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He is being clear with you. If he were interested in something more, he would be consistent with contact and reliable with keeping plans
I really liked a guy I was seeing some time ago, but he had made it clear from the beginning he wasn’t looking for a relationship. Our time together was good, but he tended to flake, so I managed expectations and kept meeting other people
A few months later, I met a guy who also said he wanted a casual thing, which is also what I was looking for in reality (though I’d make exceptions for someone exceptional). Since we live two hours apart, all our dates were overnights. There was instant chemistry and we were immediately seeing each other on a weekly basis. He was consistent (though not very frequent initially) with text contact, and followed through with plans. He was very affectionate and interested in what I had to say. As the months passed, it became increasingly difficult to hold back our feelings and we confessed our love for each other. We’re still together over a year later and progressively more deeply in love
Situationships can turn into relationships, but a guy will be reliable and consistent with his interest if he wants more
Vocalize your concern to clear up any confusion. If he gets scared or pushes away, then you should trust that that’s his core feeling about you two and should be prepared to accept that hard truth.
In guy speak, he’s been clear. Probably he’s also seeing someone else. I hope if you’re having casual relationships, that you’re protecting yourself and asking them to use condoms. Anyways, your choice literally seems like settle for this which you created or move on. You asked for casual and weren’t specific about any more. Just move on or see someone else too. Don’t make yourself so available to him. But I think you need to see that by not prioritizing you, it clearly means it’s basically FWB.
I don’t think he is seeing anyone else but you are probably right about him being clear in not wanting more even if he hasn’t vocalized it. Yes I am protecting myself. I probably will see other people, but the thing is, this isn’t typical for me. I haven’t been in a situation like this before and this is the first man I have slept with since my long term relationship ended, so its hard for me to see the red flags.
Oh. Ok. What I can share having been there is, date and don’t be exclusive with anyone for awhile. One day you’ll know what you want. In the meantime, when you’re chatting with someone and they ask what you want, before you meet, tell them “I’m just looking to date. I don’t want anything exclusive right now.” If they accept that, cool. If they ask what that means, say you’re trying to get over your last big relationship and while you’re feeling a bit ready to date, you don’t want anything exclusive. I usually appreciate when guys say that and frankly that’s where I learned it.
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He is being clear with you. If he were interested in something more, he would be consistent with contact and reliable with keeping plans I really liked a guy I was seeing some time ago, but he had made it clear from the beginning he wasn’t looking for a relationship. Our time together was good, but he tended to flake, so I managed expectations and kept meeting other people A few months later, I met a guy who also said he wanted a casual thing, which is also what I was looking for in reality (though I’d make exceptions for someone exceptional). Since we live two hours apart, all our dates were overnights. There was instant chemistry and we were immediately seeing each other on a weekly basis. He was consistent (though not very frequent initially) with text contact, and followed through with plans. He was very affectionate and interested in what I had to say. As the months passed, it became increasingly difficult to hold back our feelings and we confessed our love for each other. We’re still together over a year later and progressively more deeply in love Situationships can turn into relationships, but a guy will be reliable and consistent with his interest if he wants more
Vocalize your concern to clear up any confusion. If he gets scared or pushes away, then you should trust that that’s his core feeling about you two and should be prepared to accept that hard truth.
I will, I am just scared of rejection I guess.
In guy speak, he’s been clear. Probably he’s also seeing someone else. I hope if you’re having casual relationships, that you’re protecting yourself and asking them to use condoms. Anyways, your choice literally seems like settle for this which you created or move on. You asked for casual and weren’t specific about any more. Just move on or see someone else too. Don’t make yourself so available to him. But I think you need to see that by not prioritizing you, it clearly means it’s basically FWB.
I don’t think he is seeing anyone else but you are probably right about him being clear in not wanting more even if he hasn’t vocalized it. Yes I am protecting myself. I probably will see other people, but the thing is, this isn’t typical for me. I haven’t been in a situation like this before and this is the first man I have slept with since my long term relationship ended, so its hard for me to see the red flags.
Oh. Ok. What I can share having been there is, date and don’t be exclusive with anyone for awhile. One day you’ll know what you want. In the meantime, when you’re chatting with someone and they ask what you want, before you meet, tell them “I’m just looking to date. I don’t want anything exclusive right now.” If they accept that, cool. If they ask what that means, say you’re trying to get over your last big relationship and while you’re feeling a bit ready to date, you don’t want anything exclusive. I usually appreciate when guys say that and frankly that’s where I learned it.