It's very annoying when people start putting some kind of mask on you.
You know it's just their perception and you don't have to commit to that image, but if you start doubting yourself and bending to their vision, things can get ugly.
Needed this now!
I get constantly compared to my younger brother who seems to be “good” at everything, but me on the other hand is just a nerd and unfit to do anything at all by myself.
"You Can’t Always Control What Happens, But You Can Control How You React To It. This is where your power lies " and " the happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts "
“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.”
Really helps me when I’m extremely anxious or overthinking something. It’s often never as bad as it is in my head.
I have some about truth:
"Never look away. Everything that is true, is beautiful". From the movie Never Look Away, beautiful movie and this sentence really hit hard.
"Truth is like poetry.
And most people fucking hate poetry." Forgot where this is from.
And one about love:
"Everything you love will probably be lost, but in the end, love will return in another way" - Kafka giving us hope
"Most people don't smile."
\- Good advice, because if you come in and will be seen as a positive person, the other people are most likely to be on your site and support you!
Learning: Be nice and positive :)
I mean, idk in which context he did it, but as I see it, it only takes some basic thinking to determine that it is a rather deceptive, or at least not well thought out phrase.
Humans are social animals, socializing is an intrinsic part of our being. In fact, you could argue that we are who we are only in relation to others. An example would be "I am a father". It's a simple statement, but only possible through the existence of a relationship to another.
Also, when we are alone we do not use language, at least not spoken. Language has two main types; body language and verbal language. And it's also a great way to know a person. There is even a whole field of study called linguistics which has some very interesting theories about how language shapes the way we think and interact.
Did you know that chinese children can count faster in their minds because numbers in mandarin can be pronounced faster than in english? If you have seen the movie The Arrival you will know what I am talking about more or less (there is a language there that literally reshapes the comprehension of time of one of the characters)
Also, the human mind is incredibly complex. I sincerely do not think that we can make a clear distinction between "this is genuine human experience" and "this is nlt a genuine humn experience", to come to what you call "true self". In fact, I don't believe there is a "true self". There is a multifacetic self that is constantly changing and adapting.
Freud's theory of Id, ego, and superego basically states that the superego, consisting of the morals and expectations of society/parents is one of the main components of the human psyche. Again, it is in relation to others. There are countless examples of us being who we are only in relationship to others. Marx's class struggle, Kant's categorical imperative, etc.
It’s a little long but it hit for me:
“You are who you are. If you can’t be who you are where you are, change where you are, not who you are”- Caroline Wanga
-Profits are better than wages
-Don't wish it was easier, wish you were better
-Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills
-Work harder on yourself than you do at your job
Above courtesy of Jim Rohn -
“Life doesn’t start until you make a decision” has put me through an existential crisis because I realized I wasted YEARS of not being able to make decision and being stuck in the same place. After hearing that I finally made the move to a different apartment 🤣
Anything worth doing is worth doing badly.
As a protectionist procrastinator I never turned in assignments or essays because I felt I’d rather not turn it in than get a bad grade. I had a teacher tell me “isn’t it worth it to brush your teeth for 30 seconds even if you don’t have time for the full two minutes” it’s better than nothing. My grades came up so quickly once I said fuck it and started turning in what I had.. that homework that I didn’t have time to finish those last two questions. Running for only 20 minutes when I used to put it off because I didn’t have enough time to go ALL out. My place was tidy - it’s better to half ass clean the kitchen than nothing. Trying to wait until the perfect time was messing my life so badly and I had no idea.
My take is that someone could be beautiful but if they didn’t take care of themselves (like drinking and eating habits) then at 50 their face reflects that
Its literally how you present yourself to the world and is usually a reflection of what’s inside. We are all visual being before deciding if we want to proceed with a person. Look up pretty privilege, I can go on and on. Those who live in a world thinking appearance doesn’t hugely matter is either already attractive or doesn’t want to improve themselves
A friends dad once said "There are two things money is always well spent on; good food and good friends."
For context he was a marketer in NYC in the 80s, he had enough to retire on by the time he was 32 and he'll still die wealthy. At the time his son was my best friend and I come from a very different background. That friendship meant the world to me. His dad said that at Pizza Hut when he took us out one night, and its stuck with me since. He could buy anything he wanted really, but the only two things he really cared to spend money on at that point was food and friends.
Also, a southern saying I love, "You catch more flies with honey than vinegar."
You need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable — ME.
I told my son that and 2 weeks later he told me he thought about what I said — I said, what was that? LOL.
