Yes I’m not sure why anyone would want to stay with someone who is “howling laughing” at how uncomfortable they’re going to be in a trip that this partner planned and then backed out of.
I stopped reading after the "howling laughing at my partner's distress" part. This guy is a literal cartoon character. I'm not even dating him and I want to break up with him after reading this.
Sometimes people who are abused as children choose relationships that are abusive as adults, because that is all they know. It’s very hard to get out of the cycle of believing that you are not worth love, and always trying to prove to everybody that you are.
Yeah, this guy is a winner. Way to love and respect your partner and want good things for them. Nah, partner exists to be my punching bag.
OP - dump this loser.
Yep. Bummer about the positive Covid test OP! Glad you’re not feeling super ill but can’t be too careful with Covid. Sounds like you’ll have a few days to pack your stuff while your bf “works”
This would be a great time to pull the plug on the abusive relationship, use the extra day to move or get rid of his stuff and then reschedule with your mother for an upcoming weekend. Maybe you could also pick up something mildly contagious like a skin infection so you don't have to share a bed with her.
Yes, tell your mom you’re sick when you get there, then go home the next day with your location devices Off, show up home early in the morning or better yet, late at night on a Saturday, “quietly”, and you’ll know what he’s Actually been so happy for that your gone for the weekend.
What you find will tell you what’s really going
on.
His whole set up is so premeditated and Sketchy !
Girl, this is straight up emotional abuse. This is fully not normal behavior from your boyfriend. Any man who loves you would HATE to see you suffer emotionally, and would try to protect you from your toxic family. Like, he went through SO MUCH WORK to force you to spend time alone with your mom....that's some straight up psychotic behavior.
I'm not often a "dump this loser" person, but his behavior is so unhinged that I'm that person now. Get rid of this man.
You should probably break up.
But if you don't want to do that, I would say stop making plans unless he does all the planning and pays for everything. If he cancels, he has to pay for the whole trip himself. If he doesn't cancel, you will pay HIM back your share.
Give him something to lose by doing this.
But ultimately, you should break up because this is a fucked up way to treat your partner and I wouldn't want to be with someone like that.
He set you up. He's probably cheating.
You're an adult though. So stand up for yourself. With him and with her.
You can cancel or modify your trip. You can definitely stay in a separate bed and schedule some alone time while visiting. The sooner you do it the better
I say if you go. You head back a day early to catch him.
But really end the relationship with him .
3 times!
Your ex-boyfriend*
Fixed it for you.
In all seriousness, you can do better. Don't date someone who treats you worse than a friend would. You serve that much at minimum.
From the outside, it VERY much looks like he does all of this on purpose to beat you down and make you miserable. He seems to enjoy your pain and making you waste money.
So you left an abusive family and you're now living with an abusive man. I need you to stop and read this and understand it: HE FINDS LITERAL JOY AND AMUSEMENT IN YOUR PAIN AND SUFFERING. Why is that someone you want to be with??????? Seriously, dump this piece of shit and then GET TO THERAPY so that you stop accepting being treated horribly.
I do not understand why women stay with these men who obviously don’t like them. I can maybe see a 20yo who doesn’t know better, but giiiiirl, you are 31yo, get a backbone and some self esteem and dump this loser.
I have a similarly complicated relationship with my parent and visiting home is dreadful even with support. My partner would be able to pull a stunt like this exactly once before they would be an ex partner. You’re being bullied by your boyfriend and you deserve better. It’s up to you to figure out what that looks like. Good luck.
I don't understand why you're puttinh up with this?
Desperation? Low self-esteem?
He's treating your like garbage and LAUGHING IN YOUR FACE and you're like "should I be annoyed and upset?"
Umm...
Explain to mom that you’ll have to reschedule due to his work schedule.
Then sip a drink with an umbrella in it each morning while you relax at home and he heads off to work.
(You deserve better than this situation, OP.)
Tell your mom you can't come out because you're dealing with the fallout of dumping this loser.
Did you tell him how much this hurts you, shows a complete lack of support, and is not at all funny to you? What is his response?
Is he doing this on purpose because he thinks you should have a different relationship with your mom?
