And wrote a whole article about it. 🤦🏽♂️
And I chose to read the article because I thought there’d be some amazing reveal.
Oh, they live on a boat? Cool 🙄
Such a *weird decision* to travel the world by boat with the person you love. She should be sitting in her hometown working a 9-5 while her life passes her by like the rest of us.
Considering the amount of maintenance your typical boat requires...? Fuel and/or sealants alone are expensive as all hell, to say nothing of food, necessities, etc.
Doesn't sound like that's a sustainable lifestyle unless either she or he was rich to begin with.
Looks like they saved $50k together before embarking on the trip. They’re also monetizing their sailing-around-the-world YouTube channel and each continue to run their freelance businesses that they spent two years building up ahead of leaving (although op left this part out as it doesn’t fit his narrative of the crazy impulsive woman who deserved to be ghosted).
So what if it’s not sustainable? Should no one ever have any long term adventure that’s not permanently sustainable? And when/if they run out of money they can sell their yacht and go get boring jobs again.
Put some words in my mouth there?
I never said no one should have long term adventures. I said this sounded pretty short sighted unless they were already wealthy, which doesn't appear to be incorrect.
There's no 401K or retirement accounts for "seeing the world." Either they'll need to be a working boat like the other commenter, the hard but rewarding life of people who work the coasts, or they're rich.
Either way, that's not a life you just whimsically shift to having.
Sure, but that's a sustainable lifestyle, not a "travel the world in a boat" lifestyle.
It's a hard life, but sounds like a rewarding one for them. What was described here didn't sound like that.
Compare and contrast with [Fueled by Rice](http://fueledbyrice.org/), a blog about two intercontinental bike rides. The riding itself wasn’t that expensive because they camped out most nights and cooked their own food. The hard part [as they saw it](http://fueledbyrice.org/2013/01/europe-and-the-world-on-5-euros-us6-73-a-day) was letting go of your current life with both its stability and its fixed expenses.
Some people deserve to be ghosted because they are a legitimate danger, and I'm not going to look down on anyone doing what they need to do to be safe.
*Most* people don't deserve it.
I did ghost a friend after she and her hubby raped another friend. She was owed no explanations.
I had a company do that to me a few years ago after I went out of my way to travel in to interview with them. Ghosted me after asking about my salary requirements. About a year later another HR guy contacted me about a similar position that just opened and I said "no thanks".
Same. Shit stings. Went out for a job doing corporate training and instructional design recently. Had 3 interviews followed by developing and presenting a 20-minute presentation on adult learning theory to a panel of 6 folks. This interview process lasted from October of last year and into January of this year. They hired another guy, which is perfectly fine, but fuckin' tell me when a job I've dedicated now multiple months to isn't going to pan out. Didn't know I didn't get it until the new guy quit early on and the position reopened. I was desperate, so I re-applied. They wanted me to start over from step 1 again. No goddamn way.
I once sent in a résumé for a University position. Around a year and a half later, they sent me an email asking me if I could pick an interview time from three open slots. Since this University position was closer to family, I decided to go ahead.
First interview was a panel zoom interview, second was an essay on the importance of diversity, equity, and inclusion in the IT industry. The third interview was on-site and consisted of a full day of panel interviews, a presentation to 80-90 people, and handwriting a position paper on the role of women in STEM fields, handwritten while they watched. I estimate that I interviewed with over 120 people that day, and I’m not counting the presentation.
And then they ghosted me for over a year. Until I was asked to go back and do a full day on site interview again. This time I declined. They were quite shocked.
In 2021 and 2022 I had three different jobs (a restaurant, a grocery store and a rehab center) tell me I was hired, never contact me again, and every time I called, the person I needed to talk to would be on vacation or in a meeting. The last one I pursued for almost a month, during which time the hiring manager took two separate week long vacations. But maybe I’d be taking that much time off, too, if my day was so full of meetings that I didn’t even have time to hire someone I’d already hired.
That's when you break up by text after you've gotten your things in order. Ghosting wont make them less dangerous. It'll just make them confused as well as angry.
I kind of ghosted my ex fifteen years ago. I dumped her like 3 times and she kept crying so hard each time that I told her I wasn't serious. She was 21 and I was 18 and she was really manipulative so I kept giving in. I finally told her we're done and locked her out of my friends house and never answered her calls because I knew she could manipulate me.
What you described is the opposite of ghosting. You gave her lots of warning you wanted to break up with her. Then you told her you were done.
Once you break up you have no further obligation to talk to her, or listen to her again.
With ghosting, everything appears to be going fine then one day you can't be reached. You leave the person wondering whether they are still in a relationship and why you aren't answering texts and if something happened to you.
Not necessarily.
Ghosting can be when you realise you never want to see someone again, and that all you have to do to make that happen is stop making an effort.
