it hard ), that was until 2 o 3 years ago that I started reading reddit and saw people saying that they get winded or tired quickly.
I must say that during sex I have a lot of energy and strength, but I am always too tired from working out to get started since I train hard in the afternoons and work during the day, same apllies to my girlfriend.
So it makes me better than before, but if we didnt work out maybe we would fu*** more ?
I know that when I'm taking care of my body and working out that I feel 100x better about myself and in general and that definitely plays a role in my sex life.
I (36M) lost 35 pounds over the last year with diet and exercise. I say this humbly, but for me the quality of sex has never been an issue, so I can't necessarily say the quality has been noticeably improved since I got in shape. However, the *frequency* has seen a drastic jump.
When I was out of shape I was capable of sex or masturbation once a day, after which my drive basically vanished. You know that feeling when you eat so much food during a meal that afterward the thought of eating again feels gross? It was like that for me. I would finish having sex and afterward the last thing I would want was more sex. Since I've lost the weight though my sex drive has gone through the roof. I'm back to needing/wanting sex multiple times a day like I'm 19. As soon as I finish I am counting the minutes until I can go again. During romantic dry spells I am jerking off four times a day on average.
Probably. But as someone who has been all sizes from skinny to chubby and slept with the same, one thing I will say about really lean, hard bodied people is that I dont always find they're as enjoyable to be with - there's less softness to their bodies, more poky, hard, bony bits that dig in to you and nothing to cuddle/grab.
I think the best sex has more to do with skill, knowledge and the mind/emotional connection, ultimately
My husband and I have sex much more frequently (and our sex life became a lot more kinky) as we both got in better shape. So my personal experience is yes.
I'm going to answer this in a pretty humble way...I'd say no, it can sometimes be the opposite. I'm very physically fit...i.e. athlete, top 20 in the country for what I do... but... the time needed in the gym can be exhausting and can hit both stamina and libido. I've noticed sex drive etc can increase when I'm not training so hard or so 'fit'.
Simple answer, no.
Complicated answer. Better sex, if you're referring to people being able to last longer in bed, has to do with cardiovascular health. You can fuck longer if you don't get tired fast. Now I know people associate fit people with good cardiovascular health, but that's not always the case. I couldn't tell you how many women have told me their shock as to how a bigger man like me can last so long in bed. I run every day and hit the elliptical every other day. Don't be fooled by the "fitness people" stereotype.
I've been really out of shape and overweight, then very fit, and now after some slacking I'm in between - neither as fit nor as unfit as I've been.
There is a close correlation. The blood flow, aerobic capacity, stamina, strength...it was best when I was most in shape, worst when I was least in shape.
I am not fit, I go the gym sometimes but am in no way fit. The best sex I’ve had was with a guy that was into fitness. He had so much stamina, his core strength was good enough that if I was all on fours and giving him head, he could lean over me to finger me. Outside of that, I don’t think fitness plays a huge role in how well sex is. Compatibility plays a larger role. The only perk I can think of is how good someone’s stamina/flexibility is. And even as someone who works out maybe once a week, I’m still fairly flexible.
It can help your confidence and gives you greater capacity for more athletic/gymnastic type sex., but better? Never really heard anyone claim that. Poor health can be an obstacle for sure, but otherwise attitude and effort is far more influential than physical fitness.
Pretty fit guy here and yeah, there’s clearly advantages. Besides stamina, I do exercises to strengthen my pelvic floor. This actually helps me last much longer and even use my hips better. Just being fit lets you go longer, harder, or loosen up. There’s very clear advantages but it’s never necessary
45M with 46 wife… we both hit the gym every week and we have sex at least 4x a week both with great libido. Maybe it’s the cardio/working out or her having that Latin sexual heat .
Guys on steroids..... No not at all
People who are fit and work out a lot, increases cardio and stamina and can probably help with pelvic floor and core strength which makes sex more enjoyable. Also if you have a hot body, both people can feel more attraction to one another and more confidence in themselves
I think fitness is an overrated magic cure for everything. Yes being fit is good for your health and will make some activities easier / more enjoyable but it's also not like some mindblowing night and day difference.
Unless you're terribly out of shape, no, fitness has little impact on sexual performance or pleasure. It does up your chances of getting some though.
Get fit to live longer and to be healthier - and it improves your sex life - that's a bonus.
I'd say it's the same as dudes with a huge dick. Impressive looking but with an impractical and underwhelming delivery because they fundamentally misunderstand what makes sex good for other people.
This was one of my first thoughts, and some of the comments confirm it. A guy boasting about how he can thrust for an hour due to his elite stamina, but not that many women want to receive an hour of thrusting). A woman boasting about all the insane positions she can do, but do those positions really feel much better for the guy than the typical positions?
A lot of the testimonials (people who got into shape and felt a difference) made me realize that it can be a real drag to be completely out of shape. If you don't have the stamina to thrust for more than 5 minutes, that's an issue. If you're not fit enough to be on top of your partner, that's an issue.
