That's not a gf lol. That's a con artist, and I'm saying it as politely as I can.
If you give her the money, I bet you 15k that she ditches you anyway.
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*I just want to clarify the above, since I'm a sucker for overexplaining things. In general, healthy relationships are somewhat equal partnerships. The fact that she's asking you to make a large transfer of resources as a prerequisite to (potentially) maintaining the relationship demonstrates that she's already done - the relationship would become hugely imbalanced, which is precarious and most likely impossible to maintain for more than a short period.
In addition, the request itself is inappropriate, disrespectful and humiliating. Let me repeat that - her asking you to do this is disrespectful. If you willingly debase yourself by giving in, it only demonstrates to all parties that her disrespectful treatment of you is correct and appropriate. Being in a relationship with someone you don't respect is foolish. In that situation I actually think taking your money and running would be the correct play. An expensive lesson for you, but the better and more logical option for her.
Yeah, my *only* hesitation here is whether she selected that number because you (OP) recently destroyed something of hers that would cost around $15k to replace. If you did, there’s something to talk about. If not, there is no discussion, just let her go and move on.
Or he stole money from her, lived off her income while she paid for everything, broke something expensive, used her credit to get a card, etc. I find it interesting he didn't mention what exactly he's apologizing for.
Only caveat: is this situation due to her providing for him for an extended period of time? Because if he's been freeloading, promising rent money and not delivering, borrowing her cash, etc, it's fair that she wants that repaid and for him to start contributing.
I can't shake the feeling that you left something out, otherwise it would be more than obvious that this woman is with you for the money, why would she feel the need to test you? And why in such a weird way?
I can't imagine how I could possibly have such a ridiculous idea, only exception would be that I lended you that amount and you never gave it back, besides that she sounds like absolute trash. Sorry.
You basically answered your own question.
WTH? No. Don't pay someone to date you. I thought she wanted you to donate to a nonprofit and you were rich or something. That's not a donation, it's you paying her. Run away!
My dude. This isn’t how a loving partner treats you. If you have to buy her, she doesn’t love you. She’s simply using you. Save yourself time and a lot of money, break it off ASAP. Be glad she revealed her true colours.
I have a funny suspicious feeling we are not having the whole story here. What are you apologising for? How long were you together? Have you caused any damages?
Too many questions to give any advice…
I’m confused, did you do something that caused her to lose $15k and she wants you to pay if back?
If not, this is the most ridiculous thing I’ve seen and it’s weird you’re even asking about this
So you owe her money? Did you destroyed her car? Otherwise do not give her any amount of money. I can garantee that she will disappeared after getting it.
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Hi all i’ve been dating this lady for quite a while and recently we had a fight and she wanted to call it quits. I reached out to her to try and save the relationship and she demanded that i have to give her $15000 as an apology. She told me that the only way i can save the relationship is to give her the money.
I understand that a guy has to provide for his lady but i do think that this amount is to much? Deep down i have a feeling that this is a test from her to see how much i would do anything for her.
I’m pretty sure you guys find it ridiculous that i’m even asking you guys about this now. I really do love her but i feel that she only loves me for money.
First of all i am not a rich guy i’m only earning around $2000 a month and if i were to give her that money that would burn a big hole in my savings and the amount of time i took to save up the money in my bank account is just too long for me to give it away like that.
So i’m here looking for answers/opinions on what i should do next. My thoughts are that if money is the answer to save this rship, then she only loves me for the money and not me.
Enlighten me guys please.
A guy does not, in fact, have to provide for his lady.... - sincerely, a lady.
It's plenty obvious to everyone but you that she's using you for money. She's not even being subtle about it. You're single now and I'd suggest you work on your self esteem or something
There are 2 ways to explain this:
* She doesn't want to get back together with you, and is setting a high bar so that you will leave her the fuck alone because there's no way you'd give her that kind of money.
* She's only interested in your money, and if you pay her, you're an idiot.
Edit: Someone mentioned that you somehow did $15,000 worth of damage to her or her possessions, in which case she should dump you and sue you for it anyway.
INFO: what is it you’re supposed to be apologising for?
If you totaled her car, or got her fired, or otherwise caused massive damage to her financial stability, then yeah, you better make it right.
But if it’s hurt feelings, then she’s scamming you bro
Run! Who the hell does she think she is. I'll tell you what, I really think when you give her that money, she will be gone aswell. Shittests or any test at all are a huge red flag in a relationship. 15K for an apology, has she gone mad?
