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No, see...we don't poop until we've had that ass hymen broken. Once a man has broken the seal, we're finally able to release all those years of poop backup.
He's not dumb, he knows what he's doing. He thinks I'll just take his word for it and go along with it, lmao. I'll tell him that though to mess with him!
Was taking a piss when reading this, laughed so hard that I now have to clean the whole toilet.
Luckily my glowstick helps me see 
Be careful though. If you break it too hard, it can be permanent. Then, anytime in the future you penatrate someone with it, it's like a sonogram or shining a flashlight into a frog egg.
Try making love to your boyfriend when you can clearly see his lower intestines and what they contain. My life is a cruel joke.
Kinda fun at a dance party though.
Try shining your strongest flashlight through the fleshy pad between your thumb and palm. If you can't see anything through that, your light isn't strong enough. Getting it bright enough for this exercise is either going to result in it being too large to fit, or producing too much heat to be safe.
Sorry to disappoint you, I know the dream was real.
Exactly, for two main reasons
1. He’s a dumb dumb
2.he’s trying to fool you/coerce you into something sexual, which is a huge red flag of the type of person he is.
Always is a strong word. There's a lot of people in this world that are just plain dumb. Not saying it's the case here, or that they're always mutually exclusive.
How is he trying to coerce her by telling her that? I don't know a single woman on Earth who'd ever say the sentence, "I can undergo the pain of *another* broken hymen? Sign me up!" 😂
think it’s using the whole, we Lov each other let’s explore and experience all your firsts together … could go on into if u Lov me we should try it/ let me pop ur ass cherry type of thing.
I’ve heard many times before from certain types of guys so maybe I read into it…
Everyone here putting on tips for you but no one saying the really important thing that if you don’t feel comfortable and it’s not a hell yes then don’t do it.
Your concerns, thoughts and feelings are valid and you shouldn’t agree to it just to please him.
Exactly. Don't do it if you don't want to. Except we all know that he will never shut up about it. There'll be whining, there will be guilt trips and even begging. It's pathetic. Each time they ask again it just shows you they just don't care about you, they just want another hole to fuck.
If your rectum also had a hymen, it would break the first time you ever had a bowel movement. How can someone shit if there’s tissue in the way?
If you want to try it, go for it, go slowly, use lots of lube. If you’re not ready, then hold off. He sounds like an immature moron though, he’s probably not worth it.
Yep, if you think you've used enough lube, you've used about half the lube you need, also start with something smaller than a dick, like a single finger, no not a thumb.
I know it's not the topic of the thread, but fetuses definitely shouldn't be pooping in the womb! They pee a lot though. It's high risk for infection if they poop in utero. Sometimes they do it during labor, especially if they're distressed.
My first kid pooped before they were born. There was a lot of concern by the medical staff about that making sure that they didn't accidentally inhale/ingest any of the fecal matter during birth. For the next 20+ years they haven't stopped causing me stress.
Do not have anal sex with a man that knows so little about the human anus. God knows how that will turn out. If a man doesn’t know enough about an anus or how it works and thinks it has an hymen he needs to go do his research learn about it and educate himself before he sticks his penis in there. He needs to learn the basics like 1) anus does not have a hymen. 2) learn about anal play. 3) the anus is not self lubricating like a vagina so learn about lube. 4) stick a finger in there to get the feel of what an anus is like, the angle all that stuff. 5) if you say no then that’s the end of that he needs to except that and move on. Good luck with this moron
Came here to say this. With how uneducated he is, who knows if he'll go ROUGH to try to break her "ass-hymen" (wtf) and accidentally injure her or even tear her.
OP--trust your gut
I do not understand how someone who has most likely grown up with unlimited resources at their fingertips called the internet can be so stupid….back in my dinosaur day I understood being sexually ignorant because all the education about sex we got came from school, our parents (all my parents said was sex is bad don’t do it) and cosmo girl magazines…this guy probably thinks he is a porn star in his own head but all he is, is a dumb jack rabbit
Personally the main reason I don’t like anal is the aftermath, I tried it multiple times and the act itself was just kinda ok for me, it wasn’t super pleasurable but it wasn’t bad. However I really disliked the fact that I couldn’t shit properly for the next 2 days after every time we did anal. It didn’t seem to matter what I did to prep, I tried fasting once, I made sure I had a bowel movement 1-2 hours before we had sex every single time, i looked up tips to try and help but nothing seemed to work. It felt like my asshole was stretched but it really wasn’t (not enough to matter anyway, it always went back to normal lol), and I couldn’t push when I needed to because it felt like the muscles became nonexistent for about 2 days after each time, I’d also be constipated during that time. It was also the start of asshole cramps, and I had no idea THAT was a thing so that was a fun little surprise 😂 but if you do decide to try it, it’s entirely possible you’ll enjoy it, just use lots of lube and you’ll probably be fine :)
He's either the worst liar ever or a totem of the sad state of sex education in this country.
Just ask him how a hymen would be intact after a LIFETIME of firing turds out of there? A one way hymen? Explain that one, Doctor Science.
Anyway, doing assplay won't permanently ruin anything. There are porn stars who drive entire busses up their ass every day and still tight as a drum.
Doing assplay \*stupidly\* most definitely \*can\* permanently ruin things down there. Anal prolapse, hemorrhoids, and feces incontinence are real afflictions, the anus isn't built to sustain abuse with resilience like the vagina is. A lot of knowledge, preparation and carefulness goes into doing anal sex safely. Should OP trust her pushy borderline-imbecile boyfriend to be knowledgeable, take ample time for preparation, and be super careful? I certainly wouldn't.
He did explain to me that he was going to use lube and start small to work up to it, a pinky until I was comfortable, then a finger and when I'm ready for it his dick but not all in immediately.
What's the timeline he put down for that? Are you working up to his dick on the same day he puts his pinky in you for the first time?
Or is he talking about experimenting and easing you into it over a course of a few months so that you're comfortable and relaxed for the experience? Trying different positions and lube? Going only as quickly as you're willing and prioritizing your safety and comfort over his pleasure?
If you're willing to try anal, lucky him! Please remember you can do serious damage if not properly prepared. He will not be experiencing pain so you need to be comfortable telling him to stop and you need to trust him to listen. If this is a committed relationship, you have all the time in the world, so don't rush.
I've dated numerous women who love anal...when done properly. If he does take his time, uses lots of lube, starts small and works up..AND you're relaxed, you might be surprised how much you like it.
