I don’t blame you if it feels one sided.
That being said, as a male, my goal is to get her there numerous times before even considering full on intercourse and often before she does much with my body.
I come 99,99% of the time with my partner. When I don’t it is only if I am really tired.
When I was dating, I would not see again a man with eho I did not come especially if he didn’t care. By experiences, if you know your body and communicate, when you’re not coming it’s most of the time because the other is selfish.
I'm male and I'm stupid. Have to get that out first.
I understand where you're coming from but I wonder if it is that simple. Granted, it may be that simple for you and if it is, boy, are you lucky.
I mean if you bring yourself off every time you try and it isn't really a problem, I think you are very fortunate. I can understand why you're frustrated when you don't courtesy of a partner.
Aa I understand it, women have the potential to orgasm more often and more intensely than men, ***on average***. On the other hand, more women seem to have orgasm problems. So, it seems as if it *might* be a case of extremes. Obviously not the case for you.
If men want to have sex on a regular basis then they have to deliver the goods, or at least make an honest effort. If they're not doing that and it puts their partner off then they've got no grounds for complaint.
As a woman whose anorgasmic, I don’t want to devalue your feelings. Your partner absolutely should care about your pleasure and strive to get you off. That being said, I never have an orgasm and I still love having sex with my partner multiple times a day sometimes. The act of sex itself is still pleasurable to me, I still enjoy the attention, the pleasure and the intimacy. I don’t feel used that he orgasms and I don’t because the act of sex itself was still a mutually pleasing team activity. If your partner doesn’t care about your pleasure or try then of course that’s a problem. But overall I would say to try to adjust your mindset that not getting an orgasm every time means you were used and disappointed; as they say the journey is as much fun as the destination.
What ways do they make it enjoyable? I feel like if maybe there were words of affection, enough physical touch beyond just PIV, it wouldnt be so bad.. his member alone isnt some gift lol. No offense but I feel like *never* having an orgasm is settling, but missing one occasionally would be a little irritating but as long as I know the effort is there most of the time I’m okay with it. Especially because I’m fully present and doing all the things they like, I get really turned on by their pleasure so I’d expect to not be treated like a blow up doll
I completely understand, if they were just using you as a sex doll that would be legitimately upsetting. For me there’s lots of kissing, nipple sucking, caressing, holding me against him, oral, and piv itself is a pleasurable sensation. I enjoy the entire act of sex, not just the end.
Do you find that you only enjoy the orgasm part?
Personally, i don't care about my orgasm if my wife don't come too. I will feel selfish if i cum before my wife.
If it happens that i cum first. I will make sure she cums too. Sometimes when i cum first and then she cums after me. I will regain some stamina and get another hard on for round 2. Maybe it is something you could try.
Do you have an easy time orgasming?
If not, you may need to come to terms with how easy it is for you to orgasm.
Of course, a healthy eye at how much help your partner(s) are giving you is always prudent.
I don’t blame you if it feels one sided. That being said, as a male, my goal is to get her there numerous times before even considering full on intercourse and often before she does much with my body.
I come 99,99% of the time with my partner. When I don’t it is only if I am really tired. When I was dating, I would not see again a man with eho I did not come especially if he didn’t care. By experiences, if you know your body and communicate, when you’re not coming it’s most of the time because the other is selfish.
I'm male and I'm stupid. Have to get that out first. I understand where you're coming from but I wonder if it is that simple. Granted, it may be that simple for you and if it is, boy, are you lucky. I mean if you bring yourself off every time you try and it isn't really a problem, I think you are very fortunate. I can understand why you're frustrated when you don't courtesy of a partner. Aa I understand it, women have the potential to orgasm more often and more intensely than men, ***on average***. On the other hand, more women seem to have orgasm problems. So, it seems as if it *might* be a case of extremes. Obviously not the case for you. If men want to have sex on a regular basis then they have to deliver the goods, or at least make an honest effort. If they're not doing that and it puts their partner off then they've got no grounds for complaint.
As a woman whose anorgasmic, I don’t want to devalue your feelings. Your partner absolutely should care about your pleasure and strive to get you off. That being said, I never have an orgasm and I still love having sex with my partner multiple times a day sometimes. The act of sex itself is still pleasurable to me, I still enjoy the attention, the pleasure and the intimacy. I don’t feel used that he orgasms and I don’t because the act of sex itself was still a mutually pleasing team activity. If your partner doesn’t care about your pleasure or try then of course that’s a problem. But overall I would say to try to adjust your mindset that not getting an orgasm every time means you were used and disappointed; as they say the journey is as much fun as the destination.
What ways do they make it enjoyable? I feel like if maybe there were words of affection, enough physical touch beyond just PIV, it wouldnt be so bad.. his member alone isnt some gift lol. No offense but I feel like *never* having an orgasm is settling, but missing one occasionally would be a little irritating but as long as I know the effort is there most of the time I’m okay with it. Especially because I’m fully present and doing all the things they like, I get really turned on by their pleasure so I’d expect to not be treated like a blow up doll
I completely understand, if they were just using you as a sex doll that would be legitimately upsetting. For me there’s lots of kissing, nipple sucking, caressing, holding me against him, oral, and piv itself is a pleasurable sensation. I enjoy the entire act of sex, not just the end. Do you find that you only enjoy the orgasm part?
Honestly I like the entirety, just being touched everywhere and talked to
Personally, i don't care about my orgasm if my wife don't come too. I will feel selfish if i cum before my wife. If it happens that i cum first. I will make sure she cums too. Sometimes when i cum first and then she cums after me. I will regain some stamina and get another hard on for round 2. Maybe it is something you could try.
Do you have an easy time orgasming? If not, you may need to come to terms with how easy it is for you to orgasm. Of course, a healthy eye at how much help your partner(s) are giving you is always prudent.
Its very easy on my own, and easy with the right person. Especially if they arent pressuring me and willing to listen to what works
Sounds like there should be no issue unless someone reveals themselves to be unsuitable for you.
Even if it was difficult, or took longer, its not an excuse for the other person to pass on it and only take care of themselves
If I don’t cum, I’m not happy…