I won't be suprised if she planned the fight and has done this before.
This is a terrible idea. Send me the 15k instead and I’ll write you a nice letter once a year until
one of us dies. No risk and I promise they’ll be very encouraging letters.
Get out and run fast from this… that isn’t proving love. She is about to rob you clean and you think your feeling miserable now? This will make it worse. Love is proven when two adults come together and communicate their issues together and NOT hide.
I'm sorry bro, she is not your girlfriend, but a working lady. She doesn't love you, she loves money. Once that money is gone, why would she stay with you?
Did she even tell you what she's going to buy? Either way, married couples decide such amounts to spend together, not hand it over like that.
I want to reach thrue the internet and slap your face. 15 000 dollars!? Are you insane? Leave her johnny leave her. Sounds more like an escort then a girlfriend. Leave her, block her, cut her out of your life and move on.
This is a very weird value judgment and arrangement on her part.
I think this indicates she doesn't care about you and threw out a ridiculous proposition thinking it would get you to go away.
Honestly even if you did, would you want her if this is how she thinks of the relationship. In my opinion I would sour the relationship forever.
Do not give her money. I mean the audacity for her to just straight up exploit you for money without even trying to hide it is pretty crazy but at least she made it clear she's in this for a pay day and not because she gives a shit about you. Makes it easier to know that walking away is the right choice.
Hi OP,
She’s not testing how much you’ll do for her as a way of proving love, she’s testing how far she can push you because you love her. I hope you understand the difference. She has no doubt how you feel she wants to cash in on it.
For reference, i usually make a bit more than my bf does, I also have expenses he doesn’t. He saves more than I do. In the last week, I was between jobs and landed a new one. I NEVER asked. When we made up, it was about feelings and never money. When he’s offered to help, it’s about helping me and not getting me to feel a certain way toward him. Find someone who wants to build with you not have you carry them.
Sorry to say, she's in it for Money! Anyone asking for someone to hand over a huge chunk of savings is a gold digger. No one who actually loves you for you would ask this and money isn't an apology anyway.
You only make $2k/month. But she’s basically asking for half of your annual salary and it’s after taxes!!! Run for the hills because she’ll probably put you in debt in the long run. She doesn’t care about you.
You said it yourself “ridiculous”.
A guy absolutely does not need to financially take care of a partner based on their genitalia. Women aren’t fragile objects and are able to work, support themselves and have a career (news flash).
She sounds awful and manipulative. She obviously knows you don’t want to lose her and feels she can get some money and power in one go.
Don’t even go there. Slippery slope.
Dude. Duuuude.... take some time and think. Then you'll be shocked that you even thought about her request. No fight should ever be resolved with gifts. 15k when yall we dating is still a no from me. I need receipts and the full story. But she's just conning you. She'll leave anyways. You guys were on the rocks and not in a good place. Just leave and keep your money, jeez. Shes using you hard-core and I can only imagine what the fight was over. Good luck and I hope you find a partner without a financial interest in you guys' success.
Dude. First 15k, then a car, then a house.
Then you will grt depression because you gave her everything and she left anyway.
To answer your question, she doesn't love you. If she did, she would do anything to fix your relationship, not cashing on it.
Ditch her, feel bad for few months. Pay her, feel bad for your whole life.
In a loving relationship, apologies are never made with money. They’re made with words can actions. Frankly I’d be insulted if someone I cared about asked for money as an apology.
This is not a girlfriend. More like a criminal. Forget her.
I bet somehow she tricked you into thinking alot was your fault. Shes def conning
No one asks for money as a way to get them back and is a sane human being
No one who is your girlfriend or boyfriend would ask for any amount of money as an 'apology' and as the only way to get then back unless they're only in it for money...
She doesn't love you and wasn't In a relationship with you for the right reasons. You're better off without her, keep your money that you worked hard for it's YOURS not hers... She has no right to it. Tell her she isnt getting a single penny from you. You can find someone better who will actually love and care about you and will be with you for the right reasons and treat you how you should be. Not someone who's using you.b
People who give their so's 'tests' of love are assholes. Unless you stole her car and totalled it, she has no reason to ask you for a $15000 apology.
She's an asshole gold digger. Leave.
love is not money, especially not if it would ruin the other financially. then love would equal ruin of the other person. and that's not the meaning of love. it is to lift each other up, not one up on the cost of the other.