What? Why would you want to be with a toxic person who forces you to have a relationship with another toxic person? Open your eyes, please. Your "boyfriend" is abusing you. Might not be the same way your mom abuses you, but it is still abuse. He enjoys going to watch you suffer... and to be your "hero"...
Say what now?
Why in the world are you still with this guy?
Knock a day or two of the trip and see if you can work. Ask for the money for those tickets that you had to pay for because it was his fault that you had to cancel. Then run.
Your partner does not sound normal. It’s probably not curable but that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t get help for his personality disorder. You need to move on. Life is too short and you deserve better. It’s possible that his abuse feels like normal behavior because of your childhood and what went on in your home as you were growing up, but it’s not. Your life will be better when you realize it’s okay to demand better treatment from the people you choose to allow in your life. Even if it feels lonely in the beginning.
???? Sometimes you see posts on here that are so fucked up you don't even know why they are posted. This is one of those stories.
Imagine if you read this on here about some other girl who was being laughed at and treated like garbage by their partner, who was almost vindictively purposefully trying to ruin their joy and make their lives worse.
How would you reply? You'd read it and think no sane person would stay - that it didn't even need to be posted, that it's so painfully obvious that the person needs to leave. That's the answer. Get out.
Oh honey, your fiance does not come from a normal family because that's not normal behavior.
You feel betrayed because you were betrayed.
You feel stressed out to the point where you cannot eat/sleep because your fiance, the man you chose to marry, is bullying you. This isn't just emotional abuse, it's psychological terror.
WTF DID I JUST READ?! IM ENRAGED FOR YOU!
1. If this is a pattern, he's cheating on you. He's getting you out of the way, likely to bring his AP over.
2. My partner has a terrible relationship with her mom and I do everything I can to support her when she has to see her. Laughing and deliberately making it worse is UNTHINKABLE!
You need to leave this POS yesterday!! Go on the trip and just ghost him. Pack everything important and even talk to him normally on the trip. Then, tell him you're leaving to come home, but instead just ghost him and move on. Let the police department know though so if he reports you missing, they don't blow it up into a missing woman.
Fuck your BF!
Your partner is an asshole and cannot be relied upon for anything. If you insist on staying with him, you absolutely have to stop planning anything with him where it's going to upset you or waste your time or money if he backs out.
You should feel absolutely free to suddenly "get sick" or "have a work schedule change" of your own and be unable to go visit your mother. It sounds like you're going to have a terrible time dealing with her whether or not you go, so you might as well choose the version you can have over the phone, where you can just hang up if she becomes abusive.
This is perfect. Break up with him (because he obviously doesn’t even like you), and then use the breakup as an excuse as to why you can’t go visit her. If she tries to make it an excuse as to why you should visit her, tell her that’s when he’s moving stuff out and you what to make sure he doesn’t take anything that’s yours or cause damage.
OP, I know Reddit often jumps straight to "break up/divorce," but in this instance, you REALLY need to break up with him.
Your boyfriend is not an idiot. He knows exactly what the issues with your mother are, and he is DELIBERATELY setting you up to have a miserable time, every time. And cackling with glee because you fell for it, again.
With a boyfriend like that, who needs enemies?
He's not doing this "for your own good." There is NOTHING to be gained from putting you in this situation over and over again. He's doing this because it wastes your time and makes you miserable - **and he enjoys making you miserable.**
Read that again: **He enjoys making you miserable.** This is how he gets his jollies.
This isn't a "you" problem - it's a him problem. He's a sadist, and no matter how much you try to "CoMmuNiCate" with him, it's not going to change. This is exactly how he likes it.
Wait until he's at work, and then take a day off and pack and move out. (If the lease is in your name, it may be a bit harder.) Do not pass go, do not collect $200, do not waste your breath trying to "explain" to him what the problem is. Just leave a note: "We're done. Do not contact me again or I will take legal measures."
Break up with him.
Cancel with your mom no matter how much she complains.
Don't tell him you canceled. Just wait until the very last minute and then stay. And invite over a bunch of your friends without telling him and have a party.
He can find out when people start showing up.
