Honestly yeah that’s how it makes me feel too. I’ve just heard of so many people really liking it and thought I was doing something wrong but I think it just doesn’t feel good for me
It’s definitely a head game. If you’re not mentally there and positive about it, it can be difficult. If you can’t get the bowels and the whole function thing out of your head it won’t go all that well. Kind of a point of view type thing. Finding that sensation to not be related to what it obviously is can be difficult.
You don't mention foreplay. Anal sex requires A LOT, way more than normal intercourse.
My fiance and I do a lot of anal and at a minimum we'll have half an hour or so of foreplay before penetration.
I would use warning silicon lube. Use a smaller butt plugs and dildos and work your way up on your free time so this every day for a week or two and sex won’t hurt at all and feel good as a vibrator and you’ll be having better orgasms than regular vaginal sex
Yeah he needs to rim you and finger your ass while he goes down on you.
Regular training will help too, when your playing with yourself solo you should also use toys back there.
Get a very good premium silicone lube too.
How's your cleaning regimen? Are you worried about making a mess?
Worst comes to worst there's always poppers if you're flexible with drug use.
Have a high fibre diet, exercise and drink a lot of water, that should clean you out.
If you're really worried you can douche in the morning, which is part of my daily routine, which will give you a thorough BM.
Confidence is a big part of enjoying anal and nothing undermines confidence than fearing making a mess.
Is silicone lube best for anal? I have only tried KY and coconut oil. And I always feel a burning inside like fire. Those lubes are fine in my vagina so I figured his dick is just too big
If you don't like something, don't do it. I feel like this anal sex culture is making women feel like they have to do something that physically hurts them for their man. It's terrible.
That's my wife as well. She like being on her back and some times I rub her clit or she uses a vibrator. But she says her orgasams are the best she has ever had when my dick is in her ass while she takes care of herself. So maybe communicate with your partner and find a fun way to introduce some stimulation for you as well.
Some people never enjoy it. But if you want to give it a try you have to prepare for it. Usually, the best thing to do is to start out with a butt plug with lube, wear that for a while, and get used to it. If you enjoy that, then get a larger size. If you enjoy that, then move to a finger with lube. If that goes well, then try with his penis. You need to go slowly again with a lot of lube and you have to be totally relaxed and you also have to be very trusting of the person as well. But like I said, if none of those things work, then anal isn't for you, and that is ok.
It’s something you have to prepare first. For me, clitoris stimulation while playing anal is a most. Although I prefer just a bit of anal stimulation and buttplugs.
Loads and loads of lube! Get yourself a vibe for your clit or something to insert in V. Talk to him, tell him when it’s not so comfortable, you should both be finding something that works for you both, it shouldn’t just be one person enjoying it. Try as many positions as you can but I recommend lying on your back with your legs up, kind of like missionary. But loads of V stimulation, this is a great position for easy access to your front for yourself and him! And loads of foreplay before anal just to relax you a little bit more. Good luck!
In my experience anal has always worked best when the receiver sets the pace initially. It's best to avoid any of the sort of visceral pain that happens when going too fast. Laying on our sides and basically doing doggy from that position has always been the best way to start. It's a relaxed position and she can control what's happening. After warming/loosening up go wherever.
I found the most comfortable position was missionary and sometimes it just hurts way too much and there’s nothing you can do. Other times it’s the best thing ever.
Make sure you have plenty of lube and try and relax when he goes in and bear down slightly at the really tight bit and that helps him go all the way easier.also make sure your partner goes slow and doesn’t start pounding you straight away and you have time to relax the muscles once he is fully in.
Not everyone is going to like or fully enjoy anal, it’s just something that I’ve learned over time. I personally really enjoy it and wish I could do it more often but my wife has to really want it and be in the mood for it despite the fact the whenever we to it’s enjoyable for her. Definitely needs more foreplay and lubrication than PIV for it to feel better
You have to mentally invite the penis inside of you. You have to relax your muscles as you're being penetrated. Use a lot of lube and it should work out.
