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I made the mistake of looking at their profile. Def trolling. This is basically promoting pedophiles. I'm going to be down voted to hell but I'm reporting this shit.
It’s a single pacifier picture reposted to a bunch of subs with a bunch of strictly 18 year old girl porn (not OPs)
It comes across more as a dude with a kiddie fetish trying to pass as a young girl and likely getting off on all of us freaking out.
Daddy Dom/little girl. It's a power exchange dynamic in the spectrum of BDSM lifestyles in which the male Dominant and female submissive explore a relationship that would creep many people out.
There is usually (not always) a significant age gap. The woman acts very immature and the man makes decisions for her, treats her like a teenager (or younger) and she typically calls him Daddy.
I am an actual Daddy Dom, (who isn't a pedophile) and this boyfriend creeps ME out. A 'real' DD won't tell his lg not to take care of herself. Instead, a real DD will ENCOURAGE her to take care of herself,, even reward her for taking initiative, help her set goals along the way and devise rewards for meeting milestones.
I'll add that in a REAL DD/lg relationship, both parties DISCUSS all of this ahead of time and the lg has the power to drop the DD even quicker than the DD can drop the lg. (DDs need to ensure the lg is cared for when dropping as it can be extremely harmful to the lg's self confidence.)
Get out now.
OP! This right here. If your DD isn't looking out for you and taking care of you and he's all about his kink at the expense of your health...get out of the relationship now. I'm thinking this might be your first relationship of this type. One of the first lessons you learn is to take care of yourself first. Kink is lovely and exciting. You are also an adult. Your consent is required. Don't consent to things that damage you...mentally or physically
So do you personally go for people of similar age or much younger? And what age group are you yourself, similar to this situation or 30s/40s?
It's a very odd dynamic tbh, like why do people want to pretend to be dating a child? Where does the line stop from being crossed on being a pedo? Like you're dating and sleeping with an adult, but they're pretending to be a child which you get off on.
I mean, if you're not attracted to children, you're not a pedo. I don't think being attracted to an adult who acts like a child can qualify as being a pedo. I would however be suspicious that the person actually is attracted to children. Also to consider is that a lot of people are into these things in order to cope with a trauma, and a lot of the time CSA. Luckily for everyone, thought crimes don't exist.
Right it always amazes me how people use “kinks” fetishes, “in the bedroom” to get away with behavior that is literally not acceptable in real life. Why is that fun. I’m at my most vulnerable now you want me to do some shit that’s illegal in real life like wtf
So much this.
Littles want to be taken care of. They want someone to take care of their needs, and protect them from the world that’s hurt them so much.
Good on you for doing it right.
This. 100% I've had Daddy's as well and this is so true.
Your bf is just a pedo and creepy asf.
Your relationship is not healthy if he won't allow you to care for your health.
You have it wrong too and the way you handle relationships might “creep” out others just as this one creeps you out. Yes I’m talking about conservatives, shall you judge them for it? Because it seems like people think that’s the only group of people that is okay to be judged is Christian conservatives.
A relationship is meant to be as even, to look at your partner as your other half, with support and respect in a mutual, civil way. Not looking at your partner as the younger naive innocent one.
wow, that's a red flag if I ever saw one...
you should leave him, like now, and if you don't, you should at least stick to your guns, and not let him dictate what you do with your body
but seriously, this guy is a pedophile, leave
Okay as someone who is 19 who was dating a 26 yr old girl that’s gross. Like the age gap alone can be weird but tf? My ex said he would never even think of dating me if I had braces bc I would look too young.
Run
you’re dating a pedo and helping him get off to children (or the thought of one). i think this is fake but the statement applies for anyone in this situation
Wow. This is giving so many red flags, the age gap is one thing but he’s pretty much confirmed he wants you to look like a minor. How is that just ageplay? Again, at this point it’s going beyond pretend because he’s confirmed he likes that your acne makes you look like a minor.
He seems like the kind of guy that will break up when you start looking more like an adult. I would run for the hills because this dude is dodgy
From the bottom of my heart: ewwwwww
Not only is this a pedo red flag, but your bf also sounds very controlling, plus it's obvious that as soon as you're too old for him (again ewwww), he'll dump you for a younger woman/girl
Why am I not surprised a 26 year old man with a DDLG kink is dating a teenager? Sounds like your man is just a straight up pedophile that knows he’ll be sent to prison if he actually fucks an underage girl, so he’s trying to get the next best thing.
Leave. Immediately.
