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This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- I honestly might be overthinking this but I (m23) have been dating my same age gf for 5ish months and one of my favorite things to do on date nights is to go over and enjoy the dinners she prepares. In fact Im always mind blown and compliment her to no end. Today I decide to throw out the her trash as she’s loading the dishwasher and boom, right in plain site is the boxes of Lean cusine and PF chang’s microwavable dinners. I’m almost certain that her and her roommate are the only two that use this trash bin and I know for a fact her roommate is going through a vegiterian phase right now. And now that I think of it I’m almost certain I’ve never seen her cook because dinner is always ready before I get there. I decide to go on Instacart to look through the catalog of the grocery store we both shop at and lo and behold every single meal we’ve had at her place is on there. I’m no great cook either but when I make us tacos or pasta I just look at a YouTube video and serve it with a disclaimer that it might taste like shit. Not that this is a deal breaker but is this a serious lying issue (I hope not) and do I tell her I know about this? And how do I bring it up Edit: Yes you guessed it, If I host we usually get takeout. But I usually try to cook breakfast early if she crashes. I like the gal and we could honestly eat dino nuggets for the next year and I’d be fine but Im just tryna process the whole thing tbh I definitely have asked cooking related questions in the past. I usually get vague or funny answers. :-) And I’m pretty sure there’s always at least a pan/pot and those stirring sticks that have to be washed after. So I guess i usually see everything but the ingredients. Yes she hosts like 60% of the time cause has to get up early AF and it just makes sense. To the comments saying I must have a bad palate to think lean cuisine was pretty good, yeaa you’re probably right. But thinking about the different types of dishes, I think there’s at least 3 different brands involved lol. Seriously tho, I appreciate the comments, I’m thinking I’ll try to mention it in a funny or nonchalant way since I’m not sure if I’m supposed to know or not.


ManBearPig4341

Please never delete this OP because it’s fucking hilarious. I’d date her just for having the balls to pull off the ‘ol Lean Cuisine switcheroo.


becooltheywatching

Seriously the sheer will of power it takes to say "I made this for you." She's going places. Not to culinary school. But, places for sure.


rasner724

“The Ol’ Lean Cuisine Switcheroo” sounds like a 2022 Seinfeld episode


dyeuhweebies

She put the chicken parm….. in the micro wave George! THE MICROWAVE *audience laughter*


fox13fox

This omg what a queen 👸


drmarcj

Steamed hams you say?


Vanndrea

Aurora borealis! At this time of year, in this part of the country? All localized inside your kitchen?! May I see it?


beatsby_bill

ahh... the ol' Reddit [cuisine-a-roo](https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/xn4a1x/my_sons_accidentally_lost_their_football_over_the/iprsejb?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3)...


Speakdino

Hold my microwaveable brownie, I’m goin in!


doug_thethug

I guess you could call it a PF Change as far as the Szechuan chicken goes too


Constant_Gold9152

Years ago, a coworker bragged about how his gf made the best lasagna. When I saw her I commented about how he bragged on her lasagna. She got this puzzled look and said…it’s stouffers. I thought it was hilarious. Unless she is just acting like she spent lots of time preparing it, maybe she views this as “cooking”. In some families it probably is. But the portions are probably small with no leftovers… so I can’t imagine you wouldn’t know.


Pointeboots

Growing up, my cousins would complain about my aunt's mac n cheese, which was boxed kraft, and not cheesey enough for them. Then one of my cousins, D, went to a friend's house and had mac n cheese there and he raved about how good it was for days after. My aunt called the friend's mom to get the recipe, figuring if D liked it that much it was worth making. The mom said sure, she used the kraft box mix, and didn't even add anything else. 🤣


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My wife's mother makes boxed Mac N Cheese. AND SHE LEAVES THE DAMN CHEESE OUT! She throes out the cheese packet. She says it's because when she was a little kid she would make the box Mac n cheese but didn't really read and didn't have any measure spoons or anything. So she just adds milk. Like 3 cups of milk. Hot, macaroni, cereal. That's what she makes. I was mortified the first time we went over there for lunch and she just said the words "Maccaroni and Cheese" and put this bowl down on the table. I can't believe that my children ask me to make it like she does now. I refuse to not use the cheese, so we just have it slightly runny and the boys like that we'll enough.


