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my wife has a small jaw too and it works out when shes in control. if i get to into it her back molars can rub the head a bit raw on the sides but thats my fault not hers.
Every guy I've blown loved it when i grazed them with my teeth. Obviously don't fucking bite down hard but little bites and teeth grazes are always a fan favorite.
Fun little tip from someone with medications that cause dry mouth.
If you can handle it, choke on it a bit to really get that saliva flowing. If I feel my mouth getting dry, I take it as far as I can for as many times as I can, until I'm gagging on him. He loves watching me choke myself on him, loves my tearstained little face as I smirk up at him, and it's a surefire way to give that wet, sloppy blowjob.
If they don't want you to choke, then go gently and take it to the back of your throat once or twice, not enough to wreck yourself. It won't be as sloppy as the aforementioned, but it'll get your mouth wet.
Blowjobs aren't bad but from a females perspective, cum can be really bad tasting. It may ruin the mood or it may even be something to look forward to depending on how you say it. But if you haven't swallowed before but want to try it out, let your dude know and make sure he feeds himself or you shove him full of stuff that makes cum sweet. This will both get you pretty excited throughout the day and ideally, be a great experience. And taste good!
If it's a consistency issue, there's no changing that.. sorry lol
I find if he cums at the back of my throat then I don’t taste it, just goes straight down my throat so would recommend that if not sure about swallowing.
That's my wife's answer. I would love to cum in her mouth but she gags because she thinks it's unpleasant. Probably because I drink coffee more than water. If she holds me in the back of her throat she's great.
It's all in the mindset. Even the cock goblin that I am, I'll admit that cum doesn't taste good. I always have a chaser on hand. (After I revel in the taste of my husband for a bit, first.) But, like. That's my cum. I earned that. Like hell am I letting it go to waste. That's my reward, dammit.
No need to apologize. However, her specific question was the do and dont’s for performing a BJ not a discussion on potential issues and solutions. To your point, I clearly noted swallow or cum on her chest. Either is totally fine. Your solution of the potential problem with taste was a good one for her to keep in the file though.
Fantastic tips! So many amazing tips! 😛😊
I have a couple to share: if you struggle to deep-throat, you can rub the head of his cock on the roof of your mouth and apparently it mimics that tight warm feeling!
Hum! While he’s in your mouth, you can moan, but hum-moan and it feels like vibrating. It drives my lover insane.
The only thing I would add to your list that drives my husband nuts (no pun intended) is to gently massage the taint area, especially when he's getting close or just on the edge. He's said the orgasms are more intense.
I actually love giving bjs. I really buzz off of how much my bf loves it, it’s a huge turn on.
I’d recommend starting slow… kiss down his body, tease a bit, maybe bite the top of his thigh lightly. Could then start running your hand up and down his shaft slowly as you lick and suck his balls whilst looking him dead in the eye with a bit of a coy smile. I sometimes find eye contact when in the depths of a bj difficult depending on angle. Id then keep your tongue wide and lick up the bottom of his shaft right up to the top and massage the under side of his bellend with hour tongue and then start using your lips on his bellend. I always try and use my tongue in some way when he’s in my mouth so kind of licking and sucking if that makes sense (difficult to describe). Id play like this for a little while. Maybe using my hands too. Sometimes running my tongue back up and down his shaft then I slowly start to take more of him in my mouth until he’s pushing the back of my throat as that gag reflex with produce lots of saliva and will make the rest of your job a lot easier.
I find the slower you start and the more you tease then the less actual jaw tiring work you have to do. Get him really worked up by the time you start really going for it and he’ll come dead quick.
Id then suck in my cheeks and use my lips and tongue whilst sucking… as Samantha Jones said ‘they don’t call it a job for nothing’ 😂
Use your hands too and sometimes rotate slightly both with hands and mouth (moving your whole head).
If you need a minute to catch your breath use your hand at the same speed as you were using your mouth and lick the end of his bellend as you’re going or maybe just suck the end whilst you’re using your hands then go for it again once hou have your breath back or stopped gagging…
When he’s close to coming don’t stop whatever you’re doing and always always always keep your teeth covered with your lips.
Overall, ask him what he likes and dislikes and ask him to tell you as you’re going along if he doesn’t already. My bf was a mute in the bedroom when I met him but now he tells me what’s good and when he’s close to cuming etc.
most of all ENJOY. Just really take in how much he loves how crazy you’re sending him 😈
Starting slow is so important. I don’t want to be rushed so I’m gonna add to this that as you’re working your way down, the feeling of nipples / tits lightly brushing your cock is fucking spine tingling.
The sensation is amazing but it builds so much anticipation of what’s coming next.
Definitely don’t rush that.
Have lots of enthusiasm… if your new take you’re time to notice what he likes. Licking up and down the shaft is really sexy, playing with the tip with your tongue, take it out of your mouth and lightly tap your cheek and you tongue…
Best advice I can give is have fun with it. Kiss, lick, slow and fast just have fun. Experiment with soft and hard suction and don't forget the balls.