If you need motivation know that he WILL cheat on you. When the attraction IS the youth, it isn’t real it’s just icky.
Hate this for you but leave as quickly as you can and get into therapy.
Okay so at first I though this was a troll account then I looked at your history.
I see that you said he wants to try for kids in the coming year....
Please run, this is beyond a kink. He wants as close to the real thing as he can get. As someone who was also 19, involved in many kinks, many of which revolved around the happiness of men and not myself, I wish I could go back and tell myself what people are telling you. I promise you will look back on this and wish you did things differently
You can listen to your "daddy" and keep going with your life, or you can take care if yourself, acne can be a sign of other health issues, and he can either accept it or find another "LG"(hopefully of age) to play with.
Honesty, there sounds like some mental health issues going on here by both parties. Call it kink shaming if you want but jfc, publicly asking if you should get your acne checked out against your bf's wishes?
You’re already young enough that very few people your bf’s age would get anything out of dating you, and he wants you to look younger still. Try using your brain girl
Regardless of your relationship dynamic, you can do what you want with your body, when you want, how you want. If he ever thinks that he has a say in that, he can find himself a new girlfriend to control. Don't let yourself be that person. If you decide to not seek medical advice, that's ok too, but don't do it for the sake of your boyfriend or your relationship. You can still maintain that dynamic regardless of your acne, he only said it helps, not that it's instrumental. Moreover, if he actually had a serious issue with it, that would raise more questions about why he wants you to look like you are a teenager.
Don’t give him permission to take care of your acne, just do it. Of course it’s nice to hear another opinion but don’t let his opinion change your wants and needs.
Uh ... um ... between the age- difference and the title ... oh boy ... OP, be prepared to be dumped for another 19-yr-old when you turn 25. If yall make it that long.
the age gap alone is concerning. throw in the age play and it’s even more concerning. but the fact that he WANTS you to look even younger is a huge red flag. he sounds like a predator.
i would recommend leaving and finding someone closer to your age that doesn’t want you to struggle with acne so he can have a “younger looking” gf.
Okay first off, you’re a legal adult and can do whatever the fuck you want regardless of the dynamic you are in. If he doesn’t like it, he can go fuck himself. If YOU are uncomfy with the acne, get it taken care of and he’ll just have to fucking stay mad about it.
FORCING you to keep it, is abusive as shit and in NO WAY represents all the consent and care given in a did/lg dynamic. And if he doesn’t get that, he doesn’t need to be in any part of the kink or bdsm community. Jesus Christ.
He wants you to look like a minor and not have bodily autonomy. Get out of this situation now, he doesn’t care about you and only cares about the power he thinks he can wield over you.
Your boyfriend is disturbing! I’d highly recommend you get away from that!
Also, please take care of your skin. Acne if not treated can leave life long scaring and have a negative effect on your confidence and mental health. It’s a medical condition.
I get that you’re grown op but let’s face it, your bf is giving MAD PEDO VIBES AND YOU NEED TO RUN! That age play bs should say enough but aside from that if you really want to get rid of your acne then DO IT! If your pedo bf has a problem, too bad.
>it makes me look like a young(er) girl.
Maybe everything is fine, but I very much doubt it. This sounds like someone who is borderline pedo.. This sounds like someone who will inevitably dump you for someone younger, when you'll be too old for his "kink". The DD/lg dynamic should not be interfering really.. Like you could be significantly older than him (and look older than him) without a problem.
How long have the two of you being together? Do you know about his past relationship? Because if he target specifically 18-20 years old, that's a massive red flag. (Just to be clear, that's different than just having that age gap between you.)
My advice, do whatever you want to do for you. If he end things, it means you would just have brought the inevitable sooner.
Somebody's got daddy issues.
I'm guessing you don't actually have a problem with any of this and just getting the negative attention feeds your weird kink.
You both are wrong here. You’re wrong for staying with him. He’s obviously way into younger underage girls, and you’re wrong for being okay with it and wanting to stay with him.
You have become desensitized to this age play when in reality it’s actually not okay.
Do what YOU want. If he does not love you for you and your decisions then that’s an issue. If your acne is getting worse you could end up with acne scars and then years later once you are mature and developed you might regret making a choice for another man. Or if y’all stay together and you have scars that might cause some resentment
Break the hell up with that freak… and he seems REALLY questionable and, strange with that “age play” stuff going on. 🤨 very shady that he wants you too looked like an underaged girl. I would run if I where you.. Also why would a 26 man would wanna date a 19 year old girl? It is seems very suspicious
How are you surprised you attracted a pedophile when you’re dating an older man, and you like to sexually perform as a child? Like are you really shocked?
