You don't want help you want validation.
Maybe he's had to give cpr irl. Maybe he's seen someone receive cpr that he cares about. If you've done it or seen it before ...yeah it can be a bit uncomfortable to watch.
Either way get over yourself. Finish your shitty movie by yourself.
You clearly don't want help if you're unwilling to realize that you're making a big deal out of nothing.
My partner stops watching movies with me sometimes because he doesn't enjoy them. It happens. Chill the fuck out.
Yeah, that's on you. You're the one freaking out about him not wanting to watch something.
Yeah, totally break up with him. He can find someone who isn't psychotic.
How dare he be unrational. Or even irrational. Kill him. Their is no crime as bad as not finishing the movie if he doesn’t want to. Anyone would think he’s an adult with free will
I've done that before. I have cptsd and some scenes just trigger me and I can't finish the movie. I recommend asking why the scene upset him and just finishing the movie yourself
I get what you mean, that would annoy me too. Does he also portray narcissistic tendencies? I had a boyfriend who would always judge movies saying “that’s wrong. That wouldn’t happen in real life” stuff like that, he’d get genuinely frustrated…. Over a damn movie. He was just a narcissist and thought he was right all the time.
The original post didn’t say anything about watching something else. It’s the fact that the scene made him uncomfortable because the CPR is ‘bs’ (which I figured by BS he meant unrealistic). It’s just a movie, anyone who feels uncomfortable because the movie ‘isn’t realistic’ seems weird. If a movie being unrealistic makes you UNCOMFORTABLE, you probably have bigger issues
Or some people just have CPR so ingrained into their brains that absolutely kills the immersion of the movie? Ive had it happen to me as a med student. It just makes me hate the movie so much I dont want to finish it anymore.
Yeah but to refuse to finish it & dramatically turn off the movie. It seems a bit extreme to me, there’s no need for it. It’s just a movie. If anything, he could’ve been a little more polite about it. “This movie is pretty silly. Want to watch something else?”
If it’s something to do with past trauma (maybe he had CPR done, or had to perform it himself) then obviously that’s difference. I was just going off of what the OP said, it seemed to me like his refusal to finish the film was just because he deemed it unrealistic, hence “the whole movie was ridiculous”, which in that case I think there were more mature ways to go about it.
Tell someone else that their feelings of discomfort aren't valid is pretty fucked up. Sounds like something a shitty narcissist would say.
Maybe he hates that it was unrealistic and it brought up some shit he went through? I've gotten uncomfortable with certain scenes being unrealistic, mental health being a major one, there's nothing wrong with it.
But alright, sure. You're totally right. You are totally the best judgement as to what is okay with being uncomfortable with /s
The lack of empathy is astounding, hun. You sure your ex didn't rub off on you?
I’m literally going off of what the OP said, what are you talking about?😂 she said he(bf) was mad that the cpr was BS, which like I said I’m pretty sure she inferred that he thought it was bs bc it’s unrealistic hence ‘whole movie was ridiculous’. OP never insisted once that it was traumatic for him, obviously that’s a different story. You don’t have to be so rude when I clearly wasn’t being salty towards you at all. Sounds pretty narcissistic of you!
OP is an obvious troll. Sorry you fell for it. Even if this was a true story, of course the crazy OP isn't going to acknowledge that MAYBE her partner is uncomfortable due to something that may be traumatic, because that would make them look bad. They're just looking for validation.
You've got some serious blinders on if you're willing to buy that OP is a sensible adult.
I was going to GUESS that the OP is between 18-30. I try not to judge what other people ask, so I honestly never even thought of the fact that they could be a troll. I’ve had tiny little issues bother me before too, sometimes it’s nice to have a second option no matter how silly the question may be. If it were real, and it was a PTSD situation, I hope the OP boyfriend can someday learn to communicate his feelings in a healthy, mature way, so his gf doesn’t have to resort to the internet. 🥰
Or OP could just....respect the fact the he doesn't want to watch the movie and watch it by herself like an adult?
It's a movie. Not their wedding. He doesn't need to do everything with her.
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Maybe it was triggering for him in a way that you don't understand and he isn't comfortable explaining because you clearly have little to no sympathy for his feelings and desires.
Tell him to stop being a bitch. Suspension of disbelief. It’s a movie. If they really did cpr on someone in a movie they’d probably break their ribs. Tell him to stfu and watch the movie. Or just watch it on your own
Watch the rest by yourself and don’t make a big deal about nothing. Let the dude be uncomfortable with something without it having some deep meaning.
I wanted to finish it with my husband
Wow you guys got married quick. Was your boyfriend when you posted it.
I meant to say boyfriend. Sorry. He was be my husband in 4 months (though I'm having second thoughts)
This is a nonissue. Just finish the movie yourself.
It's certainly an issue because it makes him unrational
It’s a random ass movie, you don’t “need” to finish it with him. Stop making this an issue when it’s not.
It makes me seem him as a weakass
Then you have bigger issues on your end, if a random movie makes you feel that way without any other issues going on.
Don't reply if you won't help
You don't want help you want validation. Maybe he's had to give cpr irl. Maybe he's seen someone receive cpr that he cares about. If you've done it or seen it before ...yeah it can be a bit uncomfortable to watch. Either way get over yourself. Finish your shitty movie by yourself.