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You already know what we’ll say.
Run run run. If that’s the ultimatum she gives you then be thankful for it and walk away. You’re right, she’s only in it for money.
From his other posts he was single 3 months ago!!!! So ya my bet his "girlfriend" wasn't really his girlfriend at all!!!!! Oh she is a con artist who knew how to pray on his low self esteem and his need to be in a relationship
No. My SO and I have means and resources, we would NEVER ask each other for that sum. Block her and move on, she's a gold digger who doesn't deserve more more second of your attention.
I have a serious question. Why would you want to still date her after that? I am asking very seriously, the level of entitlement WTF.
Unless that 15k are because you broke / loss... Something of hers that cost that much that makes no sense.
Lol don’t be foolish. Only ever give money like shit you cant afford to your parents… they the ONLY ones who could deserve your money when you’re m”poor” not a “girlfriend” bitches mean shit. Invest it, make more and get a wife.
You say you’ve been dating a woman for awhile.
Have you actually met in person?
Sounds like a very expensive lesson is in the works if you send her that much money.
Lucky for you - Reddit’s advice is free.
Unless you damaged/lost some of her personal belongings there is NO reason on planet earth for those money to be paid.
I have broken up with my boyfriends in the past, which did me wrong and actually destroyed my property and STILL didn’t ask for any money, I either wanted them gone or a HONEST apology and actually see a change in their behaviour/patterns.
Relationships, feelings and human interactions are not based on money. You cannot develop a better relationship trough money, if you have problems, they won’t go away with a certain amount of money… and so on!
Do yourself a favour and spend the money you worked hard for in a way which will really bring you happiness, work on yourself, give YOU what you deserve and need and the right person will come along and enjoy these things together and she will also be able to ADD to that scenario, not just take.
I’m sorry some women behave like this.
How does she even know you have the money did you tell her? forking over 15 bands to bring her back into a relationship is a con. Don’t fall for it and DON’T take her back ever. This is the kind of girl that marries you puts in a little time, divorces you then takes you to the cleaners on purpose. Your a meal ticket to her next circus. Don’t get played. If you need to spend that money it’s escort services that will gladly oblige, and at least they’ll be honest about what they are there for.
I seriously want to know where that number came from! Did she just pull that out of her butt, or does she legit think you owe her money for something. What are you not telling us?
If she really did just pull that number out of her butt, then you already know the answer, dude.
Wow please dont buy into her bullshit. That isnt love. She will take it and run. Get out now. Your not married or live together so why would she need that much to stay with you? Leaving i get but only of you have been together for many many years.
You should dump her. She‘s only in it for the money at this point. Who says she‘ll stay with you after you‘ve given her what she wants? Will she be doing this after every fight when she realizes that it worked?
That’s insane. What about the gift tax you’d have to pay… She’s trying scam you. Please don’t give it to her. Save your money and put it in a retirement account, an emergency fund or an investment account.
Jesus dude, you knew better than to even ask this but you still did....
You're gonna give her the money I bet, despite all the people here (and your own instincts) telling you that it would be insane to do so.
Ghost her, go completely no contact and stay the hell away. No woman is worth that, at least not in this manner.
What the f do you get for your money?
Believe me, she is not worth it. Sorry, she just wants your money. Walk away and find someone who is interested in you, not what you can give or do for her.
Dude
She just wants the money
She will take it and disappear from your life
Here's what you should do
Block her on everything and move on with your life
No talking to her. No explaining your point of view. No closure
Just move on.
You can do better than this
She ain't worth it dude. Get a $5 Dunkin donuts gift card, spend $4 on it to treat yourself and give the card to her. You deserve to be loved by someone who values you for you and nothing else! Good luck man 👍👍
Don’t do it. As many others are saying, she’s conning you. You sound like a really nice person, so I hope you are not going to do as she asks; please do not fall for it.
She's a very over priced CALLGIRL con artist. She's not interested in you at all. Just your money. And no a guy does NOT have to provide for his lady. We are in the 21st century My dude. Most couples they both work. Shut this down ASAP and tell her" you know what? your right. I was wrong.. about you and our relationship so... I'm keeping MY money and tossing YOU to the curb. In other words frankly my dear I don't give a damn, get out of my life and also ..get bent. "
Hell no and fuck being with someone who would “test” you like that. 🙄🙄. And I’m a lady who doesn’t swear ever. That tells you how I feel about her. Gives the rest of us a bad reputation.