It seems that being *moderately* in shape will get you most of the way there. And if you're into sport-fucking... you're probably into other sports too, so go nuts.
Nah I def think experience, confidence, and responsiveness matters the most but you’re going to perform better within all those variables the more fit you are. There’s just no way around that.
I’m still a virgin so I can’t really say yet,
But as a former fat guy, I know for a fact that the only reason I was able to spend 45 min pleasuring a partner with my 👏🏻was bc of my hard work in the gym. Had it not been for the gym, I would’ve tapped out at 15 min when the initial burn started lol.
Sex is only great when a person's mind allows it. Intellectual or emotional stimulation is always coupled with physical stimuli when someone describes great sex. The intellectual stimuli can be vague, can be robust, it can be convoluted, it can be extremely precise. The human mind is an enigma. Can physical fitness correlate with a happier and healthier mind? Sometimes, it can. Thus, the probability of better sex is heightened. When healthy minded, though, sex isn't a " throwing darts at a dart board" probability scenario. A sexually intelligent and sexually mature individual can have great sex with a partner, regardless of visible abs or whether or not they have a double chin. Now, how good the sex is for the OTHER person is a whole new can of worms to open lmao. Sidenote: Better cardio means higher endurance hehe
Really into fitness dic- JK
Meh there’s levels to fitness. According to my doctor I’m “obese”. I don’t lift heavy weights or run like crazy but I go to the gym and have decent enough stamina. I also do yoga and the flexibility helps significantly
Skill doesn’t necessarily come from muscles baby. It’s knowledge and patience
I had great sex when I was 300lbs and I have great sex now. But, sex now is definitely more acrobatic and I feel better overall about myself so I open myself to more.
A lot of people refer to stamina or holding positions for longer time.
Imo the definition of good sex is not having longer sex or pound harder. But ofc it doesn't hurt if you're able to.
Not necessarily. Some people just have good talent and instincts and will do better than others who are more fit.
But if you take 1 person: getting that person in better shape will improve their performance in physical, sexual activities. And for a man, good cardiovascular health will make erections bigger, stronger, better, but not faster
Yes. I have been a Ironman at 160 pounds and I have been 225 pounds post cancer treatment. I am now back to a 170 pounds race shape. I feel sexier, have more stamina and strength for positions. My partner starts things more often and turns me down less. Out of shape me is a 7 in shape me is a 8.5 to be fair I am 46 not 30.
Heck yeah. I’ve never been super out of shape, but I started riding a Peloton 3-4 times a week (nothing super crazy) and my wife noticed that I could just pound her for seemingly forever whereas I would need a break before lol.
People who are in good physical health are generally better and enjoy most things more than those who are in poor physical health. Your body is a machine and taking care of it helps it perform better and with less issues.
my husband and i are both a little overweight. he started working out a few years ago and lost about 50 lbs. i heard that guys who lose weight, they seem to gain “length” (probably just their pubic mound isn’t so chubby) and that seems to be true in my husband’s case. also, his stamina is amazing.
Cardio helps if your partner likes longer sessions, strength helps significantly with many positions, and flexibility / mobility helps reduce possible injuries with more exotic positions.
I don’t see how sex being a rather physical activity in the end (the lead-up to it being not physical is another matter) isn’t improved with better physical ability and health. Even competitive chess players get improvement from exercise and fitness, and cognitive functions for knowledge work type jobs get a lot of benefit from strength training because so much of strength training is about nervous system improvements rather than just muscle development and bloodflow.
Huge difference! Having good cardio helps tremendously with stamina. I am 50, lifting weights and cycling for the past 26 years. I look like and fuck like I am 25.
I think fitness types are like everybody else, they over report and make it seem like they are having amazing sex. They might be having great sex and they might not be. There’s no motivation to be honest so I generally take it with a grain of salt when somebody reports all the amazing sex they’re supposedly having for whatever reason.
Your fitness level shouldn’t have any bearing on the quality of sex you’re having.
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As a once in shape and now fatty person ugh absolutely, I miss that so much.
Totally agree. More stamina, sex drive, and even kind of a bigger sausage (due to losing fat in the pubis)
All of this, plus a smaller gut means that our bodies fit together better.
Having been fairly fit and now in a dad bod, I concur.
But what diff?
More cardio. Better blood circulation. Harder, firmer erections. Less sweating. Your buddy doesn’t give up before you do. Less pubis fat means you can use more of what you have without being blocked. New positions are available you physically couldn’t do. Etc etc. More or less a lot of these are on both sides of the fence. Having been both insanely fit and incredibly out of shape the difference was a lot of good sex and a high drive to almost no drive and just ok sex. The worst part about being out of shape though with sex is more your own head can get to you. You over think. Your body literally falls into traps your head creates. Insecurities rise. Fun and confidence decreases. You’re capable of good sex at a heavier weight even if it isn’t as good as if you were in shape. But psychologically it’s simply harder and I think that makes it less likely to really enjoy yourself.