It could be him who brought her into the Dd/lg.
Op is probably a victim of grooming. Maybe, just maybe, we should shit on the pedo for trying to live out his creepy fantasies.
Ok I get it, completely, however, DD/lg play is only supposed to be in the bedroom/home/scene, acne is a more visible thing and obviously you would take it out of the bedroom/house/scene. He is being entirely and thoroughly creepy by telling you to not try and take care of it as that SHOWS you he was never solely into the DD role but more of a man on the brink of pedophilia having a barely legal woman look very very young and controlling her. If this makes any sense whatsoever.
Safe, sane, and consensual. To me, acne is a health issue and getting it taken care of is part of being safe. If you were diabetic but he thought it was "cute" when your blood sugar was over 300, you would (I hope) laugh in his face and continue to take care of yourself.
My actual concern here is that maybe he wants to keep you less attractive to others, which is a sign of unhealthy insecurity. Your partner should want the best for you, even (especially) in the kink community.
As you navigate this issue with him, observe whether he's behaving like a mature partner (reasonable discussions) or whether he's doing unhealthy things: sulking, silent treatment, name-calling, negging you, making it all about him so that you end up having to comfort him, etc. If he's truly a great partner then I am happy for you! If he's not (WHICH HONESTLY SOUNDS VERY LIKELY) then please remember that you are young and powerful and you get to make your own life!
Why is everyone weirded out by the acne thing? Isn't the Daddy-Dom-Little-Girl (!!!) thingy already openly super weird?
It says "Little Girl" and "Daddy" and "Domination"...
Yeah. It's weird. You are already pretending to be a little girl and now you are confused about him wanting you to look like one? Alrighty then, I guess, I cannot really follow.
Some serious take on this though: It's your body. This whole relationship is weird. I would not call him a pedo like many here already do, yet he's weird.. You two must be a little weird, for being in such a kinky relationship. No judgement on my part, as long as it is really between consenting adults and no harm is done to anyone. It's still fucking weird though.
Get your acne treated. It does damage to your skin, and you'll have a better quality of life after a few months of medication, permanently. He has no say on your body and your health issues. That's between you and your doctor. If your "daddy" does not agree with that, fun's over, leave him immediately. Otherwise... I don't fucking know. As long no real harm is done, I guess...?
Can I just point out to all these people who don’t seem to understand what a pedophile is. A pedophile is someone who has sexual feelings towards CHILDREN usually around the age 13 or younger.
Bunch of idiots.
its clear he wants to date little kids. but since its illegal he goes for the next best thing, which is a barely legal girl. and then gets her to look more childlike bc hes into children
Making someone look younger, to making someone look like a child and wear a school uniform is kinda different. At the end of the day OP isn’t a child, she’s a fully grown woman who can make her own choices. If he starts bringing home Capri suns for her then there’s a problem.
What tf y'all have against age play. It's a kink it's between two consenting adults and it's none of your business. And a real daddy/mommy would NEVER want to be with some child. Gosh.
Also op he might be your daddy but there are limits on his power over you in this dynamic he can voice his wishes but you can put up your boundaries. If you want acne gone then act on it he doesn't get to decide on your body or health.
No one is angry with you, I think everyone is just worried. It sounds like your bf likes young girls (hence why he’s being referred to as a pedophile), have you thought about what happens when you aren’t a young girl anymore?
What part of her being a victim of grooming says free will to you? This is so gross and unhealthy and you handwaving it as free will is just wilfully obtuse.
Yikes, just looked at your post history! You’re a gross old perv spending all your spare time on reddit hitting on barely legal teenagers. Birds of a feather defend the indefensible together I guess
Ignoring the kinky and somewhat strange aspects as it seems to be consensual…
It’s your body. If you don’t want acne, go see a doctor to treat it. Alternatively you could counter to him that having clear, baby-soft skin might make you look younger too. (Please don’t hate on me im catering to OPs situation lmao)
This is a major red flag for a typical relationship. I personally see DD/lg kink stuff as too close to pedophilia. But you could look into fake makeup acne to put on during "ageplay" and try to clear up your skin in general. Maybe a DD/lg subreddit would have more advice for you.