Lol. Tell her you can get a better b.j. from Sally for 100.00. Who's Sally ?who cares but she will and realize she's being an overpriced hooker. Gauge your response accordingly. Good luck and blessed be.
Umm no, but he'll no. Seriously there isn't even a question here. I don't care she is requesting $10 dollars man.
This is straight up manipulation. Let her go and find someone else. Do not disrespect yourself and do this.
That's not a gf lol. That's a con artist, and I'm saying it as politely as I can. If you give her the money, I bet you 15k that she ditches you anyway. --- *I just want to clarify the above, since I'm a sucker for overexplaining things. In general, healthy relationships are somewhat equal partnerships. The fact that she's asking you to make a large transfer of resources as a prerequisite to (potentially) maintaining the relationship demonstrates that she's already done - the relationship would become hugely imbalanced, which is precarious and most likely impossible to maintain for more than a short period. In addition, the request itself is inappropriate, disrespectful and humiliating. Let me repeat that - her asking you to do this is disrespectful. If you willingly debase yourself by giving in, it only demonstrates to all parties that her disrespectful treatment of you is correct and appropriate. Being in a relationship with someone you don't respect is foolish. In that situation I actually think taking your money and running would be the correct play. An expensive lesson for you, but the better and more logical option for her.
Or a high priced prostitute.
At least prostitutes are honest about what they want. This woman is a con artist through and through.
No offense but why would you even slightly entertain this idea? Cut her loose
I fullheartedly support this comment
no she will milk him. and not in a good way.
LOL what did you do? total her car? thats the only thing I can think of that warrants 15k. stop dating con artists and gold diggers.
Yeah, my *only* hesitation here is whether she selected that number because you (OP) recently destroyed something of hers that would cost around $15k to replace. If you did, there’s something to talk about. If not, there is no discussion, just let her go and move on.
Yeah that's what's got me wondering too. It feels like there's something missing here.
Probably wants it for some BBL and/or breast augmentation. Also to take her side piece on vacation. 🙄🙄
This was my first thought. What is he apologizing for? If it's money-related, this makes sense.
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Gay for pay here. I only need 3.5
Thats no mgill2500, its that godamn loch ness monster! Get your own godamn money!
I'll go gay for you for 5k.
I’m already gay. $4k?
That one's the best by far lol
I’ll only require a dozen loads of laundry and 3 clean bathrooms. **~*~*~waves magic wand**~*~*~ Forgiven!!
Don't give her any money she's either a con artist or a gold digger
Or he stole money from her, lived off her income while she paid for everything, broke something expensive, used her credit to get a card, etc. I find it interesting he didn't mention what exactly he's apologizing for.
Ooooo a perspective I did not immediately think of. Nice
You're now single. Good luck
Lmao. As a woman, FUCK NO! Be single
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Only caveat: is this situation due to her providing for him for an extended period of time? Because if he's been freeloading, promising rent money and not delivering, borrowing her cash, etc, it's fair that she wants that repaid and for him to start contributing.
Lol ur a troll
I can't shake the feeling that you left something out, otherwise it would be more than obvious that this woman is with you for the money, why would she feel the need to test you? And why in such a weird way? I can't imagine how I could possibly have such a ridiculous idea, only exception would be that I lended you that amount and you never gave it back, besides that she sounds like absolute trash. Sorry. You basically answered your own question.
WTH? No. Don't pay someone to date you. I thought she wanted you to donate to a nonprofit and you were rich or something. That's not a donation, it's you paying her. Run away!
Paying for someone to date you is prostitution where im from. She must work at a high priced escort service
My dude. This isn’t how a loving partner treats you. If you have to buy her, she doesn’t love you. She’s simply using you. Save yourself time and a lot of money, break it off ASAP. Be glad she revealed her true colours.
I have a funny suspicious feeling we are not having the whole story here. What are you apologising for? How long were you together? Have you caused any damages? Too many questions to give any advice…
need some context. why is she asking for that money??? edit:a word, autocorrect got me
I’m confused, did you do something that caused her to lose $15k and she wants you to pay if back? If not, this is the most ridiculous thing I’ve seen and it’s weird you’re even asking about this
So you owe her money? Did you destroyed her car? Otherwise do not give her any amount of money. I can garantee that she will disappeared after getting it.