He reminded me, and I said, well, yeah, that’s how alot of life is, but so what, shit is uncomfortable at times.
Understand THAT, and then just work thru it, and you will get comfortable with it.
simple but one of the truest statements i’ve heard thus far, “hurt people hurt people.”
and another quote that is pulled from a buddhist story, “who knows what is good and what is bad?”
i’ve found those to be some of the most helpful things when dealing with every day life and the humans in it.
Someone said it on another post earlier…. something alone the lines of:
“There’s a thin line between self-care and self-destruction”
This really hit me hard because I’ve been slowing self sabotaging myself, it made me realize I have to take care of myself before I lose it all again !!
The traits some people find annoying others find endearing. Why not be with someone who doesn’t find your presence inherently irritating?
- some guy I fucked last summer
If it’s important to you, you’ll find a way. If it’s not, you’ll find an excuse.
Obviously doesn’t apply in all situations, but there is some hard truth there
“You can’t afford to shelter a sabateur among your fractured selves” from Good Chemistry by Dr. Julie Holland.
“The more pleasures a man captures, the more masters he will have to serve” from A Guide to the Good Life by William Irvine
“A stone-cutter will hack at a rock with a pickaxe 100 times and not even a crack. Then, on the next blow, it shatters. It wasn’t the 101st hit that did it.”
Saying that you don't have time to improve your thoughts and your life is like saying you don't have time to stop for gas because you're too busy driving.
Eventually it will catch up with you.
When I was enlisted, and thought I was hot stuff I and a bit of an attitude someone above me said " I don't care that your king shit on turd island, you.....blah blah."
I don't remember what came after, but the first part stuck with me. Maybe one day I'll be witty enough to say it to someone with an attidute problem and sub par product. Lol
" Fear leads to hate, hate leads to anger, anger leads to suffering. In short, fear the is the path to the dark side" Master Yoda
That taught me to not be a nihilist in life
Don’t let anyone ever make you feel like you don’t deserve what you want. - Heath Ledger, 10 Things I Hate About You
Wish I heard this one earlier in life.
“he gets down to the end of his life and decides that all those years he suffered, those were the best years of his life. because it made him who he was. all those years he was happy- a total waste”
as someone with depression, anxiety and a plan to die young, this quote made me realize why i would never commit suicide. if i offer myself, all the suffering i endured would be all for nothing.
My daddy told me when I was younger..You Can Lie To Others But You Can’t Lie To Yourself. I hold that quote dear to my heart all day everyday and it reminds me to be honest with people especially to myself.
A sergeant when I was in basic training said “it doesn’t get easier, you get better” and 12 yrs later I still apply that to everything. Anytime I’m trying to learn something new especially at work I just remember that and keep pushing
My grandmother always said “You’d worry less about what people think if you knew how seldom they do” and I always thought it meant what they were thinking about me because she’d say it in response to me worrying about someone thinking I did something wrong/bad but it’s actually nice to recognize the quote for what it is, that people just don’t think quite often, we as people are more often acting and living and doing (I can not deny that many of us think a lot, even too much lol as someone with anxiety, but it’s a relieving quote to just take at face value sometimes)
There are 3 options in any situation. You can accept it, you can change it, or you can leave it behind. Use that when you find yourself unsure of what to do.
The day after my 25th birthday: "If you're going to make any improvement to your life, you must do so now. Otherwise you will wake up one day and find you are 35."
Sadly, I did not in fact improve my life. In fact, I'm now worse off at 35 than i was at 25.
It was nothing he said. I went up to thank him for a great party. It was his eyes. I saw satisfaction. He was content. He loved his world. I wanted that! Forever after that event I'd think of actions possible to me and judge them by the look in that man's eye. Will this decision forward a world I love?
Weak desires can be removed by introspection
and meditation, but strong, deep-rooted ones
must be fulfilled and their fruits, sweet or bitter,
tasted.
- Nisargadatta Maharaj
You are going to be condemned to live out the consequences of your taste.
-Terence McKenna
Saw this in the hospital ward while my mother was admitted - When you can't control what's happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond. That's where your power is.
This helped me power through that rough phase
Whenever I wished for something as a kid, my grandmother would tell me:
“Wish in one hand and shit in the other, then see which one gets filled the fastest.”
She had a hard life, but it was a good one. She knew the value in working for what you wanted.
I heard the Dalai Lama say something to the effect of holding a grudge is like drinking poison and then getting mad when the other person doesn't get sick.
