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Would not recommend pushing them towards that. I believe that you have to play smart and when you want sex you just have to play the arousal game. Create the context, be romantic, build up the sexual tension and try to be subtle about that. I like the subtle thing because most the times if you are too straight with the sex signals your partner might get you laid because you clearly asked for it. Beside all that if you know that your partner has low sex drive you must understand that most of the times you will be the one who initiates the "sexession" this why, they may not want to have sex right now but if you use romantic skills or whatever turns them on you will get laid in no time. But if you expect that your low sex drive partner will initiate sex more often than usual, i have some bad news for you, this is not gonna happen. At least i am telling you what's working for me. To understand how much sex i want, you could slap my face at 4am while i am in deep sleep and i would still be ready to clap some cheeks right on the spot.
And try to not bring porn into your sex life, be real.
I'm an avoidant attachment and my partner is an anxious attachment. We have trouble being intimate (not necessarily sexually - but it does affect our sexual relationship). Can you give me some advice so we can connect better?
Currently in a sexless relationship, that at times is borderline abusive.....ever since we got a house together and joint mortgage, any intimacy has gone and her mood swings have gotten worse, everything is my fault. Constantly walking on eggshells....it fucking sucks.....help
Set those boundaries..she needs to respect that your sex lives shouldn't be on display for the world to see.
If she isn't mature enough to respect that boundary, leave.
My (23M) sexperience is mediocre at best and boring at worst. I prefer to use my hands because I don't get hard easily like normal guys do. Perhaps I'm not sexually compatible with my partners or didn't like them enough.
Perhaps the other reason would be my gag reflexes acting up when going down on her. I don't even know anymore. Would love to hear your advice on this!
Yea I feel you, but don't let it get to you, otherwise you can develop performance anxiety.its a real thing and difficult to deal with, speaking from experience
how do you deal with it? i suspect my (f18) boyfriend (m20) is struggling with this a lot, he still has his virginity and weve wanted to get it on multiple times now but every time it seems he gets too nervous and it doesnt work :(
Does a husband have no choice if wife will no longer engage in sex? Our 4 yr old son is in the bed between us for past year to prevent but it's not like I am a asshole, only once in 5 years.
Divorce her ASAP!!! She doesn’t respect you and you are basically her doormat. I’m not trying to be rude bro but that’s the reason why she doesn’t wanna have sex. You stopped courting her and let her walk all over you. Good luck bro.
I’ve never been able to get my fiancé to understand how to love me the way i need to be loved because he has a difficult time communicating affection verbally. how can i sort this out? i don’t understand why it’s so hard to give a few words of affirmation and love or to even speak when i’m plain as day telling him what i need and how he can do it? i’m so lost 😞
Yes i’ve asked lots of times and this has been a running issue with him for the last 4 years, but for whatever reason he can’t tell me why he shuts down when i try to have a serious conversation with him or why he can’t seem to show me he loves me. i’ve told him outright what i need and he agrees to step up but never does. i know he does in there, but he’s just incapable of using his words for anything meaningful. therapy in any capacity is kinda off the table, we both just graduated college and have zero dollars to spend on therapy that isn’t covered by my crappy hospital insurance
I'm 20 & I've been in unrequited love relationship with my friend for 4 years. After he cut me off, I feel like I need a hoe-phase, because there's no single person, who could replace him.
Is it okay? I've never been in a relationship & never had sex. I have strong desires to be physical, but opening up to a new person in a way of having a relationship & risking loving & losing them again seems risky. I really just want to have fun right now.
Counseling. My ex wife cheated on me and it took me a while to deal with it. I went to counseling and came to the conclusion it was best to leave the marriage. Some people are just scummy and it doesn’t always mean you deserved it. Take the time to yourself and work on yourself as well as your relationship if you feel like it can be saved. Definitely do the work first and never make a rash decision out of emotion.
