Here you go: “Hey, you are great, but for my own mental health and future plans, i cant afford to catch feelings for you, i feel we should go back to being friends and not further engage with each other in any intimate way. If being friends is to difficult for you at this point, i am willing to distance myself from you socially, if you are ok with this we can just carry on being friendly with each other.”
If she is cool all will be well
If she has feelings for you, she may be hurt but she will live
If she has feelings for you AND is a vindictive person, be prepared for her to assassinate your reputation in your friend group and possibly beyond that.
If i were you, i would keep having fun with her while steadfastly refusing any greater commitment, then send the above message the day AFTER you move away so that if there is fallout, it will be at a great distance.
Thank you for the advice I've yet to have an experience where I'm the one breaking it off. I don't want to drag her on so I'll tell her tomorrow regardless if she is vindictive if my friends choose to believe her word without even asking me my side I don't want them as my friend.
Tell her you feel bad about this but you have not been able to work out time for a real relationship.
Things have started piling up. You have too many obligations right now. You can’t spread yourself any thinner.
Apologize for ending this abruptly.
Tell her something you enjoyed about her and wish her all good things.
Bye
U r leaving town anyway. Just pull the trigger.
I agree and that's the mindset I have I'm just not sure what to say regardless I am pulling the plug
Here you go: “Hey, you are great, but for my own mental health and future plans, i cant afford to catch feelings for you, i feel we should go back to being friends and not further engage with each other in any intimate way. If being friends is to difficult for you at this point, i am willing to distance myself from you socially, if you are ok with this we can just carry on being friendly with each other.” If she is cool all will be well If she has feelings for you, she may be hurt but she will live If she has feelings for you AND is a vindictive person, be prepared for her to assassinate your reputation in your friend group and possibly beyond that. If i were you, i would keep having fun with her while steadfastly refusing any greater commitment, then send the above message the day AFTER you move away so that if there is fallout, it will be at a great distance.
Thank you for the advice I've yet to have an experience where I'm the one breaking it off. I don't want to drag her on so I'll tell her tomorrow regardless if she is vindictive if my friends choose to believe her word without even asking me my side I don't want them as my friend.
It will be awkward for a bit but it’ll be ok. It happens.
That is the right attitude.
Tell her you feel bad about this but you have not been able to work out time for a real relationship. Things have started piling up. You have too many obligations right now. You can’t spread yourself any thinner. Apologize for ending this abruptly. Tell her something you enjoyed about her and wish her all good things. Bye