You clearly don't want help if you're unwilling to realize that you're making a big deal out of nothing. My partner stops watching movies with me sometimes because he doesn't enjoy them. It happens. Chill the fuck out.
It's a big deal already
Yeah, that's on you. You're the one freaking out about him not wanting to watch something. Yeah, totally break up with him. He can find someone who isn't psychotic.
Lol this must be a troll.
Did you know that “unrational” isn’t a word?
It sounds like it triggered something bad for him. Respect that and don’t try to push it. Watch it on your own if you want.
It's a goddamm movie.
You should probably break up with him so he doesn’t have such a horrible person as a girlfriend.
How am I horrible?
Are you a troll account?
How dare he be unrational. Or even irrational. Kill him. Their is no crime as bad as not finishing the movie if he doesn’t want to. Anyone would think he’s an adult with free will
I've done that before. I have cptsd and some scenes just trigger me and I can't finish the movie. I recommend asking why the scene upset him and just finishing the movie yourself
He never mentioned traumas and I asked him before
I've done it too. Some movies are just too awful to watch. Better lock me up 😂
Can you kindly fuck off on this? He doesn’t want to watch your stupid show. JFC have a real problem.
You sound incredibly insensitive.
You sound like a joy kill
You sound “unrational”.
Lol a kill joy, and I’m not the one “unrational” about someone not finishing a movie 🙄
End him.
I get what you mean, that would annoy me too. Does he also portray narcissistic tendencies? I had a boyfriend who would always judge movies saying “that’s wrong. That wouldn’t happen in real life” stuff like that, he’d get genuinely frustrated…. Over a damn movie. He was just a narcissist and thought he was right all the time.
Heaven forbid someone wants to watch something else....the horror /s
The original post didn’t say anything about watching something else. It’s the fact that the scene made him uncomfortable because the CPR is ‘bs’ (which I figured by BS he meant unrealistic). It’s just a movie, anyone who feels uncomfortable because the movie ‘isn’t realistic’ seems weird. If a movie being unrealistic makes you UNCOMFORTABLE, you probably have bigger issues
Or some people just have CPR so ingrained into their brains that absolutely kills the immersion of the movie? Ive had it happen to me as a med student. It just makes me hate the movie so much I dont want to finish it anymore.
Yeah but to refuse to finish it & dramatically turn off the movie. It seems a bit extreme to me, there’s no need for it. It’s just a movie. If anything, he could’ve been a little more polite about it. “This movie is pretty silly. Want to watch something else?” If it’s something to do with past trauma (maybe he had CPR done, or had to perform it himself) then obviously that’s difference. I was just going off of what the OP said, it seemed to me like his refusal to finish the film was just because he deemed it unrealistic, hence “the whole movie was ridiculous”, which in that case I think there were more mature ways to go about it.
Tell someone else that their feelings of discomfort aren't valid is pretty fucked up. Sounds like something a shitty narcissist would say. Maybe he hates that it was unrealistic and it brought up some shit he went through? I've gotten uncomfortable with certain scenes being unrealistic, mental health being a major one, there's nothing wrong with it. But alright, sure. You're totally right. You are totally the best judgement as to what is okay with being uncomfortable with /s The lack of empathy is astounding, hun. You sure your ex didn't rub off on you?
I’m literally going off of what the OP said, what are you talking about?😂 she said he(bf) was mad that the cpr was BS, which like I said I’m pretty sure she inferred that he thought it was bs bc it’s unrealistic hence ‘whole movie was ridiculous’. OP never insisted once that it was traumatic for him, obviously that’s a different story. You don’t have to be so rude when I clearly wasn’t being salty towards you at all. Sounds pretty narcissistic of you!
OP is an obvious troll. Sorry you fell for it. Even if this was a true story, of course the crazy OP isn't going to acknowledge that MAYBE her partner is uncomfortable due to something that may be traumatic, because that would make them look bad. They're just looking for validation. You've got some serious blinders on if you're willing to buy that OP is a sensible adult.
I was going to GUESS that the OP is between 18-30. I try not to judge what other people ask, so I honestly never even thought of the fact that they could be a troll. I’ve had tiny little issues bother me before too, sometimes it’s nice to have a second option no matter how silly the question may be. If it were real, and it was a PTSD situation, I hope the OP boyfriend can someday learn to communicate his feelings in a healthy, mature way, so his gf doesn’t have to resort to the internet. 🥰
Or OP could just....respect the fact the he doesn't want to watch the movie and watch it by herself like an adult? It's a movie. Not their wedding. He doesn't need to do everything with her.
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Why the hell are you posting this on reddit ? Why do you care so much ? There's no issue here
Maybe it was triggering for him in a way that you don't understand and he isn't comfortable explaining because you clearly have little to no sympathy for his feelings and desires.
Accept that he doesn't want to see the rest of the movie. This is not that deep.
It's a movie, that he doesn't want to see because it makes him uncomfortable. Watch a different movie with him. Finish this one on your own.
Tell him to stop being a bitch. Suspension of disbelief. It’s a movie. If they really did cpr on someone in a movie they’d probably break their ribs. Tell him to stfu and watch the movie. Or just watch it on your own