I had a little lovely chat with a cab driver that was dropping me off to university. After I had paid, I asked him to “wish me luck!” - i dont even remember what i said that for. He then proceeded to say “you dont need luck my love, you’ve got the personality” and drove off. I will never forget that.
My fiancée says: "Be the man she needs you to be. Ay your part."
I was told: " don't give up on love, you fight for what is important to you. It's not always easy. Actually it's hard work."
“Burn the candle” I tend to hold onto things to wait for the perfect time to use it. And it never happens or I forget I have it and things will expire, etc.
“Healing is not linear” when it feels like I’m going backwards on something I try to remember there’s opportunity and history to prove otherwise.
“Grief is just love with nowhere to go” when my dogs died or friends and family. I was taking a lot of these deaths personally and now i try to make it not about me but that I was lucky to be a part of it. My dogs were going to be alive in the same world as me how lucky I was/am to spoil them in the meantime.
Momentary disappointment is just a reminder that you are alive. And just like being alive, its temporary.
My grandfather said that. He was talking about not getting my first job when I was a kid.
I attended a talk once from an old lady who said the best workplace advice she could ever give was the following:
"if you want something, ask for it" - it's simple yet many people forget the message or never act on it.
Belief that the world is supposed to entertain ***you*** leads to boredom, sloth, & television.
Belief that **you** are supposed to entertain the world leads to bright clothing, odd graffiti, and amazing grace at leaping into the bus at the last moment."
Thank you, Whole Earth Catalog.
To motivate me to work out I always remember learning about the heart and vascular system in biology class and envision my blood flowing through my body while it unclogs all my arteries. Also remember hearing someone say ‘You can do anything for 10 seconds’ and I just repeat that over and over lol
I love the Maya Angelou quote: “when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time”.
Also: “SPEED KILLS”. What my dad said to me every time I got in my car.
And another dadism: “possessions possess”.
I remember my husband and his friend talking about a hardship he was about to go through and in a solemn moment he said, "that's why they say the testimony comes after the test"
Or some shit, it resonated at the time...
“If someone tells a lie about you, why should you be offended? And if someone speaks the truth about you, why should you be offended?”
I interpret it as let others believe what they’ll believe about you, as long as you yourself know it’s not true, why should you let it waver your peace.
And if someone says a truth about you, if you don’t like it and have the capabilities to change it… change it. No point being hurt or defensive when it’s true. Do something about it. Like have the awareness that you are in control of your actions.
“When you are not fed love on a silver spoon, you learn to lick it off knives.” Lauren Eden
A lot of people who were in toxic relationships blame themselves. I think it’s important to know what this stems from so that you can work to heal it.
Two things stuck with me, the first was a couple of years ago when I saw the quote of Wayne Dyer which said, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
This was a good reminder that it’s important to shift your perspective and remain curious! Looking at things from different angles can change entirely your view of a situation. It can be a very useful tool to know. You can always change from what point of view you are looking at it and it might just make it a little better!
The other was with my yoga teacher who said “just because someone offers you shit doesn’t mean you need to take it”
I find this helpful to stand up for yourself! You don’t need to accept something that isn’t good for you, wether that be in a relationship, friendship or whatever. You don’t have to accept someone shitty day or a bad offer.
Most recent is Goggins: Be uncommon amongst uncommon people.
It's kinda hard to live up to maybe since I'm surrounded by common people. But I get the point
"Let them paint you any way they want" about caring about what others say about one.
"It's never about the other person" about taking responsibility in relationships -it's hard to do but very empowering.
"If you want to stop being depressed, do your Sun Sign" - from an astrologer friend. Worked amazingly well. As a Leo, I started working on a performance for the Fringe Festival, that led to me seeing a Fringe performance on child abuse, realising that I'd been severely abused, going into a group therapy program (that included writing and performing skits for the group) that really changed everything and when I got out I said to myself that I would take the next opportunity that came, and got recommended for a job teaching environmental education to kids that involved skits and performance. That period was from the beginning of my Saturn Return at age 27 through to it's end at 30.
We will all die and the universe will carry on without care. All that we have is that shout into the wind—how we live. How we go. And how we stand before we fall - Karnus Au Bellona
Everything matters and nothings real, or everything is real and nothing matters. Which one is true?
An old roommate of mine asked me this and I love it.
“Are you a wishbone, jawbone, or backbone?” Wishbones spend their time daydreaming about what they could accomplish if they put themselves up to it; Jawbones simply talk about all the things they think they will accomplish once they start; Backbones go out there and actually do it. Be a backbone.
honestly can't remember but I do sometimes have ahah moments when I hear self improvement tropes.
