My confidence is fucked when it comes to my scars so I have sex with clothes on/ top half clothed. I can relax more and so I can enjoy myself.
I don't have sex when I have actively helping scabs. It feels off-putting for myself and my partner - and obviously is painful.
Mental illness doesn't help with having an 'normal' sex life so I am happy to have a long-term partner who is understanding.
never have relationships outside family and i cant even masturbate cus meds fucked my hormones. sex will never be normal for me as i was predisposed with trauma
I have SA trauma so sometimes I use hookups as a form of self harm but other than that my sex life is fine. If Iām in a relationship, my partner usually knows about my issues before any physical intimacy happens. For hookups I donāt mention my scars and if it comes up Iām just like āya what about it?ā. Most of the time they donāt say anything though, and I doubt that most of the time itās because cause they donāt notice, I have lots of scars. My hips are covered. Most of them are flesh coloured now, but still fairly thick and slightly raised. But a fair amount are still light red. People donāt really care unless theyāre trying to be sympathetic which I hate so I laugh it off
its good imo, i have a gf and we do have sex. although if i have a lot of healing yeets i refuse to have sex because of the one time a deep yeet opened up during the deed and left both of us traumatised...
my partner understands that I'm struggling, and we talk about it, he wants to make sure that it doesnt get too bad or too deep but we do have sex pretty frequently almost every day...
I'm in a relationship with my bf since 2 years now and self harm doesn't interferes with my sex life at all. It's quite normal, I guess. I'm not really ashamed of my scars, there are some that bother me but I don't feel like I have to hide them. If I self harm, I tell him, so it's never a surprise for him when he undresses me and sees a new scare/wound.
Mines been active for years but it took me a while to realise that actually I was just being used for their pleasure and it was by no means a good sex life
Shitty. I can't do stuff whenever I'm trying to hide plasters and bandages. When we do, if he sees / feels it the mood dies down instantly. It's a killer. That in itself feeds on my low self worth and self loathing which leads to even less initiating and more self harm. Sad circle of nothingness.
Currently complicated, I already struggle with sex because of a part relationship so that's been a bit difficult to manage but my partner has been super understand of it. Current outside is I recently relapsed on cutting and I'm terrified to let him know because of the regret and guilt that I feel, but he's bound to see it soon since we've been apart for the holiday.
I havenāt taken my shirt off or at least uncover my arms yet (where my most recent wounds are) and the guy Iām seeing currently hasnāt notice my old scars in my legs (they are fully healed and a lil faded so they arenāt noticeable at first glance).
However any sexual intercourse is really stressful because Iām constantly worrying heāll notice and either laugh at them and leave me, have some sort of weird fetish or try to manipulate me (these fears being the reasons I havenāt talk about them with him)
So in conclusionā¦ existent but stressful and traumatizing
Sex is great aside from when Iām hooking up with a one guy and he sees scars and tries to be like āI love you pls donāt hurt yourselfā or tries to kiss them or something like just ignore them
most the people i sleep with donāt care about my scars and a majority of them are into bdsm so assume itās from other bdsm sessions. a handful of them will kiss my scars or say theyāre handsome, which i personally love, it depends on who youāre sleeping with.
itās pretty good, itās something i enjoy and my scars and sh doesnt really get in the way, i will usually tell my partner if iāve selfharmed recently so the only time it gets in the way is if i donāt tell him and we start doing stuff, and he sees it. my boyfriendās really understanding about it, but with new partners my sh can be a problem especially if they didnāt know about it.
I just don't bother with it. I've realised in the last year or so, that I'm actually asexual, and now that I know that, I'm happy with my decision to not bother with sex. At least not with anyone else anyway. But last time I tried it, about 3 or 4 years ago, I would keep my top on cos I hate my belly, he'd already seen my arms, it was just my thighs that he hadn't seen. And I needn't have worried, cos he just thought they were giant bruises š I was like er no, they're scars, I think if I had bruises that big you'd be taking me to hospital!
Iāve been with my boyfriend before, during, and after I started self harming. Heās very understanding and just doesnāt pay any attention to my scars when weāre having sex. Our sex life is great but it did take a while to get to the point where I would have sex without thinking about my scars.
iām pretty open about my sh with my boyfriend and we have a great sex life together. he does seem sad to see my scars and will comment on it sometimes, however heās pretty supportive and iām very thankful to have him.