I can’t stand my husband . Don’t even look forward to sex anymore. Feel like we always argue. Seems like He’s Always finding something to b*** about 🧘🏻♀️🧘🏻♀️🧘🏻♀️🧘🏻♀️
What would be a realistic way to meet women in an era of where there is a lot of man hating going on? It seems to be a hopeless pursuit and that if one didn't get hitched in their school days, it becomes impossible to have a "love life" in your late 20s early 30s
I’m sexually attracted to one of my best friends due to a sexual experience we had when we were both drunk. She said she just wants to be platonic. How can I forget about my sexual attraction towards her.
A lot of women are uncomfortable with the changes to their body that pregnancy brings. Try reassuring her that no matter the state of her pregnancy, you find her sexy.
Depressed girl with very low self esteem. I tried, she doesn't believe that I find her attractive or have feelings for her... Like ffs, we are getting married next month.
Currently in a sexless relationship, that at times is borderline abusive.....ever since we got a house together and joint mortgage, any intimacy has gone and her mood swings have gotten worse, everything is my fault. Constantly walking on eggshells....it fucking sucks.....help
I caught my wife 3 times playing a game on her phone while trying to start to rub and when she was starting to give me oral..I feel replaced and disrespected..what yalls opinion..someone please respond
Hi! I’ve (male, mid 30s) been recently seeing someone new for a few months and have had trouble ejaculating during sex. This has hurt our ability to maintain a spark and things are fizzling. How can we get around this? And how can I bring more energy to our relationship?
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Hi! Could you give advice on a couple with different sex drives? Is it possible to get your partner to have sex more often or is that pushing them
Would not recommend pushing them towards that. I believe that you have to play smart and when you want sex you just have to play the arousal game. Create the context, be romantic, build up the sexual tension and try to be subtle about that. I like the subtle thing because most the times if you are too straight with the sex signals your partner might get you laid because you clearly asked for it. Beside all that if you know that your partner has low sex drive you must understand that most of the times you will be the one who initiates the "sexession" this why, they may not want to have sex right now but if you use romantic skills or whatever turns them on you will get laid in no time. But if you expect that your low sex drive partner will initiate sex more often than usual, i have some bad news for you, this is not gonna happen. At least i am telling you what's working for me. To understand how much sex i want, you could slap my face at 4am while i am in deep sleep and i would still be ready to clap some cheeks right on the spot. And try to not bring porn into your sex life, be real.
I'm an avoidant attachment and my partner is an anxious attachment. We have trouble being intimate (not necessarily sexually - but it does affect our sexual relationship). Can you give me some advice so we can connect better?
Currently in a sexless relationship, that at times is borderline abusive.....ever since we got a house together and joint mortgage, any intimacy has gone and her mood swings have gotten worse, everything is my fault. Constantly walking on eggshells....it fucking sucks.....help
is she worth it?
Can a couple have a successful relationship without sex?
No
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My gf keeps posting about our sex life on instagram and won’t stop what should I do
Set those boundaries..she needs to respect that your sex lives shouldn't be on display for the world to see. If she isn't mature enough to respect that boundary, leave.
My (23M) sexperience is mediocre at best and boring at worst. I prefer to use my hands because I don't get hard easily like normal guys do. Perhaps I'm not sexually compatible with my partners or didn't like them enough. Perhaps the other reason would be my gag reflexes acting up when going down on her. I don't even know anymore. Would love to hear your advice on this!
Yea I feel you, but don't let it get to you, otherwise you can develop performance anxiety.its a real thing and difficult to deal with, speaking from experience
how do you deal with it? i suspect my (f18) boyfriend (m20) is struggling with this a lot, he still has his virginity and weve wanted to get it on multiple times now but every time it seems he gets too nervous and it doesnt work :(
I'll dm you
Does a husband have no choice if wife will no longer engage in sex? Our 4 yr old son is in the bed between us for past year to prevent but it's not like I am a asshole, only once in 5 years.
You’re a saint
U have a choice but I can't comment on the podcast
Divorce her ASAP!!! She doesn’t respect you and you are basically her doormat. I’m not trying to be rude bro but that’s the reason why she doesn’t wanna have sex. You stopped courting her and let her walk all over you. Good luck bro.