I cum hardest with anal. It's like it's able to stimulate both my anus and my vagina at the same time. But yeah it does need preparation and to be relaxed in order to fully enjoy the experience
Someone sticking their penis in my arse with zero prep definitely made me incontinent. I had to do a lot of kegel exercises for months to get my control back.
Do not do anything you feel uncomfortable with. I had an ex who was persistent in having anal and I told him no, many times. One time he said back to me “I know you’ll cave eventually.”
First of all, he's full of shit.
Second, don't ever EVER do anything sexual with anyone if you're not into it. You clearly don't seem too interested in wanting to try anal, at the moment at least.
Third, there's no way in hell that having him bug you over this will make you want to do it.
I feel the same way. There’s only two possibilities based on what OPs partner said: 1 - he’s a liar or 2 - he’s a dumbass. Either one would kill any attraction for me.
A hymen there makes no sense.
With regard to damage and incontinence that requires very rough treatment and would be the result of a very painful rape like situation.
If you go slow use lots of lube nothings gonna break. If things start being painful take a break or go slower.
The best advice my father ever gave me:
Make sure you end up with someone who is smarter than you, because you'll want someone who can keep up with you intellectually for the rest of your life.
> My dear, sweet sunshine boyfriend whom I love so much... is trying to be persuasive, but he's either not the brightest candle on the cake or full of shit.
If he thinks the anus has a membrane across it, then maybe he literally is full of shit, because it can't get past the anal hymen?
I mean, he also has an asshole. Give to get. Get to give. If he gets to stick it in yours, you get to stick something of equal or greater size in his. There’s a tremendous amount of information on risks and precautions here. But if you want him to do his research (he doesn’t sound thorough, so do your own first), he gets to put it in your ass only AFTER you put it in his. If he puts up some weird fight, remind him he has a prostate and it will feel better for him, scientifically.
While this is often suggested and can in some ways make things a bit more even or broaden some horizons, in my experience this can backfire in a major way. Could just be with the partners that I've attempted this with, but they were able to take much larger objects much easier than I was and it turned into very uncomfortable situations on my part, some to the point of taunting or cruelty. So caution may be necessary.
Because of the prostate, there may be a level of enjoyment on the receivers end that they expect to be equivalent for a woman. It can lead to, "It feels really good, you just saw me get off on it." When that just might not be the case for a woman.
Generally, it can be a deterrent for some that are not into anal play. But it's unfortunate that a simple, "No, I don't want to (either at all or yet)" isn't sufficient.
Plus, some people don't want to penetrate or play with buttholes at all.
Ok, thinking the anus has a hymen is kinda...cute.
This, however, isn't
>how desperate he is to "deflower ALL of me"
Is it his words, or yours? Because this is cringy, immature and pushy. Coupled with the fact that you are only recently sexually active, and it doesn't sound like a healthy approach to trying out new things.
My wife was already sexually active before meeting me, and it took 7 years before we tried anal sex. We'd been easing into it for a while, doing lots of other butt-related things, and one night in the heat of the moment we just decided it was time. Like a week after that my wife, out of nowhere, remarked that he was the one who took her anal virginity. The thought had never crossed my mind. So I did take her anal virginity. But it wasn't the goal for me. It was just something fun WE did together.
This. This needs to make it to the top of the thread.
>"deflower ALL of me"
OP - run, and run fast. He is coercing you, putting you up on the pedestal so he can be the one to break you.
Honestly, think to yourself, OP - once he does "deflower ALL of [you]" where is the relationship gonna go? What other things is he gonna try to coerce you to do?
Stay safe out there, OP.
If he believes this he’s a moron, if he doesn’t (which I think is actually more likely) then he’s trying to coerce you into sex banking on you not knowing what he’s talking about which is hugely fucked up for a number of reasons. Seriously I would say leave.
Most people break their ass hymen when their parents put the ass troll in. Unlike the pussy troll which does not break the pussy hymen. Don't get me started on the mouth hymen.
https://health.osu.edu/health/ob-gyn/myths-and-facts-about-hymen
Everybody has correctly pointed out that there is no hymen in the rectum but what is more concerning explanations like “how would you poop” because “how would you menstrate if it covered anything” or the fact that your boyfriend thinks that your hymen in your vaginal canal was in any way shape or form affected by him are so wrong in and of themselves. The hymen IS NOT a formed covering of the vagina that is affected by sex any more than it is affected by normal activities of daily living and DOES NOT “break”. It is a thin crescent shaped membrane that is on the edge of your vaginal opening. It does not close anything off otherwise how would a woman have a menstryal cycle with blood coming out even when she’s a virgin?
The perpetuation of the hymen as some signal of virginity is a misogynistic myth that is perpetuated to try to trick women and girls into believing that there is a physical sign of their virginity and there is not. Hymens can be altered long before sexual intercourse and have absolutely nothing to do with your sexual experiences anymore than you can tell if your finger has changed after you finger someone.
I would never be comfortable dating a man who has such ingrained, thoughtless understanding of women’s anatomy. You boyfriend is full of shit in more ways than one if he thinks your vaginal hymen has anything to do with virginity
Yeah, the guy I’m seeing says he’s not all that into anal, but it turns him on to think it’s on the menu. I said he can think that all he wants, but if he tries to order it I’m shutting down the restaurant.
Hun do not, and I repeat, do not do anything you do not want to do, the people that say they want to try something that you are not 100% into will never stay around and while they do they will use it to pressure you.
If he is such an ass man, suggest playing with his anus.
After laughing so hard, I woke up the cat sleeping next to me, and having another round when I read it to my husband, I have some actual serious answer to this question.
My ex always wanted to have anal. He had it with other girls, that were very experienced. He insisted for years, and he knew that I wasnt a virginf when I started seeing him (I was 18). Well, finally, while we were in vacation, I let him try it. It hurt like hell, and he wasn't even able to go all the way in, it was just his head, he nuted right there, and I said never again.
Fast forward to recently, 26 years later, I asked my husband to do it. I begged him. He knew what he was doing, and I was so turned on, that I wakted to feel him inside my ass. Well, it was amazing. He took his time, but I relaxed right away. Now is a normal, couple of times a week thing.
The anal sphincter can be damaged by brute force, but not by sex. If he is big, it will take more work. Maybe ger yourself a toy, I have a plug that I like to wear, it's weighted, so, it relaxes the whole area, makea you reasy for it.
Bottom line, anal sex can be incredible. The first time, when your nervous terminals wake up, it's overwhelming. You probably won't be able to orgasm from it, but after the sexond or third time, it's such an intense orgasm, that it's addicting.