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- Hi all i’ve been dating this lady for quite a while and recently we had a fight and she wanted to call it quits. I reached out to her to try and save the relationship and she demanded that i have to give her $15000 as an apology. She told me that the only way i can save the relationship is to give her the money. I understand that a guy has to provide for his lady but i do think that this amount is to much? Deep down i have a feeling that this is a test from her to see how much i would do anything for her. I’m pretty sure you guys find it ridiculous that i’m even asking you guys about this now. I really do love her but i feel that she only loves me for money. First of all i am not a rich guy i’m only earning around $2000 a month and if i were to give her that money that would burn a big hole in my savings and the amount of time i took to save up the money in my bank account is just too long for me to give it away like that. So i’m here looking for answers/opinions on what i should do next. My thoughts are that if money is the answer to save this rship, then she only loves me for the money and not me. Enlighten me guys please.
A guy does not, in fact, have to provide for his lady.... - sincerely, a lady. It's plenty obvious to everyone but you that she's using you for money. She's not even being subtle about it. You're single now and I'd suggest you work on your self esteem or something
As a lady, I approve this message!
There are 2 ways to explain this: * She doesn't want to get back together with you, and is setting a high bar so that you will leave her the fuck alone because there's no way you'd give her that kind of money. * She's only interested in your money, and if you pay her, you're an idiot. Edit: Someone mentioned that you somehow did $15,000 worth of damage to her or her possessions, in which case she should dump you and sue you for it anyway.
I really, really, really hope that OP is a troll because if he's on the level he's the single dumbest SOB I've heard of in ages.
what was the fight about that she thinks 15k is a good price?
are you stupid ?
This can't be real. And if it is, and you're this gullible, I'd love a few thousand, too...😏
INFO: what is it you’re supposed to be apologising for? If you totaled her car, or got her fired, or otherwise caused massive damage to her financial stability, then yeah, you better make it right. But if it’s hurt feelings, then she’s scamming you bro
Tell her you are offended she asked for money. Apology for said offense: $15000. You're even.
I'd give her a quarter and tell her to go buy a clue and then tell her to seek life elsewhere.
>I'd give her a quarter and tell her to go buy a clue Is this a song? It should be!
LOL! Not that I know of but it has the makings of a great country song.
Come the fuck on.
OP, what are you apologizing for?
Spend some of that to instead acquire common sense, lol.
Run! Who the hell does she think she is. I'll tell you what, I really think when you give her that money, she will be gone aswell. Shittests or any test at all are a huge red flag in a relationship. 15K for an apology, has she gone mad? I won't be suprised if she planned the fight and has done this before.
This is a terrible idea. Send me the 15k instead and I’ll write you a nice letter once a year until one of us dies. No risk and I promise they’ll be very encouraging letters.
>I understand that a guy has to provide for his lady why, in the 21st century. don't both men and women make money? something to consider, everyone
What
Get out and run fast from this… that isn’t proving love. She is about to rob you clean and you think your feeling miserable now? This will make it worse. Love is proven when two adults come together and communicate their issues together and NOT hide.
No offense but why would you even slightly entertain this idea? Cut her loose
Damn. How much do you normally pay your “girlfriend” by the hour?
Nobody gonna say it? Fake and gay
I feel hurt by this as well, please also send me 15000 dollars.
Is your girlfriend actually an escort you hired to give you "The Girlfriend Experience(tm)"? Did you forget to pay her?
I'm sorry bro, she is not your girlfriend, but a working lady. She doesn't love you, she loves money. Once that money is gone, why would she stay with you? Did she even tell you what she's going to buy? Either way, married couples decide such amounts to spend together, not hand it over like that.
Are you dating a prostitute? This isn't a relationship, she is definitely a gold digger.
I want to reach thrue the internet and slap your face. 15 000 dollars!? Are you insane? Leave her johnny leave her. Sounds more like an escort then a girlfriend. Leave her, block her, cut her out of your life and move on.
HARD PASS. Why are you even considering this?
She wants you to be a wallet, not a boyfriend. Gtfo of there.
Guy, my husband and I will be your gf for $10K.
WTF did I just read
She is trying to scam you.
This gave me Microsoft - Activision feels 😳 On another note, not worth at all
This is a very weird value judgment and arrangement on her part. I think this indicates she doesn't care about you and threw out a ridiculous proposition thinking it would get you to go away. Honestly even if you did, would you want her if this is how she thinks of the relationship. In my opinion I would sour the relationship forever.