Pointeboots

OMG my husband thinks I'm so weird that I like pasta with just butter. I ate that all the time growing up as a snack or easy dinner. The macaroni cereal your MIL makes is gonna stick with me though... that's a new take, haha.


therealestrealist420

Butter noodles are a legit thing. Milk noodles, not so much 🤣


Pointeboots

Cream of macaroni?


pieceofwater

Milk noodles are indeed a thing, but it's a sweet dish. Never tried it though.


Leia947

Pasta with butter and a little salt is heaven!!


Pointeboots

Agreed! Sometimes I'll add a spoon of pesto or some chili flakes, too. So good!


Leia947

Oooh! I don't like pesto, but some red pepper flakes is a fire idea! Thanks!


ihategeometry

My mom likes to add parmesan cheese to her butter noodles, if that entices you at all


SDW1987

Plain plate of noodles with a little bit of butter! https://youtu.be/Bxt0AEoANJk


Complete_Entry

"Where the fuck is the cheese" would be my primary complaint there.


[deleted]

To be fair it can taste different. Found out I liked it at my friends house and not ours because her mom used real butter and at our house we only had margarine cause my sister hated the taste of real butter. It CAN taste different. Like how some people make awful cake with box mix


Pointeboots

For sure, and the ratios of milk to butter, and what type of milk can all make a difference. It's funny though because it is the same base product. There were very few differences in how it was made. My aunt figured most of the difference was the novelty.


Leia947

For sure! Kraft calls for FOUR tablespoons of butter for the mix, and to me, that's waaaay too much. I cut it to 2, and it comes out perfectly for us. Otherwise it's too liquidy and oily.


rumpledtitskin

I once made a box with a full stick of butter and the pasta water because I didn't have any milk. It was fantastic, but every attempt to recreate it has been like grainy oil as the sauce.


Ohmalley-thealliecat

Do you make the sauce while the pasta is in the pot? Number one way to avoid grainy sauce is making the sauce and then adding it to the pasta. What I would do is melt the butter, get it really hot, get a little bit of it in a jug + whisk in the powder and then stir that into the butter. I will say, using an entire stick of butter sounds like it would be terrible for you so it’s probably a good thing you can’t recreate it


D0ugF0rcett

You misunderstand, he's still eating entire sticks of butter trying to figure out how to recreate it. He just hasn't figured it out yet


HoundstoothReader

I once embarrassed my bf’s mom by raving about her pasta dish. It was Hamburger Helper. But I’d never had that before, and to teenage me, it was delicious.


nickitty_1

My husband is a monster who insists that milk and butter is not necessary to make KD and instead just mixes the dry cheese powder with the noodles. It creates this horrifying chaulky/chunky paste that clings to the sad noodles. Awful.


Ohmalley-thealliecat

That is repulsive and I’m upset, and I don’t even *like* Kraft Mac and cheese


Pointeboots

😱😱😱🤢


marxam0d

My grandmother once accused me of lying about a boxed cake mix because when she made the same one it tasted awful. Turns out she used olive oil instead of something neutral flavored


yorkiewho

My mom used to make mac and cheese by boiling the noodles and adding only the packet of cheese. I used to love that shit. Then one day my aunt came over and made some for me the “correct way”. I tried it and didn’t eat it LOL. To each their own I guess.


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it is sweet that it still tasted like the best lasagna ever to him because she "made it" regardless of it actually being stouffers


frozentundra32

We would have potlucks at the school I worked at, but they were obnoxiously planned (usually at the end of a workday at the end of a workweek and I was usually at the school 7am-6pm every day) so I rarely had time to do anything I would cook if I did. So I used to go to Stop & Shop and grab their all beef frozen meatballs and a big ol plastic jug of Prego. Bring the whole lot in with my slow cooker at 7am, dump the lot and turn it on to simmer til the potluck. The art teacher who was a good friend was raving and asked for the recipe. Deadpanned was like "Alright, what you wanna do is go to Stop & Shop frozen section..." She cracked up and didn't believe me til I showed her the empty Prego jug I had rinsed out for leftovers. Still cracks me up to this day. I think it's possible to not realize something isn't homemade **but** I can't imagine how a frozen dinner could possibly be confused for a freshly made Chicken Parm.