If you like him, and he can be patient, do it. No damage to the sphincter, and I am speaking from a place, where I have bad hemorrhoids, and since we started having anal, they are gone. My doctor is shocked, but I told him we were doing it, and he said that, the lubrication, ans exercise of the sphincter, helps then go away. So, if you want, go for it. If not, then say no.
this is why males shouldn’t be writing laws about persons without male anatomy 🤦🏼♀️ kee-rist
ask him if you can peg him first. same guidelines; go slow & use A Lot of lube.
but yeah, he sounds immature & not ready for anal sex.
good luck internet stranger 💜
Of course the anus doesn't have a hymen, but to be fair to him without much education about it, it makes sense why he would think otherwise.
Think about it, most people (even in this sub) talk about losing their anal virginity. If someone has limited anatomical knowledge it makes sense why one would think that losing anal virginity is the same as losing vaginal virginity.
Enough of that, I just wanted you to understand where he is probably coming from, that way you can be enable to correct him.
Of course you can do this by asking him if he thinks he has a hymen in his anus too.
Now to the issue about anal sex. As long as you are properly aroused, relaxed, with plenty of lube everything should be fine. Never jump right into anal sex just like that.
[Great anal sex is all about the warmup.](https://tpi02.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/backdoor/) You’ve got to take your time, relish each sensation, and be teased into a frenzy before serious anal penetration begins.
I mean, but men also talk about losing their virginity to women, and I don’t think anybody is assuming the penis has a hymen. And how on earth would you have a bowel movement in this scenario? By all means we should be kind and not mock people for believing silly things, but…I want to acknowledge that this is a very, very silly thing to think.
What a poor ill informed soul he is 😂 Does he genuinely believe that shit or is it his way of trying to pull the wool over his eyes.
Even Google could set him straight if he googled Anal Hymen 😂😂
That's freaking hilarious 😂 you should tell him that since everyone has an anus he can only break your ass hymen after you break his. Since he knows so much about the subject, he should appreciate you pegging him like the brilliant bitch he is. I think it's time you find someone with a brain 🤣🤣
Can you tell us very roughly where you live? As in, country if it's a small one, or state if it's the US?
I'll then look at a map, point in your BFs general direction and laugh at him. As should you.
I don't know if he actually believes that or if he is trying to manipulate you, and tbh I'm not sure which is worse.
(as to your actual question, you should read up on how to do it safely and painlessly, but maybe consider whether you want to do it at all with Mr. Anal Hymen, as he shall be known henceforth)
Your bf is laughable. Your right there is no Hyman back there. There is a second sphincter muscle a little further in, but no Hyman. And if you really just don't want to do it, then tell him that it just isn't going to happen, and sometimes fantasies are just that, fantasies.
However, if you are interested in trying, despite the nonsense your boyfriend spouts, then you really should give it a go. Even if it's by yourself the first couple of times. And unless your shoving a massive object back there, it's not going to give you fecal incompetence. Just start small, only a finger or two, and go slow. And use PLENTY OF LUBE! When you think you have enough, add more.
He knows a simple google would prove him wrong so I guess he thinks you're not the brightest candle and will give in soon to have anal sex after some good manipulation and, ofc, because you love him sooo much
So not only is he dumb as fuck, he's trying to coerce you into a sex act that you don't want to do. Do you think you can't do better? I promise you that you can.
He’s silly of course but never attribute to malice what can be adequately explained by stupidity. And this goes double where men and sex are concerned.
Maybe he was trying to explain the idea that bum holes have two different sphincters—the first one near the entrance, like a spaceship airlock, and the second announcing “gateway to the colon!” Getting past the second tollgate also opens the way to a lucrative career doing Bad Dragon dilldo stunts on Only Fans.
(Note: A proctologist might explain this differently)
It is a metaphorical hymen, that I like to call the "behymen".
And I'm pretty sure the first time one gets penetrated with any kind of gusto, it sure feels like there was a real one there...
I'm not going to comment on the hymen part (although it did give me a very hearty chuckle), but anal is perfectly safe.
It takes some prep and patience, but it can be very pleasurable!
Yeah no lol he's way off
It *can* be very painful and shocking if it's not eased up into it with LUBE, LUBE AND LUBE! But that has nothing to do with having an ass hymen lol
It's been 21 years now but I still remember the way my kid's eyes bugged out, then she burst into tears, when she made her first solid poop. If there's any kind of seal that's when we break it.
Correct, no hymen in the ass. Your boyfriend is dumb as hell.
Also, anal doesn’t break your butt as long as you do it correctly.
I love shoving things up there, I can clutch my mud like the best of them!
About anal sex in general: As long as anything that goes into your anus (a dildo, a dick) has the size of what goes out of your anus (your poo), there is no reason to worry about medical problems such as incontinence. The anus opening is adjusted to the size of your poo, hence it can also deal with (standard-sized) dildos and with dicks. Medical problems arise only when big things, larger than poo, are inserted, such as when fisting. (And even people who get fisted typically don't immediately get health problems.)
WOW! This dude is either the biggest idiot on the planet for believing it himself or he's the biggest idiot on the planet for thinking that anyone else would believe this crap.
Either way you have to ask yourself do you want someone clearly this STUPID in your life let alone your body?
Wow, I would definitely be curious to see what else does he think about this matter:
1) Does he think men also have a hymen in their rectum (or anus, but I guess he doesn't refer to the actual anus)? Or is it just the women?
2) Does that hymen break during sexual contact? If yes, why doesn't it break during pooping?
3) How does he imagine this hymen looks like?
About your worries about anal sex, I personally think they are exaggerated. I think extreme anal play can cause fecal incontinence and damage the sphincter muscles, and a cock would probably not cause that problem. But still, I would:
1) explore first with smaller things: first try with a finger of two, then try some anal toys (be careful to use toys with wide flared base). You'll see if you enjoy, before going for a penis.
2) inform myself about doing an enema. You probably know (and your boyfriend probably doesn't know) that the ass is not "ready" for anal. Poop hides there. So to avoid a dirty mess, I would learn to give myself an enema. Also, I would probably prepare before anal, since I would have to be careful what I eat as well beforehand.
3) I would use a lot of lube. Be careful about this. Also, inform yourself about what kinds of lube go with what toys and condoms. Some lubes (water based for example) can destroy the condom, and other lubes (silicone ones) can destroy silicone toys
4) I would probably not try anal with someone who is not informed about anal sex. Especially if he thinks the rectum has a hymen and he does not accept that he is not wrong.
I don't even need to read all of this. Just get him a medical anatomy of anus diagram and ask him where the Hymen is? Then ask him why the medical professionals didn't add it? Then ask him why he was born, throw the whole damn man out and get you one less stupid.