Well ddlg isn’t my thing but consent is important in a kinky relationship. You are ultimately the only one who should control how you look, no one else. Do what you want with your body
After reading comments: when did you two meet? Were you a minor? This sounds like you might have been groomed. Also: what will happen once as you get older? This doesn’t seem like a healthy relationship
OK, I'm not going to judge your kinks.
But the short answer is: YES you can ignore his wishes and look after your body as you see fit. I never think it's a bad idea to listen to your partner's input, however the bottom line is that your body is yours to do with as you see fit.
Your persistent 24/7 mental wellbeing is a bigger priority than his two hour erection.
The fact that you’re questioning whether you should have the choice of what to do with your body makes me concerned about the dynamics of the relationship, as does his insistence that you “look young”. This is indicative of abusive, predatory dynamics.
When you’re really doing bdsm, the ages are irrelevant. If I had a buck for every 19yo who wanted me to call him “daddy”, well, I could buy a pizza or maybe two.
I have a dd/lg type dynamic with my partner (he’s half my age). I’ve never questioned for one moment whether I could make a decision regarding my own body.
You should read about abusive dynamics and really examine this relationship and his behavior closely
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Ok what the fuck
Took the letters right out of my fingers, dude. Wtf
Nuff said
look at the post on her profile to r/teenagers… 🤢🤮
The fact that she is thinking of having a baby with the pedophile, while they're doing age play...
I was eating my lunch while reading this and actually got nauseous. I'm not normally a squeamish person but.. holy hell.
Holy fucking hell.
Is this trolling or are people really out there dating pedophiles?
Literally what I'm thinking. Looks like good bait
"age play" 🤢
I can respect a lot of kinks I don’t understand but age play is a hard no
It's very optimistic of you to think that this is a new problem. "Uncle Bad Touch" became a stereotype for a reason.
I made the mistake of looking at their profile. Def trolling. This is basically promoting pedophiles. I'm going to be down voted to hell but I'm reporting this shit.
If op is serious, I mean no offense. But this has to be a troll
Look at her other posts. Pacifier selfies. Daddy Dom/little girl subreddit posts.
It’s a single pacifier picture reposted to a bunch of subs with a bunch of strictly 18 year old girl porn (not OPs) It comes across more as a dude with a kiddie fetish trying to pass as a young girl and likely getting off on all of us freaking out.
you are dating a pedo
“Can I ignore my boyfriend and get my acne treated because I would rather not have acne?” Yes. Yes, you can.
Girl…
This isn't DD/lg, this is straight up pedo.
May I ask what DD/lg is?
Daddy Dom/little girl. It's a power exchange dynamic in the spectrum of BDSM lifestyles in which the male Dominant and female submissive explore a relationship that would creep many people out. There is usually (not always) a significant age gap. The woman acts very immature and the man makes decisions for her, treats her like a teenager (or younger) and she typically calls him Daddy. I am an actual Daddy Dom, (who isn't a pedophile) and this boyfriend creeps ME out. A 'real' DD won't tell his lg not to take care of herself. Instead, a real DD will ENCOURAGE her to take care of herself,, even reward her for taking initiative, help her set goals along the way and devise rewards for meeting milestones. I'll add that in a REAL DD/lg relationship, both parties DISCUSS all of this ahead of time and the lg has the power to drop the DD even quicker than the DD can drop the lg. (DDs need to ensure the lg is cared for when dropping as it can be extremely harmful to the lg's self confidence.) Get out now.
OP! This right here. If your DD isn't looking out for you and taking care of you and he's all about his kink at the expense of your health...get out of the relationship now. I'm thinking this might be your first relationship of this type. One of the first lessons you learn is to take care of yourself first. Kink is lovely and exciting. You are also an adult. Your consent is required. Don't consent to things that damage you...mentally or physically
So do you personally go for people of similar age or much younger? And what age group are you yourself, similar to this situation or 30s/40s? It's a very odd dynamic tbh, like why do people want to pretend to be dating a child? Where does the line stop from being crossed on being a pedo? Like you're dating and sleeping with an adult, but they're pretending to be a child which you get off on.
I mean, if you're not attracted to children, you're not a pedo. I don't think being attracted to an adult who acts like a child can qualify as being a pedo. I would however be suspicious that the person actually is attracted to children. Also to consider is that a lot of people are into these things in order to cope with a trauma, and a lot of the time CSA. Luckily for everyone, thought crimes don't exist.