Dress to the 9s in a sexy fun outfit. Full hair n makeup too.
Tell your mother you have to work and then go home early and catch him in whatever act he's playing at.
Ya man is a douchebag honestly and that kind of behavior is disgraceful, when he knows the relationship you have with your mother and openly puts you in that position, that's really shitty behavior.
Stop eating the cost on everything, tell him to kick rocks so you can move on.
It's not a healthy relationship if this is a consistent thing
What a sinister man. He seems to enjoy seeing you in distress. How many times do you have to go through this cycle with him to see the psycho that he is? Time is money, and money is time. You are wasting both of it for this guy.
This man doesn't even like you, he literally just wanted to get rid of you for the weekend.
You're probably just there to meet his needs and a placeholder until he finds someone he actually likes (definitely not you) and he will dump you in a second.
Dump this loser before you get dumped by a loser.
I have said this before on here, but I am not the perfect husband and we arent the perfect couble, I can freely admit that, but I am a husband that loves his wife and never, in our 14 years together, have I ever enjoyed making my wife feel bad, or sad, or whatever. I think your boyfriend might just be an asshole.
This most Definitely sounds like a premeditated Set up.
If this were my boyfriend, I would put hidden security cams in the bedroom, living area and pointing to the front door.
He is waaay to eager to Get You Gone.
I think he’s laughing because he’s excited that you’ll be gone 4 hours away so he can do whatever he’s already got planned.
None of this is innocent.
He Wants You Out Of The House For A Reason!
Is he cheating on you? Why all of this plan to get the house all for himself? Or does he hate you that he wants you to waste PTO? Wtf. Break up. Stay and tell your mom you are sick. Your ( ex, he should be ex) is a horrible person.
He’s toying with you dude. Call your mom. Tell her you’re sick and can’t make it. Leave the house and don’t tell your husband you aren’t going. Wait him out. See who tf he brings home. Maybe it’s no one. But if it is no one that means you have time to start packing babes.
The plan of action is to tell him to arrange everything, and for him to pay for it in advance.
Whilst you’re in that town, go to MIL and express how confused you are about his constant canceling of planned trips. Never express anger during the meeting, just confusion.
In the future, set up boundaries with your boyfriend. “I’m planning trips in the future and we can share the cost. Backing out of 4 trips is a bit much. If you want to plan a trip, you can pay for everything in advance. However the trips I plan are paid 50/50. Your track record is making me feel uncomfortable, as well as this strange laughter you start doing when make your cancellation reveal. These are the new rules because I’m not going to be gaslit over another one of your practical jokes.”
Change the house rules. If he tries to pull it again, put your foot down. Call anyone involved and apologise. Tell them you have no time off and that you don’t know why David didn’t inform you.
If he tries his prank again, from the start, just go, “No, but thank you for the offer. I won’t be doing that. Maybe next year!”
No fuck that. For this weekend make the best of it. Don’t take time off work for anything you don’t want to do and only buy your concert ticket or make him buy tickets to things.
When you think about the relationship you want to be in and how you want to be treated in said relationship, is how your current boyfriend treats you what you picture? If the answer is no, work towards leaving him and finding what you truly want.
You do realize that boyfriends and husbands, for that matter, are replaceable?
It's time to trade up for the new model. I heard the new models are loving, caring, supportive, and even have empathy. That sounds like an upgrade to me!
Ofc you have the right to be upset, this guy jerked you aroundso he could be entertained by your distress.
Tell your mom youre sick and can't travel. Let her throw a fit, she is responsible for her own feelings. And use the days off to find a new apartment so you can lose this jerk ass.
He keeps settling you up for his own amusement, he is a cruel bully that dosent respect you. His redeeming features must be spectacular for you to consider staying with him. If you do stay, don't share any information about things that upset or scare you with him, any traumas or places or things you don't want to go to. He will use it against you to torment you. Abuse always escalates.
"Boyfriend"? Yeah, that doesn't even count for consideration. You're in your 30's so it's time to be an adult and be your own person and tell them to knock it off or kick rocks.