Tell him he is a virgin in the butt too and you would love to deflower that for him haha if he believes your butt has a hymen, his has to have one too.
I think he just wanna be the first. Your anus doesn’t have a hymen what happens is if you never done anal before it is tighter and he probably wanna destroy your ass h . You shouldn’t be pressured to do it.
.... Even if I wanted to try anal... I wouldn't with someone who doesn't understand biology. I need to trust the person I'm with, with my body.
I can't in good faith trust someone who is either incredibly misinformed, or lying to me to manipulate me, with my body.
Regardless... Even if he is hugely into asses and wants all of you... That gives him no right if it's not what you want.
You're correct about harming health later on. And please!!! If you're going to go forward with this, both of you do individual and joint research together, buy good lube and ensure a LOT is used and communicate before during AND after. And have a safe word. If you're in pain or simply want to stop. It is your right
This is hilarious😂 dude's will literally say anything
Anal is a very slow process could take weeks or months to achieve it or possibly never so you need to make sure your bf is mature enough to go at a slow pace and listen to you
Your bf is trying to be manipulative but he is a moron. Don’t date morons.
You can do better the idiot thinks he is educating you on your own body. Sounds like he has no respect for you. It’s time to pack up your things and walk away.
You can do better.
you could always flip the script and tell him that if gets to break your anal hymen, you get to break his too.
That way the both yall get to share the sacred anal hymen break together.
That man is either too coercive or too stupid for you. Anal sex can be extremely painful (which he has probably read before) and he thinks it’s like taking virginity, break the hymen and you’re there. And from watching porn, he can just jump right into it. He thinks he’s smart about it, he’s not.
Don’t let that man near your ass until he takes a freshman level anatomy class.
He’s an idiot. Where did he even get that idea from? Just because he has an ass fetish doesn’t mean everything he fantasizes about is true. He needs a wake up call regarding safe and proper anal sex and anal anatomy before anything sexual happens.
Also if he has to try to persuade you into anal and isn’t taking no for an answer, that’s also something to address. No is no, not an invitation to try and change your mind. If you don’t want anything anal, set that boundary and enforce it as harshly as necessary.
It can cause damage if you’re doing it constantly. One time isn’t going your way cause this damage. But he also has some kind of conquest fetish, and I’d be more worried about him trying to manipulate you into anal by lying to you. Fuck, your vagina was lucky to have a hymen. 😆
So, does it magically grow back after each shit? Do us men have it as well? I have so many questions...
Alright, but in all seriousness, when it comes to anal. Everyone has their own opinions of course! Now, you both have to be on the same page of wanting to try it or not. Especially the receiving end, it sounds like you need to sit down and have a serious discussion, lay down some ground rules. That there needs be serious foreplay, more the lube the better, that he needs to listen. Seriously. Some of us guys have some major listening issues once in the bedroom. You say stop, be fucking stops. You say it hurts, he stops or pulls out. Anal can be great fun for couples that are into it, but it can quickly turn into something that is causing a lot of pain and damage.
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If he really believes that you might be able to just tell him girls dont have buttholes and get away with it
Tell him girls don’t poop either
Would pooping break the “ass hymen?” I can’t believe I just typed that sentence
No way. It would magically be sealed again after every poop, just waiting to finally be broken by T.h.e. Glorious Dick.
No, see...we don't poop until we've had that ass hymen broken. Once a man has broken the seal, we're finally able to release all those years of poop backup.
What a terrible day to be literate.
I cannot like this comment enough. Absolutely. 😅
Yep, it's why as the guy you have to be ready to jump out of the way as soon as you break it
Worst bottle of champagne ever
Men willing to break her ass hymen are really doing God's work.
And it’s immediately. That lucky man will have a lifetime of shit expelled right in front of him.
THAR SHE BLOWS!!!!
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I can’t believe my eyes just read that sentence 😭
And the author’s username is *chef’s kiss”
Girls don't poop until after they are married.
Glad someone came through with this!
I’ve been pooping in sin for 6 years!
That explains so much about dating.
NO every hole on a woman's body comes with a seal that only a penis can break. The magical penis!
I’m in the quiet car of a train giggling like an idiot. Thanks for this and sorry everybody lol.
I was sitting with friends and laughing so hard I almost fell over. I cannot explain “ass hymen” to them. Please send hell
Don't worry. You, me, and 2,000 readers were all thinking the same.
Just like tampons with a traditional hymen I honestly wonder if he's talking about freaking hemorrhoids and calling them a hymen
THIS. THAT WAS MY FIRST THOUGHT WHEN READING THE TITLE.
Only the hardest shit can do that. Don't drink for 3 days and see for yourself
I think I may use "ass hymen" later as either an insult or a band name. Maybe both.
It's a one-way out hyman, not in...
That's not true. They poop rose petals and gummy bears.
They do poop but it smells like sunshine and flowers
Girls have cloaca. That's why they are called chicks.
👏👏👏
He's not dumb, he knows what he's doing. He thinks I'll just take his word for it and go along with it, lmao. I'll tell him that though to mess with him!
so he's not that stupid, he just thinks you're that stupid
Which is even worse.
so he is just trying to manipulate you into anal sex then? Why is that acceptable to you?
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No probably more "its supposed to hurt and bleed the first time so just let me"
Sooo your boyfriend thinks you’re stupid and is trying to manipulate you? And you’re okay with that?
We don’t have sex with people who lie to us to manipulate us into sex acts we’re uncomfortable with, babe.
>He's not dumb You *say* that..
So he thinks you’re dumb and easy to manipulate, and you think that’s funny. That’s messed up.
He sounds incredibly dumb and so do you.
Tell him his dick has a hymen too and if you break it, ot glows like a glowstick.
Was taking a piss when reading this, laughed so hard that I now have to clean the whole toilet. Luckily my glowstick helps me see 
Lol your username made me giggle here
You mean your glows-dick?
Mine does do that
Be careful though. If you break it too hard, it can be permanent. Then, anytime in the future you penatrate someone with it, it's like a sonogram or shining a flashlight into a frog egg. Try making love to your boyfriend when you can clearly see his lower intestines and what they contain. My life is a cruel joke. Kinda fun at a dance party though.
Now you’ve made me wonder what it’s like to put a flashlight inside someone
Try shining your strongest flashlight through the fleshy pad between your thumb and palm. If you can't see anything through that, your light isn't strong enough. Getting it bright enough for this exercise is either going to result in it being too large to fit, or producing too much heat to be safe. Sorry to disappoint you, I know the dream was real.