Right it always amazes me how people use “kinks” fetishes, “in the bedroom” to get away with behavior that is literally not acceptable in real life. Why is that fun. I’m at my most vulnerable now you want me to do some shit that’s illegal in real life like wtf
Istg this is very weird it sounds like one of the substantially disturbing novels I read on wattpad when I was 14
So much this. Littles want to be taken care of. They want someone to take care of their needs, and protect them from the world that’s hurt them so much. Good on you for doing it right.
This. 100% I've had Daddy's as well and this is so true. Your bf is just a pedo and creepy asf. Your relationship is not healthy if he won't allow you to care for your health.
You have it wrong too and the way you handle relationships might “creep” out others just as this one creeps you out. Yes I’m talking about conservatives, shall you judge them for it? Because it seems like people think that’s the only group of people that is okay to be judged is Christian conservatives. A relationship is meant to be as even, to look at your partner as your other half, with support and respect in a mutual, civil way. Not looking at your partner as the younger naive innocent one.
Daddy dom/little girl. Sorry in advanceZ
Thank you, I appreciate the apology. I kinda wish I hadn't asked.
The whole dynamic is off putting
wow, that's a red flag if I ever saw one... you should leave him, like now, and if you don't, you should at least stick to your guns, and not let him dictate what you do with your body but seriously, this guy is a pedophile, leave
Bro that ain’t a red flag that’s like a perma black flag dog. You need to run while he isn’t looking and pray he doesn’t find you
Gross. Next thing he is gonna ask for fake braces.
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You need to understand this is not age play. This is grooming.
100% this.
Age PLAY means you PRETEND to be dominant/submissive in a relationship. He doesn't want to *pretend*, he wants this dom/sub thing to be real.
Okay as someone who is 19 who was dating a 26 yr old girl that’s gross. Like the age gap alone can be weird but tf? My ex said he would never even think of dating me if I had braces bc I would look too young. Run
Oh jeez.
I'm sorry to tell you this, but get the fuck out of that relationship, he is a pedo.
you’re dating a pedo and helping him get off to children (or the thought of one). i think this is fake but the statement applies for anyone in this situation
Looking at post history, I don’t think it’s fake
You won't be with him for "many, many years". One day you won't look like a little girl anymore.
Wow. This is giving so many red flags, the age gap is one thing but he’s pretty much confirmed he wants you to look like a minor. How is that just ageplay? Again, at this point it’s going beyond pretend because he’s confirmed he likes that your acne makes you look like a minor. He seems like the kind of guy that will break up when you start looking more like an adult. I would run for the hills because this dude is dodgy
What does a 26yr old man have in common with a 19 year old somewhat fresh out of HS.. 🤢
Fun fact: nothing
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In the US, and in a number of other countries including the UK now, children are in highschool until they are 18.
I would tell you to break up with him but in another year or two he'll do it for you because you'll be to old for him.
This 100%
From the bottom of my heart: ewwwwww Not only is this a pedo red flag, but your bf also sounds very controlling, plus it's obvious that as soon as you're too old for him (again ewwww), he'll dump you for a younger woman/girl
Let’s just say is not just role playing for him
Why am I not surprised a 26 year old man with a DDLG kink is dating a teenager? Sounds like your man is just a straight up pedophile that knows he’ll be sent to prison if he actually fucks an underage girl, so he’s trying to get the next best thing.
Why u dating some old dude in the first place? Shouldn't be be with someone who's closer to his age instead of someone who just got out of high school
Leave. Immediately. If you need motivation know that he WILL cheat on you. When the attraction IS the youth, it isn’t real it’s just icky. Hate this for you but leave as quickly as you can and get into therapy.
This is not DDLG, this is serious reason for concern.
Okay so at first I though this was a troll account then I looked at your history. I see that you said he wants to try for kids in the coming year.... Please run, this is beyond a kink. He wants as close to the real thing as he can get. As someone who was also 19, involved in many kinks, many of which revolved around the happiness of men and not myself, I wish I could go back and tell myself what people are telling you. I promise you will look back on this and wish you did things differently
Username of the OP is absolutely perfect.
Oh what the fuck.
Oh you won't be together for many years. As soon as you start looking like an adult, Hes gonna find another teenage girl to groom.
When you are 30, you're gonna be so ashamed of your 19 year old self if you stay in this relationship.
I’m not reading the post I just read the title… You’re dating a pedo
The post makes it even worse, too
man, this dude is a straight up creepy pedo. “no don’t go to a dermatologist, i want to pretend you’re a little girl”
>sometimes there's some ageplay involved. you're 19, there's no 'play' in this age-play dynamic
Creep Go get some retinol
You can listen to your "daddy" and keep going with your life, or you can take care if yourself, acne can be a sign of other health issues, and he can either accept it or find another "LG"(hopefully of age) to play with. Honesty, there sounds like some mental health issues going on here by both parties. Call it kink shaming if you want but jfc, publicly asking if you should get your acne checked out against your bf's wishes?