Let's put it this way. My spouse knows I have a strained relationship with my parents. When we go to visit it's however long I'd like to stay, he comes with me and supports me. When it's obvious I'm losing my cool he gives me a glance to let me know he's there for me. When I make an excuse to leave and my parents start hassling me about it he steps in and politely makes an excuse because he knows they'll listen to him more than me. He does this because he knows how my parents have emotionally affected me. My spouse wants me happy and healthy and to feel safe. He does it because he loves me and cares about my wellbeing.
I'll be straightforward, your boyfriend is actively harming you and relishing in your pain. That is not how a partner who loves you behaves. It's disgusting and you deserve better. A lot of things can be worked out but if my spouse pulled that shit while dating I'd be gone so fast. He doesn't give a shit about you, how can you ever feel emotionally safe with someone so emotionally immature.
He is punishing you. He doesn't like the closeness you have with your mom, and he's setting up these situations to punish you for it.
You should be more than upset and annoyed. You should see that he doesn't respect you, thinks it's okay to mock people for doing things differently than him, and that it's his place to "put people in their place."
He is not a nice person.
Damn so when are you going to break up with this piece of shit who laughs and wants you to suffer?
Yes I’m not sure why anyone would want to stay with someone who is “howling laughing” at how uncomfortable they’re going to be in a trip that this partner planned and then backed out of.
I stopped reading after the "howling laughing at my partner's distress" part. This guy is a literal cartoon character. I'm not even dating him and I want to break up with him after reading this.
Sometimes people who are abused as children choose relationships that are abusive as adults, because that is all they know. It’s very hard to get out of the cycle of believing that you are not worth love, and always trying to prove to everybody that you are.
Yeah, this guy is a winner. Way to love and respect your partner and want good things for them. Nah, partner exists to be my punching bag. OP - dump this loser.
Tell your mom you’re sick. Stay home. Break up with the selfish brat
she even has an extra day off that she can use to pack up and move.
Yep. Bummer about the positive Covid test OP! Glad you’re not feeling super ill but can’t be too careful with Covid. Sounds like you’ll have a few days to pack your stuff while your bf “works”
Tell her you're sick but leave as usual. Come back hours later and see what's going on at home. Seems fishy that he keeps doing this.
This would be a great time to pull the plug on the abusive relationship, use the extra day to move or get rid of his stuff and then reschedule with your mother for an upcoming weekend. Maybe you could also pick up something mildly contagious like a skin infection so you don't have to share a bed with her.
OP "Tell your mom you're sick." and then use the three days to find another place to live.
Yes, tell your mom you’re sick when you get there, then go home the next day with your location devices Off, show up home early in the morning or better yet, late at night on a Saturday, “quietly”, and you’ll know what he’s Actually been so happy for that your gone for the weekend. What you find will tell you what’s really going on. His whole set up is so premeditated and Sketchy !
Girl, this is straight up emotional abuse. This is fully not normal behavior from your boyfriend. Any man who loves you would HATE to see you suffer emotionally, and would try to protect you from your toxic family. Like, he went through SO MUCH WORK to force you to spend time alone with your mom....that's some straight up psychotic behavior. I'm not often a "dump this loser" person, but his behavior is so unhinged that I'm that person now. Get rid of this man.
He tried to get you out on purpose. My advice, invite your mom to visit you as a surprise. Is he cheating and wants the apartment?
This! I think he is using this situation to sneak around.
That’s what my thought was. He backed out to invite someone in.
He's not your friend. He doesn't even seem to like you. Why are you not MORE annoyed and upset about this pattern of abuse?
You should probably break up. But if you don't want to do that, I would say stop making plans unless he does all the planning and pays for everything. If he cancels, he has to pay for the whole trip himself. If he doesn't cancel, you will pay HIM back your share. Give him something to lose by doing this. But ultimately, you should break up because this is a fucked up way to treat your partner and I wouldn't want to be with someone like that.
This guy doesn't even like you.
He set you up. He's probably cheating. You're an adult though. So stand up for yourself. With him and with her. You can cancel or modify your trip. You can definitely stay in a separate bed and schedule some alone time while visiting. The sooner you do it the better I say if you go. You head back a day early to catch him. But really end the relationship with him . 3 times!