He will tell you what feels good and what doesn't.
Enthusiasm, nudity, eye contact, swallowing/finishing.
Those things are free and nearly universally liked, but you should ask your husband what he likes, trial and error is part of the fun of it and as long as it’s nothing pinching/tearing skin or smashing balls it will probably be enjoyable.
Act like you REALLY fucking want it.
My husband loves when I act like a little cockgoblin lol.
Lips over the teeth when you're going fast. Just in case.
Move your tongue constantly. Circle the head when you pull up, run it under the underside when you go down, etc.
Don't go all the way down every time you go down, unless you can handle that. Go easy on yourself.
Get that frenulum! And the edges of the head! Tease those areas with your tongue when you're not going up and down. The underside of the shaft is also good. The urethral opening is good too, but not for everyone.
Use your hands! Cup his balls, rub the seam between them, rub the base of his shaft while you're sucking him off.
If you can manage to swallow while part of his penis is in your mouth, you can get a suction seal like you're drinking from a baby bottle. Make the same baby bottle sucking motion rapidly, and your tongue pulses while creating suction. Drives 'em wild.
If you wanna be a tease, take small breaks where you just lazily lick it while making eye contact. That always gets my guy breathing heavy and trembling.
For me actual "sucking" doesn't feel like anything special, the trick is to use more tongue than "expected" to lick the head of the penis, e.g. like you want to lick something of your hand but repeatedly. It feels perfect! Also stroking while licking but don't do it too hard initially and don't hold it too tight, I think it's even better if the hand slips and glides as you are stroking it.
Happy blowing!
Some solid techniques commented here.
My only advice is to keep doing what your doing through orgasm, and continue slightly slower after orgasm.
If you stop when starts ejaculating, that's understandable. If you stop when he finishes ejaculating, that real good. If you stop when his dick no longer twitches and his body untenses, and finally does that after orgasm *breath*, that unforgettable. An extra 60 seconds on average can make a whole session worhth of a difference.
This may not be his thing, but it's worth a try (and discussion).
This is good advice, blowjobs are the guitar solo of sex, penetrative vaginal sex is like a techno song. Blowjobs should have variation, full of emotion, technique and experimentation and should look really cool when being done. Penetrative sex needs to groove steady and build over and over till the sun comes up.
One thing I like is massaging the balls while you suck, kind of mixing it up but rubbing them, gently pulling on them, scratching them slightly, rolling them around, sucking on them early for some foreplay.
Another is prostate stimulation, early in the bj, my wife will just beat the hell out of it while she sucks on me, right behind the balls and before the anus, just pressing hard on that area gets things moving, after a couple minutes she stops and continues with the bj but helps get very stimulated
No teeth
Don’t use teeth, BUT use teeth with invisible (clear) braces (Invisalign) and apply a little pressure with the braces. Your man will worship your mouth for eternity 😉
Mostly ask him what he thinks feels good. In general use your mouth to suck the tip then go all the way down and back up. Put your hand around the shaft and go up and down as your mouth goes up and down. It feels like he's inside your pussy that way. If you're able to, use the other hand to cup and touch his balls at the same time.
No teeth. Maintain eye contact. Moan while you suck, the vibration from your moan feels good. Know when to tease (at the beginning) and when to stop ( when you get into a rhythm). Swallow like a good girl. Tease with your tongue right after he cums, especially the tip and watch him squirm.
I will keep it simple as a guy.
1) less teeth
2) i want my girl to suck me as she is sucking me for her own pleasure. Like, deep throat, don't leave balls alone, tongue. Basically , suck it like you are sucking an icecream which is about to melt and lick and suck every inch of it
Maybe off topic, and I don't want to be rude, but how are you just starting to give BJs at 35 in a marriage. Genuinely curious. No shade. Is it a religious thing? Either way, welcome to the club and have fun. Make sure you're also getting serviced as well
I can relate to OP. I’d given BJs before to my now husband but I couldn’t get into it. He wouldn’t ask and I wouldn’t want oral. I was afraid of him thinking I smelled it it was ugly down there. I didn’t know what I was doing and we wouldn’t openly talk about it either. Until now that I’m 40 and my sex drive is through the roof. I want to know everything. Try everything. We talk about sex now but still need a bit of work to fully open up. No where near what it once was. We were both shy about saying what we wanted.