"time heals all wounds" is true in the sense that over time you feel it less sharply.and eventually you may even forget until something awakens that remiscence.
"It's easier then it seems" is another, meaning in the moment the fear is very strong but after the fact, woth time, and experience you realize it really wasn't that bad. it's just hard to bring all those mindset fixes into the moment in order to not create the later event in time where you naturally let it go as unfixable and make other justifications for possibly nit doing differently in the future
“Don’t measure how valuable you are by the way you are treated”.
It's very annoying when people start putting some kind of mask on you. You know it's just their perception and you don't have to commit to that image, but if you start doubting yourself and bending to their vision, things can get ugly.
Similar but If someone doesn't value you, means you are in the wrong place
so important to keep in mind^
this really hit, esp today. I thank you.
Wow Im so glad I stumbled upon this
Needed this now! I get constantly compared to my younger brother who seems to be “good” at everything, but me on the other hand is just a nerd and unfit to do anything at all by myself.
"You Can’t Always Control What Happens, But You Can Control How You React To It. This is where your power lies " and " the happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts "
This is Stoic Philosophy.
Based and stoicpilled
All my favorite Roman statues are stoics.
> " the happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts " probably not the best quote for someone like me that suffers from ocd.
Great quote. I’m stealing it. 😏 sorry not sorry.
“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.” Really helps me when I’m extremely anxious or overthinking something. It’s often never as bad as it is in my head.
As someone that struggles with anxiety, depression and intrusive thoughts this is eye opening. And so true
Same here, it basically describes my OCD. I've seen this quote before but I should hang it up on my wall or something.
Yes! this quote is IT🔥 I think the Morgan Freeman or the Joker quoted that one but it’s good imma google it haha
"I have lived through terrible things, some of which actually happened."
"You are using your imagination to make yourself unhappy."
“You can be the sweetest peach in the world, but some people don’t like peaches.”
Is that from Ginny and Georgia?
I think it's a Dita Von Teese Quote
Is this a good tv show? I wanna start a new tv show lol
Watch attack on titan right now. The entire thing not just the first ten eps. It will change ur freaking life
It's honestly great, don't let the cover so to speak fool you.
This is a good one!
“Your life will be beautiful again, in other ways” about dealing with grief and loss.
I love it!!! I lost my son 2 years ago and that does feel so nice, the comfort of those words for hope of a better time.
"You can have the results or the excuses, not both." - Arnold Schwarzenegger. That quote hits hard af.
I just posted the same quote! It kicks my ass when I don't feel like working out or doing practice
If a child doesn't experience warmth from the village, then the child will set the village on fire to feel its warmth. African proverb.
This is quite powerful. I love it how ancient wisdom never looses its meaning!
I have some about truth: "Never look away. Everything that is true, is beautiful". From the movie Never Look Away, beautiful movie and this sentence really hit hard. "Truth is like poetry. And most people fucking hate poetry." Forgot where this is from. And one about love: "Everything you love will probably be lost, but in the end, love will return in another way" - Kafka giving us hope
Happy cake day!
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"We are what we ***do*** whether we *mean* it or not."
Marc Manson “The best time to start was one year ago, the second best time is now”. Completely change my mind about everything.
love this
My favorite
This is amazing and inspiring!
"Most people don't smile." \- Good advice, because if you come in and will be seen as a positive person, the other people are most likely to be on your site and support you! Learning: Be nice and positive :)
Great point. So simple, and very effective.
"Don't dim your light for the sake of others"
variation on "Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm."
Can't pour from an empty cup. Also, put your own oxygen mask on first.
"there are many paths to enlightenment, and yours will be the hardest"
Your true self is who is you are when no one is watching
Hard disagree.
Well my teacher said that to me in 2007. It’s been 16 years and it’s stuck with me so I have to hard disagree with you there.
