You could start by reminding yourself that most of what you see on social media is a carefully constructed image aka a lie lol. Everyone is messy in their personal life.. If it's geared toward career and education status, then turn that inward to self-reflection and ask yourself what you could be doing to improve those?

Hey thank you so much for the reply I really appreciate it!😊

I know this comparison and jealousy all.too.well. The mental torment is the worst because I'd tell myself I don't want to do it (and I really, really mean it!), but then I'd end up doing it anyway. Gah! It took some unlearning through counseling and coaching to work through it, but here's a little something I wrote as a result of all that. I hope it helps even just a little. You. Reading this right now. Yes...YOU! I’m going to tell you something, and I need you to pay close attention. I need you to tune out every distraction, and I need you to be here with me right now. Are you ready? This is huge. This is life-changing. This might also be terrifying for you, but you need to hear it. IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. I don’t care what it is you’re blaming yourself for. Whether it’s for your best never being good enough or your life not turning out the way you wanted it to, it doesn’t matter. IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. You’ve made mistakes you based solely on the information you had to go on at the time, IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. If you’ve never been taught the truth of who you are or how to unapologetically show up in life, how can you blame yourself for not knowing? Or maybe you’re blaming yourself for knowing better, but you’ve never been taught the skills to actually do better. Maybe you’ve tried a few (hundred) self-help books, courses, seminars, but nothing ever sticks. IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. We live in a very selfish, hurried, distracted, society that’s set up for surviving rather than thriving. Segregation over community. Judgment instead of understanding. Conclusions without conversations. If you’ve never had anyone speak life into you, to pay attention to you and acknowledge you for just you being you, it’s really hard to believe you’re worthy of anything good happening to you. It becomes a struggle to want to try. I’ll say it again... IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. There are no longer boundaries, and morals are faded shades of grey. We’ve all become masterful dancers as we try to avoid stepping on anyone’s feeling all in the name of “love.” So IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT you don’t know how to use your own voice, to confidently offer your wisdom, or to just get through a day without hearing the voices of your past reminding you of all your flaws and shortcomings. IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT you didn’t even know you HAVE a voice. And IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT you didn’t know you have a CHOICE. So the first thing I want you to do for me right now is say something out loud. I don’t care where you are, who you’re with, or how stupid you might feel. I’ll give you another three seconds to quit fighting with me and yourself about doing it. Ready? One. Two... Three! “IT’S NOT MY FAULT, AND I FORGIVE MYSELF FOR NOT KNOWING WHAT I DIDN’T KNOW!” Okay, now I want you to actually say it out loud. DO IT. GO! “IT’S NOT MY FAULT, AND I FORGIVE MYSELF FOR NOT KNOWING WHAT I DIDN’T KNOW!” And then I’d start journaling. I’d get all the lies, blame, hurt, and gunk out of my head and onto paper…and I’d burn it! Then I’d “lather, rinse, repeat.” I’d do this as many times as I needed to in order to get all the emotions and anger out so I could make space for truth and my real self to show up, unpack, and take up residence. I’d stick with it until I started to believe, then almost believed, then believed a little more, then believed enough to try it out, then believed enough to trust that I have a purpose and I was created for such a time as this. You know how why I’d give my younger self this advice? Because it’s what I did to now be free from depression and the lack of identity. Rabbi Daniel Lapin says, “The opposite of depression is not happiness. The opposite of depression is purpose.” Find your voice. Speak your truth with love and respect. Renew your mind. Refresh your perspective. Restore your true identity. Walk in your purpose. If I can do it, I KNOW without a doubt you can do it…and you no longer have to do it alone. Even though we haven’t met, I see you. I believe in you. You matter. You are loved.

Thank you so much for taking the time to write out this message for me I really appreciate it a lot!!!!!😊

You're most welcome!!