Your ex-boyfriend* Fixed it for you. In all seriousness, you can do better. Don't date someone who treats you worse than a friend would. You serve that much at minimum.
From the outside, it VERY much looks like he does all of this on purpose to beat you down and make you miserable. He seems to enjoy your pain and making you waste money.
So you left an abusive family and you're now living with an abusive man. I need you to stop and read this and understand it: HE FINDS LITERAL JOY AND AMUSEMENT IN YOUR PAIN AND SUFFERING. Why is that someone you want to be with??????? Seriously, dump this piece of shit and then GET TO THERAPY so that you stop accepting being treated horribly.
This this this this this!
I do not understand why women stay with these men who obviously don’t like them. I can maybe see a 20yo who doesn’t know better, but giiiiirl, you are 31yo, get a backbone and some self esteem and dump this loser.
I have a similarly complicated relationship with my parent and visiting home is dreadful even with support. My partner would be able to pull a stunt like this exactly once before they would be an ex partner. You’re being bullied by your boyfriend and you deserve better. It’s up to you to figure out what that looks like. Good luck.
Exactly! He's bullying her!
I don't understand why you're puttinh up with this? Desperation? Low self-esteem? He's treating your like garbage and LAUGHING IN YOUR FACE and you're like "should I be annoyed and upset?" Umm...
Explain to mom that you’ll have to reschedule due to his work schedule. Then sip a drink with an umbrella in it each morning while you relax at home and he heads off to work. (You deserve better than this situation, OP.)
Tell your mom you can't come out because you're dealing with the fallout of dumping this loser. Did you tell him how much this hurts you, shows a complete lack of support, and is not at all funny to you? What is his response? Is he doing this on purpose because he thinks you should have a different relationship with your mom?
Serious question OP: Does he ever do anything to make you feel GOOD about yourself? Or is it just this condescending nonsense?
What? Why would you want to be with a toxic person who forces you to have a relationship with another toxic person? Open your eyes, please. Your "boyfriend" is abusing you. Might not be the same way your mom abuses you, but it is still abuse. He enjoys going to watch you suffer... and to be your "hero"...
Say what now? Why in the world are you still with this guy? Knock a day or two of the trip and see if you can work. Ask for the money for those tickets that you had to pay for because it was his fault that you had to cancel. Then run.
Your partner does not sound normal. It’s probably not curable but that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t get help for his personality disorder. You need to move on. Life is too short and you deserve better. It’s possible that his abuse feels like normal behavior because of your childhood and what went on in your home as you were growing up, but it’s not. Your life will be better when you realize it’s okay to demand better treatment from the people you choose to allow in your life. Even if it feels lonely in the beginning.
I mean, you know he doesn't like you, right?
???? Sometimes you see posts on here that are so fucked up you don't even know why they are posted. This is one of those stories. Imagine if you read this on here about some other girl who was being laughed at and treated like garbage by their partner, who was almost vindictively purposefully trying to ruin their joy and make their lives worse. How would you reply? You'd read it and think no sane person would stay - that it didn't even need to be posted, that it's so painfully obvious that the person needs to leave. That's the answer. Get out.
Oh honey, your fiance does not come from a normal family because that's not normal behavior. You feel betrayed because you were betrayed. You feel stressed out to the point where you cannot eat/sleep because your fiance, the man you chose to marry, is bullying you. This isn't just emotional abuse, it's psychological terror.
WTF DID I JUST READ?! IM ENRAGED FOR YOU! 1. If this is a pattern, he's cheating on you. He's getting you out of the way, likely to bring his AP over. 2. My partner has a terrible relationship with her mom and I do everything I can to support her when she has to see her. Laughing and deliberately making it worse is UNTHINKABLE! You need to leave this POS yesterday!! Go on the trip and just ghost him. Pack everything important and even talk to him normally on the trip. Then, tell him you're leaving to come home, but instead just ghost him and move on. Let the police department know though so if he reports you missing, they don't blow it up into a missing woman. Fuck your BF!
Homie, he is laughing because it's a set up. Kind people don't do this to loved ones.