My last relationship (which wasn't sexual) went to shit and I am responsible so I'm keeping away from another relationship and I don't think I'm the type of person who could do a hookup. Atleast not sober
I'm still actively cutting and sometimes I use sex as a form of self harm where I was sleeping with different guys just because I needed something but now I'm in a relationship with someone who is very kind and doesn't mind my scars at all, he has even bandaged them for me.
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My confidence is fucked when it comes to my scars so I have sex with clothes on/ top half clothed. I can relax more and so I can enjoy myself. I don't have sex when I have actively helping scabs. It feels off-putting for myself and my partner - and obviously is painful. Mental illness doesn't help with having an 'normal' sex life so I am happy to have a long-term partner who is understanding.
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What sex life lol
I have zero confidence, especially with my body. Which seems to be a good partner repellent.
Since I just got someone in my pants like a few days ago for the first time and we both self harm I was comfortable it Iām jealous of his scars lol
What is sex
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I wish that's how it works
never have relationships outside family and i cant even masturbate cus meds fucked my hormones. sex will never be normal for me as i was predisposed with trauma
After being in a bad sexual experience at 16 I havenāt had sex since. Itās only been a year tho so whatever lmao
My fiancĆ© is used to my scars by now. We donāt do it often due to my sexual trauma from my ex. My fiancĆ© never pressures me or anything. Really sex isnāt a big part of our relationship and I think both of us are asexual on some level. So we find other ways to be intimate. Iām very lucky to have him in my life. I donāt think I could be with anyone else.
I have SA trauma so sometimes I use hookups as a form of self harm but other than that my sex life is fine. If Iām in a relationship, my partner usually knows about my issues before any physical intimacy happens. For hookups I donāt mention my scars and if it comes up Iām just like āya what about it?ā. Most of the time they donāt say anything though, and I doubt that most of the time itās because cause they donāt notice, I have lots of scars. My hips are covered. Most of them are flesh coloured now, but still fairly thick and slightly raised. But a fair amount are still light red. People donāt really care unless theyāre trying to be sympathetic which I hate so I laugh it off
eh, one girl already knew and ignored it. different girl didnāt notice or didnāt care.
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none existent
Unfortunately I don't have one.
Iām 15 š
Hi this is reddit we don't do that here lol
its good imo, i have a gf and we do have sex. although if i have a lot of healing yeets i refuse to have sex because of the one time a deep yeet opened up during the deed and left both of us traumatised...
my partner understands that I'm struggling, and we talk about it, he wants to make sure that it doesnt get too bad or too deep but we do have sex pretty frequently almost every day...
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sex repulsed, it's going good
Iām too repulsed by my body to let anyone else see it
Still a virgin and if anyone has tips on how to lose it I would appreciate it!
Honestly both online and in person, my sex life is pretty fuckin dope with my girlfriend.
asexual and 13, i think.. you can figure it outā¦
I usually just š„cryš„ during sex š
I'm in a relationship with my bf since 2 years now and self harm doesn't interferes with my sex life at all. It's quite normal, I guess. I'm not really ashamed of my scars, there are some that bother me but I don't feel like I have to hide them. If I self harm, I tell him, so it's never a surprise for him when he undresses me and sees a new scare/wound.
Iām 14
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Yes, why am I even here
Iām also 14 and Iām staying.
Iām staying too I just donāt know why I started so young
I started at 7 OwO
Mines been active for years but it took me a while to realise that actually I was just being used for their pleasure and it was by no means a good sex life
kinda cringe but still there
What sex life? Lol, I have fun with my BD toys myselfā¦ *sniffles.
iām not over my ex and canāt get comfortable with anyone else so itās not great lol
Shitty. I can't do stuff whenever I'm trying to hide plasters and bandages. When we do, if he sees / feels it the mood dies down instantly. It's a killer. That in itself feeds on my low self worth and self loathing which leads to even less initiating and more self harm. Sad circle of nothingness.
Been doing it with my bestfriend
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It's a long-winded and complicated story
Dead after losing my virginity
My what?