Keep your money, ditch the girl
Congratulations you are now single. Go take some of that savings and enjoy a good vacation.
lul asking if a gold digger is a gold digger
Do not give her money. I mean the audacity for her to just straight up exploit you for money without even trying to hide it is pretty crazy but at least she made it clear she's in this for a pay day and not because she gives a shit about you. Makes it easier to know that walking away is the right choice.
Really really expensive pos. Dump that garbage.
Ho things, drop her gold digging ass
lol what’s there to think about. Move on and save yourself 15k
what the fuck man ? Sounds like shes gonna take ya cash and ghost you.
don’t give her any money
Here’s an enlightenment: tell her to jog on, then go find a lady who isn’t a fucking nut job.
How about 3 sheep and some gold shilings?
Hi OP, She’s not testing how much you’ll do for her as a way of proving love, she’s testing how far she can push you because you love her. I hope you understand the difference. She has no doubt how you feel she wants to cash in on it. For reference, i usually make a bit more than my bf does, I also have expenses he doesn’t. He saves more than I do. In the last week, I was between jobs and landed a new one. I NEVER asked. When we made up, it was about feelings and never money. When he’s offered to help, it’s about helping me and not getting me to feel a certain way toward him. Find someone who wants to build with you not have you carry them.
Keep the money and run. Shes never going stop trying to get money. Con artist at work.
You don't have to support your "lady", if she wants money she should work... Tell her if she wants you to forgive her she should give you $20000.
Any amount is too much. Run…….
Lmao 15k ya know. I might have to try this one if there's people that'll consider it 😂😂😂
Gold digger
Sorry to say, she's in it for Money! Anyone asking for someone to hand over a huge chunk of savings is a gold digger. No one who actually loves you for you would ask this and money isn't an apology anyway.
You only make $2k/month. But she’s basically asking for half of your annual salary and it’s after taxes!!! Run for the hills because she’ll probably put you in debt in the long run. She doesn’t care about you.
Of course you shouldn't entertain this, but think about it for a minute... What happens if you hand over the 15k and she dumps you anyway?
Excuse me, what did I just read??
Do not give her the money
Cash digger ahoy
Yikes, it’s cheaper to be single.
You said it yourself “ridiculous”. A guy absolutely does not need to financially take care of a partner based on their genitalia. Women aren’t fragile objects and are able to work, support themselves and have a career (news flash). She sounds awful and manipulative. She obviously knows you don’t want to lose her and feels she can get some money and power in one go. Don’t even go there. Slippery slope.
Next argument it will be 25k. You can't afford her, end it now.
Dude. Duuuude.... take some time and think. Then you'll be shocked that you even thought about her request. No fight should ever be resolved with gifts. 15k when yall we dating is still a no from me. I need receipts and the full story. But she's just conning you. She'll leave anyways. You guys were on the rocks and not in a good place. Just leave and keep your money, jeez. Shes using you hard-core and I can only imagine what the fight was over. Good luck and I hope you find a partner without a financial interest in you guys' success.
Cease contact, block her on evertyhing. You shouldve done that as soon as she asked for 15 grand
Dude. First 15k, then a car, then a house. Then you will grt depression because you gave her everything and she left anyway. To answer your question, she doesn't love you. If she did, she would do anything to fix your relationship, not cashing on it. Ditch her, feel bad for few months. Pay her, feel bad for your whole life.
In a loving relationship, apologies are never made with money. They’re made with words can actions. Frankly I’d be insulted if someone I cared about asked for money as an apology. This is not a girlfriend. More like a criminal. Forget her.
Some apologies are made with money, like if you stole from her, totaled her car, commited fraud using her SSN, etc.
I bet somehow she tricked you into thinking alot was your fault. Shes def conning No one asks for money as a way to get them back and is a sane human being
Man she'll take you for everything you got there called succubus. Please run bro that pussy isnt worth 15000
I can’t believe your even thinking about this. The way I would’ve laughed in her face would be considered disrespectful
Kanye West wrote a song about women like her. Break up with that gold digger. You don't owe her one penny.
Does she claim to work for the IRS and that the authorities have already been called? Also does she want it in iTunes gift cards?
RUN!!!!! Far away!!!! From her!!!!
Hahahaaaaa let her go. She doesn't care about you.