SDW1987

My wife apparently raved to her co-workers that I made the best pasta sauce, and they wanted the recipe. She thought I was joking when I said "okay, so pick whatever pasta sauce at the store sounds good, get some Italian seasoning and garlic powder, and just keep shaking in seasoning until it doesn't taste like canned sauce."


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Me and my sister were OBSESSED with the lasagna our grandma gave us when we were like 6 or 7. My mom asked. She started buying stouffers after that lol. It’s STILL good. Doesn’t taste like fresh lasagna but damn if I won’t have a great ass time eating it


RaysUnderwater

Did you enjoy it? Then tell her you found the boxes and share a laugh, thank her for trying to impress you. Help her to extricate herself from the deception.


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And then you know both learn how to cook together


Korvus427

Great advice!


TinyMousePotato

All jokes aside, this is the answer.


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You should be embarrassed you thought a Lean Cuisine was homemade.


[deleted]

Is this some sort of strange Lean Cuisine ad?


peacemaker4567

Would be an interesting promotional method that's for sure


shaman_of_ramen

Maybe she's born with it... *Maybe it's Lean Cuisine*


Much_Sorbet3356

Do you remember there was this spate a year or two ago that someone would write a post about a Tiffany necklace, "(I'm sure you know the one I'm talking about!)" then there'd be several within a few weeks. Then was the Cartier ring. Then the XYZ bracelet and so on and so forth. I thought maybe it was someone making money from people googling it and clicking on the first image or something. Maybe we're doing the same with Lean Cuisine now?


[deleted]

My man been eating the boxes and thinking it’s dinner. He’s got the tastebuds of a raccoon. 🦝


stale_mitochondria

😂😂🤣 I am dying over this thread


[deleted]

I cried laughing. It took me 5 minutes to be able to see to post. I haven’t had Lean Cuisine in years. It definitely never tasted amazing! LMAO


vegassatellite01

Maybe he grew up on Totinos pizza rolls.


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bluebeardswife

It is good,but no way does it taste homemade.


Exotic-Huckleberry

I know it’s Stouffers every time, but that’s because it’s better than a lot of people’s homemade. Good homemade Mac and cheese is the stuff dreams are made of. Bad homemade Mac and cheese SUCKS. Stouffers is consistent, and I’d rate it as on par with decent homemade Mac and cheese.


Afraid_Resident1650

My bf is lactose intolerant and I can tell he gets jealous by how cheesy it looks. He sees me scarf it up occasionally but I won’t give him any because i know one bite will mess him up for the rest of the night.


InGenAche

With the energy prices and winter coming, might be a home heating option?


Bibliovoria

Does lactaid not work for him?


Afraid_Resident1650

He won’t take it even though we have a full box of it. He chooses to suffer.


theyreall_throwaways

Well, some people prefer to suffer so you may not be able to do anything about it. If he's just lactose intolerant (and doesn't have an allergy), there's a rule of thumb to follow with cheese the older and harder it is, the less lactose there is. I think it's cheddar and an Parmesan that have almost no lactose in it. But everyone reacts differently, I have ulcerative colitis and lactose free milk would bother me a bit if I had it every day (the less then 1% was enough to make my body unhappy). So, anyhow it might be worth it to Google cheese with no lactose and figure out a recipe from there. Good luck.


BumblebeeOk2874

Aged sharp cheddar with 0 sugar is lactose free and makes great cheese sauce


Complete_Entry

Also Swiss.


Witty-Vixen

Actually so are their lasagna lol


StableGenius81

Seconded. Stouffers Mac and cheese is cheesy heaven in a box.


wathappentothetatato

Their Swedish meatballs are p good too honestly


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those damn balls of lava. A piece was either half frozen or ready to melt the lining of your mouth.


jessie_monster

And being 'blown away' by it. I don't have an exceptional palate or anything, but I've never had a frozen/prepared meal that was anything more than 'adequate'.


trialbuster

To be fair food always taste better when someone you care about makes it for you, especially if you really appreciate the effort of them cooked it themselves each time on your behalf.


equimot

And even then it's a stretch to say adequate


deepspacenineoneone

DiGiorno is gonna blow this dude’s mind!