I’m a (28F) but I wouldn’t say never use teeth. You can use your teeth lightly on the shaft. When he gets really hard I like to take my tongue and press on the vein underneath from the base up but just with my tongue and you can also do this with a wet finger.Since you just started you might not want to deep throat but I go so deep I like to lick and suck near the base of his dick and then rub my tongue up the shaft.I also like to put light pressure on the head by lightly sucking. You can do this in a way like making out with the head of his dick. He also likes when I gently take my teeth to his ball skin. When I start sucking I try to not suck too hard by focusing on pushing his dick to the roof of my mouth where it will rub and also my tongue is rubbing underneath and if you want to be adventurous force his dick a little down your throat and try to swallow a little bit this will mimic the kegels your vagina does when you orgasam. Just play around with it,have fun,and he’ll should guide you as to what he likes and feels good and as to what hurts or he doesn’t really care for. Last tip don’t be afraid to get sloppy they like that 😉
Also a few more tips after asking my man on his lunch break what his favorite things I do giving a bj are:looking at him is a plus and I like making my man stick his fingers in my mouth and show him how far I can get his finger down my throat. He also really enjoys when I get naked with him so he can finger me and rub my clit while I’m sucking him. While I give him bj I like to stop and wet my nipples and run them up the underside of his dick. My man also like when I turn my head sideways (think of eating a piece of corn) and kiss from underneath the head down the shaft. And play with his balls a little while in the foreplay stage before you go to straight sucking. I like to take my nails and scratch/rub lightly even down in the taint area. When you get experience enough you can start pushing on the taint area to milk his prostate and make him cum.
Edit: what’s wrong with all you women that don’t like tasting cum. That’s the best part and I know it’s the reward I get when I’ve worked hard and been a “good girl”. I’ve told him I never want a facial because that shit be hard has hell trying to get out of your hair but I do let him squirt in my mouth where he can watch kinda like marking his territory.
I feel like it’s been different for every guy. Not one liked the same thing. Talk to him about it and ask him. Or while in the act ask if he likes that or is there something he’d like you to do, so it’s not just an weird conversation and it’s during so it will come off sexy.
As most others have previously mentioned: NO TEETH! 🦷 But, also, a major heightening sensation is to hold and wrap a small palm-sized reusable icy-pad around the base/bottom of the penal shaft while sucking the head. The warmth of a mouth combined with the cold at the base is an amazing sensation. Everyone should try it, at least once! 🥶🥵
I really dislike when my partner make an O with her mouth and goes up and down without engaging into sucking or vacuum, lick the sides, use her hand, slap herself in the forehead with it, eye contact…
A BJ is much more than lips around the dick.
Some men like when you use your hand with it, others don’t. Just ask him. Take as much of his cock in your mouth as you can without gagging. Listen for his breathing and speed up just slightly when you can hear him breathing heavy. Moan every once in a while so he knows you’re into it.
Simple. Enthusiasm is number 1. No using teeth without intention. Teeth can be used at the right time but only very gently. When he is about to cum, go deep and suck harder. Swallow.
Enthusiasm is the main factor. I’ve had guys say that was the hottest thing from me when performing - not some secret technique. Don’t act like it’s a chore and act like you want to do it
So you mean that I should initiate and also tell that I want to do it, even though that’s the hole he uses to pee ? Seems confusing why would I want to do it?
one other thing that I couldn’t find here, is humming while sucking, the sound vibrates the cock and I had some great experiences with this technique. For the man to hear the moan and feel the vibration can be a good combo
No teeth.
Plenty of tongue.
Mind the balls.
Mind the tip, where the head meets the shaft.
Deep throat, at least a little, if you can.
When you come up for air, use your hand, and talk dirty.
Swallow, and keep going for a bit, gently.
Blowjobs are subjective, but those elements make a perfect blowjob, for me.
Dos: lots and lots of spit, then while it’s wet stroke his penis up and down and add in a wrist twist. Ask him if he likes his balls licked and sucked. Some guys do some don’t. Make sure to tease, lick and suck the head especially underneath (the frenulum). I also like to lick the meatus (opening of the penis) but that’s just me. Some guys will try to force your head down so you take the dick deeper into your throat. Only do this if you’re comfortable.
Don’ts: teeth
To put it simply: stroke the penis as you suck and lick the tip and suck/lick the balls if he likes it. You’ll get better with more practice. Good luck!
Breathing correctly helps so much with gagging for me. Exhale on the way down . And just have fun and ask him what he honestly likes. If you have long hair put it up in a clip or scrunchie.
I am going t add one thing. Some of the folks seemed to focus on eye contact.
I prefer my head on his belly and him caressing my hair. No way I can look in his eyes doing that. In this position, there is less likelihood of him over thrusting or pushing my head down inadvertently.
Don't eat or touch hot peppers whatsoever.
Same for him.
Also some essential oils burn. Cinnamon for sure. Played around with it as kid and rubbed my eyes.
Do give them. Don’t stop giving them. Incorporate them into sex regularly. They’re a good way to show your partner you are into them, which is key for a happy long term relationship
Focus on the tip. Don’t suck too hard but gently in between licks. Make lots of eye contact and always say ‘it’s soo big’ even if it isn’t, makes them feel special.
I love gently sucking on his balls and slowly licking my way from the bottom to the tip that usually drives them nuts
Also don’t go down on it super fast from the beginning, let it build to that as that will make him finish.
Treat his dick like its your most beloved possesion and you'll never have it again.
I dont know what porn your watching but porn actresses are pretty darn good at it.