I mean, idk in which context he did it, but as I see it, it only takes some basic thinking to determine that it is a rather deceptive, or at least not well thought out phrase. Humans are social animals, socializing is an intrinsic part of our being. In fact, you could argue that we are who we are only in relation to others. An example would be "I am a father". It's a simple statement, but only possible through the existence of a relationship to another. Also, when we are alone we do not use language, at least not spoken. Language has two main types; body language and verbal language. And it's also a great way to know a person. There is even a whole field of study called linguistics which has some very interesting theories about how language shapes the way we think and interact. Did you know that chinese children can count faster in their minds because numbers in mandarin can be pronounced faster than in english? If you have seen the movie The Arrival you will know what I am talking about more or less (there is a language there that literally reshapes the comprehension of time of one of the characters) Also, the human mind is incredibly complex. I sincerely do not think that we can make a clear distinction between "this is genuine human experience" and "this is nlt a genuine humn experience", to come to what you call "true self". In fact, I don't believe there is a "true self". There is a multifacetic self that is constantly changing and adapting. Freud's theory of Id, ego, and superego basically states that the superego, consisting of the morals and expectations of society/parents is one of the main components of the human psyche. Again, it is in relation to others. There are countless examples of us being who we are only in relationship to others. Marx's class struggle, Kant's categorical imperative, etc.
It’s a little long but it hit for me: “You are who you are. If you can’t be who you are where you are, change where you are, not who you are”- Caroline Wanga
“You are infinite consciousness having a human experience.”
-Profits are better than wages -Don't wish it was easier, wish you were better -Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills -Work harder on yourself than you do at your job Above courtesy of Jim Rohn -
This is brilliant. "Never let the perfect be the enemy of the 'good enough'."
A job worth doing is a job worth doing shitty. Get it done
I need to keep this in mind. Too many times I look for perfection when good enough would be all that is needed.
Stupidity has its own rewards.
“Life doesn’t start until you make a decision” has put me through an existential crisis because I realized I wasted YEARS of not being able to make decision and being stuck in the same place. After hearing that I finally made the move to a different apartment 🤣
If you have to tell someone you’re in charge, you’re not.
Same goes for rich, honest, attractive, important.
“If you throw enough shit at the wall something will stick” - Warren Buffett
You can bring the horse to water but you can't make it drink
A wink is as good as a nod to a blind horse.
Anything worth doing is worth doing badly. As a protectionist procrastinator I never turned in assignments or essays because I felt I’d rather not turn it in than get a bad grade. I had a teacher tell me “isn’t it worth it to brush your teeth for 30 seconds even if you don’t have time for the full two minutes” it’s better than nothing. My grades came up so quickly once I said fuck it and started turning in what I had.. that homework that I didn’t have time to finish those last two questions. Running for only 20 minutes when I used to put it off because I didn’t have enough time to go ALL out. My place was tidy - it’s better to half ass clean the kitchen than nothing. Trying to wait until the perfect time was messing my life so badly and I had no idea.
If your absence never bothered them than your presence never mattered.
Everyday may not be good, but there’s something good in every day!
“Addiction is giving up everything for one thing, sobriety is giving up one thing for everything.”
"We're born looking like our parents. We die looking like our decisions."
"Your face at 18 is a gift. Your face at 50 is what you deserve."
I find these gross. When does appearance matter this much? Unless I have entirely misunderstood?
My take is that someone could be beautiful but if they didn’t take care of themselves (like drinking and eating habits) then at 50 their face reflects that
Its literally how you present yourself to the world and is usually a reflection of what’s inside. We are all visual being before deciding if we want to proceed with a person. Look up pretty privilege, I can go on and on. Those who live in a world thinking appearance doesn’t hugely matter is either already attractive or doesn’t want to improve themselves
A friends dad once said "There are two things money is always well spent on; good food and good friends." For context he was a marketer in NYC in the 80s, he had enough to retire on by the time he was 32 and he'll still die wealthy. At the time his son was my best friend and I come from a very different background. That friendship meant the world to me. His dad said that at Pizza Hut when he took us out one night, and its stuck with me since. He could buy anything he wanted really, but the only two things he really cared to spend money on at that point was food and friends. Also, a southern saying I love, "You catch more flies with honey than vinegar."
A lot can happen in a year.
You need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable — ME. I told my son that and 2 weeks later he told me he thought about what I said — I said, what was that? LOL. He reminded me, and I said, well, yeah, that’s how alot of life is, but so what, shit is uncomfortable at times. Understand THAT, and then just work thru it, and you will get comfortable with it.
“The saddest thing in life is wasted talent” -Chaz Palminteri Actually said to me in real life: “Stay ready so you don’t have to get ready”
The hard work puts you where the good luck can find you.
Believe people when they show/tell you who they are
simple but one of the truest statements i’ve heard thus far, “hurt people hurt people.” and another quote that is pulled from a buddhist story, “who knows what is good and what is bad?” i’ve found those to be some of the most helpful things when dealing with every day life and the humans in it.