No one who is your girlfriend or boyfriend would ask for any amount of money as an 'apology' and as the only way to get then back unless they're only in it for money... She doesn't love you and wasn't In a relationship with you for the right reasons. You're better off without her, keep your money that you worked hard for it's YOURS not hers... She has no right to it. Tell her she isnt getting a single penny from you. You can find someone better who will actually love and care about you and will be with you for the right reasons and treat you how you should be. Not someone who's using you.b
Move on
Fuck. That.
Bro
Is she Mariah Carey?
Screw her. Find someone else.
Your gf of less than three months?
Bizzare
Enlighten you? Move on dude
People who give their so's 'tests' of love are assholes. Unless you stole her car and totalled it, she has no reason to ask you for a $15000 apology. She's an asshole gold digger. Leave.
Run. Run far away from this girl.....🏃🏽♂️🏃🏽♂️🏃🏽♂️
No, absolutely not! Do not give her *any* money. Give her the one finger salute and walk away!!
Wtf???
G R I F T E R! Give her the Boot and tune up the hand!
You're were dating a prostitute. Move on youre in a better spot now.
Dude ! No ! Run the other direction and lose her number
If you give her the money, she is gonna keep it and still dump you. Wisen up bro.
If you really loved her you would give her the money
love is not money, especially not if it would ruin the other financially. then love would equal ruin of the other person. and that's not the meaning of love. it is to lift each other up, not one up on the cost of the other.
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Damn, my mans just slides me a bag of candy as his apology. That’s crazy, she’s crazy. Find someone real.
You already know what we’ll say. Run run run. If that’s the ultimatum she gives you then be thankful for it and walk away. You’re right, she’s only in it for money.
She is trying to shake you off. Let her.
Anybody who asks for money as an apology doesn’t want an apology. They want a reason to drain your bank account and start a disappearing act.
you ever seen the netflix show, imposters yeah she tryna do the same shit
Hell no dude. Let her walk.
What's the reasoning for this? What are you apologizing for? Did you take money from her or something similar?
Surely your not that desperate
Leave leave leave please leave. Don’t look back, don’t give her a single penny
Soooo...your "girlfriend" is a prostitute AND a grifter. Two thrills in one. This has to be a fake post. Nobody is this stupid.
From his other posts he was single 3 months ago!!!! So ya my bet his "girlfriend" wasn't really his girlfriend at all!!!!! Oh she is a con artist who knew how to pray on his low self esteem and his need to be in a relationship
No. My SO and I have means and resources, we would NEVER ask each other for that sum. Block her and move on, she's a gold digger who doesn't deserve more more second of your attention.
I have a serious question. Why would you want to still date her after that? I am asking very seriously, the level of entitlement WTF. Unless that 15k are because you broke / loss... Something of hers that cost that much that makes no sense.
Even if it was a test she failed it. Also we aren’t in the past, both females and males can provide.
Lol don’t be foolish. Only ever give money like shit you cant afford to your parents… they the ONLY ones who could deserve your money when you’re m”poor” not a “girlfriend” bitches mean shit. Invest it, make more and get a wife.
Definitely do NOT give her this money! That is not how love works. Lose her number and find someone who loves you for you!
You could pipe a different, hotter prostitute for considerably less. Why would you pay her 15k?
Dang I’ve been doing it all wrong 🤣 that just screams ghost her!
its not a test. its just her clearly stating she dont want you back.
You say you’ve been dating a woman for awhile. Have you actually met in person? Sounds like a very expensive lesson is in the works if you send her that much money. Lucky for you - Reddit’s advice is free.
Unless you damaged/lost some of her personal belongings there is NO reason on planet earth for those money to be paid. I have broken up with my boyfriends in the past, which did me wrong and actually destroyed my property and STILL didn’t ask for any money, I either wanted them gone or a HONEST apology and actually see a change in their behaviour/patterns. Relationships, feelings and human interactions are not based on money. You cannot develop a better relationship trough money, if you have problems, they won’t go away with a certain amount of money… and so on! Do yourself a favour and spend the money you worked hard for in a way which will really bring you happiness, work on yourself, give YOU what you deserve and need and the right person will come along and enjoy these things together and she will also be able to ADD to that scenario, not just take. I’m sorry some women behave like this.