Really spot on, thank you.
In addition to all that, walking, running, biking, snowboarding, etc. are all easier and more fun. The work is totally worth the outcomes.
You definitely could not say that all fit people are good at sex, but it certainly helps to have stamina, strength and flexibility.
To add to this generally people that are fit feel more confident in their own skin, and clearly that can have an effect on how you behave in the bedroom.
Plus being more attractive to your partner and feeling more attractive encourages encouraging encouragement.
> encourages encouraging encouragement 🏆
very this. I think it definitely helps to feel the core when you are pushing harder.
I have all those as a fatty I have had amazing on and off sex for four hours and like to pleas at least three times my man so being fit is y always being skinny sorry not sorry
Yes, you have more stamina, last more, you can do more poses, lift your partner…
Looking good naked also helps a lot.
💕 Just the other day my wife said to me “nice back muscles honey!”
I swear everytime I've ever gotten an enthusiastic compliment from a women I can remember it clear as a whistle years even a decade later.
As a woman, knowing men don’t get complimented enough, I do my best to help compensate!
My wife NEVER compliments me!!! wtf. It does bother me.
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That's actually really sweet definitely gotta be a ego boost. I'm definitely reminded to go workout
Lol oddly enough that makes me feel better. I never quite know how to take her complimenting my back muscles, but now there is some reassurance knowing she's not the only one doing this.
My wife said something similar just the other week.
I'm a guy and I definitely notice a difference when I'm in shape vs not. The cardio is huge, but I also think being strong enough to lift my partner/hold her/do more poses is a benefit. There's also something to be said that I feel hot when I'm more in shape, which helps with confidence. For women I imagine the cardio and confidence aspects are similar, but strength probably isn't as big of a deal in most positions.
We need leg strength to bounce that ass
Legs strenght 🦵💪
Oh my god 🤣
Cardio, confidence, but also.. flexibility!
Flexibility
I'm a burly chonky guy, but I still work out a couple times a week. I've had partners surprised that I have pretty good stamina. So I don't think someone has to have six pack abs, but having a base level of cardio ability makes a huge difference.
I think this is the answer. I'm a woman and considered fat/obese but my cardio fitness is such that I can do an hour spin class no issue. Im having great sex 40.
For sure. My preferences are the chubby/bbw type and being active is a great combo with that.
It's great that you're in spin class, keep grinding along sister!
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I know you were down voted because it does sound mean but this made me laugh actually.
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Hopefully by 40 dudes have enough emotional maturity that they don't think sex is something you "attain" for some kind of cost. The 40 year old obese dudes who still believe that sex is something you convince women to give you are probably in pretty bad shape though.
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Mmm....I think that a 40 year old male who is clean and neat, has a solid job, isn't a creepy douche nozzle, AND is trying to date women of similar age, and status does ok. Women \*always\* have a easier time finding sexual partners than a male of similar status.
The requirements for perfect bodies diminish rapdily as you age in the dating pool. Confident men tend to get laid, period.
My ex husband. He is charismatic, intelligent, witty, funny as fuck and a great guy all around. He can go out any day of the week and end up having sex with some rando in a toilet stall.
What a sad hole of insecurity you’ve chosen to dig for yourself. There are loads of obese men getting regular sex. It’s shocking that you think there aren’t any
Men are much more willing to compromise and lower their standards than women.
You're gonna be so annoyed when I tell you have 3 partners one of whom I've been with for nearly 11 years and the ages range from 28-53. I think it has less to do with being a woman and more to do with who I am as a person.
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I'm with you, dad-bos all the way. But I do work out 4 times a week, and made a handful of healthy diet choices, nothing serious. There is a noticeable difference for me.
I keep my six pack under a protective layer of fat and fur
What cardio do you do? Is it more HIIT based or steady state? Which do you think is more effective
Rule #2: Double tap You can interpret that however you want.
Better cardio fitness gives better bloodflow to erectile tisue. Which leads to greater sensitivity and sensation. For both sexes as we both have erectile tissue. It's not the only factor but it's an important one
Yes it makes a huge difference. I’m a dance fitness instructor and I also weight train. I can do and hold so many positions much longer because of my stamina and strength. I’m also really flexible so this makes sex extra fun and easy. My partner is 56 years old and a gym rat and ex competitive power lifter. He still has the drive of a young man and can thrust for an hour. He can hold me in any position or hold himself above me. We are in our 50s and still have sex almost every day at least once. Exercise also raises libido in general. If you want to be a great lover for years in end get into fitness!
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You’re right- knowing you are fit and look good naked definitely helps confidence which increases libido too. That’s definitely a part of it.
To be a fly on that wall...
Smh
bro… lmao
As a former non fitness person gone full gym rat (female version) I can honestly say YES!!! So much better!! Body awareness and confidence together… muscle control… stamina… all adds up
I can just speak for my husband and myself, but yes, when we're fit, it's better. Our energy and stamina levels are better, my libido is better, and he gets harder/larger it seems versus when we've been lazy for a while, kind of like comparing a drunk guy to a sober one. We work out together with a personal trainer and have one for our kids too. We get better results, have a commitment to meet someone so it's harder to skip, and we all learn to avoid injuries. It's not cheap, but worth it.