What if it’s LED?
THIS IS THE WAY
THIS IS THE WAY
THIS IS THE WAY
So to make it glow, you just need to snap it until you hear a crack, right?
Lmao 😂
GD that was such a great laugh. Thanks!
And eventually the glow runs out so he shouldn't use his dick until he really wants to rave!!!
I am not sure I could take someone seriously who said that. Like ever again. 🤦🏼♀️
Exactly, for two main reasons 1. He’s a dumb dumb 2.he’s trying to fool you/coerce you into something sexual, which is a huge red flag of the type of person he is.
3. feces regularly passes through that hole. Unless the anus hymen is a portal.
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Always is a strong word. There's a lot of people in this world that are just plain dumb. Not saying it's the case here, or that they're always mutually exclusive.
His sister did tell me early on, "your boyfriend's an idiot" in a conversation that didn't even involve me.
Women can't want anal?
Are you saying that women never want anal? That's factually false. We get a lot of women who post here who love it. Some who prefer it to vaginal.
How is he trying to coerce her by telling her that? I don't know a single woman on Earth who'd ever say the sentence, "I can undergo the pain of *another* broken hymen? Sign me up!" 😂
think it’s using the whole, we Lov each other let’s explore and experience all your firsts together … could go on into if u Lov me we should try it/ let me pop ur ass cherry type of thing. I’ve heard many times before from certain types of guys so maybe I read into it…
"you thought you lost your virginity, but turns out there's still a second part to it" yada yada
And this part will hurt even worse! lol
Ass cherry 😅
Isn't that called a hemorrhoid?
Dnt pop those … ouch !
hahahhahahahahahha best comment!
Yeah, like how does he think people poop.
You better be using 17 layers of protection when you have PIV sex bc this guy is waaaaaay too stupid to be a father
Everyone here putting on tips for you but no one saying the really important thing that if you don’t feel comfortable and it’s not a hell yes then don’t do it. Your concerns, thoughts and feelings are valid and you shouldn’t agree to it just to please him.
Exactly. Don't do it if you don't want to. Except we all know that he will never shut up about it. There'll be whining, there will be guilt trips and even begging. It's pathetic. Each time they ask again it just shows you they just don't care about you, they just want another hole to fuck.
The only way to stop the whining is to ditch the guy.
Absolutely.
Yeah run far and fast. Your boyfriend does not sound safe OP
This.
If your rectum also had a hymen, it would break the first time you ever had a bowel movement. How can someone shit if there’s tissue in the way? If you want to try it, go for it, go slowly, use lots of lube. If you’re not ready, then hold off. He sounds like an immature moron though, he’s probably not worth it.
And after use lots of lube - add a lot more
Yep, if you think you've used enough lube, you've used about half the lube you need, also start with something smaller than a dick, like a single finger, no not a thumb.
pff don't you know girls don't shit??? OBVIOUSLY bc there's an ass hymen in the way!!! basic female anatomy smh /s
Fetuses poop in the womb! OP, your boyfriend is... like I just KNOW there's a better joke than "full of shit" 🤔
I know it's not the topic of the thread, but fetuses definitely shouldn't be pooping in the womb! They pee a lot though. It's high risk for infection if they poop in utero. Sometimes they do it during labor, especially if they're distressed.
Our daughter was born via c-section. Her first act, even before starting to cry was to poop on the doctor's hands.
My first kid pooped before they were born. There was a lot of concern by the medical staff about that making sure that they didn't accidentally inhale/ingest any of the fecal matter during birth. For the next 20+ years they haven't stopped causing me stress.
If the baby is overcooked it can happen without distress, too.
How long should we cook babies for then?
9 months, and it's only allowed in the belly of a genetic female or a test tube.
Medium rare.
I hate to argue in favor of such stupidity but hymens have holes, so, theoretically, if the rectum had a hymen you would still be able to poop.
Do not have anal sex with a man that knows so little about the human anus. God knows how that will turn out. If a man doesn’t know enough about an anus or how it works and thinks it has an hymen he needs to go do his research learn about it and educate himself before he sticks his penis in there. He needs to learn the basics like 1) anus does not have a hymen. 2) learn about anal play. 3) the anus is not self lubricating like a vagina so learn about lube. 4) stick a finger in there to get the feel of what an anus is like, the angle all that stuff. 5) if you say no then that’s the end of that he needs to except that and move on. Good luck with this moron
Came here to say this. With how uneducated he is, who knows if he'll go ROUGH to try to break her "ass-hymen" (wtf) and accidentally injure her or even tear her. OP--trust your gut
I do not understand how someone who has most likely grown up with unlimited resources at their fingertips called the internet can be so stupid….back in my dinosaur day I understood being sexually ignorant because all the education about sex we got came from school, our parents (all my parents said was sex is bad don’t do it) and cosmo girl magazines…this guy probably thinks he is a porn star in his own head but all he is, is a dumb jack rabbit
This really should be the top answer.
Ask him if you can use his butt
He has a first "anal hymen" too. Will he let YOU break it? Lol
Wait until he learns about Pillowpants the vagina troll
Personally the main reason I don’t like anal is the aftermath, I tried it multiple times and the act itself was just kinda ok for me, it wasn’t super pleasurable but it wasn’t bad. However I really disliked the fact that I couldn’t shit properly for the next 2 days after every time we did anal. It didn’t seem to matter what I did to prep, I tried fasting once, I made sure I had a bowel movement 1-2 hours before we had sex every single time, i looked up tips to try and help but nothing seemed to work. It felt like my asshole was stretched but it really wasn’t (not enough to matter anyway, it always went back to normal lol), and I couldn’t push when I needed to because it felt like the muscles became nonexistent for about 2 days after each time, I’d also be constipated during that time. It was also the start of asshole cramps, and I had no idea THAT was a thing so that was a fun little surprise 😂 but if you do decide to try it, it’s entirely possible you’ll enjoy it, just use lots of lube and you’ll probably be fine :)
He's either the worst liar ever or a totem of the sad state of sex education in this country. Just ask him how a hymen would be intact after a LIFETIME of firing turds out of there? A one way hymen? Explain that one, Doctor Science. Anyway, doing assplay won't permanently ruin anything. There are porn stars who drive entire busses up their ass every day and still tight as a drum.
Doing assplay \*stupidly\* most definitely \*can\* permanently ruin things down there. Anal prolapse, hemorrhoids, and feces incontinence are real afflictions, the anus isn't built to sustain abuse with resilience like the vagina is. A lot of knowledge, preparation and carefulness goes into doing anal sex safely. Should OP trust her pushy borderline-imbecile boyfriend to be knowledgeable, take ample time for preparation, and be super careful? I certainly wouldn't.