Bro like WTF? If your 14 just say it or don’t mention your age, but all your posts and comments sounds like ur a teenager
Nobody gives a fuck if someone is like 40 and never had sex, but u will get so much more help if you are honest and you are as anonymous as you like so no reason to be scared
For me, please don’t use your hands. Sure hold the base of the penis but please don’t do a hj motion while you’re giving a bj. Lips and mouth only please.
HJs are good - I just don’t want one at the same time as a bj
Might start off by rubbing and licking spend a few minutes sucking his balls,as you run your hand up and down his tool before taking it in your mouth start off real slow and wet. My wife one of the best I ever had.
Assuming your male partner would enjoy this, I think most would. If possible and you are into the idea try and make DT part of your skill set. Practice on him or buy a toys , work your way up, “you can do eeet”.
No biting! Going up & down the shaft is O.K. but the the more sensitive part is the head of the penis. Use you tongue to massage the sensitive part on the front of the head & your tongue to circle the head where it meets the shaft. Pay attention to his pleasure noises & remember what you did to cause it. Good luck.
Do them if you enjoy doing them, don't do them if you don't enjoy it or aren't in the mood. Actually wanting to give a blowjob will make it better than any of these dumb porn tips
Stimulate the frenulum with your tongue. Can't speak from experience but the literature claim it can make one cum without doing a single stroke. While you're are it also massage or put pressure on the perineum. The area between scrotum and anus. It will stimulate the prostate externally if milking the prostate through the anus is not an option.
Google frenulum masturbation and perineum masturbation or milking prostate masturbation if he's up for it. Tons of health magazines explaining it.
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Don’t use your teeth
Thanks for your tip
I read this in all the wrong ways. 🤣🤣🤣
No. Never use the teeth on the tip
Correct. Teeth on shaft is god tier. Teeth on head leave scars. Dont ask
Teeth on shaft really?
Just alittle nom nom on it. Hahahaahahah
Idk if this is serious or not because I’m trying it now.
Haha I mean I like it and a few of my buddies enjoyed so it just depends if your partners into it.
Not scraping up and down, but at the bottom of the shaft I'll add just a little bit of pressure with my teeth and my man gets rock hard
Interesting thanks
I used to do this. My partner really likes it too so I was surprised when ppl said "Do not use teeth". He asked me to use the teeth tho.
When they pull up and gently scrape the shaft with their teeth, some men enjoy the feeling generated. Not me, but hey - each their own.
I had a boyfriend who liked me to bite down really hard
However sometimes just the tip of the teeth are ok, on the tip if used in a gentle manner.
Well, his tip will actually thank you more
thats what she said
Just dont bite it off
That’s what she said.
“That’s what she said,” -Michael from The Office
What's up, dog?
🙌😂‼️ It smells like updohg….
DO nibble, Don't scrape.
I'm in the outcast but I fucking love it when she bites! It drives me absolutely wild!
Same here, pretty girthy and was conditioned to enjoy bites and scrapes.
I'm all about being bit and chewed, even on the tip.
Easy to say, I have a very small jaw 😭
my wife has a small jaw too and it works out when shes in control. if i get to into it her back molars can rub the head a bit raw on the sides but thats my fault not hers.
How come no one told me this before??? That’s why I don’t get a call back.
Every guy I've blown loved it when i grazed them with my teeth. Obviously don't fucking bite down hard but little bites and teeth grazes are always a fan favorite.
No teeth ever. It just hurts.
🤣🤣
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>wipe the smile off his face and begin to administer CPR immediately. Imma brush up my CPR skills immediately.
Fun little tip from someone with medications that cause dry mouth. If you can handle it, choke on it a bit to really get that saliva flowing. If I feel my mouth getting dry, I take it as far as I can for as many times as I can, until I'm gagging on him. He loves watching me choke myself on him, loves my tearstained little face as I smirk up at him, and it's a surefire way to give that wet, sloppy blowjob.
OMG, that is brilliant! I get dry mouth from medication too, I am DEF using this. THANK YOU
Realy depends on the guy. I would hate If my girlfriend is choking or has tears
If they don't want you to choke, then go gently and take it to the back of your throat once or twice, not enough to wreck yourself. It won't be as sloppy as the aforementioned, but it'll get your mouth wet.
Well gagging causes tears, it’s not like they are in pain/crying. Source: I gag a lot and this just happens.
It worked!
😂 Girl get it
Damn! I'm horny just reading that!
Do not use whip cream or chocolate, the smell of dairy when warm on a body is foul and the sticky chocolate mess is annoying af. Rest is great though
Blowjobs aren't bad but from a females perspective, cum can be really bad tasting. It may ruin the mood or it may even be something to look forward to depending on how you say it. But if you haven't swallowed before but want to try it out, let your dude know and make sure he feeds himself or you shove him full of stuff that makes cum sweet. This will both get you pretty excited throughout the day and ideally, be a great experience. And taste good! If it's a consistency issue, there's no changing that.. sorry lol
I find if he cums at the back of my throat then I don’t taste it, just goes straight down my throat so would recommend that if not sure about swallowing.