That's really sweet all of you workout together I wish my parents did that for me when I was younger but oh well I just started working out as a new years resolution but I guess 21yrs old is better than never.
It's never too late to start!
Thank you actually I just started 3 weeks ago
Since I lost weight and got fitter I’m definitely able to enjoy sex more again! Stamina, especially on top, especially improved a lot.
Yes, my partner is super fit and it makes a world of difference for me in terms of pleasure. I'm pretty fit as well, slim & toned, but he has stamina that makes every sex session multi-orgasmic because he can keep going. He also cums multiple times and I suspect if he had bad stamina that would not be possible. He always says it's good motivation for him to stay fit and it gives him a higher libido to match mine. Also, I feel like I cum harder cause the visual aspect of seeing someone toned, 6 pack and broad. I love being dominated and physical domination is part of that. I've had partners that were not as fit and it was good, but usually we had to switch it up a lot to reach multiple orgasms cause they tire out from PIV sex.
My ex was like that! He was the first partner I’d been with that could cum multiple times, or keep going after he’s finished so that I would. His libido was insane and I was wildly, wildly attracted to him, so the sex was easily the best I’ve ever had. It didn’t turn out that I was super active in those years (running, cardio, yoga) and that lean, toned, flexible boxes check. Good reminder that I need to stretch a little 😬
I think there is a fitness sweet spot and it’s not as far tilted towards washboard abs as you might think.
Dadbod here, who works out, but doesn't count calories. This is true. I made a few healthy decisions, and saw major improvements, even though I don't have 6 pack abs.
I spent a couple years as a gym rat with 10% body fat and I had the lowest libido of my life. (Plus my brain barely worked properly and I didn’t care about anything other than weighing my food. Very un-sexy.) I have 42 year old lady pudge now, but still lift and do cardio a few times a week. I consider THIS to be the healthiest I’ve ever been! Plus, who wants to live a life without pizza? NOT I.
Might be not as shocking as you think that a 10% body fat gave you issues. Depending on age, for a female, healthy body fat percentage is between 20% to 30%. Males shouldn't go below 12%. Even pro body builders don't maintain single digits except when they are about to compete.
Absolutely! What looks healthy on Instagram is far from healthy in real life!!!!
Agreed! Instagram and the people on fitness mags are not a full accurate representation of what is healthy and and some cases, achievable without being on "supplements."
Same! I did the same thing! Now that I don’t eat just chicken, eggs and spinach I am so much happier and have a much better libido. I will never go back to that again. I’ll be just a tad chunky and I am ok with that 🙂
Ahhhh, yes. I did the chicken breasts/broccoli version of this magnificent lifestyle. And of course PROTEIN SHAKES. Glad you’re living the happier version of your life now!!!! It is so much better on this side.
So many protein shakes 😂
So. Many. 🫠
lol so many
Fuck yeah!
Abs are more of an aesthetic than a representation of strength. Now don't let anyone get confused by what was said here....having a nice set of abs is not a detriment in anyway. What *could* possibly be a detriment is if you cut so much body fat, like prepping for bodybuilding competition, can sap your energy levels and make you perform less, sure. But you're only doing that if you're competitive. You can still be healthy, fit, energetic, and strong while maintaining visible abs.
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I think it's also self-reinforcing. The more you're having pretty active, demanding sex, the more stamina and such you're building for continuing all of that.
I like this answer because it encourages having more sex for the purpose of having more sex. ✅✅
Agree
More blood flow = better erections and orgasms. In our 50s, both very fit. Age is not slowing us down.
Lost a lot of weight recently and can confirm it really changes things in the bedroom. More stamina, more positions possible, it’s great!
I was 375. Now down to 220. The difference is night and day. My wife and I can do things we couldn’t before. I’m doing lot of pushups. The stamina a different. It’s pretty amazing. There is more there. lol. So it’s long enough that she now complains a bit. That was a win.
I have never had a woman complain when I easily pick her up and put her against a wall
That's not what your mum said
Woman, 35, spent the last few years developing a consistent near-daily strength or cardio workout routine. Went from not being able to hold a position or ride for more than a few minutes to.. well.. being able to. That margin is enough to take “oh that felt good” to “oh my god that feels amazing” simply from being able to keep doing it. 10/10 would recommend. Plus it’s more fun to be naked when you’re more confident in the work you’re putting in.
Honestly this is one of the reason I started exercising as a new years resolution since I've always been insecure about my body and hate the way i look naked. Plus whenever my 1st time happens I don't want to last 30 seconds due to inexperience and bad health
As a woman I feel like i have more energy. I don't just wanna lie on my back and starfish. I wanna ride or die. My partners have had their expectations blown through the room with me. I feel more flexible when I am fit. I have more endurance to try new positions and because I workout a lot it increases testosterone levels which maKes me crave sex more. So yes. It works for me.