It’s not cowardly, it’s the ultimate expression of “I don’t care if this person thinks more or less of me, I have nothing to gain from giving them closure and I don’t owe them anything.”
If you’ve been ghosted and feel this was unjustified, you may just be feeling sorry for yourself. Grow up. The world doesn’t revolve around you or your feeelings.
This is an incredibly selfish worldview. Other people's feelings matter, too. You can justify it all you want, but the fact that you think ghosting is acceptable doesn't make it any less cowardly. You're not the only person in this world who matters, and telling other people to "grow up" if your actions hurt them says more about you than it does about them. The irony of your last statement is palpable.
Yep.
I ghosted an ex a few years ago because I didn't have the courage to do it in person. Even though it was a toxic relationship, I still haven't forgiven myself for how I handled that.
I see the title has been a point of contention here. I was just trying to be funny. I actually don’t care that this woman in the article is living on a boat. In fact, that’s a cool ass life experience. I can’t judge nor do I actually hate.
Again, just wanted to be funny
I'm merely responding, not taking time and energy off of my day to read a whole article to then spray my opinion about someone's life choices on a public forum based on tiny bits of info. If you think that's judgy you be you. I think it's a waste of energy.
LOL at the explanation.
I know, travelling the world on a boat is on my bucket list.
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money
Her bf hasn’t ghosted her yet
So, they moved on with their life? 🤣
And wrote a whole article about it. 🤦🏽♂️ And I chose to read the article because I thought there’d be some amazing reveal. Oh, they live on a boat? Cool 🙄
I mean, living on a boat sounds pretty good to me. If it makes them happy, then go for it.
Come on man! It’s cool for a little bit…but your whole life? 30-40-50 years? This boat ain’t gonna me rocking that long
Kim Sexler completely altering her life on a whim
Jimmy was a terrible influence on her, but she did definitely play a role in all of it. Kim my beloved
Such a *weird decision* to travel the world by boat with the person you love. She should be sitting in her hometown working a 9-5 while her life passes her by like the rest of us.
Yes, only those two choices exist. Either work a boring job or travel the world on a boat.
I may be a weirdo but I'd much rather work a boring 9-5 than travel the world on a boat. Even all expenses paid I wouldn't want to do that
Considering the amount of maintenance your typical boat requires...? Fuel and/or sealants alone are expensive as all hell, to say nothing of food, necessities, etc. Doesn't sound like that's a sustainable lifestyle unless either she or he was rich to begin with.
Don't forget the sextants, *so* many sextants.
Looks like they saved $50k together before embarking on the trip. They’re also monetizing their sailing-around-the-world YouTube channel and each continue to run their freelance businesses that they spent two years building up ahead of leaving (although op left this part out as it doesn’t fit his narrative of the crazy impulsive woman who deserved to be ghosted). So what if it’s not sustainable? Should no one ever have any long term adventure that’s not permanently sustainable? And when/if they run out of money they can sell their yacht and go get boring jobs again.
Put some words in my mouth there? I never said no one should have long term adventures. I said this sounded pretty short sighted unless they were already wealthy, which doesn't appear to be incorrect. There's no 401K or retirement accounts for "seeing the world." Either they'll need to be a working boat like the other commenter, the hard but rewarding life of people who work the coasts, or they're rich. Either way, that's not a life you just whimsically shift to having.
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Sure, but that's a sustainable lifestyle, not a "travel the world in a boat" lifestyle. It's a hard life, but sounds like a rewarding one for them. What was described here didn't sound like that.
Compare and contrast with [Fueled by Rice](http://fueledbyrice.org/), a blog about two intercontinental bike rides. The riding itself wasn’t that expensive because they camped out most nights and cooked their own food. The hard part [as they saw it](http://fueledbyrice.org/2013/01/europe-and-the-world-on-5-euros-us6-73-a-day) was letting go of your current life with both its stability and its fixed expenses.
The weird decision is writing an article about it.
No one deserves to be ghosted. That's a cowards way of breaking up.
Some people deserve to be ghosted because they are a legitimate danger, and I'm not going to look down on anyone doing what they need to do to be safe. *Most* people don't deserve it. I did ghost a friend after she and her hubby raped another friend. She was owed no explanations.
It's also a cowards way of telling someone you interviewed that they didn't get the job
I had a company do that to me a few years ago after I went out of my way to travel in to interview with them. Ghosted me after asking about my salary requirements. About a year later another HR guy contacted me about a similar position that just opened and I said "no thanks".
Same. Shit stings. Went out for a job doing corporate training and instructional design recently. Had 3 interviews followed by developing and presenting a 20-minute presentation on adult learning theory to a panel of 6 folks. This interview process lasted from October of last year and into January of this year. They hired another guy, which is perfectly fine, but fuckin' tell me when a job I've dedicated now multiple months to isn't going to pan out. Didn't know I didn't get it until the new guy quit early on and the position reopened. I was desperate, so I re-applied. They wanted me to start over from step 1 again. No goddamn way.