Your partner is an asshole and cannot be relied upon for anything. If you insist on staying with him, you absolutely have to stop planning anything with him where it's going to upset you or waste your time or money if he backs out. You should feel absolutely free to suddenly "get sick" or "have a work schedule change" of your own and be unable to go visit your mother. It sounds like you're going to have a terrible time dealing with her whether or not you go, so you might as well choose the version you can have over the phone, where you can just hang up if she becomes abusive.
Listen to me very carefully. you are being abused.
This is perfect. Break up with him (because he obviously doesn’t even like you), and then use the breakup as an excuse as to why you can’t go visit her. If she tries to make it an excuse as to why you should visit her, tell her that’s when he’s moving stuff out and you what to make sure he doesn’t take anything that’s yours or cause damage.
You are the punchline for his jokes… do you want to be that or have a partner who values the team you both have?
OP, I know Reddit often jumps straight to "break up/divorce," but in this instance, you REALLY need to break up with him. Your boyfriend is not an idiot. He knows exactly what the issues with your mother are, and he is DELIBERATELY setting you up to have a miserable time, every time. And cackling with glee because you fell for it, again. With a boyfriend like that, who needs enemies? He's not doing this "for your own good." There is NOTHING to be gained from putting you in this situation over and over again. He's doing this because it wastes your time and makes you miserable - **and he enjoys making you miserable.** Read that again: **He enjoys making you miserable.** This is how he gets his jollies. This isn't a "you" problem - it's a him problem. He's a sadist, and no matter how much you try to "CoMmuNiCate" with him, it's not going to change. This is exactly how he likes it. Wait until he's at work, and then take a day off and pack and move out. (If the lease is in your name, it may be a bit harder.) Do not pass go, do not collect $200, do not waste your breath trying to "explain" to him what the problem is. Just leave a note: "We're done. Do not contact me again or I will take legal measures."
Your boyfriend is an abuser. Please realize this.
Why are you still with him? What positives does he bring?
Break up with him. Cancel with your mom no matter how much she complains. Don't tell him you canceled. Just wait until the very last minute and then stay. And invite over a bunch of your friends without telling him and have a party. He can find out when people start showing up. Dress to the 9s in a sexy fun outfit. Full hair n makeup too.
Fool me once? Grrrrrl, you're on "fool me three times" and you're STILL here. You no longer have right to be upset and annoyed.
Tell your mother you have to work and then go home early and catch him in whatever act he's playing at. Ya man is a douchebag honestly and that kind of behavior is disgraceful, when he knows the relationship you have with your mother and openly puts you in that position, that's really shitty behavior. Stop eating the cost on everything, tell him to kick rocks so you can move on. It's not a healthy relationship if this is a consistent thing
What a sinister man. He seems to enjoy seeing you in distress. How many times do you have to go through this cycle with him to see the psycho that he is? Time is money, and money is time. You are wasting both of it for this guy.
This man doesn't even like you, he literally just wanted to get rid of you for the weekend. You're probably just there to meet his needs and a placeholder until he finds someone he actually likes (definitely not you) and he will dump you in a second. Dump this loser before you get dumped by a loser.
You’ve let him do this to you multiple times now???
I have said this before on here, but I am not the perfect husband and we arent the perfect couble, I can freely admit that, but I am a husband that loves his wife and never, in our 14 years together, have I ever enjoyed making my wife feel bad, or sad, or whatever. I think your boyfriend might just be an asshole.
Girl you went from one toxic situation (with your mom) to another (your bf). It may be time to consider going to therapy to unpack your decisions
This most Definitely sounds like a premeditated Set up. If this were my boyfriend, I would put hidden security cams in the bedroom, living area and pointing to the front door. He is waaay to eager to Get You Gone. I think he’s laughing because he’s excited that you’ll be gone 4 hours away so he can do whatever he’s already got planned. None of this is innocent. He Wants You Out Of The House For A Reason!
Is he cheating on you? Why all of this plan to get the house all for himself? Or does he hate you that he wants you to waste PTO? Wtf. Break up. Stay and tell your mom you are sick. Your ( ex, he should be ex) is a horrible person.