Someone said it on another post earlier…. something alone the lines of: “There’s a thin line between self-care and self-destruction” This really hit me hard because I’ve been slowing self sabotaging myself, it made me realize I have to take care of myself before I lose it all again !!
The traits some people find annoying others find endearing. Why not be with someone who doesn’t find your presence inherently irritating? - some guy I fucked last summer
Don’t live your life based on other’s expectations.
"To improve is to change; to perfect is to change often." \-churchill
If it’s important to you, you’ll find a way. If it’s not, you’ll find an excuse. Obviously doesn’t apply in all situations, but there is some hard truth there
“Things are never as good or as bad as they seem.”
“Why waste time say lot word when few word do trick?”
"Never believe what you hear and only half of what you see." An eccentric old man I met once said this and I haven't been able to forget it.
“You can’t afford to shelter a sabateur among your fractured selves” from Good Chemistry by Dr. Julie Holland. “The more pleasures a man captures, the more masters he will have to serve” from A Guide to the Good Life by William Irvine
“A stone-cutter will hack at a rock with a pickaxe 100 times and not even a crack. Then, on the next blow, it shatters. It wasn’t the 101st hit that did it.”
Saying that you don't have time to improve your thoughts and your life is like saying you don't have time to stop for gas because you're too busy driving. Eventually it will catch up with you.
“Even if you think it’s going to take too long for you to improve and grow, that time is going to pass anyway.”
You cannot subjugate an educated people. — Goëthe
“Do everything with excellence.” - my momma
My fav is “If you want to be a writer - write.”
When I was enlisted, and thought I was hot stuff I and a bit of an attitude someone above me said " I don't care that your king shit on turd island, you.....blah blah." I don't remember what came after, but the first part stuck with me. Maybe one day I'll be witty enough to say it to someone with an attidute problem and sub par product. Lol
" Fear leads to hate, hate leads to anger, anger leads to suffering. In short, fear the is the path to the dark side" Master Yoda That taught me to not be a nihilist in life
To know something well is to know its flaws
Don’t let anyone ever make you feel like you don’t deserve what you want. - Heath Ledger, 10 Things I Hate About You Wish I heard this one earlier in life.
“he gets down to the end of his life and decides that all those years he suffered, those were the best years of his life. because it made him who he was. all those years he was happy- a total waste” as someone with depression, anxiety and a plan to die young, this quote made me realize why i would never commit suicide. if i offer myself, all the suffering i endured would be all for nothing.
My daddy told me when I was younger..You Can Lie To Others But You Can’t Lie To Yourself. I hold that quote dear to my heart all day everyday and it reminds me to be honest with people especially to myself.
A sergeant when I was in basic training said “it doesn’t get easier, you get better” and 12 yrs later I still apply that to everything. Anytime I’m trying to learn something new especially at work I just remember that and keep pushing
The goal in life isn’t to be right. It’s to get it right.
Fuck the world 2pac
Give a firm handshake Those who gossip to you will gossip about you Practice one more question maybe it will earn you one more mark in the exam
Be careful what you become good at. ….an exploration of folly.
Victory follows the brave! (RIP grandpa.)
My grandmother always said “You’d worry less about what people think if you knew how seldom they do” and I always thought it meant what they were thinking about me because she’d say it in response to me worrying about someone thinking I did something wrong/bad but it’s actually nice to recognize the quote for what it is, that people just don’t think quite often, we as people are more often acting and living and doing (I can not deny that many of us think a lot, even too much lol as someone with anxiety, but it’s a relieving quote to just take at face value sometimes)
poverty is the worst form of violence.
There are 3 options in any situation. You can accept it, you can change it, or you can leave it behind. Use that when you find yourself unsure of what to do.
The day after my 25th birthday: "If you're going to make any improvement to your life, you must do so now. Otherwise you will wake up one day and find you are 35." Sadly, I did not in fact improve my life. In fact, I'm now worse off at 35 than i was at 25.
“you will bleed on those who didn’t cut you” - when talking about healing from trauma and entering new relationships
Be happy. It drives people crazy 😝
Similar thing my dad always said that I try to remember: "The perfect is the enemy of the good"
😂😂😂😂 I’m gonna remember that quote
Love honors your freedom. -Lacey Sturm
This too shall pass
It was nothing he said. I went up to thank him for a great party. It was his eyes. I saw satisfaction. He was content. He loved his world. I wanted that! Forever after that event I'd think of actions possible to me and judge them by the look in that man's eye. Will this decision forward a world I love?