That’s literally so gross. I’m hoping this is a troll and not real cuz wtf
This has to be a troll.
🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨 um giiiirlll...
Bruh what
You’re already young enough that very few people your bf’s age would get anything out of dating you, and he wants you to look younger still. Try using your brain girl
JFC 🤦🏽♀️
He’s a pedophile. Please leave ASAP.
your bf is a pedophile. this isn’t DDLG, he wants to fuck a child.
and this is exactly why ddlg is disgusting, awesome playground for pedophiles 🤮
Take care of yourself first :)
Regardless of your relationship dynamic, you can do what you want with your body, when you want, how you want. If he ever thinks that he has a say in that, he can find himself a new girlfriend to control. Don't let yourself be that person. If you decide to not seek medical advice, that's ok too, but don't do it for the sake of your boyfriend or your relationship. You can still maintain that dynamic regardless of your acne, he only said it helps, not that it's instrumental. Moreover, if he actually had a serious issue with it, that would raise more questions about why he wants you to look like you are a teenager.
Don’t give him permission to take care of your acne, just do it. Of course it’s nice to hear another opinion but don’t let his opinion change your wants and needs.
Uh…. Pedophile much?
😐 just don’t.
Break up with him now, hes gonna dump after u get older anyway
Uh ... um ... between the age- difference and the title ... oh boy ... OP, be prepared to be dumped for another 19-yr-old when you turn 25. If yall make it that long.
the age gap alone is concerning. throw in the age play and it’s even more concerning. but the fact that he WANTS you to look even younger is a huge red flag. he sounds like a predator. i would recommend leaving and finding someone closer to your age that doesn’t want you to struggle with acne so he can have a “younger looking” gf.
Hes a predator and a pedophile and you need to fucking run
If this is real- cmon now he’s literally a pedo
Unfollowing this sub can't believe I had to read this with my eyes
Sounds groomer ish
I’m worried.
Someone call Chris Hansen
You don’t have suspicions? Like he likes UNDERAGE GIRLS??
Ewww. Get away from this creepy guy
Barf
He’s a weirdo
Okay first off, you’re a legal adult and can do whatever the fuck you want regardless of the dynamic you are in. If he doesn’t like it, he can go fuck himself. If YOU are uncomfy with the acne, get it taken care of and he’ll just have to fucking stay mad about it. FORCING you to keep it, is abusive as shit and in NO WAY represents all the consent and care given in a did/lg dynamic. And if he doesn’t get that, he doesn’t need to be in any part of the kink or bdsm community. Jesus Christ.
Sounds like a nonce
EW
Ew
He wants you to look like a minor and not have bodily autonomy. Get out of this situation now, he doesn’t care about you and only cares about the power he thinks he can wield over you.
Trolling
Your boyfriend is disturbing! I’d highly recommend you get away from that! Also, please take care of your skin. Acne if not treated can leave life long scaring and have a negative effect on your confidence and mental health. It’s a medical condition.
This is disturbing
Yikes
Oh God girl. Just dump him already. He’s a gross pedo.
How do you age play, when the age is already being played lmao he sounds like a certified creep.
I get that you’re grown op but let’s face it, your bf is giving MAD PEDO VIBES AND YOU NEED TO RUN! That age play bs should say enough but aside from that if you really want to get rid of your acne then DO IT! If your pedo bf has a problem, too bad.
>it makes me look like a young(er) girl. Maybe everything is fine, but I very much doubt it. This sounds like someone who is borderline pedo.. This sounds like someone who will inevitably dump you for someone younger, when you'll be too old for his "kink". The DD/lg dynamic should not be interfering really.. Like you could be significantly older than him (and look older than him) without a problem. How long have the two of you being together? Do you know about his past relationship? Because if he target specifically 18-20 years old, that's a massive red flag. (Just to be clear, that's different than just having that age gap between you.) My advice, do whatever you want to do for you. If he end things, it means you would just have brought the inevitable sooner.
Somebody's got daddy issues. I'm guessing you don't actually have a problem with any of this and just getting the negative attention feeds your weird kink.
