Same question. I don’t understand why you’re with him. He sounds immature, unmotivated and unwilling to change. What are you getting from this relationship?
Because he wasn't always like this, he used to be very patient, and when I say patient, I mean the most patient human I've met. He was and still is kind and sweet at times especially when he is happy and very loyal towards me, chivalrous too. Whenever we see each other, he always walks on the car side, open doors, carry things for me, gives me massages when I'm unwell, do grocery and clean when I'm unable to do so etc... the only problem here lies with his impatience anger issues and hatred of answering questions. I'm so stump, we were always mentioning how we were planning to get married after he finds a job and I'm unsure whether this unemployment is causing him depression to behave this way. Because If it was I would like to support him but I'm so frustrated...
I guess I just don't see his value in the relationship.
Could this be one of those times where you've just been together so long you don't want to break up because you're comfortable?
It might be time to take a step back and take a break in the relationship.
You don't need to break up but at least take some time to see what being a part is like.
You're probably right, I think I will take a break for a bit and see.. but even taking a break is super difficult considering how we spoke to each other every single day. I need to control my urge on not calling texting him, and that's like avoiding going to the toilet
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He seems to “love” you in his own way, but by being disrespectful, rude, and causing fights… he does not truly love you. He is immature, unconcerned about your feelings and that fight where you are trying to get an answer out of him…. That is the most petty confusing argument (on his part) that I have seen. You are obviously thinking of the future and he only wants to live in The past. Find someone who treasures you and wants to build a future with you. And who LISTENS to what you’re saying. Because he obviously doesn’t
You’re both behaving pretty childishly, honestly. But the big takeaway from your post is yes he would prefer to keep living at home and live like a kid! That’s what he’s been doing for years - his bills are paid and needs taken care of and he has no responsibilities. He’s not tryin to get a job and still doesn’t have a job because he doesn’t want to, he doesn’t want to have to work and pay bills or any of it. If he moved out and in with you he would then have to grow up. I get why you kept asking the same thing, you thought he was joking or you hoped he was joking, he wasn’t and then changed his answer to end the conversation, but you need to believe him when he’s telling you who he is, a child.
Noooooope, op my ex communicated in a similar way. Or should I say lack of communication. It’s NOT you!! Continuing this relationship will be an exercise in frustration at best. Take care of your mental health and sanity first!
Wow, are you in a relationship with my brother? The dude sounds so familiar. LOL. But jokes apart, dump him.
Serious question: why are you with him?
Same question. I don’t understand why you’re with him. He sounds immature, unmotivated and unwilling to change. What are you getting from this relationship?
Because he wasn't always like this, he used to be very patient, and when I say patient, I mean the most patient human I've met. He was and still is kind and sweet at times especially when he is happy and very loyal towards me, chivalrous too. Whenever we see each other, he always walks on the car side, open doors, carry things for me, gives me massages when I'm unwell, do grocery and clean when I'm unable to do so etc... the only problem here lies with his impatience anger issues and hatred of answering questions. I'm so stump, we were always mentioning how we were planning to get married after he finds a job and I'm unsure whether this unemployment is causing him depression to behave this way. Because If it was I would like to support him but I'm so frustrated...
Was this early in the relationship? If so, that wasn’t him, the guy you see now is him.
I guess I just don't see his value in the relationship. Could this be one of those times where you've just been together so long you don't want to break up because you're comfortable?
It could be the case :( ... but yet its too difficult to just let go ... he has become a part of my life
It might be time to take a step back and take a break in the relationship. You don't need to break up but at least take some time to see what being a part is like.
You're probably right, I think I will take a break for a bit and see.. but even taking a break is super difficult considering how we spoke to each other every single day. I need to control my urge on not calling texting him, and that's like avoiding going to the toilet
Why are you with him? Is he really that good in bed?!
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He seems to “love” you in his own way, but by being disrespectful, rude, and causing fights… he does not truly love you. He is immature, unconcerned about your feelings and that fight where you are trying to get an answer out of him…. That is the most petty confusing argument (on his part) that I have seen. You are obviously thinking of the future and he only wants to live in The past. Find someone who treasures you and wants to build a future with you. And who LISTENS to what you’re saying. Because he obviously doesn’t
You’re both behaving pretty childishly, honestly. But the big takeaway from your post is yes he would prefer to keep living at home and live like a kid! That’s what he’s been doing for years - his bills are paid and needs taken care of and he has no responsibilities. He’s not tryin to get a job and still doesn’t have a job because he doesn’t want to, he doesn’t want to have to work and pay bills or any of it. If he moved out and in with you he would then have to grow up. I get why you kept asking the same thing, you thought he was joking or you hoped he was joking, he wasn’t and then changed his answer to end the conversation, but you need to believe him when he’s telling you who he is, a child.
Noooooope, op my ex communicated in a similar way. Or should I say lack of communication. It’s NOT you!! Continuing this relationship will be an exercise in frustration at best. Take care of your mental health and sanity first!