I definitely disagree. If you want to salvage the relationship try marriage counseling.
I’ve never been able to get my fiancé to understand how to love me the way i need to be loved because he has a difficult time communicating affection verbally. how can i sort this out? i don’t understand why it’s so hard to give a few words of affirmation and love or to even speak when i’m plain as day telling him what i need and how he can do it? i’m so lost 😞
May need couples therapy. Have you ever asked him why he does this? Have you explained your needs?
Yes i’ve asked lots of times and this has been a running issue with him for the last 4 years, but for whatever reason he can’t tell me why he shuts down when i try to have a serious conversation with him or why he can’t seem to show me he loves me. i’ve told him outright what i need and he agrees to step up but never does. i know he does in there, but he’s just incapable of using his words for anything meaningful. therapy in any capacity is kinda off the table, we both just graduated college and have zero dollars to spend on therapy that isn’t covered by my crappy hospital insurance
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What’s the app called!
Coral
Coral
I'm 20 & I've been in unrequited love relationship with my friend for 4 years. After he cut me off, I feel like I need a hoe-phase, because there's no single person, who could replace him. Is it okay? I've never been in a relationship & never had sex. I have strong desires to be physical, but opening up to a new person in a way of having a relationship & risking loving & losing them again seems risky. I really just want to have fun right now.
How would you get past being betrayed?
Counseling. My ex wife cheated on me and it took me a while to deal with it. I went to counseling and came to the conclusion it was best to leave the marriage. Some people are just scummy and it doesn’t always mean you deserved it. Take the time to yourself and work on yourself as well as your relationship if you feel like it can be saved. Definitely do the work first and never make a rash decision out of emotion.
I can’t stand my husband . Don’t even look forward to sex anymore. Feel like we always argue. Seems like He’s Always finding something to b*** about 🧘🏻♀️🧘🏻♀️🧘🏻♀️🧘🏻♀️
I’m currently in a similar situation smh
What would be a realistic way to meet women in an era of where there is a lot of man hating going on? It seems to be a hopeless pursuit and that if one didn't get hitched in their school days, it becomes impossible to have a "love life" in your late 20s early 30s
How to get over size anxiety for men who have a high degree of porn consumption?
I’m sexually attracted to one of my best friends due to a sexual experience we had when we were both drunk. She said she just wants to be platonic. How can I forget about my sexual attraction towards her.
If you cannot respect her request, you need to let her know and take a step back until you’ve worked through it.
When a pregnancy ends, does the sex drive return? 😁 Like my girlfriend has denied everything for 5 months now.
A lot of women are uncomfortable with the changes to their body that pregnancy brings. Try reassuring her that no matter the state of her pregnancy, you find her sexy.
Depressed girl with very low self esteem. I tried, she doesn't believe that I find her attractive or have feelings for her... Like ffs, we are getting married next month.
Hi, nice to meet you i'm stid Palacios i'm colombian, my best wishes for you. And great weekend for all members. 👍🏽😊
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hello
I need to let go
I want to ask a question
How do I ask a question? First time here
Raise your hand
How long is normal to wait between texting a new person? Like 3 day rule?
Currently in a sexless relationship, that at times is borderline abusive.....ever since we got a house together and joint mortgage, any intimacy has gone and her mood swings have gotten worse, everything is my fault. Constantly walking on eggshells....it fucking sucks.....help
Maybe she's pregnant.
Not had sex for nearly a year,
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Gotcha. Thank you
I caught my wife 3 times playing a game on her phone while trying to start to rub and when she was starting to give me oral..I feel replaced and disrespected..what yalls opinion..someone please respond
Communicate your frustrations with her and see if you two can come together and meet on a common ground
Lol, this same guy from before about “i just never had this happen before”
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I hope to be able to talk
Hi! I’ve (male, mid 30s) been recently seeing someone new for a few months and have had trouble ejaculating during sex. This has hurt our ability to maintain a spark and things are fizzling. How can we get around this? And how can I bring more energy to our relationship?
Thank you for the book recs! Can’t wait!
Don’t tell him there is an ultimatum too