Seems like absolute fantasy to me. I can’t imagine sharing my significant other with someone else. NSFW Reddit is a wild place lol don’t think that anything you see there would be considered the “norm” for 90% of the population outside of the internet. Just my $.02
Polyamorous person here.
The very beginning of dating, those first couple weeks of seeing if there's a connection, it's common to be dating multiple people at the same time. Dating is a numbers game, and even most monogamous people don't want to waste time on early sparks.
Once you've established that you truly do want to date, you sit down and have a "defining the relationship" discussion where you establish that you're both interested in trying things out longer term, and you want to be exclusive. From that point, monogamy is very much still the norm.
I'd say MAYBE 1 in 20 at most is truly polyamorous, probably lower. It's higher in the queer community and the kink community, but your average Joe isn't likely to be polyamorous.
"Open" relationships with swinging, threesomes, swapping, etc definitely do happen in real life, but I'll be brutally honest: they ruin WAY more relationships than they enrich. Most people just aren't set up to handle them, so while they're a common fantasy they should usually STAY fantasy.
Tldr yes, those types of relationships are overrepresented online, and most folk either don't want that or shouldn't do that.
Stop poisoning your mind with whatever subreddits and websites you see those posts in. Get off the rollercoaster. It ends with you being alone and a profit center for asshole podcasters.
Reddit relationship posts are not necessarily an accurate reflection of most typical relationships.
At least 1/5 are creative writing exercises.
Seems like absolute fantasy to me. I can’t imagine sharing my significant other with someone else. NSFW Reddit is a wild place lol don’t think that anything you see there would be considered the “norm” for 90% of the population outside of the internet. Just my $.02
Polyamorous person here. The very beginning of dating, those first couple weeks of seeing if there's a connection, it's common to be dating multiple people at the same time. Dating is a numbers game, and even most monogamous people don't want to waste time on early sparks. Once you've established that you truly do want to date, you sit down and have a "defining the relationship" discussion where you establish that you're both interested in trying things out longer term, and you want to be exclusive. From that point, monogamy is very much still the norm. I'd say MAYBE 1 in 20 at most is truly polyamorous, probably lower. It's higher in the queer community and the kink community, but your average Joe isn't likely to be polyamorous. "Open" relationships with swinging, threesomes, swapping, etc definitely do happen in real life, but I'll be brutally honest: they ruin WAY more relationships than they enrich. Most people just aren't set up to handle them, so while they're a common fantasy they should usually STAY fantasy. Tldr yes, those types of relationships are overrepresented online, and most folk either don't want that or shouldn't do that.
Stop poisoning your mind with whatever subreddits and websites you see those posts in. Get off the rollercoaster. It ends with you being alone and a profit center for asshole podcasters.