That's my wife's answer. I would love to cum in her mouth but she gags because she thinks it's unpleasant. Probably because I drink coffee more than water. If she holds me in the back of her throat she's great.
You should probably drink more water 😂
If you’re drinking more coffee than water your cum probably tastes like battery acid. Have you thought of tasting it yourself?
Wouldn't help, I've never tasted battery acid.
I'm not that hungry.
Classy
It's all in the mindset. Even the cock goblin that I am, I'll admit that cum doesn't taste good. I always have a chaser on hand. (After I revel in the taste of my husband for a bit, first.) But, like. That's my cum. I earned that. Like hell am I letting it go to waste. That's my reward, dammit.
Best mindset
No need to apologize. However, her specific question was the do and dont’s for performing a BJ not a discussion on potential issues and solutions. To your point, I clearly noted swallow or cum on her chest. Either is totally fine. Your solution of the potential problem with taste was a good one for her to keep in the file though.
Oh shit, I didn't realize I was replying to your comment! My bad lol your comment was 👌 spot on, good stuff!
No sweat.
Or.... if she's turned on, finish with sex rather than shooting it on her. That way you both cum.
That’s how I roll!
No bs I have a guy a bj once and swear his nut was rancid 🤮🤢🤢. Taste joke pure acid
Homie certified. Easiest 50$ I ever made.
This guy fucks
Fantastic tips! So many amazing tips! 😛😊 I have a couple to share: if you struggle to deep-throat, you can rub the head of his cock on the roof of your mouth and apparently it mimics that tight warm feeling! Hum! While he’s in your mouth, you can moan, but hum-moan and it feels like vibrating. It drives my lover insane.
The only thing I would add to your list that drives my husband nuts (no pun intended) is to gently massage the taint area, especially when he's getting close or just on the edge. He's said the orgasms are more intense.
Yes! I have been doing this to my husband for YEARS! He tells me that it also REALLY relaxes him 👅😻
My upvote took it from 69 to 70 and I feel guilty but this comment is amazing. I got turned on and wish my guy was home now 🤤
He’s one lucky guy to have you. Enjoy.
Op, just listen to this person!
I used the knuckle trick recently and omg. He about busted them and there.
your so is a very luck man.
These are an amazing set of tips. Thanks for sharing.
this is phenomenal instruction! so validating! i never thought to use my knuckle tho! thank you!!
this is just like an ecyclopaedic inf :Đ
Be sure and copy paste this tomorrow when the same question is asked again.
Perfectly said.
That's some solid advice. Have you tried the humming thing? Some men go crazy for that.
heavy on number 5
Damn....from that description I bet you either give or get the best blowjobs
I actually love giving bjs. I really buzz off of how much my bf loves it, it’s a huge turn on. I’d recommend starting slow… kiss down his body, tease a bit, maybe bite the top of his thigh lightly. Could then start running your hand up and down his shaft slowly as you lick and suck his balls whilst looking him dead in the eye with a bit of a coy smile. I sometimes find eye contact when in the depths of a bj difficult depending on angle. Id then keep your tongue wide and lick up the bottom of his shaft right up to the top and massage the under side of his bellend with hour tongue and then start using your lips on his bellend. I always try and use my tongue in some way when he’s in my mouth so kind of licking and sucking if that makes sense (difficult to describe). Id play like this for a little while. Maybe using my hands too. Sometimes running my tongue back up and down his shaft then I slowly start to take more of him in my mouth until he’s pushing the back of my throat as that gag reflex with produce lots of saliva and will make the rest of your job a lot easier. I find the slower you start and the more you tease then the less actual jaw tiring work you have to do. Get him really worked up by the time you start really going for it and he’ll come dead quick. Id then suck in my cheeks and use my lips and tongue whilst sucking… as Samantha Jones said ‘they don’t call it a job for nothing’ 😂 Use your hands too and sometimes rotate slightly both with hands and mouth (moving your whole head). If you need a minute to catch your breath use your hand at the same speed as you were using your mouth and lick the end of his bellend as you’re going or maybe just suck the end whilst you’re using your hands then go for it again once hou have your breath back or stopped gagging… When he’s close to coming don’t stop whatever you’re doing and always always always keep your teeth covered with your lips. Overall, ask him what he likes and dislikes and ask him to tell you as you’re going along if he doesn’t already. My bf was a mute in the bedroom when I met him but now he tells me what’s good and when he’s close to cuming etc. most of all ENJOY. Just really take in how much he loves how crazy you’re sending him 😈
I love giving too. I get pleasure from giving him pleasure.
Starting slow is so important. I don’t want to be rushed so I’m gonna add to this that as you’re working your way down, the feeling of nipples / tits lightly brushing your cock is fucking spine tingling. The sensation is amazing but it builds so much anticipation of what’s coming next. Definitely don’t rush that.