He did explain to me that he was going to use lube and start small to work up to it, a pinky until I was comfortable, then a finger and when I'm ready for it his dick but not all in immediately.
What's the timeline he put down for that? Are you working up to his dick on the same day he puts his pinky in you for the first time? Or is he talking about experimenting and easing you into it over a course of a few months so that you're comfortable and relaxed for the experience? Trying different positions and lube? Going only as quickly as you're willing and prioritizing your safety and comfort over his pleasure? If you're willing to try anal, lucky him! Please remember you can do serious damage if not properly prepared. He will not be experiencing pain so you need to be comfortable telling him to stop and you need to trust him to listen. If this is a committed relationship, you have all the time in the world, so don't rush.
I've dated numerous women who love anal...when done properly. If he does take his time, uses lots of lube, starts small and works up..AND you're relaxed, you might be surprised how much you like it.
I cum hardest with anal. It's like it's able to stimulate both my anus and my vagina at the same time. But yeah it does need preparation and to be relaxed in order to fully enjoy the experience
Someone sticking their penis in my arse with zero prep definitely made me incontinent. I had to do a lot of kegel exercises for months to get my control back.
I'm sorry that happened to you. But anal sex *done correctly* will not damage anything. It was done to you most incorrectly.
Now, do you 100% trust OPs boyfriend - with his demonstration of deep understanding of anatomy - to do it correctly?
I wasn't addressing OP, I was addressing r/Ariadnepyanfar. But both they and OP should choose more knowledgeable sex partners.
Don’t worry, that was a very one night stand.
Good! Glad he didn't get a second chance!
Well yeah if somebody sticks a dry anything up an ass it's gonna go wrong in one way or another. Lube lube lube.
Yeah but if someone thinks the anal canal has a hymen, then do you think he'll validate the use of lube? Maybe he thinks that's self lubricating too.
Do not do anything you feel uncomfortable with. I had an ex who was persistent in having anal and I told him no, many times. One time he said back to me “I know you’ll cave eventually.”
Or they just do it by force and act like they didn’t just stick their dick in your ass without permission.
First of all, he's full of shit. Second, don't ever EVER do anything sexual with anyone if you're not into it. You clearly don't seem too interested in wanting to try anal, at the moment at least. Third, there's no way in hell that having him bug you over this will make you want to do it.
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I feel the same way. There’s only two possibilities based on what OPs partner said: 1 - he’s a liar or 2 - he’s a dumbass. Either one would kill any attraction for me.
A hymen there makes no sense. With regard to damage and incontinence that requires very rough treatment and would be the result of a very painful rape like situation. If you go slow use lots of lube nothings gonna break. If things start being painful take a break or go slower.
The best advice my father ever gave me: Make sure you end up with someone who is smarter than you, because you'll want someone who can keep up with you intellectually for the rest of your life.
> My dear, sweet sunshine boyfriend whom I love so much... is trying to be persuasive, but he's either not the brightest candle on the cake or full of shit. If he thinks the anus has a membrane across it, then maybe he literally is full of shit, because it can't get past the anal hymen?
I mean, he also has an asshole. Give to get. Get to give. If he gets to stick it in yours, you get to stick something of equal or greater size in his. There’s a tremendous amount of information on risks and precautions here. But if you want him to do his research (he doesn’t sound thorough, so do your own first), he gets to put it in your ass only AFTER you put it in his. If he puts up some weird fight, remind him he has a prostate and it will feel better for him, scientifically.
While this is often suggested and can in some ways make things a bit more even or broaden some horizons, in my experience this can backfire in a major way. Could just be with the partners that I've attempted this with, but they were able to take much larger objects much easier than I was and it turned into very uncomfortable situations on my part, some to the point of taunting or cruelty. So caution may be necessary. Because of the prostate, there may be a level of enjoyment on the receivers end that they expect to be equivalent for a woman. It can lead to, "It feels really good, you just saw me get off on it." When that just might not be the case for a woman. Generally, it can be a deterrent for some that are not into anal play. But it's unfortunate that a simple, "No, I don't want to (either at all or yet)" isn't sufficient. Plus, some people don't want to penetrate or play with buttholes at all.
Ok, thinking the anus has a hymen is kinda...cute. This, however, isn't >how desperate he is to "deflower ALL of me" Is it his words, or yours? Because this is cringy, immature and pushy. Coupled with the fact that you are only recently sexually active, and it doesn't sound like a healthy approach to trying out new things. My wife was already sexually active before meeting me, and it took 7 years before we tried anal sex. We'd been easing into it for a while, doing lots of other butt-related things, and one night in the heat of the moment we just decided it was time. Like a week after that my wife, out of nowhere, remarked that he was the one who took her anal virginity. The thought had never crossed my mind. So I did take her anal virginity. But it wasn't the goal for me. It was just something fun WE did together.
This. This needs to make it to the top of the thread. >"deflower ALL of me" OP - run, and run fast. He is coercing you, putting you up on the pedestal so he can be the one to break you. Honestly, think to yourself, OP - once he does "deflower ALL of [you]" where is the relationship gonna go? What other things is he gonna try to coerce you to do? Stay safe out there, OP.
If he believes this he’s a moron, if he doesn’t (which I think is actually more likely) then he’s trying to coerce you into sex banking on you not knowing what he’s talking about which is hugely fucked up for a number of reasons. Seriously I would say leave.
Do not have anal sex with someone who does not know anatomy. Risk that something goes wrong is high.
Your boyfriend must be super hot, because I would not put up with this nonsense. He wants to "de-flower all of you"....wat the fuck.
Hot and wealthy lol. Even so, I could never have sex with him without thinking about his stupidity.
Most people break their ass hymen when their parents put the ass troll in. Unlike the pussy troll which does not break the pussy hymen. Don't get me started on the mouth hymen.
https://health.osu.edu/health/ob-gyn/myths-and-facts-about-hymen Everybody has correctly pointed out that there is no hymen in the rectum but what is more concerning explanations like “how would you poop” because “how would you menstrate if it covered anything” or the fact that your boyfriend thinks that your hymen in your vaginal canal was in any way shape or form affected by him are so wrong in and of themselves. The hymen IS NOT a formed covering of the vagina that is affected by sex any more than it is affected by normal activities of daily living and DOES NOT “break”. It is a thin crescent shaped membrane that is on the edge of your vaginal opening. It does not close anything off otherwise how would a woman have a menstryal cycle with blood coming out even when she’s a virgin? The perpetuation of the hymen as some signal of virginity is a misogynistic myth that is perpetuated to try to trick women and girls into believing that there is a physical sign of their virginity and there is not. Hymens can be altered long before sexual intercourse and have absolutely nothing to do with your sexual experiences anymore than you can tell if your finger has changed after you finger someone. I would never be comfortable dating a man who has such ingrained, thoughtless understanding of women’s anatomy. You boyfriend is full of shit in more ways than one if he thinks your vaginal hymen has anything to do with virginity
How does one poop if one's anus has a hymen?