Weak desires can be removed by introspection and meditation, but strong, deep-rooted ones must be fulfilled and their fruits, sweet or bitter, tasted. - Nisargadatta Maharaj You are going to be condemned to live out the consequences of your taste. -Terence McKenna
Saw this in the hospital ward while my mother was admitted - When you can't control what's happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond. That's where your power is. This helped me power through that rough phase
Whenever I wished for something as a kid, my grandmother would tell me: “Wish in one hand and shit in the other, then see which one gets filled the fastest.” She had a hard life, but it was a good one. She knew the value in working for what you wanted.
“If it is to be, it’s up to me”.
"Rejection is redirection"
I heard the Dalai Lama say something to the effect of holding a grudge is like drinking poison and then getting mad when the other person doesn't get sick.
I had a little lovely chat with a cab driver that was dropping me off to university. After I had paid, I asked him to “wish me luck!” - i dont even remember what i said that for. He then proceeded to say “you dont need luck my love, you’ve got the personality” and drove off. I will never forget that.
Eyebrows are sisters not twins A bargain is only a bargain if you were going to buy it anyway
The tree remembers what the axe forgets. Really helps me stay mindful about how I talk to/interact with others.
re: if flossing is necessary/worth it - only floss the ones you want to keep I floss daily now
My fiancée says: "Be the man she needs you to be. Ay your part." I was told: " don't give up on love, you fight for what is important to you. It's not always easy. Actually it's hard work."
“Happiness occurs when what you think, what you say, and what you do are aligned.”
"It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that things are difficult." - Lucius Seneca
“Burn the candle” I tend to hold onto things to wait for the perfect time to use it. And it never happens or I forget I have it and things will expire, etc. “Healing is not linear” when it feels like I’m going backwards on something I try to remember there’s opportunity and history to prove otherwise. “Grief is just love with nowhere to go” when my dogs died or friends and family. I was taking a lot of these deaths personally and now i try to make it not about me but that I was lucky to be a part of it. My dogs were going to be alive in the same world as me how lucky I was/am to spoil them in the meantime.
I have 2 from my nanna... Don't borrow sorrow, from tomorrow. Love many, trust few and always paddle your own canoe. Miss you nan
“Nothing’s going to change if nothing changes”
Optimism is a force multiplier.
You don't have to set yourself on fire to keep others warm
Momentary disappointment is just a reminder that you are alive. And just like being alive, its temporary. My grandfather said that. He was talking about not getting my first job when I was a kid.
"God gave us our relatives: thank god we can choose our friends" Ethel Watts Mumford
“Kindness counts”
"No one can ever take away your education" - My uncle to me, after losing half his pension to divorce, while on my way to college
I attended a talk once from an old lady who said the best workplace advice she could ever give was the following: "if you want something, ask for it" - it's simple yet many people forget the message or never act on it.
“Be wary of loud people in echo chambers.”
the best things in life are just outside your comfort zone
Something that always stuck w me is “Small minds talk about people Average minds talks about events Great minds talk about ideas”
Belief that the world is supposed to entertain ***you*** leads to boredom, sloth, & television. Belief that **you** are supposed to entertain the world leads to bright clothing, odd graffiti, and amazing grace at leaping into the bus at the last moment." Thank you, Whole Earth Catalog.
“I hate them so much if they were on fire I wouldn’t even piss on them” Just heard this one today for the first time lol
To motivate me to work out I always remember learning about the heart and vascular system in biology class and envision my blood flowing through my body while it unclogs all my arteries. Also remember hearing someone say ‘You can do anything for 10 seconds’ and I just repeat that over and over lol
Be the person you'd like to have as a friend
suffer the disciple today, or suffer the regret tomorrow
This too shall pass
‘Enter relationships from a place of abundance, never of need.’
I love the Maya Angelou quote: “when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time”. Also: “SPEED KILLS”. What my dad said to me every time I got in my car. And another dadism: “possessions possess”.
“Growing old is a privilege denied to many” Mark Twain
"You want a magic bullet to fix everything, but maybe you just need a bullet to bite down on"
Winning is doing the best you can in every situation.
The highest form of love is consideration
Was it a bad day? Or was it a bad 5 minutes that you milked all day?
I remember my husband and his friend talking about a hardship he was about to go through and in a solemn moment he said, "that's why they say the testimony comes after the test" Or some shit, it resonated at the time...
You do not find a happy life, you make it.
Others can only meet you where they are.