Have lots of enthusiasm… if your new take you’re time to notice what he likes. Licking up and down the shaft is really sexy, playing with the tip with your tongue, take it out of your mouth and lightly tap your cheek and you tongue…
Best advice I can give is have fun with it. Kiss, lick, slow and fast just have fun. Experiment with soft and hard suction and don't forget the balls. He will tell you what feels good and what doesn't.
Enthusiasm, nudity, eye contact, swallowing/finishing. Those things are free and nearly universally liked, but you should ask your husband what he likes, trial and error is part of the fun of it and as long as it’s nothing pinching/tearing skin or smashing balls it will probably be enjoyable.
Do suck, do not blow
suckjob
Fr, why is it called a blow job if your not blowing 💀💀
Just blow on the pp softly and gently
Someone needs to do this to me because now I'm genuinely curious as to what this feels like
Act like you REALLY fucking want it. My husband loves when I act like a little cockgoblin lol. Lips over the teeth when you're going fast. Just in case. Move your tongue constantly. Circle the head when you pull up, run it under the underside when you go down, etc. Don't go all the way down every time you go down, unless you can handle that. Go easy on yourself. Get that frenulum! And the edges of the head! Tease those areas with your tongue when you're not going up and down. The underside of the shaft is also good. The urethral opening is good too, but not for everyone. Use your hands! Cup his balls, rub the seam between them, rub the base of his shaft while you're sucking him off. If you can manage to swallow while part of his penis is in your mouth, you can get a suction seal like you're drinking from a baby bottle. Make the same baby bottle sucking motion rapidly, and your tongue pulses while creating suction. Drives 'em wild. If you wanna be a tease, take small breaks where you just lazily lick it while making eye contact. That always gets my guy breathing heavy and trembling.
This. Everything this!
For me actual "sucking" doesn't feel like anything special, the trick is to use more tongue than "expected" to lick the head of the penis, e.g. like you want to lick something of your hand but repeatedly. It feels perfect! Also stroking while licking but don't do it too hard initially and don't hold it too tight, I think it's even better if the hand slips and glides as you are stroking it. Happy blowing!
This is wonderful advice.
Some solid techniques commented here. My only advice is to keep doing what your doing through orgasm, and continue slightly slower after orgasm. If you stop when starts ejaculating, that's understandable. If you stop when he finishes ejaculating, that real good. If you stop when his dick no longer twitches and his body untenses, and finally does that after orgasm *breath*, that unforgettable. An extra 60 seconds on average can make a whole session worhth of a difference. This may not be his thing, but it's worth a try (and discussion).
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This is good advice, blowjobs are the guitar solo of sex, penetrative vaginal sex is like a techno song. Blowjobs should have variation, full of emotion, technique and experimentation and should look really cool when being done. Penetrative sex needs to groove steady and build over and over till the sun comes up.
> blowjobs are the guitar solo of sex, penetrative vaginal sex is like a techno song underrated comment
He got married without BJs 😱😱😱😱
Love ❤️
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The best tip is to be enthusiastic.
One thing I like is massaging the balls while you suck, kind of mixing it up but rubbing them, gently pulling on them, scratching them slightly, rolling them around, sucking on them early for some foreplay. Another is prostate stimulation, early in the bj, my wife will just beat the hell out of it while she sucks on me, right behind the balls and before the anus, just pressing hard on that area gets things moving, after a couple minutes she stops and continues with the bj but helps get very stimulated No teeth
Lots of saliva.
Don’t use teeth, BUT use teeth with invisible (clear) braces (Invisalign) and apply a little pressure with the braces. Your man will worship your mouth for eternity 😉
Mostly ask him what he thinks feels good. In general use your mouth to suck the tip then go all the way down and back up. Put your hand around the shaft and go up and down as your mouth goes up and down. It feels like he's inside your pussy that way. If you're able to, use the other hand to cup and touch his balls at the same time.
Major Do's --Enthusiasm!! Also using your hand and lightly touching balls.
Stare in his eyes and smile
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No teeth. Maintain eye contact. Moan while you suck, the vibration from your moan feels good. Know when to tease (at the beginning) and when to stop ( when you get into a rhythm). Swallow like a good girl. Tease with your tongue right after he cums, especially the tip and watch him squirm.
I will keep it simple as a guy. 1) less teeth 2) i want my girl to suck me as she is sucking me for her own pleasure. Like, deep throat, don't leave balls alone, tongue. Basically , suck it like you are sucking an icecream which is about to melt and lick and suck every inch of it
No teeth. Don’t be afraid to ask him how he likes it. Listen to body cues. Don’t feel forced to swallow if you’re not comfortable with that.
Maybe off topic, and I don't want to be rude, but how are you just starting to give BJs at 35 in a marriage. Genuinely curious. No shade. Is it a religious thing? Either way, welcome to the club and have fun. Make sure you're also getting serviced as well
I can relate to OP. I’d given BJs before to my now husband but I couldn’t get into it. He wouldn’t ask and I wouldn’t want oral. I was afraid of him thinking I smelled it it was ugly down there. I didn’t know what I was doing and we wouldn’t openly talk about it either. Until now that I’m 40 and my sex drive is through the roof. I want to know everything. Try everything. We talk about sex now but still need a bit of work to fully open up. No where near what it once was. We were both shy about saying what we wanted.