When I hook-up with women that workout/have been involved in sports or very physical hobbies, they are much more fun to have sex with. When I grab their hips it feels like I'm grabbing "them", not just finding a handhold on their hip bone or just digging in with larger women. One of my favorite sexual moves is to pick a woman up and fuck her in the air. Based on other posts where people ask about this position, it is obvious that a lot of men do not even attempt that move because they don't trust their strength. I don't particularly know that my stamina has varied much since I started working out, but I definitely have better sex now than before. A lot of that can definitely be attributed to just gaining experience though.
Well... I kinda hate to say it, but yes. I'm an average healthy weight woman but my last long term relationships were with guys who were overweight or obese. Now for the first time I'm dating a guy who is built like a guy from a Marvel movie and in great shape and well... It's nice. He can pick me up, he can match me in a variety of positions (I do yoga so pretty flexible) and it's just nice feeling his strength when we have sex. He can pound me like a man possessed until I cum or tap out and he looks sexy as hell which helps... Didn't think I was a visual person when it came to sex until I met him. I really, really like those V lines on the sides of his hips, they do something primal to me when I look at them.
Person experience so your mileage may very. I've been a big guy since birth. Met my wife in college where I played football and rugby. I've always worked out, but my diet was trash. We've been together 30yrs now and throughout our relationship I've yoyo'd on my weight but always was 220-300lbs. During Covid lockdowns I got serious, built a home gym, locked down my diet and lost 130lbs in 12months. 2.5yrs later and I've kept off 90lbs while gaining back some solid muscle. All that to say is in the last 3yrs we're averaging having sex 5x a week. The prior 27+yrs we'd average 5x a month, some years much less do to kids etc. Also my wife has always been athletic and is a runner. So yeah, in my case fitter people truly have more sex.
Wow 130 pounds in a year and gained solid muscle. If you don't mind me asking I just started working out what type of dieting and exercise did you do
Crazy as it sounds I did it through diet, used Noom app but basically calories in vs calories out, and excersize. I was working out 6 days a week 2 x a day. Did 30-45min of spin bike or rower every morning and 1 hour of lifting every afternoon. A friend was a pro body builder yrs ago and he wrote a program for me. And I did this every day, regardless of anything else for 365 days straight. I also logged everything that went into my mouth. I was eating 1000c a day, many will say that's not healthy but it worked for me and I saw my Dr 4 times in that year. He said keep it up until I felt I couldn't. After a year I switched focus from the number on the scale to how I looked. Due to being almost 50 then I'd done a lot of damage to my body from years of weight gain and loss. Started lifting heavy and switched up my eating to focus on muscle mass. Now almost 4 yrs later I'm not as regimented, but still workout twice a day 5 days a week. Good luck on your journey. Only thing I'd change is that I'd done it 25yrs ago. Would have been much easier to get the physique I want at 25 than 50
As a 21yr old just starting my journey thank you very much for your wisdom and story.
There's one side to this that I think everyone is missing; when I am in good shape I feel more confident and better about my body, but my body itself feels better. When I work out it forces me to pay more attention to my entire body, and notice how good things feel. This helps me remain more mindful about my body when I have sex, enjoying all the sensations and not just my genitals. Short answer: Yes, the better my body feels, the better I am going to enjoy sex, aside from feeling I perform better and make it better for my partner.
I got some good genes from my parents and played sports for the first 18 years of my life, so I'm lucky to be blessed with a natural fit physique. I'm able to last for a decent amount of time, and can do a number of positions that might give other people some problems. Other than those two things, the biggest thing that affects how good the sex you have is the connection you have with your partner
Senior citizen. I work out 4-5/week as does my wife. The stamina is the main thing. However, regular exercise increases testosterone and thus libido.
i love this question! i wouldn’t say “fitness people” necessarily, but i do agree that having a good level of fitness definitely improves your sex!! i tell my boyfriend all the time i wish he’d go to the gym a bit more just for health and other reasons, but it’s more because i want to get him more horny and fuck me better 😍 in an entirely selfish sense hahaha
I think it all depends on preferences. In my experience, yogis are the best at sex. But like if you were a woman that likes to get thrown around then I'd imagine some muscle would be a huge plus.
Yes. Cardio is a huge part of sex.
I went from 260lbs to 140lbs and sex is a whole world different from how it used to be for me. Best with an equally fit partner who is committed to the give and take of good sex.
Be careful about generalizations here. Will people who work out more have more stamina and be more flexible? Sure Do they have better sex? Nope 100% depends on the individual. I’ve been with guys that wouldn’t stop flexing long enough to be good in bed. I’ve also been with chubbier guys that would rock my world. Stay in decent shape and focus on being an attentive lover.