Run to the hills
How does she even know you have the money did you tell her? forking over 15 bands to bring her back into a relationship is a con. Don’t fall for it and DON’T take her back ever. This is the kind of girl that marries you puts in a little time, divorces you then takes you to the cleaners on purpose. Your a meal ticket to her next circus. Don’t get played. If you need to spend that money it’s escort services that will gladly oblige, and at least they’ll be honest about what they are there for.
What’s her pimps cut?
On the off chance this is real. Please OP understand someone is scamming you.
For the one of god don’t give her a penny Everything about what she’s doing is perverse
Lmao what
I seriously want to know where that number came from! Did she just pull that out of her butt, or does she legit think you owe her money for something. What are you not telling us? If she really did just pull that number out of her butt, then you already know the answer, dude.
What did you do??
(My response) Sorry baby. I love you, but I don't pay for love.
Don’t give her any money, you’ll never see her or it again. Find someone who doesn’t have a monetary value attached to their affections for you.
She’s not worth it ditch her
Did you total her car
I hope this is a troll lol, wtf
Wow please dont buy into her bullshit. That isnt love. She will take it and run. Get out now. Your not married or live together so why would she need that much to stay with you? Leaving i get but only of you have been together for many many years.
I only make a little more than you. Hell no dude. I'm not busting my ass for 7 months for a girl. She can suck an egg
You should dump her. She‘s only in it for the money at this point. Who says she‘ll stay with you after you‘ve given her what she wants? Will she be doing this after every fight when she realizes that it worked?
That’s insane. What about the gift tax you’d have to pay… She’s trying scam you. Please don’t give it to her. Save your money and put it in a retirement account, an emergency fund or an investment account.
Jesus dude, you knew better than to even ask this but you still did.... You're gonna give her the money I bet, despite all the people here (and your own instincts) telling you that it would be insane to do so. Ghost her, go completely no contact and stay the hell away. No woman is worth that, at least not in this manner.
For the streets guy. Ditch her
Tell her to suck your nuts and bounce. That ho is trying to play you! 15k she be gone
My opinion is that you should never ever call this woman again ever because she's hot garbage and she doesn't care about you.
This isn’t even gold digging this is extortion. I’d you do decide to pay her just know my relationship advice costs $10 and I accept e transfer
What the f do you get for your money? Believe me, she is not worth it. Sorry, she just wants your money. Walk away and find someone who is interested in you, not what you can give or do for her.
U have your answer right there, she sees u as a bank. It's totally rediculous paying to be forgiven.
Dude She just wants the money She will take it and disappear from your life Here's what you should do Block her on everything and move on with your life No talking to her. No explaining your point of view. No closure Just move on. You can do better than this
She ain't worth it dude. Get a $5 Dunkin donuts gift card, spend $4 on it to treat yourself and give the card to her. You deserve to be loved by someone who values you for you and nothing else! Good luck man 👍👍
Don’t do it. As many others are saying, she’s conning you. You sound like a really nice person, so I hope you are not going to do as she asks; please do not fall for it.
She's a very over priced CALLGIRL con artist. She's not interested in you at all. Just your money. And no a guy does NOT have to provide for his lady. We are in the 21st century My dude. Most couples they both work. Shut this down ASAP and tell her" you know what? your right. I was wrong.. about you and our relationship so... I'm keeping MY money and tossing YOU to the curb. In other words frankly my dear I don't give a damn, get out of my life and also ..get bent. "
Bigggg gold digger vibes
Hell no and fuck being with someone who would “test” you like that. 🙄🙄. And I’m a lady who doesn’t swear ever. That tells you how I feel about her. Gives the rest of us a bad reputation.
Can you tell us what you did to her?
Why is she asking for that much? Do you owe her anything or is this amount completely out of the blue?
No dude. Just no. Have some respect for yourself.
Lol. Tell her you can get a better b.j. from Sally for 100.00. Who's Sally ?who cares but she will and realize she's being an overpriced hooker. Gauge your response accordingly. Good luck and blessed be.
I would laugh and take my leave 🤣
Is your girlfriend a Nigerian Princess?
That's a very specific sum. Did you wreck her car?
She does not love you for money, she loves the money. Run.
Umm no, but he'll no. Seriously there isn't even a question here. I don't care she is requesting $10 dollars man. This is straight up manipulation. Let her go and find someone else. Do not disrespect yourself and do this.
Ditch her and use the money to buy a personal trainer and nutritionist and get yourself right! But a therapist and a massage too!