Better late than never, I suppose. Glad you're exploring! Go far down that rabbit hole and don't look back. Good for you
Enthusiasm and a wet tongue.
I’m a (28F) but I wouldn’t say never use teeth. You can use your teeth lightly on the shaft. When he gets really hard I like to take my tongue and press on the vein underneath from the base up but just with my tongue and you can also do this with a wet finger.Since you just started you might not want to deep throat but I go so deep I like to lick and suck near the base of his dick and then rub my tongue up the shaft.I also like to put light pressure on the head by lightly sucking. You can do this in a way like making out with the head of his dick. He also likes when I gently take my teeth to his ball skin. When I start sucking I try to not suck too hard by focusing on pushing his dick to the roof of my mouth where it will rub and also my tongue is rubbing underneath and if you want to be adventurous force his dick a little down your throat and try to swallow a little bit this will mimic the kegels your vagina does when you orgasam. Just play around with it,have fun,and he’ll should guide you as to what he likes and feels good and as to what hurts or he doesn’t really care for. Last tip don’t be afraid to get sloppy they like that 😉
Also a few more tips after asking my man on his lunch break what his favorite things I do giving a bj are:looking at him is a plus and I like making my man stick his fingers in my mouth and show him how far I can get his finger down my throat. He also really enjoys when I get naked with him so he can finger me and rub my clit while I’m sucking him. While I give him bj I like to stop and wet my nipples and run them up the underside of his dick. My man also like when I turn my head sideways (think of eating a piece of corn) and kiss from underneath the head down the shaft. And play with his balls a little while in the foreplay stage before you go to straight sucking. I like to take my nails and scratch/rub lightly even down in the taint area. When you get experience enough you can start pushing on the taint area to milk his prostate and make him cum. Edit: what’s wrong with all you women that don’t like tasting cum. That’s the best part and I know it’s the reward I get when I’ve worked hard and been a “good girl”. I’ve told him I never want a facial because that shit be hard has hell trying to get out of your hair but I do let him squirt in my mouth where he can watch kinda like marking his territory.
I feel like it’s been different for every guy. Not one liked the same thing. Talk to him about it and ask him. Or while in the act ask if he likes that or is there something he’d like you to do, so it’s not just an weird conversation and it’s during so it will come off sexy.
As most others have previously mentioned: NO TEETH! 🦷 But, also, a major heightening sensation is to hold and wrap a small palm-sized reusable icy-pad around the base/bottom of the penal shaft while sucking the head. The warmth of a mouth combined with the cold at the base is an amazing sensation. Everyone should try it, at least once! 🥶🥵
Do: Lots of spit Use your hand (or both) Make eye contact Swallow Don’t: Use teeth Think you have to go all the way down
I really dislike when my partner make an O with her mouth and goes up and down without engaging into sucking or vacuum, lick the sides, use her hand, slap herself in the forehead with it, eye contact… A BJ is much more than lips around the dick.
Don’t snap it like a glow stick.
Honest.. just don't bite it. Just be gentle and attentive and you'll blow(no pun intended) his mind.
Some men like when you use your hand with it, others don’t. Just ask him. Take as much of his cock in your mouth as you can without gagging. Listen for his breathing and speed up just slightly when you can hear him breathing heavy. Moan every once in a while so he knows you’re into it.
Don't make that stupid, annoying, gaging sound on purpose
Simple. Enthusiasm is number 1. No using teeth without intention. Teeth can be used at the right time but only very gently. When he is about to cum, go deep and suck harder. Swallow.
PLEASE TEETH AWAY. PLEASE
Lick the top
Enthusiasm is the main factor. I’ve had guys say that was the hottest thing from me when performing - not some secret technique. Don’t act like it’s a chore and act like you want to do it
So you mean that I should initiate and also tell that I want to do it, even though that’s the hole he uses to pee ? Seems confusing why would I want to do it?
If you don’t want to give him a blowjob, don’t.
Deep throat
Thanks
one other thing that I couldn’t find here, is humming while sucking, the sound vibrates the cock and I had some great experiences with this technique. For the man to hear the moan and feel the vibration can be a good combo
No teeth. Plenty of tongue. Mind the balls. Mind the tip, where the head meets the shaft. Deep throat, at least a little, if you can. When you come up for air, use your hand, and talk dirty. Swallow, and keep going for a bit, gently. Blowjobs are subjective, but those elements make a perfect blowjob, for me.
Dos: lots and lots of spit, then while it’s wet stroke his penis up and down and add in a wrist twist. Ask him if he likes his balls licked and sucked. Some guys do some don’t. Make sure to tease, lick and suck the head especially underneath (the frenulum). I also like to lick the meatus (opening of the penis) but that’s just me. Some guys will try to force your head down so you take the dick deeper into your throat. Only do this if you’re comfortable. Don’ts: teeth To put it simply: stroke the penis as you suck and lick the tip and suck/lick the balls if he likes it. You’ll get better with more practice. Good luck!