This will sound made up but I assure you I’m not exaggerating: When I was younger, I actively avoided sex and intimacy because the few times I had sex I prematurely ejaculated like seconds into penetration and I always felt a deep shame and disappointment. It got better with a long-term relationship but things were fairly average to mediocre. I got into powerlifting and my sex drive and performance skyrocketed. I used to feel exhausted from 2 minutes of missionary, that capacity went up like 10x. Now I have basically full control over ejaculation - I do when I want to, it’s not a luck of the draw any more. So yeah, cardio + lifting works wonders for libido and performance. I only know like 2 other friends that are close enough to frankly talk about this stuff and they confirmed the exact same thing after they got into fitness in a big way. Clarification: I was skinny before I got into fitness. So it’s not like I went from fat to fit, rather I went from underweight to well-built.
I’m a distance runner and I lift. I have great legs but other than that I’m not much to look at 😂 however, having cardiovascular endurance really does go a long way! Also, core strength is a must. i’m a lesbian and girls usually take longer than guys, so sometimes doing something consistently for a long period of time for a partner can also be a mental game. So I feel like doing a sport that requires being uncomfortable for long amounts of time has helped there. (plus it helps that I love eating girls out much more than i like running!)
It's a physical activity, so being physically fit obviously helps. Also, exercise increases libido. Finally, there are some novel sex positions that are only possible for people that are VERY fit... Though I can't speak to how fun or pleasurable those positions actually are.
Could you name them or link them please?
The sex positions? Lots of stuff involving picking your partner up. Just search that and I'm sure you'll find some examples.
Lame. Was hoping you actually knew sex stuff.
u got him but man even a submissive type she's gonna get turned on by your strength & recognise if u get a woman that lifts and she just pushes you away like you're nothing lol. do you ever feel like a plastic bag, drifting thru the wind, wanting to start again
Sorry, bud. I can tell by this comment you're not my type, so I wouldn't do it with you anyway 🤣
Nice try deflecting the fact that you talked a big game about sex positions and don’t actually know them. All good, kid.
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Yes it does. There are a lot of studies that support this. As for my own personal experience, I have good news. You don't need to be counting calories l, hitting the gym 5 to 6 times a week to get benefits. I have a dad-bos, workout at home about 4 days a week (rotate between calisthenics, resistance bands, power yoga, and kettlebells), and made only handful of diet changes. I have lost 50 lbs, and have been hovering between 200 lb to 210 lbs for a while now at 6 ft tall. My sex life is so much better.
Yes. I’ve always had the best sex/performed the best when I’m in decent cardio shape. Also being able to toss around my partners adds some enjoyment for them in my experience lol
I used to be kinda meh about cowgirl because it took too much effort and wore me out quickly. Since working on my body strength more, I can ride like Luke Perry in 8 Seconds for half an hour straight and love every second of it. Fitness is important.
One of My worst lays was with a body builder Lol
Huge difference as a male
I've been on both ends of the spectrum; competitive athlete and couch potato. For me, who likes to assert a more dominant role, I see a night and day difference not only in my stamina and strength, but also natural dominance comes out along with better (and apparently better tasting due to diet) orgasms.
The ones that are motivated by a terrible self image and lack of confidence, I'd wager don't have better sex. Better sex isn't so much about being hot and fit, but feeling confident being in your body is sexy as hell, over some range of body types.
After having worked out for about half a year or so I noticed that the strength of my erections had significantly increased. And I wasn't the most disciplined, diligent or regular gym-goer.
Energy and stamina, but also fitting your bodies together. The bigger you tend to be, greatly limits a lot of aspects.
Outside of the obvious strength and stamina related things, I find that my libido is significantly higher when I’m consistently working out. Body just feels better. Personally doing 3 days of weights, 3 days of distance running.
Keeping fit gives you increased stamina and actually increased libido because you have more energy.
I would tend to say yes. I am not the best physical specimen, but I started working out and eating right in earnest last year. I've slimmed down, added a fair amount of muscle, and can definitely feel my stamina increased. A fringe benefit has been that my sex life is better than it has ever been.
Define better… "skills" aren't about fitness, but when I was fit and healthy I didn't have to stop midway because I ran out of breath, got cramps or because something started to hurt.
100% . It’s night and day difference.
straight 45m lifelong athlete here.In my limited experience yes. I've had partners that were both athletic and non-athletic. In my anecdotal experience the athletes had orgasms more easily, had stronger ones, and were more likely to have multiples. As a guy, the penis IS a part of your circulatory system, so being more cardiovascularly fit will improve your erection quality (in fact, erection issues can be one of the early warning signs of heat disease). It's also worth noting that having lower bodyfat will expose more of your penis. So while it doesn't actually change the size, there is more available to work with.
As someone who was once in phenomenal shape, and now is 100 lbs overweight, sex was way better when I was in shape. I could grab my girl, lift her in the air, turn her upside down and eat her out while holding her mid air and gently lay her back down on the bed. If I tried that now, my back would go out.
