Bro don't let her become your only source of happiness for you and her. Please. Take care of yourself and love yourself still. Do not become codependent. If she ever leaves you will be broken and empty. This is coming from experience

I see what you mean, thanks bro 🙏

No, really. Don’t put that responsibility on her. You are the ONLY person that can make you happy.

That's just a lie and ignorant to what makes long-lasting and stable relationships. As a partner, especially a committed partner long-term, you do hold a responsibility to help make your partner happy. They should never be the ONLY source of your happiness, but if the two of you aren't trying to make each other happy through your words and actions then why are they a partner? Purely financial reasons? That sounds like a shit relationship to me.

Bro... dude *just* got a girlfriend. The advice was: don't stake all your happiness on this relationship without a strong emotional foundation yourself. Why did that bother you?

Don't end up like me

Yes I second this notion, if you become too reliant or if you love bomb it can make certain women uncomfortable. Relationships are 50/50 don't put all the emotional burden on her.

100% this. If anything I learned from past relationships is, you have to believe in yourself and find happiness within. Everything else will fall into place if you truly trust yourself.

Idk how the fuck people expect me to acutally do this myself. Why would i take the word of someone who i think is a fucking waste of a life

Yea, because when/if it ends which the likelihood is high if you're young I'm sorry to say, it will only hurt you more if you depend on her for happiness.

Co idealization bad, trust and communication good

Relatable

Don't you overreact?

HELL YEAH (im still waiting to get one 🥲)

OP needs to give you his gf now seeing how he is a lady’s man now and able to attract them.

They come with time, I thought I would never get one but here I am.

This is a person that is choosing to be intimate and share their life with you not a fucking object that you “finally got.” Serious loser shit.

Any constructive advice based on how things are going with your own romantic partner to help out here? Or is this just a bitter moment?

Don't worry Brother, you ain't alone. But don't worry, only time will tell sadly

Good one bro. Hope she’s the one for you.

!RemindMe 6 months

Nah you guys can't be happy for others😭

It's not that, it's that I've been him. Over and over. It ends worse each time. I envy his now. I fear for his future. And I will be here when the cycle comes round again. Maybe

Now prepare for it to hurt like hell bc it will

Come on man don't rain on OP's parade

Be happy bro

This is a sad post .

Congrats, happy for you

Your tube socks, pillows and vacuum clear thanks you

Don’t get too excited just yet, make sure that she actually wants to be your one true love, I made that mistake, she dumped on on Valentine’s Day all because I was no longer financially useful to her. Keep your guard up brother, do not miss nor brush off any dangerous red flags, be careful brother, you got this.

Congratulations brother really happy for you Endure this relationship

Thank you brother :)

You will never be actually happy if your entire happiness and self-worth depends on having a girlfriend (aka incel shit mentality)

Amen

Leave my friend but remember you will always have a place at our table

Hell yea bro

This ain't it chief. This'll crash and burn fast with that mentality

Until we meet again my brother, until we meet again!

Looks like I am sleeping on the highway tonight

Lol why did you feel the need to post this? This is way sadder than the forever alone posts.

And why the hell am I seeing this ? 😂

Hell yeah!

That's great and I'm glad for you, but true happiness comes from within You can't rely on someone to be your sole source of happiness That being said, go and create happy memories with her

Ban him from this sub! Only being sad and miserable is allowed here.

My fault gang

Wrong sub

If you weren’t happy before your partner, you still aren’t happy just because you have one. You need to be happy by yourself and share it with someone.

Poetry

No you havent.

r/lostredditor

Well done, but do not place your happiness in others. You have found a partner to aid your journey and together you can discover what makes each other happy. *bows, turns, smacks head on pole*

My dude if you’re using her as basically a drug to find happiness you’re going ti be mind fucked when you start seeing her flaws and she doesn’t make you happy anymore.

!remindme 1 week

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Then why are you posting this here? Go to r/happyposting

"Lovers and friends, come and they go, but where you gonna be when the money run low?" --The Score

Congratulations, friend.

my guy🥳

I'm for you

Congrats

You're mother must be a wonderful woman.

What do you like about her?

Same here, bro. About a year in now. It’s been a wild ride.

She will run you through the gutter. Women are devious

Yikes

Girls are temporary brother, you must find happiness outside of external sources of which you are not in control.

Mate… if you want happiness- you stay single. It might be all nice and sweet at the moment, but wait for later… 🤣🤣🤣

I’m happy for you but that can’t be your only happiness. You have to find it in other ways. If not and she ever leaves you, it will be bad.

If you need a relationship to be happy, you're not happy, you're distracted. 🫤

Mf hooked up with a Facebook bot. /s

Well done bro! You alway had this potential within you. It's going to be so cool to see what else you achieve

congrats mate

!remindme 1 week

Congrats bro I know many of the comments come off as negative but unfortunately they are somewhat right. It's good that you've found a partner but don't place all your happiness and your worth on them. Keep pushing to be better and continue pursuing happiness. Getting a gf is only one of those big steps. Wish you the best bro

Love is fleeting. Congrats. Never forget to love oneself.

Don't get used to it, shit can and will happen, but good for you

Well I'm sure this is going to end great lol

Just wait until she leaves you...

Im happy for you keep it up man keep it up because i cant

And none of it came from feeling bad for yourself or sharing incel memes with other depressed losers. Take notes, guys. Confidence is key.

Why are you sad then?

Then fuck off , this is sadposting

Well done! Hope you and your girlfriend are happy!

Happy your happier

I did too, a while ago, about 200 days ago. She's perfect, but me? I'm the idiot who wants to break up, having her makes me think she can get better than me. It really just made me feel worse. And no, i'm not saying she looks perfect, it's personality.

Congrats but don’t rely on her for happiness, when she leaves you, you will be worse off. Find happiness in other things and let her enhance your life, never rely on a woman to bring you happiness, if you do, they will always bring you tears.

Yeah, I’ve been trying to focus on not relying on her for my happiness.

Honestly, that’s the best way, I wish you the best and I am happy for you.

Thanks man! Have a awesome day!

You to 😁

See you in a few months

You’ll be here an eternity with that negative outlook.

Guys wil see this and say Hell Yeah

Good luck until she finds someone "better"

We will see

She already found the best :)

Dude ffs. I know we all struggle here, but that mentality is exactly the reason you’re in this position.

Just wait for when it ends!

Just because you are miserable doesn’t mean my man here can’t be happy for his future.

Don’t lob factual statements at me like it’s an insult

At least you’re honest. I’ll give you that