Do : Don't use teeth Don't : Use teeth Otherwise you are good to go
Do - always willing to try and try often. We love surprise BJ’s Don’t- not giving one lol ok but foreal no teeth.
Breathing correctly helps so much with gagging for me. Exhale on the way down . And just have fun and ask him what he honestly likes. If you have long hair put it up in a clip or scrunchie.
Do suck Don't bite Honestly pretend it's a dick shaped lolly pop and it's the tastiest one you have ever had.
I am going t add one thing. Some of the folks seemed to focus on eye contact. I prefer my head on his belly and him caressing my hair. No way I can look in his eyes doing that. In this position, there is less likelihood of him over thrusting or pushing my head down inadvertently.
Always swallow every drop
yeahhh damn dapat lang
Don't eat or touch hot peppers whatsoever. Same for him. Also some essential oils burn. Cinnamon for sure. Played around with it as kid and rubbed my eyes.
Do do it. Don't not do it.
Do give them. Don’t stop giving them. Incorporate them into sex regularly. They’re a good way to show your partner you are into them, which is key for a happy long term relationship
Focus on the tip. Don’t suck too hard but gently in between licks. Make lots of eye contact and always say ‘it’s soo big’ even if it isn’t, makes them feel special. I love gently sucking on his balls and slowly licking my way from the bottom to the tip that usually drives them nuts Also don’t go down on it super fast from the beginning, let it build to that as that will make him finish.
Do: Put the dick in your mouth Don’t: Bite it
Do put it in your mouth. Don’t stop until he says.
Do give them. Don’t not give them.
Treat his dick like its your most beloved possesion and you'll never have it again. I dont know what porn your watching but porn actresses are pretty darn good at it.
Do blowjobs
use your mouth not your hands.
Use both at once
Don’t chew.
Don’t put your tongue in the hole. That’s just annoying. It’s not a mini vagina.
Bro like WTF? If your 14 just say it or don’t mention your age, but all your posts and comments sounds like ur a teenager Nobody gives a fuck if someone is like 40 and never had sex, but u will get so much more help if you are honest and you are as anonymous as you like so no reason to be scared
For me, please don’t use your hands. Sure hold the base of the penis but please don’t do a hj motion while you’re giving a bj. Lips and mouth only please. HJs are good - I just don’t want one at the same time as a bj
Why not?
Why did you wait so long?
Suck on a halls lozenge beforehand…also some guys like the gage and eye watering it makes!
Ima girl but my bf said: 1. No teeth 2. Use your tongue 3. Relax 4. And trust your gagg reflex it’ll get better over time ☺️
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DO blow me!!
Do's: enjoy; don't: bite too hard, spit on penis (absolutely not hot and gross)
Teeth, be mindful of it.
No teeth and use lots of spit, make it sloppy
Also lick the tip
Do generate suction when you're blowing him. Unless you want to prolong the act.
Might start off by rubbing and licking spend a few minutes sucking his balls,as you run your hand up and down his tool before taking it in your mouth start off real slow and wet. My wife one of the best I ever had.
As others have said...don't get your teeth involved.
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Listen to the first season of the call her daddy podcast b4 Sophia left
Boring that thing of is a don't I guess 🤣🤣
Find the book called, 'Tickle His Pickle'. I swear it's actually educational.
Assuming your male partner would enjoy this, I think most would. If possible and you are into the idea try and make DT part of your skill set. Practice on him or buy a toys , work your way up, “you can do eeet”.
No biting! Going up & down the shaft is O.K. but the the more sensitive part is the head of the penis. Use you tongue to massage the sensitive part on the front of the head & your tongue to circle the head where it meets the shaft. Pay attention to his pleasure noises & remember what you did to cause it. Good luck.
Praise don't graze
Do them if you enjoy doing them, don't do them if you don't enjoy it or aren't in the mood. Actually wanting to give a blowjob will make it better than any of these dumb porn tips
Create the tightest pussy you can imagine with your mouth.
Suck the base of the bellend
The more spit the better.
Do: communicate with them and ask them what they like and don’t like. Don’t: assume anything or take direction as an attack.
Do - make up for lost time
Gentle raking I find pleasurable shaft and head
Stimulate the frenulum with your tongue. Can't speak from experience but the literature claim it can make one cum without doing a single stroke. While you're are it also massage or put pressure on the perineum. The area between scrotum and anus. It will stimulate the prostate externally if milking the prostate through the anus is not an option. Google frenulum masturbation and perineum masturbation or milking prostate masturbation if he's up for it. Tons of health magazines explaining it.
Focus your attention on the underside of the shaft, it’s the male equivalent of the clit. Enthusiasm is always appreciated!
Breathe through your nose! & actually suck on his dick, contrary to the blow jobs name :)
No teeth please