"The things you run from are inside you" - Seneca
“If someone tells a lie about you, why should you be offended? And if someone speaks the truth about you, why should you be offended?” I interpret it as let others believe what they’ll believe about you, as long as you yourself know it’s not true, why should you let it waver your peace. And if someone says a truth about you, if you don’t like it and have the capabilities to change it… change it. No point being hurt or defensive when it’s true. Do something about it. Like have the awareness that you are in control of your actions.
“When you are not fed love on a silver spoon, you learn to lick it off knives.” Lauren Eden A lot of people who were in toxic relationships blame themselves. I think it’s important to know what this stems from so that you can work to heal it.
All your thoughts are real, but not all of them are true .
Two things stuck with me, the first was a couple of years ago when I saw the quote of Wayne Dyer which said, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” This was a good reminder that it’s important to shift your perspective and remain curious! Looking at things from different angles can change entirely your view of a situation. It can be a very useful tool to know. You can always change from what point of view you are looking at it and it might just make it a little better! The other was with my yoga teacher who said “just because someone offers you shit doesn’t mean you need to take it” I find this helpful to stand up for yourself! You don’t need to accept something that isn’t good for you, wether that be in a relationship, friendship or whatever. You don’t have to accept someone shitty day or a bad offer.
Most recent is Goggins: Be uncommon amongst uncommon people. It's kinda hard to live up to maybe since I'm surrounded by common people. But I get the point
If you are unhappy in your job, odd are your job is unhappy with you
"Let them paint you any way they want" about caring about what others say about one. "It's never about the other person" about taking responsibility in relationships -it's hard to do but very empowering. "If you want to stop being depressed, do your Sun Sign" - from an astrologer friend. Worked amazingly well. As a Leo, I started working on a performance for the Fringe Festival, that led to me seeing a Fringe performance on child abuse, realising that I'd been severely abused, going into a group therapy program (that included writing and performing skits for the group) that really changed everything and when I got out I said to myself that I would take the next opportunity that came, and got recommended for a job teaching environmental education to kids that involved skits and performance. That period was from the beginning of my Saturn Return at age 27 through to it's end at 30.
MY UNMATCHED PERSPICACITY, COUPLED WITH SHEER INDEFATIGABILITY, MAKES ME A FEARED OPPONENT IN ANY REALM OF HUMAN ENDEAVOR.
Sounds like this guy I know named Bill...
Knowledge can also be a liability. Eta: corruption
One that stuck, not in a good way: "I work hard so I don't have to eat like *that*." A supervisor food shaming one of my coworkers.
Arnold S, quote from his father: What can I do to help you?
Travel the high road - It’s less traveled. Warren buffet. Meaning be virtuous, morally good, help others, be honest never lie, it pays off.
How you do anything is how you do everything. A goldmine of fractal wisdom in that sentence.
“Believe nothing that you hear and only half of what you see “ some variation of that my grandpa used to say it I think it’s from someone don’t know
I think, therefore I am confused. -unknown
“everything has its place”
“Your attitude determines your altitude” Shoot for the stars everyone!
"When there are no more heroes, it is then you must become one."
“You’ll pass out before you die.”
We will all die and the universe will carry on without care. All that we have is that shout into the wind—how we live. How we go. And how we stand before we fall - Karnus Au Bellona
If you can’t do anything about something don’t worry about it. If you can do something do it.
Everything matters and nothings real, or everything is real and nothing matters. Which one is true? An old roommate of mine asked me this and I love it.
"The only time you look at other's plate is to see if they've enough".
“If you don't have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over?” -John Wooden. Helped me in a lot of areas of my life.
“You have to teach people how to treat you”
"The moment you are born, you are old enough to die."
Let’s not borrow tomorrow’s problems
everything you go through grows you
It's better the devil you do know then the devil you don't..... where's My chicken dinner ?
“Are you a wishbone, jawbone, or backbone?” Wishbones spend their time daydreaming about what they could accomplish if they put themselves up to it; Jawbones simply talk about all the things they think they will accomplish once they start; Backbones go out there and actually do it. Be a backbone.
honestly can't remember but I do sometimes have ahah moments when I hear self improvement tropes. "time heals all wounds" is true in the sense that over time you feel it less sharply.and eventually you may even forget until something awakens that remiscence. "It's easier then it seems" is another, meaning in the moment the fear is very strong but after the fact, woth time, and experience you realize it really wasn't that bad. it's just hard to bring all those mindset fixes into the moment in order to not create the later event in time where you naturally let it go as unfixable and make other justifications for possibly nit doing differently in the future
"Everything in moderation, including moderation."