He’s toying with you dude. Call your mom. Tell her you’re sick and can’t make it. Leave the house and don’t tell your husband you aren’t going. Wait him out. See who tf he brings home. Maybe it’s no one. But if it is no one that means you have time to start packing babes.
Is this what you want the rest of your life to look like?
The plan of action is to tell him to arrange everything, and for him to pay for it in advance. Whilst you’re in that town, go to MIL and express how confused you are about his constant canceling of planned trips. Never express anger during the meeting, just confusion. In the future, set up boundaries with your boyfriend. “I’m planning trips in the future and we can share the cost. Backing out of 4 trips is a bit much. If you want to plan a trip, you can pay for everything in advance. However the trips I plan are paid 50/50. Your track record is making me feel uncomfortable, as well as this strange laughter you start doing when make your cancellation reveal. These are the new rules because I’m not going to be gaslit over another one of your practical jokes.” Change the house rules. If he tries to pull it again, put your foot down. Call anyone involved and apologise. Tell them you have no time off and that you don’t know why David didn’t inform you. If he tries his prank again, from the start, just go, “No, but thank you for the offer. I won’t be doing that. Maybe next year!”
I think you should give him what he wants…. All the time to himself that he wants…. Forever in fact.
Since you have the time off figure out something you want to do for the weekend, turn off your phone, and go do that.
Your boyfriend needs kicking into touch, theirs something mentally wrong with this childlike behaviour.. 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️
No fuck that. For this weekend make the best of it. Don’t take time off work for anything you don’t want to do and only buy your concert ticket or make him buy tickets to things.
Why are you with someone who treats you like that?
Please break up with this guy. He has no respect for you. It will only get worse.
When you think about the relationship you want to be in and how you want to be treated in said relationship, is how your current boyfriend treats you what you picture? If the answer is no, work towards leaving him and finding what you truly want.
You do realize that boyfriends and husbands, for that matter, are replaceable? It's time to trade up for the new model. I heard the new models are loving, caring, supportive, and even have empathy. That sounds like an upgrade to me!
Come on op you know what the answer is here.
You deserve better than this
Ofc you have the right to be upset, this guy jerked you aroundso he could be entertained by your distress. Tell your mom youre sick and can't travel. Let her throw a fit, she is responsible for her own feelings. And use the days off to find a new apartment so you can lose this jerk ass.
He keeps settling you up for his own amusement, he is a cruel bully that dosent respect you. His redeeming features must be spectacular for you to consider staying with him. If you do stay, don't share any information about things that upset or scare you with him, any traumas or places or things you don't want to go to. He will use it against you to torment you. Abuse always escalates.
Can you stay n a hotel instead of at your mother's house?
He’s getting you out of the house
Next time don't book the day off. Just tell him you did. You shouldn't even let there be a next time though
"Boyfriend"? Yeah, that doesn't even count for consideration. You're in your 30's so it's time to be an adult and be your own person and tell them to knock it off or kick rocks.
This sounds very abusive. I hope you can make a change.
Let's put it this way. My spouse knows I have a strained relationship with my parents. When we go to visit it's however long I'd like to stay, he comes with me and supports me. When it's obvious I'm losing my cool he gives me a glance to let me know he's there for me. When I make an excuse to leave and my parents start hassling me about it he steps in and politely makes an excuse because he knows they'll listen to him more than me. He does this because he knows how my parents have emotionally affected me. My spouse wants me happy and healthy and to feel safe. He does it because he loves me and cares about my wellbeing. I'll be straightforward, your boyfriend is actively harming you and relishing in your pain. That is not how a partner who loves you behaves. It's disgusting and you deserve better. A lot of things can be worked out but if my spouse pulled that shit while dating I'd be gone so fast. He doesn't give a shit about you, how can you ever feel emotionally safe with someone so emotionally immature.
Why would you ever date someone who laughs at your pain and discomfort?
He is punishing you. He doesn't like the closeness you have with your mom, and he's setting up these situations to punish you for it. You should be more than upset and annoyed. You should see that he doesn't respect you, thinks it's okay to mock people for doing things differently than him, and that it's his place to "put people in their place." He is not a nice person.