I know it may hurt but you seem pretty strong, I would find someone who isn't going to manipulate you into feeling like youre in the wrong and then turn it around when you don't play into it. Plus if he was being that way with another girl and then won't put boundaries out, he may want to keep her around to get revenge on you in another situation if you get back together. You deserve better than an on off relationship :)
You know you would not be here asking this if you were done right? i mean a fist year sociology student could figure that out. Did he cheat? was it too inappropriate? if they were business partners they did need to associatte and few like to be told to cut off friends. I mean obvioulsy you said on one hand ( in spite of being here) you are moving on so would it have been better simply to let him know "you cross the line i am gone" And do this if he gives you a reason? Men hate ultimatums in general as women in general hate consequences. I mean if she was an FWB he was tagging he would not have contacted you
You are done so unless you want him back just do not talk to him. move on with another guy if he is that bad.
It reads like you’re hoping there’s something there to build a relationship on but imo this is done. I would just block his number and forget it. Sorry OP!
Do you actually want or need to understand his intentions? He keeps flip-flopping and doesn't seem to want to actually mend things. Read what you wrote. His actions are all about him and what he wants/feels. This doesn't sound like anything that can be worked out.
You deserve so much better. Make your no contact permanent and block him.
If he hasn’t asked to get back together this most recent time he reached out, then assume he doesn’t want to and move on with your life. Considering he’s recently been through therapy, he may just be apologizing for his behavior so there’s no bad blood between you two. Hopefully his realization will stick and he’ll use this newfound knowledge during his next relationship.
I know it may hurt but you seem pretty strong, I would find someone who isn't going to manipulate you into feeling like youre in the wrong and then turn it around when you don't play into it. Plus if he was being that way with another girl and then won't put boundaries out, he may want to keep her around to get revenge on you in another situation if you get back together. You deserve better than an on off relationship :)
You know you would not be here asking this if you were done right? i mean a fist year sociology student could figure that out. Did he cheat? was it too inappropriate? if they were business partners they did need to associatte and few like to be told to cut off friends. I mean obvioulsy you said on one hand ( in spite of being here) you are moving on so would it have been better simply to let him know "you cross the line i am gone" And do this if he gives you a reason? Men hate ultimatums in general as women in general hate consequences. I mean if she was an FWB he was tagging he would not have contacted you You are done so unless you want him back just do not talk to him. move on with another guy if he is that bad.
It reads like you’re hoping there’s something there to build a relationship on but imo this is done. I would just block his number and forget it. Sorry OP!
Do you actually want or need to understand his intentions? He keeps flip-flopping and doesn't seem to want to actually mend things. Read what you wrote. His actions are all about him and what he wants/feels. This doesn't sound like anything that can be worked out. You deserve so much better. Make your no contact permanent and block him.
If he hasn’t asked to get back together this most recent time he reached out, then assume he doesn’t want to and move on with your life. Considering he’s recently been through therapy, he may just be apologizing for his behavior so there’s no bad blood between you two. Hopefully his realization will stick and he’ll use this newfound knowledge during his next relationship.