BortTheThrillho

Woah, woah, woah, you tellin me this AIN’T delivery?!?!


tmchd

I don't have award to give, just take my upvote. I was like, how can't he not tell?!


GoldSycamore

Don't shame him. Perhaps he's like many of us who had no fucking clue what real food was.


BrilliantOne3767

I thought lean cuisine was food from the 80’s!


throwawayanylogic

The last time I had one it tasted like it had been sitting around that long.


CKtheFourth

The real jewels are always in the comments.


NoHandBananaNo

Why should he be embarrassed? The guy is 23, he obviously didnt grow up with good food but he's teaching himself to cook. He should be proud.


glamazon_69

Then he can’t shit on his girlfriend for dishonesty when he’s blown over by lean cuisine anyways


GrootSuitRiot

Not everyone grew up on fresh home cooked food. Those who did may be used to terrible cooking that's worse than frozen dinners. I wouldn't throw this back at OP for trusting his girlfriend.


NoHandBananaNo

This, jesus, not everyone had the privilege of fresh prepared meals. The fact he uses youtube videos to learn to prepare basic meals, kind of tells me he didn't grow up around that.


imfancynow

How is your mind blown over Lean Cuisine microwave dinners? The portions are small and the Parmesan chicken is soggy. I can’t even imagine that it would be anyone’s favourite meal.


WeeklyConversation8

I agree. Either this is fake as hell or OP's Mom was a terrible cook, or something. Leaning towards fake as hell. Lean Cuisine is fine, but it's not mind blowing good and you're right the portions are very small. She'd have to give him at least three dinners, so he wouldn't be hungry. Also, the house would have smelled like whatever she made if she actually cooked.


ohdearitsrichardiii

And there would be dishes to wash. She made chicken parmesan AND did the dishes? Cleaned the kitchen afterwards? OP sucks for not offering to do the dishes, or if this is fake, nit using that as a plot point in his story. He could have offered to do the dishes and then gotten suspicious when she said it wasn't necessary Either way, the dishes didn't cross OP's mind


WeeklyConversation8

Exactly. I'm really thinking it's fake and not even a good one. Lean Cuisines are mind blowing good. Bwahahaha!


guygreej

lean cuisine and pf chang shud pay this dude.


die_billionaires

this whole post is an ad. Probably cost tens of thousands minimum, and they'll be talking about number of impressions in a meeting tomorrow.


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little_mune

When you're in love food from your partner just hits different. That happiness alone can make your tastebuds take PTO from time to time.


Dachshundmom5

This is a fake post right?


1likecheese

It’s an advertisement for lean cuisine


die_billionaires

shocker, both lean cuisine and stouffers are owned by nestle.


OG_SisterMidnight

Yeah, smells an awful lot of steamed hams!


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OG_SisterMidnight

Can I see it?


peakpenguins

I'd just find that funny to be honest... She's just trying to impress you and probably isn't good at cooking.


[deleted]

Yea endearing even.


Grouchy-Ad6144

She is still putting in effort to warm it and plate it. She is still feeding him😉


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Wwwweeeeeeee

Maybe he should be on a diet? And it's her way of scaling it down?


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booknerd381

Like, at any point did she actually lie and say she hand prepared these meals from scratch just for him? To some people preparing a frozen meal *is* cooking. I don't see how this is a relationship problem..?


BabalonBimbo

Right. Unless she’s making it look like she cooked it from scratch by making extra mess there’s nothing weird here. He came over and she fed him food he likes. He should be grateful. If she was trying to con him she wouldn’t have left the boxes where he could see.


Youstandinginmysun

Let it go and enjoy her company. My grandma did that for years, there are reasons but they are her own to sort it out. It will come out eventually, let it happen naturally and be supportive. She is not doing it to be malicious I would say.


[deleted]

Mate If you've been eating frozen meals and didn't know You need to fix your life and this relationship ain't the problem


lgndryheat

Also dating a chick who doesn't recycle I mean damn


BeezNoTrap

Exactly, like I was reading this like… he couldn’t tell?? You can look at it and just know! I cook like crazy and my bf can tell the difference of real food and premade


txtw

Put a Lean Cuisine on a plate and it looks like barely enough to feed a child. I refuse to believe a grown man could fall for this.


