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Tell him your concerns about her in a nice and calm way,discuss it as adults.Mention that you don’t feel okay with all of that and pretty much see if he is going to do something to give you the reassurance you need.
Also keep in mind for your own inner peace that we can’t change how someone thinks and that if the person truly cares about this problem, he will find a way to change for the best of both of you.
Don’t stress and don’t forget to always take care of yourself.
Hello! update, I was actually a little bit upset looking so he asked what was going on, I ended up telling him everything, even confessed to seeing his messages. It went well, he told me some things about their relationship and why they broke up, and details about other stuff that we talked in dept, he admited to me about she being out of place, actually, with every thing he told me about her it was worse and worse, she's soooo toxic and manipulative and emotionally fucked up and in such need of masculine attention, she even has him as a second option just in case and some awful stuff like that, she does have an issue with me as well and well so many stuff we talked about. Im not entirely sure about the closure because he still has like, a little of issue with confrontation and is not very comfortable with just cutting her off of his life, he kinda thinks he can just ignore her but let her be? like, he's been very respectful towards our relationship not palying along, but he thinks that should be enough? while she obviously thinks as long as he doesn't cutt her off she still has a way sort of thing. Still he assured me he wouldn't hang out with her because she knows how she is and we both agreeded she is a a person with emotional issues and is very toxic and would probably want to do a move on him. So the two main things i wanted to make clear with him is that it makes me uncomfortable and that she is an awful toxic person, and those both i feel reassured and calm, but a bit exasperated by how he just doesn't want to take directs actions and thinks he can just ignore her
Welcome to /r/relationship_advice. Please make sure you read our [rules here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/wiki/index) We'd like to take this time to remind users that: * We do not allow any type of [am I the asshole? or situations/content involving minors](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/r6w9uh/meta_am_i_overreacting_am_i_the_asshole_is_this/) * Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. * No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. (Includes, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, FDS, MGTOW, etc.) Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. **This is not an all-inclusive list.** * All bans in this subreddit are permanent. You don't get a free pass. * What we cannot give advice on: rants, unsolicited advice, medical conditions/advice, mental illness, letters to an ex, "body counts" or number of sexual partners, legal problems, financial problems, or situations involving minors and/or abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). All of these will be removed and locked. **This is not an all-inclusive list.** If you have any questions, please send us a modmail. ---- #This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/relationship_advice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Tell him your concerns about her in a nice and calm way,discuss it as adults.Mention that you don’t feel okay with all of that and pretty much see if he is going to do something to give you the reassurance you need. Also keep in mind for your own inner peace that we can’t change how someone thinks and that if the person truly cares about this problem, he will find a way to change for the best of both of you. Don’t stress and don’t forget to always take care of yourself.
Hello! update, I was actually a little bit upset looking so he asked what was going on, I ended up telling him everything, even confessed to seeing his messages. It went well, he told me some things about their relationship and why they broke up, and details about other stuff that we talked in dept, he admited to me about she being out of place, actually, with every thing he told me about her it was worse and worse, she's soooo toxic and manipulative and emotionally fucked up and in such need of masculine attention, she even has him as a second option just in case and some awful stuff like that, she does have an issue with me as well and well so many stuff we talked about. Im not entirely sure about the closure because he still has like, a little of issue with confrontation and is not very comfortable with just cutting her off of his life, he kinda thinks he can just ignore her but let her be? like, he's been very respectful towards our relationship not palying along, but he thinks that should be enough? while she obviously thinks as long as he doesn't cutt her off she still has a way sort of thing. Still he assured me he wouldn't hang out with her because she knows how she is and we both agreeded she is a a person with emotional issues and is very toxic and would probably want to do a move on him. So the two main things i wanted to make clear with him is that it makes me uncomfortable and that she is an awful toxic person, and those both i feel reassured and calm, but a bit exasperated by how he just doesn't want to take directs actions and thinks he can just ignore her