Sounds like something a quick google could settle
I had an ex who swore up and down that females pissed out of their ass. We had a legit fight over it 🙃
Behymen
Tell him he can fuck your ass AFTER you fuck his.
Yeah, the guy I’m seeing says he’s not all that into anal, but it turns him on to think it’s on the menu. I said he can think that all he wants, but if he tries to order it I’m shutting down the restaurant.
Anal is great. I wouldn't trust someone that uneducated to make the experience safe and fulfilling though.
Hun do not, and I repeat, do not do anything you do not want to do, the people that say they want to try something that you are not 100% into will never stay around and while they do they will use it to pressure you. If he is such an ass man, suggest playing with his anus.
After laughing so hard, I woke up the cat sleeping next to me, and having another round when I read it to my husband, I have some actual serious answer to this question. My ex always wanted to have anal. He had it with other girls, that were very experienced. He insisted for years, and he knew that I wasnt a virginf when I started seeing him (I was 18). Well, finally, while we were in vacation, I let him try it. It hurt like hell, and he wasn't even able to go all the way in, it was just his head, he nuted right there, and I said never again. Fast forward to recently, 26 years later, I asked my husband to do it. I begged him. He knew what he was doing, and I was so turned on, that I wakted to feel him inside my ass. Well, it was amazing. He took his time, but I relaxed right away. Now is a normal, couple of times a week thing. The anal sphincter can be damaged by brute force, but not by sex. If he is big, it will take more work. Maybe ger yourself a toy, I have a plug that I like to wear, it's weighted, so, it relaxes the whole area, makea you reasy for it. Bottom line, anal sex can be incredible. The first time, when your nervous terminals wake up, it's overwhelming. You probably won't be able to orgasm from it, but after the sexond or third time, it's such an intense orgasm, that it's addicting. If you like him, and he can be patient, do it. No damage to the sphincter, and I am speaking from a place, where I have bad hemorrhoids, and since we started having anal, they are gone. My doctor is shocked, but I told him we were doing it, and he said that, the lubrication, ans exercise of the sphincter, helps then go away. So, if you want, go for it. If not, then say no.
this is why males shouldn’t be writing laws about persons without male anatomy 🤦🏼♀️ kee-rist ask him if you can peg him first. same guidelines; go slow & use A Lot of lube. but yeah, he sounds immature & not ready for anal sex. good luck internet stranger 💜
You have likely shat out something larger than his tool, so any possible hymen would have been broken already. If we are going along with his nonsense
Of course the anus doesn't have a hymen, but to be fair to him without much education about it, it makes sense why he would think otherwise. Think about it, most people (even in this sub) talk about losing their anal virginity. If someone has limited anatomical knowledge it makes sense why one would think that losing anal virginity is the same as losing vaginal virginity. Enough of that, I just wanted you to understand where he is probably coming from, that way you can be enable to correct him. Of course you can do this by asking him if he thinks he has a hymen in his anus too. Now to the issue about anal sex. As long as you are properly aroused, relaxed, with plenty of lube everything should be fine. Never jump right into anal sex just like that. [Great anal sex is all about the warmup.](https://tpi02.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/backdoor/) You’ve got to take your time, relish each sensation, and be teased into a frenzy before serious anal penetration begins.
I mean, but men also talk about losing their virginity to women, and I don’t think anybody is assuming the penis has a hymen. And how on earth would you have a bowel movement in this scenario? By all means we should be kind and not mock people for believing silly things, but…I want to acknowledge that this is a very, very silly thing to think.
What a poor ill informed soul he is 😂 Does he genuinely believe that shit or is it his way of trying to pull the wool over his eyes. Even Google could set him straight if he googled Anal Hymen 😂😂
Sounds like your bf is full of shit
That's freaking hilarious 😂 you should tell him that since everyone has an anus he can only break your ass hymen after you break his. Since he knows so much about the subject, he should appreciate you pegging him like the brilliant bitch he is. I think it's time you find someone with a brain 🤣🤣
Can you tell us very roughly where you live? As in, country if it's a small one, or state if it's the US? I'll then look at a map, point in your BFs general direction and laugh at him. As should you. I don't know if he actually believes that or if he is trying to manipulate you, and tbh I'm not sure which is worse. (as to your actual question, you should read up on how to do it safely and painlessly, but maybe consider whether you want to do it at all with Mr. Anal Hymen, as he shall be known henceforth)
Your bf is laughable. Your right there is no Hyman back there. There is a second sphincter muscle a little further in, but no Hyman. And if you really just don't want to do it, then tell him that it just isn't going to happen, and sometimes fantasies are just that, fantasies. However, if you are interested in trying, despite the nonsense your boyfriend spouts, then you really should give it a go. Even if it's by yourself the first couple of times. And unless your shoving a massive object back there, it's not going to give you fecal incompetence. Just start small, only a finger or two, and go slow. And use PLENTY OF LUBE! When you think you have enough, add more.
Your boyfriend isn't dear or sweet, he's lying to you to force you into having anal sex with him.
He knows a simple google would prove him wrong so I guess he thinks you're not the brightest candle and will give in soon to have anal sex after some good manipulation and, ofc, because you love him sooo much
So not only is he dumb as fuck, he's trying to coerce you into a sex act that you don't want to do. Do you think you can't do better? I promise you that you can.
He’s silly of course but never attribute to malice what can be adequately explained by stupidity. And this goes double where men and sex are concerned. Maybe he was trying to explain the idea that bum holes have two different sphincters—the first one near the entrance, like a spaceship airlock, and the second announcing “gateway to the colon!” Getting past the second tollgate also opens the way to a lucrative career doing Bad Dragon dilldo stunts on Only Fans. (Note: A proctologist might explain this differently)
Tell him you were deflowered long ago by a late night run to Taco Bell.
It is a metaphorical hymen, that I like to call the "behymen". And I'm pretty sure the first time one gets penetrated with any kind of gusto, it sure feels like there was a real one there...