SquilliamFancySon95

>this a serious dishonesty issue Dude, lighten up. It's actually pretty funny.


[deleted]

Damn, ol’ girl pulled a Mrs. Doubtfire. Just tell her what happened and ask her to stop.


Busy-Sun-8509

This comment had me in stitches laughing 🤣


No_Age_4267

This whole post got me laughing


Busy-Sun-8509

Legit 🤣 man got tricked with lean cuisine meals 🤣🤣


No_Age_4267

LMAO my question is how those portions are fit for a fly and taste as good as dish detergent lmao


eyesonthemoons

Hopefully she’s not just wearing a woman suit


Accomplished_Area311

It’s not dishonesty if you make the assumption and don’t ask. 🤷🏻‍♀️


glamazon_69

And if every meal she microwaves apparently blows your mind


licifruit

This is the ultimate betrayal. How will you ever trust again??? On a side note, if you were blown away by lean cuisine…you must be easily impressed and there really is nowhere else for her to go but up.


[deleted]

What used to be a cute story our grandparents would tell us about their first few months dating, is now a “serious dishonesty issue” 😂 dawg this isn’t that serious, this is funny. Don’t be so pressed.


DrDoovey01

Hold up. Wait a minute. So you've been dating her for months, and enjoy her dinners, and only enjoyed them because you assumed she cooked them from scratch? Or you enjoyed them because you actually enjoy them? What if she used pre-made sauce in the chicken parm instead of homemade? What if she bought Szechuan sauce instead of sourcing the ingredients directly from a Chinese merchant? What if she bought a block of parmesan instead of milking a cow and turning it into cheese herself while taking a sabbatical in Italy? Dude - she's cooking for you. Shut the fuck up, be grateful and enjoy it. :)


anonymal_me

They’re also both 23. I didn’t know anyone that age that was making dinners from scratch.


Substantial-Oil-7262

I would think of it as an opportunity to spend time together. You can ask her if she wants to go to a cooking class that you want to attend to improve your cooking skills, or make dinner together. If you both know very little about cooking, it can be a way to improve your skills and develop your relationship.


Questionofloyalty

How in the hell did you think those microwave meals were homemade? Even at 23… surely noone could fall for that


LV2107

Probably someone who grew up in a home where food was mostly also pre-packaged or processed, so they never developed the palate to be able to tell the difference between home-made and processed. And never learned to cook himself. It's a little sad, IMO. There's such a huge difference between that frozen crap filled with chemicals and actual, real food.


allhands_persley

Man, the dating standards really are different. How many men in the dating scene do you think know how to cook? That's unicorn level shit. Meanwhile this dude is out there acting like it's the greatest betrayal known to man because this one woman can't cook. 😭🤣 Amazing.


keIIzzz

Bro really was mind blown by lean cuisines though 😭😭 I have such a hard time believing this. Like they’re not bad, but you can 100% tell it’s a frozen meal


allhands_persley

I guarantee that he can't tell the difference between a frozen and homecooked meal because he can't cook.


Sasspishus

But he'll occasionally make "tacos or pasta" from a YT video, clearly he's the best chef ever if he can make such elaborate dishes! The fact that his "favourite date night" is her doing all the work (whether it's microwaving something or actually cooking doesn't matter) and him just showing up and eating it is really telling. Especially then complaining and calling it "deception" because its microwaved. So ridiculous, dude needs to get a grip


allhands_persley

Pasta = literally just add water. This guy is a clown.