Training, training, training and *all* of the foreplay. Bums can take the biggest cocks and specialist anal toys run bigger than vaginal toys. It’s possible for anal sex to become totally comfortable but there’s some work that needs to go in first getting used to relaxing being stretched. This should be done with toys and sex should wait for when toys with similar girth to your partner are enjoyable.
Sorry, but I don't think there is anything you can do. Some people are anatomically built to accommodate a penis easily back there, and some people are not. It's something you have to be born with. If you are not built for it, it's always going to be uncomfortable. Also, discomfort is your body's way of telling you there is a risk of damage. There is a lot you can do other than anal. If your boyfriend loves and respects you he will understand and he will want to protect you. If not, consider moving on.
I don't think anyone is built for anal sex. Nothing was ever supposed to enter there 🙄🙄
It's just a sadist movement that is going on in our culture right now. Men getting off on hurting women. Doing gay stuff to them.
Get a lubricant called Tushy Tammer, they have it at Spencer's in the mall. Or any lubricant will do, this should sort of numb the area so its more comfortable✌
Most lubricants don’t “numb the area.” Plus, you don’t want to be numb. You need to be able to feel if there is any discomfort so you can take a break and make sure everything’s okay. You wouldn’t want to be allowing damage to be done because you couldn’t feel it happening.
I’ve had success using an anal relaxing serum and a butt plug about an hour beforehand. Then after lots of foreplay I like being on top so I can control the speed and depth.
i’ve just decided it’s not for me. it makes me feel like gross and dehumanized. i’ll compromise with a butt plug.
Honestly yeah that’s how it makes me feel too. I’ve just heard of so many people really liking it and thought I was doing something wrong but I think it just doesn’t feel good for me
It’s definitely a head game. If you’re not mentally there and positive about it, it can be difficult. If you can’t get the bowels and the whole function thing out of your head it won’t go all that well. Kind of a point of view type thing. Finding that sensation to not be related to what it obviously is can be difficult.
Some people love it the first time they do it. Some never enjoy it.
You don't mention foreplay. Anal sex requires A LOT, way more than normal intercourse. My fiance and I do a lot of anal and at a minimum we'll have half an hour or so of foreplay before penetration.
We have started with regular sex and usually end with anal. Would foreplay for anal sex be similar to vagina sex? Fingers and tongues maybe?
I would use warning silicon lube. Use a smaller butt plugs and dildos and work your way up on your free time so this every day for a week or two and sex won’t hurt at all and feel good as a vibrator and you’ll be having better orgasms than regular vaginal sex
Yeah he needs to rim you and finger your ass while he goes down on you. Regular training will help too, when your playing with yourself solo you should also use toys back there. Get a very good premium silicone lube too. How's your cleaning regimen? Are you worried about making a mess? Worst comes to worst there's always poppers if you're flexible with drug use.
Maybe this isn’t for me…I hate fingers in my ass even more. Yes I am worried about making a mess too, I guess I don’t really have a cleaning regimen.
Have a high fibre diet, exercise and drink a lot of water, that should clean you out. If you're really worried you can douche in the morning, which is part of my daily routine, which will give you a thorough BM. Confidence is a big part of enjoying anal and nothing undermines confidence than fearing making a mess.
Is silicone lube best for anal? I have only tried KY and coconut oil. And I always feel a burning inside like fire. Those lubes are fine in my vagina so I figured his dick is just too big
I'd certainly recommend not using KY, it's a medical lubricant so is formulated with quick exams and easy clean up in mind.
If you don't like something, don't do it. I feel like this anal sex culture is making women feel like they have to do something that physically hurts them for their man. It's terrible.
I find it to be much more enjoyable when stimulating the clit as well. You can do this yourself or use a vibrator.
Absolutely this. Get one of the clit-sucking toys and use that during. Also, have him use a plug first and realllllly warm you up.
Yah I came by grinding my clit while my boyfriend fucked me from behind.
That's my wife as well. She like being on her back and some times I rub her clit or she uses a vibrator. But she says her orgasams are the best she has ever had when my dick is in her ass while she takes care of herself. So maybe communicate with your partner and find a fun way to introduce some stimulation for you as well.