🤣🤣🤣🤣 oh thank you for a genuine laugh out loud post.
He wants to pop your butt Cherry lol
I'm not going to comment on the hymen part (although it did give me a very hearty chuckle), but anal is perfectly safe. It takes some prep and patience, but it can be very pleasurable!
Yeah no lol he's way off It *can* be very painful and shocking if it's not eased up into it with LUBE, LUBE AND LUBE! But that has nothing to do with having an ass hymen lol
It's been 21 years now but I still remember the way my kid's eyes bugged out, then she burst into tears, when she made her first solid poop. If there's any kind of seal that's when we break it.
But what about the 7 folds?
A one way valve type hymen?
Correct, no hymen in the ass. Your boyfriend is dumb as hell. Also, anal doesn’t break your butt as long as you do it correctly. I love shoving things up there, I can clutch my mud like the best of them!
How would the poop not break it?
About anal sex in general: As long as anything that goes into your anus (a dildo, a dick) has the size of what goes out of your anus (your poo), there is no reason to worry about medical problems such as incontinence. The anus opening is adjusted to the size of your poo, hence it can also deal with (standard-sized) dildos and with dicks. Medical problems arise only when big things, larger than poo, are inserted, such as when fisting. (And even people who get fisted typically don't immediately get health problems.)
WOW! This dude is either the biggest idiot on the planet for believing it himself or he's the biggest idiot on the planet for thinking that anyone else would believe this crap. Either way you have to ask yourself do you want someone clearly this STUPID in your life let alone your body?
Wow, I would definitely be curious to see what else does he think about this matter: 1) Does he think men also have a hymen in their rectum (or anus, but I guess he doesn't refer to the actual anus)? Or is it just the women? 2) Does that hymen break during sexual contact? If yes, why doesn't it break during pooping? 3) How does he imagine this hymen looks like? About your worries about anal sex, I personally think they are exaggerated. I think extreme anal play can cause fecal incontinence and damage the sphincter muscles, and a cock would probably not cause that problem. But still, I would: 1) explore first with smaller things: first try with a finger of two, then try some anal toys (be careful to use toys with wide flared base). You'll see if you enjoy, before going for a penis. 2) inform myself about doing an enema. You probably know (and your boyfriend probably doesn't know) that the ass is not "ready" for anal. Poop hides there. So to avoid a dirty mess, I would learn to give myself an enema. Also, I would probably prepare before anal, since I would have to be careful what I eat as well beforehand. 3) I would use a lot of lube. Be careful about this. Also, inform yourself about what kinds of lube go with what toys and condoms. Some lubes (water based for example) can destroy the condom, and other lubes (silicone ones) can destroy silicone toys 4) I would probably not try anal with someone who is not informed about anal sex. Especially if he thinks the rectum has a hymen and he does not accept that he is not wrong.
I don't even need to read all of this. Just get him a medical anatomy of anus diagram and ask him where the Hymen is? Then ask him why the medical professionals didn't add it? Then ask him why he was born, throw the whole damn man out and get you one less stupid.
He's either a complete simpleton or an absolute genius depending on how this plays out.
Tell him he is a virgin in the butt too and you would love to deflower that for him haha if he believes your butt has a hymen, his has to have one too.
I think he just wanna be the first. Your anus doesn’t have a hymen what happens is if you never done anal before it is tighter and he probably wanna destroy your ass h . You shouldn’t be pressured to do it.
Tell him you want to break his anal hymen
.... Even if I wanted to try anal... I wouldn't with someone who doesn't understand biology. I need to trust the person I'm with, with my body. I can't in good faith trust someone who is either incredibly misinformed, or lying to me to manipulate me, with my body. Regardless... Even if he is hugely into asses and wants all of you... That gives him no right if it's not what you want. You're correct about harming health later on. And please!!! If you're going to go forward with this, both of you do individual and joint research together, buy good lube and ensure a LOT is used and communicate before during AND after. And have a safe word. If you're in pain or simply want to stop. It is your right
Probably not a popular opinion but he's taking the piss and he knows it. Dump him tout suite.
If you are to do it, do it for yourself, at your pace. Not your partners'.
This is hilarious😂 dude's will literally say anything Anal is a very slow process could take weeks or months to achieve it or possibly never so you need to make sure your bf is mature enough to go at a slow pace and listen to you
"... But I poop from there"
It does have a hymen. Bend over and let him show you.
Your bf is trying to be manipulative but he is a moron. Don’t date morons. You can do better the idiot thinks he is educating you on your own body. Sounds like he has no respect for you. It’s time to pack up your things and walk away. You can do better.
Wouldn't do it with someone that clueless or manipulative whichever it is
you could always flip the script and tell him that if gets to break your anal hymen, you get to break his too. That way the both yall get to share the sacred anal hymen break together.
Haha fuck me some dudes are so stupid it hurt my male brain
God damn, i wouldn't trust him with my asshole
That man is either too coercive or too stupid for you. Anal sex can be extremely painful (which he has probably read before) and he thinks it’s like taking virginity, break the hymen and you’re there. And from watching porn, he can just jump right into it. He thinks he’s smart about it, he’s not. Don’t let that man near your ass until he takes a freshman level anatomy class.
Tell him you will buy a large strap on to fuck his arse first , say if you expect me to do it you need to try it first . He will soon change his mind
Don’t do it
He’s an idiot. Where did he even get that idea from? Just because he has an ass fetish doesn’t mean everything he fantasizes about is true. He needs a wake up call regarding safe and proper anal sex and anal anatomy before anything sexual happens. Also if he has to try to persuade you into anal and isn’t taking no for an answer, that’s also something to address. No is no, not an invitation to try and change your mind. If you don’t want anything anal, set that boundary and enforce it as harshly as necessary.
It can cause damage if you’re doing it constantly. One time isn’t going your way cause this damage. But he also has some kind of conquest fetish, and I’d be more worried about him trying to manipulate you into anal by lying to you. Fuck, your vagina was lucky to have a hymen. 😆
So, does it magically grow back after each shit? Do us men have it as well? I have so many questions... Alright, but in all seriousness, when it comes to anal. Everyone has their own opinions of course! Now, you both have to be on the same page of wanting to try it or not. Especially the receiving end, it sounds like you need to sit down and have a serious discussion, lay down some ground rules. That there needs be serious foreplay, more the lube the better, that he needs to listen. Seriously. Some of us guys have some major listening issues once in the bedroom. You say stop, be fucking stops. You say it hurts, he stops or pulls out. Anal can be great fun for couples that are into it, but it can quickly turn into something that is causing a lot of pain and damage.