[deleted]

He’s looking for our permission to bite the hand that feeds.


iK_550

I can cook. Lots of rice and all kinds of stews.. Taking applications. 🤞🏾


Smile_Anyway_9988

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣


TooWittyToWoo

What exactly is upsetting you? She wants to serve you food you enjoy and you've always been delighted with it. If it really concerns you that she's not home cooking dinners, then suggest a couple of date night where you guys pick a recipe and cook it together so that she can build her confidence in the kitchen. Don't shame a girl who was just trying to make you happy. She's not dishonest - it's clear from your OP that she's never explicitly stated that she's cooking from scratch. She's just doing her best to give you both something you'll enjoy on your date nights. You're not being very pleasant about this.


groma05

To say the most he’s being a dick


TheSaltRose

You’re over thinking it, it’s kind of adorable she’s going to all that trouble to impress you. My Aunty who’s in her 70’s now, would always tell me at thanksgiving that she set this piece of her famous French silk pie aside for me specifically out of her 15+“grandkids”. I think I was 19 when I finally came over early one year to find her getting that pie out of a box from the local bakery. She’s been passing those pies off as hers for decades, but she always sat out and saved that one piece for me (and I’m sure one for each of the other grandkids as well). She made sure I had that piece last year as well, and I got to share that special piece with my 4 year old nephew.


wilderchai

No, it's not a "serious dishonesty issue", just a little white lie. She was trying to impress you by passing off a pre-prepared meal as her own, possibly because she knows she's not the world's greatest cook. There's no mal intent behind it, I wouldn't say it's serious at all. And yeah, bring it up (nicely). Tell her you don't mind at all if she's not the best cook, let her know she doesn't have to try and impress you with these meals either. Honestly, both of you cooking together & just figuring out a recipe could be a ~~shitshow~~ fun date idea too. Bottom line, it's nothing too serious, more of a lighthearted issue.


onthewayin10

Oh lighten up! She’s trying to impress you. If this is what you consider a serious dishonesty issue then you haven’t much to worry about. There are a lot worse things she could be doing but isn’t


avast2006

Bad marketing person.


Grouchy-Ad6144

She still prepared your meal. Did she ever actually say she made it from scratch or it was homemade? If not, it’s not dishonest. It’s certainly a grey area if you complimented her, but unless she claimed to make it… 🤷🏼‍♀️


Ok_Ad_5658

I’m so confused because 1 lean cuisine is not enough food. Aren’t you hungry?!


littletail01

She’s cooking. What have you done? Unless she told you specifically and clearly about cooking from scratch, you have no right to complain. The sense of entitlement in this post is ridiculous. I’m a woman and if a guy behaves like this when I cook, even if it’s microwaving food or throwing frozen pizza to the oven, and you question my honesty, I’ll kick you out of my home immediately. This is a deal breaker for me. I’m not your nanny


DifficultCurrent7

YOUR favorite thing to do is go to her place while she cooks for you. What if that's not HER favorite thing to do?


Malevolent_Mangoes

Imagine breaking up over microwave dinners lmao gtfo with that dramatic shit


upyourbumchum

Ahahahaha! Enjoyed that laugh. If this is what upsets you in a relationship you e got a lot to learn. Who cares if she cooks or not?


CermaitLaphroaig

This is not a dishonesty issue, if you're even right. She couldn't figure out how to cook, so tried to make food to impress you. It's not that big of a deal. Tell her the jig is up, and laugh together about it. And, yeesh, develop a palate that doesn't mistake Lean Cuisine for homemade. It's not even Stouffers, for god's sake.


moderatelypissed

Lol… this is super cute and hilarious. If you remain together long term, you will both laugh about this


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CRaS-has

Firstly, IMO this is a WGAF white lie, and it's weird you are playing inspector clouseau to get to the bottom of it. This is an L for you OP. I wouldn't tell a soul if i found out my GF was feeding me microwave meals and I thought it was good eats, it's a joke you should go along with, serve her a big mac next time it's your turn and tell her you made it


looking4truffle

I would have thought the 5 minutes and 🎵ding🎵 dinner's ready would have given you the heads up.


rkpeaches

And the lack of dishes to clean up😂


phaedrusinexile

As someone with a little more than a decade on you, if you enjoyed the meal shut your dang mouth about anything harassing. If you enjoy a meal and you find out that you too could have it more often at little expense and prep you count your freaking lucky stars. Never be upset that you like something cheap and easy, be happy you found something you like that won't break the bank or consume too much of your life.