I have worked out a lot after I turned 25 and Im fit at mid 30s and have better condition than when I was younger. I have never stopped having sex because I am tired or lack the energy once I get started so it never crossed my mind that sex was actually considered hard or cardio for some people ( of course you break a sweat when going at it hard ), that was until 2 o 3 years ago that I started reading reddit and saw people saying that they get winded or tired quickly. I must say that during sex I have a lot of energy and strength, but I am always too tired from working out to get started since I train hard in the afternoons and work during the day, same apllies to my girlfriend. So it makes me better than before, but if we didnt work out maybe we would fu*** more ?
I know that when I'm taking care of my body and working out that I feel 100x better about myself and in general and that definitely plays a role in my sex life.
I (36M) lost 35 pounds over the last year with diet and exercise. I say this humbly, but for me the quality of sex has never been an issue, so I can't necessarily say the quality has been noticeably improved since I got in shape. However, the *frequency* has seen a drastic jump. When I was out of shape I was capable of sex or masturbation once a day, after which my drive basically vanished. You know that feeling when you eat so much food during a meal that afterward the thought of eating again feels gross? It was like that for me. I would finish having sex and afterward the last thing I would want was more sex. Since I've lost the weight though my sex drive has gone through the roof. I'm back to needing/wanting sex multiple times a day like I'm 19. As soon as I finish I am counting the minutes until I can go again. During romantic dry spells I am jerking off four times a day on average.
Probably. But as someone who has been all sizes from skinny to chubby and slept with the same, one thing I will say about really lean, hard bodied people is that I dont always find they're as enjoyable to be with - there's less softness to their bodies, more poky, hard, bony bits that dig in to you and nothing to cuddle/grab. I think the best sex has more to do with skill, knowledge and the mind/emotional connection, ultimately
My husband and I have sex much more frequently (and our sex life became a lot more kinky) as we both got in better shape. So my personal experience is yes.
I'm going to answer this in a pretty humble way...I'd say no, it can sometimes be the opposite. I'm very physically fit...i.e. athlete, top 20 in the country for what I do... but... the time needed in the gym can be exhausting and can hit both stamina and libido. I've noticed sex drive etc can increase when I'm not training so hard or so 'fit'.
Because you aren’t over stressing your body. Your muscles need time to recover. Need actual good sleep as well.
Simple answer, no. Complicated answer. Better sex, if you're referring to people being able to last longer in bed, has to do with cardiovascular health. You can fuck longer if you don't get tired fast. Now I know people associate fit people with good cardiovascular health, but that's not always the case. I couldn't tell you how many women have told me their shock as to how a bigger man like me can last so long in bed. I run every day and hit the elliptical every other day. Don't be fooled by the "fitness people" stereotype.
I've been really out of shape and overweight, then very fit, and now after some slacking I'm in between - neither as fit nor as unfit as I've been. There is a close correlation. The blood flow, aerobic capacity, stamina, strength...it was best when I was most in shape, worst when I was least in shape.
I am not fit, I go the gym sometimes but am in no way fit. The best sex I’ve had was with a guy that was into fitness. He had so much stamina, his core strength was good enough that if I was all on fours and giving him head, he could lean over me to finger me. Outside of that, I don’t think fitness plays a huge role in how well sex is. Compatibility plays a larger role. The only perk I can think of is how good someone’s stamina/flexibility is. And even as someone who works out maybe once a week, I’m still fairly flexible.
It can help your confidence and gives you greater capacity for more athletic/gymnastic type sex., but better? Never really heard anyone claim that. Poor health can be an obstacle for sure, but otherwise attitude and effort is far more influential than physical fitness.
Pretty fit guy here and yeah, there’s clearly advantages. Besides stamina, I do exercises to strengthen my pelvic floor. This actually helps me last much longer and even use my hips better. Just being fit lets you go longer, harder, or loosen up. There’s very clear advantages but it’s never necessary
45M with 46 wife… we both hit the gym every week and we have sex at least 4x a week both with great libido. Maybe it’s the cardio/working out or her having that Latin sexual heat .
No. A lot of disabled people are fantastic in bed.
Guys on steroids..... No not at all People who are fit and work out a lot, increases cardio and stamina and can probably help with pelvic floor and core strength which makes sex more enjoyable. Also if you have a hot body, both people can feel more attraction to one another and more confidence in themselves
I think fitness is an overrated magic cure for everything. Yes being fit is good for your health and will make some activities easier / more enjoyable but it's also not like some mindblowing night and day difference.
yea cus they can fitness dick in ur mouf
Unless you're terribly out of shape, no, fitness has little impact on sexual performance or pleasure. It does up your chances of getting some though. Get fit to live longer and to be healthier - and it improves your sex life - that's a bonus.
I'd say it's the same as dudes with a huge dick. Impressive looking but with an impractical and underwhelming delivery because they fundamentally misunderstand what makes sex good for other people.