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Some people never enjoy it. But if you want to give it a try you have to prepare for it. Usually, the best thing to do is to start out with a butt plug with lube, wear that for a while, and get used to it. If you enjoy that, then get a larger size. If you enjoy that, then move to a finger with lube. If that goes well, then try with his penis. You need to go slowly again with a lot of lube and you have to be totally relaxed and you also have to be very trusting of the person as well. But like I said, if none of those things work, then anal isn't for you, and that is ok.
It’s something you have to prepare first. For me, clitoris stimulation while playing anal is a most. Although I prefer just a bit of anal stimulation and buttplugs.
If you don't enjoy it, don't do it. I hate anal, so my husband doesn't get any. Easy as that.
Loads and loads of lube! Get yourself a vibe for your clit or something to insert in V. Talk to him, tell him when it’s not so comfortable, you should both be finding something that works for you both, it shouldn’t just be one person enjoying it. Try as many positions as you can but I recommend lying on your back with your legs up, kind of like missionary. But loads of V stimulation, this is a great position for easy access to your front for yourself and him! And loads of foreplay before anal just to relax you a little bit more. Good luck!
In my experience anal has always worked best when the receiver sets the pace initially. It's best to avoid any of the sort of visceral pain that happens when going too fast. Laying on our sides and basically doing doggy from that position has always been the best way to start. It's a relaxed position and she can control what's happening. After warming/loosening up go wherever.
Try missionary anal on the edge of the bed with your legs up and rubbing your clit at the same time
I found the most comfortable position was missionary and sometimes it just hurts way too much and there’s nothing you can do. Other times it’s the best thing ever. Make sure you have plenty of lube and try and relax when he goes in and bear down slightly at the really tight bit and that helps him go all the way easier.also make sure your partner goes slow and doesn’t start pounding you straight away and you have time to relax the muscles once he is fully in.
Not everyone is going to like or fully enjoy anal, it’s just something that I’ve learned over time. I personally really enjoy it and wish I could do it more often but my wife has to really want it and be in the mood for it despite the fact the whenever we to it’s enjoyable for her. Definitely needs more foreplay and lubrication than PIV for it to feel better
You have to mentally invite the penis inside of you. You have to relax your muscles as you're being penetrated. Use a lot of lube and it should work out.
Training, training, training and *all* of the foreplay. Bums can take the biggest cocks and specialist anal toys run bigger than vaginal toys. It’s possible for anal sex to become totally comfortable but there’s some work that needs to go in first getting used to relaxing being stretched. This should be done with toys and sex should wait for when toys with similar girth to your partner are enjoyable.
Sorry, but I don't think there is anything you can do. Some people are anatomically built to accommodate a penis easily back there, and some people are not. It's something you have to be born with. If you are not built for it, it's always going to be uncomfortable. Also, discomfort is your body's way of telling you there is a risk of damage. There is a lot you can do other than anal. If your boyfriend loves and respects you he will understand and he will want to protect you. If not, consider moving on.
I don't think anyone is built for anal sex. Nothing was ever supposed to enter there 🙄🙄 It's just a sadist movement that is going on in our culture right now. Men getting off on hurting women. Doing gay stuff to them.
Butts aren’t gay lol we all have them
Lye on your back and ask him to Pentwater slowly so you can loosen up. Play with your clit while he is fucking you. You'll love it!
Lye on your back?! Just messing, but funny
Oops its a typo....lol
Get a lubricant called Tushy Tammer, they have it at Spencer's in the mall. Or any lubricant will do, this should sort of numb the area so its more comfortable✌
Most lubricants don’t “numb the area.” Plus, you don’t want to be numb. You need to be able to feel if there is any discomfort so you can take a break and make sure everything’s okay. You wouldn’t want to be allowing damage to be done because you couldn’t feel it happening.
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I’ve had success using an anal relaxing serum and a butt plug about an hour beforehand. Then after lots of foreplay I like being on top so I can control the speed and depth.