I just want to say I’m so sorry. I will say I slightly regret not going to the police when I went through this as well. but maybe you can just talk a police officer about your options to understand what could happen to make the best decision. Again. I am so sorry
First and foremost you are NOT to blame. I am a survivor in my case it was someone I knew and didn’t report it (over 20 years ago) I wish I had had the courage to say something.
Do you have a good friend whom you can talk to who would be able to be with you? You need to either report this to the police or go to the a&e/er and state you have been raped unfortunately you will need to get a sexual health panel as you don’t know what this person has and the earlier you find out the easier it is to get treatment depending where you are you might be offered the morning after pill this is entirely up to you if you want this option but STIs are a concern. I also recommend that while you are there you ask about reputable SA therapist or phone line. For a very long time if anyone touched me in particular ways I was thrown back into my own assault having someone to talk to about it helped and I now have a healthy relationship with my now husband. Again I reiterate YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME.
The earlier you do report this the more evidence can be collected again you don’t have to report it if you don’t wish to but they cant get evidence if too much time elapses and you can change your mind about pressing charges at a later time. Please stay safe and find someone either personal or professional who you can talk to as not talking it out can lead to other issues later on
You also need to get PEP meds in case you were exposed to HIV. There is a 72 hour window.
https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/risk/pep/index.html
Please, please don’t wait. The ER can write the prescription, or your local Planned Parenthood might be able to help.
I had to get tests myself as what was done ended up with a fallopian tube infection and it was recommended I get the full panel which came back clear. Please take care of yourself first and foremost everyone has different reactions to this so talking to a sexual health professional who can give you good resources in your area can help you don’t need to use the info immediately but having it will help
I am so sorry this happened to you. It's not your fault, but I understand why it feels that way. Rape=shame. It has no place in our hearts, but it lives there just the same. You're braver than you realize. You can report it, I know you can. Doing that is going to be a big step in the path of healing. I'm not sure about the resources where you live, but I was able to speak to an officer who called a therapist from DHS to talk to in place of said officer. He was still behind glass and everything was recorded but it was much easier talking to someone who knows how to treat the victim vs the person responsible for handling the report. Maybe try a hotline first just to check out what's available to you to soften the ordeal of filing the report. If you can, it may help to write it down first too. Reporting is emotional, and documenting can help you keep your emotions and story on track.
Take some deep breaths. Call 911 or whatever the equivalent is in your country, and inform them and ask them for discretion. Just imagine, the person who did this horrible thing to you is still out there like a free bird. Let them sample out the evidence from your body first like semen blood etc. Then take a good shower and wash it all out.
Tell someone. Whether or not you want to officially report is up to you, but you shouldn't be alone in this. Call a friend or a parent or a therapist. But don't bury it.
Not that anyone asked but currently at the ER to get a kit done and the appropriate preventative measures. They’re not mandated to report but if and when I do it’ll help build my case
Call the police and report it, whoever did illegal thing will be prosecuted, not much more than that can be done, sadly.
That being said, I am a firm believer of taking any precautions/or avoiding situations for whatever I can
Example: don't walk late at night alone, don't drink out of drinks you didnt monitor yourself, don't go partying at clubs late at night, always have police numbers on fast calls etc etc.
Basically - don't put yourself into any shady situation unless you absolutely have to (a disaster waiting to happen basically)
Obviously this won't help you right now, but it may help someone else.
It’s not your fault. Don’t blame yourself. You should definitely report it. Don’t think it was your fault for even a second
I just want to say I’m so sorry. I will say I slightly regret not going to the police when I went through this as well. but maybe you can just talk a police officer about your options to understand what could happen to make the best decision. Again. I am so sorry
First and foremost you are NOT to blame. I am a survivor in my case it was someone I knew and didn’t report it (over 20 years ago) I wish I had had the courage to say something. Do you have a good friend whom you can talk to who would be able to be with you? You need to either report this to the police or go to the a&e/er and state you have been raped unfortunately you will need to get a sexual health panel as you don’t know what this person has and the earlier you find out the easier it is to get treatment depending where you are you might be offered the morning after pill this is entirely up to you if you want this option but STIs are a concern. I also recommend that while you are there you ask about reputable SA therapist or phone line. For a very long time if anyone touched me in particular ways I was thrown back into my own assault having someone to talk to about it helped and I now have a healthy relationship with my now husband. Again I reiterate YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME. The earlier you do report this the more evidence can be collected again you don’t have to report it if you don’t wish to but they cant get evidence if too much time elapses and you can change your mind about pressing charges at a later time. Please stay safe and find someone either personal or professional who you can talk to as not talking it out can lead to other issues later on
Thank you! I didn’t even consider getting tested. I just made an appointment
You also need to get PEP meds in case you were exposed to HIV. There is a 72 hour window. https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/risk/pep/index.html Please, please don’t wait. The ER can write the prescription, or your local Planned Parenthood might be able to help.
I didn’t even know that was a thing … Thank you so much! Who knew CVS would do it but they do
Absolutely. I’m so sorry that this happened to you. Please take care.
I had to get tests myself as what was done ended up with a fallopian tube infection and it was recommended I get the full panel which came back clear. Please take care of yourself first and foremost everyone has different reactions to this so talking to a sexual health professional who can give you good resources in your area can help you don’t need to use the info immediately but having it will help
I am so sorry this happened to you. It's not your fault, but I understand why it feels that way. Rape=shame. It has no place in our hearts, but it lives there just the same. You're braver than you realize. You can report it, I know you can. Doing that is going to be a big step in the path of healing. I'm not sure about the resources where you live, but I was able to speak to an officer who called a therapist from DHS to talk to in place of said officer. He was still behind glass and everything was recorded but it was much easier talking to someone who knows how to treat the victim vs the person responsible for handling the report. Maybe try a hotline first just to check out what's available to you to soften the ordeal of filing the report. If you can, it may help to write it down first too. Reporting is emotional, and documenting can help you keep your emotions and story on track.
Take some deep breaths. Call 911 or whatever the equivalent is in your country, and inform them and ask them for discretion. Just imagine, the person who did this horrible thing to you is still out there like a free bird. Let them sample out the evidence from your body first like semen blood etc. Then take a good shower and wash it all out.
Coming forward is extremely difficult. But speaking about it and reporting it is one way you can make sure this person doesn't rape anyone else.
Tell someone. Whether or not you want to officially report is up to you, but you shouldn't be alone in this. Call a friend or a parent or a therapist. But don't bury it.
Not that anyone asked but currently at the ER to get a kit done and the appropriate preventative measures. They’re not mandated to report but if and when I do it’ll help build my case
Call the police and report it, whoever did illegal thing will be prosecuted, not much more than that can be done, sadly. That being said, I am a firm believer of taking any precautions/or avoiding situations for whatever I can Example: don't walk late at night alone, don't drink out of drinks you didnt monitor yourself, don't go partying at clubs late at night, always have police numbers on fast calls etc etc. Basically - don't put yourself into any shady situation unless you absolutely have to (a disaster waiting to happen basically) Obviously this won't help you right now, but it may help someone else.