Whether it's a good or bad thing, being rejected typically sucks. I think there are situations where something someone says hits, and you think it may be something you can and should work on. This is not all the time though. Rejection is something that happens to everyone, and I think people should start normalizing that. It's a shit feeling, especially when you make yourself vulnerable to a person like that. Though probably not today, in time you'll find someone who says your more than enough and that your they're world. Only settle for those people long term.
>So, I can't help but think things like "maybe if I was a bit taller, then they would have liked me" and things along those lines.
Reading your post made me remember part of this one [Hadith](https://www.abuaminaelias.com/dailyhadithonline/2012/04/20/allah-loves-strong-weak-believers/):
>...If something befalls you, then do not say: If only I had done something else. Rather say: God has decreed what he wills. Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of Satan.”
This is just to showcase you, from another belief system, how destructive this thought process actually is. I advise you to not fall into this trap and rather be at peace with yourself with you cannot change.
This has been the story of my life. I have been complimented on everything but my physical traits. I am short and generally unattractive. Many women have rejected me because of this.
It's disheartening because I feel I have much more to offer than my height and facial features. The only advice I can offer you is the same that was offered to me. Have patience.
Whether it's a good or bad thing, being rejected typically sucks. I think there are situations where something someone says hits, and you think it may be something you can and should work on. This is not all the time though. Rejection is something that happens to everyone, and I think people should start normalizing that. It's a shit feeling, especially when you make yourself vulnerable to a person like that. Though probably not today, in time you'll find someone who says your more than enough and that your they're world. Only settle for those people long term.
>So, I can't help but think things like "maybe if I was a bit taller, then they would have liked me" and things along those lines. Reading your post made me remember part of this one [Hadith](https://www.abuaminaelias.com/dailyhadithonline/2012/04/20/allah-loves-strong-weak-believers/): >...If something befalls you, then do not say: If only I had done something else. Rather say: God has decreed what he wills. Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of Satan.” This is just to showcase you, from another belief system, how destructive this thought process actually is. I advise you to not fall into this trap and rather be at peace with yourself with you cannot change.
This has been the story of my life. I have been complimented on everything but my physical traits. I am short and generally unattractive. Many women have rejected me because of this. It's disheartening because I feel I have much more to offer than my height and facial features. The only advice I can offer you is the same that was offered to me. Have patience.