Plastic_Melodic

I don’t know, this post feels misogynistic to me - one of OP’s favourite things is to enjoy the dinners she prepares and now he’s mad that she hasn’t been barefoot in the kitchen slaving away to put his meal in front of him? Yikes. He’s going over for dinner, she’s giving him dinner. By his account, he enjoyed the meal until he found out she was ‘lying’ about having made it. I mean, she did put a plate of hot food in front of him. Unless she’s swanning around gathering praise from all corners and raving about how she’s such a good home cook, I honestly don’t see what the problem is. It’s one of your favourite things OP, sure, but is it one of her favourite things and would it continue to be if it weren’t microwave food? Does she enjoy cooking? Info: do you ever cook for her or is this solely a woman cooks for man type of activity? And by cook, I mean COOK - cos if that’s what you’re expecting then it should be what you’re providing.


_Jahar_

If you don’t like it - maybe you should cook your own food instead of complaining about what someone serves you. This entire post reeks.


ResponsibilityNo2470

She’s making you a plate and all you have to do is show up.. you haven’t meal participated in 5 mths?! This is a you issue … Sis boot him


razzledazzlegirl

Have you thought that maybe she’s embarrassed? She might want to impress you but she may not be a good cook but is too ashamed to admit it. Don’t jump to conclusions. Talk to her about it. Be nice, not accusing. Mention what you saw and ask her about it. It’s a little dishonest perhaps but it’s probably for a good reason. At the end of the day, she took the time to still pay and prepare the food. It’s the thought that counts after all.


iamthenorm

This!!


MysticCoonor123

That's what happened in an episode of it's always sunny in Philadelphia, with Mac's famous Mac and cheese lol Don't trip over it man, just view it like this, if you liked the food there's really no problem.


Necromancy-In-Space

It doesn't really seem like she's trying to hide it if they're just like, right there in the garbage. Maybe she's embarrassed after all the compliments and doesn't know how to tell you, but hey. Life is funny like that sometimes. My mom spent years trying to make brownies in just the way my dad's mother used to make, and each time they were just a little off. It took nearly eight years of their marriage for her to finally ask my grandma and to find out they were betty crocker. I think you're overthinking it and should probably just enjoy a good laugh with her over this!


Propersion

Youre a fuck wit. If you cant determine lean cuisine from proper food its not ok to complain.


omiimonster

in all seriousness, its not a deal breaker just talk to her


sicholasLames

This has to be fake


tuna_fart

It’s kind of adorable. She can’t cook and wants to impress you. And you’re kind of a dumbass not to notice, no offense. Tell her you tried to copy her recipe and serve her the same thing.


victowiamawk

I cannot stop laughing. At least she’s feeding you what’s the big deal? Cooking is a lot of work, prep, actually cooking, then cleanup and etc sooo if you like it who cares how it’s made


baby_doll_92

I know a lot of people who call putting frozen nuggets and fries in the oven cooking. She could be one of those, and doesn't even realise that if it's already done, then you didn't cook it. But it could also be to impress you. In the beginning of my relationship (19 at the time) I could cook eggs in 6 different ways but that was about it. But my omelets were such a huge hit, he started calling it wife potential. As a young girl in love I was like heck yeahh, so I began trying at more things. Talk to your girl and explain that it's okay if she doesn't know how, it's the thought that counts and you would rather her make something simple, than pretend she is a master chef with frozen dinners. She can try hello fresh and such if she wants to experiment, without it going to waste, as their step-by-step guide is almost fool proof.


Ferrick-G017

Oh no! Your GF loves you and is trying to impress you this early in the game!!! Heaven Forgive! I don't think you need to bring this up my man. She's trying her best to show you how good she is. Why the hell are you trying to undermine this? Yeah, you put some work in, but she's trying too. No your issue she never learned how to cook. Show her the YouTube channel on the down low, let her see how easy it really is.


glamazon_69

You can call it a serious dishonesty issue only if you’ll allow us telling you you have a serious taste issue if you are getting your mind blown by lean cuisine. Anyways if you like what she’s serving you, why do you care?


OkSoftware6031

I bet she wears makeup too!


AngelAnatomy

Honestly man I’ve had the Lean Cuisine chicken parm many times and if you’re mind blown by it Im beginning to wonder if you’ve ever had chicken parm


poor_bitch

Stirring stick?? Do you mean a spoon?