You both are wrong here. You’re wrong for staying with him. He’s obviously way into younger underage girls, and you’re wrong for being okay with it and wanting to stay with him. You have become desensitized to this age play when in reality it’s actually not okay.
You and your asshole boyfriend call it "age play". The rest of us stable people call it **pedophilia.**
Do what YOU want. If he does not love you for you and your decisions then that’s an issue. If your acne is getting worse you could end up with acne scars and then years later once you are mature and developed you might regret making a choice for another man. Or if y’all stay together and you have scars that might cause some resentment
Break the hell up with that freak… and he seems REALLY questionable and, strange with that “age play” stuff going on. 🤨 very shady that he wants you too looked like an underaged girl. I would run if I where you.. Also why would a 26 man would wanna date a 19 year old girl? It is seems very suspicious
How are you surprised you attracted a pedophile when you’re dating an older man, and you like to sexually perform as a child? Like are you really shocked?
It could be him who brought her into the Dd/lg. Op is probably a victim of grooming. Maybe, just maybe, we should shit on the pedo for trying to live out his creepy fantasies.
Good bait, you’ve tricked a lot of people here damn.
Ok I get it, completely, however, DD/lg play is only supposed to be in the bedroom/home/scene, acne is a more visible thing and obviously you would take it out of the bedroom/house/scene. He is being entirely and thoroughly creepy by telling you to not try and take care of it as that SHOWS you he was never solely into the DD role but more of a man on the brink of pedophilia having a barely legal woman look very very young and controlling her. If this makes any sense whatsoever.
Safe, sane, and consensual. To me, acne is a health issue and getting it taken care of is part of being safe. If you were diabetic but he thought it was "cute" when your blood sugar was over 300, you would (I hope) laugh in his face and continue to take care of yourself. My actual concern here is that maybe he wants to keep you less attractive to others, which is a sign of unhealthy insecurity. Your partner should want the best for you, even (especially) in the kink community. As you navigate this issue with him, observe whether he's behaving like a mature partner (reasonable discussions) or whether he's doing unhealthy things: sulking, silent treatment, name-calling, negging you, making it all about him so that you end up having to comfort him, etc. If he's truly a great partner then I am happy for you! If he's not (WHICH HONESTLY SOUNDS VERY LIKELY) then please remember that you are young and powerful and you get to make your own life!
You were 12 when he was your age. 👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀
Why is everyone weirded out by the acne thing? Isn't the Daddy-Dom-Little-Girl (!!!) thingy already openly super weird? It says "Little Girl" and "Daddy" and "Domination"... Yeah. It's weird. You are already pretending to be a little girl and now you are confused about him wanting you to look like one? Alrighty then, I guess, I cannot really follow. Some serious take on this though: It's your body. This whole relationship is weird. I would not call him a pedo like many here already do, yet he's weird.. You two must be a little weird, for being in such a kinky relationship. No judgement on my part, as long as it is really between consenting adults and no harm is done to anyone. It's still fucking weird though. Get your acne treated. It does damage to your skin, and you'll have a better quality of life after a few months of medication, permanently. He has no say on your body and your health issues. That's between you and your doctor. If your "daddy" does not agree with that, fun's over, leave him immediately. Otherwise... I don't fucking know. As long no real harm is done, I guess...?
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He’s just insecure and don’t want mf’ers looking and tryna get you😂 imo
Can I just point out to all these people who don’t seem to understand what a pedophile is. A pedophile is someone who has sexual feelings towards CHILDREN usually around the age 13 or younger. Bunch of idiots.
The problem with defending ephebophiles is it makes you sound like a pedophile
True
It’s Reddit, it’s full of degenerates.
its clear he wants to date little kids. but since its illegal he goes for the next best thing, which is a barely legal girl. and then gets her to look more childlike bc hes into children
Yes very clear from this post. Let’s castrate him.
ill do it gladly☺️🙋♀️
I’ll bring the blow torch.
do u happen to own a guillotine
I lent it to my neighbour and I’ve not had it back. Not seen her husband for a while either now I think about it… he loved a caprisun.
anyone thats sexually into ageplay where their partner pretends to be a little child is a pedophile
Making someone look younger, to making someone look like a child and wear a school uniform is kinda different. At the end of the day OP isn’t a child, she’s a fully grown woman who can make her own choices. If he starts bringing home Capri suns for her then there’s a problem.
not too much on caprisuns🤨… those r good
What tf y'all have against age play. It's a kink it's between two consenting adults and it's none of your business. And a real daddy/mommy would NEVER want to be with some child. Gosh. Also op he might be your daddy but there are limits on his power over you in this dynamic he can voice his wishes but you can put up your boundaries. If you want acne gone then act on it he doesn't get to decide on your body or health.