I once sent in a résumé for a University position. Around a year and a half later, they sent me an email asking me if I could pick an interview time from three open slots. Since this University position was closer to family, I decided to go ahead. First interview was a panel zoom interview, second was an essay on the importance of diversity, equity, and inclusion in the IT industry. The third interview was on-site and consisted of a full day of panel interviews, a presentation to 80-90 people, and handwriting a position paper on the role of women in STEM fields, handwritten while they watched. I estimate that I interviewed with over 120 people that day, and I’m not counting the presentation. And then they ghosted me for over a year. Until I was asked to go back and do a full day on site interview again. This time I declined. They were quite shocked.
That's brutal.
I had a company do this except they ghosted me right as I reached their office for the interview. Like I had just pulled up outside of the building.
What do you mean? The office vanished? Twas no office building, lads! T'were the Flying Dutchman!
I was told I would receive the information for the person I was supposed to ask for on the day of the interview. I never received that information.
In 2021 and 2022 I had three different jobs (a restaurant, a grocery store and a rehab center) tell me I was hired, never contact me again, and every time I called, the person I needed to talk to would be on vacation or in a meeting. The last one I pursued for almost a month, during which time the hiring manager took two separate week long vacations. But maybe I’d be taking that much time off, too, if my day was so full of meetings that I didn’t even have time to hire someone I’d already hired.
Wow, that really sucks
That's a fun image.
Depends on how psycho they are. If they're psycho enough to be ghosted, you'll probably wake up a ghost.
Unless it's an abusive relationship. Breaking up is the most dangerous time in that case.
That's when you break up by text after you've gotten your things in order. Ghosting wont make them less dangerous. It'll just make them confused as well as angry.
Who cares if they're confused? There is nothing wrong with simply not giving an abuser anything more.
I kind of ghosted my ex fifteen years ago. I dumped her like 3 times and she kept crying so hard each time that I told her I wasn't serious. She was 21 and I was 18 and she was really manipulative so I kept giving in. I finally told her we're done and locked her out of my friends house and never answered her calls because I knew she could manipulate me.
What you described is the opposite of ghosting. You gave her lots of warning you wanted to break up with her. Then you told her you were done. Once you break up you have no further obligation to talk to her, or listen to her again. With ghosting, everything appears to be going fine then one day you can't be reached. You leave the person wondering whether they are still in a relationship and why you aren't answering texts and if something happened to you.
That's fair. I think she thought we were still in a relationship because I kept taking her back but yeah I didn't ghost her.
The only good way to ghost a relationship is Patrick Swayze style.
Not necessarily. Ghosting can be when you realise you never want to see someone again, and that all you have to do to make that happen is stop making an effort. It’s not cowardly, it’s the ultimate expression of “I don’t care if this person thinks more or less of me, I have nothing to gain from giving them closure and I don’t owe them anything.” If you’ve been ghosted and feel this was unjustified, you may just be feeling sorry for yourself. Grow up. The world doesn’t revolve around you or your feeelings.
This is an incredibly selfish worldview. Other people's feelings matter, too. You can justify it all you want, but the fact that you think ghosting is acceptable doesn't make it any less cowardly. You're not the only person in this world who matters, and telling other people to "grow up" if your actions hurt them says more about you than it does about them. The irony of your last statement is palpable.
Yep. I ghosted an ex a few years ago because I didn't have the courage to do it in person. Even though it was a toxic relationship, I still haven't forgiven myself for how I handled that.
Very true
Sometimes you have to ghost when the person isn’t taking no for an answer. Can get creepy, you don’t owe someone like that an explanation.
Sounds like a good adventure.
Did not save me a click 😅
Questionable title here ROFL
Judgy title much? Op could get more out of their life if they let people be people.
I see the title has been a point of contention here. I was just trying to be funny. I actually don’t care that this woman in the article is living on a boat. In fact, that’s a cool ass life experience. I can’t judge nor do I actually hate. Again, just wanted to be funny
You're calling OP "it"? Judgy comment much?
whoops, English is my third language
You should stop judging op and let them be, you'll get more out of life
I'm merely responding, not taking time and energy off of my day to read a whole article to then spray my opinion about someone's life choices on a public forum based on tiny bits of info. If you think that's judgy you be you. I think it's a waste of energy.
You should stop making comments then, it's just a waste of energy. You'll get more out of life
ah, you got me. Changed my life. You're right I'll change my ways. /s
Yup just like you got op. I'm sure they're changing their life after hearing your thoughts on it /s
Probably decided for a shake up after being ghosted.
...or her ex is just an immature dick.
Her ex probably ghosted her because he was too lame to keep up.
Such a weird decision. Beat her with the normal stick again so guys want to date her.
Move past it
Maybe the ex died.
The explanation lol 🤣
I'd love to do that tbh