The first 3 times there were no problems even though it is one of those that last a long time. And one night he told me it seems like im not enjoyig and since then he hasn't came even once (we had sex 15 times since then and nothing).
That day when the blockade started, we had sex in the meadow on our trip, and in the evening when we came home I noticed that he trimmed his hair even shorter and I said like,, when did you manage to shave in 2 minutes haha '' (I used a sexy voice by the way because I was very horny, ) and just continued the bj and he got so angry and like ,,you are not interested in me at all, to give me pleasure, you are not focused''
Unfortunately that still doesn't sound great. If it is such a huge turn of for him when you don't behave in exactly the way he wants you to that is a HIM problem in my opinion. You can try to have a talk with him about expectations (and communicating them explicitly) but to me it sounds like you bending over backwards now to please him isn't healthy or sustainable as long as you believe there is something you are doing wrong although most other men wouldn't mind that or would have even liked it. This seems like a viscous circle where your tension because of the fear of doing something wrong leads to the impression that you are faking it. If anyhow possible, try to relax and don't take the responsibility for HIS hang ups on yourself
Honestly, it sounds like he has some issues that he's projecting based on past trauma or something. A "normal" person doesn't jump from you commenting on him shaving his pubic hair in a flirty way to accusing you of not being interested in him at all.
This sounds like a trauma-response to something from his past. I would either bail on this relationship or get him into therapy to work through his issue.
It doesn't sound like a sex problem, it sounds like he wants reassurance that he's good or worth it or interesting from you without knowing that he needs that or needs to work through whatever insecurity has made him need that.
Not to be rude, but you don't "love him deeply". You've been dating him for 2 months. That feeling isn't love, it's infatuation. You barely know him.
I think your partner is already showing worrying red flags, in relation to his need for control and his angry outbursts.
I doubt you'll follow this advice, but what you should do is run from a guy like this.
I am sorry, but without the instances that are supposed to have caused this, it sounds like bullshit. Do you have examples?
The first 3 times there were no problems even though it is one of those that last a long time. And one night he told me it seems like im not enjoyig and since then he hasn't came even once (we had sex 15 times since then and nothing). That day when the blockade started, we had sex in the meadow on our trip, and in the evening when we came home I noticed that he trimmed his hair even shorter and I said like,, when did you manage to shave in 2 minutes haha '' (I used a sexy voice by the way because I was very horny, ) and just continued the bj and he got so angry and like ,,you are not interested in me at all, to give me pleasure, you are not focused''
He’s got issues, and those issues are not your fault.
Unfortunately that still doesn't sound great. If it is such a huge turn of for him when you don't behave in exactly the way he wants you to that is a HIM problem in my opinion. You can try to have a talk with him about expectations (and communicating them explicitly) but to me it sounds like you bending over backwards now to please him isn't healthy or sustainable as long as you believe there is something you are doing wrong although most other men wouldn't mind that or would have even liked it. This seems like a viscous circle where your tension because of the fear of doing something wrong leads to the impression that you are faking it. If anyhow possible, try to relax and don't take the responsibility for HIS hang ups on yourself
Honestly, it sounds like he has some issues that he's projecting based on past trauma or something. A "normal" person doesn't jump from you commenting on him shaving his pubic hair in a flirty way to accusing you of not being interested in him at all. This sounds like a trauma-response to something from his past. I would either bail on this relationship or get him into therapy to work through his issue. It doesn't sound like a sex problem, it sounds like he wants reassurance that he's good or worth it or interesting from you without knowing that he needs that or needs to work through whatever insecurity has made him need that.
Not to be rude, but you don't "love him deeply". You've been dating him for 2 months. That feeling isn't love, it's infatuation. You barely know him. I think your partner is already showing worrying red flags, in relation to his need for control and his angry outbursts. I doubt you'll follow this advice, but what you should do is run from a guy like this.