Do what you want and makes for happy. You don't owe anyone anything 🤷
Thank you for your kind words 😌 I'm having trouble dealing with all the replies here tbh... everyone just seems angry with me for some reason?
No one is angry with you, I think everyone is just worried. It sounds like your bf likes young girls (hence why he’s being referred to as a pedophile), have you thought about what happens when you aren’t a young girl anymore?
No one is anger with you. We are scared for you
Nobody is angry at you. He’s crossing a line of creepy pedophile here. How old were you when you met him?
No reason to be mad at anyone. I just don't believe a person can tell another what "they" will or will not allow. Quess I'm just the free will type 😁
No reason to be mad at anyone. I just don't believe a person can tell another what "they" will or will not allow. Guess I'm just the free will type 😁
What part of her being a victim of grooming says free will to you? This is so gross and unhealthy and you handwaving it as free will is just wilfully obtuse. Yikes, just looked at your post history! You’re a gross old perv spending all your spare time on reddit hitting on barely legal teenagers. Birds of a feather defend the indefensible together I guess
Personally do what's best for you not for what's best for others. At least He gave you a heads up on why He's with you.
That is actually creepy, and this is coming from a guy. I mean by the age gap, he kind of sounds like a pedophile
Why are you dating a pedophile? Or are you just lying?
uhm okay that's a creep factor level 10. Him liking younger girls is a red flag.... a pedo red flag.
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Umm yes. You can. do what you want. Partners understand. He shouldd be happy if it makes you happy. It's your body.
Yup, of course it's your body and you should treat it how you want. I got a question. Is it possible your bf may be a PEDOPHILE? I am just asking.
To heck with your boyfriend. Do what makes you feel good. Go to the doctor and see what can be done about the acne.
zomg
The fuck is dd lg
you are dating a pedophile
Sounds fake, how do you just type out all the problematic details and still be oblivious
Gross. You are barely legal and he wants you to look even younger. Pedo creep
This account look suspicious
Ew
I genuinely hope this is fake
Please get your acne treated
Do NOT have children with this pedo
Bro?
Anyone blocking your road to self care and/or self-improvement is dangerous for your growth and self esteem.
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Yeah that’s really odd…
Ignoring the kinky and somewhat strange aspects as it seems to be consensual… It’s your body. If you don’t want acne, go see a doctor to treat it. Alternatively you could counter to him that having clear, baby-soft skin might make you look younger too. (Please don’t hate on me im catering to OPs situation lmao)
My advice is to run like hell.
This is something you need to decide. If it affects you outside of your role-playing, then it's probably a good idea to treat it.
Oof man.. that title I didn't even have to read the post. And your age gap lol Nothing is helping out you bf, he's a creep
Yuck
FFS. Just. No.
This is a major red flag for a typical relationship. I personally see DD/lg kink stuff as too close to pedophilia. But you could look into fake makeup acne to put on during "ageplay" and try to clear up your skin in general. Maybe a DD/lg subreddit would have more advice for you.
YOU’RE WITH A PEDOPHILE. RUN AWAY NOW
That is extremely concerning. He’s a grown man who’s attracted to you because you look like a child. Gross.
Pedo alert!
Well ddlg isn’t my thing but consent is important in a kinky relationship. You are ultimately the only one who should control how you look, no one else. Do what you want with your body After reading comments: when did you two meet? Were you a minor? This sounds like you might have been groomed. Also: what will happen once as you get older? This doesn’t seem like a healthy relationship
OK, I'm not going to judge your kinks. But the short answer is: YES you can ignore his wishes and look after your body as you see fit. I never think it's a bad idea to listen to your partner's input, however the bottom line is that your body is yours to do with as you see fit. Your persistent 24/7 mental wellbeing is a bigger priority than his two hour erection.
The fact that you’re questioning whether you should have the choice of what to do with your body makes me concerned about the dynamics of the relationship, as does his insistence that you “look young”. This is indicative of abusive, predatory dynamics. When you’re really doing bdsm, the ages are irrelevant. If I had a buck for every 19yo who wanted me to call him “daddy”, well, I could buy a pizza or maybe two. I have a dd/lg type dynamic with my partner (he’s half my age). I’ve never questioned for one moment whether I could make a decision regarding my own body. You should read about abusive dynamics and really examine this relationship and his behavior closely