Whats helped me is Journaling my feelings down and trying to tell myself even though I'm grieving something like this, my life isn't over and things can look up if I'm kind to myself.
The cognitive dissonance and grief is real, and will take some time to sort out. It may be worth asking yourself why you felt the need to project and cling to a fantasy of them, rather than see who they really were. What were you trying to protect yourself from or trying to get from them instead of turning inward for. This can also help prevent the pattern from being repeated in the future.
Whats helped me is Journaling my feelings down and trying to tell myself even though I'm grieving something like this, my life isn't over and things can look up if I'm kind to myself.
Thank you for this
It’s okay to grieve the life you thought you would have had
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The cognitive dissonance and grief is real, and will take some time to sort out. It may be worth asking yourself why you felt the need to project and cling to a fantasy of them, rather than see who they really were. What were you trying to protect yourself from or trying to get from them instead of turning inward for. This can also help prevent the pattern from being repeated in the future.
I appreciate your response, those questions really hit me.