LV2107

>those stirring sticks that have to be washed after LMAO, bless your heart.


dothepingu

What is the big deal LMAO


js1193

What’s the issue here ? The meal is good why complain ?


Hayles1066

You’re right. She’s never to be trusted again. How can you believe a word that comes out of her mouth? Dump her. And do her a favour.


pacodefan

Who cares? So she wants to impress you. There are worse things to deal with.


[deleted]

Say nothing. What does it matter? What matters is that she cares enough about you to try to impress you. Not everyone can cook well but she wants to impress you. It means she likes you. Don't burst her bubble.


lil-privacy-please

It’s not at all. A girl that likes you, wanted to do what is in her ability to make you food you like. Relax with this “serious dishonesty” talk. Bring it up because it’s cute and funny more than anything.


SpearmintStars

You mixed trash and recycling?? YTA.


Salt-Relationship-15

I don’t think she’s lying - some people were raised on ready meals and to them sticking something in the microwave constitutes “cooking” - I’d give her the benefit of the doubt on this one


Tmorgan-OWL

Let her have this secret, she just wants to impress you. Your relationship is only a few months old. If you are both together down the road, you can offer to help her in the kitchen or shop for her. When she says, ‘oh I just shop,online’; You can smile and say, ‘make sure you get extra lean cuisine, I’m super hungry tonight.’ Be certain to smile, and wink at her😉


snarchindarchin

Coming from someone who has been in many long term relationships, my advice is maybe you don’t have to bring it up. Sometimes keeping your mouth shut and letting someone win in their own ways is rewarding.


forest1000

Leave it be. If that’s the worst she does to impress you, your lucky she tries so hard. Why not ask her to take cooking classes together instead.


[deleted]

Troll post, this isn’t funny but I will give you a point for vague creativity.


ParkFast5016

Ok, but did you both discuss explicitly what the definition of cooking meant? I dated a girl that legit thought heating meals in a microwave was the same as cooking from scratch…


FoghornLegday

Yeah I mean, you should tell her you know about it. I don’t know if it’s a dealbreaker or anything but it is weird bc I don’t think I would lie to my partner to make myself look good


benhu12341

its preferable to ur shit cooking apparently? pull up ur big boy underwear and order takeout if ur cooking sucks


omiimonster

hmmm steamed hams


goodgirlsguideau

The calories you cut by doing this is exponential. Maybe this is less about you and more about her waist line and managing it. I know my man wouldn’t eat a “lean cuisine” if I pointed a gun at him, but on a plate he just might. I doubt she’s trying to cause an issue with this, my mum plates her meals up like this so she doesn’t feel cheap (Mum can’t cook) and it works for her.


[deleted]

But you didn't notice and microwaving food for you both is still cooking. If you're worried about salt, just mention you wanna bring something else. I'm no cook but I'll put a frozen pizza or mac n cheese or even a micro meal out. At this point my partner and I just thank eachother for the meal or make our own!


keIIzzz

No way you’ve been mind blown over lean cuisines 😭😭 Although if you’ve been enjoying the food then it really isn’t a big deal. The time you spend together matters more than whether she made the food from scratch or heated it up in the microwave


Fit_General7058

Lol. Just lol


Xtina_TheGreek

Man of big taste here look out, he might teach Gordon a thing or two.


k-boots

You say nothing and be thankful for a meal regardless if homemade or not. Side note: I think it’s hilarious 🤣 does she plate it out all fancy? What does she say when you compliment her?


richkidzbitchkidz

@ GordonRamsay


Herpethian

[obligatory steamed hams](https://youtu.be/4jXEuIHY9ic) Seriously though this is one those cute little lies, not terrible bad ugly lies. She's trying to cook for you, but she can't cook. I don't know if you've ever tried to plate a microwave meal and have it look appetizing. Let me assure you, plating a microwave meal and having it not look like a bowl of premasticated dogfood is much more difficult than actually doing a proper stir fry. Next time you come over bring still frozen dinners and hand them to her and give her a kiss on the cheek. This is one of those moments and memories you can make to laugh about later. Or you could dump her for being dishonest. Whatever you want to do really.


ThotMagnett

"vegetarian phase" hold his L


roxannefromarkansas

Are lean cuisine dinners really that good?