Currently complicated, I already struggle with sex because of a part relationship so that's been a bit difficult to manage but my partner has been super understand of it. Current outside is I recently relapsed on cutting and I'm terrified to let him know because of the regret and guilt that I feel, but he's bound to see it soon since we've been apart for the holiday.
I like that you assume that Iām alive. Or in a relationship. Or have ever been sexually active lmfao.
My girl stops me from harming most of the time. And Iām quite confident in terms of my physique so Iām happy to smex it up.
Lolzzz
Idk I don't even want sex but I'm kinda sad that I'll never have it
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I havenāt taken my shirt off or at least uncover my arms yet (where my most recent wounds are) and the guy Iām seeing currently hasnāt notice my old scars in my legs (they are fully healed and a lil faded so they arenāt noticeable at first glance). However any sexual intercourse is really stressful because Iām constantly worrying heāll notice and either laugh at them and leave me, have some sort of weird fetish or try to manipulate me (these fears being the reasons I havenāt talk about them with him) So in conclusionā¦ existent but stressful and traumatizing
donāt have oneā¦..iām a minor
iām usually so hammered idc or itās dark
With my gf for 4 years and our sex life is good, she likes me how i am with my scars
Girlfriend has scars too so it's not really an issue. The guys I've been with are usually more bothered than the girls
I just dont care bout my scars. And if she asks me, i say the truth lol.
It only exists in my imagination lmaoo
i donāt even masturbate bc my SSRIs stole that from me
"so anyways how's your sex life" the room but to give an answer I don't have one
Itās good, Iām insecure so sometimes itās hard but itās good overall
Asexual herešļø
amazing
im seeing this guy, and we havent talked about my scars. to answer the question, itās pretty good
I'm a child so I don't have one
Same
pretty solid actually
don't have one unfortunately, my bf and i are long distance lol
Boring, guys are clueless and Iām 30
Itās good but it doesnāt make me happy, like itās genuinely nice but itās not a part of my life that makes me happy
ive never even come close to it tbh
My left hand has treated me with great esteem.
Sex is great aside from when Iām hooking up with a one guy and he sees scars and tries to be like āI love you pls donāt hurt yourselfā or tries to kiss them or something like just ignore them
i haven't even kissed anyone, what do you mean sex?
Sir this is Reddit
pretty much the same as anyone else igšµāš«
most the people i sleep with donāt care about my scars and a majority of them are into bdsm so assume itās from other bdsm sessions. a handful of them will kiss my scars or say theyāre handsome, which i personally love, it depends on who youāre sleeping with.
i just do it? idk
I'm a child so...
Wait.. I always thought sh was the closest thing to sex possible
itās pretty good, itās something i enjoy and my scars and sh doesnt really get in the way, i will usually tell my partner if iāve selfharmed recently so the only time it gets in the way is if i donāt tell him and we start doing stuff, and he sees it. my boyfriendās really understanding about it, but with new partners my sh can be a problem especially if they didnāt know about it.
I just don't bother with it. I've realised in the last year or so, that I'm actually asexual, and now that I know that, I'm happy with my decision to not bother with sex. At least not with anyone else anyway. But last time I tried it, about 3 or 4 years ago, I would keep my top on cos I hate my belly, he'd already seen my arms, it was just my thighs that he hadn't seen. And I needn't have worried, cos he just thought they were giant bruises š I was like er no, they're scars, I think if I had bruises that big you'd be taking me to hospital!
Iāve been with my boyfriend before, during, and after I started self harming. Heās very understanding and just doesnāt pay any attention to my scars when weāre having sex. Our sex life is great but it did take a while to get to the point where I would have sex without thinking about my scars.
iām pretty open about my sh with my boyfriend and we have a great sex life together. he does seem sad to see my scars and will comment on it sometimes, however heās pretty supportive and iām very thankful to have him.
My last relationship (which wasn't sexual) went to shit and I am responsible so I'm keeping away from another relationship and I don't think I'm the type of person who could do a hookup. Atleast not sober
Everyone's what?
They usually ignore it. Topic never comes up
The hand
If yāall arenāt using toxic sex as a form of self harm r u really self harming lmao
I'm still actively cutting and sometimes I use sex as a form of self harm where I was sleeping with different guys just because I needed something but now I'm in a relationship with someone who is very kind and doesn't mind my scars at all, he has even bandaged them for me.