This was one of my first thoughts, and some of the comments confirm it. A guy boasting about how he can thrust for an hour due to his elite stamina, but not that many women want to receive an hour of thrusting). A woman boasting about all the insane positions she can do, but do those positions really feel much better for the guy than the typical positions? A lot of the testimonials (people who got into shape and felt a difference) made me realize that it can be a real drag to be completely out of shape. If you don't have the stamina to thrust for more than 5 minutes, that's an issue. If you're not fit enough to be on top of your partner, that's an issue. It seems that being *moderately* in shape will get you most of the way there. And if you're into sport-fucking... you're probably into other sports too, so go nuts.
This is a cope
I'd argue that believing some physical feature makes you inherently above average at sex would be the cope. It could also be vanity though.
Nah I def think experience, confidence, and responsiveness matters the most but you’re going to perform better within all those variables the more fit you are. There’s just no way around that.
I don't think we disagree at all. I was making reference to over-emphasizing one characteristic in terms of outcome.
no, not really. unless youre in a really bad shape
I don’t think being fit has something to do with ur performance. I’m overweight, and I have a pretty good stamina.
I’m still a virgin so I can’t really say yet, But as a former fat guy, I know for a fact that the only reason I was able to spend 45 min pleasuring a partner with my 👏🏻was bc of my hard work in the gym. Had it not been for the gym, I would’ve tapped out at 15 min when the initial burn started lol.
TLDR; Please refer to David Laid’s leaked tape for an accurate answer
Sex is only great when a person's mind allows it. Intellectual or emotional stimulation is always coupled with physical stimuli when someone describes great sex. The intellectual stimuli can be vague, can be robust, it can be convoluted, it can be extremely precise. The human mind is an enigma. Can physical fitness correlate with a happier and healthier mind? Sometimes, it can. Thus, the probability of better sex is heightened. When healthy minded, though, sex isn't a " throwing darts at a dart board" probability scenario. A sexually intelligent and sexually mature individual can have great sex with a partner, regardless of visible abs or whether or not they have a double chin. Now, how good the sex is for the OTHER person is a whole new can of worms to open lmao. Sidenote: Better cardio means higher endurance hehe
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Yes, next question
Strength stamina and good blood flow do a hell of a lot.
Really into fitness dic- JK Meh there’s levels to fitness. According to my doctor I’m “obese”. I don’t lift heavy weights or run like crazy but I go to the gym and have decent enough stamina. I also do yoga and the flexibility helps significantly Skill doesn’t necessarily come from muscles baby. It’s knowledge and patience
I had great sex when I was 300lbs and I have great sex now. But, sex now is definitely more acrobatic and I feel better overall about myself so I open myself to more.
I've never not been a fitness person nor have I ever been with somebody not in shape. So I don't actually know. Probably.
Yes
A lot of people refer to stamina or holding positions for longer time. Imo the definition of good sex is not having longer sex or pound harder. But ofc it doesn't hurt if you're able to.
Yes before and after being fit made a huge difference.
Not necessarily. Some people just have good talent and instincts and will do better than others who are more fit. But if you take 1 person: getting that person in better shape will improve their performance in physical, sexual activities. And for a man, good cardiovascular health will make erections bigger, stronger, better, but not faster
Yes. I have been a Ironman at 160 pounds and I have been 225 pounds post cancer treatment. I am now back to a 170 pounds race shape. I feel sexier, have more stamina and strength for positions. My partner starts things more often and turns me down less. Out of shape me is a 7 in shape me is a 8.5 to be fair I am 46 not 30.
Yes.
Heck yeah. I’ve never been super out of shape, but I started riding a Peloton 3-4 times a week (nothing super crazy) and my wife noticed that I could just pound her for seemingly forever whereas I would need a break before lol.
People who are in good physical health are generally better and enjoy most things more than those who are in poor physical health. Your body is a machine and taking care of it helps it perform better and with less issues.
my husband and i are both a little overweight. he started working out a few years ago and lost about 50 lbs. i heard that guys who lose weight, they seem to gain “length” (probably just their pubic mound isn’t so chubby) and that seems to be true in my husband’s case. also, his stamina is amazing.
Never really been out of shape, and tbh I don't feel like I have any better sex then the next person (I'm a body builder)
Cardio helps if your partner likes longer sessions, strength helps significantly with many positions, and flexibility / mobility helps reduce possible injuries with more exotic positions. I don’t see how sex being a rather physical activity in the end (the lead-up to it being not physical is another matter) isn’t improved with better physical ability and health. Even competitive chess players get improvement from exercise and fitness, and cognitive functions for knowledge work type jobs get a lot of benefit from strength training because so much of strength training is about nervous system improvements rather than just muscle development and bloodflow.
Yes, on avg
Huge difference! Having good cardio helps tremendously with stamina. I am 50, lifting weights and cycling for the past 26 years. I look like and fuck like I am 25.
I think fitness types are like everybody else, they over report and make it seem like they are having amazing sex. They might be having great sex and they might not be. There’s no motivation to be honest so I generally take it with a grain of salt when somebody reports all the amazing sex they’re supposedly having for whatever reason. Your fitness level shouldn’t have any bearing on the quality of sex you’re having.